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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi, I have been asked to meet a couple, now, I would normally agree if it was to be a public meet for first contact, but they are insisting I meet them in the middle of some woods near our town! I have asked to meet in town for a drink first but still they insist to meet in the middle of nowhere! I have no intention of going as its my safety at stake, I know that may sound silly from a bloke.

Had anyone else experienced this and if so, what happened?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, I have been asked to meet a couple, now, I would normally agree if it was to be a public meet for first contact, but they are insisting I meet them in the middle of some woods near our town! I have asked to meet in town for a drink first but still they insist to meet in the middle of nowhere! I have no intention of going as its my safety at stake, I know that may sound silly from a bloke.

Had anyone else experienced this and if so, what happened? "

Follow you guts, mate: if it sounds dodgy, don't go!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, I have been asked to meet a couple, now, I would normally agree if it was to be a public meet for first contact, but they are insisting I meet them in the middle of some woods near our town! I have asked to meet in town for a drink first but still they insist to meet in the middle of nowhere! I have no intention of going as its my safety at stake, I know that may sound silly from a bloke.

Had anyone else experienced this and if so, what happened? "

If it doesn't feel right then don't go...go off your gut feelings. If they won't respect your wishes for a social meet first why would you want to meet them anyway?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Safety first.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have and have no intention of going, it's too risky even for a guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, I have been asked to meet a couple, now, I would normally agree if it was to be a public meet for first contact, but they are insisting I meet them in the middle of some woods near our town! I have asked to meet in town for a drink first but still they insist to meet in the middle of nowhere! I have no intention of going as its my safety at stake, I know that may sound silly from a bloke.

Had anyone else experienced this and if so, what happened?

If it doesn't feel right then don't go...go off your gut feelings. If they won't respect your wishes for a social meet first why would you want to meet them anyway?"

Don't go! Could be a nutter bloke and his mates. Be careful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they have a series of verifications from people who have met them in similar circumstances, clear pictures and will chat on the phone or cam first, then that's one thing!

If they're new, unverified and won't even chat on the phone prior to the meet.......I guess you already know the answer!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you even need to question this ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If they have a series of verifications from people who have met them in similar circumstances, clear pictures and will chat on the phone or cam first, then that's one thing!

If they're new, unverified and won't even chat on the phone prior to the meet.......I guess you already know the answer!!! "

Would you meet me in dark woods ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The couple insisting are fucking mental to put it politely

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By *ilmisseCouple
over a year ago

leicestershire

some people (like us) have no real interest in social meets first. Kind of takes the excitement out of it. An outdoor meet in a wood suggests they want that buzz of being outdoors, and to meet first in a public place will take them out of the sexual frame of mind. But if its not for you, there will be plenty of other people looking for meets you are comfortable with i am sure.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It's a deffo no go!!! I questioned it as Im new to the swinging scene and wanted to know if anyone else has had this posed to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

DO.....NOT......MEET......THEM!!!!

Can't make it plainer or clearer than that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If they have a series of verifications from people who have met them in similar circumstances, clear pictures and will chat on the phone or cam first, then that's one thing!

If they're new, unverified and won't even chat on the phone prior to the meet.......I guess you already know the answer!!!

Would you meet me in dark woods ???"

You? More than likely! But i'd bring a big torch and my axe - just in case!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If they have a series of verifications from people who have met them in similar circumstances, clear pictures and will chat on the phone or cam first, then that's one thing!

If they're new, unverified and won't even chat on the phone prior to the meet.......I guess you already know the answer!!!

Would you meet me in dark woods ???"

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If they have a series of verifications from people who have met them in similar circumstances, clear pictures and will chat on the phone or cam first, then that's one thing!

If they're new, unverified and won't even chat on the phone prior to the meet.......I guess you already know the answer!!!

Would you meet me in dark woods ???"

Yea I would

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would you meet me in dark woods ???"

