FabSwingers.com forum: Sent messages read but no reply?

By *dventureSeeker23 OP Man
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Just wanted to get opinions on having your sent message read but not deleted but no reply?

Rude or not rude?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Outrageous behaviour.

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By *harlotteBigBoobsWoman
over a year ago

Hull

Doesn't bother me personally no rule to say you have to. I do it a lot especially when men message me asking for things I state in my profile I won't do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just wanted to get opinions on having your sent message read but not deleted but no reply?

Rude or not rude?

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It means you didn't read faqs and don't know that no reply means no interest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not rude at all. No one is obligated to reply to anyone. You should just take it that they're not interested and move on.

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By *C44Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

Used to bother me until I saw a woman's inbox on here! She wasn't overly active at the time but was still getting 50+ messages a day. Hard to read everything let alone respond. I just take it as a shot taken but missed the target, move on time.

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By *oublesixesMan
over a year ago

Corby

I just delete them after a while, sometimes make a private note that they are most likely not interested

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

Not rude it’s the receipts choice weather to reply or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not rude. It’s their choice just like it is yours to send in the first place OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One better than it still being yellow I suppose but no I even apologise for bothering them sometimes good manners and all that

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

Not everyone will take time to say no thanks but I take it as a refusal at the first fence.

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By *heonixRaven 777Woman
over a year ago

Guildford

I read all of the deluges of messages I receive. If I haven't bothered to reply to you it is not being rude.

If someone have the taken the time to read my profile and not respected my boundaries. Then I am not going to reply to someone.

I will always respond to a polite message, although it can take a while as people do have lives outside of here.

But honestly take it as a polite no you are not what the person is looking for at that moment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is anyone else outraged by woman who don't immediately respond or acknowledge your feelings. Who cares if they might have a job or family and how dare they not consider that you might be sat refreshing your feed between cock strokes to see their reply. It is almost like this website is not the most important part of their lives and most of them are not constantly demanding validation from useless men. The nerve.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just wanted to get opinions on having your sent message read but not deleted but no reply?

Rude or not rude?

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Not rude at all.

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By *isspurplechesterWoman
over a year ago

Chester

Not rude at all, but I have to be honest and say I’d rather they just deleted my message

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Just wanted to get opinions on having your sent message read but not deleted but no reply?

Rude or not rude?

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Man sends a message to a complete stranger on the internet. He expects some kind of reply to the message.

Rude or not rude ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having been here as a couple before I sympathise with the women and couples who are inundated with messages....been there it stopped us logging on.

However that said we would at least delete the message if we weren't interested.

After all I thought we were all here for similar reasons ....just a bit of civility I guess

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By *aytimevoyeurMan
over a year ago

temp with work. LN6/LN5 area ish

Always send a polite no thanks. I just think it’s reasonable. Unless they’ve hounded you before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best thing to do is delete sent messages as soon as they've been sent so you can't see what the recipient has done with it. You'll either get a reply or you won't and you'll have no angst or stress then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think its rude by the way, no point getting wound up by things you cannot control.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just wanted to get opinions on having your sent message read but not deleted but no reply?

Rude or not rude?

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do you send a nice letter to the local takeaway place that puts a flyer through your door?

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By *ny1localMan
over a year ago

READING

If a guy is rude enough to message me wanting sex (I'm straight),I feel free to be rude by not answering.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I generally like to get a idea if the person is genuine, but in my profile I’ve put a little tag to see if they have read it or are they a chancer because they are close by , but I do try to at least send a reply of some description if they have had the decency to read my profile

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Do you reply to that pizza flyer and the flyer suggesting you get your will sorted?

If not why not?

Is it because you didn’t ask for that unsolicited post? Same thing, you sending a message to someone, that didn’t ask for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No big deal for me - we should all expect it

Why do we need a response - if we get one then great - happy days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not rude at all. Especially when you get messages from guys and you have said on your profile please don't message.

Makes us lol, when guys follow up a message asking if you've read the first one they sent as they never got a reply.

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By *rs mischiefWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Sometimes I read and forget to respond, sometimes I've already polity declined, sometimes the messages are not nice.

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

Just wanted to get opinions on having your sent message read but not deleted but no reply?

Rude or not rude?

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Not rude whatsoever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not rude in any way whatsoever because site rules state that no reply means no thank you.!!

Now starting a tread and not replying to any posts on your thread that is very rude.

