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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If you knew someone was married but doing it behind there partners back on here would you still play with them or flat so no! Views! I’m not married in anyway shape or form

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

I would. What she does is up to her. It's not for me to judge.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

No, we wouldn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope we wouldn’t meet at all

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By *ertsguy2000Man
over a year ago

hertford

Yes I would, I’m not here to judge people for decisions that they have made, especially without knowing the full details of how they came to those decisions,

But respect people’s decisions either way of course

HG

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Big no from us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I would.

For those that won't, are you asking people who you meet in clubs before you play?

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By *earlyNipsCouple
over a year ago

St Neots

In this thread:

Couples and ladies: "No I wouldn't because that's pretty shitty"

Men: "Fuck yeah I would"

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By *ertsguy2000Man
over a year ago

hertford


"In this thread:

Couples and ladies: "No I wouldn't because that's pretty shitty"

Men: "Fuck yeah I would""

Haha I’m sure it’s not that black and white, but you didn’t say which way you’d answer?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes I would.

For those that won't, are you asking people who you meet in clubs before you play? "
of course in clubs no one has a clue....good point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I would meet if their partner didn't know.

I wouldn't meet one half of a swinging couple that played separately.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Yes I would.

For those that won't, are you asking people who you meet in clubs before you play? "

We don't meet in clubs.

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By *stwoCouple
over a year ago

anywhere

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah! I love the thrill of married meeting married people!!

Hit me up if you’re married x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I would.......... I won’t judge anyone about anything

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you knew someone was married but doing it behind there partners back on here would you still play with them or flat so no! Views! I’m not married in anyway shape or form "

It would be a complete no from me.

I don’t condone cheating for whatever reason and I don’t want to be a part of it.

Each to their own though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In this thread:

Couples and ladies: "No I wouldn't because that's pretty shitty"

Men: "Fuck yeah I would""

Not surprising at all! Haha.

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By *offee with MilkCouple
over a year ago

Over the roundabout and then turn right.

Nope!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

I have and would meet married guys.

As long as they are upfront I'm not here to judge.

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown

Doubtful

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

If you attend clubs...do you ask anyone if they are married before playing....either male or female?

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

I don't ask ladies if they are married or not , I am not trying to get into a relationship with them and I don't think it's an important question to ask, honestly, it's really none of my business , we are just having fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you attend clubs...do you ask anyone if they are married before playing....either male or female?"

Never been to a club, so won’t apply to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't ask ladies if they are married or not , I am not trying to get into a relationship with them and I don't think it's an important question to ask, honestly, it's really none of my business , we are just having fun."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I honestly prefer to meet married women.....

They only have limited time to play and they want to have fun....

The big bonus is they don’t want to go out on dates and don’t get clingy.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

4 hours in and the OP hasn’t come back to his thread...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even though I’m attached I do have an opinion on this and will only meet married / attached men of they meet the same way as I do - this actually applies to all men..

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By *essica jamiesonWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

Lol

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By *ancardiff7Man
over a year ago

Near Cowbridge


"Even though I’m attached I do have an opinion on this and will only meet married / attached men of they meet the same way as I do - this actually applies to all men.. "

And that's why you're on my hot list

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Even though I’m attached I do have an opinion on this and will only meet married / attached men of they meet the same way as I do - this actually applies to all men..

And that's why you're on my hot list "

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Of course married ladies are amazing, single ladies are cool too, I think most things have to do with experience.

In a club setting, most ladies come with their husbands or partners for the night , so in my opinion it is very irrelevant asking a lady or a guy that question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Big fat No.

married and playing with permission - yes

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

Yes I would. And I do

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Of course married ladies are amazing, single ladies are cool too, I think most things have to do with experience.

In a club setting, most ladies come with their husbands or partners for the night , so in my opinion it is very irrelevant asking a lady or a guy that question. "

But if they weren't with anyone??

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By *aby girlWoman
over a year ago

stoke on trent

I meet a married man regularly, sometimes it's easier, you don't get them being all clingy some single guys can be way over the top

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By *khot1Couple
over a year ago

somewhere over the rainbow

A flat no from us. Why anyone would want to put themselves in the middle of that situation baffles me

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"Of course married ladies are amazing, single ladies are cool too, I think most things have to do with experience.

In a club setting, most ladies come with their husbands or partners for the night , so in my opinion it is very irrelevant asking a lady or a guy that question.

But if they weren't with anyone??"

Makes no difference, she is not asking to get into a relationship with me in the club lol, it is an irrelevant question to ask in this circumstance. It would be a different matter if she wants a relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A flat no from us. Why anyone would want to put themselves in the middle of that situation baffles me "

To be honest..... you don’t talk about your home life.... you usually have 4 hours to play and you make the most of it.....

