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"Met a swinger chap off here.. Going great relationship fantastic vanilla n non vanilla going out cinema proper couple going chameleons n couples profile... Months later I mean months met my kids spent family times together too Xmas pressies etc... Then ghosted after 8m.. No nothing no reason nowt" I'm sorry you went through that, proper nasty shit People can be so cruel and cowardly! | |||
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"Met a swinger chap off here.. Going great relationship fantastic vanilla n non vanilla going out cinema proper couple going chameleons n couples profile... Months later I mean months met my kids spent family times together too Xmas pressies etc... Then ghosted after 8m.. No nothing no reason nowt" There are many reasons why people ghost...he could have had a life changing or even fatal incident....it is kind of like ones dog going missing and never finding it....there is no closure Sad for you, but have to just keep chin up and move on x | |||
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"Met a swinger chap off here.. Going great relationship fantastic vanilla n non vanilla going out cinema proper couple going chameleons n couples profile... Months later I mean months met my kids spent family times together too Xmas pressies etc... Then ghosted after 8m.. No nothing no reason nowt" Ouch!! That's harsh | |||
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"Met a swinger chap off here.. Going great relationship fantastic vanilla n non vanilla going out cinema proper couple going chameleons n couples profile... Months later I mean months met my kids spent family times together too Xmas pressies etc... Then ghosted after 8m.. No nothing no reason nowt" That's just cruel you need to get Liam neeson to track him down Hun x But all that said if it was 8 lovely months cling on to the nice stuff because he wasn't the bloke he pretended to be probably just a falandering nob head. Please excuse my spelling the batteries went in the speak and spell | |||
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"Met a swinger chap off here.. Going great relationship fantastic vanilla n non vanilla going out cinema proper couple going chameleons n couples profile... Months later I mean months met my kids spent family times together too Xmas pressies etc... Then ghosted after 8m.. No nothing no reason nowt" What a prick! Shocking | |||
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"I've talked to people on here who now would only have a relationship with a fellow swinger simply because they wouldn't give it up, myself yes I'd happily give it up if that person came along. In fact I'd rather not meet a swinger that way because this for me has been a fill for a few years in an otherwise amazing life which is now heading for it's next exciting phase rather than a permanent lifestyle choice " An "otherwise" amazing life? OK. I'm sorry if your experience hasnt been great here but mine has been... amazing. I've met amazing men and had amazing times. I certainly wish you all the best in the next exciting phase of your amazing life (wow). | |||
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"I've talked to people on here who now would only have a relationship with a fellow swinger simply because they wouldn't give it up, myself yes I'd happily give it up if that person came along. In fact I'd rather not meet a swinger that way because this for me has been a fill for a few years in an otherwise amazing life which is now heading for it's next exciting phase rather than a permanent lifestyle choice An "otherwise" amazing life? OK. I'm sorry if your experience hasnt been great here but mine has been... amazing. I've met amazing men and had amazing times. I certainly wish you all the best in the next exciting phase of your amazing life (wow). " Why are you so offended? | |||
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"Has anyone here ever lost a relationship because they wanted to pursue swinging and their partner didn't? In retrospect, was it worth it, was this lifestyle important enough for you to do that? Would appreciate any stories and consequent thoughts anyone has on this, trying to assess my feelings right now so curious. This isn't the classic 'how do I get my partner to swing' question, I'm genuinely just asking the question I've asked, nothing else." If they want to swing and I don't, it's not a lost relationship. It's getting rid of a likely cheater. | |||
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"I've talked to people on here who now would only have a relationship with a fellow swinger simply because they wouldn't give it up, myself yes I'd happily give it up if that person came along. In fact I'd rather not meet a swinger that way because this for me has been a fill for a few years in an otherwise amazing life which is now heading for it's next exciting phase rather than a permanent lifestyle choice An "otherwise" amazing life? OK. I'm sorry if your experience hasnt been great here but mine has been... amazing. I've met amazing men and had amazing times. I certainly wish you all the best in the next exciting phase of your amazing life (wow). " Oh I've loved my years here too, it's just I've brought my kids up to off to uni time, absolutely adore my job, have woooohoooo amazing hobbies (which take up far too much time) kind of amazing life! The only thing that was missing was sex which this site has provided wonderfully! Now it's going to be me time for the first time since almost before I can remember and sooo many adventures and courses to crack on with it is actually very exciting and hope I can get as much in as possible before the next (grandma) phase | |||
