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"Very clear on my profile that I'm a) married and b) have a couples profile too. Messages can be directed to the couples profile for verification. The fact I'm open about it most likely indicates I'm doing this with the consent of my wife. " But it's when they only have single male profile because their wife isn't into swinging but "give them consent"...  | |||
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"I think a phone call where you speak to the wife is the only clear cut way to verify. " Although my good lady have talked of me meeting others solo it would only work with, as you say, phone calls or better still, a social over a coffee between the 3 of us to confirm it's what we all want.  | |||
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"I'm not technically married but as good as, my partner does not give consent or give me everything I want in a relationship but family side is good, I'm on here for fun because I don't want to regret not having fun. I'm sure there is worst things to worry about on this site than married men, some women want NSA. Plus I never hide the fact I'm with someone. " Good luck, my friend. I'm in a similar position, except that my partner has consented - libido issues - as long as I go home afterwards, but there is no question of a phone call with a third party to rub her nose in it. So it rules out those who insist on that. | |||
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"I'm not technically married but as good as, my partner does not give consent or give me everything I want in a relationship but family side is good, I'm on here for fun because I don't want to regret not having fun. I'm sure there is worst things to worry about on this site than married men, some women want NSA. Plus I never hide the fact I'm with someone. " It’s not about “worrying” some of us simply don’t want to have NSA with those playing away behind the backs of their partners, everyone has a preference.  | |||
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"Some interesting points, some we agree with, some we don’t. I’m safe to say I fall into this category. Over the years, I’ve had a couples and singles profile. First time I was here we dabbled as a couple, but reasons forced us away, but these are the same reasons I’m here now. Second profile I was here without asking, and was requested to shut it down. Third profile was a couples which was for me to play only. We had many comments saying why a couples profile as only one of us played, and was urged to have a single profile. We stuck with it, but once trust was broken when the wife was hassled and even tracked the kids on Facebook, that profile went. I’m now here with this profile, we have an agreement in how she confirms, and because of the issues previously, that’s set in stone. There’s many opinions on the scenario, but everyone’s journeys here are varied, and after the long winded reply, it’s all personal choices. If someone is open and say they’re married, but you don’t fancy it, go to the next message. It’s those that are here without consent, I was one once, are the ones to possibly be cautious of." Sounds like you have had it quite rough and I'm sorry to hear that, me and the wife didn't have the best of experiences when doing it as a couple I think we are on our third profile now. After the bad experiences we decided to take a few months break before we decided how to move forward, the wife being Poly was happy with what she had at the time and didn't want to continue within the swinging lifestyle but was happy for me to continue, I set up a single guys profile as I thought I'd try to be as honest as possible plus the wife didn't want her pictures visible for everyone to see, I mentioned that I had a couples account on my bio but as it was hidden people just assumed I was on here without the wifes say so, I then just removed that part and carried on. Now after a few more months the wife has decided to dip her tow back in so we have un-hidden it again and I have put the bit back in about having another profile, she has also a couples profile with her BF as they tend to like to meet other couples together whereas I'm keen to carrying on as I am and only use our profile if we are going to a club together, Even after doing all that and trying to make things as transparent as I can I'm still occasionally questioned about if I'm playing away or not it's a bit of a pain but I get it's all part of people trying to protect themselves and there morals, I'd always be willing to do anything people ask to provide I'm not lying but still they just don't want to know. | |||
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"How can you tell they're really are consented? Or even with couple profile, phone call?" I usually meet in person face to face with both or I have a video call. I can't tell the woman's mannerisms and interactions with the man from a telephone call. That's just me. I do better with something interactive. | |||