Meeting married women is great for a single guy because we get our weekends to ourselves.....

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I don't have a problem meeting married guys, we know where we stand with each other from the word go and know it'll never be anything more than fwbs type thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being attached I am always up front with people about this so they can make an informed choice. It's not for everyone after all.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Of course married ladies are amazing, single ladies are cool too, I think most things have to do with experience.

In a club setting, most ladies come with their husbands or partners for the night , so in my opinion it is very irrelevant asking a lady or a guy that question.

But if they weren't with anyone??

Makes no difference, she is not asking to get into a relationship with me in the club lol, it is an irrelevant question to ask in this circumstance. It would be a different matter if she wants a relationship."

Why are you going on about relationships.....

My point was some married men/women get slated for being on here but at least the ones that state it on their profiles are being upfront... There is no way of telling in a club if people arrive on their own so unless you ask (in a club setting) you might be playing with someone married when usually you wouldnt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In this thread:

Couples and ladies: "No I wouldn't because that's pretty shitty"

Men: "Fuck yeah I would""

Lady of a couple here, and it's none of my/our business if someone is playing away. We're here to have fun with like-minded people and life is complicated enough without being concerned about their relationships

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I would

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure there's a definitive answer to this. It's about personal preference.

For some there's a feeling of complicity in deceit and potential harm. Others feel that it's for each individual to decide for themselves with no moral judgement applied.

Life is complex and each must decide what they're comfortable with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it's a judgement at all. It's a preference.

I've got morals.

If I found out he was cheating... No second chance. Its fighting fire with fire.

Not for me. I like life uncomplicated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Big fat No.

married and playing with permission - yes "

You hit the nail on the head.

Tell me

When has swinging been for single or for married people to cheat. Never.

Read the history

Its meant for consenting couples to fuck each other and that was that.

Its not a sex site.

Swingers is a couples way of life.

I'd love to have a real swinging partner.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Yes. It's easier.

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By *ugs and JunkCouple
over a year ago

Bellshill

It’s a big no for us. Don’t condone cheating and would hate for it to happen to us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, a person's decision to do pretty much anything is their own. All we should do is accept the consequences for our own decisions and respect the path that others are making for themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Big no from us too, we want sexy fun not drama.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It looks like the moral consensus is no. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely not

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Not my business ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get more attention on here being a married woman than I did when I tried saying I was single

Guys don't want clingy, princess single women who want dates and to be wined and dined. They're on here looking for sex!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Guys don't want clingy, princess single women who want dates and to be wined and dined. They're on here looking for sex!! "

Truer words were never spoken.......

Now watch out the keyboard Romeo’s will be along shortly to tell you that they are on here looking for a connection.......

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire


"

Guys don't want clingy, princess single women who want dates and to be wined and dined. They're on here looking for sex!!

Truer words were never spoken.......

Now watch out the keyboard Romeo’s will be along shortly to tell you that they are on here looking for a connection.......

Totally agree ... why when my FB meets single women to come join us as I’m bi do they reply back with .... I will meet you alone

"
he got told yesterday we are too hardcore cos we have threesomes .... dear god !!!!

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By *ighland gentlemanMan
over a year ago

Ardgay

It would be hypercritical of me not to!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Guys don't want clingy, princess single women who want dates and to be wined and dined. They're on here looking for sex!!

Truer words were never spoken.......

Now watch out the keyboard Romeo’s will be along shortly to tell you that they are on here looking for a connection.......

"

Don't have a problem with having a connection. I had an amazing friendship with a guy for nearly three years. But we both knew where we stood when it came to wanting more.

Majority of married women aren't looking for weekends away, meals, gifts etc.

And we're not looking for a relationship!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There doesn't seem to be many couples saying they would but we actually prefer it. The married guys seem more discreet and less likely to keep bugging us.

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By *loppsyWoman
over a year ago

marlow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There doesn't seem to be many couples saying they would but we actually prefer it. The married guys seem more discreet and less likely to keep bugging us."

We met married men. None of our business what their home situation is. Also meet in clubs and don’t ask about their relationship status.

Floppsy x

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By *ananas2013Man
over a year ago

wolves

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

I'm married and 'cheating' (and now being added to block lists!), and have met and played with married women also 'playing away' without their husbands' knowledge...

....in at least one instance, she specifically chose me because I was married, which was an added turn-on for her...

....and I know some couples have met me because I was married and so can be relied upon to be discreet, and am less likely to get emotionally attached...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would be a no from us.

It's none of our business if you're cheating but I certainly don't want to get involved in said cheating.

I would be devastated if I thought Adam cheated on me and so I can't morally help someone else cheat.

