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"Depends why you joined I guess. It's a swingers site so the point would be to swing. What where you expecting OP? Mrs " I joined to swing but as a single male is proofing hard | |||
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"This is not a criticism.but try and make your profile a bit more interesting. There are a lot of single guys on here and you need to stand out from the rest. Take a look at a good single guy profile get some ideas." Ohh yes! Agreed What is a good profile and how could I male mine more interesting? Do you think the fact that I have no meet verified affects mine? | |||
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"Have been on as single guy and as a cpl. It can be hard to meet likeminded people as either. Women and cpls are massively outnumbered by single guys. They have their pic !" So true! | |||
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"The point of it for us is to say we're going on a club night, others can see that and we may meet up. Also, the forums make a very entertaining read "Sure! I mean I enjoy looking around but always wondered if people actually meet and the website has a real function. Forum are definitely entertaining to read  | |||
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"Your profile currently says very little about you. Okay, you're a single male--that's in your title. You're based in Glasgow--that's in your location info. You're looking to meet socially or for fun--the majority of people here are. The only things anyone reading it will know about you is that you're open-minded (which could mean almost literally anything depending on who you ask) and that you love curvy/large women. When considering your profile, ask yourself: would I want to meet this person on the basis of what I've read/seen here? You don't really give much detail on who you are and what you have to offer. What you want and what makes you tick. Also, people can sometimes be put off by default, unspecified information: do you *really* want to meet a woman between the ages of 18 and 99?" Cool, thanks! Yours is very detailed. Will try to improve my profile then | |||
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"This is not a criticism.but try and make your profile a bit more interesting. There are a lot of single guys on here and you need to stand out from the rest. Take a look at a good single guy profile get some ideas. Ohh yes! Agreed What is a good profile and how could I male mine more interesting? Do you think the fact that I have no meet verified affects mine?" Just from our perspective. Put a little about yourself and what you are looking for,try and inject a little humour into it. But don't be crude or crass. This also goes for any messages you send,be polite respectful and just say what you are looking for. Please don't be one of the hi,how's you.what you looking for or how's fab treating you. Can't speak for everyone on here but them messages get nowhere with us. Also clubs and organised socials are a great Way of meeting people. Just don't go to them with any expectations. Like I say this is only our perspective on it.other people will have different opinions. | |||
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"Your profile currently says very little about you. Okay, you're a single male--that's in your title. You're based in Glasgow--that's in your location info. You're looking to meet socially or for fun--the majority of people here are. The only things anyone reading it will know about you is that you're open-minded (which could mean almost literally anything depending on who you ask) and that you love curvy/large women. When considering your profile, ask yourself: would I want to meet this person on the basis of what I've read/seen here? You don't really give much detail on who you are and what you have to offer. What you want and what makes you tick. Also, people can sometimes be put off by default, unspecified information: do you *really* want to meet a woman between the ages of 18 and 99? Cool, thanks! Yours is very detailed. Will try to improve my profile then" :- Great advice ?? | |||
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"Your profile currently says very little about you. Okay, you're a single male--that's in your title. You're based in Glasgow--that's in your location info. You're looking to meet socially or for fun--the majority of people here are. The only things anyone reading it will know about you is that you're open-minded (which could mean almost literally anything depending on who you ask) and that you love curvy/large women. When considering your profile, ask yourself: would I want to meet this person on the basis of what I've read/seen here? You don't really give much detail on who you are and what you have to offer. What you want and what makes you tick. Also, people can sometimes be put off by default, unspecified information: do you *really* want to meet a woman between the ages of 18 and 99? Cool, thanks! Yours is very detailed. Will try to improve my profile then :- Great advice ?? " Question marks are supposed to be thumbs up lol | |||
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"Depends why you joined I guess. It's a swingers site so the point would be to swing. What where you expecting OP? Mrs I joined to swing but as a single male is proofing hard" Why do you think it's hard? Are you selling yourself in the best light compared to all the other males & making an effort to meet? By effort I don't mean spamming inboxes. Mrs | |||
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"This site is what you make, it's not for anyone else to do for you. Just see it as an opportunity to have fun, make new friends with similar interests and maybe even get lucky. But if you have expectations or get pushy or arrogant don't be surprised to get disappointed. Don't pretend to be something you aren't as you'll soon get exposed and respect everyone else who's here." Oh and don't worry if you come across arseholes ( no pun intended) you won't get on with everyone.... That's where the block button becomes useful! | |||
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"Hi, Could anyone explain what’s the point of this website? After a few months, I still ask myself this" I’m beginning to wonder that myself. | |||
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"Hi, Could anyone explain what’s the point of this website? After a few months, I still ask myself this" It really depends what you’re looking for. The sooner you lower any expectations you have the more fun your likely to have | |||
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"The point of it for us is to say we're going on a club night, others can see that and we may meet up. Also, the forums make a very entertaining read
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I mean I enjoy looking around but always wondered if people actually meet and the website has a real function.
