FabSwingers.com forum: Some profiles are so long!

By *ardSenses OP Man
7 days ago

London

Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it?

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By *atte Lover 82Man
7 days ago

BERWICK-UPON-TWEED

Not really one for posting on these type of post but from what I see OP it says on your profile you are wanting to connect for good conversation and mental stimulation to build up to a mutual meet but you don't want to spend 5 minutes reading a profile to see if you may be compatible with someone in order to get that. Not bashing you or anything just take a minute to think about that.

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By *ardSenses OP Man
7 days ago

London

"Not really one for posting on these type of post but from what I see OP it says on your profile you are wanting to connect for good conversation and mental stimulation to build up to a mutual meet but you don't want to spend 5 minutes reading a profile to see if you may be compatible with someone in order to get that. Not bashing you or anything just take a minute to think about that."

Lol

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By *ympho6969Woman
7 days ago

glasgow

Some of us add/edit profiles to filter out those we aren't interested in.

I'm curious what you consider long. More than 4 lines like yours? A couple paragraphs? A few scrolls needed to read it?

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By *ouch of fruitCouple
7 days ago

burnley

Exactly this! If you can't be arsed to spend a few minutes reading why would anyone who clearly values communication entertain you? Same with messages, the amount of people who only just manage to cobble together a full sentence and then expect to walk straight on through. If someone can't put effort into reading or typing, I'm hardly convinced they're putting effort into giving me the ride of my life

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By *ealitybitesMan
7 days ago

Belfast

I've made it as easy as possible for people to read mine.

It's been that way word for word for about 4 years now and I won't be simplifying it anymore at this stage.

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By *rdere OpusCouple
7 days ago

Brum - ish

It’s a good gauge of compatibility. If you think their profile is too long it’s a good indicator that you see this whole thing differently.

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By *pontaneous_coupleCouple
7 days ago

Hoddesdon

I love reading profiles it’s so fun , also if I’m interested I can quote their profile so they know I’ve made the effort to read and it’s a great conversation starter. I’ve made ours as detailed as I can while making it simple to skim through I pay more attention to those who include it like I do into their first message x

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By *issmorganWoman
7 days ago

Calderdale innit

If a profile is too long for you,then you're not compatible with that person. If you still message and didn't look at what they're into/after, then I can see why they get fed up.

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By *issmorganWoman
7 days ago

Calderdale innit

Just pass those profiles by, if you think they're too long. They're usually long, for a reason.

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By *rdere OpusCouple
7 days ago

Brum - ish

"I love reading profiles it’s so fun , also if I’m interested I can quote their profile so they know I’ve made the effort to read and it’s a great conversation starter. I’ve made ours as detailed as I can while making it simple to skim through I pay more attention to those who include it like I do into their first message x"

We do the same. It’s great to have something to read and get an understanding of who’s caught your eye. And we’ll always reference the things that interested us in a first message.

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By *exyScientistsCouple
7 days ago

Castlebar

If you don't like the profile in any way - too long, too short, too demanding, too specific then maybe that's a good indication that they aren't the person for you.

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By *assySirenWoman
7 days ago

Dublin

Agreed... If someone quotes something from my profile in their first message to me I am much more likely to reply to them

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By *ardSenses OP Man
7 days ago

London

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By *ontWannaMissASwingCouple
7 days ago

Bristol

Why would we trust people who can't be arsed to read for 2/3 mins to be in this for anything more than their own, quick gratification.

Not willing to read a profile, or converse properly via message or in person for a social/club meet? Then not for us.

Keen on people that are still interested after they've finished their wank ideally

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By *Mclovin.Man
7 days ago

East Yorkshire

"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it? "

I'm happy with the length of my profile and my individual messages I send, ive had some great conversations, granted not always been successful on a physical level. But when I do meet it makes for a great experience.

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By *ardSenses OP Man
7 days ago

London

Thanks all, some great replies, would say no need to get personal and start talking about my own profile , for those that did well you ain't anything special, regardless how detailed your profile is, it actually makes you come across as a bit of a prick, so dont get ahead of yourself thinking you can judge and put me down, we wouldnt of had this chat if I didn't post the query in the first place! So please rethink how to respond, I never respond to other forums by telling the host that they are rubbish or don't know what they are doing etc ! we all have different styles. We are all different which I respect. The replies have helped me understand a different perspective and I do appreciate that.thanks all, any more welcome too

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By *atte Lover 82Man
7 days ago