I've never actually thought about asking club meets. We have only met one single though and I was so blooming nervous that it didn't even occur to me!

I shall from now on though.

Eve. x

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Nope i wouldn't meet them

I'd hate it done to me,so wouldn't do it to others.

There are plenty of single men and those playing with consent anyway .

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

No .... attached men are never available when I am .....they have to rush off home for tea ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope i really dont need the hassle when she gets caught..and plus im not really built for climbing out of windows these days..lol

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By *exymidscouple2017Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Yes I would.

For those that won't, are you asking people who you meet in clubs before you play? of course in clubs no one has a clue....good point."

We do talk to them before playing you know?? We don't all dive into a playroom without talking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We wouldn’t personally. Just see it as a massive mess fest personally.

L.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit


"Yes I would.

For those that won't, are you asking people who you meet in clubs before you play? of course in clubs no one has a clue....good point.

We do talk to them before playing you know?? We don't all dive into a playroom without talking. "

Yes this

If jack and i go to clubs,its usually couples only and we arrange to meet someone we've been chatting to on here.

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

No from me, would hate to be the one being cheated on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope never hate cheaters!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to meet married as am myself. A lot easier and much less hassle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exactly

Swinging isn't about cheating

Its consent to swap your wife.

I've read the history.

If that was my husband who played away from me... I'd never forgive him. Sadly women do it too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we started it was always a no. But as you grow on fab you realise people have different reasons for different things. Some are pigs just after sex, some are in sexless relationships but it keeps their family together. At the end of the day your doing nothing wrong. We respect people more for being honest about it. Everyone has their reasons and it's their choice as it is yours to play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When we started it was always a no. But as you grow on fab you realise people have different reasons for different things. Some are pigs just after sex, some are in sexless relationships but it keeps their family together. At the end of the day your doing nothing wrong. We respect people more for being honest about it. Everyone has their reasons and it's their choice as it is yours to play"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I first joined I did meet a few married men but then I realised how difficult it is, can't meet here, got to be back by 10pm, don't scratch me (the list is endless) .......... I like to have a say in the where and when etc so now i don't knowingly meet married/attached men and I get to choose

Oh and the social meet I had with a man on here about a year ago (he's still on here and his profile still says single) turns out his pregnant gf think I'm a home wrecking slag! That helped me to decide meeting married men wasn't for me

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By *ornylittlesubWoman
over a year ago

Grangemouth

Not knowingly, no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In this thread:

Couples and ladies: "No I wouldn't because that's pretty shitty"

Men: "Fuck yeah I would""

There are quite a few married women cheating on here. Most just don't readily admit it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In this thread:

Couples and ladies: "No I wouldn't because that's pretty shitty"

Men: "Fuck yeah I would"

There are quite a few married women cheating on here. Most just don't readily admit it."

Possibly more of a case of not drawing attention themselves...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of interesting views on here. I don't think any one situation is exactly the same and there are so many reasons why people 'play away' without their spouse/partner knowing.

Also, the raison d'être, dynamics and the spirit of marriages change over time, especially when kids arrive on the scene.

Sometimes it is better to accept that things have changed, but realise what is really important, and then be prepared to take bold decisions to make the marriage work, for example giving each other certain 'freedoms'.

Not suitable for everyone I know, but the point is good communication and honest discussion is they key.

Sorry. Verbal diarrohea over now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would meet married men/woman - no judgement from me.

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By *havenpussycatsCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

No from us.

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By *exymidscouple2017Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Yes I would.

For those that won't, are you asking people who you meet in clubs before you play? of course in clubs no one has a clue....good point.

We do talk to them before playing you know?? We don't all dive into a playroom without talking.

Yes this

If jack and i go to clubs,its usually couples only and we arrange to meet someone we've been chatting to on here."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bookmarking for research purposes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lots of interesting views on here. I don't think any one situation is exactly the same and there are so many reasons why people 'play away' without their spouse/partner knowing.

Also, the raison d'être, dynamics and the spirit of marriages change over time, especially when kids arrive on the scene.

Sometimes it is better to accept that things have changed, but realise what is really important, and then be prepared to take bold decisions to make the marriage work, for example giving each other certain 'freedoms'.

Not suitable for everyone I know, but the point is good communication and honest discussion is they key.

Sorry. Verbal diarrohea over now.

"

Good communication and honest discussion isn't something that is often used when cheating.

I'm not sure there is ever a reason for betraying someone's trust but maybe that's because we have no reason to betray each other because we have been open and honest with one another.

Just my thoughts ha ha.

Eve. x

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By *orthcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

100% yes from us, as long as its discreet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lots of interesting views on here. I don't think any one situation is exactly the same and there are so many reasons why people 'play away' without their spouse/partner knowing.

