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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

A question I’ve been asking myself “is sex worth having without feelings?” All opinions welcome…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you can’t actually feel it, how do you know it’s even happening…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ask, is sex worth having at all??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"if you can’t actually feel it, how do you know it’s even happening…

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I get you point, I wasn’t thinking about the physicality of the experiences more the feelings of lust, desire, connection, closeness…

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I ask, is sex worth having at all??"

I sometimes wonder myself? But when I see the beauty of a women my imagination sets off and if I have to the chance to hear her voice and chat these feelings only get stronger. Without actually deciding it’s been decided for me unless I intervene

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we develop a sexual relationship with someone, it's natural to feel something after wards. But most of the time it's just lust and people confuse it for something else.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When we develop a sexual relationship with someone, it's natural to feel something after wards. But most of the time it's just lust and people confuse it for something else. "

Interesting you mention “lust”, as a man lust is all consuming for myself once that thirst has been quenched I feel whole again, it’s like lust had taken something away which can’t come back till lust has its way.

How does this effect you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feelings lust desire connection on all levels closeness intimacy is what drives me on giving pleasure to a woman and enjoying the pleasures she can give me ! It’s intoxicating and my addiction

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By *JstarsoloWoman
over a year ago

Wombwell, Barnsley


"Feelings lust desire connection on all levels closeness intimacy is what drives me on giving pleasure to a woman and enjoying the pleasures she can give me ! It’s intoxicating and my addiction "

I can relate to this. Lust is a feeling. In my experience sex is far better with some level of connection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Feelings lust desire connection on all levels closeness intimacy is what drives me on giving pleasure to a woman and enjoying the pleasures she can give me ! It’s intoxicating and my addiction

I can relate to this. Lust is a feeling. In my experience sex is far better with some level of connection."

Absolutely initial attraction is fine but connection is what takes things to that next level

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By *enuine MikeMan
over a year ago

Guildford


" “is sex worth having without feelings?” All opinions welcome…"

Yes, it definitely is. Sex for me a few years ago meant something. I'm referring to sex with a girlfriend, someone special in ones life. Like a special bond and chemistry between 2 people.

After she broke my heart, I haven't felt the same since. Have never met another girl that has even got close to reigniting the flame and or butterflies in my stomach.

Sex meant something with her.

Anyways, moving forward.... Sex now for me when I get it is soulless. I do my thing, no feelings, no connection. I fuck and go. That's it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" “is sex worth having without feelings?” All opinions welcome…

Yes, it definitely is. Sex for me a few years ago meant something. I'm referring to sex with a girlfriend, someone special in ones life. Like a special bond and chemistry between 2 people.

After she broke my heart, I haven't felt the same since. Have never met another girl that has even got close to reigniting the flame and or butterflies in my stomach.

Sex meant something with her.

Anyways, moving forward.... Sex now for me when I get it is soulless. I do my thing, no feelings, no connection. I fuck and go. That's it

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How sad sounds like you might benefit from some counselling

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By *enuine MikeMan
over a year ago

Guildford


" “is sex worth having without feelings?” All opinions welcome…

Yes, it definitely is. Sex for me a few years ago meant something. I'm referring to sex with a girlfriend, someone special in ones life. Like a special bond and chemistry between 2 people.

After she broke my heart, I haven't felt the same since. Have never met another girl that has even got close to reigniting the flame and or butterflies in my stomach.

Sex meant something with her.

Anyways, moving forward.... Sex now for me when I get it is soulless. I do my thing, no feelings, no connection. I fuck and go. That's it

How sad sounds like you might benefit from some counselling "

Not really! Shit happens to everyone. There's that saying "it's best to have loved than to never never have loved at all"

Well that's all good and well when you are flying in the clouds but when it doesn't work out. Its a long hard drop.

Some recover and move on. Some can't and just hold onto memories.

Everyone's different

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By *JstarsoloWoman
over a year ago

Wombwell, Barnsley


"Sex is soulless. I do my thing, no feelings, no connection. I fuck and go. That's it.

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That's why I don't do fuck and go. I have to have a connection, otherwise I'm just a receptacle for a soulless fuck. For me there is no point in meeting if that's the case.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds


"A question I’ve been asking myself “is sex worth having without feelings?” All opinions welcome…"

For me, definitely. Sex is fun, and sex with strangers is exciting. It's why we prefer clubs. There's no preamble, messaging or planning. Sex with my partner is full of feeling, sex with other guys while swinging is purely enjoyment.

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By *onnyadtMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter


"A question I’ve been asking myself “is sex worth having without feelings?” All opinions welcome…

For me, definitely. Sex is fun, and sex with strangers is exciting. It's why we prefer clubs. There's no preamble, messaging or planning. Sex with my partner is full of feeling, sex with other guys while swinging is purely enjoyment."

