FabSwingers.com forum: Pretend DOMS

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I keep seeing these pretend doms on here...got a bit mouthy during sex and all of a sudden think there gods.

Sit down son and let the big boys talk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I keep seeing these pretend doms on here...got a bit mouthy during sex and all of a sudden think there gods.

Sit down son and let the big boys talk

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you x

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By *itchayWomanTV/TS
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This comes across as super insecure, which is odd for someone who doesn't have any obvious reason to be.

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By *ackandtheunicornCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

Getting the popcorn for this one

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Don't see why, but OK

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Excuse me?

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over a year ago

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"I keep seeing these pretend doms on here...got a bit mouthy during sex and all of a sudden think there gods.

Sit down son and let the big boys talk

So a Pretend DOM is someone who is mouthy during sex?

Gotcha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You ok hun?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Excuse me?"

Use reply +quote so people know who you are replying to.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Read it again....then come back to me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm good darling, you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Excuse me?

Use reply +quote so people know who you are replying to."

This

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Excuse me?

Use reply +quote so people know who you are replying to."

Sorry mate

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Excuse me?

Use reply +quote so people know who you are replying to.

This

Some people man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I keep seeing these pretend doms on here...got a bit mouthy during sex and all of a sudden think there gods.

Sit down son and let the big boys talk

Cute.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I keep seeing these pretend doms on here...got a bit mouthy during sex and all of a sudden think there gods.

Sit down son and let the big boys talk

Cute.

Hahahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So are you Dom original poster ??

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By *astlincscoupleCouple
over a year ago

Tinsel Town

Are you you saying you were playing with other doms and they got mouthy with you during sex.

What did they say to annoy you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So are you Dom original poster ??"

There's only really one way to find that out Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Are you you saying you were playing with other doms and they got mouthy with you during sex.

What did they say to annoy you?"

No what I'm saying is being a little mouthy in sex doesn't make you a dom...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you you saying you were playing with other doms and they got mouthy with you during sex.

What did they say to annoy you?

No what I'm saying is being a little mouthy in sex doesn't make you a dom..."

So ask them to stop being mouthy with you

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By *astlincscoupleCouple
over a year ago

Tinsel Town

"Are you you saying you were playing with other doms and they got mouthy with you during sex.

What did they say to annoy you?

No what I'm saying is being a little mouthy in sex doesn't make you a dom..."

No it doesn't. But then again it depends on the scenario.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you you saying you were playing with other doms and they got mouthy with you during sex.

What did they say to annoy you?

No what I'm saying is being a little mouthy in sex doesn't make you a dom..."

And who has proclaimed that?

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By *astlincscoupleCouple
over a year ago

Tinsel Town

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mr Grey will see you now? If that's your inspiration... bless your cottons lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So are you Dom original poster ??"

Christian Grey from wish lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Are you you saying you were playing with other doms and they got mouthy with you during sex.

What did they say to annoy you?

No what I'm saying is being a little mouthy in sex doesn't make you a dom...

So ask them to stop being mouthy with you

Maybe I like it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Are you you saying you were playing with other doms and they got mouthy with you during sex.

What did they say to annoy you?

No what I'm saying is being a little mouthy in sex doesn't make you a dom...

And who has proclaimed that?

Several

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So are you Dom original poster ??

Christian Grey from wish lol"

Literally my name, nice try though

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So are you Dom original poster ??

Christian Grey from wish lol"

Some will agree, some will disagree. Thank fuck for both

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

"I keep seeing these pretend doms on here...got a bit mouthy during sex and all of a sudden think there gods.

Sit down son and let the big boys talk

I know, right!

Every other internet rando not long out of puberty who watched 50 shades calls themselves mr grey these days

Where's the mansions, the helicopters, the staff, champagne, actual skills?

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By *itchayWomanTV/TS
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

Yeah the 'Mr Grey' and the proclaiming of 'time wasting sluts' just screams red flag.

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By *ommenhimCouple
over a year ago

wigan

"I keep seeing these pretend doms on here...got a bit mouthy during sex and all of a sudden think there gods.

Sit down son and let the big boys talk

So… what does… Mr Grey?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I keep seeing these pretend doms on here...got a bit mouthy during sex and all of a sudden think there gods.

