FabSwingers.com forum: unsucsessfull

By *aytime78 OP Man
21 weeks ago

HUDDERSFIELD

went to a club event the other day and wasnt sukses sucsesfull found it a bit difficult to chat and didnt really ask to play or anything hardest part was watching everyone else enjoying themselves stuck in my mind that

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By *ack FrostyMan
21 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

What would make it successful for you?

But honestly well done for going to a club, that said just because you have been to one doesn’t guarantee you sex

They can be daunting the first few times

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By *allySlinkyWoman
21 weeks ago

Leeds

Maybe give it another go ? It will be easier the second time.

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By *aytime78 OP Man
21 weeks ago

HUDDERSFIELD

I like the idea of a group senario but had no luck ever been a bad year sofar in that departament

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By *aytime78 OP Man
21 weeks ago

HUDDERSFIELD

"Maybe give it another go ? It will be easier the second time. "

need to find some non member events ect not allowed to the next one I went to for a silly comment I made live n learn

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By *lim_bbcMan
21 weeks ago

barking

"I like the idea of a group senario but had no luck ever been a bad year sofar in that departament "

Think it's best to keep trying. You already have some good veris

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By *aytime78 OP Man
21 weeks ago

HUDDERSFIELD

"I like the idea of a group senario but had no luck ever been a bad year sofar in that departament

Think it's best to keep trying. You already have some good veris"

thanks mate

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By *asterMeliodasMan
21 weeks ago

Newmill

"went to a club event the other day and wasnt sukses sucsesfull found it a bit difficult to chat and didnt really ask to play or anything hardest part was watching everyone else enjoying themselves stuck in my mind that "

How do you gauge "success" in this context?

What was it about chatting to people that you found difficult? Now that you've been to one and seen what it's like, how do you think you can make that easier for yourself going forward?

Can you also enjoy yourself just chatting? Or would you only be having fun if you were also playing?

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
21 weeks ago

Reading

It takes a while to get your face known and you can't be shy. You need to talk to everyone and treat them as people not potential shags. So talk to men as well as women. The group thing may take a while so focus on making friends. Hottubs are a great place to chat to people. Good luck!!

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
21 weeks ago

Wherever

"Maybe give it another go ? It will be easier the second time.

need to find some non member events ect not allowed to the next one I went to for a silly comment I made live n learn "

Are you banned from attending the next one, am I understanding this correctly?

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple
21 weeks ago

Stoke

We often go to clubs and don't play, that's how clubs work!

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By *aytime78 OP Man
21 weeks ago

HUDDERSFIELD

How do you gauge "success" in this context?

What was it about chatting to people that you found difficult? Now that you've been to one and seen what it's like, how do you think you can make that easier for yourself going forward?

Can you also enjoy yourself just chatting? Or would you only be having fun if you were also playing?"

I'm not the kind of guy yo ask outright to play unless I was getting good signals ive had a lot of confidence knocked out of me by the ex still healing I usually like a beer but was driving so I got a bit tounge tied and didnt want to be seen talking to everyone looking desperate ect it was tricky tbh

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By *ustful_LionessWoman
21 weeks ago

Heaven-sent

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What did you say to be banned from the next one?

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By *aytime78 OP Man
21 weeks ago

HUDDERSFIELD

"Maybe give it another go ? It will be easier the second time.

need to find some non member events ect not allowed to the next one I went to for a silly comment I made live n learn

Are you banned from attending the next one, am I understanding this correctly?"

think so I didnt do anything bad just a comment I put on someone else in a forum that she looked as hot in her photos as in person and others didnt oops I got piled on

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By *ack FrostyMan
21 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

If you’re banned on a comment that to me would be more problematic than lack of confidence

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
21 weeks ago

Leeds

I went to my 1st club night alone (ladies night) and I'm all honesty I was so nervous it was unreal, it was a new environment, all new for me I didn't interact as much as I should have I kinda froze, I didn't dress down & was literally the only person who didn't.

I'm still going again because I'd like to push myself, the environment isn't new anymore I know what to expect and hopefully I won't freeze like a deer in the headlights.... Anyway what I'm trying to say is don't let one bad experience put you off, even if you go 10 times before you pluck up the courage to ask to join in or chat some more it's still a step forward.

Good luck OP

Mrs

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By *aytime78 OP Man
21 weeks ago

HUDDERSFIELD

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What did you say to be banned from the next one?"

just comment on the forum about dome photos not looking like the people in person oops

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By (user no longer on site)
21 weeks ago

We find the hot tub or smoking area the easiest to socialise in and start conversations,

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