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By *mMrbrightside OP   Man
over a year ago

wakefield

How demoralising are they! Joined last week on one of them and it’s a good job Iv got a thick skin. Thought I’d try and search for a relationship but defo going to be deleting it after the end of the week, not like anyone will notice lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The last time I went on a dating site I only lasted 48 hours. Incredibly depressing.

Full of sex starved repressed people who it would be safer for everyone if they stayed single.

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall


"The last time I went on a dating site I only lasted 48 hours. Incredibly depressing.

Full of sex-starved repressed people who it would be safer for everyone if they stayed single. "

Yep pretty much

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By *pslad99Man
over a year ago

colchester

It’s worse the fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The last time I went on a dating site I only lasted 48 hours. Incredibly depressing.

Full of sex-starved repressed people who it would be safer for everyone if they stayed single.

Yep pretty much "

I guess this description refers to me too though. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last time I was on Tinder I ended up with a FWB who caught feelings for me

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Not my experience, it’s not dissimilar to being on here. Met plenty of women a couple of decent dates and one relationship that I finished.

Due to what I’ve written on my profile I tend to only match with someone I’d get along with anyway.

Admittedly they’re not for everyone, but I’d give them longer than a few days.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Actually I enjoy the single dating thing. I didn't seem to find it too hard to find dates and it was fun getting to meet lots of different ladies. Although didn't find the right one. I don't think it's anymore difficult than dating the old fashioned way.

Also when I wasn't looking for love, just hook ups dating sites I found great success with women looking for the same.

In my experience different dating sites tended to cater for different types of women and needs. Never used a dating site cost money though but that's probably the Yorkshire/Scottish in me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After initially joining for a laugh, it can quickly become demoralising for guys on apps like Tinder or Bumble.

I had an account on Tinder for 4 months and didn't get a single like or match. Not one.

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By *ust Us TogetherWoman
over a year ago

Newport

Joined one in 1999 and in the first week I had a meeting with a woman and we ended up getting married.......Still together after 22 years and 14 yrs of swinging as a couple.

Think they were a little less sex based back then, as the internet was just getting started as mainstream.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am on POF , whenever I say anything slightly kinky I get blocked !

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

My work colleague who is very handsome met his gorgeous girlfriend on a dating site and my financial advisor met her husband. Never been on one myself as read about too many murders of females who met males that way.

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By *hekaiserMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"The last time I went on a dating site I only lasted 48 hours. Incredibly depressing.

Full of sex starved repressed people who it would be safer for everyone if they stayed single. "

This...

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By *igGs19Woman
over a year ago

Castle Douglas

Maybe I was born on the wrong decade, but dating is just weird now. I've done the PoF bit, and the Tinder bit, with little success. Like I've had matches, yes I've had dates and even a couple of relationships that have ended for one reason or another. The whole concept of dating now though, everyone seems to have a dozen folk on the go at once, nothing is "exclusive". Maybe a weird concept when on Fab, but if I'm dating someone, I ain't shagging them on day one, and when the relationship progresses to that point, I'd kinda have hoped they weren't shagging three other folk that same week? Even if there was in interest as a couple to start swinging, shouldn't the relationship be solid before inviting other people into bed or consensually playing away? Nah, fuck that. It's bloody lonely at times, but I'll stick to being single and having my dog for company.

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By *mMrbrightside OP   Man
over a year ago

wakefield

Definitely can relate to people’s experiences. I didn’t think I was that bad looking “no Tom Cruise but defo not Sloth from the goonies” since joining haven’t had one match. Think I might be better just staying on here and getting a dog for company lol

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By *lackFun69Man
over a year ago

East Anglia

I think the problem is that there are serial dates on many different site at the same time always keeping their options open, so it's hard to know if it's a genuine relasonship

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By *unforyou73Man
over a year ago

worcester weekend in exmouth

I’ve been on them and never get a match or a like the joys of not being an oil painting

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By *quirtyndirty!Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

We met on a dating site

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By *bw44DDWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I’ve been on most of the dating sites and I last a couple of hours at most. I thought there was something wrong with me for actually preferring fab to them but this thread has made me feel somewhat normal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Imo they went downhill once covid came along and haven't recovered

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By *mMrbrightside OP   Man
over a year ago

wakefield

Maybe I should sit on the bonnet of my lambo with a hand full of cash and use that as my profile pic? Wonder if I’d get any messages then lol

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By *ackandtheunicornCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

We met on a dating site but God they're awful, we both agree Wouldn't recommend!

Think we just got lucky I was the only date she had from it and it worked out. We still go on them from time to time as we're poly now but neither of us have much luck.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"Last time I was on Tinder I ended up with a FWB who caught feelings for me "

They're not a disease

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By *ingeringfunMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Every time I feel lonely I join one again and regret it within a day or two. And back to FAB I go ... at least here theres true honesty about what you want and need... Been on most of the dating sites by now and all been the same posturing and faking it

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath


"How demoralising are they! Joined last week on one of them and it’s a good job Iv got a thick skin. Thought I’d try and search for a relationship but defo going to be deleting it after the end of the week, not like anyone will notice lol"

They want sex but they pretend like they want a relationship.

They want a relationship but they have no idea how to get and keep a relationship.

They want you to do relationship things for them but they are not willing to reciprocate.

Fab is the only place where I can talk about my low libido.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I’m on Bumble and Tinder. I get quite a lot of matches on Bumble. I’m honest about what I’m looking for. A FWBs.

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes


"How demoralising are they! Joined last week on one of them and it’s a good job Iv got a thick skin. Thought I’d try and search for a relationship but defo going to be deleting it after the end of the week, not like anyone will notice lol"

Sorry to hear that mate . Just out of interest what did you find demoralising ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m on Bumble and Tinder. I get quite a lot of matches on Bumble. I’m honest about what I’m looking for. A FWBs. "

Any tips on what you did? I didn't get a single like or match after 4 months on Tinder

Was on bumble for 2 months with the same result

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been on Tinder on and off for a while. It is abit demoralising, but again like fab I guess it's mostly down to the vast number of male members compared to much fewer female members. I've had quite afew matches but I tend to find they ghost completely and don't reply, or take offence when I'm honest straight off and say I'm interested in fwb only, not a serious relationship!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had some good fun on them.

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By *ittycock400Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

We met on a dating website so they aren't all bad.

Much like here though the women will get swamped with messages from men.

If you are looking for a real relationship then Tinder probably isn't the place to look.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dora and I met on Match 4 years ago and we got married recently.

We talked about and then started swinging last year.

We’re blissfully happy.

It can work!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m on Bumble and Tinder. I get quite a lot of matches on Bumble. I’m honest about what I’m looking for. A FWBs.

Any tips on what you did? I didn't get a single like or match after 4 months on Tinder

Was on bumble for 2 months with the same result"

Did you mention the size of your penis much?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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If you are looking for a real relationship then Tinder probably isn't the place to look."

That's the opposite to what I've found... The women I match with and the one girl I actually met with in person all want a pukka relationship not something casual! I must be doing something wrong...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m on Bumble and Tinder. I get quite a lot of matches on Bumble. I’m honest about what I’m looking for. A FWBs.

Any tips on what you did? I didn't get a single like or match after 4 months on Tinder

Was on bumble for 2 months with the same result

Did you mention the size of your penis much? "

Obviously not :D. But seriously, 4 months and no likes at all is pretty terrible

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By *ausage1970Man
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Tough to find someone at the best of times I keep getting people introducing me to what they think is my ideal partner!!

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I really like Tinder, I rarely switch it on to show my profile publicly but when I do I get quality dates. I pay the £100+ a year for gold don’t know if that helps

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

I met my partner on a dating site several years ago, though to be honest I think we were both drawn to each other based on being on a sea of crazy and weird and realising we were both comparatively normal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I so get the point here, I've used a few, lots of chat, but very quickly realised a lot of fakes, or the spamming money problems. But great to hear people who have been successful,sure there are genuine folk out there. If only I could copy and paste a message I received this morning on fb dating. Got a match, I said the usual Hi, etc. Got a jessage back saying hi, not all great here, no electric, etc, i need to borrow 30 until I get paid on Wednesday...oh dear....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I really like Tinder, I rarely switch it on to show my profile publicly but when I do I get quality dates. I pay the £100+ a year for gold don’t know if that helps "

Any advice you can give or tips on what you did?

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

I’ve had several dates and even some lengthy relationships from PoF, but it’s gone downhill over the last few years; it’s all about the money now, and it’s spoiled a once-decent site.

However, nothing’s lasted, and I find this site more to my taste these days.

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By *oly Fuck Sticks BatmanCouple
over a year ago

here & there

We met on bumble… it does work eventually.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

I’ve just ended a 6 week subscription with the other site I use, and have 3 ladies I’m getting to know as a result, one of whom I am particularly keen on…..

The irony is; I went back in there because Fab had become so flat for me…..? We’ll see how it goes anyway

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"I really like Tinder, I rarely switch it on to show my profile publicly but when I do I get quality dates. I pay the £100+ a year for gold don’t know if that helps

Any advice you can give or tips on what you did? "

Nice pictures, honest text, narrow age range, wide distance range, I always put just looking for friendship / dates etc because this attracts people looking for a type of person rather than a type of thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reaching out to guys here: do you have any advice for getting at least some likes or matches? Was considering jumping back onto Tinder, but im not going to let it run as long as 4 months with no interest

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By *oly Fuck Sticks BatmanCouple
over a year ago

here & there


"Reaching out to guys here: do you have any advice for getting at least some likes or matches? Was considering jumping back onto Tinder, but im not going to let it run as long as 4 months with no interest "

Geographic location will be working against you, Aberdeen is not a massive city & given its remote location there is not going to be vast swathes of potential matches for you.

