FabSwingers.com forum: Soft swing definition

By *weet and Spice OP Couple
19 weeks ago

Around the Midlands

Following on from the post about soft swing, we were curious to know what this means to people as definitions seem to vary.

For us it's everything apart from penetrative sex.

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By *ickeyandmouseCouple
19 weeks ago

nr Alicante

"Following on from the post about soft swing, we were curious to know what this means to people as definitions seem to vary.

For us it's everything apart from penetrative sex."

That’s what we think

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By *itSurreyCoupleCouple
19 weeks ago

Reigate

Yep. We’d agree with that definition x

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

Yep, that's my definition too

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By *asterMeliodasMan
19 weeks ago

Newmill

Yeah, that's how I'd define it.

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By *ickedwillyCouple
19 weeks ago

Bangor

Yes spot on

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By *herry delightWoman
19 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

I think the question is does it include oral sex or not?

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By *izandpaulCouple
19 weeks ago

merseyside

Sounds about right to us.

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By *olfandtazCouple
19 weeks ago

Bristol

"Following on from the post about soft swing, we were curious to know what this means to people as definitions seem to vary.

For us it's everything apart from penetrative sex."

Same here, all up to full sex

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By *allipygousMan
19 weeks ago

Leicester

It can range to just being in the same room with no touching at all to everything except inserting a penis into a vagina.

All those who wish to indulge in soft swing should be communicating exactly what it means to them before getting together with another couple/single.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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19 weeks ago

East Sussex

I think it's something that needs to be discussed with the person/people you're meeting.

There are so many ways of being sexual that don't involve penetration and not everyone wants to do all of them.

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By *tms1xCouple
19 weeks ago

Chelmsford

Every thing apart from penetration for us

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By *allipygousMan
19 weeks ago

Leicester

"Every thing apart from penetration for us "

A penis in the mouth is penetration. Fingers in the vagina is penetration. People need to be specific.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
19 weeks ago

Coventry

For us is pretty anything bar vaginal/anal penetration of anyone who is not your partner.

In practice the scale of we do or don't do with others really depends on how things flow naturally, what the feeling is and their specific boundaries. 95% we're soft swing. But we don't really have labels or expectations other than to share a good time whatever happens and works for all.

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By *evonFbsCouple
19 weeks ago

SIDMOUTH

Same as most for us

No vaginal/anal penetration of opposite partner

Everything else is fair game with permission of course

Bi fem foursomes work best for us

J loves me fucking her while licking pussy and hands on her tits and clit

And i quite like the view

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By *icecouple561Couple
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19 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Every thing apart from penetration for us

A penis in the mouth is penetration. Fingers in the vagina is penetration. People need to be specific."

I can't disagree with this.

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By *weet and Spice OP Couple
19 weeks ago

Around the Midlands

To clarify, we meant everything apart from vaginal or anal penetration with a penis!

Just when it seemed as though definitions were broadly similar....😉

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By *moureuse69Couple
19 weeks ago

Bridgend

We dont have much experience with this and thought that soft swinging was basically having sex in the same room as another couple.

So its interesting to see that play between partners without "penetration" is considered soft swinging.

Yeah seems like the discussion before any meet with the words soft in them need boundaries to be discussed.

We like the idea of being watched while playing, so considered this but we are totally open to swapping partners too. Guess it would depend on the mood and vibe of the evening in question.

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By *ubmissive guyMan
19 weeks ago

Liverpool

I always thought it was anything apart from penetration including oral. If there's no oral what's left to do? I mean I'm fine giving oral to a Woman and getting nothing in return , but if that's classed as penetration soft swing must be watching porn together or playing strip poker. I'm glad I like to discuss things before meeting

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By *umblefunMan
19 weeks ago

London/ South East

Everything up to penetration with my penis would equal soft swing for me.

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By *eandmrsjones69Couple
19 weeks ago

Middle England

"Every thing apart from penetration for us

A penis in the mouth is penetration. Fingers in the vagina is penetration. People need to be specific.

I can't disagree with this. "

I guess that's extra soft swing!!

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

Soft swing to us just means people that don't swap partners and are more interested in the voyeurism. Some seem to suggest they don't mind the women sucking off each other's partner, but that can't be taken as a given.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
19 weeks ago

Leeds

"Following on from the post about soft swing, we were curious to know what this means to people as definitions seem to vary.

For us it's everything apart from penetrative sex."

