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The most difficult part for me is feeling like a tale of two halves. I love to go out socialise and party but I also hate being around people and need my own space. Not knowing which side will turn up on any particular day is quite frustrating.
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" I'm trying to make plans for my birthday but I don't know whether to book couple days away with a swinging club visit added in or just go for a cottage with a hot tub ect oh the joys "Did I mention my executive functioning no longer exists either! Cant make a decision for toffee nowadays, I didn't used to be this bad. | |||
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"Sooo my brand of neurospicy is AuDHD and dyslexia. Adhd is very much dominant for me. I feel quite sad to say I can't think of a favourite thing, maybe being a chameleon and being able to fit in with different social groups but then is that just masking? I'll have a think and come back to this.
The most difficult part for me is feeling like a tale of two halves. I love to go out socialise and party but I also hate being around people and need my own space. Not knowing which side will turn up on any particular day is quite frustrating.
I'm trying to make plans for my birthday but I don't know whether to book couple days away with a swinging club visit added in or just go for a cottage with a hot tub ect oh the joys "There's got to be something you are naturally good at. Being compassionate and sharing you're care for others would be too.  | |||
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" I'm trying to make plans for my birthday but I don't know whether to book couple days away with a swinging club visit added in or just go for a cottage with a hot tub ect oh the joys
Did I mention my executive functioning no longer exists either! Cant make a decision for toffee nowadays, I didn't used to be this bad. "Perhaps you could book a spot at a swinging venue, and then you got the option then of going along or leaving it be. At least then you can do whatever. No wrong answers  Ohh don't worry, you're not alone. My executive functioning isn't exactly perfect either lol. I tend to go with the flow and exercise a taoist approach to life. Act in the moment rather than make a decision, cos there's too many to choose from lol. | |||
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"Sooo my brand of neurospicy is AuDHD and dyslexia. Adhd is very much dominant for me. I feel quite sad to say I can't think of a favourite thing, maybe being a chameleon and being able to fit in with different social groups but then is that just masking? I'll have a think and come back to this.
The most difficult part for me is feeling like a tale of two halves. I love to go out socialise and party but I also hate being around people and need my own space. Not knowing which side will turn up on any particular day is quite frustrating.
I'm trying to make plans for my birthday but I don't know whether to book couple days away with a swinging club visit added in or just go for a cottage with a hot tub ect oh the joys
There's got to be something you are naturally good at. Being compassionate and sharing you're care for others would be too. "Ahh bless you  I suppose I just assumed I would still be the same if I was NT but who knows. | |||
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" I'm trying to make plans for my birthday but I don't know whether to book couple days away with a swinging club visit added in or just go for a cottage with a hot tub ect oh the joys
Did I mention my executive functioning no longer exists either! Cant make a decision for toffee nowadays, I didn't used to be this bad.
Perhaps you could book a spot at a swinging venue, and then you got the option then of going along or leaving it be. At least then you can do whatever. No wrong answers Ohh don't worry, you're not alone. My executive functioning isn't exactly perfect either lol. I tend to go with the flow and exercise a taoist approach to life. Act in the moment rather than make a decision, cos there's too many to choose from lol."I might just let Rod decide, I know that's cheating but my poor brain is exhausted
I do kinda like my impulsiveness and living in the moment to be honest, thanks adhd! But my bloody autism wants to plan ahead and be sensible booo! | |||
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"Sooo my brand of neurospicy is AuDHD and dyslexia. Adhd is very much dominant for me. I feel quite sad to say I can't think of a favourite thing, maybe being a chameleon and being able to fit in with different social groups but then is that just masking? I'll have a think and come back to this.
The most difficult part for me is feeling like a tale of two halves. I love to go out socialise and party but I also hate being around people and need my own space. Not knowing which side will turn up on any particular day is quite frustrating.
I'm trying to make plans for my birthday but I don't know whether to book couple days away with a swinging club visit added in or just go for a cottage with a hot tub ect oh the joys
There's got to be something you are naturally good at. Being compassionate and sharing you're care for others would be too.
Ahh bless you I suppose I just assumed I would still be the same if I was NT but who knows."Who knows what you'd be if you were a Neuro Typical. You probably wouldn't have the same characteristics if you were. Find peace in the person you are now and love who you are.. as you are, cos that's all there is. x | |||
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" Find peace in the person you are now and love who you are.. as you are, cos that's all there is. x" So true, I love this! | |||
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"Adhd is very much dominant for me. " ADHD is dominant for me too -- on the outside at least. On the inside I'm total aspie, but years of masking means that side only becomes evident when I'm stressed out or engrossed in a special interest. Oh and when I'm being blunt or failing at tact -- but I usually don't realise that until it's too late | |||
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 wonderful start to the week how are you guys doing? Any better? | |||
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"It's Monday morning and I've already made an official complaint regarding poor care wonderful start to the week how are you guys doing? Any better? "Ohh noo! Hope the rest of the week, get's better for ya Kitty. | |||
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"It's Monday morning and I've already made an official complaint regarding poor care wonderful start to the week how are you guys doing? Any better?
Ohh noo! Hope the rest of the week, get's better for ya Kitty."Thanks lovely how you doing? | |||
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"Thought I'd take initiative and start the next one (hope all you ND's are cool with that). We can continue on the usual chat as per... but to start the thread off, being an ND, or in whatever way that you differ from NT's, what has been you're favourite experience with being ND, and what has been you're worst experience with the way you function?" I am still waiting to get through to someone, to get diagnosed. But my favourite moments are whenever my warped imagination fires up my sense of humour. Whether it be making someone spit out his Guinness or doing an impromptu impersonation of Sweeney Todd in a busy pub. My other skill is hyperlinking and finding stuff on the web that other people can't find. Using my sense of humour keeps me sane: at the expense of everybody else's. Worst moments? Losing stuff, wallet, keys, money, not realising my car keys were left in the freezer, before I went to work. This is a very small tip on a very big iceberg. School exams are hard when it comes to remember numbers, dates, and formulas. Typing by touch was too frustrating back then: it still is.  | |||
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"Thought I'd take initiative and start the next one (hope all you ND's are cool with that). We can continue on the usual chat as per... but to start the thread off, being an ND, or in whatever way that you differ from NT's, what has been you're favourite experience with being ND, and what has been you're worst experience with the way you function? I am still waiting to get through to someone, to get diagnosed. But my favourite moments are whenever my warped imagination fires up my sense of humour. Whether it be making someone spit out his Guinness or doing an impromptu impersonation of Sweeney Todd in a busy pub. My other skill is hyperlinking and finding stuff on the web that other people can't find. Using my sense of humour keeps me sane: at the expense of everybody else's. Worst moments? Losing stuff, wallet, keys, money, not realising my car keys were left in the freezer, before I went to work. This is a very small tip on a very big iceberg. School exams are hard when it comes to remember numbers, dates, and formulas. Typing by touch was too frustrating back then: it still is. "Interesting! I find it genuinely fascinating to hear the good and bad aspects of being an ND. Thanks for sharing!! | |||
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"It's Monday morning and I've already made an official complaint regarding poor care wonderful start to the week how are you guys doing? Any better?
Ohh noo! Hope the rest of the week, get's better for ya Kitty.
Thanks lovely how you doing?"Am on a little social media detox at the moment, as I've just downloaded a load of books to read/get through heh. | |||
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"Sooo my brand of neurospicy is AuDHD and dyslexia. Adhd is very much dominant for me. I feel quite sad to say I can't think of a favourite thing, maybe being a chameleon and being able to fit in with different social groups but then is that just masking? I'll have a think and come back to this.
