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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have noticed an increasing number of women’s profiles who are struggling to get meets and are posting their frustrations on status updates. Men outnumber genuine women in here by about 25 to 1 so it should be quite easy to get good quality messages if you change your approach.

1 Don’t have a long list of DEMANDS that are written in capital letters, they come across as aggressive and needy. Try telling us what you do want instead , improve your profiles

2 One lined or even blank profiles are lazy and unfortunately attract lazy and copy and pasted messages

3 Be realistic. Unrealistic expectations can lead to frustration .looking for certain types of men that are unattainable is a waste of your time

4 Just because your on a sex site and you get 100s of messages , realise that the vast majority have been sent by chancers and fakes and sycophants who have no intention of meeting you so try not to let it go to your head .

5 If you are demanding a face pic immediately try and send one in return or have one on your profile.

6 If your unhappy with the quality and quantity of the messages you receive from men simply block men and send the first messages yourself .

These points are only my own personal observations and most of the profiles I read are well written. However for those of you ‘struggling’ this advice might help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is fantastic hahaha

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"I have noticed an increasing number of women’s profiles who are struggling to get meets and are posting their frustrations on status updates. Men outnumber genuine women in here by about 25 to 1 so it should be quite easy to get good quality messages if you change your approach.

1 Don’t have a long list of DEMANDS that are written in capital letters, they come across as aggressive and needy. Try telling us what you do want instead , improve your profiles

2 One lined or even blank profiles are lazy and unfortunately attract lazy and copy and pasted messages

3 Be realistic. Unrealistic expectations can lead to frustration .looking for certain types of men that are unattainable is a waste of your time

4 Just because your on a sex site and you get 100s of messages , realise that the vast majority have been sent by chancers and fakes and sycophants who have no intention of meeting you so try not to let it go to your head .

5 If you are demanding a face pic immediately try and send one in return or have one on your profile.

6 If your unhappy with the quality and quantity of the messages you receive from men simply block men and send the first messages yourself .

These points are only my own personal observations and most of the profiles I read are well written. However for those of you ‘struggling’ this advice might help.

"

Or...

Put up a "meet" the day before you want to meet. You'll get 100+ replies. Most will be shit, but they'll be four or five decent ones to choose from.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have noticed an increasing number of women’s profiles who are struggling to get meets and are posting their frustrations on status updates. Men outnumber genuine women in here by about 25 to 1 so it should be quite easy to get good quality messages if you change your approach.

1 Don’t have a long list of DEMANDS that are written in capital letters, they come across as aggressive and needy. Try telling us what you do want instead , improve your profiles

2 One lined or even blank profiles are lazy and unfortunately attract lazy and copy and pasted messages

3 Be realistic. Unrealistic expectations can lead to frustration .looking for certain types of men that are unattainable is a waste of your time

4 Just because your on a sex site and you get 100s of messages , realise that the vast majority have been sent by chancers and fakes and sycophants who have no intention of meeting you so try not to let it go to your head .

5 If you are demanding a face pic immediately try and send one in return or have one on your profile.

6 If your unhappy with the quality and quantity of the messages you receive from men simply block men and send the first messages yourself .

These points are only my own personal observations and most of the profiles I read are well written. However for those of you ‘struggling’ this advice might help.

Or...

Put up a "meet" the day before you want to meet. You'll get 100+ replies. Most will be shit, but they'll be four or five decent ones to choose from. "

Good idea, or follow advice number 6, then you choose who to message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes you will always get the not so quality messages with the quality !but no surprise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And delete all messages that havent read profiles

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"And delete all messages that havent read profiles"

If you follow advice 6 , then that wouldn’t be necessary

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I absolutely do not bother with the aggressive demanding capital worded profiles.

It just spells out Drama. It's a massive put off.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I absolutely do not bother with the aggressive demanding capital worded profiles.

It just spells out Drama. It's a massive put off. "

I agree. The extra long profiles are pointless as well

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I would also like to add:

Set out your contact rules, then keep the rest of the blurb light and friendly, think Gloria Hunniford or Carol Vorderman rather than Cruella De Vil or Irma Grese!

Think about what you can also offer them, not just what YOU want from a meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would also like to add:

Set out your contact rules, then keep the rest of the blurb light and friendly, think Gloria Hunniford or Carol Vorderman rather than Cruella De Vil or Irma Grese!

Think about what you can also offer them, not just what YOU want from a meet."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I quite like a decent read. But more like a short article and not a novel. Depends on the writer though...

Good writing gets me most times and even when I'm disqualified in the process of reading I still appreciate it so I know not to waste my time.

I much prefer to know I'm what a woman is looking for, but I could fit her preferences exactly and we still not be a match for each other or have chemistry..

Empty profiles are the worst though. Conveying no personality or intelligence doesn't do it for me personally.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

It makes me chuckle if you look at what women are looking for. Take 100 men for example. Reduce that by the following.

“No cock pics”. Immediately down to 30.

“Single or unattached”. This is debatable but many would say that would leave say 10 probably less.

“Tall” (over 6” in my book). Down to 5.

“Like bald men/ like men with hair” to 2.

“Like decent tattoos”. Bingo run out of men.

I could go on but you get the gist. I’m not having a go. It’s everyone’s potogative to ask for what they want.

No wonder women say “it’s like looking for a needle in a haystack”. There’s no needle in the haystack lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If on reading my profile a guy decides I’m not for him, then that’s saved his time and mine x

It’s worth writing a detailed profile and it’s worth reading x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The key thing about all this is expectations, people have them and they should try not to. Nobody on this site owes anything to anyone, accept that, if you get lucky, great! If not, then either crack on or leave. Just because you take the time to reach out to someone doesn't mean they owe you. If you're seeking out the needle in the haystack then be patient. Don't give in the pieces of hay that are hanging around in case you drop your standards x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It makes me chuckle if you look at what women are looking for. Take 100 men for example. Reduce that by the following.

“No cock pics”. Immediately down to 30.

“Single or unattached”. This is debatable but many would say that would leave say 10 probably less.

“Tall” (over 6” in my book). Down to 5.

“Like bald men/ like men with hair” to 2.

“Like decent tattoos”. Bingo run out of men.

I could go on but you get the gist. I’m not having a go. It’s everyone’s potogative to ask for what they want.

No wonder women say “it’s like looking for a needle in a haystack”. There’s no needle in the haystack lol.

"

I couldnt agree more there are way too many profiles like that its funny how women say no dick pics yet they have fanny pics on their profiles lol

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By *ibblingnewtWoman
over a year ago

by the sea

I’ve learnt that if I say I’m interested in football men are more likely to want to meet me

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

I think I struggle because of the lack of guys with a personality, and superficial. That's why I would say I am picky as to who I'll meet. If there's no chemistry, no possibility of a meet. I know that I've had a belly full of superficial compliments, a telling tale, that once you've turned a guy down you just get abuse. Women are more realistic and don't want to be treated as a piece of meat or a throw away fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If on reading my profile a guy decides I’m not for him, then that’s saved his time and mine x

It’s worth writing a detailed profile and it’s worth reading x"

this! C Xx

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

Mansplaining at it finest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mansplaining at it finest."

IKR x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It makes me chuckle if you look at what women are looking for. Take 100 men for example. Reduce that by the following.

“No cock pics”. Immediately down to 30.

“Single or unattached”. This is debatable but many would say that would leave say 10 probably less.

“Tall” (over 6” in my book). Down to 5.

“Like bald men/ like men with hair” to 2.

“Like decent tattoos”. Bingo run out of men.

I could go on but you get the gist. I’m not having a go. It’s everyone’s potogative to ask for what they want.

No wonder women say “it’s like looking for a needle in a haystack”. There’s no needle in the haystack lol.

I couldnt agree more there are way too many profiles like that its funny how women say no dick pics yet they have fanny pics on their profiles lol"

You get hundreds of fanny pics sent to you every week then?

Whats your secret?

P'raps you could let the other guys know the magic formula?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mansplaining at it finest."

So I guess the one aimed at men posted the other day was womansplaining

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Not hundreds no lol.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters


"I have noticed an increasing number of women’s profiles who are struggling to get meets and are posting their frustrations on status updates. Men outnumber genuine women in here by about 25 to 1 so it should be quite easy to get good quality messages if you change your approach.

1 Don’t have a long list of DEMANDS that are written in capital letters, they come across as aggressive and needy. Try telling us what you do want instead , improve your profiles

2 One lined or even blank profiles are lazy and unfortunately attract lazy and copy and pasted messages

3 Be realistic. Unrealistic expectations can lead to frustration .looking for certain types of men that are unattainable is a waste of your time

4 Just because your on a sex site and you get 100s of messages , realise that the vast majority have been sent by chancers and fakes and sycophants who have no intention of meeting you so try not to let it go to your head .

