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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I just realized something: when I manage to chat with someone on fab, 90% of the time it is because the person got in touch with me first...

The messages I send to establish a contact tend to get deleted, ignored, etc. (it's not another rant about how hard it is to be a single man here, don't worry )

So the question is: Am I that bad in writing messages??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't understand a word you wrote, so yes, you really are that bad

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah, what I meant was way clearer in my mind.... Oh well, I've got an answer at least

(not to self never try to post on the forum when you're hungover )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry - couldn't say!

I've never seen one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah, what I meant was way clearer in my mind.... Oh well, I've got an answer at least

(not to self never try to post on the forum when you're hungover ) "

....too late.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yeah, what I meant was way clearer in my mind.... Oh well, I've got an answer at least

(not to self never try to post on the forum when you're hungover )

....too late. "

I know: I wish I could remove the post now

Think, John, think!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing wrong with your post.

You may just be unlucky in who you mail. Don't worry about it. X

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"I just realized something: when I manage to chat with someone on fab, 90% of the time it is because the person got in touch with me first...

The messages I send to establish a contact tend to get deleted, ignored, etc. (it's not another rant about how hard it is to be a single man here, don't worry )

So the question is: Am I that bad in writing messages?? "

You might just not be wanted by those who you are after. Those that are after you are obviously contacting you

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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago

with the moon n stars somewhere in gtr manc


"I just realized something: when I manage to chat with someone on fab, 90% of the time it is because the person got in touch with me first...

The messages I send to establish a contact tend to get deleted, ignored, etc. (it's not another rant about how hard it is to be a single man here, don't worry )

So the question is: Am I that bad in writing messages??

You might just not be wanted by those who you are after. Those that are after you are obviously contacting you"
this

Don't take it too much to heart.

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

A lot of couples will delete pretty much 95% of the mail they receive (ok, i' m talking about us here)

But, if we like the look of someone, we will get in touch and it tens to lead to more meetings (go figure)

So, i would suggest that you aren't THAT bad at writing messages, but cute enough to warrant people getting in touch with you

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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago

with the moon n stars somewhere in gtr manc

Oh and I understood your first post too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah, of course.... The OP was more a way to ask some advices about how to write a good introduction message!

Usually, I introduce myself briefly, and try to talk about what I read in their profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just realized something: when I manage to chat with someone on fab, 90% of the time it is because the person got in touch with me first...

The messages I send to establish a contact tend to get deleted, ignored, etc. (it's not another rant about how hard it is to be a single man here, don't worry )

So the question is: Am I that bad in writing

messages?? "

No the people you send them to are bad at

reading messages.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"A lot of couples will delete pretty much 95% of the mail they receive (ok, i' m talking about us here)

But, if we like the look of someone, we will get in touch and it tens to lead to more meetings (go figure)

So, i would suggest that you aren't THAT bad at writing messages, but cute enough to warrant people getting in touch with you"

Awww, thank you!!! (I'm blushing now, haha )

Honestly, I don't take it to heart at all: I know very well how it works on here...

I only want to put all the chances on my side and I think it would be a shame for me (and the people I get in touch with) to miss some good fun just because my first messages are a bit lame

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could always post one up here in this thread for us to dissect?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You could always post one up here in this thread for us to dissect?

"

I'm not sure it would be allowed unfortunately....

But as I said earlier, I'm very briefly introducing myself, talk about their profile and say they can get in touch if they want. I always send a picture and try to show I read the profile!

Is there anything that makes a message catch your eye?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

you sound as if you're initial messages are ok, are there any differences between those you contact and those.who contact you in terms of age, preferences that sort of thing

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"you sound as if you're initial messages are ok, are there any differences between those you contact and those.who contact you in terms of age, preferences that sort of thing"

Mmh, good question... I tend to be contacted by "older" women (I mean, older than me!!) when I'm sending messages to anyone I fancy, regardless of age/relationship status.

Nah, maybe it is just that the people I send messages to are simply not interested: it won't stop me from having fun with those who are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Is there anything that makes a message catch your eye?"

Humour, intelligence, politeness/respect, grammar, imagination, and demonstrating an ability to read profiles. Pure filth is good, but not without the other stuff too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Is there anything that makes a message catch your eye?

Humour, intelligence, politeness/respect, grammar, imagination, and demonstrating an ability to read profiles. Pure filth is good, but not without the other stuff too."

I definitely have the respect, the grammar, the ability to read profiles... My sense of humour might be a bit too nonsensical to use it, I'm afraid

But, I've got to confess, I lack of imagination.... Any advice on how I could improve that?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

You messaged me first sweety!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You messaged me first sweety!"

True fact... So you're probably the best one to judge my messages then

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"You messaged me first sweety!

True fact... So you're probably the best one to judge my messages then "

I don't respond to just anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I definitely have the respect, the grammar, the ability to read profiles... My sense of humour might be a bit too nonsensical to use it, I'm afraid

But, I've got to confess, I lack of imagination.... Any advice on how I could improve that?

"

Nonsense is good! Can't beat a good bit of gibberish to brighten the day.

We've not got any tips on how to improve your imagination though. Some people are just more lateral than others. You could always develop a healthy drug habit I guess?

Sometimes you just gotta go there before you can come back...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

I definitely have the respect, the grammar, the ability to read profiles... My sense of humour might be a bit too nonsensical to use it, I'm afraid

But, I've got to confess, I lack of imagination.... Any advice on how I could improve that?

Nonsense is good! Can't beat a good bit of gibberish to brighten the day.

We've not got any tips on how to improve your imagination though. Some people are just more lateral than others. You could always develop a healthy drug habit I guess?

Sometimes you just gotta go there before you can come back... "

I'm sure that becoming some kind of swinging Lewis Carroll (whose drug habit was everything but healthy though) could increase my number of meets

I always try not to go too far with the nonsense: people tend to think you're just crazy... It's not because I actually am that I want to show it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree that initial contact from another usually has better results than sending, but those that do respond has usually worked out well for me too.

if i get no reply, i take it as no interest and move on.

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By *ittenandthepirateCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

I understood what you meant!

Happens to us too, mainly with single girls funnily enough

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I understood what you meant!

Happens to us too, mainly with single girls funnily enough "

YEAAAAAAAAH \o/ I'm not as misunderstood as I thought!!

Come on!! you're so gorgeous you don't need to write a message: I'm sure you can just put a picture of you two and you'll automatically get a reply...

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