FabSwingers.com forum: Are you a couple who kiss other people?

By *uncouple271 OP Couple
over a year ago

Chester

We are into MFM’s and one of our rules before we started was no kissing between her and the other male… but after having two MFM’s we talked last night and think would it be a better experience for her if she was to be able to kiss mouth to mouth because it’s just kind of a natural thing to do.

Or is it best just to keep to original rules? Because we’re still having a great time without the kissing.

What are your experiences as couples?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Do what you think is best. You could always try it out and if it works carry on, if it doesn't go back to your previous boundary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you are right to set your own rules

And if you decide to change them

Then that’s up to you

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We don't kiss on the mouth by the way and despite taking a lot of stick for it stick to our boundary because that works for 'us' which is what is really important in this swinging lark

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By *en ukMan
over a year ago

harrow London

Each couple has its own rules and we have arranged in advance exactly what is going to happen to each of us, knowing exactly that it will be a beautiful meeting. There are couples who do not like to see their wife, lover kissing other people, there are couples whose fantasy is to see the wife, the girlfriend kissing with other people. Before any meeting, it may be with the same couple, I ask again what are their rules because with the new meeting they want to try or experience something new.

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By *tirlingshire matureMan
over a year ago

falkirk

What ever you are both comfortable with,but in the heat of the moment boundaries become blurred .

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By *ecretsinnersCouple
over a year ago

Yorkshire

It’s what sits right for both of you. We didn’t kiss at the start. We didn’t want to. Until we met a couple we both felt we really wanted to kiss, a quick discussion and nod from both of us to change that rule.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We only kiss each other alot of people think it's strange when couples don't kiss but will gladly fuck other people but it's a rule we won't change

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow

Why was it your rule in the first place?

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By *ussraneCouple
over a year ago

Romford

We started out with the no kissing rule for the same reasons you stated but a few meets in when a good connection was made the guy asked if we allowed kissing and Rane said we wasn’t sure yet and he said how about we give it a try ! Rest is history, without kissing Rane can’t get a connection now.

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By *SCouple81Couple
over a year ago

Between Edinburgh and Scottish Borders

Do what is working for you. We always kiss other people but everyone is entitled to have own rules.

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By *helroyCouple
over a year ago

Skegness

wife kiss the other men she fucking

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By *uncouple271 OP Couple
over a year ago

Chester

"Why was it your rule in the first place? "

We felt it was something that we’d like to keep as an us thing. But having the experience in the first place is an us thing so what’s the difference… Just curious to what other couples do x

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By *uncouple271 OP Couple
over a year ago

Chester

"We started out with the no kissing rule for the same reasons you stated but a few meets in when a good connection was made the guy asked if we allowed kissing and Rane said we wasn’t sure yet and he said how about we give it a try ! Rest is history, without kissing Rane can’t get a connection now."

Oh wow! Yeah that sounds like it was a massive positive for you guys then

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

We didn’t discuss it beforehand but we both kissed the women we met from here from the outset, it just felt natural to do that…and you find the kissing can be as hot as the sex (sometimes more so) and everything else, so it would feel unnatural to us not to kiss our guests.

But you find your own way, if you’re happy not kissing and it works for you then you aren’t missing out on anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couples have their rules and boundaries for good reasons.

I myself won't meet people that don't kiss just because it doesn't work for me. I think it's really important to find out what you want and sometimes you have to try it and see, you can always go back to your previous boundary if it is not right.

Good luck

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By *ittycock400Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

You set the rules to suit yourself. If you are planning to change that then make sure you have fully considered it and how you will both feel.

Personally we do allow kissing. We find sex without to be very mechanical.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We love kissing big turn on for us xx

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By *lirtyAndFunCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

Kissing is a big part of my sexual experience, I love a good kisser.

It's sexy, seductive & always gets me horny.

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By *ore4fundevonCouple
over a year ago

West Devon

When we started out 2 rules we had were no kissing and no sex with others in the marital bed. By the 3rd meet the no kissing rule was discussed and we allowed kissing for meet number 3 having realised how much more enjoyable for all it was.

After meet number 5 we invited a guy to the bedroom for a MFM (I think we were decorating the lounge) and realised the bed is so much more comfy.