The most difficult part for me is feeling like a tale of two halves. I love to go out socialise and party but I also hate being around people and need my own space. Not knowing which side will turn up on any particular day is quite frustrating.
I'm trying to make plans for my birthday but I don't know whether to book couple days away with a swinging club visit added in or just go for a cottage with a hot tub ect oh the joys "OMH SAME! Although I can't say one is more than the other however, I kinda feel like my brain is autistic but then I have a gremlin that shares it's space it's completely out of control and unpredictable | |||
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" Worst moments? Losing stuff, wallet, keys, money, not realising my car keys were left in the freezer, before I went to work. " This is so frustrating! I get on my own nerves doing this  | |||
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"Sooo my brand of neurospicy is AuDHD and dyslexia. Adhd is very much dominant for me. I feel quite sad to say I can't think of a favourite thing, maybe being a chameleon and being able to fit in with different social groups but then is that just masking? I'll have a think and come back to this.
The most difficult part for me is feeling like a tale of two halves. I love to go out socialise and party but I also hate being around people and need my own space. Not knowing which side will turn up on any particular day is quite frustrating.
I'm trying to make plans for my birthday but I don't know whether to book couple days away with a swinging club visit added in or just go for a cottage with a hot tub ect oh the joys
OMH SAME!
Although I can't say one is more than the other however, I kinda feel like my brain is autistic but then I have a gremlin that shares it's space it's completely out of control and unpredictable "Sometimes I wonder whether it would be better to have one or the other, having both can be so confusing. Like having a devil and an angel on your shoulders. | |||
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" Worst moments? Losing stuff, wallet, keys, money, not realising my car keys were left in the freezer, before I went to work. This is so frustrating! I get on my own nerves doing this "I feel this so much. I've also felt really blamed for memory blots that I haven't been able to help at all, it's easy to get angry at yourself | |||
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" Worst moments? Losing stuff, wallet, keys, money, not realising my car keys were left in the freezer, before I went to work. This is so frustrating! I get on my own nerves doing this
I feel this so much. I've also felt really blamed for memory blots that I haven't been able to help at all, it's easy to get angry at yourself "Definitely! Especially when you start to doubt yourself. | |||
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" Worst moments? Losing stuff, wallet, keys, money, not realising my car keys were left in the freezer, before I went to work. This is so frustrating! I get on my own nerves doing this
I feel this so much. I've also felt really blamed for memory blots that I haven't been able to help at all, it's easy to get angry at yourself
Definitely! Especially when you start to doubt yourself. "it's worse when you get verbal instructions and forget half the information 5 minutes later: only to ask for a recap. Being told "Weren't you listening ?" is deeply insulting, patronising and is a fast way of pissing me off. Short term memory loss needs the same repect as any other disability. | |||
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" Worst moments? Losing stuff, wallet, keys, money, not realising my car keys were left in the freezer, before I went to work. This is so frustrating! I get on my own nerves doing this
I feel this so much. I've also felt really blamed for memory blots that I haven't been able to help at all, it's easy to get angry at yourself
Definitely! Especially when you start to doubt yourself.
it's worse when you get verbal instructions and forget half the information 5 minutes later: only to ask for a recap. Being told "Weren't you listening ?" is deeply insulting, patronising and is a fast way of pissing me off.
Short term memory loss needs the same repect as any other disability."Oh my goodness yes! I'm just getting worse with this as time goes by. | |||
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"I was teamed up with a couple, a lovely triad, and went to clubs together before the lockdown, that was really fab! Currently psyching myself up to go back as a single, and know the social conversations at the bar are going to be soooo difficult for me being delighted aspie. Any advice???" ....slightly aspie! | |||
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"Thought I'd take initiative and start the next one (hope all you ND's are cool with that). We can continue on the usual chat as per... but to start the thread off, being an ND, or in whatever way that you differ from NT's, what has been you're favourite experience with being ND, and what has been you're worst experience with the way you function?" Hello everyone. Worst experience is the whole bullied out of my job and trying not to die in the tsunami of emotions that followed within weeks of disclosing my duagnosis. The best, honestly I wouldn't trade being Autistic (and likely ADHD) for anything. I love how my wonky brain works | |||
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"I was teamed up with a couple, a lovely triad, and went to clubs together before the lockdown, that was really fab! Currently psyching myself up to go back as a single, and know the social conversations at the bar are going to be soooo difficult for me being delighted aspie. Any advice???" I think horny PT may be able to give you some advice on this, he has talked about club experiences before. | |||
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" Worst moments? Losing stuff, wallet, keys, money, not realising my car keys were left in the freezer, before I went to work. This is so frustrating! I get on my own nerves doing this
I feel this so much. I've also felt really blamed for memory blots that I haven't been able to help at all, it's easy to get angry at yourself
Definitely! Especially when you start to doubt yourself.
it's worse when you get verbal instructions and forget half the information 5 minutes later: only to ask for a recap. Being told "Weren't you listening ?" is deeply insulting, patronising and is a fast way of pissing me off.
Short term memory loss needs the same repect as any other disability."Have you thought of jotting the instructions down so you don't forget? | |||
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" Worst moments? Losing stuff, wallet, keys, money, not realising my car keys were left in the freezer, before I went to work. This is so frustrating! I get on my own nerves doing this "Object permanence Try and make a place you allways put keys ect... a hook in hall or bowl in whatever first room you walk into | |||
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"There's going to be parliamentary debate regarding waiting times for autism and adhd on the 6th of feb! I will be asking my MP to attend, will you guys? " I will be now thanks, I hadnt heard this. I just had my GP appointment yesterday to ask for a referal so I am just starting my diagnosis wait. | |||
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" Worst moments? Losing stuff, wallet, keys, money, not realising my car keys were left in the freezer, before I went to work. This is so frustrating! I get on my own nerves doing this
Object permanence
Try and make a place you allways put keys ect... a hook in hall or bowl in whatever first room you walk into "I do this but only works some of the time, depending on how distracted I am. | |||
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"There's going to be parliamentary debate regarding waiting times for autism and adhd on the 6th of feb! I will be asking my MP to attend, will you guys? I will be now thanks, I hadnt heard this. I just had my GP appointment yesterday to ask for a referal so I am just starting my diagnosis wait." Do you know how long you will have to wait? | |||
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" Worst moments? Losing stuff, wallet, keys, money, not realising my car keys were left in the freezer, before I went to work. This is so frustrating! I get on my own nerves doing this
I feel this so much. I've also felt really blamed for memory blots that I haven't been able to help at all, it's easy to get angry at yourself
Definitely! Especially when you start to doubt yourself.
it's worse when you get verbal instructions and forget half the information 5 minutes later: only to ask for a recap. Being told "Weren't you listening ?" is deeply insulting, patronising and is a fast way of pissing me off.
Short term memory loss needs the same repect as any other disability.
