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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hello all, been here a long while now but being a single male understandably am not popular.

Problem is it's a prerequisite to meeting a lot of women and so I am in a bind: anything you can advise me to do to my profile to help get me meeting women and/or MF couples from here would be deeply appreciated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confused.com

Are you a single male or a cpl?

Not a fan of guys profiles with mostly chicks in his pictures.

But good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey, thanks for replying.

Situation is that since I created my profile I met a gorgeous girl (not via Fab) and we are fuck buddies: she has expressed interest in kinky meets but cannot commit and I daren't speak on her behalf so it's a case by case basis.

If single women or MF couples (and exceptional guys) she's attracted to get in touch and she agrees to meet them we might but I can't guarantee it hence my single male profile remained in situ.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I'd suggest make a cpls profile and keep a single profile also.

1 won't cover both.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'll bear that in mind. Thanks for sharing.

Anyone else? I'm all ears.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

You profile says you are looking for women 18 to 50 then later says 20 to 40.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You profile says you are looking for women 18 to 50 then later says 20 to 40. "

Well spotted: I am attracted to women irrespective of age (had almost too good a liaison with an older woman in my teens that I've never quite been able to live up to!) so I've amended my profile to reflect that

Thank you.

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Stafford

Too much dick for my liking.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Too much dick for my liking. "

I guess it's not extraordinary so no point exhibiting it... point taken: pictures changed.

This is great - thanks, guys, please keep your thoughts, questions and comments coming!

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By *ydnNancyCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"Well I'd suggest make a cpls profile and keep a single profile also.

1 won't cover both."

This

Also take the pics of the girl sucking your cock, they’re basically useless to judge you when looking at the profile for the first time.

Instead put at least one clothed picture of you full body, and then a couple tasteful and maybe even teasing pics.

You don’t need many, quality over quantity.

Your profile is distracting with the paragraph about your FWB and is a big put off because we’re left questioning

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By *heEvilWithinWoman
over a year ago

Barnsley

You need to remove the pics of the woman. And the paragraph about her. I also meet with a Fb but we have a couples profile. It's deceiving because people will be confused about what you're offering. It's also kind of irrelevant. Most people have a Fb they'd meet with as well. Maybe put at the bot of your profile "can also meet with a lovely lady on request"

I'd also maybe do a few more pics of just you, body shots with clothes? And say a bit more about yourself.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well I'd suggest make a cpls profile and keep a single profile also.

1 won't cover both.

This

Also take the pics of the girl sucking your cock, they’re basically useless to judge you when looking at the profile for the first time.

Instead put at least one clothed picture of you full body, and then a couple tasteful and maybe even teasing pics.

You don’t need many, quality over quantity.

Your profile is distracting with the paragraph about your FWB and is a big put off because we’re left questioning "

Fully-clothed picture incoming as profile picture.

I'm amending my profile blurb as I type.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You need to remove the pics of the woman. And the paragraph about her. I also meet with a Fb but we have a couples profile. It's deceiving because people will be confused about what you're offering. It's also kind of irrelevant. Most people have a Fb they'd meet with as well. Maybe put at the bot of your profile "can also meet with a lovely lady on request"

I'd also maybe do a few more pics of just you, body shots with clothes? And say a bit more about yourself. "

I'll be honest: I'm using the pictures of her to illustrate I'm not completely undesirable (I thought it would act somewhat as social proof) as I was afraid my not being verified and being a single male was leading to my not even getting a second look from the ladies here.

But I'll take a few of them down and make her availability a footnote

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

Your first sentence and profile pic would put me off straight away.

I'm very cautious of single guys with a partner or very prominent FWB - who needs the drama of being caught up in that?

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By *aturedisgracefully!!Couple
over a year ago

Leicester


"Hello all, been here a long while now but being a single male understandably am not popular.

Problem is it's a prerequisite to meeting a lot of women and so I am in a bind: anything you can advise me to do to my profile to help get me meeting women and/or MF couples from here would be deeply appreciated."

We are a little confused.

Looking at your profile pic, are you male or female??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never even noticed your not verified after a year

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your first sentence and profile pic would put me off straight away.

I'm very cautious of single guys with a partner or very prominent FWB - who needs the drama of being caught up in that? "

Hi Crimson, thanks for replying - I honestly hadn't considered it like that: I was more using the pictures of her and me together as leverage and proof that off of the vagaries of being a single male on Fab I'm capable of meeting women but see the confusion and potential for being off putting therein.

Thanks for your feedback.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hello all, been here a long while now but being a single male understandably am not popular.

Problem is it's a prerequisite to meeting a lot of women and so I am in a bind: anything you can advise me to do to my profile to help get me meeting women and/or MF couples from here would be deeply appreciated.

We are a little confused.