Same

Mrs

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By *alandNitaCouple
19 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

"Following on from the post about soft swing, we were curious to know what this means to people as definitions seem to vary.

For us it's everything apart from penetrative sex."

This is also our view too.

Cal

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
19 weeks ago

Coventry

The debate is interesting and totally confirms why don't really use labels to describe what we're into. Soft swing doesn't mean the same for everyone. Far better just to say what we do or dont.

In practice we find a lot of the sorting out between everyone with want everyone will do and won't do just gets sorted out in the flow of things. It's all about everyone reading the room and communicating with each other. We often find what we will and won't do fluctuates depending on who we're with and the vibe anyway.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
19 weeks ago

Wherever

I too agree with your definition OP.

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By *oxy jWoman
19 weeks ago

taunton somerset

there is no one way to soft swing its down to whats agreed between couples we know couples whos idea of soft swing is same room play ie you play with your own partners and just watch ... you cant make it a one label fits all like you can with other acts / kinks its an open book ... as others have said should be discussed to what level ... ie theres no real definition

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By *izandpaulCouple
19 weeks ago

merseyside

We always take a clipboard to initial meets with 30 yes or no questions.

Like.

To you do anal. Yes No

Do you do oral. Yes No

So on and so forth.

Very easy yes or no questions.

Tell the couple to sit down, be quiet and pay attention.

Pass over 2 clipboards with pencils, no conferring, look at your watch and say,10 minutes, start now.

If they talk, say shhhh.

Afterwards they get scored out of 30, over 25 arrange to meet, under 20 drive home.

Saves so much embarrassing chat.

Sorted.

Thank us later.

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By *herrybakewellCouple
19 weeks ago

Staffordshire

It's varies from people to people.....for some it means no touching at all, just being in the same room whilst another couple are playing.

As with all scenarios.....get people to clarify before anything happens, it's less awkward that way.

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By *ccasional.coupleCouple
19 weeks ago

anywhere

We would be classed as super soft as we will only do light touching between others and us such as boobs and bums

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By *hat Couple Over ThereCouple
19 weeks ago

Doncaster

That's what we would class as soft swing.

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By *ikeanneCouple
18 weeks ago

Somerset, Dorset, Wiltshire Border

For us we swap partners, we find kissing very erotic,we have oral sex also, and penetrating sex with toys and fingers, just not penis

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By *lik and PaulCouple
18 weeks ago

cahoots

"For us we swap partners, we find kissing very erotic,we have oral sex also, and penetrating sex with toys and fingers, just not penis "

This is us too

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By *irty-pairCouple
18 weeks ago

South Essex

Everything up to penetration. Though I wonder if soft swing couples are more or less likely to kiss? X

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By *agicroundabout3100Couple
18 weeks ago

Camberley

"For us we swap partners, we find kissing very erotic,we have oral sex also, and penetrating sex with toys and fingers, just not penis "

Yes this is how we view soft swinging x

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By *ikeanneCouple
18 weeks ago

Somerset, Dorset, Wiltshire Border

Lovely couples in here, who has a motorhome or similar??

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By *ister_ee_1981Man
18 weeks ago

Sunniest Exeter...

Based on the soft swing couple I played with several times it, was everything up to me penetrating his wife. So oral, yes, spit roast? Yes (but me at the top end) Bi cock sucking? Yes. Fucklicking? Yep

Apart from that one time they both got so turned on from our antics he said "go on fuck her, Im gonna watch" I looked at her to get an agreement and she put her arm round my neck, pulled me towards her and guided my cock in...

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By *essey100Couple
18 weeks ago

near you

That’s exactly what we think also but recently we had bad experience where the male half kept asking can he go further this ended the night right there and ruined a good night We are very apprehensive to meet now

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
18 weeks ago

Coventry

"Everything up to penetration. Though I wonder if soft swing couples are more or less likely to kiss? X"

I'm instrested in this too. Maybe I'll go through this thread sometime and try and work out a rough tally.

What I find interesting how people veiw couples who fuck but no kissing vs soft swing couples snog and cuddle? Which one is the more hard core?

Mr (pondering)

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By *allipygousMan
18 weeks ago

Leicester

"Everything up to penetration. Though I wonder if soft swing couples are more or less likely to kiss? X

I'm instrested in this too. Maybe I'll go through this thread sometime and try and work out a rough tally.

What I find interesting how people veiw couples who fuck but no kissing vs soft swing couples snog and cuddle? Which one is the more hard core?

