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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just curious does anyone else think we need a time wasters button/ filter or something?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

There's a report facility on every profile

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Who'd define what a time waster was? It'd be open to abuse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get it and I would love a fake/delete button but it would just get abused. The current system is not ideal.

But it works 98% of the time which is better than what would result from adding such a button

But I get the frustration I truly do.

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By *ittleKinksCouple
over a year ago

Reading

U could have a system where you both click a button in a message that confirms both of you have arranged to meet each other. You would both then have an option later to then confirm if they were a show or a no show.

After someone got a number of no shows, this would be shown on Thier profile as a no shower and any people they marked as no shows would be cleared to reduce abuse of the system. You could also have a positive show icon for people who showed up.

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"U could have a system where you both click a button in a message that confirms both of you have arranged to meet each other. You would both then have an option later to then confirm if they were a show or a no show.

After someone got a number of no shows, this would be shown on Thier profile as a no shower and any people they marked as no shows would be cleared to reduce abuse of the system. You could also have a positive show icon for people who showed up."

So, let’s say we meet, we don’t get on & I think you’re rude. What’s to stop me selecting ‘no show’ because I didn’t like you?

It’s too open to abuse.

You think someone is fake or time wasting, report them & move on.

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By *ittleKinksCouple
over a year ago

Reading


"U could have a system where you both click a button in a message that confirms both of you have arranged to meet each other. You would both then have an option later to then confirm if they were a show or a no show.

After someone got a number of no shows, this would be shown on Thier profile as a no shower and any people they marked as no shows would be cleared to reduce abuse of the system. You could also have a positive show icon for people who showed up.

So, let’s say we meet, we don’t get on & I think you’re rude. What’s to stop me selecting ‘no show’ because I didn’t like you?

It’s too open to abuse.

You think someone is fake or time wasting, report them & move on."

I did cover that. By saying it would only show after a number of no shows, so a one off wouldn't show up. But if it happens regularly then it would. Also once you do get flagged your previous no shows you have flagged up for others would be ignored. So unless you were really unlucky its more than likely the people trying to abuse the system will be flagged first

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area


"U could have a system where you both click a button in a message that confirms both of you have arranged to meet each other. You would both then have an option later to then confirm if they were a show or a no show.

After someone got a number of no shows, this would be shown on Thier profile as a no shower and any people they marked as no shows would be cleared to reduce abuse of the system. You could also have a positive show icon for people who showed up.

So, let’s say we meet, we don’t get on & I think you’re rude. What’s to stop me selecting ‘no show’ because I didn’t like you?

It’s too open to abuse.

You think someone is fake or time wasting, report them & move on.

I did cover that. By saying it would only show after a number of no shows, so a one off wouldn't show up. But if it happens regularly then it would. Also once you do get flagged your previous no shows you have flagged up for others would be ignored. So unless you were really unlucky its more than likely the people trying to abuse the system will be flagged first "

And someone takes a dislike to you and contacts their friends. Over the course of two weeks you get 6 no shows and Boom.. you are publicly black listed, by your ex boyfriend and his mates or similar.

I think reporting personally, admin can deal with repeat offenders already .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone getting rejected could use it, it would be open to abuse by every loser on the site, genuine people could suffer from it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who'd define what a time waster was? It'd be open to abuse. "

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was accused of wasting someone's time because I didn't want to chat about him wanking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just go with if they have multiple veries but only choose to display a couple of them as a kind of flag for this.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

The site builds up information about users, including where they are, communication etc and they investigate all reports from other users. They will know far more than we do.

If you have suspicions or knowledge, report it and block the user, so that you don't view them again.

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Merton


"U could have a system where you both click a button in a message that confirms both of you have arranged to meet each other. You would both then have an option later to then confirm if they were a show or a no show.

After someone got a number of no shows, this would be shown on Thier profile as a no shower and any people they marked as no shows would be cleared to reduce abuse of the system. You could also have a positive show icon for people who showed up."

There is an idea somewhere here.

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"I was accused of wasting someone's time because I didn't want to chat about him wanking.

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must have been the same idiot that accused me too!!!!!

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

To answer the op though, it would be open to too much abuse and any complex system would be a nightmare to police, lets face it the pic checking occasionally gets it wrong allowing "not allowed" subjects through, think what this would involve. The block and report system seems to work reasonable and no system would get around the delete and create a new account lot! which a lot of timewasters do belong to.

