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"Why cant people be sexually fluid? I’d say there is way more flexibility now. You can try certain things in life with out it meaning a change in your ‘label’. " Great point | |||
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"If a Straight Man has Anal sex with another Man,is he nolonger Straight? If not why do some Cd/Tv's state Straight Men only?" To me, if a guy has any decided to try and have sexual contact with another guy then he's not straight. | |||
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"Even if sexual contact was only once?" Maybe he was straight but curious? and now he's tried he'll either be back to straight or Bi.. | |||
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"If a gay man has sex with a woman is he still gay…if someone who’s right handed writes a word with his left hand is he still right handed…..if an able sighted man closes his eyes is he still able sighted…..if a blonde man dyes his hair black is he still a blonde…." This is a great way of viewing it! | |||
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"If a gay man has sex with a woman is he still gay…if someone who’s right handed writes a word with his left hand is he still right handed…..if an able sighted man closes his eyes is he still able sighted…..if a blonde man dyes his hair black is he still a blonde…." Very well put. The need to put a name or label to every choice we make as people is the only thing that creates a taboo or contentious position. Just do you and embrace the freedom of choice that we enjoy. | |||
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"If a gay man has sex with a woman is he still gay…if someone who’s right handed writes a word with his left hand is he still right handed…..if an able sighted man closes his eyes is he still able sighted…..if a blonde man dyes his hair black is he still a blonde…. Very well put. The need to put a name or label to every choice we make as people is the only thing that creates a taboo or contentious position. Just do you and embrace the freedom of choice that we enjoy. " Try buying a tin of expensive caviar and finding it's just dog food. Labels are important....as is honesty. | |||
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"If a gay man has sex with a woman is he still gay…if someone who’s right handed writes a word with his left hand is he still right handed…..if an able sighted man closes his eyes is he still able sighted…..if a blonde man dyes his hair black is he still a blonde…. Very well put. The need to put a name or label to every choice we make as people is the only thing that creates a taboo or contentious position. Just do you and embrace the freedom of choice that we enjoy. Try buying a tin of expensive caviar and finding it's just dog food. Labels are important....as is honesty. " Labels are important for tins of food that have one dynamic, dog food is dog food, it’ll never vary from being dog food, it will never want to experiment at being anything other than dog food….people buy tins of food but they can’t see what’s in them so they need labels to tell the consumer what they’re buying. People have more than one dynamic, people change as they get older, people have curiosity to experience new things to see if they like it, people have the freedom and ability to do exactly as they want to within the law and what’s morally right, people don’t need to tell anyone else exactly who they are because it’s no one’s business to know unless they want them to. What labels are you going to make me wear? Middle aged, white, submissive, bisexual male? Is that all I am? Do those labels describe exactly who I am? Or do I need a label to say that I’m a Wolves supporter, that I’m a non practising Roman Catholic with Jewish, holocaust surviving ancestors, that I’m a mechanical design engineer, that I haven’t owned any make of car other than Volkswagen…where do I stop adding labels? Putting labels on people is a fucking horrible thing to do. | |||
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"Why cant people be sexually fluid? I’d say there is way more flexibility now. You can try certain things in life with out it meaning a change in your ‘label’. " Exactly !!! Why focus on the label??? I'm bisexual in the conventional way in that I like girls and have had sex with girls. But MOST of the time all I want to fuck are blokes (so 'str8'). Very occasionally I get urges so strong that all I want is girls (so 'lesbian') and then there's the middle. | |||
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"If a gay man has sex with a woman is he still gay…if someone who’s right handed writes a word with his left hand is he still right handed…..if an able sighted man closes his eyes is he still able sighted…..if a blonde man dyes his hair black is he still a blonde…. Very well put. The need to put a name or label to every choice we make as people is the only thing that creates a taboo or contentious position. Just do you and embrace the freedom of choice that we enjoy. Try buying a tin of expensive caviar and finding it's just dog food. Labels are important....as is honesty. " This | |||