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"I've talked to people on here who now would only have a relationship with a fellow swinger simply because they wouldn't give it up, myself yes I'd happily give it up if that person came along. In fact I'd rather not meet a swinger that way because this for me has been a fill for a few years in an otherwise amazing life which is now heading for it's next exciting phase rather than a permanent lifestyle choice An "otherwise" amazing life? OK. I'm sorry if your experience hasnt been great here but mine has been... amazing. I've met amazing men and had amazing times. I certainly wish you all the best in the next exciting phase of your amazing life (wow). Why are you so offended?" Because it's an offensive and superior thing to say. Which you know and if you're looking for an argument I'm afraid I really don't care enough to engage. Sorry. | |||
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"I've talked to people on here who now would only have a relationship with a fellow swinger simply because they wouldn't give it up, myself yes I'd happily give it up if that person came along. In fact I'd rather not meet a swinger that way because this for me has been a fill for a few years in an otherwise amazing life which is now heading for it's next exciting phase rather than a permanent lifestyle choice An "otherwise" amazing life? OK. I'm sorry if your experience hasnt been great here but mine has been... amazing. I've met amazing men and had amazing times. I certainly wish you all the best in the next exciting phase of your amazing life (wow). Oh I've loved my years here too, it's just I've brought my kids up to off to uni time, absolutely adore my job, have woooohoooo amazing hobbies (which take up far too much time) kind of amazing life! The only thing that was missing was sex which this site has provided wonderfully! Now it's going to be me time for the first time since almost before I can remember and sooo many adventures and courses to crack on with it is actually very exciting and hope I can get as much in as possible before the next (grandma) phase " Yeah, me and my partner have raised four boys between us. Between us we've been in bands, had our own radio show, coached American football, learnt languages and we're both on the verge of starting new careers. Didn't realise that counted as an amazing life, it's just life to us. | |||
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"I've talked to people on here who now would only have a relationship with a fellow swinger simply because they wouldn't give it up, myself yes I'd happily give it up if that person came along. In fact I'd rather not meet a swinger that way because this for me has been a fill for a few years in an otherwise amazing life which is now heading for it's next exciting phase rather than a permanent lifestyle choice An "otherwise" amazing life? OK. I'm sorry if your experience hasnt been great here but mine has been... amazing. I've met amazing men and had amazing times. I certainly wish you all the best in the next exciting phase of your amazing life (wow). Why are you so offended? Because it's an offensive and superior thing to say. Which you know and if you're looking for an argument I'm afraid I really don't care enough to engage. Sorry. " It definitely wasn't intended as such at all or in any way and I am actually sorry that it offended you. | |||
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" It definitely wasn't intended as such at all or in any way and I am actually sorry that it offended you. " You're apologising to someone that's gone out of their way to be offended. | |||
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"I've talked to people on here who now would only have a relationship with a fellow swinger simply because they wouldn't give it up, myself yes I'd happily give it up if that person came along. In fact I'd rather not meet a swinger that way because this for me has been a fill for a few years in an otherwise amazing life which is now heading for it's next exciting phase rather than a permanent lifestyle choice An "otherwise" amazing life? OK. I'm sorry if your experience hasnt been great here but mine has been... amazing. I've met amazing men and had amazing times. I certainly wish you all the best in the next exciting phase of your amazing life (wow). Why are you so offended? Because it's an offensive and superior thing to say. Which you know and if you're looking for an argument I'm afraid I really don't care enough to engage. Sorry. It definitely wasn't intended as such at all or in any way and I am actually sorry that it offended you. " I think I might have misread you. Did you mean otherwise in terms of your life apart from sex? Rather than being here has been a period that wasn't part of an amazing life? It's so easy to misinterpret here. If I have then I'm real sorry. | |||
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"I've talked to people on here who now would only have a relationship with a fellow swinger simply because they wouldn't give it up, myself yes I'd happily give it up if that person came along. In fact I'd rather not meet a swinger that way because this for me has been a fill for a few years in an otherwise amazing life which is now heading for it's next exciting phase rather than a permanent lifestyle choice An "otherwise" amazing life? OK. I'm sorry if your experience hasnt been great here but mine has been... amazing. I've met amazing men and had amazing times. I certainly wish you all the best in the next exciting phase of your amazing life (wow). Why are you so offended? Because it's an offensive and superior thing to say. Which you know and if you're looking for an argument I'm afraid I really don't care enough to engage. Sorry. It definitely wasn't intended as such at all or in any way and I am actually sorry that it offended you. I think I might have misread you. Did you mean otherwise in terms of your life apart from sex? Rather than being here has been a period that wasn't part of an amazing life? It's so easy to misinterpret here. If I have then I'm real sorry. " Lol that's exactly what I was trying to say tbh definitely what I meant! So no worries | |||
