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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If someone "winks" at your profile, do you automatically take that as a

"hello you sex god with that huge 10" cock come and get me"

hint or not ???

Ok I might of exaggerated about 10" its only ............ lol

But seriously, is a wink a sign of interest, do you always follow through etc

J xx

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By *arah_kieran_ukCouple
over a year ago

Greater London

If we have someone wink us we like the look of, if we are interested we will wink back and see how they approach a first message (same as we would expect if we sent the wink first).

xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

A "wink" is a sign of interest xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always take it as a signal of interest.

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By *j321Man
over a year ago

Huddersfield

Always wink back or thank them for the wink

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By *eventysixCouple
over a year ago

glossop

If we are interested we'd wink back

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

I take it that I've caught their eye, check out their profile and if I liked them too I'd wink back and potentially message thanking them for the wink and to start off a conversation.

Don't get many that aren't from booked though

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

*blokes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it is a hint in subtly way. When i wink i send hint to have look of my profile and if you think we can go along wink back or message, and if someone visited my profile and no message or wink, i take hint of Not Interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I send them as a sign of ‘I’m interested in you’ and that’s how I take it when I receive them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I take it a sign of appreciation of my profile or pics, and I always reply whether or not I feel any attraction toward the person who winked. I deem it only polite to do so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's very difficult to understand why someone has winked rather than sending a message.

Whilst it can be taken as a sign of interest, I've often found that things never really progress beyond the wink.

If someone sends me a wink, I will usually respond with a message, to try to get a conversation going.

My message gets read and that's about it.

So, in my experience, winks are just a waste of time

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's very difficult to understand why someone has winked rather than sending a message.

Whilst it can be taken as a sign of interest, I've often found that things never really progress beyond the wink.

If someone sends me a wink, I will usually respond with a message, to try to get a conversation going.

My message gets read and that's about it.

So, in my experience, winks are just a waste of time"

There are definatly two sides to this debate;

1. A wink is lazy

2. A wink is an ice breaker

Both have merits - on this site we men far out number the women and those who are more openly active are inundated with messages - so a cheeky "wink" might get their attention

J xxx

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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames

We wink to show respect for the profile, an interest in the profile and potential ... no expectations but some aspiration.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

I take a wink as a statement of interest, as it shows more intent than someone Fabbing one of your pics? I always follow up on a wink than a pic Fab.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It can be seen as "appreciation" for what you have read or seen

I quiet often message people with absolutely no ulterior motive (wrong requirements etc) other that say "well done thanks for such a good profile" etc

J xx

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By *opilotMan
over a year ago

Heathrow

I see a wink as a I/we like the look of your profile, so I will look at their profile and I will wink back if I like their profile.

I would then expect them to then send a message to start a conversation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We see it as interested but then would rather someone message than wink x

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By *ustfun009Man
over a year ago

oxford

I wink as a sign of interest...never get any though

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By *renzMan
over a year ago

Between Chichester and Havant

I will very often message back if I get a wink and like the profile.

I think most winks are probably done in closing the page as I rarely get a reply.

Either a mistake or they've since changed their minds.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I ever got a wink...I would look at there profile and take the wink as a come and have a look

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By *leopatra 64Couple
over a year ago

Poole

We see them as a sign of interest and ice breakers etc, if we're interested we usually return the compliment and sometimes send a message of thanks and interest for our reply

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By *an hjCouple
over a year ago

Stowmarket

I understand why people wink, but by winking me, it tells me that they have not read my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We take it as an early indication of interest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wink away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They see something they like ..

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By *awk90Man
over a year ago

Amsterdam

For me it's a sign of interest. If I get one, I either message or wink back if I find them interesting

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By *ostguy321Man
over a year ago

Bucks

i like getting a wink, i take it as a statement of interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I send a wink It means I’m interested and inviting you to check me out. I do send messages but am quite apathetic with messaging lately. Can be a lot of effort being ignored ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perfect way to show an interest without wasting each other’s time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Perfect way to show an interest without wasting each other’s time "

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We wink to show respect for the profile, an interest in the profile and potential ... no expectations but some aspiration. "

That's exactly how I've understood it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a cheeky, *in joeys voice* how you doing

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt

I struggle to understand how anyone can see a wink which is a feature of this site as lazy.

Its a sign of interest and I could imagine its better than putting in time to write a message. I have seen on other threads it can knock a person's confidence when told their not someone's type. I just think others should have a bit more empathy with that.

If a person's winks they have already made the first step to show you their intrested and would like to see if they have caught your attention. Its down to the other person to wink back or message. Ah well that's my look on it anyway xx

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt


"Perfect way to show an interest without wasting each other’s time "

100%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I struggle to understand how anyone can see a wink which is a feature of this site as lazy.

Its a sign of interest and I could imagine its better than putting in time to write a message. I have seen on other threads it can knock a person's confidence when told their not someone's type. I just think others should have a bit more empathy with that.

If a person's winks they have already made the first step to show you their intrested and would like to see if they have caught your attention. Its down to the other person to wink back or message. Ah well that's my look on it anyway xx"

Sums up the wink perfectly

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

It means they may be interested but the caveat is it doesn’t mean you will get lucky. True story

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt


"I struggle to understand how anyone can see a wink which is a feature of this site as lazy.

Its a sign of interest and I could imagine its better than putting in time to write a message. I have seen on other threads it can knock a person's confidence when told their not someone's type. I just think others should have a bit more empathy with that.

