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"It's a fair point and we all how freedom to make our own decisions. I was just surprised by amount of people now on here insisting on BB. We all known its a competitive market for single men on here, it just feels like some are risking themselves for some action when maybe they shouldn't. Honestly, I'm not as boring as this sounds just sharing thoughts!" I don't worry about the ones who insist on it, I'm far more concerned by the ones (and we've met some) who state 'safe sex only' then ask for bareback when you meet them because "we all trust each other". It's the ones who keep it quiet who are the riskiest | |||
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"It's a fair point and we all how freedom to make our own decisions. I was just surprised by amount of people now on here insisting on BB. We all known its a competitive market for single men on here, it just feels like some are risking themselves for some action when maybe they shouldn't. Honestly, I'm not as boring as this sounds just sharing thoughts! I don't worry about the ones who insist on it, I'm far more concerned by the ones (and we've met some) who state 'safe sex only' then ask for bareback when you meet them because "we all trust each other". It's the ones who keep it quiet who are the riskiest" Absolutely on point there, having it on a profile allows others to make an informed decision, hiding it and then surreptitiously asking for it is a huge red flag for us. | |||
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"Who cares what other people on here are doing? If you don't agree with it - don't meet them " I agree - everyone makes their own mind up - I won’t judge others Personally my default is safe, but I get tested, now have prep available as an additional back up. I just see how it goes when I meet and have an open discussion when I do | |||
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"What we don't understand is how anyone can say "safe sex only" and yet never go and get tested. Not to even mention the ones who actually get offended when we ask the last time they got tested. They are happy to do unprotected fingering, oral, rimming, etc without any thought about it. Cock in pussy/ass is not the only transmission route. Get tested regularly. Know your status. Talk about it openly and honestly." This exactly ^ In 20 years had 1 sti on the penis (several years ago). Caught by oral sex and only highlighted as the person contacted me to say they had a tested for it in the mouth… no symptoms at all.. so how many are out there unknown.. especially married guys who don’t go to clinics as they worried partner find out.. and yes they are out there I’ve known 1 or 2.. Now test 3 monthly and on prep as back | |||
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"The solution to that is not meet them. . I'd rather people felt comfortable to say they prefer bareback without fear of judgement because we can all make our own decisions then" Too many judgemental people on here for sure | |||
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"It's absolutely fine if want a cocktail of STI's , personally i wrap in in latex or she will have your pay checks plus and don't fancy genital warts" You can get genital warts with a condom it skin on skin contact , and its the man who carries the virus by the way | |||
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"STI rates are on the up and before we get the usual, "it's our choice" etc I'll ask them to Google tertiary syphili, neuro syphilis and antibiotic resistant gonorrhoea (where there's only one antibiotic left to treat it). A person's choice should be an informed one. https://www.gov.uk/government/statistics/sexually-transmitted-infections-stis-annual-data-tables/sexually-transmitted-infections-and-screening-for-chlamydia-in-england-2021-report#:~:text=in%202021%2C%20there%20were%20311%2C604,1.7%25%20increase%20compared%20to%202020" You can catch these sti s without barebacking. It also doesn't matter really if you meet lots or just the odd one person. It only takes one. | |||
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"There is also the added complication that lot of men who state they are straight are really bi. Add that to the bareback lottery and risks increase" Only if they are not getting regular tests and taking their health seriously. There is very little lottery for him now with PrEP . For any other STI then you can catch them from contact with anyone, male or female or any mix of sexual proclivity. | |||
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"I just don't get it. Yes, feels better without, but not to the extent where you would risk your health. God knows who else has been dipping there wick in there. Obviously oral is OK without " Why would you think oral is OK without a condom then ? You can still catch STIs from oral and they can be a bugger to treat if they're a resistant strain. It's really not safer . Get regular tests and take your health seriously. | |||
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"thats a really ignorant thing to say, you can literally google the statistics of sti contraction, and its currently straight men who have slightly higher diagnosis of sti rates and especially hiv. Most queer men are on prep and have taken responsibility as a community to charge of diagnosis. Please look into this before making a ignorant and bi/homophobic remark like that. most cishet people arent even on prep or get a regular 3 month check up like queer men. " Precisely this. I'm astounded that on a sex site , people seem so clueless as to their sexual health and what they would consider as a risk. | |||
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"It maybe just a coincidence then that those who say they enjoy bb's penis's look a bit red and angry" Brilliant observation | |||
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"What does everyone think of this? There seems to be a lot of profiles stating BB only these days. Of course it feels better and we may get carried away now and then but to meet someone with 100 plus verifications who insists on BB just seems like asking for trouble...." When I was meeting often I was tested regularly at a frequency determined by my sex health expert two was very realistic. There's always a risk even kissing or oral. Even if you use condoms you need be be tested. | |||
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""The most common way to get chlamydia is by having unprotected vaginal, anal or oral sex (sex without a condom). Other ways of getting chlamydia include: sharing sex toys that aren't washed or covered with a new condom each time they're used. infected semen or vaginal fluid getting into your eye." "How do people get gonorrhea? Gonorrhea is transmitted through sexual contact with the penis, vagina, mouth, or anus of an infected partner. Ejaculation does not have to occur for gonorrhea to be transmitted or acquired. Gonorrhea can also be spread perinatally from mother to baby during childbirth." "Syphilis is usually spread by contact between moist skin areas anywhere on or inside the body. Some of the ways you can catch it include: unprotected vaginal, anal or oral sex (without a condom) kissing or licking the anus" "Most people who get HIV get it through anal or vaginal sex, or sharing needles, syringes, or other drug injection equipment (for example, cookers). But there are powerful tools that can help prevent HIV transmission." "Genital warts are a common sexually transmitted infection caused by a virus called Human Papilloma Virus (HPV). This virus is passed on through direct skin-to-skin contact with someone who has HPV on their skin. It can be passed from person to person during vaginal and anal sex." "Shigella can pass from stool or soiled fingers of one person to the mouth of another person, including during sexual activity. People who are experiencing homelessness are at high risk for Shigella infection when there is shigellosis spread in the community." - all of those are ways of being transferred aside from penetration " The only 100% safe sex is by camera or phone. | |||
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