Sit down son and let the big boys talk

I know, right!

Every other internet rando not long out of puberty who watched 50 shades calls themselves mr grey these days

Where's the mansions, the helicopters, the staff, champagne, actual skills?

Mansions are far to hard to clean man

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I keep seeing these pretend doms on here...got a bit mouthy during sex and all of a sudden think there gods.

Sit down son and let the big boys talk

So… what does… Mr Grey? "

You want me to describe? Or show?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yeah the 'Mr Grey' and the proclaiming of 'time wasting sluts' just screams red flag."

Don't message me then lol

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

I've been accused more than once of not bring a real Dom, I'm not alpha enough, I don't take it seriously, I'm only interested in certain kinks...

Doesn't bother me in the slightest. Doesn't bother me if someone thinks a suit is essential Dom wear. Doesn't bother me if they are inspired by 50 shades or any of the other reasons a Dom is criticised for not being a real Dom

How other people play really doesn't bother me unless I think it's putting someone at risk, and even then I'm not sure it's my place to comment as I'm not neccesarily aware of the dynamic.

Honestly, it's called play because it's supposed to be fun and there's nothing fun about laughing at how other people choose to play.

Dies it really matter?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you you saying you were playing with other doms and they got mouthy with you during sex.

What did they say to annoy you?

No what I'm saying is being a little mouthy in sex doesn't make you a dom...

So ask them to stop being mouthy with you

Maybe I like it

Touché

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By *itchayWomanTV/TS
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

"Yeah the 'Mr Grey' and the proclaiming of 'time wasting sluts' just screams red flag.

Don't message me then lol"

Count on it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've been accused more than once of not bring a real Dom, I'm not alpha enough, I don't take it seriously, I'm only interested in certain kinks...

How other people play really doesn't bother me unless I think it's putting someone at risk, and even then I'm not sure it's my place to comment as I'm not neccesarily aware of the dynamic.

Honestly, it's called play because it's supposed to be fun and there's nothing fun about laughing at how other people choose to play.

Dies it really matter?"

Seems like it does bother you mate....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yeah the 'Mr Grey' and the proclaiming of 'time wasting sluts' just screams red flag.

Don't message me then lol

Count on it."

Good girl

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By *itchayWomanTV/TS
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

"Yeah the 'Mr Grey' and the proclaiming of 'time wasting sluts' just screams red flag.

Don't message me then lol

Count on it.

Good girl

Easiest block decision ever.

Don't ever 'good girl' me without prior consent please.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yeah the 'Mr Grey' and the proclaiming of 'time wasting sluts' just screams red flag.

Don't message me then lol

Count on it.

Good girl

Easiest block decision ever.

Don't ever 'good girl' me without prior consent please."

Hahaha

Oh please.

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

"I've been accused more than once of not bring a real Dom, I'm not alpha enough, I don't take it seriously, I'm only interested in certain kinks...

How other people play really doesn't bother me unless I think it's putting someone at risk, and even then I'm not sure it's my place to comment as I'm not neccesarily aware of the dynamic.

Honestly, it's called play because it's supposed to be fun and there's nothing fun about laughing at how other people choose to play.

Dies it really matter?

Seems like it does bother you mate....

It really doesn't.

I just find the need to out Dom other Doms entertaining. It's interesting that it's not something you ever see Domme's engaging in.

I was talking to one of the crew from a large London fetish event a few weeks ago and they said that they always have a woman in charge of the dungeon because so many Doms take exception to being told what to do by another Dom (but won't argue with a Domme) and these threads (there's at least 2 on the go at present) are effectively kink shaming. We don't all play the same, we don't all have the same experience and it realky doesn't matter

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By *oldswarriorMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

It's alright op, I promise not to speak whilst I'm fucking you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's alright op, I promise not to speak whilst I'm fucking you

Think that would be even weirder lol

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

South Side.

"I keep seeing these pretend doms on here...got a bit mouthy during sex and all of a sudden think there gods.

Sit down son and let the big boys talk

So, lets look at your Dom profile. You're a 27 year old, bi, doctor (do they make them that young?) from Ireland. Heavily tattooed, proclaiming to be a dom, on a sex site.