5 If you are demanding a face pic immediately try and send one in return or have one on your profile.

6 If your unhappy with the quality and quantity of the messages you receive from men simply block men and send the first messages yourself .

These points are only my own personal observations and most of the profiles I read are well written. However for those of you ‘struggling’ this advice might help.

"

Clap clap clap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a suggestion for every single female who thinks she is struggling.

Sign up a single male profile, or even a couples one. Try to find a single female.

Then go back about your day realising how easy you have it trust me, it will perk you up no end

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By *irl1234xxxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I have noticed an increasing number of women’s profiles who are struggling to get meets and are posting their frustrations on status updates. Men outnumber genuine women in here by about 25 to 1 so it should be quite easy to get good quality messages if you change your approach.

1 Don’t have a long list of DEMANDS that are written in capital letters, they come across as aggressive and needy. Try telling us what you do want instead , improve your profiles

2 One lined or even blank profiles are lazy and unfortunately attract lazy and copy and pasted messages

3 Be realistic. Unrealistic expectations can lead to frustration .looking for certain types of men that are unattainable is a waste of your time

4 Just because your on a sex site and you get 100s of messages , realise that the vast majority have been sent by chancers and fakes and sycophants who have no intention of meeting you so try not to let it go to your head .

5 If you are demanding a face pic immediately try and send one in return or have one on your profile.

6 If your unhappy with the quality and quantity of the messages you receive from men simply block men and send the first messages yourself .

These points are only my own personal observations and most of the profiles I read are well written. However for those of you ‘struggling’ this advice might help.

Clap clap clap "

You can get cream for that y’know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mansplaining at it finest.

So I guess the one aimed at men posted the other day was womansplaining "

No silly, it's ok when they do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If on reading my profile a guy decides I’m not for him, then that’s saved his time and mine x

It’s worth writing a detailed profile and it’s worth reading x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *idnightxBrownCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Facts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think most decent women on here, already do/don’t do these things.

Those who don’t make an effort, in regards to profile/pictures are likely to have a less positive experience!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It makes me chuckle if you look at what women are looking for. Take 100 men for example. Reduce that by the following.

“No cock pics”. Immediately down to 30.

“Single or unattached”. This is debatable but many would say that would leave say 10 probably less.

“Tall” (over 6” in my book). Down to 5.

“Like bald men/ like men with hair” to 2.

“Like decent tattoos”. Bingo run out of men.

I could go on but you get the gist. I’m not having a go. It’s everyone’s potogative to ask for what they want.

No wonder women say “it’s like looking for a needle in a haystack”. There’s no needle in the haystack lol.

I couldnt agree more there are way too many profiles like that its funny how women say no dick pics yet they have fanny pics on their profiles lol

You get hundreds of fanny pics sent to you every week then?

Whats your secret?

P'raps you could let the other guys know the magic formula?"

Hahaha if only!

Maybe then the “Why can’t I get a meet” “Nobody replies to my messages” posts would decrease!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do alright on here. More than happy with my meets.

I do prefer a guy to message me so often have to sift through some weird, wonderful, abusive and outright surreal messages. Thank fuck for the block button

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a suggestion for every single female who thinks she is struggling.

Sign up a single male profile, or even a couples one. Try to find a single female.

Then go back about your day realising how easy you have it trust me, it will perk you up no end "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have noticed an increasing number of women’s profiles who are struggling to get meets and are posting their frustrations on status updates. Men outnumber genuine women in here by about 25 to 1 so it should be quite easy to get good quality messages if you change your approach.

1 Don’t have a long list of DEMANDS that are written in capital letters, they come across as aggressive and needy. Try telling us what you do want instead , improve your profiles

2 One lined or even blank profiles are lazy and unfortunately attract lazy and copy and pasted messages

3 Be realistic. Unrealistic expectations can lead to frustration .looking for certain types of men that are unattainable is a waste of your time

4 Just because your on a sex site and you get 100s of messages , realise that the vast majority have been sent by chancers and fakes and sycophants who have no intention of meeting you so try not to let it go to your head .

5 If you are demanding a face pic immediately try and send one in return or have one on your profile.

6 If your unhappy with the quality and quantity of the messages you receive from men simply block men and send the first messages yourself .

These points are only my own personal observations and most of the profiles I read are well written. However for those of you ‘struggling’ this advice might help.

"

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By *he Cheeky GirlsCouple (FF)
over a year ago

Dover and Benidorm

Great thread, funny and you have a point.

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport

lmao this thread is golden, I'm in tears just reading through it hehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Brilliant.. This made me chuckle to myself.. So many single ladies are very demanding on here .. Not all of them might I say.. Great post and very well written

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do alright on here. More than happy with my meets.

I do prefer a guy to message me so often have to sift through some weird, wonderful, abusive and outright surreal messages. Thank fuck for the block button "

How many nutters have you blocked on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women ‘struggle’, whatever that means, for different reasons than men struggle on fab.

I doubt any discerning woman will lower her standards in order to increase the volume of meets. That’s hardly the point.

The premise of this post is quite patronising and points to the barely concealed anger directed at women on here by a lot of men who make the mistake of thinking that because it’s a sex site, women on here will be readily available and willing.

Yes, maybe they will be, but to those guys on here who we feel meet our, varied and discerning, tastes, requirements and needs.

Perhaps, plainly, just because we’re on fab doesn’t mean we will drop our panties for any old Tom, Dick or Harry ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Brilliant.. This made me chuckle to myself.. So many single ladies are very demanding on here .. Not all of them might I say.. Great post and very well written "

Shocking innit? That women know and demand what they want?

Where will it all end, eh?

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La


"Brilliant.. This made me chuckle to myself.. So many single ladies are very demanding on here .. Not all of them might I say.. Great post and very well written "

What do you see as demanding? Just curious as to where you think the line is between demanding and knowing what you want. If a profile says " only 6ft and over " " no hairy chests" " no tattoos" surely that's just someone who knows what they want?

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By *winkleFairyCouple
over a year ago

UK


"Brilliant.. This made me chuckle to myself.. So many single ladies are very demanding on here .. Not all of them might I say.. Great post and very well written

Shocking innit? That women know and demand what they want?

Where will it all end, eh?"

The absolute horror that we know what we want!

Next thing we’ll be able to vote and drive cars and all sorts of madness!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women ‘struggle’, whatever that means, for different reasons than men struggle on fab.

I doubt any discerning woman will lower her standards in order to increase the volume of meets. That’s hardly the point.

The premise of this post is quite patronising and points to the barely concealed anger directed at women on here by a lot of men who make the mistake of thinking that because it’s a sex site, women on here will be readily available and willing.

Yes, maybe they will be, but to those guys on here who we feel meet our, varied and discerning, tastes, requirements and needs.

Perhaps, plainly, just because we’re on fab doesn’t mean we will drop our panties for any old Tom, Dick or Harry ...."

The OP's post is a copy & paste of the one aimed at men a couple of days ago

And he's not saying to lower your standards - although they may need some adjusting if you're struggling to find what you're looking for

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"I absolutely do not bother with the aggressive demanding capital worded profiles.

It just spells out Drama. It's a massive put off.

I agree. The extra long profiles are pointless as well "
I disagree with that. As long as it's a witty and well written profile. I've messaged a guy many times for this reason

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield


"Brilliant.. This made me chuckle to myself.. So many single ladies are very demanding on here .. Not all of them might I say.. Great post and very well written

What do you see as demanding? Just curious as to where you think the line is between demanding and knowing what you want. If a profile says " only 6ft and over " " no hairy chests" " no tattoos" surely that's just someone who knows what they want? "

You are missing the point. I’m all for people being picky. I am like everyone else but if you add “and single” there’s no one left!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Brilliant.. This made me chuckle to myself.. So many single ladies are very demanding on here .. Not all of them might I say.. Great post and very well written

What do you see as demanding? Just curious as to where you think the line is between demanding and knowing what you want. If a profile says " only 6ft and over " " no hairy chests" " no tattoos" surely that's just someone who knows what they want?

You are missing the point. I’m all for people being picky. I am like everyone else but if you add “and single” there’s no one left!"

I only seek single, and I can assure you there is plenty of them left!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I absolutely do not bother with the aggressive demanding capital worded profiles.

It just spells out Drama. It's a massive put off.

I agree. The extra long profiles are pointless as well I disagree with that. As long as it's a witty and well written profile. I've messaged a guy many times for this reason "

Me too.

I actually enjoy reading a well written articulate profile, I get the vibe that if they’ve put some effort into their profile they’re likely to be the same in regards to conversation and meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women ‘struggle’, whatever that means, for different reasons than men struggle on fab.

I doubt any discerning woman will lower her standards in order to increase the volume of meets. That’s hardly the point.

The premise of this post is quite patronising and points to the barely concealed anger directed at women on here by a lot of men who make the mistake of thinking that because it’s a sex site, women on here will be readily available and willing.