Perfectly put, said all I was going to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A question I’ve been asking myself “is sex worth having without feelings?” All opinions welcome…

For me, definitely. Sex is fun, and sex with strangers is exciting. It's why we prefer clubs. There's no preamble, messaging or planning. Sex with my partner is full of feeling, sex with other guys while swinging is purely enjoyment."

I get that but sex without any feeling ! How is that enjoyable

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By *xtra Special KWoman
over a year ago

birmingham


"Feelings lust desire connection on all levels closeness intimacy is what drives me on giving pleasure to a woman and enjoying the pleasures she can give me ! It’s intoxicating and my addiction

I can relate to this. Lust is a feeling. In my experience sex is far better with some level of connection.

Absolutely initial attraction is fine but connection is what takes things to that next level "

This i absolutely agree with. First attraction then when you get the sexual connection too its mind blowing.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Sex with no feelings at all? I doubt many people can do that.

Sex with joy at the physical pleasure and respect for the people you're experiencing that with is good though. Personally I don't need to feel anything deeper than that. I know other people do and I'd suggest that casual hook ups aren't for them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Feelings lust desire connection on all levels closeness intimacy is what drives me on giving pleasure to a woman and enjoying the pleasures she can give me ! It’s intoxicating and my addiction

I can relate to this. Lust is a feeling. In my experience sex is far better with some level of connection.

Absolutely initial attraction is fine but connection is what takes things to that next level

This i absolutely agree with. First attraction then when you get the sexual connection too its mind blowing. "

Absolutely but reading on here many don’t feel that

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Feelings lust desire connection on all levels closeness intimacy is what drives me on giving pleasure to a woman and enjoying the pleasures she can give me ! It’s intoxicating and my addiction

I can relate to this. Lust is a feeling. In my experience sex is far better with some level of connection.

Absolutely initial attraction is fine but connection is what takes things to that next level

This i absolutely agree with. First attraction then when you get the sexual connection too its mind blowing.

Absolutely but reading on here many don’t feel that "

How long does it take to build a sexual connection?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well said

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By *enerifehotwifecplCouple
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

Lust, sex and feelings are all intertwined in the momentary window of time, surely?

That’s the control element of swinging thought isn’t it?

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds


"A question I’ve been asking myself “is sex worth having without feelings?” All opinions welcome…

For me, definitely. Sex is fun, and sex with strangers is exciting. It's why we prefer clubs. There's no preamble, messaging or planning. Sex with my partner is full of feeling, sex with other guys while swinging is purely enjoyment.

I get that but sex without any feeling ! How is that enjoyable "

It's called swinging, and swinging is fun, for me at least. Any more than that is dating, and as I'm very happily married why would I want to date?

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds


"Sex with no feelings at all? I doubt many people can do that.

Sex with joy at the physical pleasure and respect for the people you're experiencing that with is good though. Personally I don't need to feel anything deeper than that. I know other people do and I'd suggest that casual hook ups aren't for them "

The point for me is that I only swing with my partner. My feelings are for him and when we swing we share the enjoyment of living our sexual fantasies. In that respect it is sex with feelings, but not with feelings for the person I'm having sex with but feelings for him.

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By *arry monk40Man
over a year ago

Telford

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I view it as everybody's body is different as in no two dicks or vaginas even boobs are the same so your just trying them as in having sex so yes you can have sex without feeling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes sex can be great without feelings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A question I’ve been asking myself “is sex worth having without feelings?” All opinions welcome…"

I can’t fuck someone that I don’t feel some kind of connection with. If I don’t click with someone I’m not getting naked with them. Means I’ve gone without more than I’ve got in the past, but it suits me lol

F (Mrs)

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I need to at least like and respect who I fuck. It makes the sex better Imho. I’ve never been a fuck and go type and prefer a regular situation where possible. Doesn’t always happen of course. I like people and this is an extension of that for me.

I also wouldn’t want to be fucked by anyone for whom I’m merely a means to an end!

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By *ucelleCouple
over a year ago

Bishops Stortford

Not sure what the guys feel who have sex with me. I assume it’s just fun. But maybe they have other thoughts.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"A question I’ve been asking myself “is sex worth having without feelings?” All opinions welcome…"

Yes...assuming you mean sex with someone without being part of a meaningful relationship.

Sex in its self is fun and orgasms are good for mental health (so I have heard).

We mostly swing as a couple, so the dynamic is a bit different as it is all "just sex", albeit often with conversion and friendship too.

Nita

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