FabSwingers.com forum: Some profiles are so long!

By *ardSenses OP Man
20 weeks ago

London

Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it?

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By *atte Lover 82Man
20 weeks ago

BERWICK-UPON-TWEED

Not really one for posting on these type of post but from what I see OP it says on your profile you are wanting to connect for good conversation and mental stimulation to build up to a mutual meet but you don't want to spend 5 minutes reading a profile to see if you may be compatible with someone in order to get that. Not bashing you or anything just take a minute to think about that.

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By *ardSenses OP Man
20 weeks ago

London

"Not really one for posting on these type of post but from what I see OP it says on your profile you are wanting to connect for good conversation and mental stimulation to build up to a mutual meet but you don't want to spend 5 minutes reading a profile to see if you may be compatible with someone in order to get that. Not bashing you or anything just take a minute to think about that."

Lol

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By *ympho6969Woman
20 weeks ago

glasgow

Some of us add/edit profiles to filter out those we aren't interested in.

I'm curious what you consider long. More than 4 lines like yours? A couple paragraphs? A few scrolls needed to read it?

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By *ouch of fruitCouple
20 weeks ago

burnley

Exactly this! If you can't be arsed to spend a few minutes reading why would anyone who clearly values communication entertain you? Same with messages, the amount of people who only just manage to cobble together a full sentence and then expect to walk straight on through. If someone can't put effort into reading or typing, I'm hardly convinced they're putting effort into giving me the ride of my life

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By *ealitybitesMan
20 weeks ago

Belfast

I've made it as easy as possible for people to read mine.

It's been that way word for word for about 4 years now and I won't be simplifying it anymore at this stage.

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By *rdere OpusCouple
20 weeks ago

Brum - ish

It’s a good gauge of compatibility. If you think their profile is too long it’s a good indicator that you see this whole thing differently.

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By *pontaneous_coupleCouple
20 weeks ago

Hoddesdon

I love reading profiles it’s so fun , also if I’m interested I can quote their profile so they know I’ve made the effort to read and it’s a great conversation starter. I’ve made ours as detailed as I can while making it simple to skim through I pay more attention to those who include it like I do into their first message x

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By *issmorganWoman
20 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

If a profile is too long for you,then you're not compatible with that person. If you still message and didn't look at what they're into/after, then I can see why they get fed up.

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By *issmorganWoman
20 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Just pass those profiles by, if you think they're too long. They're usually long, for a reason.

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By *rdere OpusCouple
20 weeks ago

Brum - ish

"I love reading profiles it’s so fun , also if I’m interested I can quote their profile so they know I’ve made the effort to read and it’s a great conversation starter. I’ve made ours as detailed as I can while making it simple to skim through I pay more attention to those who include it like I do into their first message x"

We do the same. It’s great to have something to read and get an understanding of who’s caught your eye. And we’ll always reference the things that interested us in a first message.

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By *exyScientistsCouple
20 weeks ago

Castlebar

If you don't like the profile in any way - too long, too short, too demanding, too specific then maybe that's a good indication that they aren't the person for you.

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By *assySirenWoman
20 weeks ago

near you

Agreed... If someone quotes something from my profile in their first message to me I am much more likely to reply to them

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By *ardSenses OP Man
20 weeks ago

London

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By *ontWannaMissASwingCouple
20 weeks ago

Bristol

Why would we trust people who can't be arsed to read for 2/3 mins to be in this for anything more than their own, quick gratification.

Not willing to read a profile, or converse properly via message or in person for a social/club meet? Then not for us.

Keen on people that are still interested after they've finished their wank ideally

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By *Mclovin.Man
20 weeks ago

East Yorkshire

"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it? "

I'm happy with the length of my profile and my individual messages I send, ive had some great conversations, granted not always been successful on a physical level. But when I do meet it makes for a great experience.