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"If a gay man has sex with a woman is he still gay…if someone who’s right handed writes a word with his left hand is he still right handed…..if an able sighted man closes his eyes is he still able sighted…..if a blonde man dyes his hair black is he still a blonde…. Very well put. The need to put a name or label to every choice we make as people is the only thing that creates a taboo or contentious position. Just do you and embrace the freedom of choice that we enjoy. Try buying a tin of expensive caviar and finding it's just dog food. Labels are important....as is honesty. Labels are important for tins of food that have one dynamic, dog food is dog food, it’ll never vary from being dog food, it will never want to experiment at being anything other than dog food….people buy tins of food but they can’t see what’s in them so they need labels to tell the consumer what they’re buying. People have more than one dynamic, people change as they get older, people have curiosity to experience new things to see if they like it, people have the freedom and ability to do exactly as they want to within the law and what’s morally right, people don’t need to tell anyone else exactly who they are because it’s no one’s business to know unless they want them to. What labels are you going to make me wear? Middle aged, white, submissive, bisexual male? Is that all I am? Do those labels describe exactly who I am? Or do I need a label to say that I’m a Wolves supporter, that I’m a non practising Roman Catholic with Jewish, holocaust surviving ancestors, that I’m a mechanical design engineer, that I haven’t owned any make of car other than Volkswagen…where do I stop adding labels? Putting labels on people is a fucking horrible thing to do. " You have grasped the wrong end of the stick entirely. No one wants to put a label on you or anyone else, it's up to you to be honest with others about what you are and what you like. Some people want to play with a bi guy, some don't, some might need a conversation to set boundaries before play. "Gender fluid" is as much a label as "straight", yet those that profess not to like labels seem happy to claim it for themselves. Is being honest really that much of a chore? | |||
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"If a Straight Man has Anal sex with another Man,is he nolonger Straight? If not why do some Cd/Tv's state Straight Men only?" As long as the scrotums don’t touch it’s still straight . | |||
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"If a Straight Man has Anal sex with another Man,is he nolonger Straight? If not why do some Cd/Tv's state Straight Men only? As long as the scrotums don’t touch it’s still straight . " Tea spitting moment | |||
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"If a Straight Man has Anal sex with another Man,is he nolonger Straight? If not why do some Cd/Tv's state Straight Men only?" It would boil down to whether you enjoyed it It would be just a preference which someone might be curious | |||
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"If a Straight Man has Anal sex with another Man,is he nolonger Straight? If not why do some Cd/Tv's state Straight Men only? As long as the scrotums don’t touch it’s still straight . Tea spitting moment " It’s why I always hold my sack up if I have one of these “ alpha hetrosexual men “ hanging out my tailpipe. Got to make sure we don’t touch and strip them of their straightness. It’s a good job I am so considerate | |||
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"If a Straight Man has Anal sex with another Man,is he nolonger Straight? If not why do some Cd/Tv's state Straight Men only? To me, if a guy has any decided to try and have sexual contact with another guy then he's not straight. " Really? I say this because there are a considerable number of women on here that do lady play purely for the satisfaction of their males and I'm fairly sure those women would think of themselves as straight. I don't imagine the percentage of men that do it is anywhere near as high but I'm sexually secure enough to take one for the team if it really turned my lady on to see it, am I not straight then? | |||
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"If a Straight Man has Anal sex with another Man,is he nolonger Straight? If not why do some Cd/Tv's state Straight Men only? To me, if a guy has any decided to try and have sexual contact with another guy then he's not straight. Really? I say this because there are a considerable number of women on here that do lady play purely for the satisfaction of their males and I'm fairly sure those women would think of themselves as straight. I don't imagine the percentage of men that do it is anywhere near as high but I'm sexually secure enough to take one for the team if it really turned my lady on to see it, am I not straight then?" Didn't read, before I commented.. But exactly, I've never seen anything hotter than my man playing with others, if it's another guy WOW!! He enjoys everything naughty regardless and the fact it turns me on only increases it for him. | |||
