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"How does everyone deal with people messaging them when they having done you the service of reading your bio. Hundreds of guys message us completely unrelated stuff and propositions for things we clearly aren't looking for. It's got to the stage that I've been sending screenshots of our bio to people. Are you a block and move on-er or do you have a funny/sassy reply for the unwanted mail" All 3 Even worse.. You try arrange a meet and they ghost you after you thought they were interested so i had no luck on here   | |||
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" All 3 Even worse.. You try arrange a meet and they ghost you after you thought they were interested so i had no luck on here "You can report him for not turning up, it get taken seriously | |||
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"How does everyone deal with people messaging them when they having done you the service of reading your bio. Hundreds of guys message us completely unrelated stuff and propositions for things we clearly aren't looking for. It's got to the stage that I've been sending screenshots of our bio to people. Are you a block and move on-er or do you have a funny/sassy reply for the unwanted mail" Just ignore them instead of wasting your time by sending the screenshots | |||
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"How does everyone deal with people messaging them when they having done you the service of reading your bio. Hundreds of guys message us completely unrelated stuff and propositions for things we clearly aren't looking for. It's got to the stage that I've been sending screenshots of our bio to people. Are you a block and move on-er or do you have a funny/sassy reply for the unwanted mail" Love that screenshot idea (sorry above post) Sarcasm/witty replies also funny! Depends if you've got the time or can be bothered. More chance of me blocking tbh. Anyway we all get junk mail... Adapt your profile to minimise it or change filters. I'm always adapting mine and my profile x good luck peeps x | |||
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"Even worse.. You try arrange a meet and they ghost you after you thought they were interested so i had no luck on here "Someone else suggested not investing much time / energy in people until after a first meet. Which isn’t bad advice actually. We all get frustrated with wasted time particularly! I guess the other angle is that plenty of people enjoy the chat / messaging / attention, but taking it that stage further into the real world is a big step and they lose their nerve. Probably just a fact of Fab life? | |||
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"I wouldn’t call someone messaging that hadn’t read my profile a ‘timewaster’ but I would just delete their message without reply x" You are one hot lady xx | |||
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"Even worse.. You try arrange a meet and they ghost you after you thought they were interested so i had no luck on here
Someone else suggested not investing much time / energy in people until after a first meet. Which isn’t bad advice actually. We all get frustrated with wasted time particularly!
I guess the other angle is that plenty of people enjoy the chat / messaging / attention, but taking it that stage further into the real world is a big step and they lose their nerve. Probably just a fact of Fab life?
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"By sending cheeky replies, screenshots, trying to explain why they should've read your profile etc you're actually just wasting your own time. If it's clear they've not read it, delete the message, no time wasted. "  | |||
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"By sending cheeky replies, screenshots, trying to explain why they should've read your profile etc you're actually just wasting your own time. If it's clear they've not read it, delete the message, no time wasted. " NSAchick nails it again!  | |||
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"How does everyone deal with people messaging them when they having done you the service of reading your bio. Hundreds of guys message us completely unrelated stuff and propositions for things we clearly aren't looking for. It's got to the stage that I've been sending screenshots of our bio to people. Are you a block and move on-er or do you have a funny/sassy reply for the unwanted mail All 3 Even worse.. You try arrange a meet and they ghost you after you thought they were interested so i had no luck on here "I don't get that at all. Just checked out your gallery - it's quite amazing, you're a stunning young lady. Sometimes I despair about the young males of today. I hope you find what you're looking for. | |||
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"Sometimes especially if it's a one word rude obnoxious or cock shot I just delete and block. If they cant be bothered to make an effort why should I? Other times if I think they may interest my Master I, admittedly rather curt at times, as them to read the profile. "  love that! | |||
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"By sending cheeky replies, screenshots, trying to explain why they should've read your profile etc you're actually just wasting your own time. If it's clear they've not read it, delete the message, no time wasted. NSAchick nails it again! "I know, I'm so wise  | |||
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"I know, I'm so wise "Absolutely. That's the first thought that jumps out from reading your profile...  | |||
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"How does everyone deal with people messaging them when they having done you the service of reading your bio. Hundreds of guys message us completely unrelated stuff and propositions for things we clearly aren't looking for. It's got to the stage that I've been sending screenshots of our bio to people. Are you a block and move on-er or do you have a funny/sassy reply for the unwanted mail All 3 Even worse.. You try arrange a meet and they ghost you after you thought they were interested so i had no luck on here "Awwwwww! You got rejected then ghosted?!  | |||
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"I wouldn’t call someone messaging that hadn’t read my profile a ‘timewaster’ but I would just delete their message without reply x" Probably the right thing to do. | |||
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I literally changed how I do things and it cut all my 'spam-time wasting' messages out | |||
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"Use the message filters and search those that interest you. Then message them
I literally changed how I do things and it cut all my 'spam-time wasting' messages out "The issue with that for me is, we aren't really looking for anything on here. We are more just using this to keep up with club friends, so if I pop settings up it means that my club friends can't friend request and message us. Besides, it's good fun telling someone to go away politely | |||