Yes, maybe they will be, but to those guys on here who we feel meet our, varied and discerning, tastes, requirements and needs.

Perhaps, plainly, just because we’re on fab doesn’t mean we will drop our panties for any old Tom, Dick or Harry ...."

No more or less patronising than the recent advice for men thread.

I don't agree with this post any more than I do the other one, but in the interests of parity it has every right to be here.

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By *winkleFairyCouple
over a year ago

UK

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"no copy and paste messages"

If I had time to write a tailored message to every person that would be a terrible use of time. I just say check out my verifications and we can chat more if you like the look of me. P.S if you had a code word to prove I read your profile imagine I just wrote it. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a suggestion for every single female who thinks she is struggling.

Sign up a single male profile, or even a couples one. Try to find a single female.

Then go back about your day realising how easy you have it trust me, it will perk you up no end "

Love it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Brilliant.. This made me chuckle to myself.. So many single ladies are very demanding on here .. Not all of them might I say.. Great post and very well written

Shocking innit? That women know and demand what they want?

Where will it all end, eh?"

Shocking innit? That men won’t bow down to these ‘demands’ .

Where will it all end .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


""no copy and paste messages"

If I had time to write a tailored message to every person that would be a terrible use of time. I just say check out my verifications and we can chat more if you like the look of me. P.S if you had a code word to prove I read your profile imagine I just wrote it. X "

Haha, I agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Brilliant.. This made me chuckle to myself.. So many single ladies are very demanding on here .. Not all of them might I say.. Great post and very well written

Shocking innit? That women know and demand what they want?

Where will it all end, eh?

Shocking innit? That men won’t bow down to these ‘demands’ .

Where will it all end . "

Some men do bow down, become bitter (as they think they deserve better) and the fab-circle of inappropriate messaging and profile demands keeps churning.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Brilliant.. This made me chuckle to myself.. So many single ladies are very demanding on here .. Not all of them might I say.. Great post and very well written

Shocking innit? That women know and demand what they want?

Where will it all end, eh?

Shocking innit? That men won’t bow down to these ‘demands’ .

Where will it all end .

Some men do bow down, become bitter (as they think they deserve better) and the fab-circle of inappropriate messaging and profile demands keeps churning."

More fool them, it is a vicious circle then ? The demanding profiles don’t get what they want though

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Thanks for your post OP, makes a nice change to have a man's point of view put in such an articulate way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women ‘struggle’, whatever that means, for different reasons than men struggle on fab.

I doubt any discerning woman will lower her standards in order to increase the volume of meets. That’s hardly the point.

The premise of this post is quite patronising and points to the barely concealed anger directed at women on here by a lot of men who make the mistake of thinking that because it’s a sex site, women on here will be readily available and willing.

Yes, maybe they will be, but to those guys on here who we feel meet our, varied and discerning, tastes, requirements and needs.

Perhaps, plainly, just because we’re on fab doesn’t mean we will drop our panties for any old Tom, Dick or Harry ....

No more or less patronising than the recent advice for men thread.

I don't agree with this post any more than I do the other one, but in the interests of parity it has every right to be here.

"

I agree.

I think both are informative, although I don’t think this one was written with the women he speaks of interests at heart, and was mostly written because of the other thread.

Still advice is advice, I do think most of us who are “decent” already do what’s been said though, the same with the other thread.

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By *lice AgainTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

I hope this becomes a series.

I'm looking forward to:

'For all the TVs/CDs on here who are struggling'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have noticed an increasing number of women’s profiles who are struggling to get meets and are posting their frustrations on status updates. Men outnumber genuine women in here by about 25 to 1 so it should be quite easy to get good quality messages if you change your approach.

1 Don’t have a long list of DEMANDS that are written in capital letters, they come across as aggressive and needy. Try telling us what you do want instead , improve your profiles

2 One lined or even blank profiles are lazy and unfortunately attract lazy and copy and pasted messages

3 Be realistic. Unrealistic expectations can lead to frustration .looking for certain types of men that are unattainable is a waste of your time

4 Just because your on a sex site and you get 100s of messages , realise that the vast majority have been sent by chancers and fakes and sycophants who have no intention of meeting you so try not to let it go to your head .

5 If you are demanding a face pic immediately try and send one in return or have one on your profile.

6 If your unhappy with the quality and quantity of the messages you receive from men simply block men and send the first messages yourself .

These points are only my own personal observations and most of the profiles I read are well written. However for those of you ‘struggling’ this advice might help.

"

Brilliant. I thinkbthe ratio is actually greater. More like 300:1 Whats even finnier is 1 lady commented she struggles because shes picky. No lady. You stuggle because your profile starts off with a list of NOs in caps. The exact thing the original post address and still your so blind to your aggressive natured profile. Smdh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hope this becomes a series.

I'm looking forward to:

'For all the TVs/CDs on here who are struggling'

"

Me too!

‘For all the couples struggling” who is going to start the thread?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Maybe then the “Why can’t I get a meet” “Nobody replies to my messages” posts would decrease!

"

That’s their way of getting people to look at their profile and fab their pics to boost their ego.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Maybe then the “Why can’t I get a meet” “Nobody replies to my messages” posts would decrease!

That’s their way of getting people to look at their profile and fab their pics to boost their ego.

"

Really?

I don’t think it is. I think when guys post that on here they really aren’t getting any messages or meets.

A lot of them think it’s because we are all looking for an Adonis, when in reality many are not and these guys haven’t even looked at their profile or pictures to see what they could improve.

Thankfully there are many on here who do post things like that and are grateful for advice that’s given to them.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"Brilliant.. This made me chuckle to myself.. So many single ladies are very demanding on here .. Not all of them might I say.. Great post and very well written

What do you see as demanding? Just curious as to where you think the line is between demanding and knowing what you want. If a profile says " only 6ft and over " " no hairy chests" " no tattoos" surely that's just someone who knows what they want? "

It's the difference between male and female approaches to sex.

On the whole and allowing for exceptions, most men would theoretically have sex with most women. On the other hand, women will only generally have sex with specific men they are attracted to.

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By *oppyrose97Couple
over a year ago

Swansea

We have the right to be picky, the same right single guys have. Why lower your standards. Why have someone come into your life that you're not really attracted to or that you're not comfortable with that's on the same wavelength as you.

Everyone is different and these threads are just opinions.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We have the right to be picky, the same right single guys have. Why lower your standards. Why have someone come into your life that you're not really attracted to or that you're not comfortable with that's on the same wavelength as you.

Everyone is different and these threads are just opinions. "

Of course but people (men and women) have to be realistic with their expectations on here .

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By *ikely ladMan
over a year ago

Hounslow

I think it's basic, if they like your profile picture they'll check out your profile. If you're good at selling yourself and writing what women want to hear then you're sorted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hello, writer of "the other thread" here. Let me start by saying that I don't think this thread is sexist, patronising or mansplaining in any way. I know I didn't mean in that way so OP probably didn't either. I DO however think this is a passive aggressive rip-off meant for all the people who were even slightly insulted by mine, but I digress...

The thing with these 'demanding profiles' is that in most cases they PROBABLY started out as lovely "Hi, I'm so-and-so. These are the things I like doing. These are the things I like talking about. This is the kind of thing I'm looking for". I know mine was. I also know that what happened in my case is that I slowly started adding things I WASN'T looking for after receiving barrages of dick pics, smut and abuse day after day. Then my profile slowly but surely became a longer list of negative things rather than positive things. I changed it a couple of months ago to try and make it sound really positive and bubbly but then the messages got worse so the one I have now is not aggressive (in my opinion) but blunt and to the point.

The problem is that even though a lot of women have these lists of what they're looking for on their profiles, just as many men think that for some reason they are the exception to the rule and will still try to message them anyway. Then they're angry when they don't get a reply and messages to other women slowly become worse over time as these men become more frustrated. I know a couple of times when I've called out men for sending shocking messages they've come back saying they only did it to see if it would get a reply and in most cases it does more than "nice" messages. One guy even said he thought he could start off by getting my attention and then "changing my mind about him" after a particularly vile message.

In conclusion: I don't know what the solution is. Could some men be a little nicer on here? Yes. Could some women/couples be a little nicer on here? Also yes. Could some TV/TS/CD on here be nicer? Probably, I'm not sure to be honest. The point is, everyone on here's behaviour is formed by their experiences so far. If you yourself are comfortable with how you come off through your profile or messages, then you carry on doing you. If you're not getting the result you were looking for on here, maybe it's time to take a step back (maybe ask a fab friend for help) and give yourself a little rehaul.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hello, writer of "the other thread" here. Let me start by saying that I don't think this thread is sexist, patronising or mansplaining in any way. I know I didn't mean in that way so OP probably didn't either. I DO however think this is a passive aggressive rip-off meant for all the people who were even slightly insulted by mine, but I digress...

