FabSwingers.com forum: BBW v BHM

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

BBW's have taken a bit of a battering here in the forums recently, generaly from young single guys or the "pretty people" but looking at their profiles, these ladies tend to get a fair share of the action. But....what about the big guys, or BHM's as I have seen reference too. I dont think I've seen more than a handfull on the swinging scene, so why the difference in numbers?

Do you ladies, out there in "swingland" not like BHM's or is it that larger guys don't possess the confidence or indeed the desire to share our hobby?

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By *im53Man
over a year ago

Boldon

"BBW's have taken a bit of a battering here in the forums recently, generaly from young single guys or the "pretty people" but looking at their profiles, these ladies tend to get a fair share of the action. But....what about the big guys, or BHM's as I have seen reference too. I dont think I've seen more than a handfull on the swinging scene, so why the difference in numbers?

Do you ladies, out there in "swingland" not like BHM's or is it that larger guys don't possess the confidence or indeed the desire to share our hobby?

yes they are there they just dont feel the need to say "i`m fat you must love me "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes they are there they just dont feel the need to say "i`m fat you must love me ""

correct, and while others are slating them in the forums they are quietly getting on with shagging us! lol

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By *imfromGlasgowMan
over a year ago

er...guess

" .........Do you ladies, out there in "swingland" not like BHM's or is it that larger guys don't possess the confidence or indeed the desire to share our hobby?

Is it posibly the case that very large men, by which I take it you mean seriously overweight - as opposed to well endowed, realise that it's a competitive environment out here, a competitive environment where they simply can't compete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" .........Do you ladies, out there in "swingland" not like BHM's or is it that larger guys don't possess the confidence or indeed the desire to share our hobby?

That hits it squarely on the head.

Women of all denominations on here will get laid, plenty of guy profiles out there state size/age is not a problem.

Because women of all denominations CAN easily get laid on here it goes without saying that they can be as choosy as they want hence if you are a lard arse as a guy the chances are not that great.

Supply and demand folks, supply and demand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't recall BHM moaning about not getting laid, do see a lot of "pretty young things" complaining though. Could it be they are busy getting laid?!!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

this is true....

People who know me and have met me in the years would describe me as a "big unit"

I am not going to be some slim thing, just never had the frame for it, and I have lost a bit or weight in my time swinging.....

I suppose I do quite well, and my personality has a lot to do with that and I realised that I am not going to be everyones cup of tea from the outset, but then again who is....

Just have to be pragmatic about it all... I don't fancy every woman that crosses my path so why should I theres...

There is no point in complaining because in the swinging scene there is something for everyone... and I have been surprised by the amount of people that do like me, which has been the biggest self confidence shot that anyone could give.....

okay... off me soapbox now......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like my gentlemen friends with a bit of meat on them, but not so much muscles that they resemble a sag of potato!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

BTW, regardless of size/shape, the gentlemen must have sparks in their eyes/personalities etc...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"BTW, regardless of size/shape, the gentlemen must have sparks in their eyes/personalities etc...

Totally agree with you on this one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"BTW, regardless of size/shape, the gentlemen must have sparks in their eyes/personalities etc...

Totally agree with you on this one!

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Me too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is a BBW lover and always will be.

I think i should start a Facebook group petitioning for a BBW search facility on Fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think over all there are just more over weight women than there are men, women just do tend to gain weight more than guys, of course im not saying you dont get big men, i know you do but just walking round the streets you dont see as many big men as you do big women, thus.....there are more big ladies on here than big men, i dont think its anything to do with big guys not having the confidance to use swingers sites i just think its because there are less of them

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

There are less big guys on here .... because they have trouble taking cock-shots.

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By *rouble and strifeCouple
over a year ago

Nr Glasgow

"There are less big guys on here .... because they have trouble taking cock-shots."
maybe they should do what you did.get somebody to take pics for them

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"There are less big guys on here .... because they have trouble taking cock-shots.maybe they should do what you did.get somebody to take pics for them"

I don't have a cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Again i think size is irelevent when meeting people.

If that person makes you laugh, makes you feel at ease, has that little twinkle and makes you feel sexy as hell.

And return has that inner sexy confidence etc.

The size they are, holds no importance.

variety is the spice of life.

Which is why we are all here in the first place.

What i dont like are people soley judging on looks..take time to chat etc.

ive known many a fella say..."i dont like big birds" only to change their minds sometime down the line. and visa versa for fems.

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By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago

a very plush appartment off junt 7 M5

I lurve larger men

always have done

my dad was a boxer

i think its freudien

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By *adcowWoman
over a year ago

kirkcaldy

"Again i think size is irelevent when meeting people.

If that person makes you laugh, makes you feel at ease, has that little twinkle and makes you feel sexy as hell.

And return has that inner sexy confidence etc.

The size they are, holds no importance.

variety is the spice of life.

Which is why we are all here in the first place.