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By *ardSenses OP Man
20 weeks ago

London

Thanks all, some great replies, would say no need to get personal and start talking about my own profile , for those that did well you ain't anything special, regardless how detailed your profile is, it actually makes you come across as a bit of a prick, so dont get ahead of yourself thinking you can judge and put me down, we wouldnt of had this chat if I didn't post the query in the first place! So please rethink how to respond, I never respond to other forums by telling the host that they are rubbish or don't know what they are doing etc ! we all have different styles. We are all different which I respect. The replies have helped me understand a different perspective and I do appreciate that.thanks all, any more welcome too

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By *atte Lover 82Man
20 weeks ago

BERWICK-UPON-TWEED

"Thanks all, some great replies, would say no need to get personal and start talking about my own profile , for those that did well you ain't anything special, regardless how detailed your profile is, it actually makes you come across as a bit of a prick, so dont get ahead of yourself thinking you can judge and put me down, we wouldnt of had this chat if I didn't post the query in the first place! So please rethink how to respond, I never respond to other forums by telling the host that they are rubbish or don't know what they are doing etc ! we all have different styles. We are all different which I respect. The replies have helped me understand a different perspective and I do appreciate that.thanks all, any more welcome too"

Just like to say if my comment was taken in offence that was not my intention. I hope it wasn't.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
20 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

Mine is long winded but I honestly can't be arsed to change it. If someone can't be arsed to read it they can stop.

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By *pankingNorfolkCouple
20 weeks ago

Norwich

Haven’t fully written up the old profile after it was temporarily taken down.

But reason for long profiles are to let people know what is and isn’t acceptable. If you send a message and clear you haven’t read it, don’t expect a reply.

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By *imandher2Couple
20 weeks ago

Liverpool

Ours is short and sweet

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By *artLydCouple
20 weeks ago

London

Nothing wrong with a long profile. We've got lots to share

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By *heNaughtyTwosomeCouple
20 weeks ago

Kent

Oh no, that's us out 🤣

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

"Ours is short and sweet"

What about the cube?

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By *eyeYCouple
20 weeks ago

Nr Leicester

Like to read a descriptive portrayal of who they are and what they like to gauge attraction as much as their pictures.

Though it would seem many have the same thoughts as OP with 'Hey' messages 🤷🤣

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By *AYENCouple
20 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it? "

Ours is on the longer side but it can be read in 3 or 4 minutes - if that seems like too much effort for someone we definitely wouldn't get on, so it acts as a great filter.

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By *ickandHilaryCouple
20 weeks ago

Barnstaple

Lots of angry profiles on Fab. Always a turn off

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By *all me FlikWoman
20 weeks ago

Galaxy Far Far Away

I don't think mine is excessive but some might think it is. I see the point of a profile as being something to read before messaging to avoid wasting anyone's time. If I get asked questions where the answers are in my profile I have been known to copy and paste the whole thing into my response.

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By *mma and ChrisCouple
20 weeks ago

Greater Manchester

We used to have a short one years ago but it gradually got longer to save time. We hoped men would read what I liked, meet rules etc etc so that there was no confusion and they wouldn’t bother messaging if they weren’t interested in our way of doing things. Afterall we took the time to read theirs.

We now have a longish one to try and accomplish this but most men don’t even read the first few lines so now their messages are simply deleted ! We get messages daily from bi guys etc which the first paragraph says I will not meet !

So yes it’s long but not even being bothered to read the first few lines and ask things already there shows complete disinterest on really wanting to meet us. But those who do take the time to read it often end up in my bed and we have a great time !

Emma

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By *upcake and wandmasterCouple
20 weeks ago

long eaton

"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it? "

We don't get angry if you can't be bothered to read, we just delete the messages if it's obvious you couldn't even manage a couple of minutes. Wouldn't even respond.

Its tedious repeatedly typing out the same replies to messages when the questions being asked are already answered on our profile.

It suggests to us you may not be a considerate play friend and not what we want. Scroll on by..

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it? "

Yes. If you want to get into my knickers I expect you to make an effort.

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By *ay W. BeauWoman
20 weeks ago

Wolvo

If the site allowed more filters, people wouldn't need such long profile bios. You could simply filter out those who didn't meet your desires, no need for anyone to get upset about their profile not being read or their message being deleted/unread.

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By *heNaughtyTwosomeCouple
20 weeks ago

Kent

"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it?

Ours is on the longer side but it can be read in 3 or 4 minutes - if that seems like too much effort for someone we definitely wouldn't get on, so it acts as a great filter. "

Exactly this 👏

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By *eeshellsCouple
20 weeks ago

Reading

Proof that the long profile filter works a treat.