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"Some interesting points, some we agree with, some we don’t. I’m safe to say I fall into this category. Over the years, I’ve had a couples and singles profile. First time I was here we dabbled as a couple, but reasons forced us away, but these are the same reasons I’m here now. Second profile I was here without asking, and was requested to shut it down. Third profile was a couples which was for me to play only. We had many comments saying why a couples profile as only one of us played, and was urged to have a single profile. We stuck with it, but once trust was broken when the wife was hassled and even tracked the kids on Facebook, that profile went. I’m now here with this profile, we have an agreement in how she confirms, and because of the issues previously, that’s set in stone. There’s many opinions on the scenario, but everyone’s journeys here are varied, and after the long winded reply, it’s all personal choices. If someone is open and say they’re married, but you don’t fancy it, go to the next message. It’s those that are here without consent, I was one once, are the ones to possibly be cautious of. Sounds like you have had it quite rough and I'm sorry to hear that, me and the wife didn't have the best of experiences when doing it as a couple I think we are on our third profile now. After the bad experiences we decided to take a few months break before we decided how to move forward, the wife being Poly was happy with what she had at the time and didn't want to continue within the swinging lifestyle but was happy for me to continue, I set up a single guys profile as I thought I'd try to be as honest as possible plus the wife didn't want her pictures visible for everyone to see, I mentioned that I had a couples account on my bio but as it was hidden people just assumed I was on here without the wifes say so, I then just removed that part and carried on. Now after a few more months the wife has decided to dip her tow back in so we have un-hidden it again and I have put the bit back in about having another profile, she has also a couples profile with her BF as they tend to like to meet other couples together whereas I'm keen to carrying on as I am and only use our profile if we are going to a club together, Even after doing all that and trying to make things as transparent as I can I'm still occasionally questioned about if I'm playing away or not it's a bit of a pain but I get it's all part of people trying to protect themselves and there morals, I'd always be willing to do anything people ask to provide I'm not lying but still they just don't want to know." Maybe they just don't want to meet one half of a swinger couple. I'd meet married people where their partner doesn't know they are fucking around but I don't meet halves of swinger couples separately. I find it weird. | |||
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"Some interesting points, some we agree with, some we don’t. I’m safe to say I fall into this category. Over the years, I’ve had a couples and singles profile. First time I was here we dabbled as a couple, but reasons forced us away, but these are the same reasons I’m here now. Second profile I was here without asking, and was requested to shut it down. Third profile was a couples which was for me to play only. We had many comments saying why a couples profile as only one of us played, and was urged to have a single profile. We stuck with it, but once trust was broken when the wife was hassled and even tracked the kids on Facebook, that profile went. I’m now here with this profile, we have an agreement in how she confirms, and because of the issues previously, that’s set in stone. There’s many opinions on the scenario, but everyone’s journeys here are varied, and after the long winded reply, it’s all personal choices. If someone is open and say they’re married, but you don’t fancy it, go to the next message. It’s those that are here without consent, I was one once, are the ones to possibly be cautious of." OMG. That's terrible about the kids! I don't have kids and I always want people to put their kids first. That said. I know I might not be the type of person a wife might want her husband involved with or a girlfriend her boyfriend involved with and I actually respect that commitment. Sex and swingers sex have consequences and I think both partners should have a say in those potential consequences. I know people talk about rubbing their nose in it but in my head, it's not true swinging if people feel it's like rubbing their nose in it. I've met couples in clubs and I don't get that vibe at all but online that seems to be the vibe that people want to follow a "don't ask don't tell approach." My personal opinion is that "don't ask don't tell" is a slippery slope to emotional damage and I don't want to damage anyone. Just my opinion. Everyone else is entitled to their opinion and how they chose to live their own lives. If people don't like what you do, just move on and find someone else who does. | |||
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"Some interesting points, some we agree with, some we don’t. I’m safe to say I fall into this category. Over the years, I’ve had a couples and singles profile. First time I was here we dabbled as a couple, but reasons forced us away, but these are the same reasons I’m here now. Second profile I was here without asking, and was requested to shut it down. Third profile was a couples which was for me to play only. We had many comments saying why a couples profile as only one of us played, and was urged to have a single profile. We stuck with it, but once trust was broken when the wife was hassled and even tracked the kids on Facebook, that profile went. I’m now here with this profile, we have an agreement in how she confirms, and because of the issues previously, that’s set in stone. There’s many opinions on the scenario, but everyone’s journeys here are varied, and after the long winded reply, it’s all personal choices. If someone is open and say they’re married, but you don’t fancy it, go to the next message. It’s those that are here without consent, I was one once, are the ones to possibly be cautious of. Sounds like you have had it quite rough and I'm sorry