I wouldn't: what proves me you're not a 6'2 pervy man with a big beard??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If they have a series of verifications from people who have met them in similar circumstances

"

They'll only be the ones from those that made it out alive though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If they have a series of verifications from people who have met them in similar circumstances, clear pictures and will chat on the phone or cam first, then that's one thing!

If they're new, unverified and won't even chat on the phone prior to the meet.......I guess you already know the answer!!!

Would you meet me in dark woods ???

You? More than likely! But i'd bring a big torch and my axe - just in case! "

Thats bloody average and nice isn't it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would you meet me in dark woods ???

I wouldn't: what proves me you're not a 6'2 pervy man with a big beard?? "

A good disguise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would you meet me in dark woods ???

I wouldn't: what proves me you're not a 6'2 pervy man with a big beard?? "

Id reply but I don't like stating the obvious ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If they have a series of verifications from people who have met them in similar circumstances, clear pictures and will chat on the phone or cam first, then that's one thing!

If they're new, unverified and won't even chat on the phone prior to the meet.......I guess you already know the answer!!!

Would you meet me in dark woods ???"

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If they have a series of verifications from people who have met them in similar circumstances, clear pictures and will chat on the phone or cam first, then that's one thing!

If they're new, unverified and won't even chat on the phone prior to the meet.......I guess you already know the answer!!!

Would you meet me in dark woods ???

Yes "

I didn't ask the whole bloody thread ..

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

Ccoooooorrrrrr

We could have our own FAB (blair ) witch project

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would you meet me in dark woods ???

I wouldn't: what proves me you're not a 6'2 pervy man with a big beard??

Id reply but I don't like stating the obvious ... "

I was only joking of course... (and to answer your first question, after the usual verifications, I'd be happy to meet you in the dark woods... )

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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago

with the moon n stars somewhere in gtr manc

If you're not comfortable, and they aren't up for the same as you, tell them so and move on.

It is up to you at the end of the day.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

If their profile name is 'the hills have eyes, slash, maim and chop you all up'..

we would avoid..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If they have a series of verifications from people who have met them in similar circumstances, clear pictures and will chat on the phone or cam first, then that's one thing!

If they're new, unverified and won't even chat on the phone prior to the meet.......I guess you already know the answer!!!

Would you meet me in dark woods ???

You? More than likely! But i'd bring a big torch and my axe - just in case!

Thats bloody average and nice isn't it "

Pmsl!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it does not feel right, then don't go. Gut instinct is often a good instinct.

However, if this couple are looking for dogging or outside fun, then they are unlikely to want to meet you in a pub first. Probably the lady wont be dressed appropriately for a pub meet, and it may be the anonymity they are looking for.

Just another thought. Are they verified from previous meets? If they have a few verifications displayed, then check if the verifications are from similar kinds of meets.

Don't automatically think it is a set up or dangerous for your to go along. I did have a quick look at your profile and you have no verifications, so it is as much a risk for the couple as it is for you.

However, you must go with whatever your gut is telling you. Safety first, fun second

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, I have been asked to meet a couple, now, I would normally agree if it was to be a public meet for first contact, but they are insisting I meet them in the middle of some woods near our town! I have asked to meet in town for a drink first but still they insist to meet in the middle of nowhere! I have no intention of going as its my safety at stake, I know that may sound silly from a bloke.

Had anyone else experienced this and if so, what happened? "

Why is that 'silly from a bloke'??? Doesn't matter what sex you are, your safety comes first, doesn't it...?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all the advice, I understand everyone's view and have taken it onboard.

No meet for me this time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would you meet me in dark woods ???

I wouldn't: what proves me you're not a 6'2 pervy man with a big beard??

A good disguise "

I know what this is.... you only want one thing: that I put myself in danger again so you can set up another Charlie's angels rescue mission for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would you meet me in dark woods ???

I wouldn't: what proves me you're not a 6'2 pervy man with a big beard??

A good disguise

I know what this is.... you only want one thing: that I put myself in danger again so you can set up another Charlie's angels rescue mission for me "

Don't know what you mean

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

perhaps a phone call could put your mind at ease op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

INSIST talking to the female half..on the PHONE

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"INSIST talking to the female half..on the PHONE"

Haha!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No way on earth would I do that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would you meet me in dark woods ???