The thing with these 'demanding profiles' is that in most cases they PROBABLY started out as lovely "Hi, I'm so-and-so. These are the things I like doing. These are the things I like talking about. This is the kind of thing I'm looking for". I know mine was. I also know that what happened in my case is that I slowly started adding things I WASN'T looking for after receiving barrages of dick pics, smut and abuse day after day. Then my profile slowly but surely became a longer list of negative things rather than positive things. I changed it a couple of months ago to try and make it sound really positive and bubbly but then the messages got worse so the one I have now is not aggressive (in my opinion) but blunt and to the point.

The problem is that even though a lot of women have these lists of what they're looking for on their profiles, just as many men think that for some reason they are the exception to the rule and will still try to message them anyway. Then they're angry when they don't get a reply and messages to other women slowly become worse over time as these men become more frustrated. I know a couple of times when I've called out men for sending shocking messages they've come back saying they only did it to see if it would get a reply and in most cases it does more than "nice" messages. One guy even said he thought he could start off by getting my attention and then "changing my mind about him" after a particularly vile message.

In conclusion: I don't know what the solution is. Could some men be a little nicer on here? Yes. Could some women/couples be a little nicer on here? Also yes. Could some TV/TS/CD on here be nicer? Probably, I'm not sure to be honest. The point is, everyone on here's behaviour is formed by their experiences so far. If you yourself are comfortable with how you come off through your profile or messages, then you carry on doing you. If you're not getting the result you were looking for on here, maybe it's time to take a step back (maybe ask a fab friend for help) and give yourself a little rehaul."

Thanks for the reply on here. My OP wasn’t passive aggressive in the same way your post wasn’t . Unfortunately when you give advice that isn’t asked for , it is rarely read on here, acted upon or appreciated .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry but the whole have a face pic on your profile if your demanding is not fair the rest is fair as I do send one back if the guy is my type, but some women want fab life to stay privite. I don't wanna be told in public with mates by random guys oh your on fab I've seen you as this has happed, and we request face pics with the first message as it's saves time what if we started chatting and then 5 messages in we don't even fancy them or they don't fancy us, then we just wasted each other's time ain't we ,so don't see why it's so hard to just send a face pic as most women will send one back if they fancy you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello, writer of "the other thread" here. Let me start by saying that I don't think this thread is sexist, patronising or mansplaining in any way. I know I didn't mean in that way so OP probably didn't either. I DO however think this is a passive aggressive rip-off meant for all the people who were even slightly insulted by mine, but I digress...

The thing with these 'demanding profiles' is that in most cases they PROBABLY started out as lovely "Hi, I'm so-and-so. These are the things I like doing. These are the things I like talking about. This is the kind of thing I'm looking for". I know mine was. I also know that what happened in my case is that I slowly started adding things I WASN'T looking for after receiving barrages of dick pics, smut and abuse day after day. Then my profile slowly but surely became a longer list of negative things rather than positive things. I changed it a couple of months ago to try and make it sound really positive and bubbly but then the messages got worse so the one I have now is not aggressive (in my opinion) but blunt and to the point.

The problem is that even though a lot of women have these lists of what they're looking for on their profiles, just as many men think that for some reason they are the exception to the rule and will still try to message them anyway. Then they're angry when they don't get a reply and messages to other women slowly become worse over time as these men become more frustrated. I know a couple of times when I've called out men for sending shocking messages they've come back saying they only did it to see if it would get a reply and in most cases it does more than "nice" messages. One guy even said he thought he could start off by getting my attention and then "changing my mind about him" after a particularly vile message.

In conclusion: I don't know what the solution is. Could some men be a little nicer on here? Yes. Could some women/couples be a little nicer on here? Also yes. Could some TV/TS/CD on here be nicer? Probably, I'm not sure to be honest. The point is, everyone on here's behaviour is formed by their experiences so far. If you yourself are comfortable with how you come off through your profile or messages, then you carry on doing you. If you're not getting the result you were looking for on here, maybe it's time to take a step back (maybe ask a fab friend for help) and give yourself a little rehaul.

Thanks for the reply on here. My OP wasn’t passive aggressive in the same way your post wasn’t . Unfortunately when you give advice that isn’t asked for , it is rarely read on here, acted upon or appreciated . "

A. Judging by the number of threads asking for help advice was definitely asked for. Maybe not mine per se but advice in general definitely.

B. Judging by the number of PM's I've had in my inbox over the past few days from men thanking me for helping them realise where they've been going wrong I'd definitely say it was appreciated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Brilliant.. This made me chuckle to myself.. So many single ladies are very demanding on here .. Not all of them might I say.. Great post and very well written

What do you see as demanding? Just curious as to where you think the line is between demanding and knowing what you want. If a profile says " only 6ft and over " " no hairy chests" " no tattoos" surely that's just someone who knows what they want?

It's the difference between male and female approaches to sex.

On the whole and allowing for exceptions, most men would theoretically have sex with most women. On the other hand, women will only generally have sex with specific men they are attracted to. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So far i have tried all advice read on the previous thread from the original thread creator & from comments left & i am 0 for 20 at the moment so its looking like relegation for me maybe if i change my status to i am ironman i might more sucess lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So far i have tried all advice read on the previous thread from the original thread creator & from comments left & i am 0 for 20 at the moment so its looking like relegation for me maybe if i change my status to i am ironman i might more sucess lol"

Good luck,

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hello, writer of "the other thread" here. Let me start by saying that I don't think this thread is sexist, patronising or mansplaining in any way. I know I didn't mean in that way so OP probably didn't either. I DO however think this is a passive aggressive rip-off meant for all the people who were even slightly insulted by mine, but I digress...

The thing with these 'demanding profiles' is that in most cases they PROBABLY started out as lovely "Hi, I'm so-and-so. These are the things I like doing. These are the things I like talking about. This is the kind of thing I'm looking for". I know mine was. I also know that what happened in my case is that I slowly started adding things I WASN'T looking for after receiving barrages of dick pics, smut and abuse day after day. Then my profile slowly but surely became a longer list of negative things rather than positive things. I changed it a couple of months ago to try and make it sound really positive and bubbly but then the messages got worse so the one I have now is not aggressive (in my opinion) but blunt and to the point.

The problem is that even though a lot of women have these lists of what they're looking for on their profiles, just as many men think that for some reason they are the exception to the rule and will still try to message them anyway. Then they're angry when they don't get a reply and messages to other women slowly become worse over time as these men become more frustrated. I know a couple of times when I've called out men for sending shocking messages they've come back saying they only did it to see if it would get a reply and in most cases it does more than "nice" messages. One guy even said he thought he could start off by getting my attention and then "changing my mind about him" after a particularly vile message.

In conclusion: I don't know what the solution is. Could some men be a little nicer on here? Yes. Could some women/couples be a little nicer on here? Also yes. Could some TV/TS/CD on here be nicer? Probably, I'm not sure to be honest. The point is, everyone on here's behaviour is formed by their experiences so far. If you yourself are comfortable with how you come off through your profile or messages, then you carry on doing you. If you're not getting the result you were looking for on here, maybe it's time to take a step back (maybe ask a fab friend for help) and give yourself a little rehaul.

Thanks for the reply on here. My OP wasn’t passive aggressive in the same way your post wasn’t . Unfortunately when you give advice that isn’t asked for , it is rarely read on here, acted upon or appreciated .

A. Judging by the number of threads asking for help advice was definitely asked for. Maybe not mine per se but advice in general definitely.

B. Judging by the number of PM's I've had in my inbox over the past few days from men thanking me for helping them realise where they've been going wrong I'd definitely say it was appreciated. "

Let’s hope they all take your advice then and start to get loads of replies

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By *winkleFairyCouple
over a year ago

UK


"We have the right to be picky, the same right single guys have. Why lower your standards. Why have someone come into your life that you're not really attracted to or that you're not comfortable with that's on the same wavelength as you.

Everyone is different and these threads are just opinions.

Of course but people (men and women) have to be realistic with their expectations on here . "

I am realistic with my expectations.

I want a gentleman who is tall, in good shape and is good looking. I’m married to a guy who is exactly that. I know my worth... I’m not going to trade down ha!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Brilliant.. This made me chuckle to myself.. So many single ladies are very demanding on here .. Not all of them might I say.. Great post and very well written

What do you see as demanding? Just curious as to where you think the line is between demanding and knowing what you want. If a profile says " only 6ft and over " " no hairy chests" " no tattoos" surely that's just someone who knows what they want?

It's the difference between male and female approaches to sex.