Have a look to see if there’s any social mixers for singletons - we’ve found a few accidentally & had a great night. You may come across better in the flesh than on paper.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"Reaching out to guys here: do you have any advice for getting at least some likes or matches? Was considering jumping back onto Tinder, but im not going to let it run as long as 4 months with no interest "

My advice (generally works for me) on this site and dating sites is be unique. Imagine being in a room in which every guy is wearing black, if you’re wearing red you’ll be seen.

Same on dating sites, a variety of photos (not holding fish or leaning on a Ferrari) wearing smart casual wear or actually doing an activity. No use saying you like to go on long walks, if all of your pictures are you at home or in a pub.

Focus on who you’re interested in meeting ideally, so that you’ll have interests in common. So be honest with your bio, if you like world of war craft, car boot sales, classical music etc…add them. A woman who’s not sure if she likes your picture, but knows you’d go to see a Quartet playing Beethoven will probably match as it’s unique to other guys who probably wouldn’t take her.

Do research there’s plenty of advice on the internet on how to improve your Tinder, Bumble etc..profile. But one bit of advice is hide your profile for at least a week and then change the photos or bio around. Then you look new and more interesting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Reaching out to guys here: do you have any advice for getting at least some likes or matches? Was considering jumping back onto Tinder, but im not going to let it run as long as 4 months with no interest

Geographic location will be working against you, Aberdeen is not a massive city & given its remote location there is not going to be vast swathes of potential matches for you.

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That's the excuse I leaned on for a while, until someone on another thread mentioned that they visited Aberdeen a few times a year for work and often got a dozen or so matches when he came up.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Reaching out to guys here: do you have any advice for getting at least some likes or matches? Was considering jumping back onto Tinder, but im not going to let it run as long as 4 months with no interest "

Just be yourself in your profile. I've never used Tinder, but I would approach setting up a profile on any site, in a similar way

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By *oly Fuck Sticks BatmanCouple
over a year ago

here & there


"Reaching out to guys here: do you have any advice for getting at least some likes or matches? Was considering jumping back onto Tinder, but im not going to let it run as long as 4 months with no interest

Geographic location will be working against you, Aberdeen is not a massive city & given its remote location there is not going to be vast swathes of potential matches for you.

That's the excuse I leaned on for a while, until someone on another thread mentioned that they visited Aberdeen a few times a year for work and often got a dozen or so matches when he came up."

That will be the new face effect - our messages always spike whenever we visit a new area.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Reaching out to guys here: do you have any advice for getting at least some likes or matches? Was considering jumping back onto Tinder, but im not going to let it run as long as 4 months with no interest

Just be yourself in your profile. I've never used Tinder, but I would approach setting up a profile on any site, in a similar way "

Yeah thats how I approached it too. Pointed out my good qualities, mentioned I was looking to meet someone nice. I didn't mention my penis size either (before someone chimes in )

Used fairly decent photos, including some of the face ones from here. Still, no joy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Reaching out to guys here: do you have any advice for getting at least some likes or matches? Was considering jumping back onto Tinder, but im not going to let it run as long as 4 months with no interest

Geographic location will be working against you, Aberdeen is not a massive city & given its remote location there is not going to be vast swathes of potential matches for you.

That's the excuse I leaned on for a while, until someone on another thread mentioned that they visited Aberdeen a few times a year for work and often got a dozen or so matches when he came up.

That will be the new face effect - our messages always spike whenever we visit a new area."

I changed my location to Glasgow for a few weeks - still got nothing

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

I’ve given up on them totally

Rather be single

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How demoralising are they! Joined last week on one of them and it’s a good job Iv got a thick skin. Thought I’d try and search for a relationship but defo going to be deleting it after the end of the week, not like anyone will notice lol"

Which one did you use? Please don't say tinder.Tinder isn't what it's all cracked up to be. It's full of insta wannabees who just plug themselves(no pun intended) for exposure.

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By *ilverfox for youMan
over a year ago

Hull

i think in an ideal world all the guys on here including me want a free site where its easy to get sex! maybe call it the carlsberg for sex !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve actually found them to be pretty good, for me at least! Joined a few weeks ago and have been arranging dates with some lovely gents!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve actually found them to be pretty good, for me at least! Joined a few weeks ago and have been arranging dates with some lovely gents! "

Glad you're having success on them. Deservedly so, because you're really nice and beautiful as well .

Dating sites tend to be much easier for women to use and be successful on. There are many more men willing to meet with women than the other way around

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve actually found them to be pretty good, for me at least! Joined a few weeks ago and have been arranging dates with some lovely gents!

Glad you're having success on them. Deservedly so, because you're really nice and beautiful as well .

Dating sites tend to be much easier for women to use and be successful on. There are many more men willing to meet with women than the other way around "

That’s where you’re wrong. Proper dating sites not the likes of Tinder, have a pretty even split of genders. The one that rhymes with latch is actually 52% female 48% male.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve actually found them to be pretty good, for me at least! Joined a few weeks ago and have been arranging dates with some lovely gents!

Glad you're having success on them. Deservedly so, because you're really nice and beautiful as well .

Dating sites tend to be much easier for women to use and be successful on. There are many more men willing to meet with women than the other way around

That’s where you’re wrong. Proper dating sites not the likes of Tinder, have a pretty even split of genders. The one that rhymes with latch is actually 52% female 48% male. "

I'm yet to meet a woman who struggled on any dating site, whether it was tinder, OKCupid, Bumble etc. And that was regardless of intention (I.e whether they wanted ONS, FWB or a serious relationship).

Any woman I've known had found dates, a fuck buddy or a boyfriend very very easily.

Could just be me that's getting nothing after months on end, but I'd rather be in your shoes when it comes to dating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve actually found them to be pretty good, for me at least! Joined a few weeks ago and have been arranging dates with some lovely gents!

Glad you're having success on them. Deservedly so, because you're really nice and beautiful as well .

Dating sites tend to be much easier for women to use and be successful on. There are many more men willing to meet with women than the other way around

That’s where you’re wrong. Proper dating sites not the likes of Tinder, have a pretty even split of genders. The one that rhymes with latch is actually 52% female 48% male.

I'm yet to meet a woman who struggled on any dating site, whether it was tinder, OKCupid, Bumble etc. And that was regardless of intention (I.e whether they wanted ONS, FWB or a serious relationship).

Any woman I've known had found dates, a fuck buddy or a boyfriend very very easily.

Could just be me that's getting nothing after months on end, but I'd rather be in your shoes when it comes to dating"

I’d imagine your negativity comes across and that’s putting women off. Even my ex who’s in his 40s did well on dating sites! And most men I know do fine on proper dating sites.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve actually found them to be pretty good, for me at least! Joined a few weeks ago and have been arranging dates with some lovely gents!

Glad you're having success on them. Deservedly so, because you're really nice and beautiful as well .

Dating sites tend to be much easier for women to use and be successful on. There are many more men willing to meet with women than the other way around

That’s where you’re wrong. Proper dating sites not the likes of Tinder, have a pretty even split of genders. The one that rhymes with latch is actually 52% female 48% male.

I'm yet to meet a woman who struggled on any dating site, whether it was tinder, OKCupid, Bumble etc. And that was regardless of intention (I.e whether they wanted ONS, FWB or a serious relationship).

Any woman I've known had found dates, a fuck buddy or a boyfriend very very easily.

Could just be me that's getting nothing after months on end, but I'd rather be in your shoes when it comes to dating

I’d imagine your negativity comes across and that’s putting women off. Even my ex who’s in his 40s did well on dating sites! And most men I know do fine on proper dating sites. "

To be honest, I'm very positive on my profile. I never put anything negative on there. And no one liked or matched with me, so its not like I was negative in chat lol.

Sounding more and more like its just me that's experiencing this. Doesn't say much about my appearance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who wants a date?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve actually found them to be pretty good, for me at least! Joined a few weeks ago and have been arranging dates with some lovely gents!

Glad you're having success on them. Deservedly so, because you're really nice and beautiful as well .

Dating sites tend to be much easier for women to use and be successful on. There are many more men willing to meet with women than the other way around

That’s where you’re wrong. Proper dating sites not the likes of Tinder, have a pretty even split of genders. The one that rhymes with latch is actually 52% female 48% male.

I'm yet to meet a woman who struggled on any dating site, whether it was tinder, OKCupid, Bumble etc. And that was regardless of intention (I.e whether they wanted ONS, FWB or a serious relationship).

Any woman I've known had found dates, a fuck buddy or a boyfriend very very easily.

Could just be me that's getting nothing after months on end, but I'd rather be in your shoes when it comes to dating

I’d imagine your negativity comes across and that’s putting women off. Even my ex who’s in his 40s did well on dating sites! And most men I know do fine on proper dating sites.

To be honest, I'm very positive on my profile. I never put anything negative on there. And no one liked or matched with me, so its not like I was negative in chat lol.

Sounding more and more like its just me that's experiencing this. Doesn't say much about my appearance"

Na it isn’t your looks, like I’ve told you before. You’re a good looking guy. So nope not buying that your looks are stopping you getting dates!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve actually found them to be pretty good, for me at least! Joined a few weeks ago and have been arranging dates with some lovely gents!

Glad you're having success on them. Deservedly so, because you're really nice and beautiful as well .

Dating sites tend to be much easier for women to use and be successful on. There are many more men willing to meet with women than the other way around

That’s where you’re wrong. Proper dating sites not the likes of Tinder, have a pretty even split of genders. The one that rhymes with latch is actually 52% female 48% male.

I'm yet to meet a woman who struggled on any dating site, whether it was tinder, OKCupid, Bumble etc. And that was regardless of intention (I.e whether they wanted ONS, FWB or a serious relationship).

Any woman I've known had found dates, a fuck buddy or a boyfriend very very easily.

Could just be me that's getting nothing after months on end, but I'd rather be in your shoes when it comes to dating

I’d imagine your negativity comes across and that’s putting women off. Even my ex who’s in his 40s did well on dating sites! And most men I know do fine on proper dating sites.

