FabSwingers.com forum: post meet etiquette.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So..you've had a meet, sex was amazing, felt a connection maybe, and that stain is never going to come out of the mattress..

So..what do next ?

1. Veri them, leave it at that until they message you again.

2. Drop them a quick message to say what a great time you had and would like to meet again sometime.

3. Message again after 4 days of silence because you are now paranoid you messed up or were ugly, or they are cross about the stain..

A friend asked me is all

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

2 but not straight away, maybe the day after, don't want to be coming across as needy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would normally send a message after a meet on the way home, nothing creepy, but for example if they hosted to say thank you. Would usually veri in the next day or two. Sometimes messsge to say if they’d like to meet again to let us know. We’re easy enough about the messaging. Always polite and no pressure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 is the obvious choice, but even then there are variables; the time duration before messaging being one of them.

There's no hard and fast rules of etiquette, just do what feels right, but on personal experience I think if there is more of a prolonged build up to the meet beforehand then you are already more relaxed with the other person so contact afterwards tends to come sooner and be a lot more regular?

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"2 but not straight away, maybe the day after, don't want to be coming across as needy

Ditto

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"2 but not straight away, maybe the day after, don't want to be coming across as needy

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Don't leave it too long though it they go apeshit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We would normally send a message after a meet on the way home, nothing creepy, but for example if they hosted to say thank you. Would usually veri in the next day or two. Sometimes messsge to say if they’d like to meet again to let us know. We’re easy enough about the messaging. Always polite and no pressure."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I only do club meets so mine is slightly different.

If I took their fab name and remember it I'll verify them.

If not then I'll just say hi the next time we bump into one another.

Other than that I really don't worry about staying in touch as I'm bound to bump into them again.

Every so often a friendship forms and those over time end up becoming some of my closest friends.

I'm not fussed if I get verified or not or if they contact me or not. People can judge what im about in person on the club scene.

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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago

Peterborough, Cambridgeshire & Lincolnshire

"So..you've had a meet, sex was amazing, felt a connection maybe, and that stain is never going to come out of the mattress..

So..what do next ?

1. Veri them, leave it at that until they message you again.

2. Drop them a quick message to say what a great time you had and would like to meet again sometime.

3. Message again after 4 days of silence because you are now paranoid you messed up or were ugly, or they are cross about the stain..

A friend asked me is all

Normally send a message and then veri them.

If people don't respond to a message after meeting, I leave them alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a couple we have couple meets and we talk regularly via kik or whatsapp we always message when we get home to let them know we get home safely.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

With pretty much everyone I've met there's usually been quite a lot of messaging for some time before even suggesting meeting, so that flow has generally continued after we've met and the timeframes for doing so don't really come into consideration.

I'd suggest whatever feels right to the individual is the best way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So..you've had a meet, sex was amazing, felt a connection maybe, and that stain is never going to come out of the mattress..

So..what do next ?

1. Veri them, leave it at that until they message you again.

2. Drop them a quick message to say what a great time you had and would like to meet again sometime.

3. Message again after 4 days of silence because you are now paranoid you messed up or were ugly, or they are cross about the stain..

A friend asked me is all

Run to the sink and Dettol my bits? Joke btw

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

Always (1) for me.

If they don't message or ask for another meet, I assume they don't really enjoy it and move on.

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

Great thread.

Watching x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So..what do next ?

Get out the knife .....

carve a notch on the bedpost (assuming its wood)

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By *reeMan
over a year ago

Paisley

So..what do next ?

Get out the knife .....

carve a notch on the bedpost (assuming its wood)

An angle grinder is good for this too.

(assuming it's not wood)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually do number two xxx

Mrs

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester

"I usually do number two xxx

Mrs"

Me too. Hate constipation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always message when we get home to say thank you and then verify the next day, if we or they want to meet again we will just stay in touch x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I enjoyed myself, I'll send a "nice to meet you & that was fun" type message on way home,same with any meeting/date/dinner/event in life as good manners cost nothing

If they veri me or ask for one I'll verify them within a few days

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Number one every time: 1. Veri them, leave it at that until they message you again.