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"I've talked to people on here who now would only have a relationship with a fellow swinger simply because they wouldn't give it up, myself yes I'd happily give it up if that person came along. In fact I'd rather not meet a swinger that way because this for me has been a fill for a few years in an otherwise amazing life which is now heading for it's next exciting phase rather than a permanent lifestyle choice An "otherwise" amazing life? OK. I'm sorry if your experience hasnt been great here but mine has been... amazing. I've met amazing men and had amazing times. I certainly wish you all the best in the next exciting phase of your amazing life (wow). Why are you so offended? Because it's an offensive and superior thing to say. Which you know and if you're looking for an argument I'm afraid I really don't care enough to engage. Sorry. It definitely wasn't intended as such at all or in any way and I am actually sorry that it offended you. I think I might have misread you. Did you mean otherwise in terms of your life apart from sex? Rather than being here has been a period that wasn't part of an amazing life? It's so easy to misinterpret here. If I have then I'm real sorry. Lol that's exactly what I was trying to say tbh definitely what I meant! So no worries " Ah shit. I'm sorry about that, chick, truly. I broke the golden rule, don't post before coffee and a smoke!! Totally my bad | |||
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"No I haven't. My opinion (and it is just my opinion) is that the swinging world is incredibly shallow. The capacity to be disappointed, hurt and let down is huge for a single person. I know there are people who's experience is different though. Therefore I would never choose swinging over a good, stable and loving relationship. If I felt that my relationship would fail because we weren't swinging I wouldn't want to be in it anyway. If a person genuinely feels that swinging is the only way they can be fulfilled then its worth risking their relationship. If it was me I'd exhaust all other possibilities first because swinging is a very fickle bed mate." Totally agree | |||
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"No I haven't. My opinion (and it is just my opinion) is that the swinging world is incredibly shallow. The capacity to be disappointed, hurt and let down is huge for a single person. I know there are people who's experience is different though. Therefore I would never choose swinging over a good, stable and loving relationship. If I felt that my relationship would fail because we weren't swinging I wouldn't want to be in it anyway. If a person genuinely feels that swinging is the only way they can be fulfilled then its worth risking their relationship. If it was me I'd exhaust all other possibilities first because swinging is a very fickle bed mate. Totally agree" Me too. My bf and I make this work in our own way. If we weren't together then no way would I be looking to do the swinging thing with anyone else. In my experience it's been a lot more aggro and irritation than it's worth. Another open relationship, sure. But actively playing as a couple, fuck no. | |||
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"Has anyone here ever lost a relationship because they wanted to pursue swinging and their partner didn't? In retrospect, was it worth it, was this lifestyle important enough for you to do that? Would appreciate any stories and consequent thoughts anyone has on this, trying to assess my feelings right now so curious. This isn't the classic 'how do I get my partner to swing' question, I'm genuinely just asking the question I've asked, nothing else. If they want to swing and I don't, it's not a lost relationship. It's getting rid of a likely cheater." | |||
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"I met my partner on here. However I always felt it was me and I would have liked to try when I was with my ex wife (she'd been to clubs when she was very young). We had talked about it a couple of times, she would normally bring it up. Never pushed the point but always figured we would swing together one day (never did). But I was certainly happy without it. Not being able to try it didn't effect how happy I was in the relationship. I would have never chose it over my relationship. It would have just been a nice extra. So although swinging back then was not a must, things are different now I started on the scene. It's a bit like taste the difference. One of the things with my current relationship is I love the freedom to totally express my self honestly and sexually without judgement. I'm able to be me and loved for who I am. I am a massive deviant, love women and good orgy and not only does My girl love me for who I truly am, she shares my deviance with me and revels in it. And when you think about it, if you can't share your kinks, desires and most deviant parts of you with your partner, who can you share it with? So ask me that question 4 years ago I'd say you don't need it in a relationship. But ask me today and I'd say be with a person that loves and accepts all of you (including your sexual deviance). Because now I've had it all I could never go back to the old life. The best relationships are the ones were you a free and supported to truly be yourselves and love each other for it." This is such a lovely post and I identify with it so much | |||