to hear that, me and the wife didn't have the best of experiences when doing it as a couple I think we are on our third profile now. After the bad experiences we decided to take a few months break before we decided how to move forward, the wife being Poly was happy with what she had at the time and didn't want to continue within the swinging lifestyle but was happy for me to continue, I set up a single guys profile as I thought I'd try to be as honest as possible plus the wife didn't want her pictures visible for everyone to see, I mentioned that I had a couples account on my bio but as it was hidden people just assumed I was on here without the wifes say so, I then just removed that part and carried on. Now after a few more months the wife has decided to dip her tow back in so we have un-hidden it again and I have put the bit back in about having another profile, she has also a couples profile with her BF as they tend to like to meet other couples together whereas I'm keen to carrying on as I am and only use our profile if we are going to a club together, Even after doing all that and trying to make things as transparent as I can I'm still occasionally questioned about if I'm playing away or not it's a bit of a pain but I get it's all part of people trying to protect themselves and there morals, I'd always be willing to do anything people ask to provide I'm not lying but still they just don't want to know. Maybe they just don't want to meet one half of a swinger couple. I'd meet married people where their partner doesn't know they are fucking around but I don't meet halves of swinger couples separately. I find it weird. "I'm the opposite. I will meet swinger couples separately if the wife/girlfriend says this is ok to my face. And they have said it's ok because they themselves see other men separately from their male life partner. | |||
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"Very clear on my profile that I'm a) married and b) have a couples profile too. Messages can be directed to the couples profile for verification. The fact I'm open about it most likely indicates I'm doing this with the consent of my wife. But it's when they only have single male profile because their wife isn't into swinging but "give them consent"... "You could honestly have any guy you wanted or even woman for what it’s worth! I’d say forget putting all your time and effort into these profiles and focus on single profiles or couples profiles! You’re a beautiful woman x | |||
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"Tricky, because almost nobody asks for the husband to verify consent for the wife on her singles profile. If we are applying a rule it has to be universal." I mean if I was bi, it would be universal for me but I'm straight so.... I only ask the wife/girlfriend/female partners permission. If I met a MM couple I'd still want to meet them both before we did anything sexually. As a society, the world needs to get used to asking for consent and giving consent. I grew up not knowing anything about sexual consent and I realize now how much damage it can cause when there is no consent asked for or given. | |||
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"Tricky, because almost nobody asks for the husband to verify consent for the wife on her singles profile. If we are applying a rule it has to be universal. I mean if I was bi, it would be universal for me but I'm straight so.... I only ask the wife/girlfriend/female partners permission. If I met a MM couple I'd still want to meet them both before we did anything sexually. As a society, the world needs to get used to asking for consent and giving consent. I grew up not knowing anything about sexual consent and I realize now how much damage it can cause when there is no consent asked for or given." Unfortunately society is full of people that are sexually repressed and held back by indoctrinated guilt. Some of it is cultural, religious or simply lack of education. But I'm glad people are still talking about it, so I'll thank you again. | |||
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"How can you tell they're really are consented? Or even with couple profile, phone call?" Realistically there is no way to tell for sure. My wife knows I'm on here and as long as I stick to a set of rules I can have occasional meets, but she doesn't want details. She'd never want to have a chat with someone I'm going to shag. | |||
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"How can you tell they're really are consented? Or even with couple profile, phone call? Realistically there is no way to tell for sure. My wife knows I'm on here and as long as I stick to a set of rules I can have occasional meets, but she doesn't want details. She'd never want to have a chat with someone I'm going to shag. " There's a whole spectrum, some want to join in, just watch, others don't want their nose rubbed in it. | |||