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"I just go with if they have multiple veries but only choose to display a couple of them as a kind of flag for this. "

we dont display ANY of our verifications so i guess we are fake to you!!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just go with if they have multiple veries but only choose to display a couple of them as a kind of flag for this.

we dont display ANY of our verifications so i guess we are fake to you!!!!!!! "

Actually the opposite. I wrote about the fact that others display some and not all of them leading me to believe that they've had verifications that don't show them in a very good light because why else would you hide some and not all of them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just go with if they have multiple veries but only choose to display a couple of them as a kind of flag for this. "

What's the logic behind that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just go with if they have multiple veries but only choose to display a couple of them as a kind of flag for this.

we dont display ANY of our verifications so i guess we are fake to you!!!!!!!

Actually the opposite. I wrote about the fact that others display some and not all of them leading me to believe that they've had verifications that don't show them in a very good light because why else would you hide some and not all of them?"

I've never seen a veri that paints anyone in a bad light.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just go with if they have multiple veries but only choose to display a couple of them as a kind of flag for this.

we dont display ANY of our verifications so i guess we are fake to you!!!!!!!

Actually the opposite. I wrote about the fact that others display some and not all of them leading me to believe that they've had verifications that don't show them in a very good light because why else would you hide some and not all of them?

I've never seen a veri that paints anyone in a bad light. "

That's exactly my point.

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"I just go with if they have multiple veries but only choose to display a couple of them as a kind of flag for this.

we dont display ANY of our verifications so i guess we are fake to you!!!!!!!

Actually the opposite. I wrote about the fact that others display some and not all of them leading me to believe that they've had verifications that don't show them in a very good light because why else would you hide some and not all of them?

I've never seen a veri that paints anyone in a bad light.

That's exactly my point. "

our reasoning for displaying NO verifications is we have, in the past, had verifiers contacted and questioned, we believe what we do is between the participants. showing we have verifications should be enough to say we are genuine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok, I'll break down my logic.

People with fake accounts create multiple other accounts. Those accounts verify each other as wonderful and genuine. They put these on display.

The others that they do not wish to display from genuine people calling them out on their shit don't get displayed for that reason.

The numbers on the profile for example say say verified by 10 but when you check verifications there's only 3?

Genuine people either chose to display or not display. Yes it's not full proof as there may be instances where some don't want a certain verification for whatever reason. But I take it as a red flag to a profile.

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"Ok, I'll break down my logic.

People with fake accounts create multiple other accounts. Those accounts verify each other as wonderful and genuine. They put these on display.

The others that they do not wish to display from genuine people calling them out on their shit don't get displayed for that reason.

The numbers on the profile for example say say verified by 10 but when you check verifications there's only 3?

Genuine people either chose to display or not display. Yes it's not full proof as there may be instances where some don't want a certain verification for whatever reason. But I take it as a red flag to a profile. "

the other 7 could have left FAB the verification disappears but not the number!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok, I'll break down my logic.

People with fake accounts create multiple other accounts. Those accounts verify each other as wonderful and genuine. They put these on display.

The others that they do not wish to display from genuine people calling them out on their shit don't get displayed for that reason.

The numbers on the profile for example say say verified by 10 but when you check verifications there's only 3?

Genuine people either chose to display or not display. Yes it's not full proof as there may be instances where some don't want a certain verification for whatever reason. But I take it as a red flag to a profile.

the other 7 could have left FAB the verification disappears but not the number!"

Shut the back door?!!! Seriously???

Honestly never knew that!

Still a little shady if there's a shed load missing and only a couple on there?

I played chase the verification before on a couple of people and it led to seeing that the only verifications showing were each other's.

You live and learn. Thanks for letting me know

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"U could have a system where you both click a button in a message that confirms both of you have arranged to meet each other. You would both then have an option later to then confirm if they were a show or a no show.

After someone got a number of no shows, this would be shown on Thier profile as a no shower and any people they marked as no shows would be cleared to reduce abuse of the system. You could also have a positive show icon for people who showed up."

Ridiculous idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It takes a little time but you can normally learn to spot the total fakes, the dreamers, and the keyboard wankers.

