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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

ok so you get a message and you think mmmm ok looks good .. look at there profile and then read there veri's and then think no chance ie will you turn down a meet based on who the person has been with ??

asking for a friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Possibly, but only really if I'm looking for men. If they claim to be straight but have sexual veris from men or TVs then I'd avoid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It has been known

Anyone who's been with my Ex or known bareback fans.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

Yep, frequently

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By *itsAndTangentsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

Very much so, it gives a rough idea of standards / lack of

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By *nnocentimesMan
over a year ago

over there by that tree

Oh bugger, quickly hides all veris...

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill


"ok so you get a message and you think mmmm ok looks good .. look at there profile and then read there veri's and then think no chance ie will you turn down a meet based on who the person has been with ??

asking for a friend "

Absolutely. Even people I have met before. If after meeting me I see that they will meet anything as long they have a pulse, it’s buh-bye from me!

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By *itsAndTangentsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth


"Oh bugger, quickly hides all veris... "

A credit to your mum oh my, dreamboat

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By *nnocentimesMan
over a year ago

over there by that tree


"Oh bugger, quickly hides all veris...

A credit to your mum oh my, dreamboat "

Hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always read the veris carefully and invariably they swing our decision one way or the another. It happens in real life, too. At a club we had our eyes on someone until we spotted them playing with a person we thought was a tad unclean. Put us right off. Shallow as fuck we are

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

Lol one would be lying if one didn’t check it out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every time

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By *nnocentimesMan
over a year ago

over there by that tree

To be honest I don’t check the profile, although I do read the veris, it’s the person/couple I’m interested at the time that matters, I’m really not fussed why they met what’s his name 2 weeks ago, that’s their business.

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By *r easy1981Man
over a year ago

leeds

I most people have a look I know I do plus it’s good to see what they say lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We always read the veris carefully and invariably they swing our decision one way or the another. It happens in real life, too. At a club we had our eyes on someone until we spotted them playing with a person we thought was a tad unclean. Put us right off. Shallow as fuck we are "

This sounds like me .Lol

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Yes. I have in the past. But purely because every woman was roughly a size 8.

I cant compete with that hahah

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Yep afraid I have in the past.

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By *wice pleaseMan
over a year ago

near Darlington

Yes i always look, and then look again after my message has been read my profile viewed and then deleted without reply and just wonder WTF

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By *acky RacersCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

it's part of our process but not the only thing we use

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do, can say alot about someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I usually check out the guys that she's met, mainly to check out cock size, if she's met a string of guys and they all have massive wangers then it's a no from me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always. I also check the "friend" list if it is displayed. Just to see if I fit into her "type".

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

Always. So I can compare myself to their previous meets...and then decide that they wouldn't be interested in me anyway!

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

If i see veris sayings like filled her with my load or the like i assume they dont play safe and avoid

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By *edVelveteenCouple
over a year ago

Heaven in the Midlands

Yeah, been checking more closely lately regarding safe play.

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By *urvyandCurious999Woman
over a year ago

Hiding from twats

I'm a nosy bitch so yes, I do look, and I look at veris they've left for other people. If they give me the ick, or they've been bare backing frequently, I'll avoid.

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By *lleyCat1969Man
over a year ago

Folkestone

This might be why most of my veris are hidden. (Or it might really be just because they're old ones!)

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

Absolutely, 100% I would turn down depending on who, how many they've been with. Sex is sex I agree but also I don't believe just because you're on a site like this people should just fuck around. I'm personally attracted to people who haven't fucked half the planet and definitely wouldn't wish to be a notch for someone. Yuk. This is why I don't meet a lot of people in comparison to the amount of offers i receive daily because you never know.......

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

Definitely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ok so you get a message and you think mmmm ok looks good .. look at there profile and then read there veri's and then think no chance ie will you turn down a meet based on who the person has been with ??

asking for a friend "

Yes I have turned away some good looking blokes on here due to who they have been with, has shocked me sometimes what I have seen with who goes with who.

Private notes can be a lifesaver, as some of them do not display the veris but I stumbled across their veris elsewhere on profiles I definitely would not go with, then added warning notes. If you get put off by who shags what, then get in the habit of private notes.

