FabSwingers.com forum: Running into people outside of fab etiquette?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So you’ve had a meet. Maybe just a one or two off, or even a regular but you’re FBs and keeping the mystery of what your vanilla life is. However you’re doing your weekly shop, across the aisle you see them….do you say hello? Or they turn out to be your dentist/doctor/kids school teacher. Is what happens in fab stays in fab? Tables reversed, a meet tries to approach you. What’s everyone’s thinking?

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By *rtist with museCouple
over a year ago

Eastbourne

"So you’ve had a meet. Maybe just a one or two off, or even a regular but you’re FBs and keeping the mystery of what your vanilla life is. However you’re doing your weekly shop, across the aisle you see them….do you say hello? Or they turn out to be your dentist/doctor/kids school teacher. Is what happens in fab stays in fab? Tables reversed, a meet tries to approach you. What’s everyone’s thinking? "

As a single male I would never have approached a known fab contact in a vanilla world meet. As a couple we would not approach first - a bit like doctors don't engage with patients outside of a medical setting. Fab is fab - if you are embarrassed to be here then perhaps you shouldn't be here

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By *amesnplanesMan
over a year ago

Banbridge

Yes it does happen.

I've been fortunate that the fellow friends have been equally discreet.

When you're queuing up in IKEA, it's not really the right time to reminisce openly about the mega gangbang we all participated in the local club a few weeks earlier

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I’m not at all. Just purely curious. Hasn’t happened yet but I figure it might one day.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes it does happen.

I've been fortunate that the fellow friends have been equally discreet.

When you're queuing up in IKEA, it's not really the right time to reminisce openly about the mega gangbang we all participated in the local club a few weeks earlier "

Would certainly be a ch he from where’s the meatballs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven’t met up with them before but i’ve seen two women from my nearby on here in Public i recognised, one was in B&M & the other one was in Aldi, I instinctually knew straight away i knew where i’ve seen their faces before when we walked pass each other.

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By *amnaughtybutniceWoman
over a year ago

tf1

I bumped into a couple in my local pub. Neither of us were expecting to see the other and they were celebrating a relatives birthday. I was at the same party lol.

It was awkward and we mumbled hello to each other and then ignored each other.

Saw them in Tesco a few months later and we chatted and said hi.

It’s not awkward now.

I’d say just go with ignore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes have done ,can't say how or when but was funny

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By *lut4str8Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Your secret is always safe with me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I bumped into a couple in my local pub. Neither of us were expecting to see the other and they were celebrating a relatives birthday. I was at the same party lol.

It was awkward and we mumbled hello to each other and then ignored each other.

Saw them in Tesco a few months later and we chatted and said hi.

It’s not awkward now.

I’d say just go with ignore. "

I agree. Private is private unless you’re friends openly in public. A knowing look or smile would be all I’d be willing to do. I know my child is a nosy bastard. Anyone I say hello to he loudly says “who’s that!?”

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

I used to have quite visible face pics on here and overheard a couple mention fab whilst passing me.. thought it best to sanitise my pics ...not good being recognised in a small town ...

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By *yresMan
over a year ago

Midland town

Yes I had that once in a tesco where the face of the young women looked familiar and on when again at the self service did it click.

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

I was in a pub in Sutton Coldfield and a lady pinched my bottom ...and it was a couple I had met at a fab social ..5 minutes later I bumped into a guy (with his friends) who I had chatted with at a club ...he winked at me and I didn't say anything ..

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By *amnaughtybutniceWoman
over a year ago

tf1

"I bumped into a couple in my local pub. Neither of us were expecting to see the other and they were celebrating a relatives birthday. I was at the same party lol.

It was awkward and we mumbled hello to each other and then ignored each other.

Saw them in Tesco a few months later and we chatted and said hi.

It’s not awkward now.

I’d say just go with ignore.

My son did exactly that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funny enough I actually recognised someone today. It was someone who I had a bit of an argument with in a forum lol, I didn't say anything.

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By *ave1976XXXMan
over a year ago

newmarket

I’ve bumped into 3 people I’ve had meets with and we have just made eye contact and smiled. Bumped into a 4th this week in my local pub and it was weird and slightly worrying for me as my pub mates are LADS and don’t know I’m bi. We messaged each other and he said he’d never say anything

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

"I bumped into a couple in my local pub. Neither of us were expecting to see the other and they were celebrating a relatives birthday. I was at the same party lol.

It was awkward and we mumbled hello to each other and then ignored each other.

Saw them in Tesco a few months later and we chatted and said hi.

It’s not awkward now.

I’d say just go with ignore.