Quite a lot of things dont add up here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I keep seeing these pretend doms on here...got a bit mouthy during sex and all of a sudden think there gods.

Sit down son and let the big boys talk

So, lets look at your Dom profile. You're a 27 year old, bi, doctor (do they make them that young?) from Ireland. Heavily tattooed, proclaiming to be a dom, on a sex site.

Quite a lot of things dont add up here. "

Do inform me.

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By *itchayWomanTV/TS
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

"Yeah the 'Mr Grey' and the proclaiming of 'time wasting sluts' just screams red flag.

Don't message me then lol

Count on it.

Good girl

Easiest block decision ever.

Don't ever 'good girl' me without prior consent please.

Hahaha

Oh please."

I think maybe the word you were looking for is 'sorry'.

Or are you too Dom to apologise.

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

"I keep seeing these pretend doms on here...got a bit mouthy during sex and all of a sudden think there gods.

Sit down son and let the big boys talk

I know, right!

Every other internet rando not long out of puberty who watched 50 shades calls themselves mr grey these days

Where's the mansions, the helicopters, the staff, champagne, actual skills?

Mansions are far to hard to clean man

That's why I mentioned staff

I'm also not a man.

Missus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I keep seeing these pretend doms on here...got a bit mouthy during sex and all of a sudden think there gods.

Sit down son and let the big boys talk

Then there's those that watch 50 shades and name themselves Mr Grey on their profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yeah the 'Mr Grey' and the proclaiming of 'time wasting sluts' just screams red flag.

Don't message me then lol

Count on it.

Good girl

Easiest block decision ever.

Don't ever 'good girl' me without prior consent please.

Hahaha

Oh please.

I think maybe the word you were looking for is 'sorry'.

Or are you too Dom to apologise."

Apologise for what?

You verbally attacked me on my post?

Leave if you don't like me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I trained legs yesterday. If these are pretend DOMS I don’t want to know what real ones feel like

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By *entDomMan
over a year ago

Paddock Wood, Kent

Somewhere along the way, someone who is a 'top' has highjacked the term Dom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m forever getting messages from guys asking me to domme. Never once called myself one. Don’t see the attraction of it.

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By *itchayWomanTV/TS
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

"Yeah the 'Mr Grey' and the proclaiming of 'time wasting sluts' just screams red flag.

Don't message me then lol

Count on it.

Good girl

Easiest block decision ever.

Don't ever 'good girl' me without prior consent please.

Hahaha

Oh please.

I think maybe the word you were looking for is 'sorry'.

Or are you too Dom to apologise.

Apologise for what?

You verbally attacked me on my post?

Leave if you don't like me"

Excuse me, I never verbally attacked you. I expressed an opinion about your profile having some red flags. Which also happens to coincide with your topic OP.

Please don't try and drag me through the mud.

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

Tell us all here and now then how a "real" dom acts/behaves? If you're adamant that he is not a real dom, you cannot reach that conclusion without knowing having your own idea of what a real one is...pray tell

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yeah the 'Mr Grey' and the proclaiming of 'time wasting sluts' just screams red flag.

Don't message me then lol

Count on it.

Good girl

Easiest block decision ever.

Don't ever 'good girl' me without prior consent please.

Hahaha

Oh please.

I think maybe the word you were looking for is 'sorry'.

Or are you too Dom to apologise.

Apologise for what?

You verbally attacked me on my post?

Leave if you don't like me

Excuse me, I never verbally attacked you. I expressed an opinion about your profile having some red flags. Which also happens to coincide with your topic OP.

Please don't try and drag me through the mud."

Ew isn't an opinion

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

"Yeah the 'Mr Grey' and the proclaiming of 'time wasting sluts' just screams red flag."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Somewhere along the way, someone who is a 'top' has highjacked the term Dom "

Couldn't agree more

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m forever getting messages from guys asking me to domme. Never once called myself one. Don’t see the attraction of it. "

It has to come naturally

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By *entDomMan
over a year ago

Paddock Wood, Kent

It's an easy term to use and this site is predominantly a swingers site. But inevitably swinging overlaps kink and why not?