I wouldn't: what proves me you're not a 6'2 pervy man with a big beard?? "

I'm 6"2 with a big beard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would you meet me in dark woods ???

I wouldn't: what proves me you're not a 6'2 pervy man with a big beard??

I'm 6"2 with a big beard "

Are you pervy?? I guess that was the most important part...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would you meet me in dark woods ???

I wouldn't: what proves me you're not a 6'2 pervy man with a big beard??

I'm 6"2 with a big beard

Are you pervy?? I guess that was the most important part... "

Lol hard to define pervy I'd like to think alternative

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By *izzyDaisyCouple
over a year ago

norwich


"some people (like us) have no real interest in social meets first. Kind of takes the excitement out of it. An outdoor meet in a wood suggests they want that buzz of being outdoors, and to meet first in a public place will take them out of the sexual frame of mind. But if its not for you, there will be plenty of other people looking for meets you are comfortable with i am sure."

This is the same as us.

We like to meet in the woods or at least close to them. Daisy is often dressed completely inappropriately for a social meet first, we like the naughtiness of it, the anonymity, the sex with strangers.

In addition Daisy would not want to speak to the guy on the phone first as it breaks the 'slut doing as she's told' game we play sometimes.

If you're not comfortable though, don't do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have and have no intention of going, it's too risky even for a guy. "

good for you. I'm forever getting guys failing to understand why I refuse to meet them at my local outside spots.

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By *a petite madameWoman
over a year ago

London / Essex


"Hi, I have been asked to meet a couple, now, I would normally agree if it was to be a public meet for first contact, but they are insisting I meet them in the middle of some woods near our town! I have asked to meet in town for a drink first but still they insist to meet in the middle of nowhere! I have no intention of going as its my safety at stake, I know that may sound silly from a bloke.

Had anyone else experienced this and if so, what happened?

If it doesn't feel right then don't go...go off your gut feelings. If they won't respect your wishes for a social meet first why would you want to meet them anyway?"

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

If you go down to the woods today....I wouldn't go. I'd probably get stung in awkward places by nettles, sit on an ants nest or lose my clothes in the dark.

Tell them that you will meet then in Costa and to use their imaginations. Tell them you'll take a few twigs to sit on, to make it more wood-like.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I have and have no intention of going, it's too risky even for a guy.

good for you. I'm forever getting guys failing to understand why I refuse to meet them at my local outside spots. "

Your outside spots?! . Poor Cali, put some calomine on them.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"Would you meet me in dark woods ???

I wouldn't: what proves me you're not a 6'2 pervy man with a big beard??

I'm 6"2 with a big beard "

Me too...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would you meet me in dark woods ???

I wouldn't: what proves me you're not a 6'2 pervy man with a big beard??

I'm 6"2 with a big beard

Me too... "

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ccoooooorrrrrr

We could have our own FAB (blair ) witch project

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will meet them ..Anythings better than nowt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just take a big axe with you, or maybe a samurai sword.....can't see any problem then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Errrrrrm .... yeah I'd go out to a forest into the middle of nowhere to meet 2 complete strangers. If it was me though, I'd wait till it was black dark, blowing a gale of wind and maybe some thunder and lightening just for a touch of melodrama. Make sure Jack Nicolson isn't kicking about though or he might just axe you up ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for all the advice, I understand everyone's view and have taken it onboard.

No meet for me this time "

Good man...never allow yourself to be lead into a situation you're not entirely comfortable with because of a hard cock......cocks have no brains!

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By *amie_leighWoman
over a year ago

coventry


"I will meet them ..Anythings better than nowt "

Depends which head you are thinking with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like others have said, if you aren't comfortable don't go.

But for others to suggest that the couple are mental is a bit dramatic.

