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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Mark suggested swinging to me (-after 13 years he finally found the right moment to bring it up!)

I was wondering if it Is usually the man who suggests it or are there many ladies who bring up the subject with their partners?

Mazzy xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually it was my idea, he agreed although was somewhat surprised lol. I didnt want an affair so this seemed ideal, i would recommend it. If both parties agree nobody gets hurt. Win win lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would guess the men, but will leave it to the couples to confirm or deny lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think the girls might think it, but it seems to be the guys who sort things out,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although i suggested it, Mike arranges the meets.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

We both agreed it was something we fancied doing! We meet people that we both want to meet and not just one half 'organising' meets! Having said that, I do seem to make most of the decisions. Z

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By *aravancoupleMan
over a year ago

A Secret Hideaway In the caravan of love

It has been a fantasy for both of us for years, but we decided to wait till the kids had left home, then to give swinging a go we wish kids had left soon LOL

Ps

It as been a fantasy for so long that we cant remember who suggested first.

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

All started for us on boxing day 5 years ago - have to say was a joint decision, we had been married 27 years at the time so was a very big step to take - we're both so glad we did though, made some great friends along the way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

for me it was my hubby who brought the subject up, we have both been married before and were both cheated on so we just thought why not, we didnt set out to play alone but just eventually after a few months decided to try it and both loved it.

i wasnt very bothered about sex once a week and i was happy but now i want more and more lol

and ive learnt a few things along the way things now get very wet indeed lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol perhaps Tiger Woods and his Mrs should have joined a swinging club could save alot of money.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol perhaps Tiger Woods and his Mrs should have joined a swinging club could save alot of money.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol perhaps Tiger Woods and his Mrs should have joined a swinging club could save alot of money.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry finger trouble lol x

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

Has he had 3 wives then? pmsl - last count I had had a few more than that

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

No one.

I met my hubby at a swinging club when we were both singles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When i first started doing this i was still with my hubby, noone suggested it it was just a subject that came up one day due to someone i had been talking to, and we took it from there

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

he suggested, she agreed readily; we'd not been together long and both had been married to partners who weren't very highly sexed, we both are and both had several affairs when with our exes. with swinging, we can both enjoy plenty of lovely sex with others openly, so don't need affairs.

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By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago

a very plush appartment off junt 7 M5

I am single

I suggested it to myself 1 day and I agreed to give it a go x

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By *obblybitsCouple
over a year ago

huddersfield

early days of our marriage we talked about three-sums ect: Martyn hadn't had hardly any experience sexually and I had had many memories of sex. he new I was bi when we got together.

things haven't been easy in our marriage but now we have sorted out the things that were wrong we talked more and it was me who suggested joining a club. I love seeing him with others and I enjoy it too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was nobody's idea really. We did a bit of talking after a few drinks, took a few mucky photos then a bit of webcam fun on ICUII, then tried a bit of dogging and here we are now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A friend............. I was telling him that "friends with benefits" are so much easier, do not damage one's mental health, so he said try this site!!

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By *EcoupleSR6Couple
over a year ago

Sunderland

Well I can honestly say it was my man that suggested it. But in the right relationship....and frame of mind it works. Had loads of fun with other couples and our sex life after a meet is mind blowing!!!!!!!!!!!! Now trying to perfect my deep throat technique

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By *EcoupleSR6Couple
over a year ago

Sunderland

Ditto x Just wish mine was more domesticated, but hey ho, you can't have everything......more's the piy xx

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By *arandjasCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

It was the femlae half of this couple that suggested it, but the male half was more than willing. It was suggested a few years ago but put on hold, and it is only now we are actually doing something about it, and fully intend to enjoy it

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Well i met Jay through swinging so didnt have to bring it up lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Neither of us tbh. We started off with a bit of daft web cam fun, tried dogging then just sorta drifted in this direction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met Sasha at Chameleons, so can't help with this one

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By *entadreadMan
over a year ago

Essex

My seductress mind suggested it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we were speaking about sexual fantasies and we both said that we would like to experience sex with someone else, but not to the extent that we would cheat. We spoke about it indepth over a few weeks and decided to try swinging. We didn't know anyone who "swung" so looked into joining a club. We searched on google and found LS and Fab. That was nearly 2 years ago, so ours was truly a joint decision

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hubby was working in a nightclub and I (being the good wife that I am lol) waited up for him to get home at 3:30 am.

Being bored once the kids were away to bed I watched all sorts of rubbish on TV and one night found myself watching a programme called “Real Wife Swap” which was all about swingers.

I had always thought swinging was about men pushing women into something they wanted to do and not something many women wanted or enjoyed doing.

But I have to say that programme really opened my eyes. It was about a few couples who were real couples with the same problems and real life considerations as many of us have.

I sat watching the 6 episodes and by the end I was thinking they (the women) seem to be having a ball and I also learned that (in the cases of most of the couples) it was the woman who was the driving force rather than the men, and both parts of the couples seemed to be having the time of their lives.

Hubby walked into the house before the end of the last show and sat watching it with me saying he had seen the show before. We ended up talking about what we wanted from our lives and talked some more and more and more then looked into joining a site.

Never looked back since.

So I suppose it was me who brought the subject up

Shona

x x x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Went ta fix les boiler just over eight years ago

(Until then i was a single swinger)

Dont know really how the subject came up

But she asked if she could come to chams with me

The rest is history lol xx

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