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By *arallu OP   Woman
2 weeks ago

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Gents. I’m after your views please.

So, if you attend a club with a partner (of any kind - spouse, O/H, FB, FWB etc) and you had discussed certain aspects for what you’d like to get out of the evening and a gangbang was something that was on the list and you began to orchestrate it, would you then fuck off halfway through it, leaving your girl on her own with a bunch of random guys because you wanted to source out more fucks for yourself?

Also, if you go to the club together and you are due to spend the night together, knowing full well that you are your girl’s lift and ‘chaperone’, would you then ditch her to fend for herself just to get more sex?

I’m curious to know your opinions as my regular ‘club partner’ (we only meet at the club and have a couples membership) would never do this to me at all. He will only leave me at the club solo if he knows I have others there to look after me

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By *oelDorianMan
2 weeks ago

vanaheim

No I wouldn’t fuck off midway as I would be there to chaperone it to make sure no one did any dodgy shit like slip a condom off or anything

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By *hare2CareCouple
2 weeks ago

Leicestershire

Mr here. No, I’d never do that, and never did with a previous partner. If we’ve set a GB up then I’m involved and we’re there for her, not me. Much the same that if we’d set something up for my benefit then I’d want her to be involved and enjoying it too.

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By *arallu OP   Woman
2 weeks ago

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"No I wouldn’t fuck off midway as I would be there to chaperone it to make sure no one did any dodgy shit like slip a condom off or anything "

So thankfully a guy I met with his partner last weekend was there without his partner because we had some ‘unfinished’ business. He was part of the gangbang and stayed with me throughout to make sure I was ok. When I needed to stop, the guys didn’t listen so he had to step in. He also had to make the guys show him they were wrapped up.

I genuinely have no idea why someone would think it’s acceptable to do that with all the risks involved!

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By *arallu OP   Woman
2 weeks ago

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"Mr here. No, I’d never do that, and never did with a previous partner. If we’ve set a GB up then I’m involved and we’re there for her, not me. Much the same that if we’d set something up for my benefit then I’d want her to be involved and enjoying it too. "

So he joined in for the first part, and because I’d moved to the bed at this point I didn’t realise he’d left

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By *emptme1993Man
2 weeks ago

manchester

Yeah absolutely not leaving at all, wouldn’t even cross my mind

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By *e-funcoupleCouple
2 weeks ago

Middlesbrough

I would never dream of leaving a lady alone in a gangbang situation, I would want to watch it all anyway. If it was my wife I would definitely be watching it all!!

If a guy goes with a lady to a club as their date/chaperone then they should not leave her alone and seek out other options unless that’s something they have both agreed beforehand.

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By *oelDorianMan
2 weeks ago

vanaheim


"No I wouldn’t fuck off midway as I would be there to chaperone it to make sure no one did any dodgy shit like slip a condom off or anything

So thankfully a guy I met with his partner last weekend was there without his partner because we had some ‘unfinished’ business. He was part of the gangbang and stayed with me throughout to make sure I was ok. When I needed to stop, the guys didn’t listen so he had to step in. He also had to make the guys show him they were wrapped up.

I genuinely have no idea why someone would think it’s acceptable to do that with all the risks involved!"

You get people like it and it’s awful I played with a bi couple once and she was on top and then he started sucking my cock. Then she started riding again without mine or her knowledge her partner took my condom off and put me back in raw to his partner. Me and his partner were absolutely livid with him

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By *hoenix_1Man
2 weeks ago

richmond

I would never leave her alone unless it was with people we knew and both trusted, and then only if she wanted to be left with them

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By *he MinionMan
2 weeks ago

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No.

Just no.

I find it strange that someone would leave their partner in this situation. To me, i find it rather selfish and self centred. I would stay for your safety and make sure you were ok and that,as mentioned, people were following the rules of the gangbang.

If i did that to any of my previous partners it would have been over with there and then !

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By *he MinionMan
2 weeks ago

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"I would never dream of leaving a lady alone in a gangbang situation, I would want to watch it all anyway. If it was my wife I would definitely be watching it all!!

If a guy goes with a lady to a club as their date/chaperone then they should not leave her alone and seek out other options unless that’s something they have both agreed beforehand. "

This 👆

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By *WB couple400Couple
2 weeks ago

Newcastle

Go together stay together to ensure she's okay

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By *arallu OP   Woman
2 weeks ago

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Thanks guys.

I just wanted to ask because a few people I’ve spoken to have been like ‘but your not his girlfriend so he can do what he likes’. Yes, I get that, but to leave a woman alone in that situation is just wrong. Thankfully it was in an open room (no door at all) and I had someone there that I knew and trusted to look after me.

The week before I went with my club partner and had a few friends there (all members) and we ended up having a foursome then a throuple joined in (one of who looked after me as mentioned) and the guy who got the orgy going ended up happily being doorman and turning the very few people in the club away to keep it with people we all knew

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By *oelDorianMan
2 weeks ago

vanaheim


"Thanks guys.

I just wanted to ask because a few people I’ve spoken to have been like ‘but your not his girlfriend so he can do what he likes’. Yes, I get that, but to leave a woman alone in that situation is just wrong. Thankfully it was in an open room (no door at all) and I had someone there that I knew and trusted to look after me.

