FabSwingers.com forum: Hotel meets advice please

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi we are just looking to book our first hotel meet. We've seen a thread where hotel management refused to allow a non-guest up to the room. Is this something we should be worried about? Is it likey to happen? We don't want to have well planned and special occasion ruined. Any thoughts and any other advice appreciated.

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By *dward_TeagueMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Hotels are such transient places, there are always people coming and going so how do reception staff know that someone isn’t a guest? In my experience if someone is prevented from going to a room it’s because they’ve said or done something inappropriate and have been indiscreet.

Don’t overthink it OP, hotel meets happen all of the time and as long as everyone is discreet then you should be fine.

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By *ellytransvTV/TS
over a year ago

Walsall Hotel Friday Evening

It depends on the hotel really. 95% of the time it will be fine if you are discrete and considerate to other guests.

If you are expecting your guests to come to your room directly that might be an issue depending on the hotel. Most have keycard access now.

If it is a late night meet then security is always tighter after 11pm getting into a hotel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had an issue getting an extra person (or few extras) into my room.

The key obviously is not to all arrive together. Although 3 of us have done this if we have booked a family room.

I like Travelodges as the 3 local to me never have anyone on reception, you have to ring if you need someone. Ideal.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

I've never had an issue. Be discreet and look purposeful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the past I've gone to the room and then just messaged her the room number and she gives the special knock. Never any probs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have also thrown pass card or keys out of the window to my guest

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By *eorgeo1Man
over a year ago

Slaley

We’ve met people during the day at hotel meets. We book on line, message the person the room number. Knock when at the door. Never had an issue. Hotels are busy places for alsorts of reasons. To busy to challenge random people. But you need to respect others in the hotel and not to be noisy, or if they get suspicious they do eject your from the hotel.

Good luck and relax and enjoy ??

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

it's likely that access to bedroom floors is only available to key card holders therefore one of you may have to meet your guest in reception and take him or her

to the room .

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I've had lots of hotel meets both at my hotel or a friends hotel and have never had a problem.

The larger the hotel the less conspicuous it is. Very small, guest house hotels feel more awkward but just walk with confidence.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Meet in a local pub. When ready just walk into the hotel and up to your room. Reception staff are generally to busy to even look.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some hotels you need the room key card to operate the lift. She came down in the lift, doors opened, wow she looked sexy. Walking in, doors closed, hands all over each other

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks all really helpful and reassuring

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"I've never had an issue. Be discreet and look purposeful.

Same here, never had any issues with either day rates or evening meets

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"Hi we are just looking to book our first hotel meet. We've seen a thread where hotel management refused to allow a non-guest up to the room. Is this something we should be worried about? Is it likey to happen? We don't want to have well planned and special occasion ruined. Any thoughts and any other advice appreciated. "

Be confident and it won't be a problem, if you're worried find a hotel where the rooms have access from the bar so you don't have to go past reception

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By *uriousTwosomeCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

As a couple bringing in a single, we walk them in an MF couple, with the other couple member in the room already, or following as a paid up visitor.

If we know we are going to be noisy, we also book a room for 3! That way we aren’t breaching rules

Also consider apart-hotels, not as plush, but serve a purpose, and about £60/night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had a problem, twice. I don’t look weird or act suspicious, I was just unlucky. I would always insist on being met in reception now. Being cross-questioned about people’s surnames and car registrations isn’t a good start to a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’ve had lots of hotel meets, never had any problems, if you pick a small, non chain hotel you are asking for trouble, but a large chain you’ll never have any problems, too many comings and goings for anyone to notice anything x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We’ve had lots of hotel meets, never had any problems, if you pick a small, non chain hotel you are asking for trouble, but a large chain you’ll never have any problems, too many comings and goings for anyone to notice anything x"

Both times I was at a Travellodge. Unfortunately a small quiet one with perceptive staff.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks again folks your advice is helpful.

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

We feel your anxiety, but don't fret. Most hotels do not care as long as you don't disturb other guests. Be discreet and just waltz on through reception like you own the place and you'll be fine.

If at all worried, have a drink in the hotel bar together. Most staff won't have a clue who the other person is and once they've sen you they will ignore any suspicion.

It is always worth checking the hotel out in advance, sometimes there are routes to the rooms that don't involve passing reception, ie through the bar.

Good luck

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I think it helps to book into a large impersonal chain hotel. Preferebly one that dosent have secured key/key card assess to the lifts/stairs. Also not a hotel where lots of stag/hen parties stay, the staff are used to keeping tabs on guests and watching for over occupation of rooms. Also have your guests arrive in normal hours not in the late hours.

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By *heEvilWithinWoman
over a year ago

Barnsley

Just tell them to come straight up to the room. The only time it happens usually is only when it's really early like 2-3am and you've arrived after a night out to prevent people from staying.

I had one person ask me before who all the people were but only because we frequently met at the hotel and this was a fair amount of people... (6 guys, 3 couples) . I replied I'm bringing them to have group sex and then they're leaving. Is that a problem?! And he just blushed said no and walked off. So either go for shock factor or walking through reception like they have a room lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Great advice. Thanks.l

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By *heIcebreakersCouple
over a year ago

Cramlington

"I have had a problem, twice. I don’t look weird or act suspicious, I was just unlucky. I would always insist on being met in reception now. Being cross-questioned about people’s surnames and car registrations isn’t a good start to a meet."
Women get much more grief as singles - some hotel staff make some nasty assumptions about sexwork (as if their prejudices will prevent it hapening)....

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