To be honest, I'm very positive on my profile. I never put anything negative on there. And no one liked or matched with me, so its not like I was negative in chat lol.

Sounding more and more like its just me that's experiencing this. Doesn't say much about my appearance

Na it isn’t your looks, like I’ve told you before. You’re a good looking guy. So nope not buying that your looks are stopping you getting dates! "

Appreciate the kind words, but zero interest in 4 months doesn't lie :D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve actually found them to be pretty good, for me at least! Joined a few weeks ago and have been arranging dates with some lovely gents!

Glad you're having success on them. Deservedly so, because you're really nice and beautiful as well .

Dating sites tend to be much easier for women to use and be successful on. There are many more men willing to meet with women than the other way around

That’s where you’re wrong. Proper dating sites not the likes of Tinder, have a pretty even split of genders. The one that rhymes with latch is actually 52% female 48% male.

I'm yet to meet a woman who struggled on any dating site, whether it was tinder, OKCupid, Bumble etc. And that was regardless of intention (I.e whether they wanted ONS, FWB or a serious relationship).

Any woman I've known had found dates, a fuck buddy or a boyfriend very very easily.

Could just be me that's getting nothing after months on end, but I'd rather be in your shoes when it comes to dating

I’d imagine your negativity comes across and that’s putting women off. Even my ex who’s in his 40s did well on dating sites! And most men I know do fine on proper dating sites.

To be honest, I'm very positive on my profile. I never put anything negative on there. And no one liked or matched with me, so its not like I was negative in chat lol.

Sounding more and more like its just me that's experiencing this. Doesn't say much about my appearance

Na it isn’t your looks, like I’ve told you before. You’re a good looking guy. So nope not buying that your looks are stopping you getting dates!

Appreciate the kind words, but zero interest in 4 months doesn't lie :D"

I can guarantee it isn’t your looks, it must be your profile or bio text itself!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve actually found them to be pretty good, for me at least! Joined a few weeks ago and have been arranging dates with some lovely gents!

Glad you're having success on them. Deservedly so, because you're really nice and beautiful as well .

Dating sites tend to be much easier for women to use and be successful on. There are many more men willing to meet with women than the other way around

That’s where you’re wrong. Proper dating sites not the likes of Tinder, have a pretty even split of genders. The one that rhymes with latch is actually 52% female 48% male.

I'm yet to meet a woman who struggled on any dating site, whether it was tinder, OKCupid, Bumble etc. And that was regardless of intention (I.e whether they wanted ONS, FWB or a serious relationship).

Any woman I've known had found dates, a fuck buddy or a boyfriend very very easily.

Could just be me that's getting nothing after months on end, but I'd rather be in your shoes when it comes to dating

I’d imagine your negativity comes across and that’s putting women off. Even my ex who’s in his 40s did well on dating sites! And most men I know do fine on proper dating sites.

To be honest, I'm very positive on my profile. I never put anything negative on there. And no one liked or matched with me, so its not like I was negative in chat lol.

Sounding more and more like its just me that's experiencing this. Doesn't say much about my appearance

Na it isn’t your looks, like I’ve told you before. You’re a good looking guy. So nope not buying that your looks are stopping you getting dates!

Appreciate the kind words, but zero interest in 4 months doesn't lie :D

I can guarantee it isn’t your looks, it must be your profile or bio text itself! "

I can't think of what I put in my bio that would've been so off-putting, especially considering other guys i know who are successful don't even put anything in their bio

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve actually found them to be pretty good, for me at least! Joined a few weeks ago and have been arranging dates with some lovely gents!

Glad you're having success on them. Deservedly so, because you're really nice and beautiful as well .

Dating sites tend to be much easier for women to use and be successful on. There are many more men willing to meet with women than the other way around

That’s where you’re wrong. Proper dating sites not the likes of Tinder, have a pretty even split of genders. The one that rhymes with latch is actually 52% female 48% male.

I'm yet to meet a woman who struggled on any dating site, whether it was tinder, OKCupid, Bumble etc. And that was regardless of intention (I.e whether they wanted ONS, FWB or a serious relationship).

Any woman I've known had found dates, a fuck buddy or a boyfriend very very easily.

Could just be me that's getting nothing after months on end, but I'd rather be in your shoes when it comes to dating"

Absolutely not true. I do struggle wether it’s dating sites or fab. Women do no have it easier just for being women.

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By *ovesebonyladiesMan
over a year ago

Scotland


"Last time I was on Tinder I ended up with a FWB who caught feelings for me

They're not a disease "

Depends what type of person they are lol

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By *_Love_CandyWoman
over a year ago

Greater London

Completely given up on them. But, also, I keep thinking I want a relationship, and then, if I go on a date or two, realise its the last thing I want. Quite happy being single. Will.probably go back to the hell of swiping left/right at some point, and be completely Crushed. Ha!

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By *anLotalMan
over a year ago

Godalming

I made a Tinder a couple of days ago out of curiosity and i'm genuinely curious, have any of you guys actually had a woman message back once you match? interested to know if you ladies have the same problem! maybe they don't like my sly nerdie looks!

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By *_Love_CandyWoman
over a year ago

Greater London


"I made a Tinder a couple of days ago out of curiosity and i'm genuinely curious, have any of you guys actually had a woman message back once you match? interested to know if you ladies have the same problem! maybe they don't like my sly nerdie looks! "

I met my ex on tinder, we dated for 2 years and he introduced me to this lifestyle

Have had plenty of men not reply to me. Just think ppl swipe right, until they run out of likes, and then see who messages them back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met my lovely guy on Tinder, there is a lot of dross on there, take time to read the profiles before swiping left, the more right swipes you do the more chance you will have a match!

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By *mMrbrightside OP   Man
over a year ago

wakefield

Iv had a very similar experience to cammo

Been on bumble a month and had no matches at all, was honest some nice pics and a good write up. It’s a weird but it’s always been like that even when I was on Pof, never been on tinder and I don’t think I will bother either. Maybe my online dating persona isn’t as good as on here or in person

Really nice to see they do work out for some people x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Iv had a very similar experience to cammo

Been on bumble a month and had no matches at all, was honest some nice pics and a good write up "

I'm sure this experience is very common for men. It's something women don't have to go through, so don't expect any empathy.

We just get told it's as difficult for them when it's really not. The proportion of men to women on fab and dating apps mean that there will always be a guy interested in you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Iv had a very similar experience to cammo

Been on bumble a month and had no matches at all, was honest some nice pics and a good write up

I'm sure this experience is very common for men. It's something women don't have to go through, so don't expect any empathy.

We just get told it's as difficult for them when it's really not. The proportion of men to women on fab and dating apps mean that there will always be a guy interested in you "

The mistake you’re both making is choosing dating sites that are predominantly male! Bumble is 80% male and tinder is 75% male. Whereas Match is 52% female and 48% male. Look for dating sites with a more-even split.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"I’ve actually found them to be pretty good, for me at least! Joined a few weeks ago and have been arranging dates with some lovely gents!

Glad you're having success on them. Deservedly so, because you're really nice and beautiful as well .

Dating sites tend to be much easier for women to use and be successful on. There are many more men willing to meet with women than the other way around

That’s where you’re wrong. Proper dating sites not the likes of Tinder, have a pretty even split of genders. The one that rhymes with latch is actually 52% female 48% male.

I'm yet to meet a woman who struggled on any dating site, whether it was tinder, OKCupid, Bumble etc. And that was regardless of intention (I.e whether they wanted ONS, FWB or a serious relationship).

Any woman I've known had found dates, a fuck buddy or a boyfriend very very easily.

Could just be me that's getting nothing after months on end, but I'd rather be in your shoes when it comes to dating"

Most women I know struggle on here and dating sites. They plenty of offers sure, but not from the men they want, and rarely compromise by fucking other men . Men on the other hand….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Iv had a very similar experience to cammo

Been on bumble a month and had no matches at all, was honest some nice pics and a good write up

I'm sure this experience is very common for men. It's something women don't have to go through, so don't expect any empathy.

We just get told it's as difficult for them when it's really not. The proportion of men to women on fab and dating apps mean that there will always be a guy interested in you

The mistake you’re both making is choosing dating sites that are predominantly male! Bumble is 80% male and tinder is 75% male. Whereas Match is 52% female and 48% male. Look for dating sites with a more-even split. "

Bumble is decent as its the woman who makes the 1st move. Good to know she likes what she sees .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have Bumble and Match. I'm not using either at the moment since i relocated, although I probably should have a nosey

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth


"i think in an ideal world all the guys on here including me want a free site where its easy to get sex! maybe call it the carlsberg for sex !!"

At least you're being honest

Unfortunately nobody is entitled to sex, end of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve actually found them to be pretty good, for me at least! Joined a few weeks ago and have been arranging dates with some lovely gents!

Glad you're having success on them. Deservedly so, because you're really nice and beautiful as well .

Dating sites tend to be much easier for women to use and be successful on. There are many more men willing to meet with women than the other way around

That’s where you’re wrong. Proper dating sites not the likes of Tinder, have a pretty even split of genders. The one that rhymes with latch is actually 52% female 48% male.

I'm yet to meet a woman who struggled on any dating site, whether it was tinder, OKCupid, Bumble etc. And that was regardless of intention (I.e whether they wanted ONS, FWB or a serious relationship).

Any woman I've known had found dates, a fuck buddy or a boyfriend very very easily.

Could just be me that's getting nothing after months on end, but I'd rather be in your shoes when it comes to dating"

Ive spoke on tinder and badoo had dates arranged and they have bailed at last minute at ...its really demoralising but its making me think my age group and below possibly more into fab type fun rather than actual dating!...or poss me just giving off wrong vibes God knows its so different than years ago when i last dated x

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By *ichelinstar1Man
over a year ago

Peterborough & North West

These days, most single people are on some form of dating sites. From my experience, deep down, some people use them purely for sex but will never admit it. Hinge is probably the best dating app I have used and PoF being the worst.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath


"I’ve actually found them to be pretty good, for me at least! Joined a few weeks ago and have been arranging dates with some lovely gents!