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston

Yes. For a multitude of reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely

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By *r_G_SPMan
over a year ago

Nice shoes

Some people do tend to worry too much on this site. Just be cool. Some will always find fault with anyone.

I’ve heard it all in my time on fabs. It can be too many varies, not enough recent ones, wrong people, or even that I have one from a man. Unfortunately they are no longer on the site. It was from a couple who happened to have a single profile.

Just try and enjoy what there is to enjoy here. Yes the odds aren’t great but for every ten people that don’t fancy you there has to be one that does..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Possibly, but only really if I'm looking for men. If they claim to be straight but have sexual veris from men or TVs then I'd avoid."

Totally your choice of course, I’m interested to know what puts you off meeting bisexual guys? Seems to be quite commonn.

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By *nnocentimesMan
over a year ago

over there by that tree


"Possibly, but only really if I'm looking for men. If they claim to be straight but have sexual veris from men or TVs then I'd avoid.

Totally your choice of course, I’m interested to know what puts you off meeting bisexual guys? Seems to be quite commonn."

Personal choice....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Possibly, but only really if I'm looking for men. If they claim to be straight but have sexual veris from men or TVs then I'd avoid.

Totally your choice of course, I’m interested to know what puts you off meeting bisexual guys? Seems to be quite commonn.

Personal choice.... "

I understand that, was asking if she would elaborate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes. I have in the past. But purely because every woman was roughly a size 8.

I cant compete with that hahah"

You are a goddess, its you they can't compete with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only

Sometimes

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By *aughty Lovers 69Man
over a year ago

Wallasey

Never thought of this before haha being newish to meets, definitely will be doing this from now on xx

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land


"Possibly, but only really if I'm looking for men. If they claim to be straight but have sexual veris from men or TVs then I'd avoid.

Totally your choice of course, I’m interested to know what puts you off meeting bisexual guys? Seems to be quite commonn.

Personal choice....

I understand that, was asking if she would elaborate"

It's the dishonesty that is off putting I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Possibly, but only really if I'm looking for men. If they claim to be straight but have sexual veris from men or TVs then I'd avoid.

Totally your choice of course, I’m interested to know what puts you off meeting bisexual guys? Seems to be quite commonn.

Personal choice....

I understand that, was asking if she would elaborate

It's the dishonesty that is off putting I think."

That’s fair enough - dishonesty is a unattractive trait. Was wondering if it was more about not wanting to meet people who are attracted to both men and women, as I’ve seen a lot of people say male bisexuality puts them off.

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By *nnocentimesMan
over a year ago

over there by that tree


"Possibly, but only really if I'm looking for men. If they claim to be straight but have sexual veris from men or TVs then I'd avoid.

Totally your choice of course, I’m interested to know what puts you off meeting bisexual guys? Seems to be quite commonn.

Personal choice....

I understand that, was asking if she would elaborate

It's the dishonesty that is off putting I think.

That’s fair enough - dishonesty is a unattractive trait. Was wondering if it was more about not wanting to meet people who are attracted to both men and women, as I’ve seen a lot of people say male bisexuality puts them off."

It’s personal choice... that’s the bottom line, it’s been done to death a hundred times over before, just do a quick forum search, you’ll get all the answers you will ever need.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ok so you get a message and you think mmmm ok looks good .. look at there profile and then read there veri's and then think no chance ie will you turn down a meet based on who the person has been with ??

asking for a friend "

If I’d got to the point of wanting to meet them, no, probably not. But Veri’s can be a turn on, or a turn off for me.

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By *exnPaul17Couple
over a year ago

Poole


"Yes. I have in the past. But purely because every woman was roughly a size 8.

I cant compete with that hahah"

Bex does this too

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Odd, yes, though usually after we have met.

Need to think about that one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Possibly, but only really if I'm looking for men. If they claim to be straight but have sexual veris from men or TVs then I'd avoid.

Totally your choice of course, I’m interested to know what puts you off meeting bisexual guys? Seems to be quite commonn."