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"Some interesting points, some we agree with, some we don’t. I’m safe to say I fall into this category. Over the years, I’ve had a couples and singles profile. First time I was here we dabbled as a couple, but reasons forced us away, but these are the same reasons I’m here now. Second profile I was here without asking, and was requested to shut it down. Third profile was a couples which was for me to play only. We had many comments saying why a couples profile as only one of us played, and was urged to have a single profile. We stuck with it, but once trust was broken when the wife was hassled and even tracked the kids on Facebook, that profile went. I’m now here with this profile, we have an agreement in how she confirms, and because of the issues previously, that’s set in stone. There’s many opinions on the scenario, but everyone’s journeys here are varied, and after the long winded reply, it’s all personal choices. If someone is open and say they’re married, but you don’t fancy it, go to the next message. It’s those that are here without consent, I was one once, are the ones to possibly be cautious of. Sounds like you have had it quite rough and I'm sorry to hear that, me and the wife didn't have the best of experiences when doing it as a couple I think we are on our third profile now. After the bad experiences we decided to take a few months break before we decided how to move forward, the wife being Poly was happy with what she had at the time and didn't want to continue within the swinging lifestyle but was happy for me to continue, I set up a single guys profile as I thought I'd try to be as honest as possible plus the wife didn't want her pictures visible for everyone to see, I mentioned that I had a couples account on my bio but as it was hidden people just assumed I was on here without the wifes say so, I then just removed that part and carried on. Now after a few more months the wife has decided to dip her tow back in so we have un-hidden it again and I have put the bit back in about having another profile, she has also a couples profile with her BF as they tend to like to meet other couples together whereas I'm keen to carrying on as I am and only use our profile if we are going to a club together, Even after doing all that and trying to make things as transparent as I can I'm still occasionally questioned about if I'm playing away or not it's a bit of a pain but I get it's all part of people trying to protect themselves and there morals, I'd always be willing to do anything people ask to provide I'm not lying but still they just don't want to know. Maybe they just don't want to meet one half of a swinger couple. I'd meet married people where their partner doesn't know they are fucking around but I don't meet halves of swinger couples separately. I find it weird. "Thats a interesting concept, you would happily engage in cheating and potentially rip someones life and family apart but you wouldn't meet a Swinger with permission to play separately, not trying to judge or anything just genuinely find it a little odd | |||
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"I'm not technically married but as good as, my partner does not give consent or give me everything I want in a relationship but family side is good, I'm on here for fun because I don't want to regret not having fun. I'm sure there is worst things to worry about on this site than married men, some women want NSA. Plus I never hide the fact I'm with someone. " | |||
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"I'm not technically married but as good as, my partner does not give consent or give me everything I want in a relationship but family side is good, I'm on here for fun because I don't want to regret not having fun. I'm sure there is worst things to worry about on this site than married men, some women want NSA. Plus I never hide the fact I'm with someone. Good luck, my friend. I'm in a similar position, except that my partner has consented - libido issues - as long as I go home afterwards, but there is no question of a phone call with a third party to rub her nose in it. So it rules out those who insist on that. " | |||
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"Some interesting points, some we agree with, some we don’t. I’m safe to say I fall into this category. Over the years, I’ve had a couples and singles profile. First time I was here we dabbled as a couple, but reasons forced us away, but these are the same reasons I’m here now. Second profile I was here without asking, and was requested to shut it down. Third profile was a couples which was for me to play only. We had many comments saying why a couples profile as only one of us played, and was urged to have a single profile. We stuck with it, but once trust was broken when the wife was hassled and even tracked the kids on Facebook, that profile went. I’m now here with this profile, we have an agreement in how she confirms, and because of the issues previously, that’s set in stone. There’s many opinions on the scenario, but everyone’s journeys here are varied, and after the long winded reply, it’s all personal choices. If someone is open and say they’re married, but you don’t fancy it, go to the next message. It’s those that are here without consent, I was one once, are the ones to possibly be cautious of. OMG. That's terrible about the kids! I don't have kids and I always want people to put their kids first. That said. I know I might not be the type of person a wife might want her husband involved with or a girlfriend her boyfriend involved with and I actually respect that commitment. " We don't work like that, I don't get to tell my wife who she can or can't meet nor can she tell me, we trust each other enough to know we can use our own judgement, the only thing we ask is that if either of us was to have someone come to our shared living space while the other was out the other would have to meet them first. | |||