Mr (pondering)"

I vote for kissing with oral both ways and no fucking.

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By (user no longer on site)
18 weeks ago

When I was with my partner it just meant no penetration with the penis. Clear and simple as that.

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By *ostguy321Man
18 weeks ago

Bucks

"Following on from the post about soft swing, we were curious to know what this means to people as definitions seem to vary.

For us it's everything apart from penetrative sex."

I agree

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By *etshavefunxCouple
14 weeks ago

somewhere near by

We define it as everything apart from f*cking.

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By *oots11Couple
14 weeks ago

wirral

Yes lots of orgasms and cum !! Just no penetration xxx

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By *aughty Hubby n Sexy WifeCouple
14 weeks ago

Scarborogh

"We always take a clipboard to initial meets with 30 yes or no questions.

Like.

To you do anal. Yes No

Do you do oral. Yes No

So on and so forth.

Very easy yes or no questions.

Tell the couple to sit down, be quiet and pay attention.

Pass over 2 clipboards with pencils, no conferring, look at your watch and say,10 minutes, start now.

If they talk, say shhhh.

Afterwards they get scored out of 30, over 25 arrange to meet, under 20 drive home.

Saves so much embarrassing chat.

Sorted.

Thank us later.

Do you issue a certificate at the end?

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By *aughty Hubby n Sexy WifeCouple
14 weeks ago

Scarborogh

"Soft swing to us just means people that don't swap partners and are more interested in the voyeurism. Some seem to suggest they don't mind the women sucking off each other's partner, but that can't be taken as a given."

We would tend to use the phrase ‘parallel play’ for this scenario.

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By *race_cpl6665Couple
14 weeks ago

Solihull

"Following on from the post about soft swing, we were curious to know what this means to people as definitions seem to vary.

For us it's everything apart from penetrative sex."

We would agree with this!

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By *evergiveupMan
14 weeks ago

derbyshire

I was about to write " isn't soft swing a bit - half swing "

But then I thought it through better and decided that it is better that people have a clear definition of the boundaries where they want to play so that everyone understands

Enjoy

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By *izzybicplCouple
12 weeks ago

wisbech

soft swing is just having certain boundries where you feel comfortable.

Foe us soft swing is watching and being watched, lots of licking and sucking but actual fucking is for own partners... thats just us and our boundries and our own definaition of soft swing... and yes to some thats half swing but whatever suits .

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By *rumcouple2013Couple
12 weeks ago

Tamworth

"Following on from the post about soft swing, we were curious to know what this means to people as definitions seem to vary.

For us it's everything apart from penetrative sex."

That’s what we see it has and that’s our boundery.

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By *aggy dollsCouple
12 weeks ago

bradford

It's when I can't get hard

Mr H

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

When I was part of a couples profile we were soft swing only and I have to say we enjoyed some pretty amazing meets.

Looking back I think it’s because no one was rushing to get to the main event - penetrative sex.

They were very sexy and sensual often lasting many hours, longer if guests were staying over.

A lot to be said for soft swing.

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By *icemember7Man
12 weeks ago

Worcester

I've always believed it meant everything except penetration, ie using only hands, tongue and lips. Although on one so called soft meet, the wife after I had be licking and sucking her pussy, turned to her husband and said "Can he fuck me"

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By *morous twosomeCouple
11 weeks ago

Northeast

"For us we swap partners, we find kissing very erotic,we have oral sex also, and penetrating sex with toys and fingers, just not penis "

We totally agree with this method of soft swinging

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By *orkshirecouple69 returnCouple
11 weeks ago

doncaster

"Yes lots of orgasms and cum !! Just no penetration xxx"

Got to agree with this statement

We have enjoyed this type of play unexpectedly in clubs

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By *ohn65xxxMan
11 weeks ago

stockton

I think soft swing is underrated , ive met some amazing couples and the odd single lady who want exactly that ..lots of mutually rewarding fun without any full sex ( penis penetration ),great times were had by all ..

be good to hear from others who feel the same

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By *ohn65xxxMan
11 weeks ago

stockton

Sounds the perfect scenario .

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By *actilenorfolkgentMan
11 weeks ago

Norwich

Have to say I cum more intensely with soft play than penetration

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By *ohn65xxxMan
11 weeks ago

stockton

Yep ..me too !.

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By *aimedescendreMan
11 weeks ago

Hitchin

That was my understanding. Although one couple I entertained once wouldn’t go as far as her giving me head, but happy for me to go down on her… each to their own.

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