Also, the raison d'être, dynamics and the spirit of marriages change over time, especially when kids arrive on the scene.

Sometimes it is better to accept that things have changed, but realise what is really important, and then be prepared to take bold decisions to make the marriage work, for example giving each other certain 'freedoms'.

Not suitable for everyone I know, but the point is good communication and honest discussion is they key.

Sorry. Verbal diarrohea over now.

Good communication and honest discussion isn't something that is often used when cheating.

I'm not sure there is ever a reason for betraying someone's trust but maybe that's because we have no reason to betray each other because we have been open and honest with one another.

Just my thoughts ha ha.

Eve. x"

well that is good for you both! But my point was that other couples are different and their relationships are built on different things.

Also, if couple do communicate better, it might, in some cases, prevent cheating.

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By *hubnwife_36dd_ukCouple
over a year ago

chester

Grief, isn't life full of enough pain and complication without adding to the sum total?

Just for those who say they don't care that the other player is cheating as they are just here to have fun:

1) Are you really so amoral that you'll take your fun at the expense of someone else's pain?

2) Let's hope you don't mind the exposure (and your job is o.k. with it too) should you find yourself cited in the divorce case. The gutter press love a chance to blast Fab type membership across their pages.

3) God forbid that your fun results in the "scorned" party self-harming or worse when they find out.

4) (And perhaps a bit of deserved shadenfreude) Let's hope the scorned party doesn't turn up at your house/workplace tooled up and dangerous.

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By *leasure4leisureMan
over a year ago

south

Hi

We are a married cpl Col , we both meet socially but only me now playing

Mrs knows always

Is this a problem for other cpls ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know a good few people on here who are in relationships or married and I refuse to meet then even tho I know them personally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say no.

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By *ornylittlesubWoman
over a year ago

Grangemouth


"Hi

We are a married cpl Col , we both meet socially but only me now playing

Mrs knows always

Is this a problem for other cpls ? "

I would say yes....i would never meet just the guy from a couples profile, but then again that's just me.

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By *ornylittlesubWoman
over a year ago

Grangemouth


"Hi

We are a married cpl Col , we both meet socially but only me now playing

Mrs knows always

Is this a problem for other cpls ?

I would say yes....i would never meet just the guy from a couples profile, but then again that's just me. "

And I am not another couple, so my opinion probably doesn't matter ...lol

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am married....we all have our reasons and choices but I’m upfront in my profile about it and if people aren’t interested then I respect that.I do not condone what I’m doing but sometimes needs must....I will never judge someone’s decision why they are here

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Hi

We are a married cpl Col , we both meet socially but only me now playing

Mrs knows always

Is this a problem for other cpls ? "

Yeah it would be a problem for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi

We are a married cpl Col , we both meet socially but only me now playing

Mrs knows always

Is this a problem for other cpls ?

I would say yes....i would never meet just the guy from a couples profile, but then again that's just me.

And I am not another couple, so my opinion probably doesn't matter ...lol "

I agree.

*with the meeting part not that your opinion doesn’t matter.

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By *oman wantedCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire/Liverpool/Manchester

I've have started seeing a very young woman who has a boyfriend who doesn't know she's on here. Down to her and her relationship. I keep out of it and I'm always discreet and I really enjoy her when we're together x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Even though I’m attached I do have an opinion on this and will only meet married / attached men of they meet the same way as I do - this actually applies to all men..

And that's why you're on my hot list

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Mine too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Grief, isn't life full of enough pain and complication without adding to the sum total?

Just for those who say they don't care that the other player is cheating as they are just here to have fun:

1) Are you really so amoral that you'll take your fun at the expense of someone else's pain?

2) Let's hope you don't mind the exposure (and your job is o.k. with it too) should you find yourself cited in the divorce case. The gutter press love a chance to blast Fab type membership across their pages.

3) God forbid that your fun results in the "scorned" party self-harming or worse when they find out.

4) (And perhaps a bit of deserved shadenfreude) Let's hope the scorned party doesn't turn up at your house/workplace tooled up and dangerous."

Wow.....

If people are cheating that’s their business.... it has nothing to do with my morals...

1. Do you blame Seagrams when someone drinks and drive ?

2. Do you blame the gun maker when someone is murdered by a gun?

People make the choice to cheat... who am I to judge?

If you guys are so pious....please tell your vicar and grandchildren teachers that you’re swingers...

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By *ornylittlesubWoman
over a year ago

Grangemouth


"Grief, isn't life full of enough pain and complication without adding to the sum total?

Just for those who say they don't care that the other player is cheating as they are just here to have fun:

1) Are you really so amoral that you'll take your fun at the expense of someone else's pain?