On the whole and allowing for exceptions, most men would theoretically have sex with most women. On the other hand, women will only generally have sex with specific men they are attracted to. "

Pretty much sums it up

If men actually stood by their "true" standards there would likely be a lot more disappointed women on this site

Men complain about women dating "up" in regards to physical beauty & personality on this site - but that's only because they can (facilitated by the male willingness to sleep with just about anything under the right circumstances)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

These threads will be on here as long as fab exists! My personal experience is that in about six years of occasionally being on fab I have had about as many meets which have come to anything, d*unk an awful lot of coffee, often on my own and come to the conclusion that I am too short, too old, too hairy, too bald and not attractive. But, I have also chatted to and met some lovely funny interesting and sexy people who have made me feel that none of the above matters. If you come onto fab expecting to find a line of libidinous ladies begging for your finest attention then you are so kidding yourself - being honest, genuine, human and thoughtful is far more attractive than being the duracell bunny of fab - but maybe I am just working with what I have got

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women ‘struggle’, whatever that means, for different reasons than men struggle on fab.

I doubt any discerning woman will lower her standards in order to increase the volume of meets. That’s hardly the point.

The premise of this post is quite patronising and points to the barely concealed anger directed at women on here by a lot of men who make the mistake of thinking that because it’s a sex site, women on here will be readily available and willing.

Yes, maybe they will be, but to those guys on here who we feel meet our, varied and discerning, tastes, requirements and needs.

Perhaps, plainly, just because we’re on fab doesn’t mean we will drop our panties for any old Tom, Dick or Harry ....

No more or less patronising than the recent advice for men thread.

I don't agree with this post any more than I do the other one, but in the interests of parity it has every right to be here.

"

The advice for men was written by a man ... but hey mainsplaining is a thing I guess x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women ‘struggle’, whatever that means, for different reasons than men struggle on fab.

I doubt any discerning woman will lower her standards in order to increase the volume of meets. That’s hardly the point.

The premise of this post is quite patronising and points to the barely concealed anger directed at women on here by a lot of men who make the mistake of thinking that because it’s a sex site, women on here will be readily available and willing.

Yes, maybe they will be, but to those guys on here who we feel meet our, varied and discerning, tastes, requirements and needs.

Perhaps, plainly, just because we’re on fab doesn’t mean we will drop our panties for any old Tom, Dick or Harry ....

No more or less patronising than the recent advice for men thread.

I don't agree with this post any more than I do the other one, but in the interests of parity it has every right to be here.

The advice for men was written by a man ... but hey mainsplaining is a thing I guess x"

If you’re referring to the “To all the men that are struggling here” thread, that was written by a woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Then I must’ve been looking at a different one - crikey, so many ...

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"Brilliant.. This made me chuckle to myself.. So many single ladies are very demanding on here .. Not all of them might I say.. Great post and very well written

What do you see as demanding? Just curious as to where you think the line is between demanding and knowing what you want. If a profile says " only 6ft and over " " no hairy chests" " no tattoos" surely that's just someone who knows what they want?

It's the difference between male and female approaches to sex.

On the whole and allowing for exceptions, most men would theoretically have sex with most women. On the other hand, women will only generally have sex with specific men they are attracted to.

Pretty much sums it up

If men actually stood by their "true" standards there would likely be a lot more disappointed women on this site

Men complain about women dating "up" in regards to physical beauty & personality on this site - but that's only because they can (facilitated by the male willingness to sleep with just about anything under the right circumstances)

"

I think to talk about "standards" is unhelpful. I, like, most men on here would cheerfully have sex with 80-90% of the women on here. That's because I like sex and I find 80-90% of the women on here attractive enough to want to have sex with.

I will obviously find some of that 80-90% more attractive than others, but to say that having sex with the latter group involves a lowering of standards is strange.

It's a bit like refusing to ever have a takeaway because it's not as good as the food in a Michelin starred restaurant.

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By *winkleFairyCouple
over a year ago

UK


"Brilliant.. This made me chuckle to myself.. So many single ladies are very demanding on here .. Not all of them might I say.. Great post and very well written

What do you see as demanding? Just curious as to where you think the line is between demanding and knowing what you want. If a profile says " only 6ft and over " " no hairy chests" " no tattoos" surely that's just someone who knows what they want?

It's the difference between male and female approaches to sex.

On the whole and allowing for exceptions, most men would theoretically have sex with most women. On the other hand, women will only generally have sex with specific men they are attracted to.

Pretty much sums it up

If men actually stood by their "true" standards there would likely be a lot more disappointed women on this site

Men complain about women dating "up" in regards to physical beauty & personality on this site - but that's only because they can (facilitated by the male willingness to sleep with just about anything under the right circumstances)

I think to talk about "standards" is unhelpful. I, like, most men on here would cheerfully have sex with 80-90% of the women on here. That's because I like sex and I find 80-90% of the women on here attractive enough to want to have sex with.

I will obviously find some of that 80-90% more attractive than others, but to say that having sex with the latter group involves a lowering of standards is strange.

It's a bit like refusing to ever have a takeaway because it's not as good as the food in a Michelin starred restaurant. "

That’s a great analogy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funny sarcastic shit..I love it ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Brilliant.. This made me chuckle to myself.. So many single ladies are very demanding on here .. Not all of them might I say.. Great post and very well written

What do you see as demanding? Just curious as to where you think the line is between demanding and knowing what you want. If a profile says " only 6ft and over " " no hairy chests" " no tattoos" surely that's just someone who knows what they want?

It's the difference between male and female approaches to sex.

On the whole and allowing for exceptions, most men would theoretically have sex with most women. On the other hand, women will only generally have sex with specific men they are attracted to.

Pretty much sums it up

If men actually stood by their "true" standards there would likely be a lot more disappointed women on this site

Men complain about women dating "up" in regards to physical beauty & personality on this site - but that's only because they can (facilitated by the male willingness to sleep with just about anything under the right circumstances)

I think to talk about "standards" is unhelpful. I, like, most men on here would cheerfully have sex with 80-90% of the women on here. That's because I like sex and I find 80-90% of the women on here attractive enough to want to have sex with.

I will obviously find some of that 80-90% more attractive than others, but to say that having sex with the latter group involves a lowering of standards is strange.

It's a bit like refusing to ever have a takeaway because it's not as good as the food in a Michelin starred restaurant. "

Good point This is true enough

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La


"We have the right to be picky, the same right single guys have. Why lower your standards. Why have someone come into your life that you're not really attracted to or that you're not comfortable with that's on the same wavelength as you.

Everyone is different and these threads are just opinions.

Of course but people (men and women) have to be realistic with their expectations on here .

I am realistic with my expectations.

I want a gentleman who is tall, in good shape and is good looking. I’m married to a guy who is exactly that. I know my worth... I’m not going to trade down ha! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Brilliant.. This made me chuckle to myself.. So many single ladies are very demanding on here .. Not all of them might I say.. Great post and very well written

What do you see as demanding? Just curious as to where you think the line is between demanding and knowing what you want. If a profile says " only 6ft and over " " no hairy chests" " no tattoos" surely that's just someone who knows what they want?

It's the difference between male and female approaches to sex.

On the whole and allowing for exceptions, most men would theoretically have sex with most women. On the other hand, women will only generally have sex with specific men they are attracted to.

Pretty much sums it up

If men actually stood by their "true" standards there would likely be a lot more disappointed women on this site

Men complain about women dating "up" in regards to physical beauty & personality on this site - but that's only because they can (facilitated by the male willingness to sleep with just about anything under the right circumstances)

I think to talk about "standards" is unhelpful. I, like, most men on here would cheerfully have sex with 80-90% of the women on here. That's because I like sex and I find 80-90% of the women on here attractive enough to want to have sex with.

I will obviously find some of that 80-90% more attractive than others, but to say that having sex with the latter group involves a lowering of standards is strange.

It's a bit like refusing to ever have a takeaway because it's not as good as the food in a Michelin starred restaurant. "

Perfectly put.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh its just so alienating being on the forums sometimes.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"Brilliant.. This made me chuckle to myself.. So many single ladies are very demanding on here .. Not all of them might I say.. Great post and very well written

What do you see as demanding? Just curious as to where you think the line is between demanding and knowing what you want. If a profile says " only 6ft and over " " no hairy chests" " no tattoos" surely that's just someone who knows what they want?

It's the difference between male and female approaches to sex.

On the whole and allowing for exceptions, most men would theoretically have sex with most women. On the other hand, women will only generally have sex with specific men they are attracted to.

Pretty much sums it up

If men actually stood by their "true" standards there would likely be a lot more disappointed women on this site

Men complain about women dating "up" in regards to physical beauty & personality on this site - but that's only because they can (facilitated by the male willingness to sleep with just about anything under the right circumstances)

I think to talk about "standards" is unhelpful. I, like, most men on here would cheerfully have sex with 80-90% of the women on here. That's because I like sex and I find 80-90% of the women on here attractive enough to want to have sex with.

I will obviously find some of that 80-90% more attractive than others, but to say that having sex with the latter group involves a lowering of standards is strange.