We have organised a similar scenario because I get my kicks from being a little more creative and exciting. We had a fantasy of the two of us having

sex in secluded woods and being spied on by a stranger who would them join in. I didn't want to talk to the stranger, or see him in fact as I was blindfold and

tied to a tree. The guy was to find us and watch and then join in with touching me whilst I was tied.

Now obviously this took planning. My OH contacted a guy off our friends list whom I had exchanged messages. I talk to a few guys so I was unaware of exactly who it was. My OH met him for a drink the night before to go over details. They both went into the woods together to select the spot (I still laugh at the thought of my OH walking into woods with another guy) and agreement was made that he wouldnt talk to me whilst the blindfold was in place.

It was a very sexy, exciting but also scary fantasy and I'm glad I've experienced something like that. It did take careful planning and organising.

It could be that the couple are into something a little different from the meeting in hotel or house kind of thing. And they may not want to be social with the guys, complete stranger sex could be what they are onto.

Regardless of that though, it is not just about them but you also, so don't continue messaging if it's not your thing. But it's not an unheard of scenario and it doesn't mean they want to rob, kill or maim you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have no intention of going as its my safety at stake, I know that may sound silly from a bloke."

It's not silly. I have no idea where the idea comes from that only females have to look out for their safety, but it seems to be a common opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't get the tune from Deliverence out of my head

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By *oger690Man
over a year ago

Halton

Just a few thoughts and a bit of devils advocate. (I wouldn't bother plenty more fish etc).

Are you in more danger being in a wood than someone's home due to witnesses?

They are just kinky.

They don't want anyone else to know what they are up to.

It is a scam (blackmail or robbery).

Take one friend to keep an eye out until it is safe.

Risk vs Reward? You get laid vs you might get hacked to death and be on the news at ten.

Seriously every meet could be the last.

Consider some safety protocols for iffy meets maybe even all meets.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Hi, I have been asked to meet a couple, now, I would normally agree if it was to be a public meet for first contact, but they are insisting I meet them in the middle of some woods near our town! I have asked to meet in town for a drink first but still they insist to meet in the middle of nowhere! I have no intention of going as its my safety at stake, I know that may sound silly from a bloke.

Had anyone else experienced this and if so, what happened? "

Never do anything you're not comfortable with. Every pot has it's lid: their scenario didn't float your boat but it will someone elses. It's supposed to be fun after all.

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By *lanwoodMan
over a year ago

Alton

Seeing as I am local to you, do you want me to come with you?

Seriously, that is a definite no-no for me, no matter how good their profile is.

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By *adybirdscotWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


" Don't go! Could be a nutter bloke and his mates. Be careful."

This is a VERY good point! And its not silly for you, as a guy, to be concerned about safety. I'm sure you can find a couple who will happily respect your wishes and meet in a public place for a drink first. Good luck

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By *oulou45Woman
over a year ago

Bucks


"Hi, I have been asked to meet a couple, now, I would normally agree if it was to be a public meet for first contact, but they are insisting I meet them in the middle of some woods near our town! I have asked to meet in town for a drink first but still they insist to meet in the middle of nowhere! I have no intention of going as its my safety at stake, I know that may sound silly from a bloke.

Had anyone else experienced this and if so, what happened? "
It doesn't matter what sex you are. If they are not willing to meet first in a public place you should tell them to jog on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hi, I have been asked to meet a couple, now, I would normally agree if it was to be a public meet for first contact, but they are insisting I meet them in the middle of some woods near our town! I have asked to meet in town for a drink first but still they insist to meet in the middle of nowhere! I have no intention of going as its my safety at stake, I know that may sound silly from a bloke.

Had anyone else experienced this and if so, what happened? It doesn't matter what sex you are. If they are not willing to meet first in a public place you should tell them to jog on. "

Thank for that Alan, but the meet time has passed and as stated I DID NOT GO! too risky for me I thought.

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By *lanwoodMan
over a year ago

Alton

I would be interested to know (privately) who they are as I don't want to find myself in the same situation as you if I inadvertently contact them. I have a suspicion that I already know though. Don't worry if you don't wish to name and shame, even privately.

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