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"If a Straight Man has Anal sex with another Man,is he nolonger Straight? If not why do some Cd/Tv's state Straight Men only? To me, if a guy has any decided to try and have sexual contact with another guy then he's not straight. Really? I say this because there are a considerable number of women on here that do lady play purely for the satisfaction of their males and I'm fairly sure those women would think of themselves as straight. I don't imagine the percentage of men that do it is anywhere near as high but I'm sexually secure enough to take one for the team if it really turned my lady on to see it, am I not straight then?" In my opinion no, are nor is this healthy swinging. I mostly swing as part of a couple and neither of us would expect the other to "take one for the team" My husband is completely straight. He is comfortable naked around other naked men but any sort of sexual contact with another man is a huge turn off. It would be disrespectful at best, for me to encourage or expect him to engage in sexual activity with another man. My personal opinion, is that anyone willing to engage sexually with a person of the same sex is somewhere on the scale of bisexuality. Nita | |||
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"If a Straight Man has Anal sex with another Man,is he nolonger Straight? If not why do some Cd/Tv's state Straight Men only?" Feel there’s two separate questions they’re not interlinked. To answer them separately; You can experiment and still be whatever you decide your primary sexuality is. Gay, Bi and TV/TS some do like guys who are straight and maybe because they’re sexy enough to ‘turn him’ or get him turned on. I personally don’t like to meet straight guys, it’s not a thing for me so maybe I’m not the best to understand their motivations. | |||
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"Nita, respect your opinion. Though feel you may have taken the "take one for the team" comment a little too literally.. We got an open to it vibe.." Yeah - my comment was a little glib! What I meant is that I am not overtly interested in receiving anal nor giving it to a male for the persoal physical gratification of it. I am however not hung up about either scenario and have had things up there that neither impressed me or bothered me. We have as partners discussed both her with women and me with guys and both get massively turned on by this - like really turned on and we very much enjoy doing things for each other. She has tried it on quite a few occasions and was surprised by really liking the physicality of it. Way I see it I'd be somewhat hypocritical if I didn't at least give it a go for her pleasure as the worst case will be it just doesn't float my boat. | |||
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"Hubby loves a bit of 69 fucklicking so does that make him curious or fully Bi then " Some would say fully Bi | |||
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"Why dose a person need to be ladled at all on there sexuality or sexual experiences, for me thats what this site is for exploring them and finding out xx" I think people will always have a Label, why do quite a few saying no Bi men, if this site was meant for exploring? | |||
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"Got that.. Potentially the only difference being we both enjoy our strap on.. " Didn't really hit the spot for me but both of the girls really enjoyed it so no complaints from me | |||
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"If a gay man has sex with a woman is he still gay…if someone who’s right handed writes a word with his left hand is he still right handed…..if an able sighted man closes his eyes is he still able sighted…..if a blonde man dyes his hair black is he still a blonde…." I like this,unfortunately as you can see from above any act of touching another man to them he's not straight. | |||
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"Does it really matter who cares why are we micro judging people be what ever you want to be, just be happy your alive to enjoy what ever your engaged with. " It does yes and quite a few do, but I do agree,even though easier said than done. That people should be happy to be alive | |||
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"If a gay man has sex with a woman is he still gay…if someone who’s right handed writes a word with his left hand is he still right handed…..if an able sighted man closes his eyes is he still able sighted…..if a blonde man dyes his hair black is he still a blonde…." This sounds OK until you read it twice: A man who has sex with a man and a woman is bi, though women might not be his preference. If someone can write with either hand, they are ambidextrous, though they’re preference might be to write predominantly one hand. If an able-sighted man keeps his eyes closed, he is then blind. A blond man with dyed hair is just that. | |||
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"If a Straight Man has Anal sex with another Man,is he nolonger Straight? If not why do some Cd/Tv's state Straight Men only? To me, if a guy has any decided to try and have sexual contact with another guy then he's not straight. " If I decide to take a BMW for a test drive but decide afterwards that I actually prefer my Mercedes, does that make me a BMW owner? | |||