Have you thought of jotting the instructions down so you don't forget?"This has been done in the past, but I tend to loose the note book. No, seriously I do. I am on my second A5 note book where every page is a to do list or any crap I can't remember but need to write down. Much faster than typing this into a gadget. I have to have all of my bills written down in a A4 ledger: as being paid weekly means DDs are not suitable for me and I WANT to control what little of my money goes out every Friday. A pain in the ass, but nothing is left to chance. This is a simple trick and it really helps me stay in the loop. No forgetting what goes out when and I can use some discretion too. | |||
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"I was teamed up with a couple, a lovely triad, and went to clubs together before the lockdown, that was really fab! Currently psyching myself up to go back as a single, and know the social conversations at the bar are going to be soooo difficult for me being delighted aspie. Any advice??? I think horny PT may be able to give you some advice on this, he has talked about club experiences before. " Wow, thanks for that. Me a sage or oracle! Whodda thunked it?  | |||
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"I was teamed up with a couple, a lovely triad, and went to clubs together before the lockdown, that was really fab! Currently psyching myself up to go back as a single, and know the social conversations at the bar are going to be soooo difficult for me being delighted aspie. Any advice??? I think horny PT may be able to give you some advice on this, he has talked about club experiences before. Wow, thanks for that. Me a sage or oracle! Whodda thunked it? "
I don't think many other wonky guys that contribute do clubs? I think there's definitely been more ladies who do. It's not a problem I have personally, I chat to anyone and everyone in a club. I know it's a different situation for guys. | |||
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" How could someone that would remain calm through a zombie apocalypse not be able to handle the sound a crisp packet makes?" Hi
How indeed! It's fascinating, well I think it is. It seems like we're more diverse amongst our peers than NT people. Do you think that's fair to say?
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" I did, however, pluck up the nerve to go on myown this past weekend, and it went surprisingly well. So yay me I guess?" Hi
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" I did, however, pluck up the nerve to go on myown this past weekend, and it went surprisingly well. So yay me I guess? Hi
Go you! Will you be going alone again? "I will, although I think what helped was setting my expectations very low
I thought if I can sit at the bar and chat to people and make it to 11pm before getting overwhelmed it'll be a good night. Turns out it went way better than expected, but I don't think I'd change my mind set going again.
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" I did, however, pluck up the nerve to go on myown this past weekend, and it went surprisingly well. So yay me I guess? Hi
Go you! Will you be going alone again?
I will, although I think what helped was setting my expectations very low
I thought if I can sit at the bar and chat to people and make it to 11pm before getting overwhelmed it'll be a good night. Turns out it went way better than expected, but I don't think I'd change my mind set going again.
And incase your wondering yes the Mrs goes on her own to, she's way better at it than I am though "Glad you had a good time and have a strategy. It really is nerve-wracking going alone for the first time, regardless of whether you've been with others previously. I remember sitting outside the club in my car sh***ing myself, debating whether I should just go home. I went in and had one of the best nights, so glad I just went for it. | |||
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"I think the hardest bit is biting the bullet and just going with it without giving your brain time to over think it and give you all the worst case scenarios that could possibly (never) happen. It's so easy to sit there and disappear down a rabbit hole to completely shatter any confidence you've managed to build up. I think it helps if you've been masking for along time you can almost pretend to be someone else once your minds made up until your comfortable. THEN you let the true you out on everyone haha" | |||
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"Sorry to still be very much absent, but I miss you wonky brainers and I’ll be back effectively soon "Hey lovely! No worries, it's more important that you stay well. | |||
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Really, it's made my life a lot harder than it would have been but I wouldn't change it. Despite being completely fucky, this hyperactive brain is capable of some pretty cool things. I'm sure our perception of the world is much more vibrant, nuanced and multifaceted than that of neurotypicals. | |||
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"Hello again everyone. So... Worst thing about being wonky is having spent my whole life feeling different from everybody else. Best thing about being wonky is...having spent my whole life feeling different from everybody else
Really, it's made my life a lot harder than it would have been but I wouldn't change it. Despite being completely fucky, this hyperactive brain is capable of some pretty cool things. I'm sure our perception of the world is much more vibrant, nuanced and multifaceted than that of neurotypicals."Yes!!!! Exactly that! I haven't been doing as well at focusing on the positive aspects of my weirdness but its getting there! Go team | |||
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"Hello again everyone. So... Worst thing about being wonky is having spent my whole life feeling different from everybody else. Best thing about being wonky is...having spent my whole life feeling different from everybody else
Really, it's made my life a lot harder than it would have been but I wouldn't change it. Despite being completely fucky, this hyperactive brain is capable of some pretty cool things. I'm sure our perception of the world is much more vibrant, nuanced and multifaceted than that of neurotypicals.
Yes!!!! Exactly that! I haven't been doing as well at focusing on the positive aspects of my weirdness but its getting there!
Go team "Speaking of focusing has anyone ever heard of this condition called Irlen Syndrome? Irlen Syndrome (also referred to at times as Meares-Irlen Syndrome, Scotopic Sensitivity Syndrome, and Visual Stress) is a perceptual processing disorder. It is not an optical problem. It is a problem with the brain’s ability to process visual information. This problem tends to run in families and is not currently identified by other standardized educational or medical tests. (if the brain was a video camera, it would be the imaging processors that's at fault and not the lenses) This can affect many different areas, including: Academic and work performance Behavior Attention Ability to sit still Concentration This problem can manifest itself differently for each individual. This problem is not remediable and is often a lifetime barrier to learning and performance. If you suffer from any of the following, Irlen Syndrome might be your problem: Print looks different Environment looks different Slow or inefficient reading Poor comprehension Eye strain Fatigue Headaches Difficulty with math computation Difficulty copying Difficulty reading music Poor sports performance Poor depth-perception Low motivation Low self-esteem Symptoms of Irlen Syndrome Light Sensitivity: Bothered by glare, fluorescent lights, bright lights, sunlight and sometimes lights at night Some individuals experience physical symptoms and feel tired, sleepy, dizzy, anxious, or irritable. Others experience headaches, mood changes, restlessness or have difficulty staying focused, especially with bright or fluorescent lights. Read more about light sensitivity and the Irlen Method Reading Problems: Poor comprehension Misreads words Problems tracking from line to line Reads in dim light Skips words or lines Reads slowly or hesitantly Takes breaks Loses place Avoids reading Discomfort: Strain and fatigue Tired or sleepy Headaches or nausea Fidgety or restless Eyes that hurt or become watery Attention and Concentration Problems: Problems with concentration when reading and doing academic tasks Often people can appear to have other conditions, such as attention deficit disorder, and are given medication unnecessarily. Writing Problems: Trouble copying Unequal spacing Unequal letter size Writing up or downhill Inconsistent spelling Other Characteristics: Strain or fatigue from computer use Difficulty reading music Sloppy, careless math errors Misaligned numbers in columns Ineffective use of study time Lack of motivation Grades do not reflect the amount of effort Depth Perception: Clumsiness Difficulty catching balls Difficulty judging distances Additional caution necessary while driving Distortions: Words on the page lack clarity or stability; i.e., may appear to be blurry, moving, or disappear (Taken form IRLEN'S website) | |||
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"Hello again everyone. So... Worst thing about being wonky is having spent my whole life feeling different from everybody else. Best thing about being wonky is...having spent my whole life feeling different from everybody else
Really, it's made my life a lot harder than it would have been but I wouldn't change it. Despite being completely fucky, this hyperactive brain is capable of some pretty cool things. I'm sure our perception of the world is much more vibrant, nuanced and multifaceted than that of neurotypicals."Love this response *insert love heart emoji here*. Hope you're good lovely. | |||
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"Hello again everyone. So... Worst thing about being wonky is having spent my whole life feeling different from everybody else. Best thing about being wonky is...having spent my whole life feeling different from everybody else
Really, it's made my life a lot harder than it would have been but I wouldn't change it. Despite being completely fucky, this hyperactive brain is capable of some pretty cool things. I'm sure our perception of the world is much more vibrant, nuanced and multifaceted than that of neurotypicals.
