FabSwingers.com forum: Kinks, is it just me?

By *exysoldier90 OP Man
14 weeks ago

Midlands

Whenever someone asks me what my kinks are I genuinely don't know how to answer them

Is that really boring of me?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
14 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Nah.

Whenever someone asks me what my kinks are I assume they're just looking for wank fodder and dismiss them 💜

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By *uskWandererMan
14 weeks ago

Ormskirk

What you into and What are you kinks?

Both questions for me mean the other person has something in mind they want or really don't want. Usually the former.

But being open to trying stuff, I also have no real idea how to answer

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By *exysoldier90 OP Man
14 weeks ago

Midlands

"Nah.

Whenever someone asks me what my kinks are I assume they're just looking for wank fodder and dismiss them 💜"

That's a fair point. I just find it a really awkward question

Like most of the things I like are just normal sex acts. I don't see them as kinky lol

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By *altandPepper24Couple
14 weeks ago

Liverpool

"Nah.

Whenever someone asks me what my kinks are I assume they're just looking for wank fodder and dismiss them 💜"
This is where we was going wrong and tip toeing around the question being worried about be judged as a bad whore but iv realised im actually a really good whore

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By *icecouple561Couple
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14 weeks ago

East Sussex

Some people have things they really enjoy sexually. Some might see them as kinks others might consider them run of the mill. I'm always stumped when people ask me what I'm into though.

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By *altandPepper24Couple
14 weeks ago

Liverpool

So vanilla which is fine but some of us are more deviant and a bit more neich so best asking at the start because if yous are not sexually compatible what’s the point

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By *olfandtazCouple
14 weeks ago

Bristol

As a bdsm couple our kinks are pretty varied... what we call a kink some might not even think about..m it's always fun though finding out what another might think.

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By *exysoldier90 OP Man
14 weeks ago

Midlands

"So vanilla which is fine but some of us are more deviant and a bit more neich so best asking at the start because if yous are not sexually compatible what’s the point

Haha I wouldn't class myself as vanilla though! I think I'm sexually adventurous, just not kinky

If that makes sense!

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By *uskWandererMan
14 weeks ago

Ormskirk

I'd say if you are a particularly kinky couple/person who wants someone similar, easier to tell them your into X and is that something they are into to.

If they say yes, that's what chatting before a meet is great for. Sussing out those who are bullshitting and will run a mile when you go to do whatever.

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By *altandPepper24Couple
14 weeks ago

Liverpool

This is what we now do and honestly you either get blocked or their full attention to the filth you’ve just sent them

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By *uskWandererMan
14 weeks ago

Ormskirk

I'd guess get full attention more often than not.

Though maybe that is the inner deviant inside me talking haha

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By *ensualMan
14 weeks ago

Sutton

What I do is on my profile and I am happy to explain it.

I am moving away from using the term "kink" as it seems to me to have become interchangeable with porn sex or sexual activity that was considered "out there" in 1970s sex comedies. The term " kink", in my view has lost its connection to BDSM and or unusual fetishistic pleasures which do not rely on penetrative sex or foreplay.

As mentioned previously in this thread,"kink" has become wank fodder.

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By *izzy69Man
14 weeks ago

London

"Nah.

Whenever someone asks me what my kinks are I assume they're just looking for wank fodder and dismiss them 💜"

Really? Maybe they're just trying to start a conversation.

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By *asterMeliodasMan
14 weeks ago

Newmill

"So vanilla which is fine but some of us are more deviant and a bit more neich so best asking at the start because if yous are not sexually compatible what’s the point

I've always found it amusing that one of the most expensive substances that's technically incredibly rare was used as a namesake for "standard" sex.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
14 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"Nah.

Whenever someone asks me what my kinks are I assume they're just looking for wank fodder and dismiss them 💜

Really? Maybe they're just trying to start a conversation."

It's not a conversation I'm interested in with someone I barely know.

Generally if I'm getting on with someone the conversation comes round to that naturally and feels less gross.

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
14 weeks ago

Sheffield

"Nah.

Whenever someone asks me what my kinks are I assume they're just looking for wank fodder and dismiss them 💜

Really? Maybe they're just trying to start a conversation.

It's not a conversation I'm interested in with someone I barely know.

Generally if I'm getting on with someone the conversation comes round to that naturally and feels less gross."

Completely agree with this. X

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
14 weeks ago

Tamworth

"Nah.

Whenever someone asks me what my kinks are I assume they're just looking for wank fodder and dismiss them 💜

Really? Maybe they're just trying to start a conversation.

It's not a conversation I'm interested in with someone I barely know.

Generally if I'm getting on with someone the conversation comes round to that naturally and feels less gross.

Completely agree with this. X"

Same for me. I'd almost rather I brought it up also - it indicates an understanding and respect for boundaries and the ability to talk without having to bring up sex, which is important when you're looking for something more than a quick fuck.

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