Thanks!

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By *eyond PurityCouple
20 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

I’m the other way - I’d get more excited by a profile that was detailed and informative than a bland/blank or samey profile.

Asking the things that should be in a profile anyway is boring and monotonous.

We make an effort - we’d expect our potential play partners to do that too.

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By *xhib12Man
20 weeks ago

Blyth

I think mine's probably a little long but I think it's important to give as much info as possible to ensure others understand me and what I'm looking for. Pointless just having a couple of lines then have people message you who don't fit with what you want.

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By *he SmithsCouple
20 weeks ago

East Devon & London

Our profile has been honed after many years on here in an attempt to cut down on the dross we receive. It even has a section just for single guys.

For that reason it’s longer than many but for good reason, so we can delete or block with impunity when messaged by those that like pictures but not words.

Fab is mostly a huge waste of time and our longer profile attempts to reduce that not just for us but for those that write to us.

Does it work? Perhaps. It certainly speeds up our Fabmin.

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By *oldyoudown41Man
20 weeks ago

Oxfordshire

You are not wrong …. That’s some profile

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By *naswingdressWoman
20 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

Yes.

I don't want to meet with someone, investing hours and hours, who isn't willing to spend five minutes working out if there's possible incompatibility before wasting everyone's time.

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By *eroLondonMan
20 weeks ago

Mayfair

Virtually all my dates and socials have been on the back of women sending the first message. They all had one thing in common: they remarked that they appreciated the detail in my profile because it was markedly different to the daily humdrum of cock photos and blag one-liners that they often found in most profiles.

My profile serves its purpose: I'm not looking for lazy women who are too vacuous that they can only handle a cock but not handle more than one sentence when it comes to reading.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
20 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it? "

I expect mine to be read by anyone that can be bothered.

If they can't, it's a useful filter. 🤷‍♂️

Same on the couples profile. It's literally a couple of minutes max after all.

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

"Virtually all my dates and socials have been on the back of women sending the first message. They all had one thing in common: they remarked that they appreciated the detail in my profile because it was markedly different to the daily humdrum of cock photos and blag one-liners that they often found in most profiles.

My profile serves its purpose: I'm not looking for lazy women who are too vacuous that they can only handle a cock but not handle more than one sentence when it comes to reading."

It is an excellent profile. Great camera work

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By *sWyldWoman
20 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Yup .I expect people to read.

If they can't do that ,then what chance is there of them making enough effort in person?

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
20 weeks ago

wonderland.

"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it? "
Our profile is long.. but it takes less than a minute to read... we have also put the main points at the top..

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By *lofeldMan
20 weeks ago

Redhill

I can well understand a woman wanting to spell out exactly what they do and don't want, as the amount of messages they get must be insane. Personally, if they are humorous, then it's a good read.

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By *eroLondonMan
20 weeks ago

Mayfair

My profile serves its purpose: I'm not looking for lazy women who are too vacuous that they can only handle a cock but not handle more than one sentence when it comes to reading.

It is an excellent profile. Great camera work

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By *mma and ChrisCouple
20 weeks ago

Greater Manchester

"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it? Our profile is long.. but it takes less than a minute to read... we have also put the main points at the top.. "

As have we and they still don’t bother reading !

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By *G CoupleCouple
20 weeks ago

kent

Don't think it matters how long it is. Ours is very short but still don't get read, if it does its not respected.

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By *naswingdressWoman
20 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I can well understand a woman wanting to spell out exactly what they do and don't want, as the amount of messages they get must be insane. Personally, if they are humorous, then it's a good read."

It's very helpful.

Me: this is something I never do

Message: I really love something you never do

You can see why that's easy.

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By *od ThrusterMan
20 weeks ago

Newport Pagnell

To misquote the old phrase about eyes, your profile is a window to your soul. A few lines can give you an insight but with no real depth, perhaps enough to lead you to think "no" but not enough to say "yes".

I've read a number of long profiles and come to lines which then rule me out as someone they would be looking for - saving us both wasting time. Others may look at them as too long and not bother, with the same result of no message being sent. Perhaps then longer profiles receive a higher percentage of "useful" messages.

Who knows. Like food and music, you'll choose what you like and ignore the others.

