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Kids under the same roof and etiquette about it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just a bit of a question really

Kids under the same roof? We both understand first hand the trials and tribulations having a family can be but we also because of this we have a "we don't meet/play if kids are under the same roof" because it's the right thing in our book

Now most of the time it'd not be an issue but occasionally we either get it dropped in quite last minute or get a frosty reception to our rule.

Should people be clear and what is the etiquette on this everyone?

Please keep it polite and respectful

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By *hromosexualsCouple
over a year ago

Near Abercynon

Kids in the house? No chance... abort!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

kids shouldn't be on premises ever end of, the question shouldn't be asked, this is an adult only passtime

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.....kids should never be under the same roof as it. Huge no no.

I recently moved out of the family home with our 2 kids to get away from soon to be ex. Even when they kids are with their dad every 2nd weekend, I would feel weird having people over for fun. Might take me a while to adjust to that idea...even though the kids arent there, its their space. Feels odd.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I've been invited to play in places where young children will be sleeping. It's a hard no from me.

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"Just a bit of a question really

Kids under the same roof? We both understand first hand the trials and tribulations having a family can be but we also because of this we have a "we don't meet/play if kids are under the same roof" because it's the right thing in our book

Now most of the time it'd not be an issue but occasionally we either get it dropped in quite last minute or get a frosty reception to our rule.

Should people be clear and what is the etiquette on this everyone?

Please keep it polite and respectful "

Absolutely agree with you

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By *ng1983Couple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon tyne

We don't even have meets in the house when the kids aren't there. We would never dream of having a meet with our kids or someone else's kids in the house

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Plan for hotels and if kids plans for being out could change, inform potential people in advance.

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By *OXO2018Couple
over a year ago

Norfolk

This is why we only meet at clubs. Our child's safety comes before we do.

On the flip side, we have meet a couple for a social and they brought there baby along. It was a social so we did mind, but had we known before hand we probably wouldn't of meet them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree 100%. Kids safety is paramount. And frankly it just wouldn't feel right at all. Nuh-uh, no way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How about being asked on a social in a local coffee shop with their kids in tow! And then being called a timewaster for saying not a fucking chance that's happening!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's completely wrong to meet with children in the house. I'd never dream of it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How about being asked on a social in a local coffee shop with their kids in tow! And then being called a timewaster for saying not a fucking chance that's happening!"

I can’t believe someone though this was appropriate

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

We dont accommodate full stop. Seems OTT but that's his safe space we want to keep this separate from him.

Only way we would break this rule is if he was with family and we knew the person/people VERY well!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even with a teenager and two "adults" as my children, I wouldn't invite anyone to my house. That's mine and their space. The man they know as my occasional FWB (because no way am I explaining that he's my Dom) doesn't even come to my house.

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By *ubby and naughty wifeCouple
over a year ago

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By *ubby and naughty wifeCouple
over a year ago

kingswinford.


"Just a bit of a question really

Kids under the same roof? We both understand first hand the trials and tribulations having a family can be but we also because of this we have a "we don't meet/play if kids are under the same roof" because it's the right thing in our book

Now most of the time it'd not be an issue but occasionally we either get it dropped in quite last minute or get a frosty reception to our rule.

Should people be clear and what is the etiquette on this everyone?

Please keep it polite and respectful "

Our kids have all grown up but we have been there and totally agree. Anybody who doesn’t understand, well we’d block personally.

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By *cloversCouple
over a year ago

Hull

Absolute no no as far as we're concerned

No question about it ever

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By *dquestCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

Not happening!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No.....kids should never be under the same roof as it. Huge no no.

I recently moved out of the family home with our 2 kids to get away from soon to be ex. Even when they kids are with their dad every 2nd weekend, I would feel weird having people over for fun. Might take me a while to adjust to that idea...even though the kids arent there, its their space. Feels odd. "
keep strong xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pst Im a no kids lady and I tend not to entertain at my home. 1 bad experience was enough..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a hope in hell! It is absolutely the right hard limit and I am parent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We don't even have meets in the house when the kids aren't there. We would never dream of having a meet with our kids or someone else's kids in the house "

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

Hell no!

Imagine a sleepy child wandering in..or finding a stranger in the loo.

Just no

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By *sSforfunCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

Just no,never,wrong!

Have some self control and standards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pst Im a no kids lady and I tend not to entertain at my home. 1 bad experience was enough.."

Also have no children. Only trusted friends come to my home and then very rarely.

Its my haven and my dog is sensitive lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By the way social services take a very dim view of "swinging" full stop. Let alone bringing partners home.

There is an assumption we are all morally bankrupt sociopaths who are there to groom children and take advantage of women x

PS don't even mention consensual BDSM. Makes the blood boil x

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By *erry bull1Man
over a year ago

doncaster

A definite no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many years ago I had a horrible experience with this. I went to a couples house and after a few drinks it got frisky. Mid flow when I was balls deep in mummy a little early teen wrapped at the door. Lucky he never come in!! From then on I had two rules. No booze on 1st meet and always have a quick exit. Horrible

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By *bcums3Couple
over a year ago

lanarkshire

Def a no from us!...our family life is kept separate

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By *uffnmuffCouple
over a year ago

London

It's a never ever.