The week before I went with my club partner and had a few friends there (all members) and we ended up having a foursome then a throuple joined in (one of who looked after me as mentioned) and the guy who got the orgy going ended up happily being doorman and turning the very few people in the club away to keep it with people we all knew

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I disagree with those that said well he isn’t your boyfriend well that doesn’t matter as you are at the club with him. So he should be more like the doorman if that makes sense and looking after you.

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By *idcot58Man
2 weeks ago

Chepstow

When i did swinging with wife i always stayed with her

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
2 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

If you make plans and go somewhere like that with someone then there's definitely a social contract to look out for one another.

Sack that dude off 💜

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By *otwife and sexy beastCouple
2 weeks ago

rochester

I don't even need to ask Sexy beast if he would do any of that. I know he wouldn't even consider it.

HW

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By *ewsexycplCouple
2 weeks ago

Midlands

Never ever would we do that.

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By *cunthorpe123Couple
2 weeks ago

scunthorpe

Myself and Sean are married and he wouldn’t dream of leaving me alone in a club. Even if he isn’t actively playing, he keeps an eye on me.

If we were to take a lady with us, he would treat her the same way he does me

Donna x

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By *arallu OP   Woman
2 weeks ago

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Thanks for all your replies. Clubs are fairly new to me in the scene so have always been worried about what the correct etiquette is. But almost everyone has told me that if they go with a partner they arrive and leave with that partner. I’ve done solo a fair amount so it’s never really been that much of an issue.

I have a fairly regular club partner (we have a couples membership and we only meet and play there but we chat outside) and the ONLY time he will leave me there is if he knows I have good people looking out for me to make sure I’m safe. Otherwise I leave when he does.

When I went before and a similar thing happened as last night, he left me there with the guy we arrived with who was going to stay with me after we left the club. I gave my partner one condition last night - he was not to even entertain two girls who go there. If he did he would be spending the night alone. The newer attended of the two has now made sure on two occasions that I’ve gone home solo and has ‘poached’ my partner for the remainder of the night. He agreed to that before we arrived and he promised to look out for me and keep me safe. He didn’t stick to that and showed me that he clearly has no respect for me so he’s gone!

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By *ichaelsmyMan
2 weeks ago

Douglas

Hell no

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By *andaloriansCouple
2 weeks ago

Malvern

Absolutely not! You dicuss rule, expectations and possible outcomes first, then stick to it. Dick move on the other persons part!

S

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By *ny1localMan
2 weeks ago

READING

Okay, feel free to call me old fashioned, but whether or not I'm with a fb etc or not, if I feel a lassie is not comfortable with her situation I will, and have done, intervened.

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By *arallu OP   Woman
6 days ago

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So gents (and any ladies/couples that replied).

It seems that we are all wrong on this subject! Apparently it’s perfectly acceptable for the guy to leave his ‘partner’ in that situation. And because I’ve voiced my concerns? I’m a bunny boiler who was ‘fucked and not adopted’ and that I’m like a ‘crazy ex gf’ in voicing that his behaviour was not ok.

Thanks to this, my regular club partner has decided to leave the scene earlier than planned as he doesn’t want to go there any more, and I am now going to be leaving the scene as well due to all my so called friends I met in the scene believing those who weren’t there rather than those who were….

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By *r lotharioMan
6 days ago

newcastle-under-lyme

no, you don't drop the ball. i remember being there to make sure everyone politely left afterwards.

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By *arallu OP   Woman
6 days ago

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"no, you don't drop the ball. i remember being there to make sure everyone politely left afterwards."

Because you’re a gentleman. If a guy does it it’s ok, if a girl kicks off about being left in an unsafe environment she’s a crazy bunny boiler that’s pissed cos they guy rejected her (which was not the case - I sacked him off as there was no way I’d allow him near me after that)

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By *oiluvfunMan
6 days ago

Penrith

No, whenever I've been to a club with a play partner, I've always stayed with them to ensure they feel safe, and nobody takes any liberties. I remember the time I was in Chams with my regular play partner, and nipped in to the loo next to the Bus Stop. OMG, the door hadn't even closed behind me, and I could hear guys hitting on her! Was quite amusing hearing their 'patter' through that flimsy wooden door, then even more hilarious as soon as I rejoined her, and the guys looked at me, then cleared off.....

No way would I leave a friend in a room full of strangers in a gangbang scenario! That's just too risky in so many ways!

Pmsl! You make it sound so easy for a guy to just wander around a club and find sex! Clubs are just like Fab, condensed in to one building for the evening; too many guys, too few ladies...

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By *cunthorpe123Couple
6 days ago

scunthorpe


"So gents (and any ladies/couples that replied).

It seems that we are all wrong on this subject! Apparently it’s perfectly acceptable for the guy to leave his ‘partner’ in that situation. And because I’ve voiced my concerns? I’m a bunny boiler who was ‘fucked and not adopted’ and that I’m like a ‘crazy ex gf’ in voicing that his behaviour was not ok.

Thanks to this, my regular club partner has decided to leave the scene earlier than planned as he doesn’t want to go there any more, and I am now going to be leaving the scene as well due to all my so called friends I met in the scene believing those who weren’t there rather than those who were….

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I’m sorry but your “friends” have a terrible attitude!

Donna x

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By *ongAndThick123Man
6 days ago

Leeds

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By *ongAndThick123Man
6 days ago

Leeds

Sorry, my phone rearranges sentences and rewrites words incorrectly 🫠🥴

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