I just don't like the idea of being with men who've had sex with other men. I don't have anything against bi men personally, it's just a turn off for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always read peoples veris and they have been known to change my mind about meeting someone before now x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes definitely. And as another lady mentioned if all the veris from size 8 women, I run a mile as don't see why they would have any interest in me. Have had issue with another female talking about me to potential meets so if a guy starts chatting and she has verified him. I avoid. Don't need the grief.

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

Yes I always check out the veris on display

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

All the time

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By *andlingswingersCouple
over a year ago

Woodbridge

Yep. We do. Mainly to see what their standards are. If they like having sex with people we think are unattractive then we can't see the point of thinking about having sex with them. Any hole isn't a goal unless you're 15. Or unattractive, obviously.

And yes, if their friends/veris are from TVs or bi men, I'm sure that's lovely for them. It's not for us.

And..sit and wait for bi men to call us 'passive aggressive,' which seems to be newspeak for daring not to want to have sex with bi men and TVs.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

I can see why people think there's a benefit to browsing through veris but don't forget - not every meet leaves one, not every sexual encounter will happen via Fab and not every 'straight' guy has never dabbled with another guy.

Use them how you wish but if it's a major factor in decision making you could easily be meeting people you wouldn't want to.

A

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By *ornytoad1362Couple
over a year ago

St. Austell

always good to read veri's also shows you wen they last had a meet was it recent or a long time ago ? also we would chat a while before adding to friends list too

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By *ick_and_BickerCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"I can see why people think there's a benefit to browsing through veris but don't forget - not every meet leaves one, not every sexual encounter will happen via Fab and not every 'straight' guy has never dabbled with another guy.

Use them how you wish but if it's a major factor in decision making you could easily be meeting people you wouldn't want to.

A"

Stop talking sense and let the poor delusioned live in their Fab verification bubble.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always look at verifications but equally will ignore them. Yes if they have been with the whole site then I'd avoid them but equally because someone has said they are great in bed , doesn't make it so. This totally depends on the physical attraction and vibe between people and everyone is different. People only show you what they want you to see. We all judge a book by its cover.

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By *dquestCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

Yep!

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By *aughtycp1Couple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

We have a quick read of veris. But you have to rem_mber perhaps they met them at a club and it was just a quick hello

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well of course...isn’t that what they’re there for?

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By *ettyboop61Woman
over a year ago

St Neots


"Yes.

If i see veris sayings like filled her with my load or the like i assume they dont play safe and avoid"

Same here always check...but that definitely says pass on my list........

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Yes but more as I’m a nosey mare and I’m happy when I see my friends on the veris as I trust their opinion

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By *bwlookingforfunWoman
over a year ago

crawley

I always check it.

1. If they meet people with my body type

2. If they have any standards (bareback etc)

3. Females- if they are verified by guys I blocked.

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By *hickennchipsWoman
over a year ago

up above the streets and houses

100% I do! I often avoid people who have met certain other people. That’s life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always!

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Yes but more as I’m a nosey mare and I’m happy when I see my friends on the veris as I trust their opinion"

The one thing I like about the veri system is that. If someone I know well has met somebody whose profile I stumble across then I can pretty much 100% be certain they're genuine.

As opposed to taking the word of a complete stranger.

A

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Definetly. We follow veris through for quite a while. It can be off putting for various reasons, but it can also make people even more appealing to us.

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By *asteregg01Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Always check the veri trail, can tell alot from them.

Like guys who say 'safe sex' on their profile, but meet barebackers.