It's a bit like refusing to ever have a takeaway because it's not as good as the food in a Michelin starred restaurant.

Perfectly put. "

Why thank you.

I think there is a tendency, amongst some on here, to believe that if you are theoretically willing to have sex with many people, you are some kind of filthy slapper. Which is a strange attitude for a swingers site

Hence many people insisting they are "choosy" and won't "lower their standards".

As I say, I can look at over 80% of the women on here and think "yeah, I'd have sex with her" though there may be one or two who aren't interested in me

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I hope this becomes a series.

I'm looking forward to:

'For all the TVs/CDs on here who are struggling'

"

Rapidly followed by 'for all the MF couples who are struggling' then sequels of MM and FF couples lol.

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By *elaxed life saverMan
over a year ago

Solihull....

Haha can't believe what I'm reading here..

There at 20k men on fab and about 12 women lol

The girls really do t need any help

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By *hilandHollyCouple
over a year ago

Newark

Why not just got to a club or party? It works for us 12 verifications allready and we’ve only been on here 6 weeks! We’re a socialable pair it’s not all about shagging.

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By *rs Butterfly.Woman
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

I have had a single ladies profile in the past and it's hard to find a decent guy worth meeting.

You get so many messages as a woman but 95% of them are crap and constant of about five words or less.

Out of 5% that remain 4% aren't what I am looking for.The final 1% let's you down when you arrange to meet.

So I have given up on finding meets on Fab and go to my local swingers club when I fancy a meet.

Mrs B

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.


"I have had a single ladies profile in the past and it's hard to find a decent guy worth meeting.

You get so many messages as a woman but 95% of them are crap and constant of about five words or less.

Out of 5% that remain 4% aren't what I am looking for.The final 1% let's you down when you arrange to meet.

So I have given up on finding meets on Fab and go to my local swingers club when I fancy a meet.

Mrs B"

This, so I just meet socially by chance in clubs and see what may evolve

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield


"I absolutely do not bother with the aggressive demanding capital worded profiles.

It just spells out Drama. It's a massive put off.

I agree. The extra long profiles are pointless as well I disagree with that. As long as it's a witty and well written profile. I've messaged a guy many times for this reason

Me too.

I actually enjoy reading a well written articulate profile, I get the vibe that if they’ve put some effort into their profile they’re likely to be the same in regards to conversation and meets. "

You enjoyed reading them so much you left the site. Bla bla yeah right!

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield


"Brilliant.. This made me chuckle to myself.. So many single ladies are very demanding on here .. Not all of them might I say.. Great post and very well written

What do you see as demanding? Just curious as to where you think the line is between demanding and knowing what you want. If a profile says " only 6ft and over " " no hairy chests" " no tattoos" surely that's just someone who knows what they want?

It's the difference between male and female approaches to sex.

On the whole and allowing for exceptions, most men would theoretically have sex with most women. On the other hand, women will only generally have sex with specific men they are attracted to. "

Erm don’t tar us all with the same brush please!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Struggling... yes!

If I open the age range to 18-99 and status reads, "I'll fk anything, no matter if I'm attracted to them or not" .... No doubt I'll be 'percentage wise' more successful!

Now why didn't I think of that earlier!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women ‘struggle’, whatever that means, for different reasons than men struggle on fab.

I doubt any discerning woman will lower her standards in order to increase the volume of meets. That’s hardly the point.

The premise of this post is quite patronising and points to the barely concealed anger directed at women on here by a lot of men who make the mistake of thinking that because it’s a sex site, women on here will be readily available and willing.

Yes, maybe they will be, but to those guys on here who we feel meet our, varied and discerning, tastes, requirements and needs.

Perhaps, plainly, just because we’re on fab doesn’t mean we will drop our panties for any old Tom, Dick or Harry ...."

?? Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

7 Only consider profiles with more than 10 cock pictures.

8 Do not reply to any profile unless it has a sky remote or beer can in it.

9 Make sure that if you reply to a couple make sure you request a Blurry picture of him with sunglasses on his torso only. And yes that happened to us many years ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have had a single ladies profile in the past and it's hard to find a decent guy worth meeting.

You get so many messages as a woman but 95% of them are crap and constant of about five words or less.

Out of 5% that remain 4% aren't what I am looking for.The final 1% let's you down when you arrange to meet.

So I have given up on finding meets on Fab and go to my local swingers club when I fancy a meet.

Mrs B

This, so I just meet socially by chance in clubs and see what may evolve"

This plus meeting people at socials and lots from friends recommendations.

That’s right men, we pass you round like used sex toys..

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By *heEvilWithinWoman
over a year ago

Barnsley

To the original poster. Are you trying to sound like an arrogant douche or is that just who you are?

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By *arsharkMan
over a year ago

Burnley

I hear you brother!

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

This made me chuckle.

When I was a single lady on here I started off with a nicely worded profile. But after a while with the abusive messages I’d received just because I’d said ‘thanks but you’re not for me’ etc it was changed to rants and lists.

So actually I would say most ladies that end up with lists and rants have reasons why their profiles change to this..... just a thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the issue is people should read profiles and respect the profiles... I scrolled through the men and found several attractive gay guys... Didn't feel compelled to tell them they should be straight or ask them to reconsider or pretend to be what they're looking for ....

It's an issue that's gonna affect us gals more than the straight boys just because there's like 30:1 but if everyone just considered what they're sending and to who everyone would benefit!

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By *ischiefmanagedWoman
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk border

I actually agree with the OP here. If and when I play I'll search for guys / couples that float my boat and will send the first message.

That way I avoid all the nonsense and only interact with people I might actually want to meet. Simple.

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By *evonshireboyMan
over a year ago

North Devon


"To the original poster. Are you trying to sound like an arrogant douche or is that just who you are? "

It's a copy/gender-change/paste of an "advice to men" thread.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To the original poster. Are you trying to sound like an arrogant douche or is that just who you are? "

Hi, do you think the person who wrote the ‘advice for men who struggle on here’ is also an arrogant douche?

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By *aidForSharingWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

OP you clearly do not like women. Or don't like so many things about them, how they write their profiles, what they stipulate they like/don't like etc. I've been on Fab for 8 years and still block on average 40 messages daily from men who seem so desperate they just post whatever they like with no regard to who they're sending it to, Women are enitled to complain about the unwarranted amounts of offensive stuff they receive on an hourly basis when all they crave is an exciting liaison with a normal man.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP you clearly do not like women. Or don't like so many things about them, how they write their profiles, what they stipulate they like/don't like etc. I've been on Fab for 8 years and still block on average 40 messages daily from men who seem so desperate they just post whatever they like with no regard to who they're sending it to, Women are enitled to complain about the unwarranted amounts of offensive stuff they receive on an hourly basis when all they crave is an exciting liaison with a normal man."

Hi, you seem to know a lot about me based on my OP , can you explain how you have come to these conclusions? And where did I say women can’t complain? Do you get a good feeling when you block 40 men a day??

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By *aidForSharingWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

I rest my case...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I rest my case..."

Is it heavy ? Maybe you should read my OP again and compare it with the ‘why men struggle on here ‘ thread

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La


"OP you clearly do not like women. Or don't like so many things about them, how they write their profiles, what they stipulate they like/don't like etc. I've been on Fab for 8 years and still block on average 40 messages daily from men who seem so desperate they just post whatever they like with no regard to who they're sending it to, Women are enitled to complain about the unwarranted amounts of offensive stuff they receive on an hourly basis when all they crave is an exciting liaison with a normal man."

I really think you have op intentions wrong here. What he hads written is very matter of fact but I like that. If single women were looking for some help with their profile then here it is...after all there are soooo many threads with women telling men what they should be doing. As for your 5o plus messages a day..I find the filters work well.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"So far i have tried all advice read on the previous thread from the original thread creator & from comments left & i am 0 for 20 at the moment so its looking like relegation for me maybe if i change my status to i am ironman i might more sucess lol"

Try "Ironing man" You'll have more luck getting a meet, might not have sex but it's a start

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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago

Peterborough, Cambridgeshire & Lincolnshire

Good thread, some of the reactions are amusing.

There is an assumption by a few that because of the ratio of men to women, they can treat people poorly.

People need to understand that being interested in someone does not mean one is desperate.

I just chuckle when I see some profiles these days, especially the War and Peace ones.

I like a detailed profile but I'm not reading a Tolkien book

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good thread, some of the reactions are amusing.

There is an assumption by a few that because of the ratio of men to women, they can treat people poorly.

People need to understand that being interested in someone does not mean one is desperate.

I just chuckle when I see some profiles these days, especially the War and Peace ones.

I like a detailed profile but I'm not reading a Tolkien book"

War and Peace was written by Tolstoy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good thread, some of the reactions are amusing.

There is an assumption by a few that because of the ratio of men to women, they can treat people poorly.

