FabSwingers.com forum: not having any luck

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

are others on here finding it hard to meet up with people or just us,

maybe we'r doing something wrong,or is it just hard to find single women??

thought there might of been something wrong with the site for a bit as we never got any mail

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

You've only been here 4 weeks

Also you're only looking for women.

Not to mention your profiles kinda bland and diesn't tell what you're looking for from meets nor what you can offer

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By *ouple2181Couple
over a year ago

caterham

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"are others on here finding it hard to meet up with people or just us,

maybe we'r doing something wrong,or is it just hard to find single women??

thought there might of been something wrong with the site for a bit as we never got any mail

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its only early days yet, but maybe if you get verified, things might improve xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I looked at your profile, and whilst I don't meet with couples as a rule.... the bit that stood out to me was she drinks to loosen up

now I know you probably don't mean that in she needs to have a drink to swing, however people may read that and think negatively.

Also you are fishing in a very small pool with many rods. Most couples end up changing their profiles to meet with other couples fairly quickly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"are others on here finding it hard to meet up with people or just us,

maybe we'r doing something wrong,or is it just hard to find single women??

thought there might of been something wrong with the site for a bit as we never got any mail

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its only early days yet, but maybe if you get verified, things might improve xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a slow process. Me and AJ have been having fun though. Messaging and being messaged. I also understand that single women get a boatload of messages and are not on here all the time.

So I think it's best to adjust how fast you think anything will happen. Especially if you're dealing with real single women.

Like any sensible people they want to know that anyone they're talking to is who they say they are. That's our concern as well.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

thanks for the replies

we've done the Photo Verification when we joined to prove we're not fake,

maybe its still early days and need to word the profile better.

thanks again for the replies. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try creating a single male profile, using that for a week to find single women, then return to your couples one - it will feel like you've dived into a shining, golden ocean of magnificent opportunity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I looked at your profile, and whilst I don't meet with couples as a rule.... the bit that stood out to me was she drinks to loosen up

now I know you probably don't mean that in she needs to have a drink to swing, however people may read that and think negatively.

Also you are fishing in a very small pool with many rods. Most couples end up changing their profiles to meet with other couples fairly quickly."

we joined looking for bi women. We have since changed to meeting bi guys and bi couples. We have yet to meet what we originally came on for

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"are others on here finding it hard to meet up with people or just us,

maybe we'r doing something wrong,or is it just hard to find single women??

thought there might of been something wrong with the site for a bit as we never got any mail

there is no quick fix.. there is no way to jump queues... there is no magic formula...

rome wasn't built in a day, and I tell people time, patience and basic common sense goes a long way... and 4 weeks says to me... no time...no patience

sorry.. but it very much has a "written by the bloke" feel about it..... rather then written as a couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single fem that has in the past and will meet with select couples I honestly think your profile needs some work as to what you are looking for as saying you want to meet with someone that's looks after themselves could have more than one meaning. To me it automatically means u want an athletic type and as I read profiles before message I would think that and move on as im a size 16/18 BBW, even though you could me just someone that is hygiene n well presented which then would mean someone like me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"are others on here finding it hard to meet up with people or just us,

maybe we'r doing something wrong,or is it just hard to find single women??

thought there might of been something wrong with the site for a bit as we never got any mail

It takes time maybe look at meeting others as well even if its socially. There are lots of single females on here but they are in the main selective too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are asking to meet the people on here who are most in demand whilst not really selling yourself as to why they should meet you.....plus you are totally unverified.

If you were a single woman would you meet yourselves?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The profile is incredibly bland and says nothing about you. Though you do have a big plus for having pictures of both of you.

But there is no hint of personality, no hint of what you are looking for and no hint of what you can offer.

My advice is get out and meet people at clubs and social, on line is a tough ask, single bi females are known as unicorns for a reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try being a young single male from London with a very different look to all the rest..then you will realise lol

Iv been here for ages and not much luck at meeting

i have the worst luck on here lol

..but, i wish you all the very best anyway. Hope things turn around for you both.

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

"are others on here finding it hard to meet up with people or just us,

maybe we'r doing something wrong,or is it just hard to find single women??

thought there might of been something wrong with the site for a bit as we never got any mail

You are looking for a bi woman to join YOU

What can you give her and what pleasure would she get out of meeting YOU

The single bi woman holds all the cards and yet your profile is as dull as dishwater, doesn't say what you want or, more importantly, what you are prepared to give.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably useless advice as I'm a single guy and were constantly at an uphill struggle getting meets.