Forum are definitely entertaining to read "Yes people do meet. But probably not as often as you might think. We've been on here 2.5 years for eg and only met one couple and one single man found directly from fab. We've been invited to parties and met people that way; met in clubs and socials and then connected on fab afterwards. And as a single man you have a LOT of competition. | |||
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"Depends why you joined I guess. It's a swingers site so the point would be to swing. What where you expecting OP? Mrs I joined to swing but as a single male is proofing hard" And that there in is your and the majority of other sungle guys problem. I am not a single male, This is simply my single male account. Have an account with my wife also where we meet only couples and single ladies. Having been here for over a decade now, I can tell you and every other guy. The odds are not in your favour and the problem seems to be twofold. First off, the site has become predominantly single guys since lockdown. At least 75% is at least single guys now. Mathematically speaking there's not enough single ladies and couples...who meet single or solo guys...anymore. So those single and couples are swamped. Point in case...all the single ladies on the scene I know can get at least 100 messages a day. They're spoilt for choice. They may not like the choices they have "but" they have options single guys do not. Secondly, since lockdown even a lot of couples are struggling to get meets on here. Pre lockdown, it was not an issue in our area. There would be meets, house parties and social events offered on a regular basis within 20.miles of us. Now there's very little. So we switched over to clubs and social.events to.meet fellow swingers and that works great for us. Or did. Now we see a heavy swing towards single guys outnumbering single ladies and couples in clubs as well. Just a few weeks ago.our local.club had about 40 guys and just 7 women in on a singles night. So.the numbers game strikes again. But thirdly it's the shift in technology that's the biggest problem. Women can use a multitude of apps to hook up if that's what they want. They don't have to come on fab. Have a saucy Instagram profile.and you'll get offers, like it or not. There's always thirsty guys. Then.ypu find out most women don't find 80% of men attractive. That most average guys are invisible on dating apps.and what not. It's not good and using fab ain't gonna cut it anymore than dating apps are.gonna cut it for most guys. Like it or not, women do not fall into our laps at the push of a button and from a message. Unless your an adonis, If you want the ladies, you have to.go.out and do the work to get them now. We live in the era of swipe left, swipe right mentality and its one of the reasons the dating market is so.effed up right now. But I'm.good.with it. I like the chase and I do.great at clubs and at social.events with or without my wife because I'm happy.to talk and flirt. Hit or miss, that's life and if I didn't try, I'd not get anywhere. Seduction is hard to do over a keyboard / phone. So.for.me / us fabs good.for finding out about social and club events but not much else these days. And.nothings going to.change either. Whilst there's.money to.be made from all the home made porn being posted on here people will.pay to.view it. There's.no incentive.to.get it.more balanced less male dominated or back to what it used to be. As long as single men are happy to be the biggest paying chunk of the user base just to try and get some attention, the site will stay as is. Male heavy and more.and more.of a disappointment to those who can get no attention through it. Go.speak.to.women in.the real.world fellas. It really is the only option for.most.men. | |||
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