Chill out op it’s only fab and not real life.

Chin up and best of luck.

Tony

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never happened to me every message I have sent gets a reply of please can we fuck now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just wanted to get opinions on having your sent message read but not deleted but no reply?

Rude or not rude?

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Me personally I just have to realise I'm too good looking. It holds me back on here as they read my message and look at my pics and they get too intimidated by my amazing body and stunning looks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

clearly it happens to guys consistently but think about ‘junk mail’ that comes through your letter box. you only open the ones that might be of interest to you. not worth getting hot under the collar about.

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By *lack_alembicMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

Not rude at all could be any reason why you never received a reply. Like everyone has said you took a shot and did not quote hit the target so move on and message others who interest you and maybe you will get a reply is my approach.

I never take it personally one message only and if its read and no reply I move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not rude.

Depends if its a couple, I'll read then wait on Mr sometimes before replying.

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By *illiamMeetsMan
over a year ago

sunnyside

"Do you reply to that pizza flyer and the flyer suggesting you get your will sorted?

If not why not?

Is it because you didn’t ask for that unsolicited post? Same thing, you sending a message to someone, that didn’t ask for it.

Good answer. Send a thousand out and get 8-15 who buy. There are similarities to Fab

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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago

Reading

I do know Fab site says no reply = not interested. I do wonder though. Females and couples complain they have hundreds or more mail in inbox. So why leave ? . Just yes read, perhaps if thinking about profile ?. Keep for a few days. Then delete. But not complain to many mails in inbox. ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have a magic saying at end of our profile stating they need to start the message with it so we know they've read our profile,if they don't its a straight delete.although a humorous stand out message will always get a reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we reply to no one unless we want to ... if they think thats rude or get pissy that there problem we will lose no sleep over it at all

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

"we reply to no one unless we want to ... if they think thats rude or get pissy that there problem we will lose no sleep over it at all"

Exactly our thoughts too.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

Just wanted to get opinions on having your sent message read but not deleted but no reply?

Rude or not rude?

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Sounds fine so far.

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By *im4play4uMan
over a year ago

Hemel Hempstead

Getting upset because yiu didn't get a reply reaks of desperation! just because this is a swinging site, some people really believe that saying no, or passing by, isn't an option!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never expect a reply... Always delete your sent box items

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it that time or the day again ?

Not rude.

One day I'm gonna set up a fake profile and see how many people reply to an 80yo fat geezer who wants to ram his Viagra enhanced todger up their arse while choking them with his urine soaked y fronts ....

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By *easonalSwingers69Couple
over a year ago

Newcastle

Absolutely total ignorance, it takes literally 5 seconds for a simple no thanks, we name & shame

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Absolutely total ignorance, it takes literally 5 seconds for a simple no thanks, we name & shame

I bulk deleted over 800 messages not long ago.

It’s not ignorant. Ignorant is expecting me to spend my own time replying to men, who will then reply by return, asking why, trying to change my mind, or occasionally sending abuse.

My time on here is my own, and I spend it now I please, not how entitled others (not referring to anyone specific) wish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Absolutely total ignorance, it takes literally 5 seconds for a simple no thanks, we name & shame

I always replied to politely say no thanks. It mostly ended in lots more dialogue trying to change my mind or convince me that my preferences should be put to one side or abuse. I won’t reply any more. Recent abuse that I received (from me literally saying “no thanks but take care”) was the final straw for me.

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By *mtasticCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

If your messages comprise of the following then do not expect a reply……tedious

“How are you”

“How are you finding fabs”

“Wow you’re stunning”

“How’s yous”

“What you’d up to”

“Came across your profile and wondered if we can chat and then meet up”

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

Did you read their profile if you fit their description very likely you would get a reply. If not is, it is what it is.

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

Put yourself in their shoes. if I was a woman I will only read to those I am interested in, the rest will be ignored.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just wanted to get opinions on having your sent message read but not deleted but no reply?

Rude or not rude?