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"Some interesting points, some we agree with, some we don’t. I’m safe to say I fall into this category. Over the years, I’ve had a couples and singles profile. First time I was here we dabbled as a couple, but reasons forced us away, but these are the same reasons I’m here now. Second profile I was here without asking, and was requested to shut it down. Third profile was a couples which was for me to play only. We had many comments saying why a couples profile as only one of us played, and was urged to have a single profile. We stuck with it, but once trust was broken when the wife was hassled and even tracked the kids on Facebook, that profile went. I’m now here with this profile, we have an agreement in how she confirms, and because of the issues previously, that’s set in stone. There’s many opinions on the scenario, but everyone’s journeys here are varied, and after the long winded reply, it’s all personal choices. If someone is open and say they’re married, but you don’t fancy it, go to the next message. It’s those that are here without consent, I was one once, are the ones to possibly be cautious of. Sounds like you have had it quite rough and I'm sorry to hear that, me and the wife didn't have the best of experiences when doing it as a couple I think we are on our third profile now. After the bad experiences we decided to take a few months break before we decided how to move forward, the wife being Poly was happy with what she had at the time and didn't want to continue within the swinging lifestyle but was happy for me to continue, I set up a single guys profile as I thought I'd try to be as honest as possible plus the wife didn't want her pictures visible for everyone to see, I mentioned that I had a couples account on my bio but as it was hidden people just assumed I was on here without the wifes say so, I then just removed that part and carried on. Now after a few more months the wife has decided to dip her tow back in so we have un-hidden it again and I have put the bit back in about having another profile, she has also a couples profile with her BF as they tend to like to meet other couples together whereas I'm keen to carrying on as I am and only use our profile if we are going to a club together, Even after doing all that and trying to make things as transparent as I can I'm still occasionally questioned about if I'm playing away or not it's a bit of a pain but I get it's all part of people trying to protect themselves and there morals, I'd always be willing to do anything people ask to provide I'm not lying but still they just don't want to know. Maybe they just don't want to meet one half of a swinger couple. I'd meet married people where their partner doesn't know they are fucking around but I don't meet halves of swinger couples separately. I find it weird.
Thats a interesting concept, you would happily engage in cheating and potentially rip someones life and family apart but you wouldn't meet a Swinger with permission to play separately, not trying to judge or anything just genuinely find it a little odd"Not me ripping their life apart is it. | |||
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"Some interesting points, some we agree with, some we don’t. I’m safe to say I fall into this category. Over the years, I’ve had a couples and singles profile. First time I was here we dabbled as a couple, but reasons forced us away, but these are the same reasons I’m here now. Second profile I was here without asking, and was requested to shut it down. Third profile was a couples which was for me to play only. We had many comments saying why a couples profile as only one of us played, and was urged to have a single profile. We stuck with it, but once trust was broken when the wife was hassled and even tracked the kids on Facebook, that profile went. I’m now here with this profile, we have an agreement in how she confirms, and because of the issues previously, that’s set in stone. There’s many opinions on the scenario, but everyone’s journeys here are varied, and after the long winded reply, it’s all personal choices. If someone is open and say they’re married, but you don’t fancy it, go to the next message. It’s those that are here without consent, I was one once, are the ones to possibly be cautious of. Sounds like you have had it quite rough and I'm sorry to hear that, me and the wife didn't have the best of experiences when doing it as a couple I think we are on our third profile now. After the bad experiences we decided to take a few months break before we decided how to move forward, the wife being Poly was happy with what she had at the time and didn't want to continue within the swinging lifestyle but was happy for me to continue, I set up a single guys profile as I thought I'd try to be as honest as possible plus the wife didn't want her pictures visible for everyone to see, I mentioned that I had a couples account on my bio but as it was hidden people just assumed I was on here without the wifes say so, I then just removed that part and carried on. Now after a few more months the wife has decided to dip her tow back in so we have un-hidden it again and I have put the bit back in about having another profile, she has also a couples profile with her BF as they tend to like to meet other couples together whereas I'm keen to carrying on as I am and only use our profile if we are going to a club together, Even after doing all that and trying to make things as transparent as I can I'm still occasionally questioned about if I'm playing away or not it's a bit of a pain but I get it's all part of people trying to protect themselves and there morals, I'd always be willing to do anything people ask to provide I'm not lying but still they just don't want to know. Maybe they just don't want to meet one half of a swinger couple. I'd meet married people where their partner doesn't know they are fucking around but I don't meet halves of swinger couples separately. I find it weird.