The thing is with these 20yr old Doms with 10yrs experience. Is when you look below the surface and ask them about subspace, subdrop and aftercare etc. They have no idea what you are talking about.

They are simple things but very important. Leaving a girl with bruises is no benchmark.

If you could see me holding and cuddling a sub after a scene it would be hard to imagine I had been her Dom

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yeah the 'Mr Grey' and the proclaiming of 'time wasting sluts' just screams red flag.

Don't worry about what they done ti me just worry about the comment

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's an easy term to use and this site is predominantly a swingers site. But inevitably swinging overlaps kink and why not?

The thing is with these 20yr old Doms with 10yrs experience. Is when you look below the surface and ask them about subspace, subdrop and aftercare etc. They have no idea what you are talking about.

They are simple things but very important. Leaving a girl with bruises is no benchmark.

If you could see me holding and cuddling a sub after a scene it would be hard to imagine I had been her Dom"

The "sex" is the least important part, the pre domination and aftercare is massive and they don't even have a clue about the up keep.

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

Sorry but anyone who brags about being a dom and look at me posts on here hasn’t a clue

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sorry but anyone who brags about being a dom and look at me posts on here hasn’t a clue "

It's a tongue in cheeky comment but whatever makes you feel good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What makes a real Dom op?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep it to the thread please

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"The "sex" is the least important part, the pre domination and aftercare is massive and they don't even have a clue about the up keep."

I am curious about pre domination and up keep. How are you defining these as they are not terms I am familiar with?

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By *itchayWomanTV/TS
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

"Yeah the 'Mr Grey' and the proclaiming of 'time wasting sluts' just screams red flag.

Don't message me then lol

Count on it.

Good girl

Easiest block decision ever.

Don't ever 'good girl' me without prior consent please.

Hahaha

Oh please.

I think maybe the word you were looking for is 'sorry'.

Or are you too Dom to apologise.

Apologise for what?

You verbally attacked me on my post?

Leave if you don't like me

Excuse me, I never verbally attacked you. I expressed an opinion about your profile having some red flags. Which also happens to coincide with your topic OP.

Please don't try and drag me through the mud.

Ew isn't an opinion"

Ew is the sound I make when I smell bullshit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I keep seeing these pretend doms on here...got a bit mouthy during sex and all of a sudden think there gods.

Sit down son and let the big boys talk

I’m curious to know what you’re trying to achieve with this thread OP.

I’m sure many are finding your attitude and responses very off putting. Do you think this thread will get you meets?

If anything you’re more than likely added to a few block lists.

Time wasting sluts eh? I think they’ve all dodged a bullet after reading your profile and contributions to other forum threads.

Good luck OP

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By *entDomMan
over a year ago

Paddock Wood, Kent

I've never had to block anyone but he's sending me numerous pm's ffs

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By *he_Last_TitanMan
over a year ago

Bristol

"Are you you saying you were playing with other doms and they got mouthy with you during sex.

What did they say to annoy you?"

My immediate thought too. Assumed I’d misread the post. I can’t imagine, for one second, why? Absolutely nothing to do with the terrible grammar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What makes a real Dom op?"

Is he too shy to let us know what a real Dom is?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What makes a real Dom op?

Is he too shy to let us know what a real Dom is?

Maybe he’s sat down, letting the big girls talk

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By *damsmith12233Man
over a year ago

leicester

Well this has been an interesting read…. Never going to get that 5 minutes of my life back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What makes a real Dom op?

Is he too shy to let us know what a real Dom is?

Maybe he’s sat down, letting the big girls talk

Can almost hear Foreigner now..

I wanna know what dom iiiiiisssss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What makes a real Dom op?

Is he too shy to let us know what a real Dom is?

Maybe he’s sat down, letting the big girls talk

Can almost hear Foreigner now..

I wanna know what dom iiiiiisssss

I know they can take meeeeee!!!

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

"I've never had to block anyone but he's sending me numerous pm's ffs"

Bad form

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never had to block anyone but he's sending me numerous pm's ffs

Bad form "

Bad dom. go over my knee spanked bottom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Again the forum proves to be the best filter ever ....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've never had to block anyone but he's sending me numerous pm's ffs"

You'll be ok to screenshot one then?