Glad you're having success on them. Deservedly so, because you're really nice and beautiful as well .

Dating sites tend to be much easier for women to use and be successful on. There are many more men willing to meet with women than the other way around

That’s where you’re wrong. Proper dating sites not the likes of Tinder, have a pretty even split of genders. The one that rhymes with latch is actually 52% female 48% male.

I'm yet to meet a woman who struggled on any dating site, whether it was tinder, OKCupid, Bumble etc. And that was regardless of intention (I.e whether they wanted ONS, FWB or a serious relationship).

Any woman I've known had found dates, a fuck buddy or a boyfriend very very easily.

Could just be me that's getting nothing after months on end, but I'd rather be in your shoes when it comes to dating

Ive spoke on tinder and badoo had dates arranged and they have bailed at last minute at ...its really demoralising but its making me think my age group and below possibly more into fab type fun rather than actual dating!...or poss I just giving off wrong vibes God knows its so different than years ago when i last dated x"

What's your age group? I think the internet has retarded people's social skills of all ages. People just spend all their time at home typing instead of actually having a face-to-face conversation. Humans are not designed generally to live in isolation. Only a few hermits have the mental strength for it. Everyone else usually suffers from this physical disconnection.

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By *ornyvirginphxWoman
over a year ago

phoenix

Have you tried putting the towel pic on there?

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre


"How demoralising are they! Joined last week on one of them and it’s a good job Iv got a thick skin. Thought I’d try and search for a relationship but defo going to be deleting it after the end of the week, not like anyone will notice lol

They want sex but they pretend like they want a relationship.

They want a relationship but they have no idea how to get and keep a relationship.

They want you to do relationship things for them but they are not willing to reciprocate.

Fab is the only place where I can talk about my low libido."

Very true!

Issue is most people nowadays don’t date with intent. Like be intentional about what you are looking for and actually communicate that tot he person you meet. Then you don’t waste time if they aren’t on the same page and filter out those who aren’t a match earlier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The last time I went on a dating site I only lasted 48 hours. Incredibly depressing.

Full of sex starved repressed people who it would be safer for everyone if they stayed single. "

What ... ??! .. more than on here ??? Are you kidding ..lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve actually found them to be pretty good, for me at least! Joined a few weeks ago and have been arranging dates with some lovely gents!

Glad you're having success on them. Deservedly so, because you're really nice and beautiful as well .

Dating sites tend to be much easier for women to use and be successful on. There are many more men willing to meet with women than the other way around

That’s where you’re wrong. Proper dating sites not the likes of Tinder, have a pretty even split of genders. The one that rhymes with latch is actually 52% female 48% male.

I'm yet to meet a woman who struggled on any dating site, whether it was tinder, OKCupid, Bumble etc. And that was regardless of intention (I.e whether they wanted ONS, FWB or a serious relationship).

Any woman I've known had found dates, a fuck buddy or a boyfriend very very easily.

Could just be me that's getting nothing after months on end, but I'd rather be in your shoes when it comes to dating

Ive spoke on tinder and badoo had dates arranged and they have bailed at last minute at ...its really demoralising but its making me think my age group and below possibly more into fab type fun rather than actual dating!...or poss I just giving off wrong vibes God knows its so different than years ago when i last dated x

What's your age group? I think the internet has retarded people's social skills of all ages. People just spend all their time at home typing instead of actually having a face-to-face conversation. Humans are not designed generally to live in isolation. Only a few hermits have the mental strength for it. Everyone else usually suffers from this physical disconnection."

Absolutely correct 100pc. Society desperately needs to push back and ditch online for whole swathes of life. The internet needs taxed like other things inherently bad for society that people are addicted to.

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By *icknmix500Man
over a year ago

South Gloucestershire

There's a lot of lonely people about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve actually found them to be pretty good, for me at least! Joined a few weeks ago and have been arranging dates with some lovely gents!

Glad you're having success on them. Deservedly so, because you're really nice and beautiful as well .

Dating sites tend to be much easier for women to use and be successful on. There are many more men willing to meet with women than the other way around

That’s where you’re wrong. Proper dating sites not the likes of Tinder, have a pretty even split of genders. The one that rhymes with latch is actually 52% female 48% male.

I'm yet to meet a woman who struggled on any dating site, whether it was tinder, OKCupid, Bumble etc. And that was regardless of intention (I.e whether they wanted ONS, FWB or a serious relationship).

Any woman I've known had found dates, a fuck buddy or a boyfriend very very easily.

Could just be me that's getting nothing after months on end, but I'd rather be in your shoes when it comes to dating

Ive spoke on tinder and badoo had dates arranged and they have bailed at last minute at ...its really demoralising but its making me think my age group and below possibly more into fab type fun rather than actual dating!...or poss I just giving off wrong vibes God knows its so different than years ago when i last dated x

What's your age group? I think the internet has retarded people's social skills of all ages. People just spend all their time at home typing instead of actually having a face-to-face conversation. Humans are not designed generally to live in isolation. Only a few hermits have the mental strength for it. Everyone else usually suffers from this physical disconnection."

I agree with you art of face to face conversation dying out due to looking at screens!! Or all most comfortable with is online chat..(poss married men).. My age group?? is my age 39 upwards..down to 35 on dating sites...im actually quite old fashioned at heart maybe puts people off X

Fab can fill a void for a while

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By *unkerbobMan
over a year ago

belfast


"There's a lot of lonely people about "
there is also a lot of sick sad and Fat people about too??????????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been on and off them for years (when single). And they have gotten worse over time for sure. Essentially used as an ego booster for most.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

In past I've had dates made very good friends on a dating site few relationships. purely if used would be just the norm no expectations I don't go looking for a relationship growing friends is unbeatable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They can be really stressful but also can be fun.

I'm struggling to find dates that want to swing. Everyone seems up for a threesome here and there until it gets serious and then they want monogamy.

Why is it so hard to find a guy who wants a relationship but also wants to carry on dating others? At least he wouldn't have to sneak around or lie about it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They can be really stressful but also can be fun.

I'm struggling to find dates that want to swing. Everyone seems up for a threesome here and there until it gets serious and then they want monogamy.

Why is it so hard to find a guy who wants a relationship but also wants to carry on dating others? At least he wouldn't have to sneak around or lie about it!"

That's what I've been looking for on fab..even here no avail

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By *ackandtheunicornCouple
over a year ago

liverpool


"They can be really stressful but also can be fun.

I'm struggling to find dates that want to swing. Everyone seems up for a threesome here and there until it gets serious and then they want monogamy.

Why is it so hard to find a guy who wants a relationship but also wants to carry on dating others? At least he wouldn't have to sneak around or lie about it!"

I found OKcupid really good for finding people open to this kind of thing. But does seem lots of people like the idea but can't deal with the reality.

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

I know people for whom dating sites have worked wonders, lots of meets and casual sex and the occasional relationship.

I however can't even get a match let alone a conversation or date on any of the apps. I wholeheartedly understand I'm the common denominator throughout it all and in that they can be pretty depressing.

It's Friday night woooo!!!

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By *ixen13Woman
over a year ago

Cowdenbeath


"Maybe I was born on the wrong decade, but dating is just weird now. I've done the PoF bit, and the Tinder bit, with little success. Like I've had matches, yes I've had dates and even a couple of relationships that have ended for one reason or another. The whole concept of dating now though, everyone seems to have a dozen folk on the go at once, nothing is "exclusive". Maybe a weird concept when on Fab, but if I'm dating someone, I ain't shagging them on day one, and when the relationship progresses to that point, I'd kinda have hoped they weren't shagging three other folk that same week? Even if there was in interest as a couple to start swinging, shouldn't the relationship be solid before inviting other people into bed or consensually playing away? Nah, fuck that. It's bloody lonely at times, but I'll stick to being single and having my dog for company."

I totally agree with all of this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe I was born on the wrong decade, but dating is just weird now. I've done the PoF bit, and the Tinder bit, with little success. Like I've had matches, yes I've had dates and even a couple of relationships that have ended for one reason or another. The whole concept of dating now though, everyone seems to have a dozen folk on the go at once, nothing is "exclusive". Maybe a weird concept when on Fab, but if I'm dating someone, I ain't shagging them on day one, and when the relationship progresses to that point, I'd kinda have hoped they weren't shagging three other folk that same week? Even if there was in interest as a couple to start swinging, shouldn't the relationship be solid before inviting other people into bed or consensually playing away? Nah, fuck that. It's bloody lonely at times, but I'll stick to being single and having my dog for company."

ah kindred spirit here x you are so right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They can be really stressful but also can be fun.

I'm struggling to find dates that want to swing. Everyone seems up for a threesome here and there until it gets serious and then they want monogamy.

Why is it so hard to find a guy who wants a relationship but also wants to carry on dating others? At least he wouldn't have to sneak around or lie about it!

That's what I've been looking for on fab..even here no avail "

That's a shame. Hopefully you find it soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They can be really stressful but also can be fun.

I'm struggling to find dates that want to swing. Everyone seems up for a threesome here and there until it gets serious and then they want monogamy.

Why is it so hard to find a guy who wants a relationship but also wants to carry on dating others? At least he wouldn't have to sneak around or lie about it!

I found OKcupid really good for finding people open to this kind of thing. But does seem lots of people like the idea but can't deal with the reality. "

I am finding that too. They think it sounds great but get jealous if you act on it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How demoralising are they! Joined last week on one of them and it’s a good job Iv got a thick skin. Thought I’d try and search for a relationship but defo going to be deleting it after the end of the week, not like anyone will notice lol"

I once created a fake profile on Tinder to see what all the fuss was about, and deleted it within an hour J (Mr) has experience of online dating apps, but I’ve never done anything like it until Fab. I like it here on Fab because it’s (generally) a community of like-minded people that I never realised existed until I got to know J. I’m not cut out for the cut-throat world of vanilla online dating

F (Mrs)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve just ended a 6 week subscription with the other site I use, and have 3 ladies I’m getting to know as a result, one of whom I am particularly keen on…..