My son did exactly that

I'm trying to recognise you from your pics , I must have seen you before at chams

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each scenario is a little different, but as a rule of thumb I never bring up fab. Most of the time I won't acknowledge them, so that their secret is safe with me

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

Unless you are 100% sure saying hello can't compromise them.

Always easier to apologise for being to discreet rather than apologise for not being discreet enough

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By *wabathMan
over a year ago

Bath

Before I had cancer I used to see a lady to wax my bits

always ended on a “happy” note !!! 2 years ago sat next to her at a wedding, a little awkward to say the least xx

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By *ames250122Man
over a year ago

Worcester

Probably best to just smile if they also spot you and carry on shopping. You can always have a laugh about it later on fab or what ever without risking intruding on their life outside of fab. As for meeting some on here that then later turns out to be your new dentist etc, I’d just look go to somewhere else in the future and again keep the fab connection separate, so I’m not intruding on someone profession or there any possible issues. I don’t have kids but meeting someone on fab who then turns out to be your kids new teacher would be my worst nightmare, with no easy solution. What if you didn’t enjoy the meet when you meet them through fab and things went south, ignored them contacting you after or said no thanks (even if you did gently and politely)? It could have a detrimental effect on your kids schooling and education, possible your kid and the school getting dragged into the problem due to the teacher being unprofessional. You could end up feeling trapped, feeling your unable to end fab meets as your worried of any of the above issues. If the table was reversed though and they came up to me, then I’d happily say hello and chat socially. If it was in a professional environment, I’d just be completely professional and clinical. Hoping they might do the same as me and use another dentist in the future. If I was the teacher I wouldn’t mention anything at the school and would always be professional. Then if still in touch on fab, suggest ending having any meets or contact through fab at least until I’m no longer their child’s teacher. xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've not been in that situation... But if it's a woman I've met before on her own in a public place I'd say hi. Different if she's with others or family. It is always a little weird bumping into someone you've had sex with though. I find it is anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we’ve stayed overnight at a hotel after visiting a club it can be interesting the next morning going for breakfast.

You glance up from eating and might spot a couple who were writhing around naked in a pile of bodies the last time you saw them.

There’s usually a nod of acknowledgement as they pass by!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Probably best to just smile if they also spot you and carry on shopping. You can always have a laugh about it later on fab or what ever without risking intruding on their life outside of fab. As for meeting some on here that then later turns out to be your new dentist etc, I’d just look go to somewhere else in the future and again keep the fab connection separate, so I’m not intruding on someone profession or there any possible issues. I don’t have kids but meeting someone on fab who then turns out to be your kids new teacher would be my worst nightmare, with no easy solution. What if you didn’t enjoy the meet when you meet them through fab and things went south, ignored them contacting you after or said no thanks (even if you did gently and politely)? It could have a detrimental effect on your kids schooling and education, possible your kid and the school getting dragged into the problem due to the teacher being unprofessional. You could end up feeling trapped, feeling your unable to end fab meets as you’re worried of any of the above issues. If the table was reversed though and they came up to me, then I’d happily say hello and chat socially. If it was in a professional environment, I’d just be completely professional and clinical. Hoping they might do the same as me and use another dentist in the future. If I was the teacher I wouldn’t mention anything at the school and would always be professional. Then if still in touch on fab, suggest ending having any meets or contact through fab at least until I’m no longer their child’s teacher. xxxxx "

Has never happened yet but most of my contact with teachers has been through email!!! Phew

very good points. I see someone regular who I know is on fab but we’ve only met at a party. Just carry on as normal in real life about our business no acknowledgement

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I know someone in football world who is on here. He is bi and his wife is as well. We haven’t played (I am straight). We have spoken but I did say I would have a chat as lads in football world as normal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If we’ve stayed overnight at a hotel after visiting a club it can be interesting the next morning going for breakfast.

You glance up from eating and might spot a couple who were writhing around naked in a pile of bodies the last time you saw them.

There’s usually a nod of acknowledgement as they pass by!

Had this after the pre covid summer BBQ at Chams, entire breakfast was full of people from the night before, most still half cut and looking like they had been dragged through a Bush backward, we all said hello and gave each other telling nods

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By *ynonValleyBullMan
over a year ago

Aberdare

What happens on fab stays on fab… I’d hate to accidentally “out” somebody.

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By *lex.and.SexCouple
over a year ago

Bedale

The appropriate response is the silent nod.

They know. You know. Noone else knows or needs to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We bumped into a guy we meet regularly at out local gym just said hi how you doing.

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By *illingdon_ladMan
over a year ago

Bicester

The most I've had was the wife and I in IKEA wembley and there's an attractive couple a few tills along they are looking at us and I was looking at them both knew each other from somewhere, when the penny dropped we just smiled at each other

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