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Makes me smile when a word like (sexual) dominating is changed from a verb to a noun and it is changed from an action word into something you can put into a wheelbarrow.

You can keep your wheelbarrow Dom’s, suspect the sexually assertive are too fluid for wheelbarrows.

Then again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Again the forum proves to be the best filter ever .... "

It’s a godsend

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"Again the forum proves to be the best filter ever ....

It’s a godsend

In both sensuality ways.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"I keep seeing these pretend doms on here...got a bit mouthy during sex and all of a sudden think there gods.

Sit down son and let the big boys talk

Woof!

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds

"I keep seeing these pretend doms on here...got a bit mouthy during sex and all of a sudden think there gods.

Sit down son and let the big boys talk

Weird as Dom/mes come in many flavours.

Something being into verbal humiliation only in the bedroom can be a Dom/me or a sub.

You're confusing yourself by leaving out complexities.

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By *eadinthecloudsMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Delayed onset muscle strain is serious business. Not a laughing matter at all!

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By * U mineMan
over a year ago

Fun

Dom dom dom der dom dom der dom dom.Leave to who? Ho, Dom dom der dom.

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By *he_Wite_NiteMan
over a year ago

Usually Dundee and around

"Sorry but anyone who brags about being a dom and look at me posts on here hasn’t a clue

It's a tongue in cheeky comment but whatever makes you feel good"

OP, please I'm serious, instruct us in the ways of DOMination so that we may be worthy of the title!

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By *moking GunCouple
over a year ago

East Anglia

"I keep seeing these pretend doms on here...got a bit mouthy during sex and all of a sudden think there gods.

Sit down son and let the big boys talk

OP I keep seeing these pretend big boys on here... get a bit mouthy on the forum... to make themselves feel more secure.

You are right bud, you big boys talk all you want. the men will actually be out there domming.

My advice grow up, ignore the pretenders and go have some fun.

Also in response to Kentdom

'The thing is with these 20yr old Doms with 10yrs experience. Is when you look below the surface and ask them about subspace, subdrop and aftercare etc. They have no idea what you are talking about.'

Since this is the second time you've posted this, I'll respond.

I doubt that in terms of conciousness you have any idea what these things are either... so as a 29 year old dom let me enlighten you a bit.

As beings who can emanate limitless frequencies (emotions, feelings, etc) subspace is the shifting of one's assemblage point into a space where particular frequencies are associated with being a sub... where inhibitions, the need of control, certain characteristics (which are often alluded to as differing personas) and much more dependant on the submissive in question, are stripped/adjusted or amended.

Doing so raises the frequency of a sub energetically, and once the session/experience has ended or the energy levels are depleted they experience sub drop. In this space these things come flooding back in, often emotions and questions can arise which a dom needs to be aware of. Being emotionally and mentally available is just as if not more important than being there physically qnd is known as aftercare.

People think doms are the ones in control but real doms should know and appreciate its a two way street and in some cases the sub has the most power in a dynamic. This doesn't mean they will be disobedient... im referencing the trust they show to a dom. Giving free reign over a person's actions choices and experiences (depending on the dynamic) is a huge gift, especially in a society where everybody is expected to be independent, strong and (especially in the case of guys) emotionally boxed up or 'Having your shit together.') Obviously if you are a male sub then I think you can see the benefits.

If you have a dom that actually knows what they are doing dynamic play can extend beyond the bedroom into healing trauma, qnd becoming more self aware.

Let me end by saying there's a lot more behind this than I care to explain to those whove already proved close-minded but its a topic im passionate about and that goes far beyond sex into conciousness and furthermore evolution.

Best wishes

Gun

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By *he_Wite_NiteMan
over a year ago

Usually Dundee and around

OP I keep seeing these pretend big boys on here... get a bit mouthy on the forum... to make themselves feel more secure.

Best wishes

Gun

Spot on Gun mate, missed you guys in chat tonight!

Wish I could have articulated things as well as you have!

Happy Fabbing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cringe as soon as a man refers to himself as a "dom". Titles mean nothing if you give them to yourself

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

"Mr Grey will see you now? If that's your inspiration... bless your cottons lol"

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By *ihmMan
over a year ago

West Wales

"It's alright op, I promise not to speak whilst I'm fucking you

Are you sure? I think someone needs a good stern talking to

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I do know men who think barking orders makes them a Dom or a Master.