Yes!!!! Exactly that! I haven't been doing as well at focusing on the positive aspects of my weirdness but its getting there!
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"Hello again everyone. So... Worst thing about being wonky is having spent my whole life feeling different from everybody else. Best thing about being wonky is...having spent my whole life feeling different from everybody else
Really, it's made my life a lot harder than it would have been but I wouldn't change it. Despite being completely fucky, this hyperactive brain is capable of some pretty cool things. I'm sure our perception of the world is much more vibrant, nuanced and multifaceted than that of neurotypicals.
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"Hello again everyone. So... Worst thing about being wonky is having spent my whole life feeling different from everybody else. Best thing about being wonky is...having spent my whole life feeling different from everybody else
Really, it's made my life a lot harder than it would have been but I wouldn't change it. Despite being completely fucky, this hyperactive brain is capable of some pretty cool things. I'm sure our perception of the world is much more vibrant, nuanced and multifaceted than that of neurotypicals.
Love this response *insert love heart emoji here*. Hope you're good lovely.
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"There's going to be parliamentary debate regarding waiting times for autism and adhd on the 6th of feb! I will be asking my MP to attend, will you guys? I will be now thanks, I hadnt heard this. I just had my GP appointment yesterday to ask for a referal so I am just starting my diagnosis wait. Do you know how long you will have to wait? " I was warned that it could take a while, maybe 12-18 months. I did an online assement the day after my GP appointment and had a text yesterday to say that my referal to the adult ADHD service has now been sent, so I guess I just have to sit and wait now. | |||
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"Get to get my medicated speed on Tuesday, fortunately I was diagnosed adhd when I was much younger so the process has only taken a couple of months to get an appointment with a senior prescriber, Gonna be interesting to see how it all works out" good stuff, hope it helps. | |||
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"There's going to be parliamentary debate regarding waiting times for autism and adhd on the 6th of feb! I will be asking my MP to attend, will you guys? I will be now thanks, I hadnt heard this. I just had my GP appointment yesterday to ask for a referal so I am just starting my diagnosis wait. Do you know how long you will have to wait? I was warned that it could take a while, maybe 12-18 months. I did an online assement the day after my GP appointment and had a text yesterday to say that my referal to the adult ADHD service has now been sent, so I guess I just have to sit and wait now." Glad you didn't have much hassle getting it sorted. | |||
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"It's going to be a tricky one for me I think. Have had a certain thing pop up again in my life recently that I feel I shouldn't overlook. Last night whilst catching up with some good friends, my friend mentioned about semen retention and the power in doing that. Being a member of fab and knowing my promiscuous side, it's going to be an interesting venture lol." Mysterious
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I'm intrigued by the semen retention?
If you're intrigued, have a little look online about it. But basically, because cum is 'life force', by not using it sexually, you hold on to more energy and other benefits too."I thought it maybe something like that as I know you've said you're quite spiritual. Just had a look, how have I never heard of this before. So many questions that I'll keep to myself
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I'm intrigued by the semen retention?
If you're intrigued, have a little look online about it. But basically, because cum is 'life force', by not using it sexually, you hold on to more energy and other benefits too.
I thought it maybe something like that as I know you've said you're quite spiritual. Just had a look, how have I never heard of this before. So many questions that I'll keep to myself
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"I saw a post on social media yesterday that I found interesting, it was by a ND lady who stated she found it odd that people can visualise their memories. She experiences memories as if she is reading a journal back but can't see them like she is watching a film back. I visualise memories as if I'm there in the moment and also as an observer. I can hear the conversation/music ect but I can't smell the environment or fragrance someone was wearing. So I was wondering how do you guys recall your memories? Can you smell your memories? " Good question!! Hmm... | |||
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I'm intrigued by the semen retention?
If you're intrigued, have a little look online about it. But basically, because cum is 'life force', by not using it sexually, you hold on to more energy and other benefits too.
I thought it maybe something like that as I know you've said you're quite spiritual. Just had a look, how have I never heard of this before. So many questions that I'll keep to myself
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I'm intrigued by the semen retention?
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I thought it maybe something like that as I know you've said you're quite spiritual. Just had a look, how have I never heard of this before. So many questions that I'll keep to myself
Hahaha!
Are you going to give it a go? "Absolutely will give it a go. May be a bit tricky not giving into temptation or desire but am very curious. I'm intrigued about you're questions lol. And with the memories thing, certain smells I can link to memories. You just remember certain events with that smell included. Certain taste memories aren't as strong for me I don't think. | |||
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"I saw a post on social media yesterday that I found interesting, it was by a ND lady who stated she found it odd that people can visualise their memories. She experiences memories as if she is reading a journal back but can't see them like she is watching a film back. I visualise memories as if I'm there in the moment and also as an observer. I can hear the conversation/music ect but I can't smell the environment or fragrance someone was wearing. So I was wondering how do you guys recall your memories? Can you smell your memories? Good question!! Hmm... There's always something that surprises me with the way the brain works. Being able to link certain smells to memories is something that doesn't happen for me. " . It does mildly so here, nothing like music does though | |||
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"It's going to be a tricky one for me I think. Have had a certain thing pop up again in my life recently that I feel I shouldn't overlook. Last night whilst catching up with some good friends, my friend mentioned about semen retention and the power in doing that. Being a member of fab and knowing my promiscuous side, it's going to be an interesting venture lol. Mysterious
I'm intrigued by the semen retention?
If you're intrigued, have a little look online about it. But basically, because cum is 'life force', by not using it sexually, you hold on to more energy and other benefits too.
I thought it maybe something like that as I know you've said you're quite spiritual. Just had a look, how have I never heard of this before. So many questions that I'll keep to myself
Hahaha!
Are you going to give it a go?
Absolutely will give it a go. May be a bit tricky not giving into temptation or desire but am very curious. I'm intrigued about you're questions lol. And with the memories thing, certain smells I can link to memories. You just remember certain events with that smell included. Certain taste memories aren't as strong for me I don't think."Just being nosey really I read you don't have to abstain but it sounds like you will be?
