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By *ichie74 OP   Man
over a year ago

basildon

Hi

I need some help please I’ve been on this site for a while and support it. I message loads of couples / women but never seem to get any response what so ever. I know I’m no brad Pitt look alike but I literally am getting no responses not even a social. Never know what to put in a msg to someone and always sounds so repetitive. Just would like to have some fun. What do ppl put in there msgs other than how r u doing etc

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By *andlingswingersCouple
over a year ago

Woodbridge

Well, start by never putting 'how are you doing?' in a message. Because there isn't an answer that will get anyone anywhere, for a start.

Personally, I try to comment on something in their profile (positively, of course) - at least it shows you've read it!

No text speak unless you're actually 12, no how's you? (see rule one, above)

Say what you're looking for. Mention anything in their profile that you like or can do to meet their need(s).

If you met a couple in a bar you wouldn't say "I'd like to spunk on your wife's tits" three seconds after you'd met them (presumably...) - it's no different doing a first message. You have ONE chance!!!

If you can think of anything vaguely amusing about their profile or yours, mention that. Do NOT confuse 'being amusing' with 'telling the one about the three-legged Chinese jockey.'

Good luck!!

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By *roticGoddessXXWoman
over a year ago

Richmond

I got a message a while back from someone I'd never have responded to ordinarily, based on (lack of) profile write up and profile pic.

The message made me spit out my coffee, it was one of the funniest I'd ever had.

I wish I could copy and paste it here, for those who think telling a bad joke is unusual humor here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As most recipients will check out your profile (quite often in stealth mode, so you'll never even know) before even thinking about reading your message, you really should ensure that your profile is the best it can possibly be.

I would also recommend that you check out the site FAQ's. There is a FAQ which specifically deals with the issue of non-responses and it is explained that a no-reply should be considered as a 'No, thank you'

Many women and couples on Fab get hundreds of messages per day. Just let that sink in for a moment.

How do you think you would manage with that level of messages?

They simply can't reply to them all, and so are only likely to concentrate on those who interest them.

Single men MASSIVELY outnumber women and couples here. Depending on who you speak to, the ratio is anywhere from 50 to 1 up to around 500 to 1.

Think about all those takeaway menus that get posted through your door.

You haven't asked for them. Do you phone all those takeaways just to tell them that you're not interested?

Not everyone is going to fancy you.

In fact, I'd go as far as to say that most probably won't. It's nothing personal. It's just like in the real world. You may only appeal to a handful of people. And the kicker is that those who you appeal to may not be people who appeal to you.

That's life.

It is in no way a reflection on you.

Contrary to what you might have been told about this site, or what you may have been led to believe, it isn't full of people gagging for sex with just anyone who shows an interest.

Once you understand how the site works and realign your expectations accordingly, you'll find that you have a much better time here.

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By *exy4youxxWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract


"As most recipients will check out your profile (quite often in stealth mode, so you'll never even know) before even thinking about reading your message, you really should ensure that your profile is the best it can possibly be.

I would also recommend that you check out the site FAQ's. There is a FAQ which specifically deals with the issue of non-responses and it is explained that a no-reply should be considered as a 'No, thank you'

Many women and couples on Fab get hundreds of messages per day. Just let that sink in for a moment.

How do you think you would manage with that level of messages?

They simply can't reply to them all, and so are only likely to concentrate on those who interest them.

Single men MASSIVELY outnumber women and couples here. Depending on who you speak to, the ratio is anywhere from 50 to 1 up to around 500 to 1.

Think about all those takeaway menus that get posted through your door.

You haven't asked for them. Do you phone all those takeaways just to tell them that you're not interested?

Not everyone is going to fancy you.

In fact, I'd go as far as to say that most probably won't. It's nothing personal. It's just like in the real world. You may only appeal to a handful of people. And the kicker is that those who you appeal to may not be people who appeal to you.

That's life.

It is in no way a reflection on you.

Contrary to what you might have been told about this site, or what you may have been led to believe, it isn't full of people gagging for sex with just anyone who shows an interest.

Once you understand how the site works and realign your expectations accordingly, you'll find that you have a much better time here."

Spot on especially the first bit on profiles amount of men who just click on every interest yet when asked about it they dont have a clue what it entails instant conversation stopper ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As most recipients will check out your profile (quite often in stealth mode, so you'll never even know) before even thinking about reading your message, you really should ensure that your profile is the best it can possibly be.

I would also recommend that you check out the site FAQ's. There is a FAQ which specifically deals with the issue of non-responses and it is explained that a no-reply should be considered as a 'No, thank you'

Many women and couples on Fab get hundreds of messages per day. Just let that sink in for a moment.

How do you think you would manage with that level of messages?

They simply can't reply to them all, and so are only likely to concentrate on those who interest them.

Single men MASSIVELY outnumber women and couples here. Depending on who you speak to, the ratio is anywhere from 50 to 1 up to around 500 to 1.

Think about all those takeaway menus that get posted through your door.

You haven't asked for them. Do you phone all those takeaways just to tell them that you're not interested?

Not everyone is going to fancy you.

In fact, I'd go as far as to say that most probably won't. It's nothing personal. It's just like in the real world. You may only appeal to a handful of people. And the kicker is that those who you appeal to may not be people who appeal to you.

That's life.

It is in no way a reflection on you.

Contrary to what you might have been told about this site, or what you may have been led to believe, it isn't full of people gagging for sex with just anyone who shows an interest.

Once you understand how the site works and realign your expectations accordingly, you'll find that you have a much better time here."

This I would say is the definitive answer spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feel your pain OP. Being a single guy on here you learn very quickly that you WILL be ignored 99% of the time

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