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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus


"Hi all i need some advice i have a brother who is in his 40s, he has seen me on this site. And decided to tell my mum who is shocked, my bro has always had it in for me and i am sick of it.

He said to my mum hes just on here messing about, i know he has met. I just want him to leave me the hell alone hes like a little kid. Any advice would be great to get him off my back."

It's none of your family's business as you are over 18 and I would find a nice way to state that.

Your mother is probably only worried about you, reassure her that you are perfectly safe and know what you are doing.

As for your brother......... do what I did. Cut him off from your life. I haven't seen or spoken to my brother for 11 years and I have no intention of speaking to him ever again. Makes for a very peaceful life.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm defo going to cut him off for good, thanks for the advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chin up chic, i had the same happen to me, my ex hubby saw me on here and sent copies which he downloaded to my mother up in scotland. But i was lucky and was able to blag it that he had made it up for revenge due to divorce, so i really do understand your pain. Block your brother ( i know that means very little as he can set up another profile)Like previous poster said, let family know you are safe and amoungst friends, that way he hasnt won.

keep smiling xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what a spiteful thing to do , smacks of double standards to me , hes a fella so its all ok and game on , but because your a female your made to feel like a freak or a slut , id tell him to mind his own bloody business whilst also reminding mother that your an adult , and your sex life is private .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been the victim of an ex blabbing to her family and friends about our swinging..

I tried to explain I though it was weird that a family would sit around and discuss the graphic and intimate details of ours and their sex lives.

Apparently I was up tight and being open and frank with your family is healthy. I asked how they felt about her being bi-sexual, naturally that detail was left out.......

Why the fuck her parents, brother, and brothers fiancée would want to listen to details of our sex life I'll never know.....

Bunch of freaks, maybe they will organise a family day out dogging or something.....

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its kind of hard to give advice about people you do not know

Me personally id just say, yes im on a swingers site, you all know now so lets just get on with life

He can only hurt you if you allow him to, if you act like your not bothered and it does not matter to you if your family knows your taking away him amo

Even tho im sure your hurting inside dont let him see it, just act like its no big deal

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By *abe1200Couple
over a year ago

belfast


"I'm defo going to cut him off for good, thanks for the advice."
u gonna cut ure brother off over 4 wot?fabswingers unbelievable this is not the tym 2 b cutting family members.talk to ure brother be merry fhs.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

your bro saw your fab pics eewww lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

personally i would tell him to back off or show your mum his profile lol.........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

don't they think it's strange he looked at profile and then told them,very odd

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

your brother sounds like a complete imature wanker.. tbh..

did your mum not ask him how he found you were even on the site ?? or is he mummys little

fwiw - i dont think its worth falling out about for the next 10 years or so.

its not nice having kids grow up without certain aunties and uncles etc.

just tell the cunt to grow up and grow a pair...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why did'nt he just block you and keep stum ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"your brother sounds like a complete imature wanker.. tbh..

did your mum not ask him how he found you were even on the site ?? or is he mummys little

fwiw - i dont think its worth falling out about for the next 10 years or so.

its not nice having kids grow up without certain aunties and uncles etc.

just tell the cunt to grow up and grow a pair...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"your brother sounds like a complete imature wanker.. tbh..

did your mum not ask him how he found you were even on the site ?? or is he mummys little

fwiw - i dont think its worth falling out about for the next 10 years or so.

its not nice having kids grow up without certain aunties and uncles etc.

just tell the cunt to grow up and grow a pair...

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My brother is a mummys boy,he told her he was just messing about on here looking at profiles. Yeah right lol not speaking to him at all now. He even emailed me on here for sex when i had no pics up.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for your support guys x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"your brother sounds like a complete imature wanker.. tbh..

did your mum not ask him how he found you were even on the site ?? or is he mummys little

fwiw - i dont think its worth falling out about for the next 10 years or so.

its not nice having kids grow up without certain aunties and uncles etc.

just tell the cunt to grow up and grow a pair...

My brother is a mummys boy,he told her he was just messing about on here looking at profiles. Yeah right lol not speaking to him at all now. He even emailed me on here for sex when i had no pics up."
lol that is mental beyone belief

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By *aveandkate35Couple
over a year ago

telford

We understand where you're coming from.

I'm waiting for it to happen to be honest. I think people are right, just reassure your mom and also reiterate the only reason he found out was because he was in here... Looking.

Our daughter got too nosey and eventually Kate told her - no details, but she was still disgusted and looks at us differently now. Loved ones may not understand, or agree or worry, but doesn't mean they don't love you anymore.

Good luck and merry Christmas.

D&K.

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

Same issue here. Brother and his Wife have made these allegations about us.

My Mother now knows but will never judge me or us. He's made himself look a fool as per, his wife is known for causing mither. We're more solid than they'll ever be. He knows she 'cheats' and is a soft twat.

I'll never forget him breaching trust. But will be there when she drops him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"your brother sounds like a complete imature wanker.. tbh..

did your mum not ask him how he found you were even on the site ?? or is he mummys little

fwiw - i dont think its worth falling out about for the next 10 years or so.

its not nice having kids grow up without certain aunties and uncles etc.

just tell the cunt to grow up and grow a pair...

My brother is a mummys boy,he told her he was just messing about on here looking at profiles. Yeah right lol not speaking to him at all now. He even emailed me on here for sex when i had no pics up."

Shame you didn't keep that email to show your mother, though it would be a shame to stoop to his level.

Keep your chin up xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Incest......the game for all the family........

Sorry, not at all helpful but I just couldn't resist!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i've had a couple of people try to play mind games and threaten to tell people i am bisexual - both family wise and professionally

my reponse was the same in both instances : 'get on with it, in the long run, it saves me the job of doing it'

neither threat was carried out to my knowledge

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i've had a couple of people try to play mind games and threaten to tell people i am bisexual - both family wise and professionally

my reponse was the same in both instances : 'get on with it, in the long run, it saves me the job of doing it'

neither threat was carried out to my knowledge"

Spot on, I've always thought it best to call their bluff and potentially have to mop up afterwards than give in to somone blackmailing you and having you over a barrell - especially a contemptuous brother who needs a growing up lesson. Usually they don't follow through anyway, and that's them neutralised in one go.

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Incest......the game for all the family........

Sorry, not at all helpful but I just couldn't resist!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

families there is nought so weird lol

i am lucky ma older kids know and so do my family , ok they dont know all ins an outs but least it keeps them off my back

i cant understand why your brother thought it was funny in saying it , maybe it is to get one up on you , but i must say what a childish game he plays ,

hope all goes well in end for you xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"families there is nought so weird lol

i am lucky ma older kids know and so do my family , ok they dont know all ins an outs but least it keeps them off my back

i cant understand why your brother thought it was funny in saying it , maybe it is to get one up on you , but i must say what a childish game he plays ,

hope all goes well in end for you xxx "

Hes done it to me before on here, the sad thing is i said to my mum well hes been having 3somes. Her response was he does not lie and he has not. So i'm a liar, he will never change and is still mummys little boy. In future can say what he wants i'm here for good. Told him to stop being a wanker and grow up and if he has a problem with me say it to my face. His response at least i'm not on there.

Jesus families eh lol, well im putting all this behind me. To hell with the idiot.

I love my mum and told her i swing now and im an adult can do what i want.Jesus

families

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is 2 of us god help you all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *nIMidlandsCouple
over a year ago

Rugeley

print his profile and pics off for mom to see her little boy for wot he is

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