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Maybe they're just not sure yet about you...& Keep your msg so they don't lose ya in the vast `crowd` of men

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By *ogging couple kentCouple
over a year ago

Wherever

It is what it is, if they have read n not replied, we block as it saves us bothering someone in the future who isn't interested

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

reply*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If your messages comprise of the following then do not expect a reply……tedious

“How are you”

“How are you finding fabs”

“Wow you’re stunning”

“How’s yous”

“What you’d up to”

“Came across your profile and wondered if we can chat and then meet up”"

^^^^^^^ This

"Hi"

"Hey"

"Wanna FK"

"Are you available now"

"Want this inside you" (with an unsolicited gross Dick-Pic)

"I'm in such a hotel, meet me now"

"It's my husband's birthday, are you around later"

"Where are you"

"What has you up"

"Why are you awake"

The list is endless....... I could go on but I won't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Absolutely total ignorance, it takes literally 5 seconds for a simple no thanks, we name & shame

So you reply to everyone, even the single blokes that haven't read your profile... Or that have and thought they would "take a chance" anyway?

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By *angerous123Man
over a year ago

Leeds

"I don't think its rude by the way, no point getting wound up by things you cannot control. "

Exactly

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

"If your messages comprise of the following then do not expect a reply……tedious

“How are you”

“How are you finding fabs”

“Wow you’re stunning”

“How’s yous”

“What you’d up to”

“Came across your profile and wondered if we can chat and then meet up”

^^^^^^^ This

"Hi"

"Hey"

"Wanna FK"

"Are you available now"

"Want this inside you" (with an unsolicited gross Dick-Pic)

"I'm in such a hotel, meet me now"

"It's my husband's birthday, are you around later"

"Where are you"

"What has you up"

"Why are you awake"

The list is endless....... I could go on but I won't.

So what do you want to hear?

The average guy is not going to compose a special message only to be deleted in a second.

it is not about the message more about are you what the woman/couple is looking for, if you are the right person, you could just send a hello and you will get a reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Absolutely total ignorance, it takes literally 5 seconds for a simple no thanks, we name & shame

So you reply to everyone, even the single blokes that haven't read your profile... Or that have and thought they would "take a chance" anyway? "

I've discovered that sometimes any kinda reply is encouragement to some peeps... They'll keep mailing then even if I reply saying I'm not meeting for now. Asking why not etc...etc... So for me if I'm not interested it's best to just not reply to the Hi`s or similar 1-word or 1-liner mail.

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By *r easy1981Man
over a year ago

leeds

It’s life shit happens lol

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By *ox.Man
over a year ago

Bromsgrove

Rude defo rude manners cost nothing nore the man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not rude at all, but I have to be honest and say I’d rather they just deleted my message

_isspurplechester

Pls message me for some reason it won't let me private message you

Thanks

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath

Thank GOD thought it was only me had this issue..!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Rude defo rude manners cost nothing nore the man.

Read the full thread.

They cost time, and plenty of it for some women on here.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Another day, another thread in which the OP outs themselves as not having read the site rules.

Look in the footer at the bottom of the page.

Click on "FAQ".

Read the bit that says:

"There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!

It's not rude not to reply.

Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?"

It's best to assume that no reply means no interest.

Also, take comfort: At least they saw your message. Much, much worse is your message never getting read because it's been bulk deleted along with a thousand "FAF" one-liners.

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By *dventureSeeker23 OP Man
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Thanks for the replies all

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By *ounty durham bbw coupleCouple
over a year ago

darlington

Most abusive messages come when you reply thanks but no thanks often easier to ignore

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

OMG that’s shocking behaviour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If your messages comprise of the following then do not expect a reply……tedious

“How are you”

“How are you finding fabs”

“Wow you’re stunning”

“How’s yous”

“What you’d up to”

“Came across your profile and wondered if we can chat and then meet up”

^^^^^^^ This

"Hi"

"Hey"

"Wanna FK"

"Are you available now"

"Want this inside you" (with an unsolicited gross Dick-Pic)

"I'm in such a hotel, meet me now"

"It's my husband's birthday, are you around later"

"Where are you"

"What has you up"

"Why are you awake"

The list is endless....... I could go on but I won't.

So what do you want to hear?

The average guy is not going to compose a special message only to be deleted in a second.

it is not about the message more about are you what the woman/couple is looking for, if you are the right person, you could just send a hello and you will get a reply."

I'm guessing ppl aren't looking for the average guy.

I'm also guessing ppl are looking for someone who can take a bit of rejecction on the chin.

I don't want to speak for the ladies, but I find the self pity in these threads a little sad as I worry how many people seem to lack reliance ... Which must mean they have a real hard time on fab... And possibly in other areas too

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Some messages are just not worth replying to. That's all there is to it.

