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"Male half replying here... I have found over the years that jealousy only starts to creep in when I wasn’t sure of or was uncertain as to what my wife was doing without me there. Every time she has a meet when I’m not present she tells me everything in the finest detail what went on how she felt/enjoyed it etc. I know I can ask any question and get an entirely honest answer. This not only alleviates any jealous emotions or uncertain feelings I have but we both find it incredibly horny talking it through. Even to the point that this profile has been set up primarily for my wife and her male friend to have fun but all three of us have access, that way everything is totally transparent, we all know where we are and what’s going on and above all we all have the upmost fun. Trust is key " Sounds amazing.. have fun guys | |||
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"Open relationships- often the subject of intense and unremitting bullshit and self entitlement. My ex tried to involve a third party in our marriage - when this didn't go to her plan she decided to cheat with him anyway. Fetish scene justifications for dishonesty and betrayal are rife, if you can make it work, much kudos, in my limited experience however, these seem to be the preserve of control freaks who want to foist their infidelity on you without the psychological hang ups." Not for me. He controlled me. Martiage, he forced me to have sex. Another grown man was also controlling me, sex was off the cards because he was too d*unk all the time.. He cheated on me. Sling your hook. Open relationships mean we can please ourselves without the partner us singletons. Otherwise why would I be here | |||
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"I've been with my partner for 10 years almost 11 and he can't have sex due to an accident he had when he was 5. So we always knew me sleeping with others was on the cards because we've known each other for 16 years. But most relationships (open or not) fail due to communication breakdown. So if you are looking into getting with someone in an open environment 1) you have to be secure in your relationship 2)communicate - this is the most important thing 3) honesty People like to say they're in an open relationship because it's something different but I have experienced with couples jealousy and I don't believe those people should do it. A lot of people like the idea of it but practically it doesn't work for them. We've never had an issue with jealousy other than once when someone made up stuff that hadn't happened. But it was quickly resolved with a conversation. " unrelated to this on this topic of your fella, obviously I don't know what happened to him but I'm going to assume there's an issue with his penis, don't know if you've seen it, but if you haven't, look up a story of a man who had an accident when he was young and has recently been able to have surgery to fit a bionic penis, just some food for thought, though I imagine if your fellas issue is anything similar you probably will have | |||
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"Sorry I did not answer about the time factor. The primary (in a poly relationship, which is different to an open relationship) would be the main person you spent your time with. They come first and they make the rules. It's all about balance really " | |||
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"I am interested in hearing from people who are in open relationships... do you ever, ever feel jealousy about your partner spending time (in a sexual or otherwise way) with someone else? If you do- how do you deal with it? How do you divide your time between your primary relationship and others? Thank you in advance for any insight you can give me. " I think the most useful insight from the world of consensual non monogamy is that you aren't failing if you are jealous, it's a natural human emotion. However we have to own our jealousy and deal with it ourselves, rather than expecting our partners to. They may, if they want to, talk about what relationship dynamics work for both of you, and possibly make changes - but it isn't someone else's job to "fix" our jealousy Hope that helps Ms Icebreaker | |||
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"I am interested in hearing from people who are in open relationships... do you ever, ever feel jealousy about your partner spending time (in a sexual or otherwise way) with someone else? If you do- how do you deal with it? How do you divide your time between your primary relationship and others? Thank you in advance for any insight you can give me. " I find jealousy comes from insecurity. So it's best to talk about any and all insecurities you or your partner might have. Also be honest with each other and discuss boundaries. After a meet/play/social have a full and honest discussion. What you liked or didn't like, what worked what didn't work. Talk about what you both want as a couple from swinging. Review and talk about things and most importantly don't take one for the team (something a lot of women do). The most important thing is to be honest and not put any jealousy or insecurities on each. It could ruin your swinging experience (which our is meant to be fun for both parties) and/or your relationship. | |||
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