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By *ouple49Couple
20 weeks ago

Cheshire

"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it? "

Most guys are incapable of reading a couple of sentences, so yes there’s no point in writing one as you say. If you can’t be bothered to spend a few minutes reading what folks have taken the time and trouble to write, then it’s a clear indicator that you’re not worth bothering with.

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By *ouple49Couple
20 weeks ago

Cheshire

"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it? "

I think a year without any verifications at all speaks louder than any length of profile lol

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By *aldboroMan
20 weeks ago

Leicestershire/Warwickshire Border

Mine is long, but by design.

It tells people the key things about me and what I'm looking for.

I think that gives me the best opportunity of talking to people with whom I have a chance of being compatible.

Yes it might rule some out, but I reckon those would have fallen by the wayside eventually, so better to not start a conversation if you aren't going to get along.

When reading a profile I much prefer to see some detail. Otherwise what are you deciding on?

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By *ooLou89Woman
20 weeks ago

Nottinghamshire

I mean mines turned into an essay… or rather one long rant 🤦🏼‍♀️😂 but I guess the purpose is to avoid wasting my time or someone else’s.. do I get annoyed if it’s clear someone hasn’t read it? Not at all.. but it’s there for those who will.. people have the freedom to put what they wish in their own profile 🤷🏼‍♀️

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By *elloWoman
20 weeks ago

alpha centauri

I love a long profile, the fun ones that is, a long profile consisting of demands or complaints is so annoying and not worth a read but a long jovial profile that makes you chuckle whilst reading makes the person a lot more attractive

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
20 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

I don't get annoyed when people don't read the profile and send a message when they're completely incompatible, which would be obvious if they had read it (yes, that's you single guys). Those messages are easy to delete after all.

The only time I do get slihhtly irritated is when I get mail asking me to solve site issues because I'm a mod. Which, had they read the profile, would never have been sent because they'd have seen that I can't. 🤷‍♂️

Getting annoyed because someone doesn't read a profile is pointless, when there's perfectly good delete and block buttons available. 😁

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By *naswingdressWoman
20 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I don't get annoyed when people don't read the profile and send a message when they're completely incompatible, which would be obvious if they had read it (yes, that's you single guys). Those messages are easy to delete after all.

Getting annoyed because someone doesn't read a profile is pointless, when there's perfectly good delete and block buttons available. 😁"

I find it annoying, *and* I delete/block. Not mutually exclusive

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
20 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Getting annoyed because someone doesn't read a profile is pointless, when there's perfectly good delete and block buttons available. 😁

I find it annoying, *and* I delete/block. Not mutually exclusive

I could find it annoying. I used to. But then I remembered some people wouldn't read a warning label on a bottle and then would moan that it killed them when they drank it.

Not reading my profile is a 'them' problem, more than it's a 'me' problem. I did my bit. I wrote it. The clues are there. If they can't go all 'Scooby Doo gang' and work them out then hey.......🤷‍♂️

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By *r lotharioMan
20 weeks ago

newcastle-under-lyme

mine's a tongue in cheek epic, but there's a short version at the top for those who can only handle 2 sentences....

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By *ORBCouple
20 weeks ago

Dundalk

We wrote our bio in such a way that only those with a similar sense of humour would get in touch.

It's pretty clear about what we don't want and yet.......

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By *naswingdressWoman
20 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

Getting annoyed because someone doesn't read a profile is pointless, when there's perfectly good delete and block buttons available. 😁

I find it annoying, *and* I delete/block. Not mutually exclusive

I could find it annoying. I used to. But then I remembered some people wouldn't read a warning label on a bottle and then would moan that it killed them when they drank it.

Oh absolutely. We're 95% in agreement

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
20 weeks ago

wonderland.

"We wrote our bio in such a way that only those with a similar sense of humour would get in touch.

It's pretty clear about what we don't want and yet......."
your profile is awesome

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

Paranoid now! Don't wanna upset the hard of reading. We definitely like enough info to make a decision!

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By *urves and MischiefWoman
20 weeks ago

North West

"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it? "

Mine is long for some, not for others. Do I expect people to read it? If they want me to interact with them then yes. If they don’t read it then this will likely be clear in a message which I will then delete. Works for me😁

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By *unnyandDi68Couple
20 weeks ago

LEIGH

But then you have the message

We love your profile

followed by messages that show that they may have read it but maybe not understood it?!?!