But, I think if you got webcam verifications (doesn't mean you need to put on any shows, just show both your faces) it will show your more genuine.

You got a couple of pics you could have took off facebook and you're not willing to send more, could be a bit of a red flag

I havent had meets yet so take notes of what I've said or not, but sometimes it takes an outsider to spot the problems

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's wot i'm doing rong? my profile has 2 b mor appealling? i'l get on2 it now?

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre

Great pics but the profile screams boring. You want to stand out and come across as chilled, flexible and fun. And the mistake most couples make is saying what they want and not offering anything. Say why a single woman would want to meet YOU. Sell the idea of how much fun it would be for a single woman to meet you. And most of all, enjoy it for what it is and don't get frustrated. After all it's been only four weeks.

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By *inful_coupleCouple
over a year ago

Frimley

As a couple who has never had trouble finding the 'elusive' (so everyone seems to think... not true) young single girl ... we can assure you, this is not the place to find it. All our meets (we have had a number of girls, and lost count in the meet numbers with those girls at over 100...), have been via friends, friends of friends, other 'dating' sites, and Myspace/Facebook.

Swinging sites like this do tend to be more single guys and couples. We're not closed to finding girls from here, but it's not happened yet. But as I say, we've had no problems finding beautiful young girls who are bisexual and ravenous in the bedroom. We always have them as long term sexy friends so we've had a continuous stream of bedroom fun on a weekly or more basis but you MUST look in the right places. Our way of playing it is to let everyone we meet know what we do. This has been a huge benefit to us. We've had sex with our girl friends, we've been passed on to girls they know etc ... it's not difficult if you're very open and happy to risk the judgement you'll get from it. We couldn't care less ... if someone judges us, they're kicked from our life ... But yeah, get on Facebook, MySpace (less so now) and 'dating' sites. Oddly enough, there's a lot of girls on the dating scene who actually just want sex. For us, this site is where we found guys and couples, and while we're not playing at the mo, this is a great social place for us to come and chat in the forums etc

Basically open your mind a little more to other ways

Good luck tho ... fem is absolutely gorgeous :P

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

thanks to all, seems like most comments are to do with our profile,

most people find it hard and not sure what to write in them,

we'r only new to this so still pretty clueless, (hence the post)

but we'll get there, we'll have a go at rewriting the profile.

we dont have any problem meeting females when out,

only on here as we don't go out to much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive met loads of single women as a couple before and as a single...not sure its hard just mail a few and get chatting...tr clubs mabye

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Try creating a single male profile, using that for a week to find single women, then return to your couples one - it will feel like you've dived into a shining, golden ocean of magnificent opportunity

What he said!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im a single guy who is finding it impossible to meet...am i that ugly lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It could be your profile looks too good to be true. Wow!

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By *ickloverMan
over a year ago

Devizes

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It could be your profile looks too good to be true. Wow!"

wow how big is that??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't know if my phone is playing up but I can't see any profile text.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a couple who has never had trouble finding the 'elusive' (so everyone seems to think... not true) young single girl ... we can assure you, this is not the place to find it. All our meets (we have had a number of girls, and lost count in the meet numbers with those girls at over 100...), have been via friends, friends of friends, other 'dating' sites, and Myspace/Facebook.

Basically open your mind a little more to other ways

Good luck tho ... fem is absolutely gorgeous :P"

I have to say I agree totally with this. We also don't use Fab to find single females but certainly have played with plenty of them. A few in swinging clubs, most by being active on the kink scene and meeting people on a social level. While our methods are fundamentally different, the basic principles of not relying on the site and making real world contacts is very much the same and definitely produces results.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

we've re done the profile, hope its better. thanks for the replies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't see the original profile but this one looks fine and nice pics. Agree with what others said above about it not being the easiest place here to find single bi females so consider widening your options. Good luck and hope you find what you're looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's probably difficult for single bi females to know that the couple they are meeting are ok. By this I mean, both involved in swinging for a healthy reason, are fun and that everyone is attracted to eachother.

Me and S have had some great meets from here and have met some friends who I hope we will be keeping intouch with. x

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