2) Let's hope you don't mind the exposure (and your job is o.k. with it too) should you find yourself cited in the divorce case. The gutter press love a chance to blast Fab type membership across their pages.

3) God forbid that your fun results in the "scorned" party self-harming or worse when they find out.

4) (And perhaps a bit of deserved shadenfreude) Let's hope the scorned party doesn't turn up at your house/workplace tooled up and dangerous.

Wow.....

If people are cheating that’s their business.... it has nothing to do with my morals...

1. Do you blame Seagrams when someone drinks and drive ?

2. Do you blame the gun maker when someone is murdered by a gun?

People make the choice to cheat... who am I to judge?

If you guys are so pious....please tell your vicar and grandchildren teachers that you’re swingers...

"

I think you missed the point....they were talking about people who knew they were playing with someone cheating but didn't care, as it's "Not their problem"....It would be like Seagrams saying they couldn't give a monkeys if someone drank their drink and drove, or gun makers saying they care not who gets a hold of their guns and how they are used.....probably not great examples as both those probably DON'T much care, but I was just using the two you did.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In this thread:

Couples and ladies: "No I wouldn't because that's pretty shitty"

Men: "Fuck yeah I would"

There are quite a few married women cheating on here. Most just don't readily admit it.

Possibly more of a case of not drawing attention themselves..."

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By *pertureTV/TS
over a year ago

New Ferry, wirral in stockings and sussies

Yes as i want sexy fun not drama.

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By *leasure4leisureMan
over a year ago

south

Interesting to hear opinions.

We started soft swinging together 10 years ago ,met some great people) who we are still friends with some )

After a cpl of “ bad” meets which put Mrs off she decided it was all too stressful and not for her.

We do both meet socially still , but now only me playing

She knows always as this adds to our enjoyment of one another

It’s not replacing any thing missing

Why do so many find it a problem as we both are happy , and she will confirm this ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Interesting to hear opinions.

We started soft swinging together 10 years ago ,met some great people) who we are still friends with some )

After a cpl of “ bad” meets which put Mrs off she decided it was all too stressful and not for her.

We do both meet socially still , but now only me playing

She knows always as this adds to our enjoyment of one another

It’s not replacing any thing missing

Why do so many find it a problem as we both are happy , and she will confirm this ?

"

I think the original post was referring to married people playing away without the other's knowledge. Consensual is fine by me.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

No I wouldn't play with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you knew someone was married but doing it behind there partners back on here would you still play with them or flat so no! Views! I’m not married in anyway shape or form "

Personally no. Too much drama

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There doesn't seem to be many couples saying they would but we actually prefer it. The married guys seem more discreet and less likely to keep bugging us."

Exactly the same for the both of us ...far far less likely to bother you all the time and as you say they have to be very discreet ..and that suits us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes although we don’t ask single men and women whether they are married to avoid invading their privacy.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

For me, no. Firstly, I don’t want to do that to someone having been on the receiving end.

Secondly, it’s often something you find out due to inconsistencies and I don’t like that I’ve been lied to.

Thirdly, it leaves potential for drama if the partner finds out. And that’s not what I’m here for.

And lastly, the guys who later turn out to be married are the ones who often cancel last minute or leave early or disappear from the scene, come back, disappear again...if I wanted a jack in the box I’d buy one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes,have done in the past and would do again in the future if a married lady wanted some fun behind her husband's back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me, no. Firstly, I don’t want to do that to someone having been on the receiving end.

Secondly, it’s often something you find out due to inconsistencies and I don’t like that I’ve been lied to.

Thirdly, it leaves potential for drama if the partner finds out. And that’s not what I’m here for.

And lastly, the guys who later turn out to be married are the ones who often cancel last minute or leave early or disappear from the scene, come back, disappear again...if I wanted a jack in the box I’d buy one. "

Spot on, quickly learnt this when I first joined the site x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No from us, far to much drama if the wife or husband find out.

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By *rith47Man
over a year ago

Erith

Other people's personal lives are not my business. I have met married guys and what happens between four walls stays there. Discretion is the key.

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By *ilancsguyMan
over a year ago

Burnley

Discretion is the key but for every profile that is up front and says they are married there are lots on here that 'pretend' to be single or say they are straight etc. There is a degree of naivety to think that all profiles are truthful.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Discretion is the key but for every profile that is up front and says they are married there are lots on here that 'pretend' to be single or say they are straight etc. There is a degree of naivety to think that all profiles are truthful."
very true and some people won’t tell all but then it’s there own business really.