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
20 weeks ago

kent

"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it?

Amazing isn’t it. I would like to meet you, maybe even have sex with you, but don’t expect me to read your words because that’s just too much… sometimes the world seems so back to front it’s hard to know whether you’re coming or going.

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By *AYENCouple
20 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

I'm waiting for the OP to post TLDR

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By *aria_dreamgirlTV/TS
20 weeks ago

stockport

Illiteracy is no excuse for just looking at pics and not reading profiles.

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By *orphia2003Woman
20 weeks ago

Tonypandy.

Mine is long, but not excessively so. Covers the key points, and if you can't be bothered to take a few minutes to read it, that isn't my problem.

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By *naswingdressWoman
20 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Illiteracy is no excuse for just looking at pics and not reading profiles."

I've been told many times, give or take, "iz nut skool luv"

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By *Mclovin.Man
8 weeks ago

East Yorkshire

I'm happy with my length.... of profile, ive had a few comments about it, I do tweak it now and then.

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By *sWyldWoman
8 weeks ago

Edinburgh

If someone can't be bothered to spend 3 minute's reading my profile, I doubt they would make the effort to do much else

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By *w funwifeWoman
8 weeks ago

near taunton

if you cantbe bothered to read it then dont read it see to me men who cant be bothered to read a simple profile wont have the attention span for in the bedroom either.

me on here for me those that dont wantto read then that the perfect filter for me and a boring fuck avoided

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By *entlemanFoxMan
8 weeks ago

North East / London

People interest me, so I enjoy a long read, especially something quirky and entertaining.

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By *alloSpaceboyMan
8 weeks ago

The Fortress of Solitude

"Lots of angry profiles on Fab. Always a turn off"

This is an acute, insightful comment actually - some profiles do sound quite jaundiced and a bit legalese.

I can understand why some may get that like that after negative experiences, but boy is it a mood killer.

But as others have said already, if it doesn’t vibe, move on.

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By *luttTV/TS
8 weeks ago

Duns

One of the most disrespectful things on this site is people who can’t be bothered to at least skim-read a profile

And not the fun kind of disrespect either.

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By *r lotharioMan
7 weeks ago

newcastle-under-lyme

mine has a short version at the beginning for the readable challenged....

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By *ollie_JCouple
7 weeks ago

Italy

My wife likes to talk, a lot… hence our profile is her writing as she actually talks..

We don’t meet anymore but are here to perv

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By *irty_little_blondeWoman
7 weeks ago

Manchester

Sorry not sorry 🤪

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By *iscotti32Woman
7 weeks ago

I cba to read them either.

I also don’t message them on the off chance either. If I cba to read it then they’re not gonna wanna meet 😂

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By *rs GGWoman
7 weeks ago

Middlesbrough

Your profile is very fun to read x

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By *ilverjagMan
7 weeks ago

swansea

Well mine us a bit of an essay, but if my experiences are anything to go by, most people I've met have concluded that a guy who has a good command of the English language, and can string to sentences together, is likely to be far more interesting company than all the one line wonders on here put together. So as it's working, I won't be mending it.

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By *echnosonic_BrummieMan
7 weeks ago

Willenhall

I just scroll to the end at first. If there's a serious copypasta "Sydney University" disclaimer there I'm unlikely to bother reading anything else.

However, if there's a parodic Sydney University disclaimer a wink or message may be sent.

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
7 weeks ago

Not in your area

Length of bio is a form of filtering.

Those who can't be bothered to read will similarly get a low effort response, if they even get one at all

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By *lix CoxMan
7 weeks ago

CF39

I write a fairly long profile. If they can't be bothered to read it that's their issue. If they then ask me a question that I've already written in my profile I'm not in the habit of repeating myself.