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"I saw a post on social media yesterday that I found interesting, it was by a ND lady who stated she found it odd that people can visualise their memories. She experiences memories as if she is reading a journal back but can't see them like she is watching a film back. I visualise memories as if I'm there in the moment and also as an observer. I can hear the conversation/music ect but I can't smell the environment or fragrance someone was wearing. So I was wondering how do you guys recall your memories? Can you smell your memories? Good question!! Hmm... There's always something that surprises me with the way the brain works. Being able to link certain smells to memories is something that doesn't happen for me. . It does mildly so here, nothing like music does though "Oh yeah music! Why didn't I think about that. Music does amazing things for my memory. | |||
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"I saw a post on social media yesterday that I found interesting, it was by a ND lady who stated she found it odd that people can visualise their memories. She experiences memories as if she is reading a journal back but can't see them like she is watching a film back. I visualise memories as if I'm there in the moment and also as an observer. I can hear the conversation/music ect but I can't smell the environment or fragrance someone was wearing. So I was wondering how do you guys recall your memories? Can you smell your memories? " My brain won't let me forget a single embarrassing, cringy, awkward moment I've ever been through and loves to play them all on loop. Other than that, my memories are visualised, sexual memories seem more in depth / more detailed too. | |||
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"I saw a post on social media yesterday that I found interesting, it was by a ND lady who stated she found it odd that people can visualise their memories. She experiences memories as if she is reading a journal back but can't see them like she is watching a film back. I visualise memories as if I'm there in the moment and also as an observer. I can hear the conversation/music ect but I can't smell the environment or fragrance someone was wearing. So I was wondering how do you guys recall your memories? Can you smell your memories? My brain won't let me forget a single embarrassing, cringy, awkward moment I've ever been through and loves to play them all on loop. Other than that, my memories are visualised, sexual memories seem more in depth / more detailed too." Oh embarrassing memories! Do you find it's just newer memories on loop or older ones too? I tend to find old embarrassing memories just pop up at random times like when I'm trying to sleep, or driving. I'm liking that you have in depth sexual memories! I wouldn't mind that  | |||
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"It's going to be a tricky one for me I think. Have had a certain thing pop up again in my life recently that I feel I shouldn't overlook. Last night whilst catching up with some good friends, my friend mentioned about semen retention and the power in doing that. Being a member of fab and knowing my promiscuous side, it's going to be an interesting venture lol. Mysterious
I'm intrigued by the semen retention?
If you're intrigued, have a little look online about it. But basically, because cum is 'life force', by not using it sexually, you hold on to more energy and other benefits too.
I thought it maybe something like that as I know you've said you're quite spiritual. Just had a look, how have I never heard of this before. So many questions that I'll keep to myself
Hahaha!
Are you going to give it a go?
Absolutely will give it a go. May be a bit tricky not giving into temptation or desire but am very curious. I'm intrigued about you're questions lol. And with the memories thing, certain smells I can link to memories. You just remember certain events with that smell included. Certain taste memories aren't as strong for me I don't think.
Just being nosey really I read you don't have to abstain but it sounds like you will be?
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"It's going to be a tricky one for me I think. Have had a certain thing pop up again in my life recently that I feel I shouldn't overlook. Last night whilst catching up with some good friends, my friend mentioned about semen retention and the power in doing that. Being a member of fab and knowing my promiscuous side, it's going to be an interesting venture lol. Mysterious
I'm intrigued by the semen retention?
If you're intrigued, have a little look online about it. But basically, because cum is 'life force', by not using it sexually, you hold on to more energy and other benefits too.
I thought it maybe something like that as I know you've said you're quite spiritual. Just had a look, how have I never heard of this before. So many questions that I'll keep to myself
Hahaha!
Are you going to give it a go?
Absolutely will give it a go. May be a bit tricky not giving into temptation or desire but am very curious. I'm intrigued about you're questions lol. And with the memories thing, certain smells I can link to memories. You just remember certain events with that smell included. Certain taste memories aren't as strong for me I don't think.
Just being nosey really I read you don't have to abstain but it sounds like you will be?
I mean of course I don't have to abstain if I don't want to, but I will experiment with not cuming for a while and see where that takes me... energetically wise. Unless I have a meet, in which I may not abstain hahaha."Haha! Good luck | |||
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"I find that I have quite vivid memories and they are often triggered by smells or music. I can remember things in great detail that happened years ago. My short term memory has become terrible recently, I am constantly having to rely on setting timers and alarms on my phone to remember to take food out of the oven or do other time sensitive things. My theory for the decline in my short term memory is that I suffer from anxiety, have done for years but now I have meds that work really well for it. Since I no longer run on pure stress and fear to get things done, my ADHD takes over and I forget everything. Can't bloody win "I've just have had a fibromyalgia diagnosis, so that's obviously why my memory is so bad nowadays! I was already on the 1st percentile for working memory according to my dyslexia assessment, so thought literally couldn't get any worse! How wrong I was, adding fibro fog into the mix has made everything 10x worse. | |||
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"Back off for another ecg today as my previous 1 wasn't right or something .... Had my assessment with prescriber, they are happy to put me back onto meds Most likely gonna be concerta 18mg and go from there ... Also my excessive horn and sex seeking is a adhd symptom of sensory seeking... as long as its not illegal or fucking up my life they are like what ever" Hope everything was ok with your ecg? Health professionals are rubbish at managing anything to do with sex. It should be discussed in your case as you feel it's an uncontrolled symptom. | |||
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"looking for help, how can i comfort my daughter (26) who has rejection issues and suffers from emotional trauma from so called friends but my only contact is phone. finding it hard to follow her needs as they are ever changing, she has said my 'issues ' are because i am ND but never has it said by dr" Hi
That sounds like an upsetting situation you are having to deal with, I do hope you manage to find a solution that works for you both.
Your post raises a few questions for me, it's such a personal issue but we could do with a little more information. Having said that We are all so different just as NT people are, we might not be able to help. You obviously don't have to answer any of the questions if you don't want to but it might be something for you to think about.
Is your daughter diagnosed/ self identified ND? ND can run in families.
Is she still in contact with those that caused her trauma? Is she having any professional support with this?
Why only phone contact? Do you mean phone calls or messages? Some ND people really dislike speaking on the phone.
Do you think you are ND? In all honesty the majority of doctors don't have a clue about ND even general psychiatrists! You need to find a specialist ND psychiatrist for it to be properly understood and assessed. So many of us have got to adulthood without being diagnosed.