The dynamic between a couple is ever evolving. What seemed right a year ago may not seem right now.

As others have said you have to do what is right for you, communication before and after is key also.

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By *igboobstCouple
over a year ago

barrow

Yes we consider kissing a big part of foreplay wouldn't be without it or meet anyone who doesn't

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By *istalloverCouple
over a year ago

Pays de la Loire -Normandie -Brittany borderFrance

In short Yes ,

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By *ockerbeckMan
over a year ago

Northallerton

We we first did a 3 sim many years ago, I cannot even recall discussing kissing tbh. It was just taken for granted between my GF and the other guy involved.

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By *heelz69Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Not had the joy of being with a couple yet I'm really wanting to, I find kissing a massive turn on as much as the sex really, I don't think I could without kissing

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By *xfordshireCoupleMFCouple
over a year ago

Nr. Oxford

Kissing is a hugely intimate act, I dare say more intimate than sex itself.

We started with a no kissing rule and very quickly realised it could make play feel ‘mechanical’.

Since we decided we were happy with kissing our meets have felt more relaxed, sexier and more enjoyable.

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By *haznsteCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

We like kissing. Not the same without it

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By *lappyMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I attended a pre club bar in Gran Canaria and got got talking to a couple from London and after a brief chat, I ended up kissing the female of the couple before going onto the club

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By *allen Angels CplCouple
over a year ago

North East leicestershire

Personal choice, I didn't kiss on our first meet.

2nd meet we talked about kissing before hand and we've been including kissing ever since. After all if I'm giving a bj and having penetrative sex is kissing really that more intimate?

Kissing is a great Ice breaker and a real turn on for me if the male is a good kisser x

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

We do kiss , as in other people

Whilst we fully respect any rules , we do like to kiss

We might not initiate a kiss , but most definitely would kiss back

Did we say ? We like to kiss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are into MFM’s and one of our rules before we started was no kissing between her and the other male… but after having two MFM’s we talked last night and think would it be a better experience for her if she was to be able to kiss mouth to mouth because it’s just kind of a natural thing to do.

Or is it best just to keep to original rules? Because we’re still having a great time without the kissing.

What are your experiences as couples?"

We have a same sex only kissing rule. So if we meet a couple A can kiss the girl, or if it’s MFF, A can kiss the girl but I can not.

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By *et and WillingCouple
over a year ago

Nuneaton

We only play FFM but yeh we love a good snog

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

Yes, yes, yes!

We find that it adds so much to a meet. I don't think we would play with people nowadays if there was no kissing. Alice even likes to end socials with a snog, but that's mainly because she's a great kisser and a bit of a show-off!

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By *edHeelsCplCouple
over a year ago

Kenilworth

Yes fully agree. No kissing. No meet!

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By *heelz69Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Still yet to have a meet, but I love kissing so I hope if I manage to have a meet it's with a couple that do.

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By *orders-cplCouple
over a year ago

middx cpl

there has to be kissing i just adore kissing

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By *eaSlutsCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

We both don't mind the other person kissing someone. As long as both parties who are having a kiss are consenting to it and enjoying then that's what really matters

As for the wider conversation about boundaries, don't feel pressured to change your boundaries to fit with others' expectations. If you don't want to kiss, for whatever reasons you have, don't change for anyone else.

C x

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By *quirtyndirty!Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

We both love to kiss , ta so intimate, it's never as good if there's no kissing involved!

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By *ugarandspicecoupleCouple
over a year ago

Haywards Heath

You have to do you lol

We do

Very hot watching f kisses male or female

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By *asques and boxersCouple
over a year ago

Ashford and dept16

We also set boundries at out set some have never changed some have changed.

We think if either of us are not comfortable with any changes then we simply leave it firmly in place.

We are in this for each others pleasure but never for just one of us.

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By *amasoporkyCouple
over a year ago

midlands

Kissing is a massive turn on and part of the build up

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

Always kissing for us.

Big part of the turn on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We started out saying we wouldn't kiss others during play but it just kind of happens in the moment.

Neither of us has made an issue over it happening.