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Absolutely. That's the first thought that jumps out from reading your profile... " | |||
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"Use the message filters and search those that interest you. Then message them
I literally changed how I do things and it cut all my 'spam-time wasting' messages out
The issue with that for me is, we aren't really looking for anything on here. We are more just using this to keep up with club friends, so if I pop settings up it means that my club friends can't friend request and message us. Besides, it's good fun telling someone to go away politely "Then to reduce the amount of messages, untick your looking for options and you'll drop out of searches. It won't stop all the messages but it will reduce it and people you meet at clubs can still message you | |||
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"I know, I'm so wise
Absolutely. That's the first thought that jumps out from reading your profile... "And perhaps something else jumps out in that last photo...  | |||
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"Use the message filters and search those that interest you. Then message them
I literally changed how I do things and it cut all my 'spam-time wasting' messages out
The issue with that for me is, we aren't really looking for anything on here. We are more just using this to keep up with club friends, so if I pop settings up it means that my club friends can't friend request and message us. Besides, it's good fun telling someone to go away politely "Of course if you are having fun then you can't really complain that you are getting the mails but if you don't want mails and don't want to set mail filters.... set your age range from 99 to 99...it cuts out 99 and half % of mails | |||
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"How does everyone deal with people messaging them when they having done you the service of reading your bio. Hundreds of guys message us completely unrelated stuff and propositions for things we clearly aren't looking for. It's got to the stage that I've been sending screenshots of our bio to people. Are you a block and move on-er or do you have a funny/sassy reply for the unwanted mail" you're only wasting your own time responding if you're not interested in them or what they have to say... | |||
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. I think guys just assume that they are entitled to a fuck and they don't need to make any effort to get it then wonder why they aren't getting laid. Baffling. | |||
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"A straight guy messaged us recently and asked what we're looking for. I said, "people who can read a profile." " | |||
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"How does everyone deal with people messaging them when they having done you the service of reading your bio. Hundreds of guys message us completely unrelated stuff and propositions for things we clearly aren't looking for. It's got to the stage that I've been sending screenshots of our bio to people. Are you a block and move on-er or do you have a funny/sassy reply for the unwanted mail you're only wasting your own time responding if you're not interested in them or what they have to say..." We always believe a polite no thanks/ not for us is what everyone should to on here ( men couples or women ) or even to delete the message then people know there not interested, weve had alot of couples and single females who read the message and dont delete or reply? So what does that mean? Weve had alot of guys that will message us 3/4 times and will get our usual no thanks message back but on the third time we will screen shot all the polite no thanks and then send it to them like ‘seriously’ | |||
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"How does everyone deal with people messaging them when they having done you the service of reading your bio. Hundreds of guys message us completely unrelated stuff and propositions for things we clearly aren't looking for. It's got to the stage that I've been sending screenshots of our bio to people. Are you a block and move on-er or do you have a funny/sassy reply for the unwanted mail you're only wasting your own time responding if you're not interested in them or what they have to say... We always believe a polite no thanks/ not for us is what everyone should to on here ( men couples or women ) or even to delete the message then people know there not interested, weve had alot of couples and single females who read the message and dont delete or reply? So what does that mean? Weve had alot of guys that will message us 3/4 times and will get our usual no thanks message back but on the third time we will screen shot all the polite no thanks and then send it to them like ‘seriously’" It means nothing in particular, eventually it will just drop off the end of the page. I never delete when I’ve read a message, some just bulk delete everything every so often. | |||
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"Use the message filters and search those that interest you. Then message them
I literally changed how I do things and it cut all my 'spam-time wasting' messages out
The issue with that for me is, we aren't really looking for anything on here. We are more just using this to keep up with club friends, so if I pop settings up it means that my club friends can't friend request and message us. Besides, it's good fun telling someone to go away politely "Right, so by your own admission in this post, you are in fact timewasters yourselves.  | |||
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"Use the message filters and search those that interest you. Then message them
I literally changed how I do things and it cut all my 'spam-time wasting' messages out
The issue with that for me is, we aren't really looking for anything on here. We are more just using this to keep up with club friends, so if I pop settings up it means that my club friends can't friend request and message us. Besides, it's good fun telling someone to go away politely
Right, so by your own admission in this post, you are in fact timewasters yourselves. " lol | |||
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"Use the message filters and search those that interest you. Then message them
I literally changed how I do things and it cut all my 'spam-time wasting' messages out
The issue with that for me is, we aren't really looking for anything on here. We are more just using this to keep up with club friends, so if I pop settings up it means that my club friends can't friend request and message us. Besides, it's good fun telling someone to go away politely
Right, so by your own admission in this post, you are in fact timewasters yourselves.