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"If a Straight Man has Anal sex with another Man,is he nolonger Straight? If not why do some Cd/Tv's state Straight Men only? To me, if a guy has any decided to try and have sexual contact with another guy then he's not straight. If I decide to take a BMW for a test drive but decide afterwards that I actually prefer my Mercedes, does that make me a BMW owner? " No, but it does make you someone who's interested in BMWs as well as Mercedes. Nothing wrong with being interested in both, just be honest about it. | |||
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"If a Straight Man has Anal sex with another Man,is he nolonger Straight? If not why do some Cd/Tv's state Straight Men only? To me, if a guy has any decided to try and have sexual contact with another guy then he's not straight. If I decide to take a BMW for a test drive but decide afterwards that I actually prefer my Mercedes, does that make me a BMW owner? No, but it does make you someone who's interested in BMWs as well as Mercedes. Nothing wrong with being interested in both, just be honest about it. " When men go out it's rare to see them holding hands nevermind having a cheeky kiss, but women tend to do this all the time. So are you saying technically these women are potentially lesbians? | |||
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"If a Straight Man has Anal sex with another Man,is he nolonger Straight? If not why do some Cd/Tv's state Straight Men only?" So just to confirm you don't believe that trans women are women then... Seems we've got a long way to go as a culture. Stay proud, girls. | |||
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"Why cant people be sexually fluid? I’d say there is way more flexibility now. You can try certain things in life with out it meaning a change in your ‘label’. " Absolutely this | |||
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"To me if they've only done it once and never again because it wasn't for them then I'd say they are straight but if they keep going back for more then they are at least bi. Having said that I don't understand why everyone is so hung up on labels. Play with who you want to play with. Does it really matter who they have been with before? " It obviously does matter to a degree whom someone has been with before. | |||
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"If a Straight Man has Anal sex with another Man,is he nolonger Straight? If not why do some Cd/Tv's state Straight Men only? So just to confirm you don't believe that trans women are women then... Seems we've got a long way to go as a culture. Stay proud, girls." This another Topic? | |||
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"If a Straight Man has Anal sex with another Man,is he nolonger Straight? If not why do some Cd/Tv's state Straight Men only? So just to confirm you don't believe that trans women are women then... Seems we've got a long way to go as a culture. Stay proud, girls. This another Topic?" No, not at all. You've implied in your original post that only a gay man would be attracted to a TV/TS, many of whom identify and present as women. Therefore this clearly wouldn't make you gay. | |||
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"If a gay man has sex with a woman is he still gay…if someone who’s right handed writes a word with his left hand is he still right handed…..if an able sighted man closes his eyes is he still able sighted…..if a blonde man dyes his hair black is he still a blonde…. This is a great way of viewing it! " | |||
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"If a Straight Man has Anal sex with another Man,is he nolonger Straight? If not why do some Cd/Tv's state Straight Men only? To me, if a guy has any decided to try and have sexual contact with another guy then he's not straight. If I decide to take a BMW for a test drive but decide afterwards that I actually prefer my Mercedes, does that make me a BMW owner? No, but it does make you someone who's interested in BMWs as well as Mercedes. Nothing wrong with being interested in both, just be honest about it. " No, it makes me someone who once tried a BMW but decided they weren't for me | |||
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"If a Straight Man has Anal sex with another Man,is he nolonger Straight? If not why do some Cd/Tv's state Straight Men only? So just to confirm you don't believe that trans women are women then... Seems we've got a long way to go as a culture. Stay proud, girls. This another Topic? No, not at all. You've implied in your original post that only a gay man would be attracted to a TV/TS, many of whom identify and present as women. Therefore this clearly wouldn't make you gay." Not sure that is what I actually implied,as I have merely asked a question,and I know that there are plenty of men whom regard themselves as straight are attracted to TV/TS many as you say identifty and present as women. Apologies if that is how my orginal post comes across to you,as it was not intended and definitely not intended to offend. | |||
