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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So why is it guys who struggle with condoms or cant get erections in a play situatuin swing we have come acrsoss this problem and i find it very unfair on the fem any thoughts ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More unfair and embarrassing for the guy though eh?

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

I agree diane - am always sympathetic if a guy has a problem - can usually sort it out!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A bit of tea and sypathy works wonders

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus


"So why is it guys who struggle with condoms or cant get erections in a play situatuin swing we have come acrsoss this problem and i find it very unfair on the fem any thoughts ?"

And it's the male in a couple!

FFS ladies, if you ain't getting it from your hubby, stick to the single blokes!

**Rant over**

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" A bit of tea and sypathy works wonders "

Agree and as for it being unfair on the female........... I get loads and loads of attention so never found it unfair at all...........!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont have the problem.

just keep on going

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"dont have the problem.

just keep on going "

some guys do have a problem occasionaly and it is usualy at the fitting of the condom - just deal with it and carry on!

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By *obblybitsCouple
over a year ago

huddersfield

been there on the first time. i was more bothered for my hubby. but take the bull by the horn type of thing and wont give up. we had fun anyway.

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By *obblybitsCouple
over a year ago

huddersfield

and were both more bothered that i has put the couple off from seeing us again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So why is it guys who struggle with condoms or cant get erections in a play situatuin swing we have come acrsoss this problem and i find it very unfair on the fem any thoughts ?"

What a shame we can't all be perfect eh ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some guys seem to think if they have a problem using condoms ,it gives them cart-blanc to go bareback.........no!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some guys seem to think if they have a problem using condoms ,it gives them cart-blanc to go bareback.........no!!!!!!"

correct.totally agree with that statement

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"Some guys seem to think if they have a problem using condoms ,it gives them cart-blanc to go bareback.........no!!!!!!

correct.totally agree with that statement"

yeah - agree too - you've got to keep your wits about you - especially when in different rooms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel for the gents who could not maintain their erections during play, as they feel very embarrassed about bad performance!

Based on my very limited experience since coming out to play again in Aug 09

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some guys seem to think if they have a problem using condoms ,it gives them cart-blanc to go bareback.........no!!!!!!"

We have had that a couple of years ago, the guy kept losing his erection every time her went to put condom on, then moaned like hell when we refused to let him go bareback to fix the problem!

The meet ended!

Tony

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmmmmmmm

only speaking from experience,

when this has happened to me, I find that some oral (me on them) both takes their mind off me being hard or not. Also If I wasn't hard licking a pussy soon makes me hard

Also after I have came I need a little time to compose myself and again licking often make the time fly

Robert

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the thing is..preparation...get the condom ready to pull on and make sure its a type that fits...some makes are made for...err....the japanese market i think. its the fiddling trying to open the packet and cellophane and getting it the right way round..its happened to me and i loose my temper with them....especially if i have oily lubed fingers and cant rip the packet open...a little bit of fluffing soon helps again

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By *ouvakMan
over a year ago

clacton on sea

it's all in the preperation, make sure it's all in place and ready for use, and if theres a small problem then the lady could help out by taking the fellas mind off the situation, the worst thing for the fella is when the woman makes a big deal over it, i mean after all his confidence is already dented don't make it worse, laugh and make a joke by all meand but on the couple of times it's happened to me my lady has just took control and all was well in a few short moments.

for most guys me included, if we fail we do feel inadiquate at theat moment we just don't need the problem reinforced, all we need is a little time and understanding

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I always feel a helping hand is in order ... If you feel your fella is having problems then step in and help ... can be nice fitting the condom with an added bit of stroking for luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lots of guys who are usually ok errection wise have problems with swinging, could be many things, just being with a new woman, not good with condoms, new to it all, never being naked round men b4, never having a womans hubby watch b4 but if your not selfish and just want to get on and bang away you can help them relax and things get better.

Maybe he had problems cause he dont fancy you but hasnt got the heart to say lol does this happen reglar with men you meet?

just a thought

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By *plpxp2Couple
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

Strange how some guys put it down to condomitis (a rare medical condition that makes it go soft). The text book I read suggests the best cure for this is to take it home

I'm another that thinks a helping hand or mouth is in order and that usually does the trick.