If a person's winks they have already made the first step to show you their intrested and would like to see if they have caught your attention. Its down to the other person to wink back or message. Ah well that's my look on it anyway xx

Sums up the wink perfectly "

aww thank you noochie xx

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By *r lotharioMan
over a year ago

playa del ingles

can't remember my last wink anyway lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I’ll wink a profile if I don’t quite fit what they’re looking for and if I get a wink back then I’ll send a message.

If someone winks me or fabs my pics then I’ll have a look at their profile but I’d much rather receive a message even if it’s a simple hello.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’ll always wink back if we like the winkee’s profile. Think that signals an interest in both parts then in our opinion the initial winker can message us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Perfect way to show an interest without wasting each other’s time

Exactly"

Agreed.

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By *arkhelgaCouple
over a year ago

leeds

Love it when we get a wink,definitely a turn on and definitely get a cheeky wink back,happy Friday naughty people Xxx

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By *ncemoreroundthesunCouple
over a year ago

on the move

If we likes the look of the other couple we used to wink back, but 9 times out of 10 that's where it ends as they usually don't bother to message just go straight for the friend request.

Messages work for us, it's a shame the wink function can't be disabled.

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By *eguyukMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I think a wink shows interest, I always reply either I wink back to say I am interested so msg me or I will msg to start a convo or to be polite, so many people have no manners... they are free we are all adults and can take a “no thank you”

A wink can also show you are interested but understand people are busy/maybe bombarded with msgs so you’re showing interest and will msg if they wink bk & shows they would want a msg off you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we wink at someone it means we’re interested and testing the water!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see a wink as an easy ice breaker, if I wink at someone and they wink back, I then send a message and see where things go from there.

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By *elethWoman
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

I don't like winks, I'd much rather have a message. I don't send them, I will send a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wink and I’ll wank lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone "winks" at your profile, do you automatically take that as a

"hello you sex god with that huge 10" cock come and get me"

hint or not ???

Ok I might of exaggerated about 10" its only ............ lol

But seriously, is a wink a sign of interest, do you always follow through etc

J xx "
I have hundreds of winks that I never reply to. If I did the messages would be endless thinking its a come on

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By *adbod7519Man
over a year ago

Leeds

I always wink back if I’m interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use the wink system to show interest but after you have both winked, someone has to make the move.

Wink tennis is irritating!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If someone "winks" at your profile, do you automatically take that as a

"hello you sex god with that huge 10" cock come and get me"

hint or not ???

Ok I might of exaggerated about 10" its only ............ lol

But seriously, is a wink a sign of interest, do you always follow through etc

J xx I have hundreds of winks that I never reply to. If I did the messages would be endless thinking its a come on "

I get where you're coming form on this

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By *educerMan
over a year ago

Brentwood

I think a wink is a sign of interest, if it is reciprocated then follow up with a message. Just make sure the message says more than hi or how you doing

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

I don’t check my winks. So wouldn’t respond.

I’d prefer just to message lol. I’d message them if I was interested and not wink x

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By *017chesterladMan
over a year ago

chester


"If someone "winks" at your profile, do you automatically take that as a

"hello you sex god with that huge 10" cock come and get me"

hint or not ???

Ok I might of exaggerated about 10" its only ............ lol

But seriously, is a wink a sign of interest, do you always follow through etc

J xx "

A wink for me is a sign of interest both ways

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By *igboywxmMan
over a year ago

Wrexham

Sign of interest?? Surely lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any wink is a good wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd take it that they might be some interest in my profile and would wink back or send a message if thanks to see where the conversation goes.

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By *eardyBikerMan
over a year ago

nr stonehaven


"Always wink back or thank them for the wink"

Totally

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By *ooo wet tight hornyWoman
over a year ago

lancashire


"If someone "winks" at your profile, do you automatically take that as a

"hello you sex god with that huge 10" cock come and get me"

hint or not ???

Ok I might of exaggerated about 10" its only ............ lol

But seriously, is a wink a sign of interest, do you always follow through etc

J xx "

I always wink a nice pic or video...show appreciation for what I have seen...doesn't always mean that I am wanting to meet that person If some one winks at me I will check out their profile and take it from there!!

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley


"If someone "winks" at your profile, do you automatically take that as a

"hello you sex god with that huge 10" cock come and get me"

hint or not ???

Ok I might of exaggerated about 10" its only ............ lol

But seriously, is a wink a sign of interest, do you always follow through etc

J xx "

Our profile clearly states we don't want winks so we ignore them and the senders go on our block list.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest I don't look at my winks very often and when I do I bulk delete them without even looking at who has winked me, the same goes for friend's invite. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get fed up when we get a wink and return one only for them to totally ignore you..

It happens so much we have almost given up replying to winks but will always reply to a genuine message from anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Luv to winked at

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By *1bttmMan
over a year ago

Shoreditch east London

I love to wink even at profiles I know wouldn't be interested in me. It's more of a compliment or a show of appreciation either for a good pic or profile. Just a bit of harmless fun and interaction.

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By *ackFromTheDead2Man
over a year ago

London/Surrey

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By *amesy6918Man
over a year ago

newry

You have to give to receive!!!

Winks that is!!lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I forget to check them to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t get many so I see everyone I get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rarely do those winking message.

So I ignore them now. Don't delete because that way they can't wink again.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If someone "winks" at your profile, do you automatically take that as a

"hello you sex god with that huge 10" cock come and get me"

hint or not ???

Ok I might of exaggerated about 10" its only ............ lol

But seriously, is a wink a sign of interest, do you always follow through etc

J xx

I always wink a nice pic or video...show appreciation for what I have seen...doesn't always mean that I am wanting to meet that person If some one winks at me I will check out their profile and take it from there!!"

good point made

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