The irony is; I went back in there because Fab had become so flat for me…..? We’ll see how it goes anyway "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve just ended a 6 week subscription with the other site I use, and have 3 ladies I’m getting to know as a result, one of whom I am particularly keen on…..

The irony is; I went back in there because Fab had become so flat for me…..? We’ll see how it goes anyway "

Have to agree, I have way more luck on Tinder than on this site.

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By *ovesebonyladiesMan
over a year ago

Scotland


"I’ve actually found them to be pretty good, for me at least! Joined a few weeks ago and have been arranging dates with some lovely gents! "

Aye I can see why .. ur stunning x

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Online dating sites like Tinder, POF etc are useless for men unless you're in that top 10-15%. If not, you might as well be invisible.

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By *ingle_docMan
over a year ago

Oxford


"Online dating sites like Tinder, POF etc are useless for men unless you're in that top 10-15%. If not, you might as well be invisible. "

Top 10-15%? Trying to rank myself now and realising I mustn’t be……

Currently looking for a woman who wants a swinging / kinky relationship, but similar to most men having zero luck on the mainstream apps. Trying Feeld at the minute and I’m sure most of the female profiles are fake.

We need a dating section of fab!

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By *iss pleasuringWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near

Alot of these dating apps are over run with OF profiles

What's happened to the old best way and actually going out n meeting people in pubs, cafes or else where

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"The last time I went on a dating site I only lasted 48 hours. Incredibly depressing.

Full of sex starved repressed people who it would be safer for everyone if they stayed single. "

I think half of fab single men are on them sites too. Some are on there to see how desirable they are, others because they are genuinely lonely. I love to have someone special but understands and enjoys the kink world

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Online dating sites like Tinder, POF etc are useless for men unless you're in that top 10-15%. If not, you might as well be invisible.

Top 10-15%? Trying to rank myself now and realising I mustn’t be……

Currently looking for a woman who wants a swinging / kinky relationship, but similar to most men having zero luck on the mainstream apps. Trying Feeld at the minute and I’m sure most of the female profiles are fake.

We need a dating section of fab!

"

I tried that site and was banned within 24 hrs of being on it. Just thought my fab pics will do but obviously no semi nude pics allowed even though i thought it was a kinky dating site?

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By *risxbrisxMan
over a year ago

Bristol


"The last time I went on a dating site I only lasted 48 hours. Incredibly depressing.

Full of sex starved repressed people who it would be safer for everyone if they stayed single.

I think half of fab single men are on them sites too. Some are on there to see how desirable they are, others because they are genuinely lonely. I love to have someone special but understands and enjoys the kink world "

Sameeeeee

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By *ingle_docMan
over a year ago

Oxford


"

I tried that site and was banned within 24 hrs of being on it. Just thought my fab pics will do but obviously no semi nude pics allowed even though i thought it was a kinky dating site? "

I’m not sure it is, really…. It’s a shame, because they are wonderful pictures

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"

If you are looking for a real relationship then Tinder probably isn't the place to look.

That's the opposite to what I've found... The women I match with and the one girl I actually met with in person all want a pukka relationship not something casual! I must be doing something wrong... "

I think it's a general attitude from most woman is to find someone special. If you want casual one nighters, clubs and fab be a better place for that. When I go on dating sites, I go under the intention of finding someone special. When I go on fab, I know most men are here to play and have a good time so I don't have expectations of them falling in love with me. But ideally a kinky bf would be fab

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By *mMrbrightside OP   Man
over a year ago

wakefield


"

If you are looking for a real relationship then Tinder probably isn't the place to look.

That's the opposite to what I've found... The women I match with and the one girl I actually met with in person all want a pukka relationship not something casual! I must be doing something wrong...

I think it's a general attitude from most woman is to find someone special. If you want casual one nighters, clubs and fab be a better place for that. When I go on dating sites, I go under the intention of finding someone special. When I go on fab, I know most men are here to play and have a good time so I don't have expectations of them falling in love with me. But ideally a kinky bf would be fab "

I don’t think that’s just a generalisation of what women want, a lot of men want the same.

A kinky gf would be really cool x

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By *ingle_docMan
over a year ago

Oxford


"I think it's a general attitude from most woman is to find someone special. If you want casual one nighters, clubs and fab be a better place for that. When I go on dating sites, I go under the intention of finding someone special. When I go on fab, I know most men are here to play and have a good time so I don't have expectations of them falling in love with me. But ideally a kinky bf would be fab "

I was talking about this with someone this morning; it seems that the sites make the two things mutually exclusive, ie you either want a vanilla relationship or kinky NSA fun. That's a massive over generalisation, of course. I met my ex (who introduced me to polyamory and group fun) on tinder, but I think that was just luck.

I get the feeling that any time a man mentions anything to do with sex on their dating profile, they get labelled as a desperate loser.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

If you are looking for a real relationship then Tinder probably isn't the place to look.

That's the opposite to what I've found... The women I match with and the one girl I actually met with in person all want a pukka relationship not something casual! I must be doing something wrong...

I think it's a general attitude from most woman is to find someone special. If you want casual one nighters, clubs and fab be a better place for that. When I go on dating sites, I go under the intention of finding someone special. When I go on fab, I know most men are here to play and have a good time so I don't have expectations of them falling in love with me. But ideally a kinky bf would be fab

I don’t think that’s just a generalisation of what women want, a lot of men want the same.

A kinky gf would be really cool x"

This is very refreshing to read as experience tells that men usually are not looking for this or just pretend they do to get in your pants

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

If you are looking for a real relationship then Tinder probably isn't the place to look.

That's the opposite to what I've found... The women I match with and the one girl I actually met with in person all want a pukka relationship not something casual! I must be doing something wrong...

I think it's a general attitude from most woman is to find someone special. If you want casual one nighters, clubs and fab be a better place for that. When I go on dating sites, I go under the intention of finding someone special. When I go on fab, I know most men are here to play and have a good time so I don't have expectations of them falling in love with me. But ideally a kinky bf would be fab

I don’t think that’s just a generalisation of what women want, a lot of men want the same.

A kinky gf would be really cool x

This is very refreshing to read as experience tells that men usually are not looking for this or just pretend they do to get in your pants "

Men want to fuck the kinky women but marry the vanilla good girls. Then they cry when their 'vanilla' wife won't fuck them so they come on here looking for the kinky women.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

If you are looking for a real relationship then Tinder probably isn't the place to look.

That's the opposite to what I've found... The women I match with and the one girl I actually met with in person all want a pukka relationship not something casual! I must be doing something wrong...

I think it's a general attitude from most woman is to find someone special. If you want casual one nighters, clubs and fab be a better place for that. When I go on dating sites, I go under the intention of finding someone special. When I go on fab, I know most men are here to play and have a good time so I don't have expectations of them falling in love with me. But ideally a kinky bf would be fab

I don’t think that’s just a generalisation of what women want, a lot of men want the same.

A kinky gf would be really cool x

This is very refreshing to read as experience tells that men usually are not looking for this or just pretend they do to get in your pants

Men want to fuck the kinky women but marry the vanilla good girls. Then they cry when their 'vanilla' wife won't fuck them so they come on here looking for the kinky women....."

The cycle of life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

If you are looking for a real relationship then Tinder probably isn't the place to look.

That's the opposite to what I've found... The women I match with and the one girl I actually met with in person all want a pukka relationship not something casual! I must be doing something wrong...

I think it's a general attitude from most woman is to find someone special. If you want casual one nighters, clubs and fab be a better place for that. When I go on dating sites, I go under the intention of finding someone special. When I go on fab, I know most men are here to play and have a good time so I don't have expectations of them falling in love with me. But ideally a kinky bf would be fab

I don’t think that’s just a generalisation of what women want, a lot of men want the same.

A kinky gf would be really cool x

This is very refreshing to read as experience tells that men usually are not looking for this or just pretend they do to get in your pants

Men want to fuck the kinky women but marry the vanilla good girls. Then they cry when their 'vanilla' wife won't fuck them so they come on here looking for the kinky women.....

The cycle of life "

They should make a Disney film about it.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Alot of these dating apps are over run with OF profiles

What's happened to the old best way and actually going out n meeting people in pubs, cafes or else where

"

There was this thing called coronavirus got in the way of that over the last couple of years, and people haven’t really got over it yet. It’s far too easy to set up a profile online, then cast your worm out on a hook virtually…..

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By *ichelinstar1Man
over a year ago

Peterborough & North West


"

If you are looking for a real relationship then Tinder probably isn't the place to look.

That's the opposite to what I've found... The women I match with and the one girl I actually met with in person all want a pukka relationship not something casual! I must be doing something wrong...

I think it's a general attitude from most woman is to find someone special. If you want casual one nighters, clubs and fab be a better place for that. When I go on dating sites, I go under the intention of finding someone special. When I go on fab, I know most men are here to play and have a good time so I don't have expectations of them falling in love with me. But ideally a kinky bf would be fab

I don’t think that’s just a generalisation of what women want, a lot of men want the same.

A kinky gf would be really cool x

This is very refreshing to read as experience tells that men usually are not looking for this or just pretend they do to get in your pants

Men want to fuck the kinky women but marry the vanilla good girls. Then they cry when their 'vanilla' wife won't fuck them so they come on here looking for the kinky women.....

The cycle of life

They should make a Disney film about it. "

This is far too common!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tried the dating apps, it's just fill of guys wanting sex.

At least on here people are upfront about that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

If you are looking for a real relationship then Tinder probably isn't the place to look.

That's the opposite to what I've found... The women I match with and the one girl I actually met with in person all want a pukka relationship not something casual! I must be doing something wrong...