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By *ouvakMan
over a year ago

clacton on sea

unfortunately for men if we fail it's visable for women if it's not working they can get away with faking it,i know of a few women that do actually fake it so as to get it over and done with as soon as they can, this can also lead to male malfunctions at a later time too, like i said a little understanding from the female in such situations goes a long way for both concerned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"unfortunately for men if we fail it's visable for women if it's not working they can get away with faking it,i know of a few women that do actually fake it so as to get it over and done with as soon as they can, this can also lead to male malfunctions at a later time too, like i said a little understanding from the female in such situations goes a long way for both concerned "

i really cant do that, if a guys not doing it for me i go really dry and theres no way they going to be fools that ive just cum lol

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By *afthalfMan
over a year ago

Near you x


"So why is it guys who struggle with condoms or cant get erections in a play situatuin swing we have come acrsoss this problem and i find it very unfair on the fem any thoughts ?"

UNFAIR !!... you make it sound like the guys do it on purpose !!..

Believe me, there have been times when if it never worked again i have wanted it to work at that very moment but to no joy..

99% of the time just like any other guy it works... its just the odd now and again due to many many factors.

Have a bit of symphathy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have a bit of symphathy!"

I do!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I def feel for the guy....and its nothing to do with wanting to go bare back blah blah blah sometimes it just doesnt happen...women Should be n=more understanding and perhaps get off their lazy backs and give a helping mouth, hand Sorry just feel some women want to lie there and let it all come to them ...rant over ...from a single woman

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By *eznhannahCouple
over a year ago

leeds

when we first started i used to get struck by a bit of stage fright but always carried on, my 2 tips to guys who do have the wobbles just prior, is

1, concentrate on what your mrs is doing i love watching my mrs in action so that always helps,

2, learn to love condoms, use them at home occasionally get used to them, i absolutly love putting condoms on (or having them put on for me) because i have it enbedded in my head that condom equals sex,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have not had this alot thank god ,, lol as it made me feel like it was me he never liked ,,,,,,, meet this man really lovely man ,, his pics and profile lovely ......... he got into bed and all he was on about is how is cock is alot smaller then the pics in his profile and really he should take them off as he feel it a let the down to the woman ,, lol xx well he was down ..he lerned a lesson not too blow his cock up. mrs G XX

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By *ouvakMan
over a year ago

clacton on sea


"So why is it guys who struggle with condoms or cant get erections in a play situatuin swing we have come acrsoss this problem and i find it very unfair on the fem any thoughts ?"

if the boot was on the other foot and it was you having a problem with a contaceptive divice, how would you feel if someone sat there twiddling their thumbs saying "ohh come on get that bloody thing on FFS", if theres a problem surely the best answer is to help that person sort it out not belittle them with comments along these lines, often a mans failure at the condom stage is due to the coldness of the item against the skin, or a pyscosimatic problem related to the fact that he's been beilttled in the past because of the very problem he's suffering,please please don't re-inforce the problem, jump in and make it a fun thing to put on the condom and relieve the guys embarassement, and things will go the way you want it, i for one have had this problem in the past and i'm not affraid to admit to it, but i have been lucky in that the lady of the moment has just got to it and helped rectify the difficulty and much fun ensued.

in situation's like this if you show some sympathy there's no looser's only winner's if everyone lends a helping hand.pressure to preform is a common erection killer for some men and all thats needed is the pressure taken out of the situation

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By *xstephbxxCouple
over a year ago

hyde

We have come across this problem a few times, and the best way to put on a condom without losing any sensation is to put it on using your mouth. First time i did it with martyn he didnt even relise i had put one on !!...lol..

Think if its couple meeting couple then having your own partner 'warm' you up first is the best way, you both know what eac other likes and a little sexy whispering goes a long long way !!...

So, get the condoms out and practice at home first !!.. its something most couples dont do but can be quite fun !..

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes i have put a condom on with my mouth before ....... thay new only when kissed me after ,, lol rubber mouth not nice ,, lol only bad thing about putting condoms on with my mouth now i get ones that tast of fruit ... lol mrs G XX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its happened to us on meets a few times when the other guy cant get hard enough. Its been mainly when the guys been bragging about how big and hard he can get but when its comes down the the action he cant walk the walk only talk the talk. Leaves mrsjones unhappy but his wife wanting more of mrjones as he never has a problem getting hard and up for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mrmrsjoans i do think alot of the men here wank alot ..... and sex is in there heads and when thay do get too for real ,,,,,,,,,,, its too much for some. xx mrsG