People need to understand that being interested in someone does not mean one is desperate.

I just chuckle when I see some profiles these days, especially the War and Peace ones.

I like a detailed profile but I'm not reading a Tolkien book

War and Peace was written by Tolstoy x"

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By *ntraditionalwomanWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Well thanks for the advise mr fab Haha.

Where maybe other reasons that women struggle. For a start the profile isnt always a womens profile this happens alot so they will write and rant for attention.

Then there may be confident issues, anxiety etc

Then of course there's weirdos which you can find on many profile.

If someone is ranting just ignore them , leave them to it. Attention seeking isnt attractive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And so the debate rages on..I like a good debate and thus one made me chuckle op you made some value points and some not so, but hey we are all entitled to our points if view based on our experiences.

I like a decent written profile, it shows a person has personality and willingness to attract the right people, there is nothing wrong in being clear, however ui do agree some both men and women can come across aggressive and it a makes me wonder if they really do want yo meet anyone...

The world would be a sad place if we all conformed to an ideal image , that's what makes this place interesting the characters, less moaning would be great after all its meant to be fun if its not why be on here ..heh the forums can be hilarious if used correctly..

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By *heEvilWithinWoman
over a year ago

Barnsley

A long "book" profile is better than a "I'm on here for fun" profile. Captivate people who read your profile..tell them about yourself, what you're looking for, important info. And to be honest if someone can't be bothered to read mine then I don't want to fuck them. most likely they'll make the same effort in bed.

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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago

Peterborough, Cambridgeshire & Lincolnshire


"Good thread, some of the reactions are amusing.

There is an assumption by a few that because of the ratio of men to women, they can treat people poorly.

People need to understand that being interested in someone does not mean one is desperate.

I just chuckle when I see some profiles these days, especially the War and Peace ones.

I like a detailed profile but I'm not reading a Tolkien book

War and Peace was written by Tolstoy x"

I know that, both sentences refer to different writing styles. Maybe I should have been clearer

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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago

Peterborough, Cambridgeshire & Lincolnshire


"A long "book" profile is better than a "I'm on here for fun" profile. Captivate people who read your profile..tell them about yourself, what you're looking for, important info. And to be honest if someone can't be bothered to read mine then I don't want to fuck them. most likely they'll make the same effort in bed. "

I appreciate a well written profile and length of it is not an issue.

From my perspective, the language and content in a profile also help with decision making.

I appreciate ladies get bombarded with lots of rubbish and try to preempt the messages but that can also have a detrimental effect.

Some female members may be great people but their profiles can create the wrong impression.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good thread, some of the reactions are amusing.

There is an assumption by a few that because of the ratio of men to women, they can treat people poorly.

People need to understand that being interested in someone does not mean one is desperate.

I just chuckle when I see some profiles these days, especially the War and Peace ones.

I like a detailed profile but I'm not reading a Tolkien book

War and Peace was written by Tolstoy x

I know that, both sentences refer to different writing styles. Maybe I should have been clearer"

Ah, I thought you were differentiating between the length of books of the two authors and not the prose style.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the issue is people should read profiles and respect the profiles... I scrolled through the men and found several attractive gay guys... Didn't feel compelled to tell them they should be straight or ask them to reconsider or pretend to be what they're looking for ....

It's an issue that's gonna affect us gals more than the straight boys just because there's like 30:1 but if everyone just considered what they're sending and to who everyone would benefit!"

This is the root of the problem. People only have to READ!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Brilliant.. This made me chuckle to myself.. So many single ladies are very demanding on here .. Not all of them might I say.. Great post and very well written

What do you see as demanding? Just curious as to where you think the line is between demanding and knowing what you want. If a profile says " only 6ft and over " " no hairy chests" " no tattoos" surely that's just someone who knows what they want?

It's the difference between male and female approaches to sex.

On the whole and allowing for exceptions, most men would theoretically have sex with most women. On the other hand, women will only generally have sex with specific men they are attracted to.

Pretty much sums it up

If men actually stood by their "true" standards there would likely be a lot more disappointed women on this site

Men complain about women dating "up" in regards to physical beauty & personality on this site - but that's only because they can (facilitated by the male willingness to sleep with just about anything under the right circumstances)

I think to talk about "standards" is unhelpful. I, like, most men on here would cheerfully have sex with 80-90% of the women on here. That's because I like sex and I find 80-90% of the women on here attractive enough to want to have sex with.

I will obviously find some of that 80-90% more attractive than others, but to say that having sex with the latter group involves a lowering of standards is strange.

It's a bit like refusing to ever have a takeaway because it's not as good as the food in a Michelin starred restaurant. "

Herein lies the rub. I would say I (and possibly lots of women) are the exact opposite, ie find at most 10% of the men here attractive enough to have sex with. I/we won't lower our standards, we'll just remain celibate, possibly for a long time (in my case). And there is a huge variety in between the takeaway and the Michelin starred,some of which will appeal, depending on what you fancy at the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To the original poster. Are you trying to sound like an arrogant douche or is that just who you are?

Hi, do you think the person who wrote the ‘advice for men who struggle on here’ is also an arrogant douche? "

Brilliant thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have noticed an increasing number of women’s profiles who are struggling to get meets and are posting their frustrations on status updates. Men outnumber genuine women in here by about 25 to 1 so it should be quite easy to get good quality messages if you change your approach.

1 Don’t have a long list of DEMANDS that are written in capital letters, they come across as aggressive and needy. Try telling us what you do want instead , improve your profiles

2 One lined or even blank profiles are lazy and unfortunately attract lazy and copy and pasted messages

3 Be realistic. Unrealistic expectations can lead to frustration .looking for certain types of men that are unattainable is a waste of your time

4 Just because your on a sex site and you get 100s of messages , realise that the vast majority have been sent by chancers and fakes and sycophants who have no intention of meeting you so try not to let it go to your head .

5 If you are demanding a face pic immediately try and send one in return or have one on your profile.

6 If your unhappy with the quality and quantity of the messages you receive from men simply block men and send the first messages yourself .

These points are only my own personal observations and most of the profiles I read are well written. However for those of you ‘struggling’ this advice might help.

"

We love it, but where did you get the 25/1 fact. That’s something we’ve always wanted to know the actual split, or did you just guess it?

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By *exy Black JenWoman
over a year ago

London/Eastbourne weekends

Lol...this thread has certainly made my day start with a giggle!....

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"Brilliant.. This made me chuckle to myself.. So many single ladies are very demanding on here .. Not all of them might I say.. Great post and very well written

What do you see as demanding? Just curious as to where you think the line is between demanding and knowing what you want. If a profile says " only 6ft and over " " no hairy chests" " no tattoos" surely that's just someone who knows what they want?

It's the difference between male and female approaches to sex.

On the whole and allowing for exceptions, most men would theoretically have sex with most women. On the other hand, women will only generally have sex with specific men they are attracted to.

Pretty much sums it up

If men actually stood by their "true" standards there would likely be a lot more disappointed women on this site

Men complain about women dating "up" in regards to physical beauty & personality on this site - but that's only because they can (facilitated by the male willingness to sleep with just about anything under the right circumstances)

I think to talk about "standards" is unhelpful. I, like, most men on here would cheerfully have sex with 80-90% of the women on here. That's because I like sex and I find 80-90% of the women on here attractive enough to want to have sex with.

I will obviously find some of that 80-90% more attractive than others, but to say that having sex with the latter group involves a lowering of standards is strange.

It's a bit like refusing to ever have a takeaway because it's not as good as the food in a Michelin starred restaurant.

Herein lies the rub. I would say I (and possibly lots of women) are the exact opposite, ie find at most 10% of the men here attractive enough to have sex with. I/we won't lower our standards, we'll just remain celibate, possibly for a long time (in my case). And there is a huge variety in between the takeaway and the Michelin starred,some of which will appeal, depending on what you fancy at the time "

Yes, I know. I said that above. For women the analogy is more like my attitude to rugby. I'm not really bothered about 90% of rugby matches on TV, but if I see a particularly exciting one I might watch it.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I like rugby. Does that mean I’m a Fab tart also lol!

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands


"I think I struggle because of the lack of guys with a personality, and superficial. That's why I would say I am picky as to who I'll meet. If there's no chemistry, no possibility of a meet. I know that I've had a belly full of superficial compliments, a telling tale, that once you've turned a guy down you just get abuse. Women are more realistic and don't want to be treated as a piece of meat or a throw away fuck."

This is just spot on!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Hello, writer of "the other thread" here. Let me start by saying that I don't think this thread is sexist, patronising or mansplaining in any way. I know I didn't mean in that way so OP probably didn't either. I DO however think this is a passive aggressive rip-off meant for all the people who were even slightly insulted by mine, but I digress...