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By *harliebluestockingsCouple
over a year ago

london

Have never asked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have and I wouldn't judge. There could be many reasons. I have only met socially though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would . We aren’t here to judge and expect the same . Mr is married and Mrs recently separated . People don’t know what goes on behind closed doors in marriages and sometimes the reasons for cheating are more complex than just wanting the thrill or a quick bit on the side . I was in a sexless very controlling volatile marriage and it was my escape from reality when I played and actually still is now . And mr well look at his age he has his reasons for being unfaithful including a long ago sexless marriage . We do make our circumstances clear on our profile so people can choose to pass us by .

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit


"We would . We aren’t here to judge and expect the same . Mr is married and Mrs recently separated . People don’t know what goes on behind closed doors in marriages and sometimes the reasons for cheating are more complex than just wanting the thrill or a quick bit on the side . I was in a sexless very controlling volatile marriage and it was my escape from reality when I played and actually still is now . And mr well look at his age he has his reasons for being unfaithful including a long ago sexless marriage . We do make our circumstances clear on our profile so people can choose to pass us by . "

Exactly you are upfront about it

It's the ones who lie or don't tell you until you've chatted a while that annoy me.

I always ask if someone is single (males) and check that fwb couplee are in other relationships (come across a few that are).

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

*not in other relationships*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don’t give a rats arse, don’t see this as a dating site and don’t see why it would matter at all. Each to their own though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope i really dont need the hassle when she gets caught..and plus im not really built for climbing out of windows these days..lol"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't judge people but would be careful about personal info being given, tel numbers addresses etc, as we wouldnt want to get involved in any disputes. Heard lots of stories about telephone calls from irate partners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I don't have a problem if someone is married or not, as long as you're aware before you get involved.

I'm married and if I contact someone I will always tell them that I am married and the reason I'm on the site. If that person chooses to get involved and meet up then that's their choice. It's when someone doesn't tell you and you find out that I would have a problem with.

I don't put on my profile that I'm married or single, as we all know people don't really read profiles and you will not believe the abuse I had when I did mention I was married on my profile. It doesn't seem to be too much of a problem for women to say they're married but it it's often different for men.

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough


"If you knew someone was married but doing it behind there partners back on here would you still play with them or flat so no! Views! I’m not married in anyway shape or form "

Yes, absolutely, swinging is impersonal, what they are doing or should be doing a a few hours time is irrelevant to us.

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By *ymaleMan
over a year ago

nr Bradford

I don't think there's a right/wrong answer as it's clear everyone has their own views and morals. The only thing that should be expected is for those involved or married, to tell prospective playmates before getting in to it and at least show them some respect and allow an informed decision to be made.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think there's a right/wrong answer as it's clear everyone has their own views and morals. The only thing that should be expected is for those involved or married, to tell prospective playmates before getting in to it and at least show them some respect and allow an informed decision to be made."

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

No .... dont want to be part of any ones deceit ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mixed views here....

I see it from both sides

Married and played on Fab's with wife - had lots of "married and playaway" men - no issue if they where honest - shown the door if not

Solo playing alone - cant win - lost cause , I give up on the excuses lol - shoot me, castrate me, drown me like a cat lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm single so yes I would, there situation is there problem

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

A flat no.

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By *exinthesunWoman
over a year ago

far far away

Yes, I would and do. I actually prefer attached guys, less chance of them loitering around after I've finished with him as they have to get back home before the other half asks too many questions. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yay!

I love a thread like this.

"We share everything and have no secrets"

"cheating men need to get off fab and concentrate on fixing their marriage"

"cheating women have so much to put up with and need to fill the void if their husband doesn't care"

Pull up a soapbox and get your fab bingo cards out, every one a winner!

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By *essons in LustCouple
over a year ago

huddersfield


"In this thread:

Couples and ladies: "No I wouldn't because that's pretty shitty"

Men: "Fuck yeah I would"

Lady of a couple here, and it's none of my/our business if someone is playing away. We're here to have fun with like-minded people and life is complicated enough without being concerned about their relationships "
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Plus it turns me on when my husband is a naughty cheat

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Yay!

I love a thread like this.

"We share everything and have no secrets"

"cheating men need to get off fab and concentrate on fixing their marriage"

"cheating women have so much to put up with and need to fill the void if their husband doesn't care"

Pull up a soapbox and get your fab bingo cards out, every one a winner!"

Cheating people should do what they want to do, there obviously are people who will meet them and some who won't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No we always ask, we don’t play with cheats, if however they have permission or there partner wants to play that’s fine.

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By *otBunsHunWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Yes.. people could say they're single when they're not and I'd be none the wiser

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lots of interesting views on here. I don't think any one situation is exactly the same and there are so many reasons why people 'play away' without their spouse/partner knowing.

Also, the raison d'être, dynamics and the spirit of marriages change over time, especially when kids arrive on the scene.

