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By *hirdTimesACharm OP   Couple
over a year ago

northamptonshire

Any other blokes have this issue? Can take upto an hour and a half to cum during sex! So frustrating at times! I’m sure the Mrs doesn’t mind some of the times but I can tell it’s frustrating for her too at times!

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

only had this problem had to many drinks beer

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By *hirdTimesACharm OP   Couple
over a year ago

northamptonshire


"only had this problem had to many drinks beer"

My issue is when I’m sober lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe wanking to much

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By *eacsMan
over a year ago

nottingham

Had this issue all my life from the first time!!! Thought i was on my own but a friend from school, similar boat!!!! The sad thing is, the recipient doesnt think youre enjoying yourself or shes not hot!!!!!!

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By *alsam1Couple
over a year ago

Caister

Do more foreplay, edge yourself b4 you play with her, try a butt plug x

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By *acyCariadWoman
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Any other blokes have this issue? Can take upto an hour and a half to cum during sex! So frustrating at times! I’m sure the Mrs doesn’t mind some of the times but I can tell it’s frustrating for her too at times! "

There's all the obvious things like being relaxed, fully aroused etc but (without wanting to scare ya) there can be some medical issues that cause this so might be worth getting checked out if it continues? I'm hyper aware of it because I'm diabetic and I know it can cause issues for blokes in that department.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too much of these are the causes

Masturbation

Alcohol

Ciggies

Stress

High cholesterol diet

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By * Busty HotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Bradford


"Any other blokes have this issue? Can take upto an hour and a half to cum during sex! So frustrating at times! I’m sure the Mrs doesn’t mind some of the times but I can tell it’s frustrating for her too at times! "

We had this earlier this year with a guy we used to meet regularly. We always thought he just had immense stamina but the final time we met we realised he actually has a problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too much wanking maybe? Takes me forever now. Loved the days when it was quicker.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"Any other blokes have this issue? Can take upto an hour and a half to cum during sex! So frustrating at times! I’m sure the Mrs doesn’t mind some of the times but I can tell it’s frustrating for her too at times! "

I always have taken a long time to cum. So you are not alone bud. John

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"Any other blokes have this issue? Can take upto an hour and a half to cum during sex! So frustrating at times! I’m sure the Mrs doesn’t mind some of the times but I can tell it’s frustrating for her too at times!

There's all the obvious things like being relaxed, fully aroused etc but (without wanting to scare ya) there can be some medical issues that cause this so might be worth getting checked out if it continues? I'm hyper aware of it because I'm diabetic and I know it can cause issues for blokes in that department. "

Not always. Can be you are not as sensitive also. My ex mrs use to take ages to cum by her me stimulating her clit. Present partner cums easily off everything.

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By *ond Jimmy BondMan
over a year ago

London

I don’t have any trouble cuming during sex, I have perfect control, only allowing myself to cum when the lady is about too, but I find it hard to cum with my hand lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My wife always cums super quick so I then feel a bit of pressure to cum soon after which doesn't always happen.

I tend to lose a bit of interest once she's satisfied.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same here, always have been. It's as common as premature ejaculation but talked about less as its not a problem in the same sense.

Finding what works for you can help, but found the best thing is to stop worrying about it and just enjoy the journey instead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I have this problem I just think of my dad.

*I'M SORRY, THAT'S TOO UHH*

F

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had this a couple times aswell, but it really depends on the situation for me, and like someone said earlier it doesn’t seem as much of a problem so I haven’t paid too much attention to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I have this problem I just think of my dad.

*I'M SORRY, THAT'S TOO UHH*

F"

RED CARD!

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By *smith87Man
over a year ago

totton

I have this issue. But mines a side affect of my depression and anti depressants

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By *uietguy689Man
over a year ago

Abingdon

You are not alone (and it is reassuring to see others in same boat). I have had this issue all my life also.

Some partners love that you can keep going, but downside is others may think they don't turn you on or get frustrated if they can't make you cum.

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By *heConquersCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

I struggle to Cum through penetration unless I haven’t Cum for a few days.

Spent ages worrying about it but makes it worse. As others have said it can be mentally challenging for your partner.

Talk through it and work on it with your partner.

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By *ornyscot777TV/TS
over a year ago

SCOTLAND

Been happening recently

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

If you're fit, it could be sexual technique. When we're in club's we often see Men having sex at 100mph and struggling to cum. They get hot and sweaty, more blood rushes to the head and less to the penis. Going slower should be more pleasurable, causing more blood to flow down below, causing the sensations to gradually increase.

