FabSwingers.com forum: One Night Stands vs Regular Singing Friends

By *ichNjudy OP Couple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

We know from experience that both these scenarios have their pleasures but which do you prefer?...

Sex with regular friends you know inside and out (so to speak)

The Thrill of a one night stand or at least the pleasure of having sex with some one you just met 1hour/30mis/5mins ago?

So from our point of view, while there are some couples where we have shared really outstandingly good sex and we go back for more and more either regularly or from time to time (depending how we all feel about it)............ the buzz of shagging a new partner you only just met is pretty hard to beat!

What do you think? Fresh meet (pun definitely intended) or regular friends - which is the best sex?

xxxxxx

Ju & Rich

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By *ichNjudy OP Couple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

lo we cant believe we put singing instead of swinging - wher eis that damn edit button?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think both scenarios have there place,

I love time spent with my regular "fb" and the more we get together , the better it gets.

Yet i can also appreciate the buzz you get from an assignation that has happened quickly.

Spontanious sex is amazing though GOOD spontanious sex isnt always going to happen.

But when it does.........

WOW !!!!

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By *eavensg84uCouple
over a year ago

Harrow

If the singing friend was Beyonce I'd go with the singing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I much prefer a regular rather f buddy than one nighters as I like to get to know just how a partner loves to be licked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sex definitely gets better the more you meet someone.

I find the buzz of meeting new people is a turn on, but thats not to say the sex will be great when spontaneous.

Maybe better the devil you know eh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Singing sex? OK I'll have Lesley Garrett if I may please!

Contradictory answer coming up...

I prefer to make friends and enjoy getting to know people and what turns them on etc. Do actually have a rule of no play on first meet believe it or not. But I find if people are genuinely interested in having quality, longer term playtimes then it works for me

However. (Always beware of 'howevers') when I go to Chams with a friend or friends (only go as a 'cpl') there is , as was said before, something very erotic about spontaneous encounters. A touch in a jacuzzi or a playbed can lead nowhere or to some pretty horny sex!

Vive la difference!

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

I love that we can play with regulars playmates and that it can get better as you get to know each other...personally as I feel more comfortable with people I get much much naughtier lol

Yet the buzz of spontaneous sex or the buzz that you get when you are meeting new people is also good......if the actual sex is a good as the buzz then its a bonus, you never know you may have met some more people that could become regular playmates

Does'nt always work that way though but when it does its great

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

We tend to preffer one night, wow what happened fun, followed by becoming good friends..

We used to think, cool we can meet people have fun and maybe repeat such fun in future, until we started to notice how some couples if you attend the same club often, start to think you are now mutualy exclusive, if they are also at the club..

Were in this as swingers not that poly crap.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree with becoming "exclusive" to some.

But i dont mind if im happy with that fb and enjoy the timely assignations.

That meet which i know im gonna get is well worth looking forward to.

The problem comes i think, within the club scene and cpls/friends you have played with before, get soooo jealous when you happen on someone new and exciting .

Cant be doing with wrongly placed jealousy

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"Agree with becoming "exclusive" to some.

But i dont mind if im happy with that fb and enjoy the timely assignations.

That meet which i know im gonna get is well worth looking forward to.

The problem comes i think, within the club scene and cpls/friends you have played with before, get soooo jealous when you happen on someone new and exciting .

Cant be doing with wrongly placed jealousy

Thats the scary part, geting dirty looks and jelous comments, because i'm paying some lovely new women, the attention she deserves would be acceptable from wiggles, but it's bloody scary when coming from some other guys wife and twice as scary when she is pissy at me, yet dosn't care what her hubby is upto :P (though wiggles finds it bloody hilarious)

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

I never realised until recently just how jealous and possesive some people are in swinging.....I know its around but not to the point that ive seen recently....some people are like dogs marking their territory and it just makes me laugh at the ridiculousness of it.....I steer well clear of anything like that its scary!

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

"I never realised until recently just how jealous and possesive some people are in swinging.....I know its around but not to the point that ive seen recently....some people are like dogs marking their territory and it just makes me laugh at the ridiculousness of it.....I steer well clear of anything like that its scary!"

We tend to keep our friends and our meets seperate and we tend not to 'play' with our friends (with the exception of one lovely couple)

We generally only do one nighter's as we've both been in the position in the past where people have got jealous and they think that you should be mutually exclusive and it's got beyond creepy and into stalker mode.

We also like the spontinaity of 'meet' and 'get down to it'.......with no preconceived ideas and not knowing what the other couple/bloke likes. It generally makes for some wicked fun finding out.

But thats us......

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

When we first started playing we decided we wanted one offs, meet a stranger, play then say cya......but things changed.

We have met a couple of men a few times now, but we have kept it to nearly strangers all the same. We meet, play, then don't speak again until either party fancies another meet, if at all.

We still do the total stranger one offs though, it is the stranger I don't know what is going to happen thing going on that makes it horny.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Call us tame.. we love the idea of meeting strangers.. big fantasy maybe even.. but so far we have or seem to have always got to know who we share ourselves with lol..

We never rule anything out.. just seems to give us the buzz still....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When we first started playing we decided we wanted one offs, meet a stranger, play then say cya......but things changed.

We have met a couple of men a few times now, but we have kept it to nearly strangers all the same. We meet, play, then don't speak again until either party fancies another meet, if at all.

We still do the total stranger one offs though, it is the stranger I don't know what is going to happen thing going on that makes it horny."

Just don't get to know this stranger (me) too well then ....

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

have to say that i prefer the regular meets than i do one offs and it is always something i ask near the beginning...

I don't know what it is but one-off for me put a lot of pressure on... i can't have any off nights... lol

where as I see regular meets very much as friends with benefits, as to those that talk about getting to close to people they play with, I wait for them to contact me a decide to meet, rather than the other way round.....

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I like to have regular friends then you get to know each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And the sexy times just get better and better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When we first started playing we decided we wanted one offs, meet a stranger, play then say cya......but things changed.

We have met a couple of men a few times now, but we have kept it to nearly strangers all the same. We meet, play, then don't speak again until either party fancies another meet, if at all.

We still do the total stranger one offs though, it is the stranger I don't know what is going to happen thing going on that makes it horny.

Just don't get to know this stranger (me) too well then ...."

Chish...your one sexy Mother I have to say!!! if you ever fancy turning to the dark side, I can travel and bring some ready meals too, so we don't even have to go out (we have a sale on at present, plus I get 10% staff discount too)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont do vanilla unless its poured on genitals yum yum mmmmmmmmmmmm hehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i personally prefure not to have regular meets, i don't mind meeting a couple of times but im not really into meeting any more than that, i think its because i find it very hard to have sex with people i class as friends, once i've crossed that boundry of a sex partner to someone i class as a friend i can't have sex with them no more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Either / or .... we don't mind

Sometimes meeting a total stranger for a one off is exciting, but its also nice to 'phone a friend' and ask if they are up for it tomorrow night

Depends upon our mood at the time ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like same people myself x x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is that same or some??

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By *zanyCouple
over a year ago

truro

Regular friends are great and compfortable, new friends are excitement, a bit of the unknown. Both have their place with us. D & C

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

try Reading again notts if not certain what I wrote hehe x

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