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By (user no longer on site) OP   
20 weeks ago

Right so me and my wife are looking to arrange our second 3sum and after some tips and advice.

We've talked about 3sums from the moment we met. We're in a very loving,affectionate and happy marriage and are very open with our fantasies and desires.

We regularly talk about including another guy/guys and we both get super turned on and have great sex.

I wouldn't consider myself insecure or jealous at all.

However once our first meet came to our hotel, the nerves got the better of me and I could barely get it up.my wife was sucking my dick while the other guy fucked her from behind and it was hot as hell to watch, but I was overwhelmed with nerves and thoughts of what to do next to get my dick to stand to attention.

It was all rushed and a little awkward so just after advice if other people have had a similar experience and how they overcome it (as soon as he left I got hard again straight away)

Thanks in advance

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By *ust_us999Couple
20 weeks ago

Somewhere

I guess enjoy the moment and don't try to "one up" the other guy or thinking you have to. I personally never had the problem, but we played with couples where the Mr. had a similar problem, when it happens just use your hand or tongue until it comes back, that usually worked.

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By *S-cardiffiansCouple
20 weeks ago

cardiff

Meet up with him first outside the bedroom, go on like a little date as the three of you so that you are more comfortable when you move on together. If it’s just an erection problem I think a blue pill will help xx

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By *areDevil99Man
20 weeks ago

West Midlands

Maybe see what scenario suits you best. Maybe watching him with her first before getting turned on and joining in.

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By *ldmagic4uMan
20 weeks ago

nailsea

Try using blind folds or dark room maybe ?

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By *ragon1booMan
20 weeks ago

blackwood

Possibly meet with the guy somewhere neutral 1st so you can be at ease. Maybe a coffee or even a pint. That could take the 1st bit of nerves away. Obviously as things progress and you think that getting it up could be a problem take a little blue pill.

It’s only natural to be nervous at times. Hope it all goes well

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By *orny IrishMan
20 weeks ago

North Wiltshire

Have you had sex in front of anyone before? Maybe try a club and use a voyeur room where people can watch you or just be in the club environment and watch others not specifically with your wife and see how you feel in that environment.

As others have said maybe have a chat with the guy first, meet in the bar for drinks. See how yiur feeling. Possibly get him to watch h you fuck your wife first then he can join in,

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By *offee Cocktails and CumCouple
20 weeks ago

Waterlooville

We were much the same as you guys, talking about it from the outset of our relationship and looking to arrange became hard work. We found the Swingers route by accident. Would be happy to talk through our experiences and give you our advice if you want to private message.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
20 weeks ago


"I guess enjoy the moment and don't try to "one up" the other guy or thinking you have to. I personally never had the problem, but we played with couples where the Mr. had a similar problem, when it happens just use your hand or tongue until it comes back, that usually worked. "

Solid advice and I think that was a major factor, me feeling like I had to "one up" the other guy rather than just relax and enjoy myself

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
20 weeks ago


"Maybe see what scenario suits you best. Maybe watching him with her first before getting turned on and joining in."

I've thought about this but the wife wants me involved at all times. Which I would be as not into the cuck stuff persay but do find it hot seeing her have fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
20 weeks ago


"Have you had sex in front of anyone before? Maybe try a club and use a voyeur room where people can watch you or just be in the club environment and watch others not specifically with your wife and see how you feel in that environment.

As others have said maybe have a chat with the guy first, meet in the bar for drinks. See how yiur feeling. Possibly get him to watch h you fuck your wife first then he can join in, "

Also thought about a club and just us being watched but the wife doesn't like the idea of just being watched by anyone walking past so we're just trying to find some middle ground we're both comfortable with

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By *rJandMrsJCouple
20 weeks ago

Tameside

On our first couples meet i had the same issue. Couldn't stay hard, not because it wasn't sexy, it was hot as hell. When I got home, I was horny as fuck and we had great sex thinking about it. I think I was trying to compete and that was my issue. I was putting too much pressure on myself to perform. I've not done that in our threesome meets, but I think that's also because of the way we start off. One of us is tied up, blindfolded and earphones in, so we don't know when they arrive and we've been playing already. So I think that also takes some of the pressure off.

Play a little before hand with each other, be there and enjoy that you're all individually turned on and that's happening together. Don't think so much into it and go with the flow. You don't need to be hard the whole time they're there. Its normal to be up and down, take a step back, watch, let them enjoy themselves and be happy that your partner is getting pleasured and you'll be right back again.

I hope this helps 😊

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By *arleydMan
20 weeks ago

newport

From experience, don't overthink it, go with the flow and just enjoy the moment

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By *rmootMan
20 weeks ago

Horsforth

I had a similar experience first time with my ex. We discussed a threesome with another guy and engaged in talk whilst being intimate for months before finally arranging a meet. Often the idea of it is appealing but the reality often isn't. Looking back I was so up for watching her fucking another guy from a fantasy side of it. However, in reality I didn't know how I would truly feel until the time came. Luckily for me I loved watching her and I was hooked. But nerves and the unknown certainly played a part in our first meet. Our second meet was much better as I was certain it was what we both wanted and I performed numerous times with no issues. We both fucked her 3 times in the space of a few hours.

Don't be hard on yourself, it is a lot to take in first time and there will have been nerves present. Sounds like you enjoyed it so any future meets you will find it much easier and you will perform. Just don't put yourself under pressure.

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By *elaxed CoupleCouple
20 weeks ago

Cheshire

In my experience, you have to like & trust the guy. Trust means that he recognises that he's an addition to what you & her already have.

It can be really quite a thrill if it's all done very slowly & with inclusion, when you're ready.

Remember that the lady you started the evening with may have left the building at some point. Mine is replaced by davina. And she's not a considerate sexual partner. But I'm ready for her.

You dont have to tame your tiger, but keep her hungry for what comes tomorrow.

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