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By *itguy21066 OP   Man
over a year ago

leicester

So just wondering if anyone has fucked up like me, I had a stunning sexy partner, who adored me, I got her to have a couple of meets, which she enjoyed but said it wasn’t for her, then over a 12 month period I got frustrated trying to persuade her, I then choose fab over her!! What a Pratt I am, but to late now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s never the way to go forcing or putting pressure on some one but I’m guessing that you know that now!!!

T

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By *appyjack7890Man
over a year ago

Brigg

Its a choice you made at the time, and I guess it must have frlt right for you at the time.

Personally if I was with someone I truly loved I would do anything to mske sure she was happy, and I would respect her wishes.

I think love can sometimes be hard to find, so grab it with both hands and don't let go.

Maybe i'm just a soppy git

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By *itguy21066 OP   Man
over a year ago

leicester


"Its a choice you made at the time, and I guess it must have frlt right for you at the time.

Personally if I was with someone I truly loved I would do anything to mske sure she was happy, and I would respect her wishes.

I think love can sometimes be hard to find, so grab it with both hands and don't let go.

Maybe i'm just a soppy git"

The problem is I think males see this has fun but a lot of females aren’t really sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its a choice you made at the time, and I guess it must have frlt right for you at the time.

Personally if I was with someone I truly loved I would do anything to mske sure she was happy, and I would respect her wishes.

I think love can sometimes be hard to find, so grab it with both hands and don't let go.

Maybe i'm just a soppy git

The problem is I think males see this has fun but a lot of females aren’t really sure"

Arent sure of what?

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By *_the_impalerMan
over a year ago

canterbury

Hi

You need to weigh up the pros and cons

Hi berri

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By *itguy21066 OP   Man
over a year ago

leicester


"Its a choice you made at the time, and I guess it must have frlt right for you at the time.

Personally if I was with someone I truly loved I would do anything to mske sure she was happy, and I would respect her wishes.

I think love can sometimes be hard to find, so grab it with both hands and don't let go.

Maybe i'm just a soppy git

The problem is I think males see this has fun but a lot of females aren’t really sure

Arent sure of what?"

Some females aren’t sure that it’s just fun, I’m sure females like my ex think it’s wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its a choice you made at the time, and I guess it must have frlt right for you at the time.

Personally if I was with someone I truly loved I would do anything to mske sure she was happy, and I would respect her wishes.

I think love can sometimes be hard to find, so grab it with both hands and don't let go.

Maybe i'm just a soppy git

The problem is I think males see this has fun but a lot of females aren’t really sure"

How come? We both see this as fun and the whole build up and initial talking we had about swinging was about not risking what we already have, absolutely no way I would jeopardise our relationship if I felt Mrs wasn’t sure or if I felt she was doing it for just my benefit.

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By *imBanksMan
over a year ago

Letchworth

My ex-Mrs of many many years dumped me, split up a regular couple we played with and married the bloke (younger).

Yet here I am albeit single this time...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So just wondering if anyone has fucked up like me, I had a stunning sexy partner, who adored me, I got her to have a couple of meets, which she enjoyed but said it wasn’t for her, then over a 12 month period I got frustrated trying to persuade her, I then choose fab over her!! What a Pratt I am, but to late now."

Good luck now getting ignored like the rest of us on here

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By *itguy21066 OP   Man
over a year ago

leicester


"My ex-Mrs of many many years dumped me, split up a regular couple we played with and married the bloke (younger).

Yet here I am albeit single this time..."

O savage

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea


"Its a choice you made at the time, and I guess it must have frlt right for you at the time.

Personally if I was with someone I truly loved I would do anything to mske sure she was happy, and I would respect her wishes.

I think love can sometimes be hard to find, so grab it with both hands and don't let go.

Maybe i'm just a soppy git

The problem is I think males see this has fun but a lot of females aren’t really sure

How come? We both see this as fun and the whole build up and initial talking we had about swinging was about not risking what we already have, absolutely no way I would jeopardise our relationship if I felt Mrs wasn’t sure or if I felt she was doing it for just my benefit."

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By *estofbothCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Suppose there’s two ways of looking at it, the one could be that you chose fab over her, but was it more you made a lifestyle choice for you that she wasn’t compatible with.