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By *ond Jimmy BondMan
over a year ago

London

Hahahahaha

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By *moking GunCouple
over a year ago

East Anglia

OP I keep seeing these pretend big boys on here... get a bit mouthy on the forum... to make themselves feel more secure.

Best wishes

Gun

Spot on Gun mate, missed you guys in chat tonight!

Wish I could have articulated things as well as you have!

Happy Fabbing"

Sorry me and smoking have been busy

we hope to see you when we get on probably next week (away this weekend). Take care in the mean time,

Best wishes

SnG

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

"Every other internet rando not long out of puberty who watched 50 shades calls themselves mr grey these days

Where's the mansions, the helicopters, the staff, champagne, actual skills?

To be fair, if I ever met a *genuine* Mr Grey, I would not assume he was a dom.

Ms. James clearly knew VERY little about BDSM!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Before I took command of my first ship I was taught that if you have to tell people you’re the one in command then you probably aren’t.

Same thing with self proclaimed “doms”.

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By *rhugesMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

A Dom is about control and respect.

It's a bit like asking someone if they think they are a good driver. 99% of people will say yes

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By *ommenhimCouple
over a year ago

wigan

"I keep seeing these pretend doms on here...got a bit mouthy during sex and all of a sudden think there gods.

Sit down son and let the big boys talk

So… what does… Mr Grey?

You want me to describe? Or show?"

Describe please

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

Well I think this thread massively backfired on the OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I think this thread massively backfired on the OP

The real Dom, Mr Grey himself?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just read this entire thread whilst eating my lunch. Can’t help but think ‘fuck… there’s 4 minutes of my life I’m not getting back’

And then in true ‘sunk cost fallacy’ fashion, had to add to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I think this thread massively backfired on the OP

I remember a guy years ago that popped along to say he was an ‘alpha’ male. And immediately I thought, no you’re not. And I think that thread had the same tone to it.

If you go shouting you’re good at something (like being a Dom,) and the way you do it is by telling me others are shit, well. I’m more likely to make up my own mind.

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over a year ago

"Well I think this thread massively backfired on the OP

I remember a guy years ago that popped along to say he was an ‘alpha’ male. And immediately I thought, no you’re not. And I think that thread had the same tone to it.

If you go shouting you’re good at something (like being a Dom,) and the way you do it is by telling me others are shit, well. I’m more likely to make up my own mind.

I’m too alpha for my shirt. I’m so alpha you beta believe it. Anymore alpha and I bet you’d think there’s goes an alpha. In very alpha like fashion. Doing alpha stuff. Call me alphabet. I’m that alpha.

Etc

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

"Mr Grey will see you now? If that's your inspiration... bless your cottons lol"

Thought the same lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread went down like a shit sarnie , just how i thought it would

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I think this thread massively backfired on the OP

I remember a guy years ago that popped along to say he was an ‘alpha’ male. And immediately I thought, no you’re not. And I think that thread had the same tone to it.

If you go shouting you’re good at something (like being a Dom,) and the way you do it is by telling me others are shit, well. I’m more likely to make up my own mind.

Etc "

I thought you were quoting RightSaidFred for a moment !!

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

"I keep seeing these pretend doms on here...got a bit mouthy during sex and all of a sudden think there gods.

Sit down son and let the big boys talk

Guessing you got a bit mouthy then eh?

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By *he FAB Social - MCRCouple (FF)
over a year ago

manchester

"I keep seeing these pretend doms on here...got a bit mouthy during sex and all of a sudden think there gods.

Sit down son and let the big boys talk

OP I keep seeing these pretend big boys on here... get a bit mouthy on the forum... to make themselves feel more secure.

You are right bud, you big boys talk all you want. the men will actually be out there domming.

My advice grow up, ignore the pretenders and go have some fun.

Also in response to Kentdom

'The thing is with these 20yr old Doms with 10yrs experience. Is when you look below the surface and ask them about subspace, subdrop and aftercare etc. They have no idea what you are talking about.'