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By *rumpet and ScouseCouple
over a year ago

Chorley

We have been together a couple of years and are still living apart, We accommodate at Scouse's house as it has always been an adult house of you like, but at mine I have 1 teen and 1 young adult and there is NO way I'd consider meeting there, like wise if we moved to live with Scouse I doubt we would meet at home even with the kids out.

We wouldn't meet if we knew anyone had kids at home just our preference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just no,never,wrong!

Have some self control and standards. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don’t accommodate unless our kids are ata sleepover

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"By the way social services take a very dim view of "swinging" full stop. Let alone bringing partners home.

There is an assumption we are all morally bankrupt sociopaths who are there to groom children and take advantage of women x

PS don't even mention consensual BDSM. Makes the blood boil x "

I don’t understand what this means ? You don’t like anyone involved with bdsm who has children?

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

Kids should be allowed to be kids for as long as possible, besides some fooking loons out there!

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By *hefluxcapacitorCouple
over a year ago

leicester

It’s a no from us.

Our home is our family space.

Mr & I have our fun well away from home!

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By *ady PaulaWoman
over a year ago

bradford

a few years ago a couple that I had met, invited me to their house to play, just arrived when I heard a child crying from upstairs, they told me the babysitter had let them down, put my coat on and left immediately, so its a definite no from me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A casual meet then no chance but if it is someone thats really regular or close friends then with some ground rules I dont really see the problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would never have people when the kids are there, and even having people when they aren't would feel odd. Plenty of other places to play! X

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I’d run a mile. Massive no from me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s a no from us.

Our home is our family space.

Mr & I have our fun well away from home!"

Ditto

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"By the way social services take a very dim view of "swinging" full stop. Let alone bringing partners home.

There is an assumption we are all morally bankrupt sociopaths who are there to groom children and take advantage of women x

PS don't even mention consensual BDSM. Makes the blood boil x

I don’t understand what this means ? You don’t like anyone involved with bdsm who has children? "

Gosh no not my opinion at all. However I've seen this view held by social work practitioners !

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By *icplshropsCouple
over a year ago

Rock

It would be immoral to invite a meet back to a house with children in the house. Even if they were teenagers or adult. So it would be a no from us.

I’m perplexed though, why some non swingers are critical of the lifestyle, but would invite a random stranger from a vanilla night club back oth children in the house.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"By the way social services take a very dim view of "swinging" full stop. Let alone bringing partners home.

There is an assumption we are all morally bankrupt sociopaths who are there to groom children and take advantage of women x

PS don't even mention consensual BDSM. Makes the blood boil x

I don’t understand what this means ? You don’t like anyone involved with bdsm who has children?

Gosh no not my opinion at all. However I've seen this view held by social work practitioners ! "

Bizarre, how your sexual kinks could be held accountable for how you look after your children. I enjoy kink and would say I’m a masochist but in no way has this ever affected my upbringing of my kids

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would never meet anyone who had children in the house, no chance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We haven't got any children yet although nieces and nephews do stay over occasionally. We would never do anything meet wise whilst they were in the house.

We have also never met / played with anyone who has children in their house but a number of couples have asked us if would meet them whilst their children would be in the house 'asleep'.

It would take a brave couple to admit they do that or have considered it on this thread! A few seemed to think it was ok because the child was a baby and couldn't walk in on anything.

KJ x

KJ x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not happening simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm surprised this is a question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No never

I value my kids more.. Hense single mum not meeting. I don't dump my child anywhere..

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By *unning LinguistMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

A big no no for me

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

Never. I did once have a bloke tekk me it woukd be ok for me to leave mine while we went oht in his car for a bit. He also suggested that he bring sweets round so they sit in their bedrooms

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By *wesomeLolaCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough and Buckinghamshire

Neither of us have kids but there's no way we would play with anyone at their home if kids of any age were there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We play at my place but only ever when my son is with his father or my parents. It's my home as well as his. Pretty much all of my fwbs are committed, responsible parents themselves. I don't see any reason they can't be guests in my home when my son isn't here. Would I go and play in someone else's home when children were there? Not in a million years.

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By *ir-spunk-alotMan
over a year ago

Southern England

Im surprised your even asking for advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Bizarre, how your sexual kinks could be held accountable for how you look after your children. I enjoy kink and would say I’m a masochist but in no way has this ever affected my upbringing of my kids "

Sadly much of the public and far too many child protection professionals have absolutely no understanding of swinging or BDSM.

Assumptions are made and a dim view taken of people who have an interest in such things. Kink and swinging do not make people bad parents. Bad parents are bad parents, who then ho on to make poor choices in relation to their child's well being.

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

In Germany we have one grown up son who still lives with us, but we never swing at home anyway so the problem never arises.

On the very rare occasion we go to someone else's place we would run a mile if there were kids in the house. Young ones, grown up ones, any ones. It would be an absolute no no for us.

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By *hromosexualsCouple
over a year ago

Near Abercynon


"Im surprised your even asking for advice."

They aren’t. They have the same rule as everyone else who has posted, but there are obviously people out there who don’t (you know, weirdos )

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

I've seen a profile which has more information about the children than the fab member.

I'm not comfortable about playing in a house with children in it.

Only time I can think of, kid in bed upstairs, with dad nearby.

The mum and my friend and I playing in the lounge downstairs

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By *heThrillSeekersCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

This isn't a question of etiquette, it's a question of morals,

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