The ones that are harder to see are those who are genuine to some extent, who have had meets in the past, but are just unreliable about keeping to arrangements and don't confirm, or stop talking halfway through making arrangements, or who cancel at short notice if something else comes up.

Those are the ones who really bug me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When u report profiles to admin. Do they do anythiny ad they never give feedback on the outcome i think they should if they are taking the complaint seriously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok, I'll break down my logic.

People with fake accounts create multiple other accounts. Those accounts verify each other as wonderful and genuine. They put these on display.

The others that they do not wish to display from genuine people calling them out on their shit don't get displayed for that reason.

The numbers on the profile for example say say verified by 10 but when you check verifications there's only 3?

Genuine people either chose to display or not display. Yes it's not full proof as there may be instances where some don't want a certain verification for whatever reason. But I take it as a red flag to a profile. "

or the people who they've previously met have left the site meaning that their verification is deleted but remains on their summary...we also don't display earlier veris from people who have verified us again because there's no point...

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central


"U could have a system where you both click a button in a message that confirms both of you have arranged to meet each other. You would both then have an option later to then confirm if they were a show or a no show.

After someone got a number of no shows, this would be shown on Thier profile as a no shower and any people they marked as no shows would be cleared to reduce abuse of the system. You could also have a positive show icon for people who showed up.

There is an idea somewhere here. "

I agree

If nothing else, it helps people to remember what they have agreed to, if such meet arrangements are privately displayed on our pages for us.

I've suggested it before.

Date, time,outline or definite venue and how each side will communicate on the day would be good.

It may be that fab doesn't want to appear too involved with people's private meetings, for some reason. Such a feature is included on other sites and does help the site too, such as when receiving reports of no-shows.

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By *htcMan
over a year ago

MK

nope will be abused, not hard to call you a time waster as you didnt reply

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"Ok, I'll break down my logic.

People with fake accounts create multiple other accounts. Those accounts verify each other as wonderful and genuine. They put these on display.

The others that they do not wish to display from genuine people calling them out on their shit don't get displayed for that reason.

The numbers on the profile for example say say verified by 10 but when you check verifications there's only 3?

Genuine people either chose to display or not display. Yes it's not full proof as there may be instances where some don't want a certain verification for whatever reason. But I take it as a red flag to a profile.

the other 7 could have left FAB the verification disappears but not the number!

Shut the back door?!!! Seriously???

Honestly never knew that!

Still a little shady if there's a shed load missing and only a couple on there?

I played chase the verification before on a couple of people and it led to seeing that the only verifications showing were each other's.

You live and learn. Thanks for letting me know"

If I have more than one veri from the same person, I’ll only display the more recent one. I also don’t display older ones, plus ones from site leavers (I get a lot of that, because newbies attend my events, leave a veri & then decide Fab isn't for them)

I’ve probaly got 25% of my veri’s not visible.

There could be valid reasons - but if you’re comfortable with it as a filter of sorts, why not!

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By *aturewomanloverMan
over a year ago

staffs/cheshire


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You could also have a positive show icon for people who showed up."

Good idea. You could also possibly say you met in person and add a bit of descriptive text about the meet. I vote to call it something along the lines of a 'verification'?

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By *G CoupleCouple
over a year ago

kent


"I just go with if they have multiple veries but only choose to display a couple of them as a kind of flag for this.

we dont display ANY of our verifications so i guess we are fake to you!!!!!!!

Actually the opposite. I wrote about the fact that others display some and not all of them leading me to believe that they've had verifications that don't show them in a very good light because why else would you hide some and not all of them?"

Sometimes it's impossible to show all veri's.

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By *aturewomanloverMan
over a year ago

staffs/cheshire


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the other 7 could have left FAB the verification disappears but not the number!"

This ^^^^. With women leaving and joining again every other week, you could have a profile that says met 7 but have no veri to show even if you wanted to

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax


"Who'd define what a time waster was? It'd be open to abuse. "

Exactly

I'd say a time waster is someone who arranges to meet and then doesn't show up and doesn't let you know in advance.

Others will tell you a time waster Is someone who changes their mind about meeting or doesn't want to dirty chat etc.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just go with if they have multiple veries but only choose to display a couple of them as a kind of flag for this.

we dont display ANY of our verifications so i guess we are fake to you!!!!!!!