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" If I decide to take a BMW for a test drive but decide afterwards that I actually prefer my Mercedes, does that make me a BMW owner? " I’m sure the BMW dealer would have a strong opinion on that. | |||
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"If a Straight Man has Anal sex with another Man,is he nolonger Straight? If not why do some Cd/Tv's state Straight Men only? So just to confirm you don't believe that trans women are women then... Seems we've got a long way to go as a culture. Stay proud, girls. This another Topic? No, not at all. You've implied in your original post that only a gay man would be attracted to a TV/TS, many of whom identify and present as women. Therefore this clearly wouldn't make you gay. Not sure that is what I actually implied,as I have merely asked a question,and I know that there are plenty of men whom regard themselves as straight are attracted to TV/TS many as you say identifty and present as women. Apologies if that is how my orginal post comes across to you,as it was not intended and definitely not intended to offend." No offence taken... Personally I don't get the whole straight thing, love me a bi guy | |||
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"If a gay man has sex with a woman is he still gay…if someone who’s right handed writes a word with his left hand is he still right handed…..if an able sighted man closes his eyes is he still able sighted…..if a blonde man dyes his hair black is he still a blonde…." 1.depends whether he enjoyed it 2.yes 3.yes 4.no | |||
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"Why cant people be sexually fluid? I’d say there is way more flexibility now. You can try certain things in life with out it meaning a change in your ‘label’. Exactly !!! Why focus on the label??? I'm bisexual in the conventional way in that I like girls and have had sex with girls. But MOST of the time all I want to fuck are blokes (so 'str8'). Very occasionally I get urges so strong that all I want is girls (so 'lesbian') and then there's the middle." Yes! And my two long term partners are male. But that doesn't stop me being pansexual... Or that scale sliding to the 'actually I just want to be with a woman for a bit' | |||
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"If a gay man has sex with a woman is he still gay…if someone who’s right handed writes a word with his left hand is he still right handed…..if an able sighted man closes his eyes is he still able sighted…..if a blonde man dyes his hair black is he still a blonde…." This! | |||
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"If a gay man has sex with a woman is he still gay…if someone who’s right handed writes a word with his left hand is he still right handed…..if an able sighted man closes his eyes is he still able sighted…..if a blonde man dyes his hair black is he still a blonde…." Best explanation on the topic | |||
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"We ate vegetables once… does it make us vegans? " Brilliant | |||
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"If a gay man has sex with a woman is he still gay…if someone who’s right handed writes a word with his left hand is he still right handed…..if an able sighted man closes his eyes is he still able sighted…..if a blonde man dyes his hair black is he still a blonde…. Very well put. The need to put a name or label to every choice we make as people is the only thing that creates a taboo or contentious position. Just do you and embrace the freedom of choice that we enjoy. Try buying a tin of expensive caviar and finding it's just dog food. Labels are important....as is honesty. Labels are important for tins of food that have one dynamic, dog food is dog food, it’ll never vary from being dog food, it will never want to experiment at being anything other than dog food….people buy tins of food but they can’t see what’s in them so they need labels to tell the consumer what they’re buying. People have more than one dynamic, people change as they get older, people have curiosity to experience new things to see if they like it, people have the freedom and ability to do exactly as they want to within the law and what’s morally right, people don’t need to tell anyone else exactly who they are because it’s no one’s business to know unless they want them to. What labels are you going to make me wear? Middle aged, white, submissive, bisexual male? Is that all I am? Do those labels describe exactly who I am? Or do I need a label to say that I’m a Wolves supporter, that I’m a non practising Roman Catholic with Jewish, holocaust surviving ancestors, that I’m a mechanical design engineer, that I haven’t owned any make of car other than Volkswagen…where do I stop adding labels? Putting labels on people is a fucking horrible thing to do. " Well said as that dog food analogy was ill thought at best. | |||
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"Hubby loves a bit of 69 fucklicking so does that make him curious or fully Bi then " I suppose fucklicking is just licking the pussy or does he lick the cock as well ? 2 different answers for thot one really | |||
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