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"guess i always knew i was different , very easy to learn stuff read it once and it was there, very attention seeking and hate not being liked or rejected , often run from issues rather than face them so yes i think my girl is right i do have a trace of ND" Do you have difficulties communicating with each other? Sometimes it's great having family and friends who are ND but only when you're on the same page, if not it can be a rocky relationship. | |||
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"How lovely to see ADHD is being bashed in the Times and daily mail over the weekend! Apparently ADHD is the latest must have mental health condition! Can't even get the sodding headline right my blood is actually boiling right now. Sick of ND bashing! "Yes I've seen this and I can't begin to express how upset and angry it has made me. It's disgusting | |||
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"guess i always knew i was different , very easy to learn stuff read it once and it was there, very attention seeking and hate not being liked or rejected , often run from issues rather than face them so yes i think my girl is right i do have a trace of ND" My wife is taking a qualification in psychiatry or psychology, I'm not sure which. Anyway last week she told me I may be on the autistic spectrum as I have some of the characteristics, some of which you describe. I have since taken several online tests which seem to suggest she may be correct. However I have managed to get to 58 without too many difficulties so I'm not too concerned but it has made me reflect a bit on the past. | |||
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"The mainstream is very quick to jump on certain bandwagon's and deem it right behaviour. One of the many reasons why I do not follow the mainstream. I do my own thing and just watch everything unfold in the world. Much insight is learned by just watching things as they occur. Getting back to the relative subject, perhaps it's because certain ND traits are seen as superpowers and so others want to be seen with them and use it as a glorification piece for their ego. There are many potentials as to why people may be doing this, but I feel it's totally wrong. Unless you do have ND traits genuinely, why place an ND label on yourself? Where is that need or want coming from??" I don't think people are jumping on the bandwagon tbh. I think more people were likely struggling through life not understanding why they are a certain way, maybe having persistent depression and anxiety for reasons they couldn't understand. Then they see or hear something that resonates with them because it's being more openly discussed nowadays, so they decide to research more info and can relate to what they find. I genuinely don't think most people want to be lumbered with an ND label especially cus it's seen as trendy. I also believe ND isn't as rare as they like to make out. Don't get me started on that superpower rubbish | |||
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Yes I've seen this and I can't begin to express how upset and angry it has made me. It's disgusting "It really is frustrating and upsetting. | |||
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"guess i always knew i was different , very easy to learn stuff read it once and it was there, very attention seeking and hate not being liked or rejected , often run from issues rather than face them so yes i think my girl is right i do have a trace of ND My wife is taking a qualification in psychiatry or psychology, I'm not sure which. Anyway last week she told me I may be on the autistic spectrum as I have some of the characteristics, some of which you describe. I have since taken several online tests which seem to suggest she may be correct. However I have managed to get to 58 without too many difficulties so I'm not too concerned but it has made me reflect a bit on the past." That's the thing it makes you understand yourself a bit better once you realise what the issue is and if you're managing ok you don't necessarily need any support or intervention. | |||
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"The mainstream is very quick to jump on certain bandwagon's and deem it right behaviour. One of the many reasons why I do not follow the mainstream. I do my own thing and just watch everything unfold in the world. Much insight is learned by just watching things as they occur. Getting back to the relative subject, perhaps it's because certain ND traits are seen as superpowers and so others want to be seen with them and use it as a glorification piece for their ego. There are many potentials as to why people may be doing this, but I feel it's totally wrong. Unless you do have ND traits genuinely, why place an ND label on yourself? Where is that need or want coming from?? I don't think people are jumping on the bandwagon tbh. I think more people were likely struggling through life not understanding why they are a certain way, maybe having persistent depression and anxiety for reasons they couldn't understand. Then they see or hear something that resonates with them because it's being more openly discussed nowadays, so they decide to research more info and can relate to what they find. I genuinely don't think most people want to be lumbered with an ND label especially cus it's seen as trendy. I also believe ND isn't as rare as they like to make out. Don't get me started on that superpower rubbish "Totally agree! | |||
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"How lovely to see ADHD is being bashed in the Times and daily mail over the weekend! Apparently ADHD is the latest must have mental health condition! Can't even get the sodding headline right my blood is actually boiling right now. Sick of ND bashing! "I haven't read this but I am angry about it from just reading your post. The Mail has nothing of value to say on any subject so can always be ignored, but I would have thought the Times would know better. Does it occur to these lazy hacks that living in an age of increased acceptance of ND folks and better awareness of conditions might be the reason people who have lived and struggled for years. are now getting diagnosed? Bunch of idiots, it's very unhelpful | |||
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"Reading with interest, both wifey and I are on the “ autistic spectrum “ . Myself to a lesser degree ( although my PTSD picks up the slack/ I’m an old soldier) but I feel kind of glad it now has a label, no longer being thought of as crazy , and time’s being what they are we no longer have to feel ashamed for being “different” . Wifey suffers more than myself with dealing with strangers or new situations, but we are able to balance each other out. I guess we are lucky to have each other, of course having understanding friends and family helps. " Hi
Ahh that's lovely! It's nice that you balance each other out.
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"How lovely to see ADHD is being bashed in the Times and daily mail over the weekend! Apparently ADHD is the latest must have mental health condition! Can't even get the sodding headline right my blood is actually boiling right now. Sick of ND bashing!
I haven't read this but I am angry about it from just reading your post. The Mail has nothing of value to say on any subject so can always be ignored, but I would have thought the Times would know better.
Does it occur to these lazy hacks that living in an age of increased acceptance of ND folks and better awareness of conditions might be the reason people who have lived and struggled for years. are now getting diagnosed?
Bunch of idiots, it's very unhelpful"Oh absolutely! I think what made it worse for me off the back of that, there were a few GPs on social media agreeing with the Times article. One even said it's the new bipolar diagnosis. I think you would have seen steam coming out my ears. I soon pulled them up I'm not having it. | |||
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"Reading with interest, both wifey and I are on the “ autistic spectrum “ . Myself to a lesser degree ( although my PTSD picks up the slack/ I’m an old soldier) but I feel kind of glad it now has a label, no longer being thought of as crazy , and time’s being what they are we no longer have to feel ashamed for being “different” . Wifey suffers more than myself with dealing with strangers or new situations, but we are able to balance each other out. I guess we are lucky to have each other, of course having understanding friends and family helps. Hi
Ahh that's lovely! It's nice that you balance each other out.
Wow how did you manage being autistic whilst working as a soldier? I don't think they allow people who are diagnosed autistic to go in do they? I assume many slip through the net when they aren't diagnosed though. "I was never diagnosed while serving, I am pretty low on the spectrum. Thought I did struggle to fit in , certain aspects proved beneficial. Unfortunately other aspects made me appear cold / calculating and devoid of any emotion towards humans. | |||
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"Reading with interest, both wifey and I are on the “ autistic spectrum “ . Myself to a lesser degree ( although my PTSD picks up the slack/ I’m an old soldier) but I feel kind of glad it now has a label, no longer being thought of as crazy , and time’s being what they are we no longer have to feel ashamed for being “different” . Wifey suffers more than myself with dealing with strangers or new situations, but we are able to balance each other out. I guess we are lucky to have each other, of course having understanding friends and family helps. Hi
Ahh that's lovely! It's nice that you balance each other out.
Wow how did you manage being autistic whilst working as a soldier? I don't think they allow people who are diagnosed autistic to go in do they? I assume many slip through the net when they aren't diagnosed though.