We do this as a couple and to add to our lives, yet if one of us didn’t want to play anymore, neither of us would, our relationship is the solid constant and this just an addition to it. However if it got to the point where one of us wanted to continue, that would point that the relationship wasn’t enough on its own and then swinging or not it wouldn’t have worked anyway.

Im sorry it didn’t work out for you, but then was it any different to your hobby being say football, plenty of people have the “football or me” ultimatum from their partner, think it’s all about compatibility and joint interest.

It may not be too late if you’ve realised she meant more to you than this lifestyle, but sounds like you would definitely have to chose one or the other.

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By *itguy21066 OP   Man
over a year ago

leicester


"So just wondering if anyone has fucked up like me, I had a stunning sexy partner, who adored me, I got her to have a couple of meets, which she enjoyed but said it wasn’t for her, then over a 12 month period I got frustrated trying to persuade her, I then choose fab over her!! What a Pratt I am, but to late now.

Good luck now getting ignored like the rest of us on here "

Lol I know, I was single on here before and was always getting turned down by females I wouldn’t look at twice in the street!!

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By *itguy21066 OP   Man
over a year ago

leicester


"Suppose there’s two ways of looking at it, the one could be that you chose fab over her, but was it more you made a lifestyle choice for you that she wasn’t compatible with.

We do this as a couple and to add to our lives, yet if one of us didn’t want to play anymore, neither of us would, our relationship is the solid constant and this just an addition to it. However if it got to the point where one of us wanted to continue, that would point that the relationship wasn’t enough on its own and then swinging or not it wouldn’t have worked anyway.

Im sorry it didn’t work out for you, but then was it any different to your hobby being say football, plenty of people have the “football or me” ultimatum from their partner, think it’s all about compatibility and joint interest.

It may not be too late if you’ve realised she meant more to you than this lifestyle, but sounds like you would definitely have to chose one or the other.

"

I would def choose her now, but she says it’s to late, so something I will regret for the rest of my life

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By *appyjack7890Man
over a year ago

Brigg


"Suppose there’s two ways of looking at it, the one could be that you chose fab over her, but was it more you made a lifestyle choice for you that she wasn’t compatible with.

We do this as a couple and to add to our lives, yet if one of us didn’t want to play anymore, neither of us would, our relationship is the solid constant and this just an addition to it. However if it got to the point where one of us wanted to continue, that would point that the relationship wasn’t enough on its own and then swinging or not it wouldn’t have worked anyway.

Im sorry it didn’t work out for you, but then was it any different to your hobby being say football, plenty of people have the “football or me” ultimatum from their partner, think it’s all about compatibility and joint interest.

It may not be too late if you’ve realised she meant more to you than this lifestyle, but sounds like you would definitely have to chose one or the other.

I would def choose her now, but she says it’s to late, so something I will regret for the rest of my life"

Impress the bollocks off her. Bend over backwards....find out what it would take to get back together, and if you ferl you want to meet that need then go for it

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By *elly72Woman
over a year ago

glasgow


"So just wondering if anyone has fucked up like me, I had a stunning sexy partner, who adored me, I got her to have a couple of meets, which she enjoyed but said it wasn’t for her, then over a 12 month period I got frustrated trying to persuade her, I then choose fab over her!! What a Pratt I am, but to late now."

Are you just missing her now because you’re not getting any in lockdown

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By *itguy21066 OP   Man
over a year ago

leicester


"Suppose there’s two ways of looking at it, the one could be that you chose fab over her, but was it more you made a lifestyle choice for you that she wasn’t compatible with.

We do this as a couple and to add to our lives, yet if one of us didn’t want to play anymore, neither of us would, our relationship is the solid constant and this just an addition to it. However if it got to the point where one of us wanted to continue, that would point that the relationship wasn’t enough on its own and then swinging or not it wouldn’t have worked anyway.

Im sorry it didn’t work out for you, but then was it any different to your hobby being say football, plenty of people have the “football or me” ultimatum from their partner, think it’s all about compatibility and joint interest.

It may not be too late if you’ve realised she meant more to you than this lifestyle, but sounds like you would definitely have to chose one or the other.

I would def choose her now, but she says it’s to late, so something I will regret for the rest of my life

Impress the bollocks off her. Bend over backwards....find out what it would take to get back together, and if you ferl you want to meet that need then go for it"

Well I’ve text her a few times so we are chatting socially so I think very small steps but still a long shot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess those females were more discerning?!!