Thats a interesting concept, you would happily engage in cheating and potentially rip someones life and family apart but you wouldn't meet a Swinger with permission to play separately, not trying to judge or anything just genuinely find it a little odd
Not me ripping their life apart is it.
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"Tricky, because almost nobody asks for the husband to verify consent for the wife on her singles profile. If we are applying a rule it has to be universal." Ah, but so many men wouldn't care if she was playing away and many more find it a turn on. I'm half a couple and nobody has ever wanted to confirm with my partner that's it all above board etc.some have tried to encourage me to not tell him I'm chatting to them or meet without his knowledge. | |||
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"Some interesting points, some we agree with, some we don’t. I’m safe to say I fall into this category. Over the years, I’ve had a couples and singles profile. First time I was here we dabbled as a couple, but reasons forced us away, but these are the same reasons I’m here now. Second profile I was here without asking, and was requested to shut it down. Third profile was a couples which was for me to play only. We had many comments saying why a couples profile as only one of us played, and was urged to have a single profile. We stuck with it, but once trust was broken when the wife was hassled and even tracked the kids on Facebook, that profile went. I’m now here with this profile, we have an agreement in how she confirms, and because of the issues previously, that’s set in stone. There’s many opinions on the scenario, but everyone’s journeys here are varied, and after the long winded reply, it’s all personal choices. If someone is open and say they’re married, but you don’t fancy it, go to the next message. It’s those that are here without consent, I was one once, are the ones to possibly be cautious of. Sounds like you have had it quite rough and I'm sorry to hear that, me and the wife didn't have the best of experiences when doing it as a couple I think we are on our third profile now. After the bad experiences we decided to take a few months break before we decided how to move forward, the wife being Poly was happy with what she had at the time and didn't want to continue within the swinging lifestyle but was happy for me to continue, I set up a single guys profile as I thought I'd try to be as honest as possible plus the wife didn't want her pictures visible for everyone to see, I mentioned that I had a couples account on my bio but as it was hidden people just assumed I was on here without the wifes say so, I then just removed that part and carried on. Now after a few more months the wife has decided to dip her tow back in so we have un-hidden it again and I have put the bit back in about having another profile, she has also a couples profile with her BF as they tend to like to meet other couples together whereas I'm keen to carrying on as I am and only use our profile if we are going to a club together, Even after doing all that and trying to make things as transparent as I can I'm still occasionally questioned about if I'm playing away or not it's a bit of a pain but I get it's all part of people trying to protect themselves and there morals, I'd always be willing to do anything people ask to provide I'm not lying but still they just don't want to know. Maybe they just don't want to meet one half of a swinger couple. I'd meet married people where their partner doesn't know they are fucking around but I don't meet halves of swinger couples separately. I find it weird.
Thats a interesting concept, you would happily engage in cheating and potentially rip someones life and family apart but you wouldn't meet a Swinger with permission to play separately, not trying to judge or anything just genuinely find it a little odd
Not me ripping their life apart is it.