lol "Oh, the irony lol. | |||
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"Use the message filters and search those that interest you. Then message them
I literally changed how I do things and it cut all my 'spam-time wasting' messages out
The issue with that for me is, we aren't really looking for anything on here. We are more just using this to keep up with club friends, so if I pop settings up it means that my club friends can't friend request and message us. Besides, it's good fun telling someone to go away politely
Right, so by your own admission in this post, you are in fact timewasters yourselves.
lol
Oh, the irony lol. "We occasionally message people without reading all their terms and conditions first.... we so damn rebellious. And to be honest some profiles are so long and boring you struggle to stay awake to the end, so what choice do you have? | |||
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"Just thinking, how many time wasting treads have wasted time on here. Fully understand your grievance OP, yet... May I suggest you and I look for positives, they are out there." I dont have an issue, I was just asking what everyone does with their unwanted messages | |||
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"Use the message filters and search those that interest you. Then message them
I literally changed how I do things and it cut all my 'spam-time wasting' messages out
The issue with that for me is, we aren't really looking for anything on here. We are more just using this to keep up with club friends, so if I pop settings up it means that my club friends can't friend request and message us. Besides, it's good fun telling someone to go away politely
Right, so by your own admission in this post, you are in fact timewasters yourselves.
lol
Oh, the irony lol. "We certainly aren't time wasters, we just prefer to go to clubs instead of sifting through thousands of faceless profiles to try and get a meet. | |||
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"Use the message filters and search those that interest you. Then message them
I literally changed how I do things and it cut all my 'spam-time wasting' messages out
The issue with that for me is, we aren't really looking for anything on here. We are more just using this to keep up with club friends, so if I pop settings up it means that my club friends can't friend request and message us. Besides, it's good fun telling someone to go away politely
Right, so by your own admission in this post, you are in fact timewasters yourselves. " | |||
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"How does everyone deal with people messaging them when they having done you the service of reading your bio. Hundreds of guys message us completely unrelated stuff and propositions for things we clearly aren't looking for. It's got to the stage that I've been sending screenshots of our bio to people. Are you a block and move on-er or do you have a funny/sassy reply for the unwanted mail" | |||
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"Use the message filters and search those that interest you. Then message them
I literally changed how I do things and it cut all my 'spam-time wasting' messages out
The issue with that for me is, we aren't really looking for anything on here. We are more just using this to keep up with club friends, so if I pop settings up it means that my club friends can't friend request and message us. Besides, it's good fun telling someone to go away politely
Right, so by your own admission in this post, you are in fact timewasters yourselves. " lmao | |||
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"Use the message filters and search those that interest you. Then message them
I literally changed how I do things and it cut all my 'spam-time wasting' messages out
The issue with that for me is, we aren't really looking for anything on here. We are more just using this to keep up with club friends, so if I pop settings up it means that my club friends can't friend request and message us. Besides, it's good fun telling someone to go away politely
Right, so by your own admission in this post, you are in fact timewasters yourselves.
lmao"Lost..... I don't get how they are.... | |||
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"Use the message filters and search those that interest you. Then message them
I literally changed how I do things and it cut all my 'spam-time wasting' messages out
The issue with that for me is, we aren't really looking for anything on here. We are more just using this to keep up with club friends, so if I pop settings up it means that my club friends can't friend request and message us. Besides, it's good fun telling someone to go away politely
Right, so by your own admission in this post, you are in fact timewasters yourselves.
lmao
Lost.....
I don't get how they are.... "Wasting others peoples time by sending pointless replies just for their own amusement? | |||
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"Use the message filters and search those that interest you. Then message them
I literally changed how I do things and it cut all my 'spam-time wasting' messages out
The issue with that for me is, we aren't really looking for anything on here. We are more just using this to keep up with club friends, so if I pop settings up it means that my club friends can't friend request and message us. Besides, it's good fun telling someone to go away politely
Right, so by your own admission in this post, you are in fact timewasters yourselves.
lmao
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Wasting others peoples time by sending pointless replies just for their own amusement? "I've looked at the screenshot as help.... Just to let them know what theyve missed about the bio... So much easier than typing a reply! If we teach those to read, maybe some will more often after seeing threads like this... You know like there are threads about dick pics, no avatar pics, very little bio imput on profiles etc.... Strange my way of thinking, I know!!! | |||
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"How does everyone deal with people messaging them when they having done you the service of reading your bio. Hundreds of guys message us completely unrelated stuff and propositions for things we clearly aren't looking for. It's got to the stage that I've been sending screenshots of our bio to people. Are you a block and move on-er or do you have a funny/sassy reply for the unwanted mail" Depends what mood I’m in. If it’s an arrogant prick messaging me then I like to dismantle them and have fun at their expense. If it’s low energy ‘can I fuck you’ kind of stuff I just hit delete. Can have hours of fun with people too dense to realise they’re having the mick taken out of them  | |||
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