I think it's a general attitude from most woman is to find someone special. If you want casual one nighters, clubs and fab be a better place for that. When I go on dating sites, I go under the intention of finding someone special. When I go on fab, I know most men are here to play and have a good time so I don't have expectations of them falling in love with me. But ideally a kinky bf would be fab

I don’t think that’s just a generalisation of what women want, a lot of men want the same.

A kinky gf would be really cool x

This is very refreshing to read as experience tells that men usually are not looking for this or just pretend they do to get in your pants

Men want to fuck the kinky women but marry the vanilla good girls. Then they cry when their 'vanilla' wife won't fuck them so they come on here looking for the kinky women.....

The cycle of life

They should make a Disney film about it.

This is far too common!!!!"

Disney films? Or men who are too scared and uptight to marry women who like sex?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

If you are looking for a real relationship then Tinder probably isn't the place to look.

That's the opposite to what I've found... The women I match with and the one girl I actually met with in person all want a pukka relationship not something casual! I must be doing something wrong...

I think it's a general attitude from most woman is to find someone special. If you want casual one nighters, clubs and fab be a better place for that. When I go on dating sites, I go under the intention of finding someone special. When I go on fab, I know most men are here to play and have a good time so I don't have expectations of them falling in love with me. But ideally a kinky bf would be fab

I don’t think that’s just a generalisation of what women want, a lot of men want the same.

A kinky gf would be really cool x

This is very refreshing to read as experience tells that men usually are not looking for this or just pretend they do to get in your pants

Men want to fuck the kinky women but marry the vanilla good girls. Then they cry when their 'vanilla' wife won't fuck them so they come on here looking for the kinky women.....

The cycle of life

They should make a Disney film about it. "

Adult Disney films

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

Majority of men I’ve met on dating apps also happen to be (secretly) here as well

Hello boys!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Majority of men I’ve met on dating apps also happen to be (secretly) here as well

Hello boys!"

I was in here before I tried a dating site. Like the Op. I deleted that, and stayed here.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"Majority of men I’ve met on dating apps also happen to be (secretly) here as well

Hello boys!"

Was on a couple. Bloody awful

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever


"Majority of men I’ve met on dating apps also happen to be (secretly) here as well

Hello boys!

Was on a couple. Bloody awful "

I like more on here!

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By *mMrbrightside OP   Man
over a year ago

wakefield

Some really good thought provoking comments recently on the subject

Aren’t we all wanting sex wether it be on a dating site or on here?

I think a dating site is obviously meant for a fixed non monogamous relationship wether it be with someone vanilla or otherwise. My last serious relationship was from Pof (it’s crap now) we had a great kinky relationship together and then months into the relationship got d*unk and started talking and ended up swinging together.

I don’t think you can generalise that dating sites are for vanilla and here isn’t or vice versa

I’d like to find a relationship wether it be solely together as a team or whatever guise it takes would be up for discussion x

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Nope as half of the men I met on dating sites, I met on fab so majority of them are on both.But i had a slanging match with a few men on dating sites about non vanilla dating. Where you would never get that kind of conversation on fab. Plus big bonus is seeing them naked and cock out without generally asking. If only fab had an official dating session. We been asking for ages for this.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Majority of men I’ve met on dating apps also happen to be (secretly) here as well

Hello boys!"

Yeah i met afew of them lol

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever


"Majority of men I’ve met on dating apps also happen to be (secretly) here as well

Hello boys!

Yeah i met afew of them lol "

Me too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Majority of men I’ve met on dating apps also happen to be (secretly) here as well

Hello boys!"

I've found the same with women

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever


"Majority of men I’ve met on dating apps also happen to be (secretly) here as well

Hello boys!

I've found the same with women "

I’m not surprised, I’m one of them!

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Majority of men I’ve met on dating apps also happen to be (secretly) here as well

Hello boys!

I've found the same with women "

Yup me too i use dating sites too but find having fab talk awkward

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside


"Definitely can relate to people’s experiences. I didn’t think I was that bad looking “no Tom Cruise but defo not Sloth from the goonies” since joining haven’t had one match. Think I might be better just staying on here and getting a dog for company lol"

Maybe the dog thing is not so bad an idea.

Our friend went along to the local RSPCA dog rescue centre, didn't want a full time dog due to busy work life so offered to walk the dogs with the other volunteers.

Met the most caring, wonderful, beautiful lady there.

Nothing full on at first, just a gradual build up of friendliness over their shared common ground of a love of animals and the act of showing compassion and giving.

Can't get enough of each other now.

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By *mMrbrightside OP   Man
over a year ago

wakefield


"Majority of men I’ve met on dating apps also happen to be (secretly) here as well

Hello boys!

I've found the same with women

Yup me too i use dating sites too but find having fab talk awkward "

What do you mean fab talk and why’s it awkward

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

I just find most of the same people from fab on whatever dating site I look at generally. It’s amusing for sure

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I seem to be matching with lots of women on Bumble. I’m honest with them about what I’m looking for. Most thank me for my honestly. The odd one will delete me. The odd one will progress to a date, when it turns out, surprise surprise that they are happy for something more casual too.

At least I’m not leading them into thinking they are going to get something they are not.

I think for my age group Tinder isn’t the Instashag that many people would have you believe.

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By *mMrbrightside OP   Man
over a year ago

wakefield


"I seem to be matching with lots of women on Bumble. I’m honest with them about what I’m looking for. Most thank me for my honestly. The odd one will delete me. The odd one will progress to a date, when it turns out, surprise surprise that they are happy for something more casual too.

At least I’m not leading them into thinking they are going to get something they are not.

I think for my age group Tinder isn’t the Instashag that many people would have you believe. "

Have to tel us your secret then mate as it’s dead as feck for me on there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How demoralising are they! Joined last week on one of them and it’s a good job Iv got a thick skin. Thought I’d try and search for a relationship but defo going to be deleting it after the end of the week, not like anyone will notice lol"

It's worse here .. very much worse. I get a lot of chat on dating sites but very little on here. Think it's very much that a lot of women profiles on here have zero intention of meeting and are just loving the attention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I seem to be matching with lots of women on Bumble. I’m honest with them about what I’m looking for. Most thank me for my honestly. The odd one will delete me. The odd one will progress to a date, when it turns out, surprise surprise that they are happy for something more casual too.

At least I’m not leading them into thinking they are going to get something they are not.

I think for my age group Tinder isn’t the Instashag that many people would have you believe. "

Bumble used to be good but it's dead now. Tinder is more mainstream now .. it's the go to dating app so nothing like the 'shag app' it got a reputation for in the early days. Facebook dating has more of the casual thing going on now ..

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By *mMrbrightside OP   Man
over a year ago

wakefield

I deleted bumble last night, complete waste of time.

Wether I’m swiping right on the wrong people or playing outside my league as it were i only matches once with someone. Weirdly the same person 3 times and she just kept deleting the match lol

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire


"I deleted bumble last night, complete waste of time.

Wether I’m swiping right on the wrong people or playing outside my league as it were i only matches once with someone. Weirdly the same person 3 times and she just kept deleting the match lol"

I always found Hinge to be the best (of a bad bunch).

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley


"Online dating sites like Tinder, POF etc are useless for men unless you're in that top 10-15%. If not, you might as well be invisible. "

Guess I must be in that top tier, then, as I have always done well with far more than 10-15% of the women I've met up with from PoF.

Not needed to look on any other sites for nookie, particularly here.

The old free ad papers with a box number used to be good. Never even bothered to write to women, they wrote to me.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I seem to be matching with lots of women on Bumble. I’m honest with them about what I’m looking for. Most thank me for my honestly. The odd one will delete me. The odd one will progress to a date, when it turns out, surprise surprise that they are happy for something more casual too.

At least I’m not leading them into thinking they are going to get something they are not.

I think for my age group Tinder isn’t the Instashag that many people would have you believe.

Bumble used to be good but it's dead now. Tinder is more mainstream now .. it's the go to dating app so nothing like the 'shag app' it got a reputation for in the early days. Facebook dating has more of the casual thing going on now .. "

I never tried fb. Bumble i get tons of matches, alot of small talk but only 1 date came from it and i found out he was on fab anyways.

Tinder, noone really talks. Had plenty dates pre covid and again the men i met, half of them were on fab lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Online dating sites like Tinder, POF etc are useless for men unless you're in that top 10-15%. If not, you might as well be invisible.

Top 10-15%? Trying to rank myself now and realising I mustn’t be……

Currently looking for a woman who wants a swinging / kinky relationship, but similar to most men having zero luck on the mainstream apps. Trying Feeld at the minute and I’m sure most of the female profiles are fake.

We need a dating section of fab!

"

I very randomly got to know Mr on Snapchat, we know some of the same people, and the intention from my point of view was just getting to know new people after coming out of an abusive relationship. Wasn't specifically interested in finding anyone. Turns out that both of us were interested in the swinging scene and kink, and tbh we haven't looked back - it's literally a dream come true. So hang in there, women like us are out there in the most unexpected of places (I'm considered boring and too sensible in real life...I'd love to see people's faces if they knew what I got up to haha)

Mrs

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By *exhillboyMan
over a year ago

Pevensey

I wont name names and embarrass people but there is a lady on this thread who is moaning and groaning that she cant meet any decent people, I took a look at her profile just out of curiosity and here are the findings

She is a gay woman in her 50s

Her entire profile description is the full lyrics of Abbas Tragedy (not a single thing about who she is or what she likes)

she has an acceptable age range of 2 years (and that range is 13 years younger than she is)

She has no interests listed at all

Cannot accommodate

Cannot Travel

How do people realistically expect to meet anyone when they are specific and unreasonable in their expectations but tell absolutely zero about themselves or their interests?

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By *ilkchocolate87Man
over a year ago

sw london

Pof haha those were the days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Online dating sites like Tinder, POF etc are useless for men unless you're in that top 10-15%. If not, you might as well be invisible.