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Well she was probably pissed off with you any way if you were trying to 'persuade' her for 12 months tbh.

And, yes, you are a but of a prat!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So just wondering if anyone has fucked up like me, I had a stunning sexy partner, who adored me, I got her to have a couple of meets, which she enjoyed but said it wasn’t for her, then over a 12 month period I got frustrated trying to persuade her, I then choose fab over her!! What a Pratt I am, but to late now.

Good luck now getting ignored like the rest of us on here

Lol I know, I was single on here before and was always getting turned down by females I wouldn’t look at twice in the street!! "

To be honest mate, i ignore all profiles I wouldn't chat up in a bar, in normal times I didn't really have any problems, so wouldn't lower my standards on here for no one

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London


"So just wondering if anyone has fucked up like me, I had a stunning sexy partner, who adored me, I got her to have a couple of meets, which she enjoyed but said it wasn’t for her, then over a 12 month period I got frustrated trying to persuade her, I then choose fab over her!! What a Pratt I am, but to late now.

Good luck now getting ignored like the rest of us on here

Lol I know, I was single on here before and was always getting turned down by females I wouldn’t look at twice in the street!! "

I think in the context of a thread about spending a year pressuring your partner to play, that comment is pretty telling.

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"So just wondering if anyone has fucked up like me, I had a stunning sexy partner, who adored me, I got her to have a couple of meets, which she enjoyed but said it wasn’t for her, then over a 12 month period I got frustrated trying to persuade her, I then choose fab over her!! What a Pratt I am, but to late now."

I’ve been in the scene 7 years. I have seen sooooo many relationships fall by the by because of swinging

Whether it’s people that get into it to ‘fix’ a relationship or - and this is quite common, get a bit addicted to it and can’t either settle down or leave if the partner wants to stop it

Sorry to hear about your break up but our mistakes the past mean we don’t make them again

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By *eedsmale36Man
over a year ago

Leeds


"So just wondering if anyone has fucked up like me, I had a stunning sexy partner, who adored me, I got her to have a couple of meets, which she enjoyed but said it wasn’t for her, then over a 12 month period I got frustrated trying to persuade her, I then choose fab over her!! What a Pratt I am, but to late now."

All of the stars are fading away, try not to worry You’ll see them one day..........

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"So just wondering if anyone has fucked up like me, I had a stunning sexy partner, who adored me, I got her to have a couple of meets, which she enjoyed but said it wasn’t for her, then over a 12 month period I got frustrated trying to persuade her, I then choose fab over her!! What a Pratt I am, but to late now.

Good luck now getting ignored like the rest of us on here

Lol I know, I was single on here before and was always getting turned down by females I wouldn’t look at twice in the street!! "

Ah the old fab beauty, along with fab age, fab no facial hair, fab straight, fab no smoking, fab single etc...

Sorry to hear your travails, honesty is everything though...

Oh that's right... Fab honest!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Send her flowers? Leave a note on her car window telling her how amazing she is?

Something that will really knock her for six (in a nice way).... and then you have an opening to tell her all you’ve told us When she texts you about it Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP you have hopefully learnt a bit of a lesson.

But your attitude towards women seems a bit off - in a loving relationship you shouldn't be 'persuading' someone to do something they don't want to and it seems like you threw your toys out of the pram because you couldn't get what you want. I've been in a swinging couple and it is the cherry on top, but certainly shouldn't be a make or break if you truly love and respect them (exception of course if swinging was the basis of the relationship to begin with and it is a lifestyle choice that was mutually agreed from the off).

The further comment about women you wouldn't look at in the street is also pretty telling - there is a whiff of misogyny with that.

I think you've got a case of 'don't know what you've got till it's gone'. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never pressure anyone into doing something they don't want to do. If you're dead set on being with others while being in a relationship then either find a partner who is 100% open minded and into swinging, or stay single and either keep your fingers crossed of fab or shoot fish from a barrel of Tinder!

It's a shame that you realised too late what you lost but with respect to you I think you showed her disrespect by the way you treated her and I don't think you'll get her back now.

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By *addyBabygirl2020Couple
over a year ago

norwich


"

Lol I know, I was single on here before and was always getting turned down by females I wouldn’t look at twice in the street!! "

The fact you spent 12 months trying to pressure her into sex she didnt want and your comment above speaks volumes about your attitude towards women and sex.