Looking at your profile pic, are you male or female??"

I'm male - awaiting approval on a picture of myself clothed to use as my new profile picture.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Never even noticed your not verified after a year "

I understand your concern but ask you to step into my shoes and see it from my perspective for just a moment: I'm a single male on a website like this putting my hands up and saying I'd love to meet and play but have not having any luck so am asking for feedback on how to go about it.

With the greatest of respect I've been pretty open and honest - not sure what I've done to make you roll your eyes at me?

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By *ydnNancyCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"

I'll be honest: I'm using the pictures of her to illustrate I'm not completely undesirable (I thought it would act somewhat as social proof) as I was afraid my not being verified and being a single male was leading to my not even getting a second look from the ladies here.

But I'll take a few of them down and make her availability a footnote "

Clothed pic is ok but it’s very dark and heavily cropped. Too many people assume recognisable backgrounds are actually recognisable, when often they’re not.

You’re only desirable by yourself. Showing a girl sucking your cock says nothing about you other than one time you got your cock sucked by a girl with dark hair.

Desirable is clear and well lit physical photos of your own body.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

I'll be honest: I'm using the pictures of her to illustrate I'm not completely undesirable (I thought it would act somewhat as social proof) as I was afraid my not being verified and being a single male was leading to my not even getting a second look from the ladies here.

But I'll take a few of them down and make her availability a footnote

Clothed pic is ok but it’s very dark and heavily cropped. Too many people assume recognisable backgrounds are actually recognisable, when often they’re not.

You’re only desirable by yourself. Showing a girl sucking your cock says nothing about you other than one time you got your cock sucked by a girl with dark hair.

Desirable is clear and well lit physical photos of your own body."

Good point re the lighting and cropping: the concern is my privacy... bit of a catch-22...

I'll be honest - I am a bit underweight because of a physical health issue though I'm trying to fix it so pictures of my body aren't really that flattering!

You're so sweet for giving the constructive feedback. So appreciated!

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By *ydnNancyCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"

Desirable is clear and well lit physical photos of your own body.

Good point re the lighting and cropping: the concern is my privacy... bit of a catch-22...

I'll be honest - I am a bit underweight because of a physical health issue though I'm trying to fix it so pictures of my body aren't really that flattering!

You're so sweet for giving the constructive feedback. So appreciated!"

It’s no bother, I hear too many single guys moan about not getting interest and you look at their profile and wonder why they don’t know!

Your profile is your window to the world of fab, so although flattering is nice and all you also have to be honest.

Take me for example, I’m a BBW. When I say BBW I don’t mean some size 14 girl with an ass I mean actually Plus Size with big breasts, belly, thighs and ass. I’m big. So I’m going to show my nicest angles in close ups but I’m also going to post clear body pics of me in lingerie and clothing so people know what to expect when they see me.

Friends pics I have more nude because again it shows what to expect.

People who try to hide their bodies or lie about them are only going to end up being caught out and you will then have a crap rep without verifications.

Be honest with your personality and your body and you’ll get honest and good people responding

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By *ydnNancyCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

^^

Nancy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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Desirable is clear and well lit physical photos of your own body.

Good point re the lighting and cropping: the concern is my privacy... bit of a catch-22...

I'll be honest - I am a bit underweight because of a physical health issue though I'm trying to fix it so pictures of my body aren't really that flattering!

You're so sweet for giving the constructive feedback. So appreciated!

It’s no bother, I hear too many single guys moan about not getting interest and you look at their profile and wonder why they don’t know!

Your profile is your window to the world of fab, so although flattering is nice and all you also have to be honest.

Take me for example, I’m a BBW. When I say BBW I don’t mean some size 14 girl with an ass I mean actually Plus Size with big breasts, belly, thighs and ass. I’m big. So I’m going to show my nicest angles in close ups but I’m also going to post clear body pics of me in lingerie and clothing so people know what to expect when they see me.

Friends pics I have more nude because again it shows what to expect.

People who try to hide their bodies or lie about them are only going to end up being caught out and you will then have a crap rep without verifications.

Be honest with your personality and your body and you’ll get honest and good people responding"

Fair points all: to be honest I think I'm attractive but because of lower back pain I can't work out so I've lost weight.

I suppose you don't get the same number of chances as a single guy but I can always show myself in the most positive light and maybe attend socials.

More pictures of me are definitely incoming!

Thank you, Nancy!

Any more advice/likes/dislikes and even advice from men who are successfully meeting women from Fab is really welcome!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rolled my eyes as you have most of your pics with a chick sucking you off...then advertising you have a fuck buddy you play with on here but not enough to verify you?

I'm not having a pop im just saying what others may think also?

You did ask for feedback wether you change it or not is not my worry.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So now im blocked?