Actually the opposite. I wrote about the fact that others display some and not all of them leading me to believe that they've had verifications that don't show them in a very good light because why else would you hide some and not all of them?"

You do know if you block someone or they block you after they have verified you or if someone leaves the site after verifying your verification counter still says you've had that verification but you cannot display it as it disappears but isn't subtracted from your total number.

That and as you can choose not to show verifications, generally if you don't like someone or want to see them again you just don't verify them or just report & block them...so id be classed as a time waster to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just go with if they have multiple veries but only choose to display a couple of them as a kind of flag for this.

we dont display ANY of our verifications so i guess we are fake to you!!!!!!!

Actually the opposite. I wrote about the fact that others display some and not all of them leading me to believe that they've had verifications that don't show them in a very good light because why else would you hide some and not all of them?

You do know if you block someone or they block you after they have verified you or if someone leaves the site after verifying your verification counter still says you've had that verification but you cannot display it as it disappears but isn't subtracted from your total number.

That and as you can choose not to show verifications, generally if you don't like someone or want to see them again you just don't verify them or just report & block them...so id be classed as a time waster to you "

Yeah. There's someone above who's already said that mate. So yeah, I'm aware.

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By *heEvilWithinWoman
over a year ago

Barnsley


"Just curious does anyone else think we need a time wasters button/ filter or something?"

Yeah you can't have that because if someone got rejected they could then report someone or put them down as a time waster. I had my profile reported over 100x last time I was on here from people being rejected lol. We did have a good laugh the admin and I!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"U could have a system where you both click a button in a message that confirms both of you have arranged to meet each other. You would both then have an option later to then confirm if they were a show or a no show.

After someone got a number of no shows, this would be shown on Thier profile as a no shower and any people they marked as no shows would be cleared to reduce abuse of the system. You could also have a positive show icon for people who showed up."

Great idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When u report profiles to admin. Do they do anythiny ad they never give feedback on the outcome i think they should if they are taking the complaint seriously. "

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just curious does anyone else think we need a time wasters button/ filter or something?"

Button or buttons ?

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By *ljamMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Who the hell are these time wasters?! The amount of time I spend knocking my pan in trying to get just a reply, every chat I have is special and every meeting is very significant. I can't understand the mentality of someone who would go so far as to set something up and then bin it. At least not without a very good reason

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

What's your definition as a timewaster OP? For some it's people not turning up, others may see ghosting as time-wasting or even just chatting and not getting a meet from that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We already have one ...it’s labeled “block”

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By *jEuphoriaCouple
over a year ago

north kent


"Just curious does anyone else think we need a time wasters button/ filter or something?"

Hell yes, name and shame.

There are some scary people on here.

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By *lackitncoCouple
over a year ago

brownhills


"Just curious does anyone else think we need a time wasters button/ filter or something?

Hell yes, name and shame.

There are some scary people on here. "

Also maybe some kind of feedback like eBay

I know this would b abused but the amount of times we have arranged but to hear the same old stories is crazy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish there was a time waster button. Can we please have one so we can get past them

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside


"I wish there was a time waster button. Can we please have one so we can get past them "

It's too easy to abuse. I could be malicious and report you for wasting my time even though we never agreed to meet me. If I was being really malicious I could also get fab friends to report you as a timewaster.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Just curious does anyone else think we need a time wasters button/ filter or something?"

The ‘something’ could be ‘leave the site’

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside


"U could have a system where you both click a button in a message that confirms both of you have arranged to meet each other. You would both then have an option later to then confirm if they were a show or a no show.

After someone got a number of no shows, this would be shown on Thier profile as a no shower and any people they marked as no shows would be cleared to reduce abuse of the system. You could also have a positive show icon for people who showed up.

The timewaster would simply delete their profile and create a new one. "

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside


"I wish there was a time waster button. Can we please have one so we can get past them "

Anybody labeled a timewaster would delete their profile and create a new one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just go with if they have multiple veries but only choose to display a couple of them as a kind of flag for this. "

So what about users we have blocked or left the site after a meet? They show on the summary but arent shared.

Do we seem dodgy because we met someone who messaged every 90 minutes after a meet and we blocked him?

Youre completely within your rights to draw whatever conclusion you want from the veris, and if it doesnt feel right you shouldnt follow through, but there are sometimes good reasons.

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