FabSwingers.com forum: BDSM - Ladies for caning.

By *immyMcGill OP Man
1 week ago

Hornchurch

Are there any submissive ladies on here who crave a painful caning? I’ve seen some porn videos called Mood Casting in the past which are pretty brutal. I wondered if anyone would ever enjoy that if they weren’t being paid to do it. Either for pure enjoyment or as a ‘leveller’ if they’d done something wrong and felt they should be punished.

I’ve been told that very few women can take a hard caning even if they try. I’m talking about a long 8mm thick fibreglass cane. The sort of thing that leaves big dark bruising welts and small areas of broken skin where multiple strikes have hit the same spot. The sort of damage that would take several weeks to heal.

Imagine that you have to travel for your punishment. You arrive at the punisher’s house and are invited in. He checks your blood pressure and so on to ensure you are ok and then you’re told to strip naked and kneel with your legs shoulder width apart at the edge of a sofa, leaning forwards with your arms and head resting on the back of the sofa. You have to arch your back downwards in a curve so your bottom is sticking up and out.

Once you’re ready the strokes begin. You hear the ‘swoosh’ of the cane and a loud noise from each impact as you feel it strike. Searing pain follows each stroke at first, but it becomes a bit numb after a while. 25 strokes pass. Up to 50 maybe?

Perhaps you’re having a video taken with your phone on a tripod to watch again later, or show your husband?

When you’re done your bottom is destroyed. You’ll have difficulty sitting down for at least a week!

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By *tlanshiaWoman
1 week ago

Chatham

As a lady who enjoys bdsm, and pain play.

I have found what that the level of pain i can take depends on a few factors, so what one person can take on a Monday, may be vastly different what the same person can take on a Friday.

For me, the person I can suffer for the most is my dominant. It isn't about the pain, it's about pleasing him. Knowing I've pleased him. .

So to answer your question there are women who can take the kind of beatings you've seen online, but those aren't one night stand meets. Those are long standing dynamics.

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By *infullyObedientWoman
1 week ago

Woodley

As above it would take a relationship with a lot of trust and communication to get to the level of caning you are describing.

I love bdsm and impact play but caning is a hard limit for me along with permanent marks, which what you are describing would inflict. Definitely a no for me.

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By *ootnootboopCouple
1 week ago

Cheshire

Yeah this is a hard no for us sadly. The level of trust required in these scenarios is very high, and we don't develop that within 1,2 or even more meets with someone.

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By *eparated_galWoman
1 week ago

Salford

I do like a bit of bsdm, and pain but if a dom really wants to Cane me hard then need a level of trust , wouldn't do it to rough on a first meet

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By (user no longer on site)
1 week ago

Hard no. This dynamic is not something I'd ever do with a random meet from fab and I have a hard no to anything level of impact play that leaves wounds on me.

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By *immyMcGill OP Man
1 week ago

Hornchurch

"Hard no. This dynamic is not something I'd ever do with a random meet from fab and I have a hard no to anything level of impact play that leaves wounds on me. "

So the post asked:-

‘Are there any submissive ladies on here who crave a painful caning?’

Not - ‘Are there any submissive ladies on here who wouldn’t want a painful caning?’

I don’t really know why you replied.

It’s not posted as an invite for a meet in any case. More of a theoretical/exploratory question.

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By *umagainandagainMan
1 week ago

Altrincham

I have never found a woman who wants to be caned by a man. I have met a woman who gets paid to cane other women. She said it is a sort of prostitution but without any sex. But her clients would never pay a man or even allow him to do it free.

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By *immyMcGill OP Man
1 week ago

Hornchurch

"I have never found a woman who wants to be caned by a man. I have met a woman who gets paid to cane other women. She said it is a sort of prostitution but without any sex. But her clients would never pay a man or even allow him to do it free."

Interesting. The only really severe caning I ever saw in real life was at a fetish event about ten years ago. It was by a woman on a man. They used to hold a fetish event at Eureka in Kent on Sunday daytime. I’d been to the Saturday night swingers party and slept in my car. I paid and went into the fetish thing primarily so I could buy some lunch and coffee before getting on my way.

Anyhow, a guy something like mid thirties turned up. He had a bag meant for carrying hockey sticks in. It was full of brutal looking fibreglass canes. He found a dominatrix type woman and bent naked over a stool. She literally beat his buttocks black and blue taking most of the skin off. Much worse than the commercial porn videos (which are a woman caning a woman) I reference in my original post.

The mind really boggles as to what people want to do. It takes all sorts I guess.

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By *ensualMan
1 week ago

Sutton

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By *ensualMan
1 week ago

Sutton

Some points of clarification.

The thing with other people's BDSM (provided it is consensual etc requires no "mind boggling"), it just an internal mental acknowledgement that their kink is their thing but not yours.

Also,an enjoyment of impact is not a submissive "thing". There is huge difference between a masochist and a submissive. I would suggest there is a difference between a masochist and someone who likes impact/sensation play.

The fetish event at Eurekas is still going and goes from strength. It is a great event for the open minded.

I knew of a women on the London scene who was building up to a 100 cold cane strokes. Did it and retired.

Every submissive is an individual as is everyone on the kink/BDSM scene. Commercial porn skewers people view of BDSM more than a particular book franchise did.

Caneing is a particular skill, it has a bad reputation due to ignorant users of the implement. It is not about causing damage but about creating pleasure from mild to intense sensation. There are spanking events, that make the "I need to know and trust someone" statement a personal gatekeeping practice rather than a golden rule of BDSM.

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By *rinceless PrincessWoman
1 week ago

Gloucester

As someone who has actually experienced canning from someone I knew and trusted for years this is a huge no.

I personally would never mix BDSM activities and swinging myself as I need to really trust someone for those things to happen.

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By *immyMcGill OP Man
1 week ago

Hornchurch

"Some points of clarification.

The thing with other people's BDSM (provided it is consensual etc requires no "mind boggling"), it just an internal mental acknowledgement that their kink is their thing but not yours.

The fetish event at Eurekas is still going and goes from strength. It is a great event for the open minded.

I knew of a women on the London scene who was building up to a 100 cold cane strokes. Did it and retired.

Every submissive is an individual as is everyone on the kink/BDSM scene. Commercial porn skewers people view of BDSM more than a particular book franchise did.

Anything can be ‘mind boggling’ to anyone if it’s far outside their personal experience. For example, visiting and being in a busy city when they’ve only ever lived in the countryside. It’s not to say that such a thing is inherently bad, but just that it’s hard for them to imagine how others tolerate doing it.

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