Ok

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By *ngelina4uWoman
over a year ago

Camberley/Middleton


"So now im blocked?

Ok "

I guess you must have hit a nerve giving honest feedback when he asked for it. Sounds a bit petulant to me for a guy on here it might be a lucky break for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol

Typical look at me thread I think

Why ask for advice in the 1st place?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I don't see how I've been petulant when merely ignoring someone who's clearly not being helpful: just look at how I've replied to those who've given constructive criticism - I've changed my profile when realising I've got things in it to improve upon.

Get a life

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By *am4CamWoman
over a year ago

Fairy Land

Good profile wording. Clothed pic is pretty good. Drop the BJ pic, my first thought was maybe you had a convincingly female form in lingerie as you are a mere afterthought in the picture. It doesn’t make you appear desirable, though I kind of get your logic, it just makes you look like you’re bragging that someone sucked you off - that’s a given by your age.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my honest opinion over a year and no verifications will put a lot of people off before they even get to your profile text.

Perhaps take all the info from this thread and start a new profile when your supporter subscription expires if you’ve still not had any luck?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Good profile wording. Clothed pic is pretty good. Drop the BJ pic, my first thought was maybe you had a convincingly female form in lingerie as you are a mere afterthought in the picture. It doesn’t make you appear desirable, though I kind of get your logic, it just makes you look like you’re bragging that someone sucked you off - that’s a given by your age. "

Thanks for the constructive criticism, Sam4Cam.

It was less intended as bragging and more to reassure women in Fab that I wasn't completely unable to find women to have sex with in spite of lacking Fab verifications - an attempt to assuage their doubts I suppose.

But I will remove those pictures as I can see why they're not liked - thanks for your help!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"In my honest opinion over a year and no verifications will put a lot of people off before they even get to your profile text.

Perhaps take all the info from this thread and start a new profile when your supporter subscription expires if you’ve still not had any luck? "

It's not for lack of trying - may I ask what you think is helping you find women on Fab?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s going to sound cheesy but you just have to be you and when the right people come along things just click.

It’s equal parts luck and effort. As long as you can hold a conversation and aren’t pushy (I’m sure you’re a gent) then things will happen.

Hope you make some tweeks and things pick up buddy. But remember we’re the majority here so find what makes you stand out and sell it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s going to sound cheesy but you just have to be you and when the right people come along things just click.

It’s equal parts luck and effort. As long as you can hold a conversation and aren’t pushy (I’m sure you’re a gent) then things will happen.

Hope you make some tweeks and things pick up buddy. But remember we’re the majority here so find what makes you stand out and sell it "
not

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you for being so kind

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By *heEvilWithinWoman
over a year ago

Barnsley


"You need to remove the pics of the woman. And the paragraph about her. I also meet with a Fb but we have a couples profile. It's deceiving because people will be confused about what you're offering. It's also kind of irrelevant. Most people have a Fb they'd meet with as well. Maybe put at the bot of your profile "can also meet with a lovely lady on request"

I'd also maybe do a few more pics of just you, body shots with clothes? And say a bit more about yourself.

I'll be honest: I'm using the pictures of her to illustrate I'm not completely undesirable (I thought it would act somewhat as social proof) as I was afraid my not being verified and being a single male was leading to my not even getting a second look from the ladies here.

But I'll take a few of them down and make her availability a footnote "

Yeah.. That says to me you're desperate to prove you are genuine which actually makes me more nervous. Also it would put me off seeing someone's profile pics of one woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you are PRIMARLY looking for slim or curvy what other types are there.??.and females or couples basically your after anyone that will give you some from what it looks like to me..sorry to be harsh but im giving my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You need to remove the pics of the woman. And the paragraph about her. I also meet with a Fb but we have a couples profile. It's deceiving because people will be confused about what you're offering. It's also kind of irrelevant. Most people have a Fb they'd meet with as well. Maybe put at the bot of your profile "can also meet with a lovely lady on request"

I'd also maybe do a few more pics of just you, body shots with clothes? And say a bit more about yourself.

I'll be honest: I'm using the pictures of her to illustrate I'm not completely undesirable (I thought it would act somewhat as social proof) as I was afraid my not being verified and being a single male was leading to my not even getting a second look from the ladies here.

But I'll take a few of them down and make her availability a footnote

Yeah.. That says to me you're desperate to prove you are genuine which actually makes me more nervous. Also it would put me off seeing someone's profile pics of one woman. "

Fair points: profile has been adjusted

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"you are PRIMARLY looking for slim or curvy what other types are there.??.and females or couples basically your after anyone that will give you some from what it looks like to me..sorry to be harsh but im giving my opinion."

Good point re the body type preferences. I was trying to get at me liking a variety of women.

I am very much interested in meeting women but also in MFMs.

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