Top 10-15%? Trying to rank myself now and realising I mustn’t be……

Currently looking for a woman who wants a swinging / kinky relationship, but similar to most men having zero luck on the mainstream apps. Trying Feeld at the minute and I’m sure most of the female profiles are fake.

We need a dating section of fab!

I very randomly got to know Mr on Snapchat, we know some of the same people, and the intention from my point of view was just getting to know new people after coming out of an abusive relationship. Wasn't specifically interested in finding anyone. Turns out that both of us were interested in the swinging scene and kink, and tbh we haven't looked back - it's literally a dream come true. So hang in there, women like us are out there in the most unexpected of places (I'm considered boring and too sensible in real life...I'd love to see people's faces if they knew what I got up to haha)

Mrs"

Fascinating and encouraging story, Mrs Adventurous_two!

I come across as sensible, cautious, and serious in real life too. People would be surprised by my wild side if they knew what I was up to

I find the ladies on traditional dating sites too conventional and vanilla. I wish there was a dating site with FS folks and/or section of FS devoted to swingles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Online dating sites like Tinder, POF etc are useless for men unless you're in that top 10-15%. If not, you might as well be invisible.

Top 10-15%? Trying to rank myself now and realising I mustn’t be……

Currently looking for a woman who wants a swinging / kinky relationship, but similar to most men having zero luck on the mainstream apps. Trying Feeld at the minute and I’m sure most of the female profiles are fake.

We need a dating section of fab!

I tried that site and was banned within 24 hrs of being on it. Just thought my fab pics will do but obviously no semi nude pics allowed even though i thought it was a kinky dating site? "

That was my experience on Feeld too. Seems like a promising dating site for open-minded folks, but their pics policy is rather stifling… and there are quite a few fakes.

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes


"Online dating sites like Tinder, POF etc are useless for men unless you're in that top 10-15%. If not, you might as well be invisible.

Top 10-15%? Trying to rank myself now and realising I mustn’t be……

Currently looking for a woman who wants a swinging / kinky relationship, but similar to most men having zero luck on the mainstream apps. Trying Feeld at the minute and I’m sure most of the female profiles are fake.

We need a dating section of fab!

I tried that site and was banned within 24 hrs of being on it. Just thought my fab pics will do but obviously no semi nude pics allowed even though i thought it was a kinky dating site?

That was my experience on Feeld too. Seems like a promising dating site for open-minded folks, but their pics policy is rather stifling… and there are quite a few fakes."

There's fakes on every dating sites to be fair. Not quite sure the mentality of it though but I suppose gotta get your kicks from somewhere

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Online dating sites like Tinder, POF etc are useless for men unless you're in that top 10-15%. If not, you might as well be invisible.

Top 10-15%? Trying to rank myself now and realising I mustn’t be……

Currently looking for a woman who wants a swinging / kinky relationship, but similar to most men having zero luck on the mainstream apps. Trying Feeld at the minute and I’m sure most of the female profiles are fake.

We need a dating section of fab!

I tried that site and was banned within 24 hrs of being on it. Just thought my fab pics will do but obviously no semi nude pics allowed even though i thought it was a kinky dating site?

That was my experience on Feeld too. Seems like a promising dating site for open-minded folks, but their pics policy is rather stifling… and there are quite a few fakes.

There's fakes on every dating sites to be fair. Not quite sure the mentality of it though but I suppose gotta get your kicks from somewhere "

There's also timewasters too on every site. Best just choose one with the most activity which for me is fab

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes


"Online dating sites like Tinder, POF etc are useless for men unless you're in that top 10-15%. If not, you might as well be invisible.

Top 10-15%? Trying to rank myself now and realising I mustn’t be……

Currently looking for a woman who wants a swinging / kinky relationship, but similar to most men having zero luck on the mainstream apps. Trying Feeld at the minute and I’m sure most of the female profiles are fake.

We need a dating section of fab!

I tried that site and was banned within 24 hrs of being on it. Just thought my fab pics will do but obviously no semi nude pics allowed even though i thought it was a kinky dating site?

That was my experience on Feeld too. Seems like a promising dating site for open-minded folks, but their pics policy is rather stifling… and there are quite a few fakes.

There's fakes on every dating sites to be fair. Not quite sure the mentality of it though but I suppose gotta get your kicks from somewhere

There's also timewasters too on every site. Best just choose one with the most activity which for me is fab"

Yeah I get that. On dating sites, you chat to people to get to know them and it just fizzles out and they stop replying. I get people have busy lives but when you haven't heard from them in weeks but you get notifications they are changing their pics around lol

Don't get me started when I even suggested the dreaded 'C' word lol mention meeting for a coffee and they run a mile lol

Seriously it's a strange new world out there thats for sure. Not giving up though. I'm sure my lobster is out there somewhere lol

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over a year ago


"I wont name names and embarrass people but there is a lady on this thread who is moaning and groaning that she cant meet any decent people, I took a look at her profile just out of curiosity and here are the findings

She is a gay woman in her 50s

Her entire profile description is the full lyrics of Abbas Tragedy (not a single thing about who she is or what she likes)

she has an acceptable age range of 2 years (and that range is 13 years younger than she is)

She has no interests listed at all

Cannot accommodate

Cannot Travel

How do people realistically expect to meet anyone when they are specific and unreasonable in their expectations but tell absolutely zero about themselves or their interests?"

Aww did she turn you down?

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth


"I wont name names and embarrass people but there is a lady on this thread who is moaning and groaning that she cant meet any decent people, I took a look at her profile just out of curiosity and here are the findings

She is a gay woman in her 50s

Her entire profile description is the full lyrics of Abbas Tragedy (not a single thing about who she is or what she likes)

she has an acceptable age range of 2 years (and that range is 13 years younger than she is)

She has no interests listed at all

Cannot accommodate

Cannot Travel

How do people realistically expect to meet anyone when they are specific and unreasonable in their expectations but tell absolutely zero about themselves or their interests?"

It means she won't get bombarded and can have a far better fab experience, I imagine! We have quite a detailed profile but we've still had to work to find the right people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I on them fine them very difficult

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I on them fine them very difficult"

More so than on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes this site is the hardest mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Online dating sites like Tinder, POF etc are useless for men unless you're in that top 10-15%. If not, you might as well be invisible.

Top 10-15%? Trying to rank myself now and realising I mustn’t be……

Currently looking for a woman who wants a swinging / kinky relationship, but similar to most men having zero luck on the mainstream apps. Trying Feeld at the minute and I’m sure most of the female profiles are fake.

We need a dating section of fab!

I very randomly got to know Mr on Snapchat, we know some of the same people, and the intention from my point of view was just getting to know new people after coming out of an abusive relationship. Wasn't specifically interested in finding anyone. Turns out that both of us were interested in the swinging scene and kink, and tbh we haven't looked back - it's literally a dream come true. So hang in there, women like us are out there in the most unexpected of places (I'm considered boring and too sensible in real life...I'd love to see people's faces if they knew what I got up to haha)

Mrs

Fascinating and encouraging story, Mrs Adventurous_two!

I come across as sensible, cautious, and serious in real life too. People would be surprised by my wild side if they knew what I was up to

I find the ladies on traditional dating sites too conventional and vanilla. I wish there was a dating site with FS folks and/or section of FS devoted to swingles. "

In all honesty, if things didn't work out with me and Mr I wouldn't hesitate to come back on here as a single. I don't think I could ever go near a vanilla site after Fab lol

Mrs

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield


"I seem to be matching with lots of women on Bumble. I’m honest with them about what I’m looking for. Most thank me for my honestly. The odd one will delete me. The odd one will progress to a date, when it turns out, surprise surprise that they are happy for something more casual too.

At least I’m not leading them into thinking they are going to get something they are not.

I think for my age group Tinder isn’t the Instashag that many people would have you believe.

Have to tel us your secret then mate as it’s dead as feck for me on there!"

I don’t know. It went a bit mad in the summer for a week. Again in September and again recently. No idea why?

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By *mMrbrightside OP   Man
over a year ago

wakefield

It’s all a mindfuck if you ask me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a fascinating discussion by Scott Galloway on how dating sites are ruining a generation of young men and negatively impacting society as a whole, it's worth a Google and watch, but it goes something like this....

Statistically on dating sites, something like 80% of women focus their attention on 20% of men, leaving the remaining 80% of men vying for the attention of just 20% of those women.

Of those 80% of men, due to the sheer number of messages the remaining 20% of women receive, only around 10% will get a reply.

So overall something like 30% or so of men on there will have any success and 70% will be left out in the cold.

This is actually a bad thing for society as it means that 1 - people aren't getting together as much and genuinely the birth rate goes down, and 2 - society has an increase of young, single, rejected and frustrated men. This can lead to all sorts of society issues, like the rise of the incel movement and a decline in the labour market (settled couples are statistically more productive and stable). Young, single, rejected, frustrated and lonely men are generally bad for society.....sorry that might sound harsh, but from an objective point of view, it's correct.

It used to be that how people met was around 30% through work, 30% through mutual friends and 30% through social activities, but now online dating is more than 50%.

So when you add it all up, what do you get, a messed up relationship environment for when people are young and should be dating, meeting new people, settling down, having babies, etc.

Essentially, for both the large percentage of guys (around 70%) and society as while - dating sites are toxic.

Hope that all makes sense, it's early and I've only had 1 cup of tea!!x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's a fascinating discussion by Scott Galloway on how dating sites are ruining a generation of young men and negatively impacting society as a whole, it's worth a Google and watch, but it goes something like this....

Statistically on dating sites, something like 80% of women focus their attention on 20% of men, leaving the remaining 80% of men vying for the attention of just 20% of those women.

Of those 80% of men, due to the sheer number of messages the remaining 20% of women receive, only around 10% will get a reply.

So overall something like 30% or so of men on there will have any success and 70% will be left out in the cold.

