FabSwingers.com forum: Genuine doms

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why is it so hard to find a genuine dom for the wife as she new to it all but wants to have a dom/sub dynamic with someone not all these wannabes that just think a hard pounding is sufficient to be a dom

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By *irmhandmancMan
over a year ago

Bolton

So much more to being a dom than just giving her what for! The Mind is a sexual organ itself, to stimulate, to manipulate, to invigorate is just part of the fun and learning journey. The journey also consists of teasing, daring, testing and.......more teasing never harms

only the start of it!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So much more to being a dom than just giving her what for! The Mind is a sexual organ itself, to stimulate, to manipulate, to invigorate is just part of the fun and learning journey. The journey also consists of teasing, daring, testing and.......more teasing never harms

only the start of it!"

Exactly! Like I’m not a dom myself but even I know there more to it than most these wannabes think, it’s so frustrating as wife is close to giving up on it

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By *irmhandmancMan
over a year ago

Bolton

Hang in there, no sense losing out to frustration. May aswell give her 15 mins of teasing with no orgasm at the end. It will take patience to find that person who fits your wants/needs list

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh I did this once. It's alot of effort and really quite annoying at times haha!

Fair play if it's your relationship dynamic but I was seeing a demon of a girl once and thought it sounded cool.

Constant bratty behaviour, constant needy messages...I guess everyone has it different but I decided there and then NEVER again

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By *irmhandmancMan
over a year ago

Bolton

"Oh I did this once. It's alot of effort and really quite annoying at times haha!

Fair play if it's your relationship dynamic but I was seeing a demon of a girl once and thought it sounded cool.

Constant bratty behaviour, constant needy messages...I guess everyone has it different but I decided there and then NEVER again"

That side of behaviour is annoying!

I once had a girl who demanded I spank her for being naughty, she gave her blessing to make her bottom red. She soon changed her mind, as did I!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh I did this once. It's alot of effort and really quite annoying at times haha!

Fair play if it's your relationship dynamic but I was seeing a demon of a girl once and thought it sounded cool.

Constant bratty behaviour, constant needy messages...I guess everyone has it different but I decided there and then NEVER again"

You’re tarring an awful lot if women with the same brush.

The D/s dynamic can be intense, but also beautiful, healing and transformational.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh I did this once. It's alot of effort and really quite annoying at times haha!

Fair play if it's your relationship dynamic but I was seeing a demon of a girl once and thought it sounded cool.

Constant bratty behaviour, constant needy messages...I guess everyone has it different but I decided there and then NEVER again

You’re tarring an awful lot if women with the same brush.

The D/s dynamic can be intense, but also beautiful, healing and transformational. "

I literally couldn't have made it more clear that was my experience of it? That's just how I found the dynamic with this one girl and I wouldn't do it again personally. I know couples who thrive in that dynamic so I'm not writing it off for everyone at all!

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

WHEREVER I LAY MY HAT

"Oh I did this once. It's alot of effort and really quite annoying at times haha!

Fair play if it's your relationship dynamic but I was seeing a demon of a girl once and thought it sounded cool.

Constant bratty behaviour, constant needy messages...I guess everyone has it different but I decided there and then NEVER again

You’re tarring an awful lot if women with the same brush.

The D/s dynamic can be intense, but also beautiful, healing and transformational. "

But far too many guys think that it is simply slapping, choking, jack-hammering away. If I had a pound for each time I heard this from a so called Dom I would never have to work again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is she looking for something very particular… or are you looking for sometime for her?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh I did this once. It's alot of effort and really quite annoying at times haha!

Fair play if it's your relationship dynamic but I was seeing a demon of a girl once and thought it sounded cool.

Constant bratty behaviour, constant needy messages...I guess everyone has it different but I decided there and then NEVER again

You’re tarring an awful lot if women with the same brush.

The D/s dynamic can be intense, but also beautiful, healing and transformational.

But far too many guys think that it is simply slapping, choking, jack-hammering away. If I had a pound for each time I heard this from a so called Dom I would never have to work again "

Exactly that. I knew it was more than that and was willing to try it out but very quickly learnt it was NOT the one for me

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

There is a true master of the craft that runs BDSM demonstrations, I have seen her at The Attic in Derby and her handle is "- Pebble -" she can probably advise, provide a demonstration or if she knows people more local to you a good recommendation.

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

"Is she looking for something very particular… or are you looking for sometime for her? "

This. It's about communication. On both parties

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it so hard to find a genuine dom for the wife as she new to it all but wants to have a dom/sub dynamic with someone not all these wannabes that just think a hard pounding is sufficient to be a dom"

You could well be looking on the wrong site, there are more fetishism focused options out there, which would have listing of local events etc etc and would allow you to meet people, get to know the local scene etc etc

Does your wife know what she wants to explore and experience?

There are a lot of aspects to D/s so knowing what she might like to try would be a good place to start.

Hope this helps

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you is she contactable on here

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