Since this is the second time you've posted this, I'll respond.

I doubt that in terms of conciousness you have any idea what these things are either... so as a 29 year old dom let me enlighten you a bit.

If you have a dom that actually knows what they are doing dynamic play can extend beyond the bedroom into healing trauma, qnd becoming more self aware.

Best wishes

Gun

Extremely well put…

Pixie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I think this thread massively backfired on the OP

I remember a guy years ago that popped along to say he was an ‘alpha’ male. And immediately I thought, no you’re not. And I think that thread had the same tone to it.

If you go shouting you’re good at something (like being a Dom,) and the way you do it is by telling me others are shit, well. I’m more likely to make up my own mind.

Etc

I thought you were quoting RightSaidFred for a moment !!

I started that way then got carried away with it…

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By *he Secret Tea PartyCouple
over a year ago

London

"Excuse me?

Use reply +quote so people know who you are replying to.

This

Some people man

The irony

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I think this thread massively backfired on the OP

I remember a guy years ago that popped along to say he was an ‘alpha’ male. And immediately I thought, no you’re not. And I think that thread had the same tone to it.

If you go shouting you’re good at something (like being a Dom,) and the way you do it is by telling me others are shit, well. I’m more likely to make up my own mind.

Etc

I thought you were quoting RightSaidFred for a moment !!

I started that way then got carried away with it…

I think that’s how that song was originally written.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder if this went how the OP hoped it would.

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

'The thing is with these 20yr old Doms with 10yrs experience. Is when you look below the surface and ask them about subspace, subdrop and aftercare etc. They have no idea what you are talking about.'

Since this is the second time you've posted this, I'll respond.

I doubt that in terms of conciousness you have any idea what these things are either... so as a 29 year old dom let me enlighten you a bit.

*snipped some stuff*

Wow that was a lot to take in. Your take on subspace is pretty interesting.

KentDom might have talked about "20 year old Doms with 10 years experience" but I never got the impression he was talking about all 20-somethings. He's talking about those who swagger in cock blazing having watched some porn and claim to be dominant or a sadist and show their hand...

It's the equivalent of publically sending a "kneel bitch and call me Master" email to someone.

He has talked on many threads about subspace and BDSM. I wouldn't have said he needed an education on what subspace is.

Mind you I certainly needed a dictionary to try and understand half of what you wrote.

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

If your name is Dominic does that automatically make you a Dom?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like people who think they are dominant and turtle up as soon as you say boo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I think this thread massively backfired on the OP

I remember a guy years ago that popped along to say he was an ‘alpha’ male. And immediately I thought, no you’re not. And I think that thread had the same tone to it.

If you go shouting you’re good at something (like being a Dom,) and the way you do it is by telling me others are shit, well. I’m more likely to make up my own mind.

Etc

I thought you were quoting RightSaidFred for a moment !!

I started that way then got carried away with it…

I think that’s how that song was originally written.

I think the original was im too sexy for my shshshshshsh you finishe yet gerrof

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By *he FAB Social - MCRCouple (FF)
over a year ago

manchester

"I remember a guy years ago that popped along to say he was an ‘alpha’ male. "

Omg. Blast from the past. I lol’d at the remembering of it!

GG xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I remember a guy years ago that popped along to say he was an ‘alpha’ male.

Omg. Blast from the past. I lol’d at the remembering of it!

GG xx"

I’m glad I’m not alone with remembering these things.

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

"I remember a guy years ago that popped along to say he was an ‘alpha’ male.

Omg. Blast from the past. I lol’d at the remembering of it!

GG xx

I’m glad I’m not alone with remembering these things.

Wasn't there one months ago let alone years?

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Proper swingers, proper doms, proper this, proper that…people are generally happier if they just try to be the best they can be themselves, and stop worrying about how others define and enjoy themselves.

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By *inna and SaintCouple
over a year ago

Sherbourne

"I've been accused more than once of not bring a real Dom, I'm not alpha enough, I don't take it seriously, I'm only interested in certain kinks...

How other people play really doesn't bother me unless I think it's putting someone at risk, and even then I'm not sure it's my place to comment as I'm not neccesarily aware of the dynamic.