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By *loriouscurvesWoman
7 weeks ago

wild west lothian

I find it separates the wheat from the chaff……and if my profile isn’t for you then neither am I x

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By *weetWithATw1stWoman
7 weeks ago

MiddleofMyStreet

Mine varies from long to short... usually goes short to state not meeting etc...

usually its long because i am always adding stuff to it... but for the most part taking the 5 mins reading it... will save the time it takes to send me a message and me deleting it (or replying not thanks)... xx

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By *eroLondonMan
7 weeks ago

Mayfair

I prefer (and enjoy) reading lengthy and comprehensive profiles, narrative that contains substance, humour and quirky dialogue.

There's no room for brevity in my heart. 🩶

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

I’m thinking a short attention span from the OP

Trixie

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By *uliette500Woman
7 weeks ago

Hull

I have a long profile as I've been here a long time and know what I want and what I don't.

If you don't read my profile and message me it is often very clear you haven't bothered. So you will either get told to read it, get ignored or get deleted depending on my mood and tolerance at that time.

Reading a profile helps you work out if you will be compatible with said person.

Why not save your time and theirs by reading it first.

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By *hechonkyduoCouple
7 weeks ago

Alphabet Mafia HQ, Dudleyish.

Dunno OP, would you get angry if we left you on read because you didn't read the profile?

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By *aciamiCouple
7 weeks ago

Hertfordshire

"I have a long profile as I've been here a long time and know what I want and what I don't.

Reading a profile helps you work out if you will be compatible with said person.

Why not save your time and theirs by reading it first. "

This!

So true. We don't think ours is excessively long, but does detail what we are about and into. Not everyone on here is after the same thing.

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By *ezandCCouple
7 weeks ago

Telford

We ended up blocking all men as most couldn’t even read the first line saying no single men.

We still get it sometimes with couples, chatting away then they go quiet when we say kez doesn’t want to interact with other men, we have made it very clear on our profile.

Seems like a decent thing to do, if you want to spend intimate time with people at least read a bit of text.

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By *xfordjohnMan
7 weeks ago

Oxford

And some are so short. I came across one last night that just said 'Hello'

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By *oralltherightreasonsCouple
7 weeks ago

WELLINGBOROUGH

If people can't be arsed to read ours thats not our issue, just don't be surprised when you do a wrong thing and get blocked.

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By *allucinatingGMan
7 weeks ago

Wild West Lothian

"I love a long profile, the fun ones that is, a long profile consisting of demands or complaints is so annoying and not worth a read but a long jovial profile that makes you chuckle whilst reading makes the person a lot more attractive

This! There is a difference. Someone mentioned that there's a lot of angry bios out there and as a newbie I have to agree. Some are like reading a contract, or a list of complaints, they don't project a welcoming image frankly.

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By *uttercupWoman
2 weeks ago

Borders

Think I've got mine just right

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By *hogun300Man
2 weeks ago

Dundee

"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it? "

Their profile so their choice. While some may be on long side id rather that than a blank profile all day every day.

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By *ent57Man
2 weeks ago

... where the streets have no name!

"Think I've got mine just right "

very good Buttercup

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By *uffolkcouple-bi onlyCouple
2 weeks ago

West Suffolk

Our profile is very long and very detailed, over the years we have had to add to it, if we get a message that shows a guy hasn’t read it then we send a copy and paste message out asking them to read our profile as it tells guys exactly what we offer and what our boundaries are, if a guy can’t spend 5 mins reading our profile then we aren’t interested in meeting them.

Mrs

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
2 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it? "

I think people who can't be arsed to read it but expect me to bother reading their message are silly.

I don't get angry about it. They just go in the bin.

If you're not interested enough to read the profile just move on and find shorter profiles 💜

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By *ralist 1960Man
2 weeks ago

Leeds

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
2 weeks ago

West Midlands

Ours is lengthy but not that lengthy that someone would have to scroll and states honestly and clearly what we want and don't want..As per many comments,if you can't be arsed to read it but you'd like to have sex with us it's not the greatest start x

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By *elly and daveCouple
2 weeks ago

gateshead

Profiles should be as long as you want/need them to be.

We always read them..but..the ones that irk us,are the ones that say,"start your reply with a certain word,so we know you've read all the profile."

What's that all about?

The entrance exam to get into MI5?

🤣🤣🤣🤣

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By *oPantsJustVibesMan
2 weeks ago

Staines

I actually enjoy reading long profiles as that helps me determine whether it would be a waste of time messaging them or not based on what their preferences are in the description.