Sometimes it is better to accept that things have changed, but realise what is really important, and then be prepared to take bold decisions to make the marriage work, for example giving each other certain 'freedoms'.

Not suitable for everyone I know, but the point is good communication and honest discussion is they key.

Sorry. Verbal diarrohea over now.

Good communication and honest discussion isn't something that is often used when cheating.

I'm not sure there is ever a reason for betraying someone's trust but maybe that's because we have no reason to betray each other because we have been open and honest with one another.

Just my thoughts ha ha.

Eve. x

well that is good for you both! But my point was that other couples are different and their relationships are built on different things.

Also, if couple do communicate better, it might, in some cases, prevent cheating."

And what about the people that are just cheating cause they can?

Would never knowingly play with a married individual and yes we speak to them in clubs and see if they got a ring on or tell tale line not hard to miss.

I don't think there's any reason to be betraying someone's trust and mabey they should sit down and speak to there partner instead of living a lie.

Dom x

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By *annylickerMan
over a year ago

Chester-le-Street

I'm married and other half doesn't know I'm on here, I'm always upfront about it and try to be as honest as possible in reasons why I'm on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The joys of the internet......

People on a swinging site condemning others for having sex outside of their marriage...

Is like the cocaine addicts calling the heroin addicts dirty people in drug rehab....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The joys of the internet......

People on a swinging site condemning others for having sex outside of their marriage...

Is like the cocaine addicts calling the heroin addicts dirty people in drug rehab...."

Yes but we do it together so we both are involved and enjoying, while cheating only ones involved and other being betrayed bit of a difference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless you can speak to the organ grinder, you will have to accept what the monkey tells you. In their lust and haste to accomplish a swing, that's often all a 'virtuous' couple requires.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The joys of the internet......

People on a swinging site condemning others for having sex outside of their marriage...

Is like the cocaine addicts calling the heroin addicts dirty people in drug rehab....

Yes but we do it together so we both are involved and enjoying, while cheating only ones involved and other being betrayed bit of a difference."

Ok I want you to look at the whole Forrest and not just the trees....

99% percent of polite society looks at swinging as a subculture...

So if you’re having sex outside of your marriage you’re cheating to polite society...

So why in our small community of swingers should we exclude anyone? Why should we be so judgmental?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The joys of the internet......

People on a swinging site condemning others for having sex outside of their marriage...

Is like the cocaine addicts calling the heroin addicts dirty people in drug rehab....

Yes but we do it together so we both are involved and enjoying, while cheating only ones involved and other being betrayed bit of a difference.

Ok I want you to look at the whole Forrest and not just the trees....

99% percent of polite society looks at swinging as a subculture...

So if you’re having sex outside of your marriage you’re cheating to polite society...

So why in our small community of swingers should we exclude anyone? Why should we be so judgmental?"

We all going to look at it differently especially married couples.

But I wonder out of all the people on here that are technically "cheating", what they do if the shoe was on the other foot.

Plus I just think if the other person that being faithful think everything good it's not fair on them, they have a right to move on find someone else.

But as I said everyone going to have there own opinion.

Dom x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So many judgmental folk, cough cough on a swinging site...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The joys of the internet......

People on a swinging site condemning others for having sex outside of their marriage...

Is like the cocaine addicts calling the heroin addicts dirty people in drug rehab....

Yes but we do it together so we both are involved and enjoying, while cheating only ones involved and other being betrayed bit of a difference.

Ok I want you to look at the whole Forrest and not just the trees....

99% percent of polite society looks at swinging as a subculture...

So if you’re having sex outside of your marriage you’re cheating to polite society...

So why in our small community of swingers should we exclude anyone? Why should we be so judgmental?

We all going to look at it differently especially married couples.

But I wonder out of all the people on here that are technically "cheating", what they do if the shoe was on the other foot.

Plus I just think if the other person that being faithful think everything good it's not fair on them, they have a right to move on find someone else.

But as I said everyone going to have there own opinion.

Dom x"

I get what you’re saying..... but the reality of swinging is you have fun with people until real life gets in the way....

Most people you will have sex with and never see or talk to again....

So why get caught up in if they are married?

Just enjoy the time you have together

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"The joys of the internet......

People on a swinging site condemning others for having sex outside of their marriage...

Is like the cocaine addicts calling the heroin addicts dirty people in drug rehab....

Yes but we do it together so we both are involved and enjoying, while cheating only ones involved and other being betrayed bit of a difference.

Ok I want you to look at the whole Forrest and not just the trees....

99% percent of polite society looks at swinging as a subculture...

So if you’re having sex outside of your marriage you’re cheating to polite society...

So why in our small community of swingers should we exclude anyone? Why should we be so judgmental?"