BERWICK-UPON-TWEED

"Thanks all, some great replies, would say no need to get personal and start talking about my own profile , for those that did well you ain't anything special, regardless how detailed your profile is, it actually makes you come across as a bit of a prick, so dont get ahead of yourself thinking you can judge and put me down, we wouldnt of had this chat if I didn't post the query in the first place! So please rethink how to respond, I never respond to other forums by telling the host that they are rubbish or don't know what they are doing etc ! we all have different styles. We are all different which I respect. The replies have helped me understand a different perspective and I do appreciate that.thanks all, any more welcome too"

Just like to say if my comment was taken in offence that was not my intention. I hope it wasn't.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
7 days ago

A den in the Glen

Mine is long winded but I honestly can't be arsed to change it. If someone can't be arsed to read it they can stop.

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By *pankingNorfolkCouple
7 days ago

Norwichish

Haven’t fully written up the old profile after it was temporarily taken down.

But reason for long profiles are to let people know what is and isn’t acceptable. If you send a message and clear you haven’t read it, don’t expect a reply.

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By *imandher2Couple
7 days ago

Liverpool

Ours is short and sweet

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By *artLydCouple
7 days ago

London

Nothing wrong with a long profile. We've got lots to share

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By *heNaughtyTwosomeCouple
7 days ago

Kent

Oh no, that's us out 🤣

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By *ansexualPandaMan
7 days ago

cumallover

"Ours is short and sweet"

What about the cube?

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By *eyeYCouple
6 days ago

Nr Leicester

Like to read a descriptive portrayal of who they are and what they like to gauge attraction as much as their pictures.

Though it would seem many have the same thoughts as OP with 'Hey' messages 🤷🤣

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By *AYENCouple
6 days ago

Lincolnshire

"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it? "

Ours is on the longer side but it can be read in 3 or 4 minutes - if that seems like too much effort for someone we definitely wouldn't get on, so it acts as a great filter.

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By *ickandHilaryCouple
6 days ago

Barnstaple

Lots of angry profiles on Fab. Always a turn off

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By *all me FlikWoman
6 days ago

Galaxy Far Far Away

I don't think mine is excessive but some might think it is. I see the point of a profile as being something to read before messaging to avoid wasting anyone's time. If I get asked questions where the answers are in my profile I have been known to copy and paste the whole thing into my response.

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By *mma and ChrisCouple
6 days ago

Greater Manchester

We used to have a short one years ago but it gradually got longer to save time. We hoped men would read what I liked, meet rules etc etc so that there was no confusion and they wouldn’t bother messaging if they weren’t interested in our way of doing things. Afterall we took the time to read theirs.

We now have a longish one to try and accomplish this but most men don’t even read the first few lines so now their messages are simply deleted ! We get messages daily from bi guys etc which the first paragraph says I will not meet !

So yes it’s long but not even being bothered to read the first few lines and ask things already there shows complete disinterest on really wanting to meet us. But those who do take the time to read it often end up in my bed and we have a great time !

Emma

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By *upcake and wandmasterCouple
6 days ago

long eaton

"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it? "

We don't get angry if you can't be bothered to read, we just delete the messages if it's obvious you couldn't even manage a couple of minutes. Wouldn't even respond.

Its tedious repeatedly typing out the same replies to messages when the questions being asked are already answered on our profile.

It suggests to us you may not be a considerate play friend and not what we want. Scroll on by..

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By *andPextraCouple
6 days ago

North West

"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it? "

Yes. If you want to get into my knickers I expect you to make an effort.

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By *ay W. BeauWoman
6 days ago

Wolvo

If the site allowed more filters, people wouldn't need such long profile bios. You could simply filter out those who didn't meet your desires, no need for anyone to get upset about their profile not being read or their message being deleted/unread.

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By *heNaughtyTwosomeCouple
6 days ago

Kent

"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it?

Ours is on the longer side but it can be read in 3 or 4 minutes - if that seems like too much effort for someone we definitely wouldn't get on, so it acts as a great filter. "

Exactly this 👏

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By *eeshellsCouple
6 days ago

Reading

Proof that the long profile filter works a treat.

Thanks!

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By *eyond PurityCouple
6 days ago

Lincolnshire

I’m the other way - I’d get more excited by a profile that was detailed and informative than a bland/blank or samey profile.

Asking the things that should be in a profile anyway is boring and monotonous.

We make an effort - we’d expect our potential play partners to do that too.

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By *xhib12Man
6 days ago

Blyth

I think mine's probably a little long but I think it's important to give as much info as possible to ensure others understand me and what I'm looking for. Pointless just having a couple of lines then have people message you who don't fit with what you want.