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"Hi all, this is my first time posting on the forum. I was only diagnosed with ASD in 2021 after having a breakdown from masking and pretending for so long that I was doing ok. My mum had tried to get me diagnosed in school when she first noticed signs that I was different, but the school told her I didn't fit the criteria as I was quite advanced compared to my peers. As I got older I dreaded being labelled as autistic so never wanted to seek a diagnosis, but now I realise there's nothing to be ashamed of. I think I was one of the lucky ones in that from my referral in 2020 to my diagnosis in 2021 it was only 15 months, even with the pandemic. It's been a great relief to finally understand why my brain works and embrace the wonkeyness that's inside." Hi
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Ohh, I mean if people are bumbling-ly trying to navigate society, and then they come across some certain information as you've stated, that genuinely relates to the way they are functioning within society... and it matches those personal struggles, then that's fair enough. There's probably something in there that holds some value. I hope no NT's are identifying with being ND just to hop on a certain trend. ND's are definitely coming more common now, probably because we have the tech/information to find those characteristics in individuals. To NT's, some ND traits can be seen as superpowers. And to ND's, some of the NT traits can be seen as superpowers."Do you think NT people have super powers? | |||
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" Wow do you surround yourself with ND people in real life? I'm wondering how you manage in areas of life where there maybe more NT people? Not by design, more by chance I suppose. Of 10 friends I know, 8 are ND in some shape or form. The two that are not are ND-allies. Outside of this group of close friends, I only know 1 other person who is not ND, but I've known them for over 45 years. I mix in a very small circle of people and I like that comfort. How do I manage in areas of life with more NT people ? Masking and lots and lots of practice is the easy answer. The real answer is a bit more complex and involved." Interesting! Seems we're just naturally drawn to other ND people, Maybe that's why some go undiagnosed for so Long? If we're surrounded by people like us are we just going to assume that's the norm? | |||
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"Interesting! Seems we're just naturally drawn to other ND people, Maybe that's why some go undiagnosed for so Long? If we're surrounded by people like us are we just going to assume that's the norm? " They say that , in the same way gay people are said to have a "gaydar" , that autistic people have an "aspie-dar" that tells them when other people might be similar to them. Its not like a flashing sign that says "autism" but more a general sense, even from a distance, that you'll be able to speak to and get on with someone or that they seem approachable. One of the harder parts of a late life diagnosis is looking back at all the people you kind of gelled with not realising that there may have been more to it than just being friendly and perhaps those were opportunities for friendships you hadn't understood were there. I think this is partly to do with the "double empathy problem" - the theory that Neurodivergent people are more likely to understand and be understood by other ND people than an NT person and vice versa. | |||
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"Interesting! Seems we're just naturally drawn to other ND people, Maybe that's why some go undiagnosed for so Long? If we're surrounded by people like us are we just going to assume that's the norm? They say that , in the same way gay people are said to have a "gaydar" , that autistic people have an "aspie-dar" that tells them when other people might be similar to them. Its not like a flashing sign that says "autism" but more a general sense, even from a distance, that you'll be able to speak to and get on with someone or that they seem approachable. One of the harder parts of a late life diagnosis is looking back at all the people you kind of gelled with not realising that there may have been more to it than just being friendly and perhaps those were opportunities for friendships you hadn't understood were there. I think this is partly to do with the "double empathy problem" - the theory that Neurodivergent people are more likely to understand and be understood by other ND people than an NT person and vice versa. " I definitely think I've been drawn to ADHDers but find it can be a bit too much for me at times, depending on the person/people I'm with. I'm a constant contradiction, love to go out chat and enjoy being social but I also prefer my own company, if I feel forced to go out when I want to be alone I just won't enjoy myself! And will feel over stimulated which makes me snappy. The autism likes to plan things in advance to have something to look forward to, something that will fit into my routine but the ADHD says sod that and throws caution to the wind. I think that means I don't really fit in either camp, I'm too boring for the ADHDers and too chaotic and wild for the autistic peeps. I don't think I've really come across many who identify as Audhd in real life, so I don't know whether they would be a better match for me or not. | |||
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" Interesting! Seems we're just naturally drawn to other ND people, Maybe that's why some go undiagnosed for so Long? If we're surrounded by people like us are we just going to assume that's the norm? " I feel you are right in that observation. Me and my ND-family of friends feels normal to me. It's the NT's who seem very odd to us ! | |||
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May I be the first to say "One of us ?"
(Provided you are happy to be in a new club of similar minds ofc !)"Thank you! Of course I am, I have been for a very long time, now I just have official confirmation that I am one | |||
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May I be the first to say "One of us ?"
(Provided you are happy to be in a new club of similar minds ofc !)
Thank you! Of course I am, I have been for a very long time, now I just have official confirmation that I am one "I'm glad you got a diagnosis and welcome to the wonky brainer club officially | |||
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Ohh, I mean if people are bumbling-ly trying to navigate society, and then they come across some certain information as you've stated, that genuinely relates to the way they are functioning within society... and it matches those personal struggles, then that's fair enough. There's probably something in there that holds some value. I hope no NT's are identifying with being ND just to hop on a certain trend. ND's are definitely coming more common now, probably because we have the tech/information to find those characteristics in individuals. To NT's, some ND traits can be seen as superpowers. And to ND's, some of the NT traits can be seen as superpowers.
Do you think NT people have super powers? "I mean, in certain ways that are different to ND's sure. I don't have great social skills. Navigating conversation that's out of my area of interest and knowing, I find tricky. Whereas NT people.. 'seemingly' socialise with so much ease. Seeing NT's socialise the way they do, to me is a superpower because I don't have the same level of skill. And for me.. the level of focus I have when I'm focusing on something I'm interested in, and be able to go into a sort of 'hyper learning mode', probably seems like a superpower to NT people. | |||
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"The mainstream is very quick to jump on certain bandwagon's and deem it right behaviour. One of the many reasons why I do not follow the mainstream. I do my own thing and just watch everything unfold in the world. Much insight is learned by just watching things as they occur. Getting back to the relative subject, perhaps it's because certain ND traits are seen as superpowers and so others want to be seen with them and use it as a glorification piece for their ego. There are many potentials as to why people may be doing this, but I feel it's totally wrong. Unless you do have ND traits genuinely, why place an ND label on yourself? Where is that need or want coming from?? I don't think people are jumping on the bandwagon tbh. I think more people were likely struggling through life not understanding why they are a certain way, maybe having persistent depression and anxiety for reasons they couldn't understand. Then they see or hear something that resonates with them because it's being more openly discussed nowadays, so they decide to research more info and can relate to what they find. I genuinely don't think most people want to be lumbered with an ND label especially cus it's seen as trendy. I also believe ND isn't as rare as they like to make out. Don't get me started on that superpower rubbish
Ohh, I mean if people are bumbling-ly trying to navigate society, and then they come across some certain information as you've stated, that genuinely relates to the way they are functioning within society... and it matches those personal struggles, then that's fair enough. There's probably something in there that holds some value. I hope no NT's are identifying with being ND just to hop on a certain trend. ND's are definitely coming more common now, probably because we have the tech/information to find those characteristics in individuals. To NT's, some ND traits can be seen as superpowers. And to ND's, some of the NT traits can be seen as superpowers.
Do you think NT people have super powers?
I mean, in certain ways that are different to ND's sure. I don't have great social skills. Navigating conversation that's out of my area of interest and knowing, I find tricky. Whereas NT people.. 'seemingly' socialise with so much ease. Seeing NT's socialise the way they do, to me is a superpower because I don't have the same level of skill. And for me.. the level of focus I have when I'm focusing on something I'm interested in, and be able to go into a sort of 'hyper learning mode', probably seems like a superpower to NT people."It's good to see other points of view on this subject. | |||
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Thank you glad to be able to post on the forums again! You ok? "I have missed your contributions! Any epiphanies in your time away with managing the wonk? I could do with a kick up the arse to be honest. | |||
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Thank you glad to be able to post on the forums again! You ok?
I have missed your contributions! Any epiphanies in your time away with managing the wonk?
I could do with a kick up the arse to be honest. ""Hi everyone How are you all? Hi lovely it's nice to see you back.
Thank you glad to be able to post on the forums again! You ok?
I have missed your contributions! Any epiphanies in your time away with managing the wonk?
I could do with a kick up the arse to be honest. "I’m sure you don’t need a kick up the arse?! Always so bloody hard on ourselves, aren’t we?! Maybe get your arse to Pandoras next Saturday for Pirates of Pandoza?! Be nice to meet you!
I decided to go private and I’m day 2 of Elvanse, today! It’s defo confirmed the adhd lol - it totally freaked me out…. The peacefulness and silence in my mind. Complete calm. Not sure how much I wanna say on a public forum but, I’m also so mad at the crap printed in the media this week…. That the answer is, just to put down our phones…. According to Dominic Lawson in The Times.
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Day is a bit brighter to see you’re back though x"Ha - I completely empathise with your response! Wellness is a spectrum, just like neurodiversity!! I’m pleased to read you have your diagnosis and I hope it helps, even if just a little bit xx | |||
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Day is a bit brighter to see you’re back though x
Ha - I completely empathise with your response! Wellness is a spectrum, just like neurodiversity!!
I’m pleased to read you have your diagnosis and I hope it helps, even if just a little bit xx
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Day is a bit brighter to see you’re back though x
Ha - I completely empathise with your response! Wellness is a spectrum, just like neurodiversity!!