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"Tricky, because almost nobody asks for the husband to verify consent for the wife on her singles profile. If we are applying a rule it has to be universal. Ah, but so many men wouldn't care if she was playing away and many more find it a turn on. I'm half a couple and nobody has ever wanted to confirm with my partner that's it all above board etc.some have tried to encourage me to not tell him I'm chatting to them or meet without his knowledge." | |||
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"Some interesting points, some we agree with, some we don’t. I’m safe to say I fall into this category. Over the years, I’ve had a couples and singles profile. First time I was here we dabbled as a couple, but reasons forced us away, but these are the same reasons I’m here now. Second profile I was here without asking, and was requested to shut it down. Third profile was a couples which was for me to play only. We had many comments saying why a couples profile as only one of us played, and was urged to have a single profile. We stuck with it, but once trust was broken when the wife was hassled and even tracked the kids on Facebook, that profile went. I’m now here with this profile, we have an agreement in how she confirms, and because of the issues previously, that’s set in stone. There’s many opinions on the scenario, but everyone’s journeys here are varied, and after the long winded reply, it’s all personal choices. If someone is open and say they’re married, but you don’t fancy it, go to the next message. It’s those that are here without consent, I was one once, are the ones to possibly be cautious of. Sounds like you have had it quite rough and I'm sorry to hear that, me and the wife didn't have the best of experiences when doing it as a couple I think we are on our third profile now. After the bad experiences we decided to take a few months break before we decided how to move forward, the wife being Poly was happy with what she had at the time and didn't want to continue within the swinging lifestyle but was happy for me to continue, I set up a single guys profile as I thought I'd try to be as honest as possible plus the wife didn't want her pictures visible for everyone to see, I mentioned that I had a couples account on my bio but as it was hidden people just assumed I was on here without the wifes say so, I then just removed that part and carried on. Now after a few more months the wife has decided to dip her tow back in so we have un-hidden it again and I have put the bit back in about having another profile, she has also a couples profile with her BF as they tend to like to meet other couples together whereas I'm keen to carrying on as I am and only use our profile if we are going to a club together, Even after doing all that and trying to make things as transparent as I can I'm still occasionally questioned about if I'm playing away or not it's a bit of a pain but I get it's all part of people trying to protect themselves and there morals, I'd always be willing to do anything people ask to provide I'm not lying but still they just don't want to know. Maybe they just don't want to meet one half of a swinger couple. I'd meet married people where their partner doesn't know they are fucking around but I don't meet halves of swinger couples separately. I find it weird.
Thats a interesting concept, you would happily engage in cheating and potentially rip someones life and family apart but you wouldn't meet a Swinger with permission to play separately, not trying to judge or anything just genuinely find it a little odd
Not me ripping their life apart is it.
No I should have worded that differently, the onus would all be on him and the choices that he had made. I just found it odd you wouldn't mind meeting a cheat but you wouldn't meet a Swinger on his own thats all
Cheats don't chat about it to their partner. "You should have started with that I get it now | |||
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"Tricky, because almost nobody asks for the husband to verify consent for the wife on her singles profile. If we are applying a rule it has to be universal. I mean if I was bi, it would be universal for me but I'm straight so.... I only ask the wife/girlfriend/female partners permission. If I met a MM couple I'd still want to meet them both before we did anything sexually. As a society, the world needs to get used to asking for consent and giving consent. I grew up not knowing anything about sexual consent and I realize now how much damage it can cause when there is no consent asked for or given. Unfortunately society is full of people that are sexually repressed and held back by indoctrinated guilt. Some of it is cultural, religious or simply lack of education. But I'm glad people are still talking about it, so I'll thank you again." I'm a double trauma survivor and the last thing I want to do for my own sanity is to be part of some person's coercive control on their partner. Whatever gender/nongender/ sexual orientation. As I say in my profile, I've seen too much trauma from not being open and honest and withholding the truth. If that makes me, some sort of prude/moral police so be it, you don't have to fuck with me. Move on to the next person.  I said what I said for myself. Cover your ears and avert your eyes. | |||