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"So ask me that question 4 years ago I'd say you don't need it in a relationship. But ask me today and I'd say be with a person that loves and accepts all of you (including your sexual deviance). Because now I've had it all I could never go back to the old life. The best relationships are the ones were you a free and supported to truly be yourselves and love each other for it." Thank you for your message, I think you put that very well, that summarises a lot of where my feelings are at. | |||
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"I've talked to people on here who now would only have a relationship with a fellow swinger simply because they wouldn't give it up, myself yes I'd happily give it up if that person came along. In fact I'd rather not meet a swinger that way because this for me has been a fill for a few years in an otherwise amazing life which is now heading for it's next exciting phase rather than a permanent lifestyle choice An "otherwise" amazing life? OK. I'm sorry if your experience hasnt been great here but mine has been... amazing. I've met amazing men and had amazing times. I certainly wish you all the best in the next exciting phase of your amazing life (wow). Why are you so offended? Because it's an offensive and superior thing to say. Which you know and if you're looking for an argument I'm afraid I really don't care enough to engage. Sorry. " Turns out you were wrong. I didn't find it offensive or superior. | |||
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"I've talked to people on here who now would only have a relationship with a fellow swinger simply because they wouldn't give it up, myself yes I'd happily give it up if that person came along. In fact I'd rather not meet a swinger that way because this for me has been a fill for a few years in an otherwise amazing life which is now heading for it's next exciting phase rather than a permanent lifestyle choice An "otherwise" amazing life? OK. I'm sorry if your experience hasnt been great here but mine has been... amazing. I've met amazing men and had amazing times. I certainly wish you all the best in the next exciting phase of your amazing life (wow). Oh I've loved my years here too, it's just I've brought my kids up to off to uni time, absolutely adore my job, have woooohoooo amazing hobbies (which take up far too much time) kind of amazing life! The only thing that was missing was sex which this site has provided wonderfully! Now it's going to be me time for the first time since almost before I can remember and sooo many adventures and courses to crack on with it is actually very exciting and hope I can get as much in as possible before the next (grandma) phase Yeah, me and my partner have raised four boys between us. Between us we've been in bands, had our own radio show, coached American football, learnt languages and we're both on the verge of starting new careers. Didn't realise that counted as an amazing life, it's just life to us. " I find this being superior. | |||
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"I've talked to people on here who now would only have a relationship with a fellow swinger simply because they wouldn't give it up, myself yes I'd happily give it up if that person came along. In fact I'd rather not meet a swinger that way because this for me has been a fill for a few years in an otherwise amazing life which is now heading for it's next exciting phase rather than a permanent lifestyle choice An "otherwise" amazing life? OK. I'm sorry if your experience hasnt been great here but mine has been... amazing. I've met amazing men and had amazing times. I certainly wish you all the best in the next exciting phase of your amazing life (wow). Why are you so offended? Because it's an offensive and superior thing to say. Which you know and if you're looking for an argument I'm afraid I really don't care enough to engage. Sorry. Turns out you were wrong. I didn't find it offensive or superior. " Please see my previous answer. I'm not interested in engaging in an argument. Try someone else. | |||
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"I met my partner on here. However I always felt it was me and I would have liked to try when I was with my ex wife (she'd been to clubs when she was very young). We had talked about it a couple of times, she would normally bring it up. Never pushed the point but always figured we would swing together one day (never did). But I was certainly happy without it. Not being able to try it didn't effect how happy I was in the relationship. I would have never chose it over my relationship. It would have just been a nice extra. So although swinging back then was not a must, things are different now I started on the scene. It's a bit like taste the difference. One of the things with my current relationship is I love the freedom to totally express my self honestly and sexually without judgement. I'm able to be me and loved for who I am. I am a massive deviant, love women and good orgy and not only does My girl love me for who I truly am, she shares my deviance with me and revels in it. And when you think about it, if you can't share your kinks, desires and most deviant parts of you with your partner, who can you share it with? So ask me that question 4 years ago I'd say you don't need it in a relationship. But ask me today and I'd say be with a person that loves and accepts all of you (including your sexual deviance). Because now I've had it all I could never go back to the old life. The best relationships are the ones were you a free and supported to truly be yourselves and love each other for it." absoloutely this | |||