It's a no from me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes and if they've been with bi males we won't meet them, as we don't ourselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ok so you get a message and you think mmmm ok looks good .. look at there profile and then read there veri's and then think no chance ie will you turn down a meet based on who the person has been with ??

asking for a friend "
of course and many do and some if theyve been chatting for a while or even meeting for a while will get in touch with them, can you adam and eve it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ok so you get a message and you think mmmm ok looks good .. look at there profile and then read there veri's and then think no chance ie will you turn down a meet based on who the person has been with ??

asking for a friend "

Yes most definitely. I had one potential meet but unfortunately he met a lady I'd heard rumours about as in she takes it bare-back. I believe the rumours to be true as it came from a good fab friend of mine who had met her & he made a quick escape

Also this lady had harassed me in the past on here & also when I'd display a new verification she would endlessly mail my new meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ok so you get a message and you think mmmm ok looks good .. look at there profile and then read there veri's and then think no chance ie will you turn down a meet based on who the person has been with ??

asking for a friend

Yes most definitely. I had one potential meet but unfortunately he met a lady I'd heard rumours about as in she takes it bare-back. I believe the rumours to be true as it came from a good fab friend of mine who had met her & he made a quick escape

Also this lady had harassed me in the past on here & also when I'd display a new verification she would endlessly mail my new meets "
noooooo....... really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ok so you get a message and you think mmmm ok looks good .. look at there profile and then read there veri's and then think no chance ie will you turn down a meet based on who the person has been with ??

asking for a friend

Yes most definitely. I had one potential meet but unfortunately he met a lady I'd heard rumours about as in she takes it bare-back. I believe the rumours to be true as it came from a good fab friend of mine who had met her & he made a quick escape

Also this lady had harassed me in the past on here & also when I'd display a new verification she would endlessly mail my new meets

noooooo....... really "

Yes Very True,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ok so you get a message and you think mmmm ok looks good .. look at there profile and then read there veri's and then think no chance ie will you turn down a meet based on who the person has been with ??

asking for a friend

Yes most definitely. I had one potential meet but unfortunately he met a lady I'd heard rumours about as in she takes it bare-back. I believe the rumours to be true as it came from a good fab friend of mine who had met her & he made a quick escape

Also this lady had harassed me in the past on here & also when I'd display a new verification she would endlessly mail my new meets

noooooo....... really

Yes Very True, "
well to be fair i have heard this a few times myself

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville

Definitely I always check verifications for similar reasons as everyone above. But I'm a nosey moo and I ask potential meets to show them if they hide veris.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes. I have in the past. But purely because every woman was roughly a size 8.

I cant compete with that hahah"

Haha I do this!! Who they play with is their business but I have Small size issues I wanna feel comfortable that they will fancy me.

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By *inky_CarpenterMan
over a year ago

Portsmouth


"ok so you get a message and you think mmmm ok looks good .. look at there profile and then read there veri's and then think no chance ie will you turn down a meet based on who the person has been with ??

asking for a friend "

Absolutely! One of the first things I check!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"We always read the veris carefully and invariably they swing our decision one way or the another. It happens in real life, too. At a club we had our eyes on someone until we spotted them playing with a person we thought was a tad unclean. Put us right off. Shallow as fuck we are "

It's not shallow at all, it's your choice. "Better no play in a club, than regretting fucking a minger next day" was great advice I was given once

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was basically told that I'm a fantasist and not here to meet anyone as all my veris are socials. You can't win posting none or posting any.

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By *r and Mrs SexploitCouple
over a year ago

Pontypridd

We always check veris and veris of the veris too if that makes sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes i check them everytime. I like to see if they have standards or just meet anything with a pulse.

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By *merald Eyes XWoman
over a year ago

Can you find me….

Yep, all the time......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes its only like reading reviews on holidays! Pick the best, and check out who they have been with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I always check, it can say a rather lot about the person and their standards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes and i interogate all of them

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"ok so you get a message and you think mmmm ok looks good .. look at there profile and then read there veri's and then think no chance ie will you turn down a meet based on who the person has been with ??

asking for a friend "

No, but... It's sometimes worth checking their verifications for other potential victims though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ok so you get a message and you think mmmm ok looks good .. look at there profile and then read there veri's and then think no chance ie will you turn down a meet based on who the person has been with ??

asking for a friend

No, but... It's sometimes worth checking their verifications for other potential victims though. "
victims.... omg.... what do you do to them?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Yes, we do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, we do."
did you check mine

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Yes, we do.did you check mine "

Is this a trick question?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do

Like with anything - you do your research

ESP bareback pics and the 420 people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, we do.did you check mine

Is this a trick question? "
lol maybe

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