What i dont like are people soley judging on looks..take time to chat etc.

ive known many a fella say..."i dont like big birds" only to change their minds sometime down the line. and visa versa for fems.

well said - everyone likes different thing in a person eg looks, figure, cocksize,tits size, hair colour. be a boring world if we all liked the same..

as a bbw myself i have been stunned by the number of guys who love bigger ladies and have come to realise that bbw's are often hornier and dirtier than your average porn actress too

as for _abio he's just luverly xx

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By *obblybitsCouple
over a year ago

huddersfield

some onemade the point (abruptly) that there is anough men on her for every lady what ever she is like. meaning for every lady there wouldbe 5 men wanting her. with men there siply is not.

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

Ok, as a guy I'm attracted to a lot of things about a lot of different ladies:

1) A twinkle in the eye

2) luscious lips

3) Damn good smile

4) A fun laugh

5) Niiiice hair! (Brunette optional)

6) A shapely.... neck line, love to trace it with my fingers.

7) A lovely pair of breasts (ps: they don't have to be big - that's optional)

8) A cute navel!!! mwah!

9) Shapely hips, just right for placing palms on

10) A sweet rounded bum

11) I really REALLY am at al oss for word on how I wanna describe the legs

12) A personally that warms the heart (most important and NON-negotiable!)

PS - I'm not looking for all 12 items on the list in any/everyone, however any of these items can catch my attention, then getting to know the person reveals more and I tend to get hooked (some would say distracted, lol)

NB: Nothing in the above "list" says "slim" or "bbw", bowever I've found more of the above qualities (if I had to nit pick) in curvier ladies. I'm just saying...

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

"Ok, as a guy I'm attracted to a lot of things about a lot of different ladies:

1) A twinkle in the eye

2) luscious lips

3) Damn good smile

4) A fun laugh

5) Niiiice hair! (Brunette optional)

6) A shapely.... neck line, love to trace it with my fingers.

7) A lovely pair of breasts (ps: they don't have to be big - that's optional)

8) A cute navel!!! mwah!

9) Shapely hips, just right for placing palms on

10) A sweet rounded bum

11) I really REALLY am at al oss for word on how I wanna describe the legs

12) A personally that warms the heart (most important and NON-negotiable!)

NB: Nothing in the above "list" says "slim" or "bbw", bowever I've found more of the above qualities (if I had to nit pick) in curvier ladies. I'm just saying...

Now now Ahabs.......

How many times do I have to tell you......

I'm married!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok, as a guy I'm attracted to a lot of things about a lot of different ladies:

1) A twinkle in the eye

2) luscious lips

3) Damn good smile

4) A fun laugh

5) Niiiice hair! (Brunette optional)

6) A shapely.... neck line, love to trace it with my fingers.

7) A lovely pair of breasts (ps: they don't have to be big - that's optional)

8) A cute navel!!! mwah!

9) Shapely hips, just right for placing palms on

10) A sweet rounded bum

11) I really REALLY am at al oss for word on how I wanna describe the legs

12) A personally that warms the heart (most important and NON-negotiable!)

NB: Nothing in the above "list" says "slim" or "bbw", bowever I've found more of the above qualities (if I had to nit pick) in curvier ladies. I'm just saying...

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I do enjoy reading your posts x

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"Ok, as a guy I'm attracted to a lot of things about a lot of different ladies:

1) A twinkle in the eye

2) luscious lips

3) Damn good smile

4) A fun laugh

5) Niiiice hair! (Brunette optional)

6) A shapely.... neck line, love to trace it with my fingers.

7) A lovely pair of breasts (ps: they don't have to be big - that's optional)

8) A cute navel!!! mwah!

9) Shapely hips, just right for placing palms on

10) A sweet rounded bum

11) I really REALLY am at al oss for word on how I wanna describe the legs

12) A personally that warms the heart (most important and NON-negotiable!)

NB: Nothing in the above "list" says "slim" or "bbw", bowever I've found more of the above qualities (if I had to nit pick) in curvier ladies. I'm just saying...

Now now Ahabs.......

How many times do I have to tell you......

I'm married!

Mmm... good - I can return you to your husband with a smile on all our faces

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to say my ideas have changed considerably since I joined the site.

At first it was definitely a case of looks looks looks, lots of hot guys mailing me wanting to play did my ego the power of good.

As time went on however and I met more guys, chatted to more guys and especially since I started meeting couples I found that looks really aren't everything and not in any way do I think I have lowered my standards just broadened my horizons and had some absolutely fabulous times with men I wouldn't have considered 'my type' a while ago.

Long live all men, no matter what shape, size, colour, age - if they make me smile and get me horny I'm a happy bunny xxx

xxx

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"I have to say my ideas have changed considerably since I joined the site.

At first it was definitely a case of looks looks looks, lots of hot guys mailing me wanting to play did my ego the power of good.