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"Met a swinger chap off here.. Going great relationship fantastic vanilla n non vanilla going out cinema proper couple going chameleons n couples profile... Months later I mean months met my kids spent family times together too Xmas pressies etc... Then ghosted after 8m.. No nothing no reason nowt That's just cruel you need to get Liam neeson to track him down Hun x But all that said if it was 8 lovely months cling on to the nice stuff because he wasn't the bloke he pretended to be probably just a falandering nob head. Please excuse my spelling the batteries went in the speak and spell" No fatal incident Just not man enough to speak.. Yes if you see Liam send him my way.. Al pacinco... Vinny Jones.. Anthony Hopkins.. Even telly tubbies would do.. | |||
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"I've talked to people on here who now would only have a relationship with a fellow swinger simply because they wouldn't give it up, myself yes I'd happily give it up if that person came along. In fact I'd rather not meet a swinger that way because this for me has been a fill for a few years in an otherwise amazing life which is now heading for it's next exciting phase rather than a permanent lifestyle choice An "otherwise" amazing life? OK. I'm sorry if your experience hasnt been great here but mine has been... amazing. I've met amazing men and had amazing times. I certainly wish you all the best in the next exciting phase of your amazing life (wow). Why are you so offended? Because it's an offensive and superior thing to say. Which you know and if you're looking for an argument I'm afraid I really don't care enough to engage. Sorry. Turns out you were wrong. I didn't find it offensive or superior. Please see my previous answer. I'm not interested in engaging in an argument. Try someone else. " I was just asking a question not looking for an argument. You can apologise to me now. | |||
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"Met a swinger chap off here.. Going great relationship fantastic vanilla n non vanilla going out cinema proper couple going chameleons n couples profile... Months later I mean months met my kids spent family times together too Xmas pressies etc... Then ghosted after 8m.. No nothing no reason nowt That's just cruel you need to get Liam neeson to track him down Hun x But all that said if it was 8 lovely months cling on to the nice stuff because he wasn't the bloke he pretended to be probably just a falandering nob head. Please excuse my spelling the batteries went in the speak and spell No fatal incident Just not man enough to speak.. Yes if you see Liam send him my way.. Al pacinco... Vinny Jones.. Anthony Hopkins.. Even telly tubbies would do.. " I can't imagine how painful that must have been I could send Omar from the Wire? Believe me, he'd find him | |||
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"Met a swinger chap off here.. Going great relationship fantastic vanilla n non vanilla going out cinema proper couple going chameleons n couples profile... Months later I mean months met my kids spent family times together too Xmas pressies etc... Then ghosted after 8m.. No nothing no reason nowt" Me too,after 15 months,life is a bitch,and so are some people | |||
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"Has anyone here ever lost a relationship because they wanted to pursue swinging and their partner didn't? In retrospect, was it worth it, was this lifestyle important enough for you to do that? Would appreciate any stories and consequent thoughts anyone has on this, trying to assess my feelings right now so curious. This isn't the classic 'how do I get my partner to swing' question, I'm genuinely just asking the question I've asked, nothing else." My man introduced me to a new world I was very shocked at first and then curious about going to clubs etc wow. Opened my eyes. Gave me confidence and the list for more. It enhanced what we have and is very addictive. U can never gain reaction but it's about sharing openness if it's not for them that's their choice. | |||
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"Has anyone here ever lost a relationship because they wanted to pursue swinging and their partner didn't? In retrospect, was it worth it, was this lifestyle important enough for you to do that? Would appreciate any stories and consequent thoughts anyone has on this, trying to assess my feelings right now so curious. This isn't the classic 'how do I get my partner to swing' question, I'm genuinely just asking the question I've asked, nothing else." this lifestyle doesn't have satisfying longevity, where a relationship does, no way I'd give up a worthwhile relationship for this | |||
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"I get judged on vanilla sites and real world, so I guess I'll have to find a swinger partner and hope for the best" Can you message me please I’m interested in your business venture. Thanks. | |||
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"Has anyone here ever lost a relationship because they wanted to pursue swinging and their partner didn't? In retrospect, was it worth it, was this lifestyle important enough for you to do that? Would appreciate any stories and consequent thoughts anyone has on this, trying to assess my feelings right now so curious. This isn't the classic 'how do I get my partner to swing' question, I'm genuinely just asking the question I've asked, nothing else." I've been in relationships where I've felt secure and we've ended up having sex with other people and it was fun and felt good. I've also been in relationships where it wouldn't have been fine because the trust and feelings of security weren't there - one ex-gf brought up the conversation a few times, it wasn't the reason we split up, but it started to feel as though she was trying to make me feel inadequate in some way, so it was part of the reason I ended the relationship | |||
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