If you wouldn't look twice at a women in the street why would you even message her asking for sex. Its selfish and shows an over inflated opinion of yourself, try looking in the mirror, your no catch at all.

Pressuring anyone into sex they are not into is wrong on every level and but whatever means used.

You must have had a strong emotional hold on her to get her to try it in the first place, when she did and didnt like it you had so little respect for her you pushed and pushed the subject until she left you.

You didbt choose fab over a relationship, your ex chose her self respect over you and all power to her.

Happy fabbing

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By *eedsmale36Man
over a year ago

Leeds


"Send her flowers? Leave a note on her car window telling her how amazing she is?

Something that will really knock her for six (in a nice way).... and then you have an opening to tell her all you’ve told us When she texts you about it Xx"

Stalker alert...stalker alert...stalker alert

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You didn't love her.

You don't "get someone to do something" they're not into if you love them.

Wasn't right for either of you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know a guy who encouraged his wife to swing with BBC for his own sexual satisfaction. Initially she didn't want to but over time she developed an insatiable thirst for BBC. Guess what happened??? She left him quite recently for a BBC that she is now exclusively in a relationship with. He's an emotional wreck as he didn't see it coming. I've told him it's his own fault etc... as he was off-loading to me about his heartache over wifey leaving him for BBC. #be careful for what you wish for, it could back-fire

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton


"So just wondering if anyone has fucked up like me, I had a stunning sexy partner, who adored me, I got her to have a couple of meets, which she enjoyed but said it wasn’t for her, then over a 12 month period I got frustrated trying to persuade her, I then choose fab over her!! What a Pratt I am, but to late now."
. What’s done is done when she said it wasn’t for her you had a decision to make her or Fabs you rolled the dice and chose Fabs.If it’s to late now to get her back then perhaps take a break from Fabs think about what you want then go for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, me and my husband have actual gotten closer since I've started sleeping around with guys off the net lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Lol I know, I was single on here before and was always getting turned down by females I wouldn’t look at twice in the street!!

The fact you spent 12 months trying to pressure her into sex she didnt want and your comment above speaks volumes about your attitude towards women and sex.

If you wouldn't look twice at a women in the street why would you even message her asking for sex. Its selfish and shows an over inflated opinion of yourself, try looking in the mirror, your no catch at all.

Pressuring anyone into sex they are not into is wrong on every level and but whatever means used.

You must have had a strong emotional hold on her to get her to try it in the first place, when she did and didnt like it you had so little respect for her you pushed and pushed the subject until she left you.

You didbt choose fab over a relationship, your ex chose her self respect over you and all power to her.

Happy fabbing"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Lol I know, I was single on here before and was always getting turned down by females I wouldn’t look at twice in the street!!

The fact you spent 12 months trying to pressure her into sex she didnt want and your comment above speaks volumes about your attitude towards women and sex.

If you wouldn't look twice at a women in the street why would you even message her asking for sex. Its selfish and shows an over inflated opinion of yourself, try looking in the mirror, your no catch at all.

Pressuring anyone into sex they are not into is wrong on every level and but whatever means used.

You must have had a strong emotional hold on her to get her to try it in the first place, when she did and didnt like it you had so little respect for her you pushed and pushed the subject until she left you.

You didbt choose fab over a relationship, your ex chose her self respect over you and all power to her.

Happy fabbing"

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"So just wondering if anyone has fucked up like me, I had a stunning sexy partner, who adored me, I got her to have a couple of meets, which she enjoyed but said it wasn’t for her, then over a 12 month period I got frustrated trying to persuade her, I then choose fab over her!! What a Pratt I am, but to late now.

Good luck now getting ignored like the rest of us on here

Lol I know, I was single on here before and was always getting turned down by females I wouldn’t look at twice in the street!! "

Such a bad attitude towards women on here with this comment!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think swinging couples often fall into 2 camps. The first group use it as an extension to their sex lives and have the ability to view it jointly as a very positive addition to their physicality together. Trust, like mindedness and loyalty are always very strong traits between them.

The second group are the couples where one person is leading, applying pressure and their partner can often give off the impression they are doing it to keep their partner happy. Inevitably these couples can regularly be involved in a bit of Drama, occasionally they can get a bit volatile and given time they usually part ways or yo-yo through breakups.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Lol I know, I was single on here before and was always getting turned down by females I wouldn’t look at twice in the street!!