Long live all men, no matter what shape, size, colour, age - if they make me smile and get me horny I'm a happy bunny xxx

xxx"

Mwah xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" .........Do you ladies, out there in "swingland" not like BHM's or is it that larger guys don't possess the confidence or indeed the desire to share our hobby?

That hits it squarely on the head.

Women of all denominations on here will get laid, plenty of guy profiles out there state size/age is not a problem.

Because women of all denominations CAN easily get laid on here it goes without saying that they can be as choosy as they want hence if you are a lard arse as a guy the chances are not that great.

Supply and demand folks, supply and

demand

Possibly the most sensible post ever written...........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's a lot to do with growing up both in mind and body to realize that yes most like to look at a really fit looking woman or man but deep down there is more to it than that.

Just because a car looks like a sleek racing machine does not make it a better ride

Also whats the point of going flat out for 5 minuets when you could plod along for a few hours instead! much more satisfying

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By *lashygalWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you know ive had more snotty comments about my size than anything else i can remember

we all have likes or dislikes but it does seem to me that size is something people feel free to be abusive about - most other things are off limits!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"you know ive had more snotty comments about my size than anything else i can remember

we all have likes or dislikes but it does seem to me that size is something people feel free to be abusive about - most other things are off limits! "

Totally agree,im not skinny as can see from our pics but my man loves me just the way i am,really couldnt care when anyone else thinks x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"you know ive had more snotty comments about my size than anything else i can remember

we all have likes or dislikes but it does seem to me that size is something people feel free to be abusive about - most other things are off limits! "

Yes but the size issue is just not about being bigger than average (whatever average is anyways) I have been over 6ft since I was 12 and thankfully stopped at just on 6`6" but going through school at that hight with nothing fitting properly was not a bunch of cherries LoL.

It's only when get older that you realize that that in the scheme of things we are all just individuals of all shapes and sizes and attitude is more important than looks well too a certain degree anyways

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would class myself as a BHM....( ok...you judge on whether of not i can use a H or a U...lol). I got no problem with being big and if i had a choice i would stay just the way i am...As for a six pack.....as my kids tell me, Dad you have a six pack, just when are you going to take it out of the bubble wrap....lol

speak soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

all I have to say about my BHM is yum yum yum. He's a big lad and I love it. He oozes sexiness and makes me so god damn horny!

I personally don't like the slimmer frame, I like to know a man can handle me, or is that manhandle me lolol. I don't like the feeling of slapping myself in the face when I put my arm around a guy

As for whether the BHMs shrink into the background because they think they have too much "slimmer/good looking" competition....if any guy or any gal, large or small build, has the confidence to be sexy and be attractive, then that is just how they will be seen to others, maybe not everybody, but then as others have already said in here, each to their own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

both me and sharon are a bbw bhm cpl and god were sexy feckers lol we think so ha ha ha ha if your sizest or picky as fuck why swing lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"both me and sharon are a bbw bhm cpl and god were sexy feckers lol we think so ha ha ha ha if your sizest or picky as fuck why swing lol "
Erm... I have to disagree there! Just because I'm a bbw and swing doesn't mean I'm going to sleep with everybody and not have standards. Every hole a goal for some people I guess!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont thknk it should be an issue , perosnally i like bbw and slim folk really not bothered by it , as far as the bhm thing i dont really know , there must be loads out there , maybe bbw's just get talked about more and noticed more ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol was ment as a joke lol not to be taken serious obvious they has to bee some attraction lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"both me and sharon are a bbw bhm cpl and god were sexy feckers lol we think so ha ha ha ha if your sizest or picky as fuck why swing lol "

so because your a swinger that means you should just shag anyone?

To be honest i dont like over weight men but i dont feel that means i shouldnt be here just because i not fuck someone im not attracted to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"both me and sharon are a bbw bhm cpl and god were sexy feckers lol we think so ha ha ha ha if your sizest or picky as fuck why swing lol

so because your a swinger that means you should just shag anyone?

To be honest i dont like over weight men but i dont feel that means i shouldnt be here just because i not fuck someone im not attracted to

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That's what I said, but to be fair they did say they meant it as a 'joke'.

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

Hang on... what does BHM stand for?

(And does anyone know what BBW really means as there are some funny meanings floatign about)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hang on... what does BHM stand for?

(And does anyone know what BBW really means as there are some funny meanings floatign about)"

Ahab really lol

BHM big hansome man

BBW big beautiful women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

thanks sissymissuk like i said it was a joke would be very vain to class myself as hot ass lol

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"Hang on... what does BHM stand for?

(And does anyone know what BBW really means as there are some funny meanings floatign about)

Ahab really lol

BHM big hansome man

BBW big beautiful women

Oh crap!! *Facepalms

(Had been thinking "BHM - Big Hairy Man, and BBW .. big busty woman, busty beautiful woman...) Shows what I know.

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