What puts me off are the aggressive profile descriptions, like using caps lock on different parts of the descriptions “ABSOLUTELY NO BEARDS!!!1!1!!1!” “ YOU MUST DO THIS” “YOU MUST ABSOLUTELY NOT DO THAT!!!” “ “YOU WILL BE INSTANTLY BLOCKED!!!” like relax dude fucking hell

That’s the kind of language that puts me off, just makes you seem so unfriendly and unapproachable.

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By *uffolkcouple-bi onlyCouple
2 weeks ago

West Suffolk

"I actually enjoy reading long profiles as that helps me determine whether it would be a waste of time messaging them or not based on what their preferences are in the description.

That’s the kind of language that puts me off, just makes you seem so unfriendly and unapproachable. "

I think that comes from so few people reading a profile that they write important parts of the profile in caps so it gets seen,

Mrs

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By *allipygousMan
2 weeks ago

Leicester

Long profiles are good to read. It's an indication of how self-centred, boring or entertaining the owner may be.

If at the end they have the meaningless Sydney university rubbish or the EU nonsense then that is also a good indicator of how much of a sheep the writer of the profile is.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Central

"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it? "

Nothing is imposed on you by anyone. You are totally at liberty to select and filter profiles, as you want to. You have tens of thousands of people here, so rest easy

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By *tlanshiaWoman
2 weeks ago

Chatham

Unpopular opinion but I guess you want the lingerie in pictures, hair done, make up on, outfit nice, smelling nice when you meet a lady. That takes effort... If you can't put the effort into reading a profile then why would we wish to meet a guy who doesn't reciprocating.

Also, if bit of lite reading is to strenuous for you, I can only imagine what the sex would be like.

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By *hechonkyduoCouple
2 weeks ago

Alphabet Mafia HQ, Dudleyish.

"I actually enjoy reading long profiles as that helps me determine whether it would be a waste of time messaging them or not based on what their preferences are in the description.

That’s the kind of language that puts me off, just makes you seem so unfriendly and unapproachable. "

Well we cant put it in bold dude and its a pretty important information.

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By *allucinatingGMan
2 weeks ago

Wild West Lothian

"I actually enjoy reading long profiles as that helps me determine whether it would be a waste of time messaging them or not based on what their preferences are in the description.

That’s the kind of language that puts me off, just makes you seem so unfriendly and unapproachable. "

Some profiles you read just make you want to back away slowly and close down the app!

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By *eacock1221Couple
2 weeks ago

Bedfordshire

It really doesn't take long to read a profile of someone you may have interest in.

We have so many messages saying just hi, or _ello its ridiculous.

We make it clear we will not respond to these messages and it just proves some people are just after a quick fix rather than a connection. Which is fine, but read the profile first.

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By *ere4It3000Couple
2 weeks ago

Belgium

"It really doesn't take long to read a profile of someone you may have interest in.

We have so many messages saying just hi, or _ello its ridiculous.

We make it clear we will not respond to these messages and it just proves some people are just after a quick fix rather than a connection. Which is fine, but read the profile first. "

💯

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By *ose and her beastCouple
2 weeks ago

Watford

Don't like it don't read it you won't get many meets of you can't spare a couple of minutes reading

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By *rinceless PrincessWoman
2 weeks ago

Gloucester

"Don't like it don't read it you won't get many meets of you can't spare a couple of minutes reading"

👏🏼👏🏼

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By *r K and Mrs LCouple
2 weeks ago

Leicester

We don’t mind reading them but we also like to have a social with people sometimes to keep a little bit back can be good.

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By *olvesxcoupleCouple
2 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

I wouldn't want to meet someone who couldn't spend 2 minutes reading our profile. Screams of laziness, amongst other things.

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By *estcastleMan
2 weeks ago

Taunton

I rather see later profile so I can tell if I. Compatible or not.

I comment I would say that if you have a long description, paragraphs are very helpful.

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By *ete vfrMan
2 weeks ago

Leeds

I have no problem reading long profiles or putting lots of information on mine. But I do find it a pain writing long contract messages when as a single old git Of 67 I seldom get a reply

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By *ildcatttWoman
2 weeks ago

Manchester

If you're interested in meeting someone I think taking 5 mins (at most) to read their profile is the bare minimum of effort

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By *ddfellowMan
2 weeks ago

wirral

Some people can read and find it a useful tool, it can save endless pointless messages.