Honestly, it's called play because it's supposed to be fun and there's nothing fun about laughing at how other people choose to play.

Dies it really matter?

Seems like it does bother you mate....

It really doesn't.

I just find the need to out Dom other Doms entertaining. It's interesting that it's not something you ever see Domme's engaging in.

Best answer by far

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over a year ago

"I remember a guy years ago that popped along to say he was an ‘alpha’ male.

Omg. Blast from the past. I lol’d at the remembering of it!

GG xx

I’m glad I’m not alone with remembering these things.

Wasn't there one months ago let alone years?"

I don’t know. That was the first time I had ever seen someone try the ‘ I’m better than everyone’ angle on here. And it kinda stuck with me. All other that follow are just white noise.

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

"Seems like it does bother you

Interestingly...

As a woman in charge of a dungeon for a large London fetish event that is also in Manchester (and having been in charge of dungeons in the North of England since the late 2000's (on and off).

I've had a fair few 'doms' try the kneel bitch you must do as I say routine on me.

Which is hilarious to all concerned... Except the dimlydom who ignores my instruction/warning and finds themselves on the end of a warning/ejection from event or a ban...

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

"Well I think this thread massively backfired on the OP

I remember a guy years ago that popped along to say he was an ‘alpha’ male. And immediately I thought, no you’re not. And I think that thread had the same tone to it.

If you go shouting you’re good at something (like being a Dom,) and the way you do it is by telling me others are shit, well. I’m more likely to make up my own mind.

Etc "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you a pretend Dom, before you become a Twue Dom?

I love a good labelling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you a pretend Dom, before you become a Twue Dom?

I love a good labelling

Does the label change after an certain amount of time? Do people have to work their way through a check list first?

Sooo many questions

Pxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you a pretend Dom, before you become a Twue Dom?

I love a good labelling

Does the label change after an certain amount of time? Do people have to work their way through a check list first?

Sooo many questions

Pxx"

Well that's it, with no governing body to define standards and maintain them, it's just a labelling free for all frenzy.

A Proper Dom orgy, you might say or you might knot.

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

I’m glad I’m not alone with remembering these things.

Wasn't there one months ago let alone years?"

Yeah, but he really was a real alpha. I mean, he told us all and everything!

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By * U mineMan
over a year ago

Fun

Seems to me bushit seems to flow when Doms talk, sub-zone sub drop aftercare, all very important considerations.

Though the most important thing is what the sub thinks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Though the most important thing is what the sub thinks.

Yes

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's embarrassing, seeing them.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"Yeah the 'Mr Grey' and the proclaiming of 'time wasting sluts' just screams red flag.

Don't message me then lol

Count on it.

Good girl

Easiest block decision ever.

Don't ever 'good girl' me without prior consent please."

First rule... Consent.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"Are you a pretend Dom, before you become a Twue Dom?

I love a good labelling

Does the label change after an certain amount of time? Do people have to work their way through a check list first?

Sooo many questions

Pxx"

Belts... Of different colours

.. Like judo... Graded by sensai dom...

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"Proper swingers, proper doms, proper this, proper that…people are generally happier if they just try to be the best they can be themselves, and stop worrying about how others define and enjoy themselves."

That's a proper post

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

"Well I think this thread massively backfired on the OP

I remember a guy years ago that popped along to say he was an ‘alpha’ male. And immediately I thought, no you’re not. And I think that thread had the same tone to it.

If you go shouting you’re good at something (like being a Dom,) and the way you do it is by telling me others are shit, well. I’m more likely to make up my own mind.

He's definitely shown himself up with this. Its so cringe..

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

I just adore a D/s relationship, it’s dynamics and complexity is stunning. I play in clubs B/d and find it fun, flirty and playful.

Am I a Dom, naa, just a male who takes a lot of pleasure in seeing a woman orgasm under my control and then enjoying mutual respect and comfort.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

"I keep seeing these pretend doms on here...got a bit mouthy during sex and all of a sudden think there gods.

Sit down son and let the big boys talk

I understand the key is to check their certification of authenticity first, or how would know

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

"I understand the key is to check their certification of authenticity first, or how would know

Exactly. Some of these wannabes haven't even done the £9.97 online course!

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