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By *antsanddorsetMan
over a year ago

southampton


"mrmrsjoans i do think alot of the men here wank alot ..... and sex is in there heads and when thay do get too for real ,,,,,,,,,,, its too much for some. xx mrsG"

is this generally a problem with swing newbies would you say? those who arent relaxed so believe there is performance pressure? makes you wonder what it must be like for porn stars!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hants oooo yes porn stars must find it hard too keep it up ,,, the new ones must have a job at times ,, lol i do feel sorry for the men here who have this ..... cant be nice ..... and makes us woman feel thay dont like us ,, lol when really its there cocks being ruled by there heads .. relaxing and taking time help chilling out .... x jo

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By *antsanddorsetMan
over a year ago

southampton


"hants oooo yes porn stars must find it hard too keep it up ,,, the new ones must have a job at times ,, lol i do feel sorry for the men here who have this ..... cant be nice ..... and makes us woman feel thay dont like us ,, lol when really its there cocks being ruled by there heads .. relaxing and taking time help chilling out .... x jo"

at the opposite end of the spectrum i suppose its equally possible to have a problem cumming?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

harts i am in heven if a man can hold off for hour or two ,, lol i here about men that can go for hours never meet one ,, lol i live in hope xxjo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i'm up for hours even after cumming it doesnt go soft

brag over

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By *antsanddorsetMan
over a year ago

southampton

you start to wonder how many guys actually take viagra while swinging...?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

deffo not me

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By *antsanddorsetMan
over a year ago

southampton


"deffo not me "

likewise - tried it once as an experiment.. amazing sexual effects but god the headache!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i wouldnt even try as an experiement, i'm fortunate not to have an issue in that dept.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i wouldnt even try as an experiement, i'm fortunate not to have an issue in that dept."
well its nice too know ,, lol some men i here can cum and cum ,, x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i wouldnt even try as an experiement, i'm fortunate not to have an issue in that dept.well its nice too know ,, lol some men i here can cum and cum ,, x"

yeah, I guess I'm one of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i wouldnt even try as an experiement, i'm fortunate not to have an issue in that dept.well its nice too know ,, lol some men i here can cum and cum ,, x

yeah, I guess I'm one of them "
well alot of us woman dream about men like you ,, xxxlol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well theres a very sexy women here who has already lived the dream

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By *antsanddorsetMan
over a year ago

southampton

isnt there the problem though that in the end things end up getting a bit 'sore'?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"isnt there the problem though that in the end things end up getting a bit 'sore'? "

erm yeah there is that, even though there is soreness after prolonged activity, i dont mind

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By *antsanddorsetMan
over a year ago

southampton


"isnt there the problem though that in the end things end up getting a bit 'sore'?

erm yeah there is that, even though there is soreness after prolonged activity, i dont mind "

i always find the 2nd orgasm to be better than the first, and the 3rd even more so.. so yes it is worth it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my record is 11, oh what a night that was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"isnt there the problem though that in the end things end up getting a bit 'sore'?

erm yeah there is that, even though there is soreness after prolonged activity, i dont mind

i always find the 2nd orgasm to be better than the first, and the 3rd even more so.. so yes it is worth it "
oooo when you two cumming over ,, lolol xx

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By *antsanddorsetMan
over a year ago

southampton


"my record is 11, oh what a night that was "

my hat is off to you sir, i've managed 6.. at this point I have the urge to bow down and start with 'we are not worthy'

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By *antsanddorsetMan
over a year ago

southampton


"isnt there the problem though that in the end things end up getting a bit 'sore'?

erm yeah there is that, even though there is soreness after prolonged activity, i dont mind

i always find the 2nd orgasm to be better than the first, and the 3rd even more so.. so yes it is worth it oooo when you two cumming over ,, lolol xx "

woohoo lets make a date

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my record is 11, oh what a night that was

my hat is off to you sir, i've managed 6.. at this point I have the urge to bow down and start with 'we are not worthy' "

haha, should mention it was about 10 years now and it was just one of those unplanned nights the didnt end till nearly 5am i think, i'd like to try and match it again or even beat it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well lets make a date too make it 12 boys ,, lolol xxx kisses jo xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" well lets make a date too make it 12 boys ,, lolol xxx kisses jo xxx"

will get some training in

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By *antsanddorsetMan
over a year ago

southampton


" well lets make a date too make it 12 boys ,, lolol xxx kisses jo xxx

will get some training in "

lets go for a record.. number of orgasms 3 people can have in a 12 hr period?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

do I include the one I've just had

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

Well Shapes, there is one here that works and I also have a very sexy fem to bring to the party!!! And besides, we could sure do with another "Shapeshifters Snog" xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

thing is most guys get nervous being around another guy with a hardon as they will compare themself lol.

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