The thing with these 'demanding profiles' is that in most cases they PROBABLY started out as lovely "Hi, I'm so-and-so. These are the things I like doing. These are the things I like talking about. This is the kind of thing I'm looking for". I know mine was. I also know that what happened in my case is that I slowly started adding things I WASN'T looking for after receiving barrages of dick pics, smut and abuse day after day. Then my profile slowly but surely became a longer list of negative things rather than positive things. I changed it a couple of months ago to try and make it sound really positive and bubbly but then the messages got worse so the one I have now is not aggressive (in my opinion) but blunt and to the point.

The problem is that even though a lot of women have these lists of what they're looking for on their profiles, just as many men think that for some reason they are the exception to the rule and will still try to message them anyway. Then they're angry when they don't get a reply and messages to other women slowly become worse over time as these men become more frustrated. I know a couple of times when I've called out men for sending shocking messages they've come back saying they only did it to see if it would get a reply and in most cases it does more than "nice" messages. One guy even said he thought he could start off by getting my attention and then "changing my mind about him" after a particularly vile message.

In conclusion: I don't know what the solution is. Could some men be a little nicer on here? Yes. Could some women/couples be a little nicer on here? Also yes. Could some TV/TS/CD on here be nicer? Probably, I'm not sure to be honest. The point is, everyone on here's behaviour is formed by their experiences so far. If you yourself are comfortable with how you come off through your profile or messages, then you carry on doing you. If you're not getting the result you were looking for on here, maybe it's time to take a step back (maybe ask a fab friend for help) and give yourself a little rehaul."

I started off with a nice, friendly profile too and experienced the same problems. It's a shame I've had to change it to its present form, but it seems to work much better. People still don't read it though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello, writer of "the other thread" here. Let me start by saying that I don't think this thread is sexist, patronising or mansplaining in any way. I know I didn't mean in that way so OP probably didn't either. I DO however think this is a passive aggressive rip-off meant for all the people who were even slightly insulted by mine, but I digress...

The thing with these 'demanding profiles' is that in most cases they PROBABLY started out as lovely "Hi, I'm so-and-so. These are the things I like doing. These are the things I like talking about. This is the kind of thing I'm looking for". I know mine was. I also know that what happened in my case is that I slowly started adding things I WASN'T looking for after receiving barrages of dick pics, smut and abuse day after day. Then my profile slowly but surely became a longer list of negative things rather than positive things. I changed it a couple of months ago to try and make it sound really positive and bubbly but then the messages got worse so the one I have now is not aggressive (in my opinion) but blunt and to the point.

The problem is that even though a lot of women have these lists of what they're looking for on their profiles, just as many men think that for some reason they are the exception to the rule and will still try to message them anyway. Then they're angry when they don't get a reply and messages to other women slowly become worse over time as these men become more frustrated. I know a couple of times when I've called out men for sending shocking messages they've come back saying they only did it to see if it would get a reply and in most cases it does more than "nice" messages. One guy even said he thought he could start off by getting my attention and then "changing my mind about him" after a particularly vile message.

In conclusion: I don't know what the solution is. Could some men be a little nicer on here? Yes. Could some women/couples be a little nicer on here? Also yes. Could some TV/TS/CD on here be nicer? Probably, I'm not sure to be honest. The point is, everyone on here's behaviour is formed by their experiences so far. If you yourself are comfortable with how you come off through your profile or messages, then you carry on doing you. If you're not getting the result you were looking for on here, maybe it's time to take a step back (maybe ask a fab friend for help) and give yourself a little rehaul.

I started off with a nice, friendly profile too and experienced the same problems. It's a shame I've had to change it to its present form, but it seems to work much better. People still don't read it though. "

Same here it just gets frustrating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ahhh so that what I've been doing wrong then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab is just like real life....a few women who one finds really interesting that one would love to get to know and a list of challenges that make it nigh on impossible to even say hello. I am not moaning btw, its just that if you take it as a given that fab attracts a small percentage of the general population who are at ease with their sexuality but with widely varying tastes then the law of averages means your chances of meeting the one are even less likely than in “real” life so men, being what they are will compromise and meet with women who they probably couldn’t take home to their mums while women can afford to be more choosy in terms of eye Candy! This isn’t meant to offend anyone btw its just that I think playing the long game is the way to look at being on fab and makes for better long term friendships. I do get though that many on fab are just here for quick hook ups so their motivation may be different to mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ahhh so that what I've been doing wrong then "

In seriousness, I've been very lucky, because I've achieved what i was looking for. I've developed relationships rather than meets. Strong friendships too. I'm one of those who's never struggled. I know I'm blessed in that regard

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

sheffield

O I’m struggling every day. But I prefer not to put it on my profile so as to ware off the unwanted attention that it may bring. I’ll just sit quietly in my corner where I belong. Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jeez this thread could be entertainment for another time so saving it! Going to have to have a proper read of this one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a suggestion for every single female who thinks she is struggling.

Sign up a single male profile, or even a couples one. Try to find a single female.

Then go back about your day realising how easy you have it trust me, it will perk you up no end "

100% spot on! Plus, I think a lot of women miss out on us decent guys because we are 50+, maybe have a dad bod and an average dick. We can't all be 6' 2", ripped with an 11" penis.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So far i have tried all advice read on the previous thread from the original thread creator & from comments left & i am 0 for 20 at the moment so its looking like relegation for me maybe if i change my status to i am ironman i might more sucess lol"

Or grow a pair of tits and a fanny

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La


"I have a suggestion for every single female who thinks she is struggling.

Sign up a single male profile, or even a couples one. Try to find a single female.

Then go back about your day realising how easy you have it trust me, it will perk you up no end

100% spot on! Plus, I think a lot of women miss out on us decent guys because we are 50+, maybe have a dad bod and an average dick. We can't all be 6' 2", ripped with an 11" penis."

..does that fact need verifying?

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By *019ReadyCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"I have a suggestion for every single female who thinks she is struggling.

Sign up a single male profile, or even a couples one. Try to find a single female.

Then go back about your day realising how easy you have it trust me, it will perk you up no end

100% spot on! Plus, I think a lot of women miss out on us decent guys because we are 50+, maybe have a dad bod and an average dick. We can't all be 6' 2", ripped with an 11" penis."

I'd run a mile from an 11" penis

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have noticed an increasing number of women’s profiles who are struggling to get meets and are posting their frustrations on status updates. Men outnumber genuine women in here by about 25 to 1 so it should be quite easy to get good quality messages if you change your approach.

1 Don’t have a long list of DEMANDS that are written in capital letters, they come across as aggressive and needy. Try telling us what you do want instead , improve your profiles

2 One lined or even blank profiles are lazy and unfortunately attract lazy and copy and pasted messages

3 Be realistic. Unrealistic expectations can lead to frustration .looking for certain types of men that are unattainable is a waste of your time

4 Just because your on a sex site and you get 100s of messages , realise that the vast majority have been sent by chancers and fakes and sycophants who have no intention of meeting you so try not to let it go to your head .

5 If you are demanding a face pic immediately try and send one in return or have one on your profile.

6 If your unhappy with the quality and quantity of the messages you receive from men simply block men and send the first messages yourself .

These points are only my own personal observations and most of the profiles I read are well written. However for those of you ‘struggling’ this advice might help.

"

I fully agree with this, far to many single ladies telling us single guys what they don’t want and demanding a face pic when on their profile is either friends only or body shots with blurred out faces. Others that have all very aroused pussy pictures demanding no cock pics? What gives double standards .

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"I have noticed an increasing number of women’s profiles who are struggling to get meets and are posting their frustrations on status updates. Men outnumber genuine women in here by about 25 to 1 so it should be quite easy to get good quality messages if you change your approach.

1 Don’t have a long list of DEMANDS that are written in capital letters, they come across as aggressive and needy. Try telling us what you do want instead , improve your profiles

2 One lined or even blank profiles are lazy and unfortunately attract lazy and copy and pasted messages

3 Be realistic. Unrealistic expectations can lead to frustration .looking for certain types of men that are unattainable is a waste of your time

4 Just because your on a sex site and you get 100s of messages , realise that the vast majority have been sent by chancers and fakes and sycophants who have no intention of meeting you so try not to let it go to your head .

5 If you are demanding a face pic immediately try and send one in return or have one on your profile.

6 If your unhappy with the quality and quantity of the messages you receive from men simply block men and send the first messages yourself .

These points are only my own personal observations and most of the profiles I read are well written. However for those of you ‘struggling’ this advice might help.

I fully agree with this, far to many single ladies telling us single guys what they don’t want and demanding a face pic when on their profile is either friends only or body shots with blurred out faces. Others that have all very aroused pussy pictures demanding no cock pics? What gives double standards ."

Don't message profiles you don't like. It's not rocket science. Ladies continue to run your profiles your way.

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By *DreamOfGenieWoman
over a year ago

London

Best example of mansplaining I've seen here in a while. Cheers for the laugh, OP!

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