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"Tricky, because almost nobody asks for the husband to verify consent for the wife on her singles profile. If we are applying a rule it has to be universal. I mean if I was bi, it would be universal for me but I'm straight so.... I only ask the wife/girlfriend/female partners permission. If I met a MM couple I'd still want to meet them both before we did anything sexually. As a society, the world needs to get used to asking for consent and giving consent. I grew up not knowing anything about sexual consent and I realize now how much damage it can cause when there is no consent asked for or given. Unfortunately society is full of people that are sexually repressed and held back by indoctrinated guilt. Some of it is cultural, religious or simply lack of education. But I'm glad people are still talking about it, so I'll thank you again. I'm a double trauma survivor and the last thing I want to do for my own sanity is to be part of some person's coercive control on their partner. Whatever gender/nongender/ sexual orientation. As I say in my profile, I've seen too much trauma from not being open and honest and withholding the truth. If that makes me, some sort of prude/moral police so be it, you don't have to fuck with me. Move on to the next person. I said what I said for myself. Cover your ears and avert your eyes."You do what ever helps you. Ignore the cynics and moaners lol | |||
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"Some interesting points, some we agree with, some we don’t. I’m safe to say I fall into this category. Over the years, I’ve had a couples and singles profile. First time I was here we dabbled as a couple, but reasons forced us away, but these are the same reasons I’m here now. Second profile I was here without asking, and was requested to shut it down. Third profile was a couples which was for me to play only. We had many comments saying why a couples profile as only one of us played, and was urged to have a single profile. We stuck with it, but once trust was broken when the wife was hassled and even tracked the kids on Facebook, that profile went. I’m now here with this profile, we have an agreement in how she confirms, and because of the issues previously, that’s set in stone. There’s many opinions on the scenario, but everyone’s journeys here are varied, and after the long winded reply, it’s all personal choices. If someone is open and say they’re married, but you don’t fancy it, go to the next message. It’s those that are here without consent, I was one once, are the ones to possibly be cautious of. Sounds like you have had it quite rough and I'm sorry to hear that, me and the wife didn't have the best of experiences when doing it as a couple I think we are on our third profile now. After the bad experiences we decided to take a few months break before we decided how to move forward, the wife being Poly was happy with what she had at the time and didn't want to continue within the swinging lifestyle but was happy for me to continue, I set up a single guys profile as I thought I'd try to be as honest as possible plus the wife didn't want her pictures visible for everyone to see, I mentioned that I had a couples account on my bio but as it was hidden people just assumed I was on here without the wifes say so, I then just removed that part and carried on. Now after a few more months the wife has decided to dip her tow back in so we have un-hidden it again and I have put the bit back in about having another profile, she has also a couples profile with her BF as they tend to like to meet other couples together whereas I'm keen to carrying on as I am and only use our profile if we are going to a club together, Even after doing all that and trying to make things as transparent as I can I'm still occasionally questioned about if I'm playing away or not it's a bit of a pain but I get it's all part of people trying to protect themselves and there morals, I'd always be willing to do anything people ask to provide I'm not lying but still they just don't want to know. Maybe they just don't want to meet one half of a swinger couple. I'd meet married people where their partner doesn't know they are fucking around but I don't meet halves of swinger couples separately. I find it weird.
Thats a interesting concept, you would happily engage in cheating and potentially rip someones life and family apart but you wouldn't meet a Swinger with permission to play separately, not trying to judge or anything just genuinely find it a little odd
Not me ripping their life apart is it.
No I should have worded that differently, the onus would all be on him and the choices that he had made. I just found it odd you wouldn't mind meeting a cheat but you wouldn't meet a Swinger on his own thats all
Cheats don't chat about it to their partner.
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"I think a phone call where you speak to the wife is the only clear cut way to verify. " This ^^ they soon go quiet | |||
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"How can you tell they're really are consented? Or even with couple profile, phone call?" yes it's the only way.... Ask the wife or partner  | |||
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