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By *aviniaCDTV/TS
over a year ago

Leeds (close to GAP)

I've deleted half a dozen messages just this morning, some I read, some I didnt. Mostly asking about what's clearly stated on my profile or status. If they can't be arsed reading, neither can I. Sorted!

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea

Don't get uptight if they have been read but not deleted. That generally means that you have managed to sufficiently arouse their interest, and you are on their back burner, or on their hotlist, and likely to be hearing from them, or getting a wink in the future, especially on the occasions that they are let down by time wasters and wannabes, and need someone to fill the gap at, excuse the pun, at short notice. Let it ride, don't push too hard, again excuse the puns, and you are likely to get the invite you want.

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

I guess it's better than it not getting read at all.

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By *easonalSwingers69Couple
over a year ago

Newcastle

Yeah we have

then if they persist then we just block

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By *easonalSwingers69Couple
over a year ago

Newcastle

Thats totally understandable

but we don't get that many

we just block them if no thanks isn't enough for them

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By *quaman87Man
over a year ago

douglas

Well me personally, would take that as (sorry your not my type or not what I'm looking for) and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been here long enough to understand that ladies get way to many messages.

So I sign of with mine letting them know I understand the no reply is a polite no thanks which i understand

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Not rude.

As others have said in the past, do you reply to all your junk emails?

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

I myself wouldn't worry about this nothing ventured nothing gained nothing lost

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By *nob and KnockersCouple
over a year ago

Ashford

If it’s a couple your messaging it could be as one half of the couple hasn’t seen the message?

We are both active on here and if we get sent a message normally won’t reply until we both ha e seen it and discussed etc, unless its a dick pic which is delete and block and move on

If we get a polite message but not what we are looking for we try and always reply.

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By *oldenbrownMan
over a year ago

south east

Don’t worry it happens a lot. Yesterday I was winked and blocked before I had even looked at their profile.

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By *exymansexyMan
over a year ago

Warfield

Been blocked by lots of women on here just for saying hello or sending some other polite message.

No reply. Just instant block.

I personally would not call instant block 'no reply'... it feel much more like f off.

But what ever. It goes with the site.

You are not alone.

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By *oberts_onMan
over a year ago

King's Lynn

Not rude, just the norm, being a bloke on here. Count yourself lucky someone actually bothers reading your message!!

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

Depends on the message! If it's rude or creepy ignore or delete. Me personally have manners! So would always reply, Even if it's a no thank you or not interested as manners cost nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t consider it rude if my message has been read but not replied to, I look upon it as I’m in consideration for conversation rather than just be deleted

after a while I might message again but if no reply again then I’ll assume it’s a no interest and block. Only because it will make sure I don’t send another message by mistake.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Been blocked by lots of women on here just for saying hello or sending some other polite message.

No reply. Just instant block.

I personally would not call instant block 'no reply'... it feel much more like f off.

But what ever. It goes with the site.

You are not alone."

The blocking will not be personal. It will just be to stop you messaging again.

Because a lot of people do that and it’s quicker to block straight away

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By *exymansexyMan
over a year ago

Warfield

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"One only hope that you get treated in a similar way by others."

Me?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"One only hope that you get treated in a similar way by others.

Me?"

I’m sure I have been. Thanks for that pleasant thought though

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By *exymansexyMan
over a year ago

Warfield

"One only hope that you get treated in a similar way by others.

Me?

I’m sure I have been. Thanks for that pleasant thought though

Let me rephrase this.

'What goes around comes around.'

It's ironic that you were happy for women to treat men that way but at the thought of it being done to you it is then considered 'unpleasent'.

I personally have never done anything of the sort to anyone on here and never would.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I'd just take no reply as no thanks.

Maybe they bulk delete, I sometimes do. If I've read a message and I might be interested, I mark it as unread to remind to relook when I have more time or feel like going through messages.

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By *exymansexyMan
over a year ago

Warfield

Sometimes I wished I'd keep my mouth shut and mind my own business.

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

Most of the people complaining about the lack of response to their messages on this site are single males. The reason for this is simply that they greatly outnumber the females/couples here and almost certainly don't have to contend with a daily barrage of mail from people who haven't even bothered to read their profiles before deciding to make contact.

Our status clearly states this:

"Please don't send us winks, friends requests or one line messages. Thanks."

Our profile title states this:

"Please read our profile before contacting us."