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By *ussraneCouple
over a year ago

Romford

"When we started out 2 rules we had were no kissing and no sex with others in the marital bed. By the 3rd meet the no kissing rule was discussed and we allowed kissing for meet number 3 having realised how much more enjoyable for all it was.

After meet number 5 we invited a guy to the bedroom for a MFM (I think we were decorating the lounge) and realised the bed is so much more comfy.

The dynamic between a couple is ever evolving. What seemed right a year ago may not seem right now.

As others have said you have to do what is right for you, communication before and after is key also. "

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By *implynaughty1Couple
over a year ago

stockport

Kissing is a must for us don't feel the same without it

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By *heelz69Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"Kissing is a must for us don't feel the same without it "

I totally agree

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By *ap-scarCouple
over a year ago

Sleaford

When we first started we agreed it would be a boundary for us to not kiss, however after our first meet we talked again and decided to give it a go. It's not for everyone you have to be comfortable xx

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By *e-funcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

Wife loves passionate sex with the man and can’t imagine sex without the kissing.

However, her rule for me is I can’t kiss the woman as it is too intimate and I can’t imagine having sex with another woman without being able to kiss her.

Work that one out if you can.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

HELL YES!

We love kissing others. One of the things we love the most.

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By *uncouplerk40Couple
over a year ago

"HELL YES!

We love kissing others. One of the things we love the most."

Us too

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By *s2walesCouple
over a year ago

Gwent...

Love to kiss, it's def part of foreplay for us

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By *ouplewithKinks23Couple
over a year ago

Walsall

We are both massive kissers, it is part of what gets us going and we both would find it hard to play with someone without kissing

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By *r and Mrs MounCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Kissing is all part of the whole experience, it would be too clinical without it in our opinion but as always it’s each to their own

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By *offee Cocktails and CumCouple
over a year ago

Waterlooville

Always kiss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes kissing big part of sex for me xx claire

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By *fter dinner delightCouple
over a year ago

bury st edmunds/london

Yes we do a we think it’s part of getting a connection i(Ben) love it I get super hard when kissing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We love the kissing part but each to their own

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By *heelz69Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Massive part of sex for me

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

We're happy to kiss the same sex but not the opposite. I can understand why some people think it's odd when you're happy to suck a guy off but not kiss him

But for us, kissing the opposite sex just felt a little too intimate to give away.

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By *heelz69Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"We're happy to kiss the same sex but not the opposite. I can understand why some people think it's odd when you're happy to suck a guy off but not kiss him

But for us, kissing the opposite sex just felt a little too intimate to give away. "

I love kissing but as a couple I understand what you're saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We're happy to kiss the same sex but not the opposite. I can understand why some people think it's odd when you're happy to suck a guy off but not kiss him

But for us, kissing the opposite sex just felt a little too intimate to give away. "

This is our set off rules too

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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago

Welling

I love kissing. I am looking for pre-arranged meets with couples starting with social and most probably will politely decline the one with no kiss rules.

Exceptions to arranged role play meets aka blindfold, gangbang or lady watching bi play with a husband etc. Clubs visits also quite relaxed rules go with the flow

That said, I respect boundaries and strongly believe they set up not to be pushed

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By *nnandElleCouple
over a year ago

Brackley

Elle and I said no kissing others as one of our rules when we started in this lifestyle - but on our very first meet, agreed that passionate kissing is integral to good sex, so ditched that rule pretty much right away.

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By *overs4loversCouple
over a year ago

Shropshire

Can’t imagine a no kissing rule, I doubt we’d ever meet anyone who wanted to have sex with us but not kiss us…just seems odd to us, but each to their own.

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By *rs-Naughty_Mr-CuddlesCouple
over a year ago

Nr coleford

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By *rs-Naughty_Mr-CuddlesCouple
over a year ago

Nr coleford

We kiss m and f

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By *ortyairCouple
over a year ago

Wallasey

Love kissing sexy others, Mrs x

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By *igletMan
over a year ago

manchester

It has become a fantasy of mine to kiss a hot wife. No luck so far…..

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By *entBarryUKMan
over a year ago

Ashford

Yes, kissing is all part of the sensuality of the moment.

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