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By *he SmithsCouple
6 days ago

East Devon & London

Our profile has been honed after many years on here in an attempt to cut down on the dross we receive. It even has a section just for single guys.

For that reason it’s longer than many but for good reason, so we can delete or block with impunity when messaged by those that like pictures but not words.

Fab is mostly a huge waste of time and our longer profile attempts to reduce that not just for us but for those that write to us.

Does it work? Perhaps. It certainly speeds up our Fabmin.

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By *oldyoudown41Man
6 days ago

caledonian

You are not wrong …. That’s some profile

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By *naswingdressWoman
6 days ago

Manchester (she/her)

Yes.

I don't want to meet with someone, investing hours and hours, who isn't willing to spend five minutes working out if there's possible incompatibility before wasting everyone's time.

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By *eroLondonMan
6 days ago

Mayfair

Virtually all my dates and socials have been on the back of women sending the first message. They all had one thing in common: they remarked that they appreciated the detail in my profile because it was markedly different to the daily humdrum of cock photos and blag one-liners that they often found in most profiles.

My profile serves its purpose: I'm not looking for lazy women who are too vacuous that they can only handle a cock but not handle more than one sentence when it comes to reading.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
6 days ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it? "

I expect mine to be read by anyone that can be bothered.

If they can't, it's a useful filter. 🤷‍♂️

Same on the couples profile. It's literally a couple of minutes max after all.

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By (user no longer on site)
6 days ago

"Virtually all my dates and socials have been on the back of women sending the first message. They all had one thing in common: they remarked that they appreciated the detail in my profile because it was markedly different to the daily humdrum of cock photos and blag one-liners that they often found in most profiles.

My profile serves its purpose: I'm not looking for lazy women who are too vacuous that they can only handle a cock but not handle more than one sentence when it comes to reading."

It is an excellent profile. Great camera work

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By *sWyldWoman
6 days ago

Edinburgh

Yup .I expect people to read.

If they can't do that ,then what chance is there of them making enough effort in person?

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
6 days ago

wonderland.

"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it? "
Our profile is long.. but it takes less than a minute to read... we have also put the main points at the top..

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By *lofeldMan
6 days ago

Redhill

I can well understand a woman wanting to spell out exactly what they do and don't want, as the amount of messages they get must be insane. Personally, if they are humorous, then it's a good read.

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By *eroLondonMan
6 days ago

Mayfair

My profile serves its purpose: I'm not looking for lazy women who are too vacuous that they can only handle a cock but not handle more than one sentence when it comes to reading.

It is an excellent profile. Great camera work

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By *mma and ChrisCouple
6 days ago

Greater Manchester

"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it? Our profile is long.. but it takes less than a minute to read... we have also put the main points at the top.. "

As have we and they still don’t bother reading !

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By *G CoupleCouple
6 days ago

kent

Don't think it matters how long it is. Ours is very short but still don't get read, if it does its not respected.

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By *naswingdressWoman
6 days ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I can well understand a woman wanting to spell out exactly what they do and don't want, as the amount of messages they get must be insane. Personally, if they are humorous, then it's a good read."

It's very helpful.

Me: this is something I never do

Message: I really love something you never do

You can see why that's easy.

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By *od ThrusterMan
6 days ago

Newport Pagnell

To misquote the old phrase about eyes, your profile is a window to your soul. A few lines can give you an insight but with no real depth, perhaps enough to lead you to think "no" but not enough to say "yes".

I've read a number of long profiles and come to lines which then rule me out as someone they would be looking for - saving us both wasting time. Others may look at them as too long and not bother, with the same result of no message being sent. Perhaps then longer profiles receive a higher percentage of "useful" messages.

Who knows. Like food and music, you'll choose what you like and ignore the others.

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By *ouple49Couple
6 days ago

Border of Cheshire, Shropshire and

"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it? "

Most guys are incapable of reading a couple of sentences, so yes there’s no point in writing one as you say. If you can’t be bothered to spend a few minutes reading what folks have taken the time and trouble to write, then it’s a clear indicator that you’re not worth bothering with.

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By *ouple49Couple
6 days ago

Border of Cheshire, Shropshire and

"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it? "

I think a year without any verifications at all speaks louder than any length of profile lol

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By *aldboroMan
6 days ago

Leicestershire/Warwickshire Border

Mine is long, but by design.

It tells people the key things about me and what I'm looking for.

I think that gives me the best opportunity of talking to people with whom I have a chance of being compatible.

Yes it might rule some out, but I reckon those would have fallen by the wayside eventually, so better to not start a conversation if you aren't going to get along.