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East

Before we part, I offer to leave a verification.

Once we part, I'll drop him a big thank you message and leave a verification for him to review.

That's it, really.

If we meet again, so be it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve never had anyone not stay in touch after

But no harm dropping a polite hello what’s worst can happen they don’t respond? At least you’ll have your answer

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Send them a link to a waterproof under sheet and suggest another meet. As all cub scouts know. Be prepared. Lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So..you've had a meet, sex was amazing, felt a connection maybe, and that stain is never going to come out of the mattress..

So..what do next ?

1. Veri them, leave it at that until they message you again.

2. Drop them a quick message to say what a great time you had and would like to meet again sometime.

3. Message again after 4 days of silence because you are now paranoid you messed up or were ugly, or they are cross about the stain..

A friend asked me is all

none of the above...we always seem to get a message within an hour or two and simply go from there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Before we part, I offer to leave a verification.

Once we part, I'll drop him a big thank you message and leave a verification for him to review.

That's it, really.

If we meet again, so be it.

^^ This

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

When I do personal meets then I normally message on my way home. As I would from a normal friends meet up. At a club if I remember who someone is I may say was lovely to meet. I will tend to do veris while I can remember names

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I chat lots with people I meet beforehand on WhatsApp etc then it just continues the same after. Nothing really changes much.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"As I chat lots with people I meet beforehand on WhatsApp etc then it just continues the same after. Nothing really changes much. "

I have the weirdest sense of dejà vu

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I probably come on the perceived ‘needy’ end of the spectrum as I message very soon after a meet to say thanks and verify pretty quickly too. As my meets usually are planned way in advance and there is a lot of build up and often a fair amount of messaging, if it drops off entirely after a meet I will follow up in a few days. But I’d rather create an opportunity for a repeat of a good meet than miss an opportunity because I was worried about appearing cool enough. There are so many flakes and fakes that when I meet someone I enjoy I put a pretty high value on that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I message to say had a great time...only if I have tho lol

If they want a veri il leave 1.

Nice to be nice

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

If it was good I always say thanks to people on the way home

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By *eorgeo1Man
over a year ago

Slaley

We always text to say thanks after the meet. And ask if they would like to be verified.

Sometimes it leads to other stuff and maybe meet again.

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By *rnortholtMan
over a year ago

Waveney Valley

I'll always send a brief text or mail saying thanks for the meet - usually in the hours afterwards.

If it's gone well, I'll also say that I'd be happy to meet again, but leave it up to them and never send a mail or message questioning a lack of rely!

As for veris, I may ask if they want one, or if they seem to post feedback, then I may give one straight off.

Is this the right way of doing things? Who knows?

While it may not chime with others, if there's one thing you need to know here, there is rarely only one way of doing things!

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Always a 1 for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely message them first after we have met. How I see it is, they were interested in me so messaged me. If they want to see me again they will message again.

If they message again and we have conversations now and then I will message them first.

If they don't message for months, then ask to meet, I'll probably have moved on by then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually send them a picture of their name tattooed on an appendage.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"As I chat lots with people I meet beforehand on WhatsApp etc then it just continues the same after. Nothing really changes much. "

Most of my meets are the same. I normally wait a bit before verifying - I like to enjoy the the post meet glow. It tends to be the other who suggests meeting again, on the rare time it's me I feel a bit awkward and unsure but blurt it out

So probably a 2 for me. Kinda.

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By *heEvilWithinWoman
over a year ago

Barnsley

Why wouldn't you just message right after? Even if its thanks I had a great time will verify you

Lol we're on a sex site.. Although SOME people are needy and get attached easily most people don't and I think it's nice to hear you've had a good time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Verify same day - polite

Message within cpl days IF you want to make plans

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I would do 2. If we chat again then I would send a veri.

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