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By *inky PerkyCouple
2 weeks ago

Kingston

If you want to meet, then you need to read the profile. Simples.

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By *illabongboy1971Man
2 weeks ago

Penicuik

My profile is deliberately detailed to avoid being asked the same kind of questions over and over again.

It hasn't always worked sadly.

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By *obnFluffyCouple
2 weeks ago

Chester

We quite often get comments that ours is an epic/far too long/etc…but then each to their own. We wanted to give people a ‘feel’ (pun intended!) for the kind of people we are (and hence avoid wasting time by only later finding we’re not what someone is looking for after extended messaging, whilst hopefully raising a chuckle at the same time - life is short folks !).

We often find people don’t even read the first paragraph or two (based on what they say or message)…and we’d ignore such people. We want to like and get on with those we might drink or play with, and that takes a little investment…

Some want different things - life would be boring if we were all the same…but we can all respect each others choices and approaches even if not necessarily agree…

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By *ubikslongswordMan
2 weeks ago

Rubiksville

"We quite often get comments that ours is an epic/far too long/etc…but then each to their own. We wanted to give people a ‘feel’ (pun intended!) for the kind of people we are (and hence avoid wasting time by only later finding we’re not what someone is looking for after extended messaging, whilst hopefully raising a chuckle at the same time - life is short folks !).

Some want different things - life would be boring if we were all the same…but we can all respect each others choices and approaches even if not necessarily agree…"

I think it's a good profile it tells people what you're looking for and your boundaries if someone can't be bothered to read a bit that's their problem

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By *obnFluffyCouple
2 weeks ago

Chester

Some want different things - life would be boring if we were all the same…but we can all respect each others choices and approaches even if not necessarily agree…

I think it's a good profile it tells people what you're looking for and your boundaries if someone can't be bothered to read a bit that's their problem "

Thank you - appreciated

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By *avstarTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Northampton

"My profile is deliberately detailed to avoid being asked the same kind of questions over and over again.

It hasn't always worked sadly. "

I don't think mine is particularly long, but i've tried to use my profile for the same purpose. I haven't been able to meet for a little while, so i made it literally the first line of my profile but even that's a step too far for some people apparently!

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By *illabongboy1971Man
2 weeks ago

Penicuik

It can be very frustrating

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By *riffield cplCouple
2 weeks ago

Beverley

Perfect answer. 👏 👏

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By *herrybakewellCouple
2 weeks ago

Staffordshire

I prefer a long profile from someone that knows exactly what they want than a 1 line bio, or something with 0 effort.

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By *ust and PoundCouple
2 weeks ago

Cheshire

Prefer a proper bio. If there is enough information you can use it to start a good conversation with someone.

Some of us prefer to make a connection, which is hard to do when the bio says "will fill in later".

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By *netobeextraMan
2 weeks ago

location varies

Mine is long. I’ve tried to cut it down and make it easier to read but this is the best I can get to at this point in time.

From my perspective, it’s a filter for those who take the time to read and can make an informed decision about whether we are compatible or not.

It’s great when people have read it, it’s easy to tell when you receive the message and that usually means that there’s a very good chance that you’ve found people who are on the same page as you with similar interests. For me, it works, purely for that reason.

If people cant be bothered to read and click off to look elsewhere then no harm done in my world. I see it as a blessing in disguise.

It’s really easy to Identify the people who haven’t read and are chancers when they message. That doesn’t upset me or annoy me, I’m flattered by the interest but I don’t waste their time or my own where we are not on the same page or don’t have matching interests. I just delete the message and carry on scrolling on here

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By *rPunxMan
2 weeks ago

Hull

A long profile not only gives a detailed description of the person/couple but also of their wishes and desires. After all we are here for mutual satisfaction and not just some online sex toy for instant gratification. You could say a long profile is a test ... to see how much effort and attention you are going to pay to a conversation, meet etc.

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By *ellinever70Woman
2 weeks ago

Ayrshire

I feel a bit 'talked at' when I see a wordy profile

I'd much rather get a feel for someone through some chit chat

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