This is actually a bad thing for society as it means that 1 - people aren't getting together as much and genuinely the birth rate goes down, and 2 - society has an increase of young, single, rejected and frustrated men. This can lead to all sorts of society issues, like the rise of the incel movement and a decline in the labour market (settled couples are statistically more productive and stable). Young, single, rejected, frustrated and lonely men are generally bad for society.....sorry that might sound harsh, but from an objective point of view, it's correct.

It used to be that how people met was around 30% through work, 30% through mutual friends and 30% through social activities, but now online dating is more than 50%.

So when you add it all up, what do you get, a messed up relationship environment for when people are young and should be dating, meeting new people, settling down, having babies, etc.

***Essentially, for both the large percentage of guys (around 70%) and society as while - dating sites are toxic.***

Hope that all makes sense, it's early and I've only had 1 cup of tea!!x

"

It makes sense to me.

***

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Online dating sites like Tinder, POF etc are useless for men unless you're in that top 10-15%. If not, you might as well be invisible.

Top 10-15%? Trying to rank myself now and realising I mustn’t be……

Currently looking for a woman who wants a swinging / kinky relationship, but similar to most men having zero luck on the mainstream apps. Trying Feeld at the minute and I’m sure most of the female profiles are fake.

We need a dating section of fab!

I very randomly got to know Mr on Snapchat, we know some of the same people, and the intention from my point of view was just getting to know new people after coming out of an abusive relationship. Wasn't specifically interested in finding anyone. Turns out that both of us were interested in the swinging scene and kink, and tbh we haven't looked back - it's literally a dream come true. So hang in there, women like us are out there in the most unexpected of places (I'm considered boring and too sensible in real life...I'd love to see people's faces if they knew what I got up to haha)

Mrs

Fascinating and encouraging story, Mrs Adventurous_two!

I come across as sensible, cautious, and serious in real life too. People would be surprised by my wild side if they knew what I was up to

I find the ladies on traditional dating sites too conventional and vanilla. I wish there was a dating site with FS folks and/or section of FS devoted to swingles.

In all honesty, if things didn't work out with me and Mr I wouldn't hesitate to come back on here as a single. I don't think I could ever go near a vanilla site after Fab lol

Mrs"

Now with experience with both. I wana stick to fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's a fascinating discussion by Scott Galloway on how dating sites are ruining a generation of young men and negatively impacting society as a whole, it's worth a Google and watch, but it goes something like this....

Statistically on dating sites, something like 80% of women focus their attention on 20% of men, leaving the remaining 80% of men vying for the attention of just 20% of those women.

Of those 80% of men, due to the sheer number of messages the remaining 20% of women receive, only around 10% will get a reply.

So overall something like 30% or so of men on there will have any success and 70% will be left out in the cold.

This is actually a bad thing for society as it means that 1 - people aren't getting together as much and genuinely the birth rate goes down, and 2 - society has an increase of young, single, rejected and frustrated men. This can lead to all sorts of society issues, like the rise of the incel movement and a decline in the labour market (settled couples are statistically more productive and stable). Young, single, rejected, frustrated and lonely men are generally bad for society.....sorry that might sound harsh, but from an objective point of view, it's correct.

It used to be that how people met was around 30% through work, 30% through mutual friends and 30% through social activities, but now online dating is more than 50%.

So when you add it all up, what do you get, a messed up relationship environment for when people are young and should be dating, meeting new people, settling down, having babies, etc.

***Essentially, for both the large percentage of guys (around 70%) and society as while - dating sites are toxic.***

Hope that all makes sense, it's early and I've only had 1 cup of tea!!x

It makes sense to me.

*** "

Lol, thanks!

They're also toxic for women too, as the top 30% of guys who get the attention are receiving it from 100% of the women on there, so the guys tend to be less open to settling down, hence why things like ghosting and poly relationships are becoming more common.

Which again, leads to declining birth rates, less people settling down, reduction in labor market, etc.

Sorry, I work in this space so it's fascinating for me from a data point of view and hopefully it explains some people on this thread rubbish experiences!

Oh and if you want a total mind fuck, try going on them as a transwoman....that's a whole different can of worms!!x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am on POF , whenever I say anything slightly kinky I get blocked ! "

You mean "Plenty Of Fakes"?

That site has got really bad the last few years, it used to be pretty good, had some great meets/dates/relationships off there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's a fascinating discussion by Scott Galloway on how dating sites are ruining a generation of young men and negatively impacting society as a whole, it's worth a Google and watch, but it goes something like this....

Statistically on dating sites, something like 80% of women focus their attention on 20% of men, leaving the remaining 80% of men vying for the attention of just 20% of those women.

Of those 80% of men, due to the sheer number of messages the remaining 20% of women receive, only around 10% will get a reply.

So overall something like 30% or so of men on there will have any success and 70% will be left out in the cold.

This is actually a bad thing for society as it means that 1 - people aren't getting together as much and genuinely the birth rate goes down, and 2 - society has an increase of young, single, rejected and frustrated men. This can lead to all sorts of society issues, like the rise of the incel movement and a decline in the labour market (settled couples are statistically more productive and stable). Young, single, rejected, frustrated and lonely men are generally bad for society.....sorry that might sound harsh, but from an objective point of view, it's correct.

It used to be that how people met was around 30% through work, 30% through mutual friends and 30% through social activities, but now online dating is more than 50%.

So when you add it all up, what do you get, a messed up relationship environment for when people are young and should be dating, meeting new people, settling down, having babies, etc.

Essentially, for both the large percentage of guys (around 70%) and society as while - dating sites are toxic.

Hope that all makes sense, it's early and I've only had 1 cup of tea!!x

"

100% spot one with that view!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's a fascinating discussion by Scott Galloway on how dating sites are ruining a generation of young men and negatively impacting society as a whole, it's worth a Google and watch, but it goes something like this....

Statistically on dating sites, something like 80% of women focus their attention on 20% of men, leaving the remaining 80% of men vying for the attention of just 20% of those women.

Of those 80% of men, due to the sheer number of messages the remaining 20% of women receive, only around 10% will get a reply.

So overall something like 30% or so of men on there will have any success and 70% will be left out in the cold.

This is actually a bad thing for society as it means that 1 - people aren't getting together as much and genuinely the birth rate goes down, and 2 - society has an increase of young, single, rejected and frustrated men. This can lead to all sorts of society issues, like the rise of the incel movement and a decline in the labour market (settled couples are statistically more productive and stable). Young, single, rejected, frustrated and lonely men are generally bad for society.....sorry that might sound harsh, but from an objective point of view, it's correct.

It used to be that how people met was around 30% through work, 30% through mutual friends and 30% through social activities, but now online dating is more than 50%.

So when you add it all up, what do you get, a messed up relationship environment for when people are young and should be dating, meeting new people, settling down, having babies, etc.

***Essentially, for both the large percentage of guys (around 70%) and society as while - dating sites are toxic.***

Hope that all makes sense, it's early and I've only had 1 cup of tea!!x

It makes sense to me.

***

Lol, thanks!

They're also toxic for women too, as the top 30% of guys who get the attention are receiving it from 100% of the women on there, so the guys tend to be less open to settling down, hence why things like ghosting and poly relationships are becoming more common.

Which again, leads to declining birth rates, less people settling down, reduction in labor market, etc.

Sorry, I work in this space so it's fascinating for me from a data point of view and hopefully it explains some people on this thread rubbish experiences!

Oh and if you want a total mind fuck, try going on them as a transwoman....that's a whole different can of worms!!x"

Yeah I can imagine that would be difficult. X

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Omg I'm matched with many men on bumble in Romania and they all chat... unlike the English. Funny that lol

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By *ilthy gentleman 4425Man
over a year ago

PONTEFRACT

Most fwb get feelings... I've had it a few times with women off here.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Most fwb get feelings... I've had it a few times with women off here. "

Because we're just human after all and most of us crave intimacy and security

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By *rs W AnchorWoman
over a year ago

North Norfolk

I thought I'd search for a vanilla relationship/dates. You know something that wasn't solely based on sex but spooning season is upon us. Turns out the men I matched with and met were only after one thing or just end up ghosting you. It's tedious and boring. At least with Fab I know where I stand.

I also managed to get permanently banned from Tinder. I don't think vanilla dating is for me!

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By *mMrbrightside OP   Man
over a year ago

wakefield


"I thought I'd search for a vanilla relationship/dates. You know something that wasn't solely based on sex but spooning season is upon us. Turns out the men I matched with and met were only after one thing or just end up ghosting you. It's tedious and boring. At least with Fab I know where I stand.

I also managed to get permanently banned from Tinder. I don't think vanilla dating is for me! "

A few things I noticed from what you said that made me laugh

Spooning season is upon us lol

And you got permanently banned from tinder omg what a woman pmsl x

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By *rs W AnchorWoman
over a year ago

North Norfolk


"I thought I'd search for a vanilla relationship/dates. You know something that wasn't solely based on sex but spooning season is upon us. Turns out the men I matched with and met were only after one thing or just end up ghosting you. It's tedious and boring. At least with Fab I know where I stand.

I also managed to get permanently banned from Tinder. I don't think vanilla dating is for me!

A few things I noticed from what you said that made me laugh

Spooning season is upon us lol

And you got permanently banned from tinder omg what a woman pmsl x"

What can I say, there's a cost of living crisis and a human hot water bottle is the perfect way to combat that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I going to try thi kg it time I found a play mate

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich


"I am on POF , whenever I say anything slightly kinky I get blocked !

You mean "Plenty Of Fakes"?

That site has got really bad the last few years, it used to be pretty good, had some great meets/dates/relationships off there."

I thought it was Plenty of Freaks

I am after many years now looking for a relationship again, but apart from mentioning it on my fab profile, I am never going to join another dating site/app.

I found the majority of men on dating sites were way more inappropriate than those on Fab. e.g talking loudly about anal in a coffee shop

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