The fact you spent 12 months trying to pressure her into sex she didnt want and your comment above speaks volumes about your attitude towards women and sex.

If you wouldn't look twice at a women in the street why would you even message her asking for sex. Its selfish and shows an over inflated opinion of yourself, try looking in the mirror, your no catch at all.

Pressuring anyone into sex they are not into is wrong on every level and but whatever means used.

You must have had a strong emotional hold on her to get her to try it in the first place, when she did and didnt like it you had so little respect for her you pushed and pushed the subject until she left you.

You didbt choose fab over a relationship, your ex chose her self respect over you and all power to her.

Happy fabbing"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP you have hopefully learnt a bit of a lesson.

But your attitude towards women seems a bit off - in a loving relationship you shouldn't be 'persuading' someone to do something they don't want to and it seems like you threw your toys out of the pram because you couldn't get what you want. I've been in a swinging couple and it is the cherry on top, but certainly shouldn't be a make or break if you truly love and respect them (exception of course if swinging was the basis of the relationship to begin with and it is a lifestyle choice that was mutually agreed from the off).

The further comment about women you wouldn't look at in the street is also pretty telling - there is a whiff of misogyny with that.

I think you've got a case of 'don't know what you've got till it's gone'. X

"

This.

Every comment you’ve made so far has put me off you more. Some serious red flags in the way you think about women.

Maybe change your attitude or else your ex had a lucky escape.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a lot of I and me in your profile, my thinking is that sums you up. You are not alone there, just another selfish all about my needs male now on the gripe waggon because he's worse off.

Didn't appreciate what he had, hopefully your ex lady will find someone caring and worthy of her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP you have hopefully learnt a bit of a lesson.

But your attitude towards women seems a bit off - in a loving relationship you shouldn't be 'persuading' someone to do something they don't want to and it seems like you threw your toys out of the pram because you couldn't get what you want. I've been in a swinging couple and it is the cherry on top, but certainly shouldn't be a make or break if you truly love and respect them (exception of course if swinging was the basis of the relationship to begin with and it is a lifestyle choice that was mutually agreed from the off).

The further comment about women you wouldn't look at in the street is also pretty telling - there is a whiff of misogyny with that.

I think you've got a case of 'don't know what you've got till it's gone'. X

This.

Every comment you’ve made so far has put me off you more. Some serious red flags in the way you think about women.

Maybe change your attitude or else your ex had a lucky escape. "

Agreed #hintofnarcasist

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

Just something to remember OP ..

Not everything on Fab is how it seems..

People are on here for many reasons, some are here for attention ( yes the ones you wouldn’t look at in the street) it makes people happier and although fickle, there’s no harm in that ..

Couples are on here for all kinds of reasons..

Stale relationship, often older guy younger woman, one doing it to keep the other happy or looking for a social side and friends ..

Don’t be fooled that a swinging relationship is everything people make it out to be ..

There is so many other things a lot more important in a relationship than this ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Lol I know, I was single on here before and was always getting turned down by females I wouldn’t look at twice in the street!!

The fact you spent 12 months trying to pressure her into sex she didnt want and your comment above speaks volumes about your attitude towards women and sex.

If you wouldn't look twice at a women in the street why would you even message her asking for sex. Its selfish and shows an over inflated opinion of yourself, try looking in the mirror, your no catch at all.

Pressuring anyone into sex they are not into is wrong on every level and but whatever means used.

You must have had a strong emotional hold on her to get her to try it in the first place, when she did and didnt like it you had so little respect for her you pushed and pushed the subject until she left you.

You didbt choose fab over a relationship, your ex chose her self respect over you and all power to her.

Happy fabbing

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By *itguy21066 OP   Man
over a year ago

leicester


"Just something to remember OP ..

Not everything on Fab is how it seems..

People are on here for many reasons, some are here for attention ( yes the ones you wouldn’t look at in the street) it makes people happier and although fickle, there’s no harm in that ..

Couples are on here for all kinds of reasons..

Stale relationship, often older guy younger woman, one doing it to keep the other happy or looking for a social side and friends ..

Don’t be fooled that a swinging relationship is everything people make it out to be ..

There is so many other things a lot more important in a relationship than this .."

Very true

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