Our profile states:

"IF YOU HAVEN'T BOTHERED TO READ THIS, WE WILL NOT RESPOND TO YOU."

...and goes on to explain the sort of guy we're looking for with our preferences and limitations. I'd have thought they'd be of interest to the people who contact us but for some folks clearly they're not. A large number of guys here just send out generic one line messages, winks and cock shots to anyone they fancy. That wouldn't be so bad if they then didn't complain that they don't get a response and how rude that is...

We don't spend much time here but every day we do we get anything 10-20 winks, crass one liners or friends requests from guys who don't at all match what we're looking for. What are we supposed to do? Write politely back to each and every one of them despite the fact that they were the ones who couldn't be bothered to find out what we're actually looking for? If we did that we'd then get loads of abuse along the lines of:

You're up your own arses!

Time wasters!

Who do you think you are?

Sorry guys but that isn't going to happen. If you contact us before reading and digesting our profile we're going to delete your messges/winks/friends requests and block you without reservation or pity.

If on the other hand you make the effort we will respond likewise. Simples!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

Just wanted to get opinions on having your sent message read but not deleted but no reply?

Rude or not rude?

Thoughts?

They’re not interested mate. Block and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not rude at all, but I have to be honest and say I’d rather they just deleted my message

This..

If I see a message I've sent has been deleted... Then no worries, not for them..

But it's when I send one and it's left opened by the receiver, but not deleted...

You wonder if they are interested but not at this moment and keeping the message for later.. it is a bit of a bugger this way...

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"One only hope that you get treated in a similar way by others.

Me?

I’m sure I have been. Thanks for that pleasant thought though

Let me rephrase this.

'What goes around comes around.'

It's ironic that you were happy for women to treat men that way but at the thought of it being done to you it is then considered 'unpleasent'.

I personally have never done anything of the sort to anyone on here and never would."

I don’t understand what you’re talking about.

It happens.

To all profile types.

Wishing it personally on me came across as rather bitter

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Standard. Unsolicited mail has no prior negotiated response.

They have their lives and you are zilch in their priorities and it's totally up to you to take responsibility for how you contact people and your response to their indifference.

Send and ignore, forget. Move on. No reply = no interest, ie worthy only of how to pick better matches and communicate well.

Most people are just not going to be matched with most other people. Accept that and see it as to be expected

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If your messages comprise of the following then do not expect a reply……tedious

“How are you”

“How are you finding fabs”

“Wow you’re stunning”

“How’s yous”

“What you’d up to”

“Came across your profile and wondered if we can chat and then meet up”

^^^^^^^ This

"Hi"

"Hey"

"Wanna FK"

"Are you available now"

"Want this inside you" (with an unsolicited gross Dick-Pic)

"I'm in such a hotel, meet me now"

"It's my husband's birthday, are you around later"

"Where are you"

"What has you up"

"Why are you awake"

The list is endless....... I could go on but I won't.

So what do you want to hear?

The average guy is not going to compose a special message only to be deleted in a second.

it is not about the message more about are you what the woman/couple is looking for, if you are the right person, you could just send a hello and you will get a reply."

hows that working out for you then? no effort no reply, and read a profile first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been blocked by lots of women on here just for saying hello or sending some other polite message.

No reply. Just instant block.

I personally would not call instant block 'no reply'... it feel much more like f off.

But what ever. It goes with the site.

You are not alone."

we use block so they cant message us again, saves us and the message sender the waste of sending another one in a months time, and trust me, it happens alot

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

The Wild Wetness

Not rude.

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

Op is it not there prerogative weather they respond or not… so not rude at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not rude.

tis what it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We try to reply to everyone but totally understand why people wouldn’t. The amount of people who don’t match our preferences that message us daily is ridiculous. Then when we reply they try and convince us to still meet. Sometimes it would be easier to not reply at all.

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

Get this all the time being a single bloke ..

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

If you had hundreds of messages a day what would you do..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the time mate. Probably not interested. Law of averages though. At least one in a hundred will reply lol

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Is it rude for men to message when they don't fit your profile? They either haven't bothered to read it or they think they are the exception?

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By *areToShareCouple
over a year ago

Bingham

Just wanted to get opinions on having your sent message read but not deleted but no reply?

Rude or not rude?

Thoughts?

Nothing rude at all.

Is it rude that you sent a message in the first place? No

People have a choice, don't choose to be offended by other people's choices.

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