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By *allguynowMan
over a year ago

durham

Viagra type meds can cause this. Also age. Undeniable fact the older you get the less you get a raging horn just by looking at a naked woman. Speaking from experience it can be very frustrating but I've found ways around it. Edging, outdoor sex and we were in a hotel sauna recently where a woman was topless. We both had a strong hunch she was an exhibitionist by her actions and chat so when she went for a shower we had a kiss as she walked back in. She made a comment how nice that it was . Next thing I knew I had my partners tits out , then she got my cock out and I came within minutes over her. Very exciting and unexpected.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I have this problem I just think of my dad.

*I'M SORRY, THAT'S TOO UHH*

F"

Wow you've spent too long with me love *proud husband moment*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have the same issue too.. I can cum very quickly the first time, though the 2nd-3rd time takes a lot longer.. what works for me is being more rampant and or different angles and positions help ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps a visit to the GP is in order to have a chat?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have this sometimes, and find that spicing things up helps.

Some women love it, as they are able to achieve multiple orgasms, but it can be very frustrating.

I've found that in a threesome, it is less so, possibly because of the extra visual and aural stimulation, but it can be a pain.

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By *acyCariadWoman
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Any other blokes have this issue? Can take upto an hour and a half to cum during sex! So frustrating at times! I’m sure the Mrs doesn’t mind some of the times but I can tell it’s frustrating for her too at times!

There's all the obvious things like being relaxed, fully aroused etc but (without wanting to scare ya) there can be some medical issues that cause this so might be worth getting checked out if it continues? I'm hyper aware of it because I'm diabetic and I know it can cause issues for blokes in that department.

Not always. Can be you are not as sensitive also. My ex mrs use to take ages to cum by her me stimulating her clit. Present partner cums easily off everything. "

Yeah that's what I meant by the "obvious" things, but it's true that some people do just take longer to cum, and there's nothing wrong with that. I'm just hyper awareness the medical issues I guess, being diabetic myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Drink normally does it for me. Too much and sometimes i struggle to cum.

We once had a FB who just couldn't cum. He thought he was amazing and was a fantastic lover. He used to bang on about having amazing stamina and his first priority was the ladies enjoyment. He just didn't realise that women can get fed up of being banged for hours. It was a bit of a blow to his ego finding out that it's not normal.

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By *umandcumMan
over a year ago

Bristol

I've been there and have had to finish myself off by hand. It was certainly no fault of my partners and turns out it was mostly psychological (anxiety, stress, pressure) and lack of sleep were big factors for me. I've even had a bit of ED because of it.

The mind is a powerful beast - maybe take a step back and assess what might be different or any life factors.

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By *hirdTimesACharm OP   Couple
over a year ago

northamptonshire

I’m now 2 in 2 for cumming. Cock ring is a game changer

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By *iniskirtcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln + roadtrips

I wish!

If I am in a group situation I literally feel like I want to cum the moment I get my cock out.

Less of a problem in one to one, although I can occasionally feel this way with a brand new meet.

But yeah, we met a bloke several years ago who really struggled to cum. Miniskirt took it as a challenge and met him five or six times - and eventually helped him across the line during a solo one to one meet. He was young, fit and not drinking or smoking, so it must have been all in his head and perhaps partly due to my presence in the room.

*Driver

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By *iniskirtcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln + roadtrips


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He just didn't realise that women can get fed up of being banged for hours."

Can relate. Also, men must realise that some women get pleasure from seeing their sexual partner enjoying themselves too.

And some of us, like me, really get off on hearing/feeling/seeing a man cum.

x Miniskirt

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By *neforutoMan
over a year ago

Fantasy land in the SW

Yup, had this all my life.

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By *azzler2Man
over a year ago

halifax

I use to last long time but last few years it’s the other way round I can get to excited and cum too quick might be a age thing lol

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

Generally I cum in what I consider for me to be a normal time. Other times it takes F O R E v E R... This is whilst sober. As soon as I think 'hmm should I have cum by now?' it seems to shut off the tap entirely. Which makes the mind game even worse. I can go from being super sensitive and feeling the pre-cum tingle to it losing it all as soon as I think about cumming.

It's when you see your partner changing wanking hands to give their arm a rest, you know it's taking too long

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