When reading a profile I much prefer to see some detail. Otherwise what are you deciding on?

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By *ooLou89Woman
6 days ago

Nottinghamshire

I mean mines turned into an essay… or rather one long rant 🤦🏼‍♀️😂 but I guess the purpose is to avoid wasting my time or someone else’s.. do I get annoyed if it’s clear someone hasn’t read it? Not at all.. but it’s there for those who will.. people have the freedom to put what they wish in their own profile 🤷🏼‍♀️

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By *elloWoman
6 days ago

alpha centauri

I love a long profile, the fun ones that is, a long profile consisting of demands or complaints is so annoying and not worth a read but a long jovial profile that makes you chuckle whilst reading makes the person a lot more attractive

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
6 days ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

I don't get annoyed when people don't read the profile and send a message when they're completely incompatible, which would be obvious if they had read it (yes, that's you single guys). Those messages are easy to delete after all.

The only time I do get slihhtly irritated is when I get mail asking me to solve site issues because I'm a mod. Which, had they read the profile, would never have been sent because they'd have seen that I can't. 🤷‍♂️

Getting annoyed because someone doesn't read a profile is pointless, when there's perfectly good delete and block buttons available. 😁

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By *naswingdressWoman
6 days ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I don't get annoyed when people don't read the profile and send a message when they're completely incompatible, which would be obvious if they had read it (yes, that's you single guys). Those messages are easy to delete after all.

Getting annoyed because someone doesn't read a profile is pointless, when there's perfectly good delete and block buttons available. 😁"

I find it annoying, *and* I delete/block. Not mutually exclusive

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
6 days ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Getting annoyed because someone doesn't read a profile is pointless, when there's perfectly good delete and block buttons available. 😁

I find it annoying, *and* I delete/block. Not mutually exclusive

I could find it annoying. I used to. But then I remembered some people wouldn't read a warning label on a bottle and then would moan that it killed them when they drank it.

Not reading my profile is a 'them' problem, more than it's a 'me' problem. I did my bit. I wrote it. The clues are there. If they can't go all 'Scooby Doo gang' and work them out then hey.......🤷‍♂️

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By *r lotharioMan
6 days ago

newcastle-under-lyme

mine's a tongue in cheek epic, but there's a short version at the top for those who can only handle 2 sentences....

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By *ORBCouple
6 days ago

Dundalk

We wrote our bio in such a way that only those with a similar sense of humour would get in touch.

It's pretty clear about what we don't want and yet.......

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By *naswingdressWoman
6 days ago

Manchester (she/her)

Getting annoyed because someone doesn't read a profile is pointless, when there's perfectly good delete and block buttons available. 😁

I find it annoying, *and* I delete/block. Not mutually exclusive

I could find it annoying. I used to. But then I remembered some people wouldn't read a warning label on a bottle and then would moan that it killed them when they drank it.

Oh absolutely. We're 95% in agreement

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
6 days ago

wonderland.

"We wrote our bio in such a way that only those with a similar sense of humour would get in touch.

It's pretty clear about what we don't want and yet......."
your profile is awesome

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By *annyandwalterCouple
6 days ago

south London

Paranoid now! Don't wanna upset the hard of reading. We definitely like enough info to make a decision!

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By *urves and MischiefWoman
6 days ago

Northerner/Sometimes South East

"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it? "

Mine is long for some, not for others. Do I expect people to read it? If they want me to interact with them then yes. If they don’t read it then this will likely be clear in a message which I will then delete. Works for me😁

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By *unnyandDi68Couple
6 days ago

LEIGH

But then you have the message

We love your profile

followed by messages that show that they may have read it but maybe not understood it?!?!

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
6 days ago

kent

"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it?

Amazing isn’t it. I would like to meet you, maybe even have sex with you, but don’t expect me to read your words because that’s just too much… sometimes the world seems so back to front it’s hard to know whether you’re coming or going.

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By *AYENCouple
6 days ago

Lincolnshire

I'm waiting for the OP to post TLDR

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By *aria_dreamgirlTV/TS
6 days ago

stockport

Illiteracy is no excuse for just looking at pics and not reading profiles.

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By *orphia2003Woman
6 days ago

Tonypandy.

Mine is long, but not excessively so. Covers the key points, and if you can't be bothered to take a few minutes to read it, that isn't my problem.

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By *naswingdressWoman
6 days ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Illiteracy is no excuse for just looking at pics and not reading profiles."

I've been told many times, give or take, "iz nut skool luv"

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