I’m pleased to read you have your diagnosis and I hope it helps, even if just a little bit xx
It always help to put a name on it and been reassured that you’re not making stuff up. Now the long process of titration and therapy, but I am lucky enough to be able to get it at all "I started titration yesterday - feel free to private message me if you have any questions. All I can say is, now is the time to REALLY put yourself first. That can feel uncomfortable but, it’s A LOT! Here if you wanna chat x | |||
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Day is a bit brighter to see you’re back though x
Ha - I completely empathise with your response! Wellness is a spectrum, just like neurodiversity!!
I’m pleased to read you have your diagnosis and I hope it helps, even if just a little bit xx
It always help to put a name on it and been reassured that you’re not making stuff up. Now the long process of titration and therapy, but I am lucky enough to be able to get it at all
I started titration yesterday - feel free to private message me if you have any questions. All I can say is, now is the time to REALLY put yourself first. That can feel uncomfortable but, it’s A LOT! Here if you wanna chat x"Thank you so much! I hope it goes swimmingly for you, if you need to chat feel free to DM as well | |||
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I was diagnosed with ADHD last July at the age of 51. Always thought I was a bit of a train wreck but now it’s official.
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I’m grateful for my sense of humour and unique way of thinking, resent how forgetful and disorganised I am x
"Hugs. I discovered I have autistic traits and some weird sensory things going on at 41. I'm avoiding an official diagnosis because I've got a lot going on already with coming off therapy and meds and being told to lose weight for my mobility. the internet has been a life line for me to learn about these autistic and sensory things and the things that adults and children do to cope. through therapy I stop resenting myself and beating myself up fo something that I had zero control over. Still resent the NHS for not picking it up when I told them in 2000 that I felt like I was losing my fucking mind. they brushed it off as homesickness, then uni stress, then work stress, then marriage stress until I ended up in section in HDU and the secure psychiatric ward
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"So happy to discover this thread! Too tired but better post now or I’ll never find it again
I was diagnosed with ADHD last July at the age of 51. Always thought I was a bit of a train wreck but now it’s official.
I’m grateful for my sense of humour and unique way of thinking, resent how forgetful and disorganised I am x
Hugs. I discovered I have autistic traits and some weird sensory things going on at 41. I'm avoiding an official diagnosis because I've got a lot going on already with coming off therapy and meds and being told to lose weight for my mobility.
the internet has been a life line for me to learn about these autistic and sensory things and the things that adults and children do to cope.
through therapy I stop resenting myself and beating myself up fo something that I had zero control over.
Still resent the NHS for not picking it up when I told them in 2000 that I felt like I was losing my fucking mind. they brushed it off as homesickness, then uni stress, then work stress, then marriage stress until I ended up in section in HDU and the secure psychiatric ward
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Ohh, I mean if people are bumbling-ly trying to navigate society, and then they come across some certain information as you've stated, that genuinely relates to the way they are functioning within society... and it matches those personal struggles, then that's fair enough. There's probably something in there that holds some value. I hope no NT's are identifying with being ND just to hop on a certain trend. ND's are definitely coming more common now, probably because we have the tech/information to find those characteristics in individuals. To NT's, some ND traits can be seen as superpowers. And to ND's, some of the NT traits can be seen as superpowers.
Do you think NT people have super powers?
I mean, in certain ways that are different to ND's sure. I don't have great social skills. Navigating conversation that's out of my area of interest and knowing, I find tricky. Whereas NT people.. 'seemingly' socialise with so much ease. Seeing NT's socialise the way they do, to me is a superpower because I don't have the same level of skill. And for me.. the level of focus I have when I'm focusing on something I'm interested in, and be able to go into a sort of 'hyper learning mode', probably seems like a superpower to NT people.
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"Did anyone watch "Inside the Autistic Mind" with Chris Packham? I thought it was beautifully done and left me feeling a whole host of emotions, but mostly it left me feeling more optimistic about the future than I have in a long time. I love that a safe and supportive platform was provided for 2 autistic people to speak their truth. " Ooo, might give that a watch. Sounds good. | |||
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"Did anyone watch "Inside the Autistic Mind" with Chris Packham? I thought it was beautifully done and left me feeling a whole host of emotions, but mostly it left me feeling more optimistic about the future than I have in a long time. I love that a safe and supportive platform was provided for 2 autistic people to speak their truth. I did and it was beautiful, but there was a lot of tears here" I cried too, as did my mum who was diagnosed 18 months ago aged 64. My hope is that my 14 year old will benefit from the efforts of people like Packham. I feel it's a little late for me! | |||
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"Did anyone watch "Inside the Autistic Mind" with Chris Packham? I thought it was beautifully done and left me feeling a whole host of emotions, but mostly it left me feeling more optimistic about the future than I have in a long time. I love that a safe and supportive platform was provided for 2 autistic people to speak their truth. " I really want to watch it but I fear I may cry for a few days after so trying to work out when I can. | |||
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"Did anyone watch "Inside the Autistic Mind" with Chris Packham? I thought it was beautifully done and left me feeling a whole host of emotions, but mostly it left me feeling more optimistic about the future than I have in a long time. I love that a safe and supportive platform was provided for 2 autistic people to speak their truth. I did and it was beautiful, but there was a lot of tears here I cried too, as did my mum who was diagnosed 18 months ago aged 64. My hope is that my 14 year old will benefit from the efforts of people like Packham. I feel it's a little late for me!" This is very much my thoughts, it is too late for us but all we can do is trying and make it a better future for younger generations. | |||
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"My first time commenting on these posts but have been reading and watching with interest and seeing a lot of similar traits I’ve always known I was different and have masked successfully most of my life and only a few friends over the years have ever stood by through the best and the worst of me. Those who understand ND are the ones who understand me the most and aren’t offended by my total lack of empathy at times and my often non filtered outbursts. In saying that I’m also someone who’s the most sympathetic loving and caring person out there and my personality is very much that of an empath ! Go figure ? I guess for alot of people growing up it’s been hard to figure out if I am genuine because there are literally two completely different sides to me at any given moment, loving caring totally immersed in a person/relationship/project to suddenly being able to completely switch off the next minute and walk away without emotion. I think the worst thing about being my friend is asking for advice or an opinion and not really wanting to hear what I have to say, I get your upset and I’m trying to be sympathetic but if you look at it from this perspective or take this into account lol !! Yeah only ask my advice if you genuinely don’t want me blowing smoke up your ass lol A big thing for me is learning to pace myself and try not to be too reckless, I think at times if I didn’t take a step back and look at the bigger picture I’d be potentially putting myself in alot of danger alot of the times. These days my motorbike gives me my recklessness as I have no fear, that’s my adrenaline rush that keeps the rest of me In check, two years ago I was diagnosed with cancer and to me it was a very emotionless time !? I get more emotional about other folk being diagnosed than I do myself or the fact the kids haven’t done the dishes !!! Nowt stranger than folk especially us who are ND Watching again wIRH interest "Hi thanks for sharing, there's things I'd like to ask but I'm aware this is the last post.
Hey Knobin we're both not well at the moment, just plodding along though. Hope you're well.
Hope everyone's ok in fact! I'm hoping someone will continue with the threads, I'm feeling too fatigued at the moment to be able to give it the brain space it needs. I'd be interested in seeing how you all getting on though | |||
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