Because I have the right to choose. I choose no attached men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The joys of the internet......

People on a swinging site condemning others for having sex outside of their marriage...

Is like the cocaine addicts calling the heroin addicts dirty people in drug rehab....

Yes but we do it together so we both are involved and enjoying, while cheating only ones involved and other being betrayed bit of a difference.

Ok I want you to look at the whole Forrest and not just the trees....

99% percent of polite society looks at swinging as a subculture...

So if you’re having sex outside of your marriage you’re cheating to polite society...

So why in our small community of swingers should we exclude anyone? Why should we be so judgmental?

Because I have the right to choose. I choose no attached men "

I respect your preference not to meet attached men....

I was more commenting to the people saying cheaters should fix their marriage.... and taking the moral high ground....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The joys of the internet......

People on a swinging site condemning others for having sex outside of their marriage...

Is like the cocaine addicts calling the heroin addicts dirty people in drug rehab....

Yes but we do it together so we both are involved and enjoying, while cheating only ones involved and other being betrayed bit of a difference.

Ok I want you to look at the whole Forrest and not just the trees....

99% percent of polite society looks at swinging as a subculture...

So if you’re having sex outside of your marriage you’re cheating to polite society...

So why in our small community of swingers should we exclude anyone? Why should we be so judgmental?

We all going to look at it differently especially married couples.

But I wonder out of all the people on here that are technically "cheating", what they do if the shoe was on the other foot.

Plus I just think if the other person that being faithful think everything good it's not fair on them, they have a right to move on find someone else.

But as I said everyone going to have there own opinion.

Dom x

I get what you’re saying..... but the reality of swinging is you have fun with people until real life gets in the way....

Most people you will have sex with and never see or talk to again....

So why get caught up in if they are married?

Just enjoy the time you have ntogether "

Cause I can, no one wants to be cheated on so I won't help some one cheat.

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By *xycpl699Couple
over a year ago

kilmarnock

No not for us. Hollie

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"The joys of the internet......

People on a swinging site condemning others for having sex outside of their marriage...

Is like the cocaine addicts calling the heroin addicts dirty people in drug rehab....

Yes but we do it together so we both are involved and enjoying, while cheating only ones involved and other being betrayed bit of a difference.

Ok I want you to look at the whole Forrest and not just the trees....

99% percent of polite society looks at swinging as a subculture...

So if you’re having sex outside of your marriage you’re cheating to polite society...

So why in our small community of swingers should we exclude anyone? Why should we be so judgmental?"

It's quite simple really.

As swingers we don't think there's anything morally wrong with having sex with someone who is not your partner, even if you have a partner.

What we do often believe to be morally wrong is deceiving your partner about something you know is very important to them.

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

It's a no from us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not a judgement.

Its morally wrong.

Turn the shoes to it happening to you or your marriage or partnership. Or gf or bf....

I have high moral standards... It's a no from me OP

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

No.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging isn't about being unfaithful

Swinging is consent

Cheating isn't swinging

Good luck if you fuck those that do albeit I don't want to be in your shoes when you are caught and get yourself in deep shit.

Life is complicated enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes i would...i treat everyone as an individual and we all have reasons for making crazy decisions....each to their own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So many judgmental folk, cough cough on a swinging site..."

Yup

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, we've both been cheated on in relationships so we know how devastating it is. So we wouldn't want to be involved in anyone else going through that.

C

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope, we've both been cheated on in relationships so we know how devastating it is. So we wouldn't want to be involved in anyone else going through that.

C"

Agree totally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im just gonna jump in and say im married, i meet, she doesnt know..

Yes i can say it is shitty but i have my reasons.

I will only meet married/partnered people.

Ive met a awesome fwb in the same boat as me and for that reason im not meeting anyone else, im just here for the forums now.

...awaits the abuse.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Everyone’s different but I know for a fact I would never do it because I won’t like it done to me it’s as simple as that,if your unhappy in a relationship leave.Everyones different and that’s upto them what they have to live with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone’s different but I know for a fact I would never do it because I won’t like it done to me it’s as simple as that,if your unhappy in a relationship leave.Everyones different and that’s upto them what they have to live with."

Everyone says that “if you’re unhappy leave” line. Um... you can still want sex with other people and be in a perfectly happy relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its their circus not my mine.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Its their circus not my mine. "
plays bring in the clowns music*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its their circus not my mine. plays bring in the clowns music* "

Think about it.

Its nsa. Many of us choose not to dilvuge information from careers to where we live, to mobile numbers so why does if they are married matter

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Its their circus not my mine. plays bring in the clowns music*

Think about it.

Its nsa. Many of us choose not to dilvuge information from careers to where we live, to mobile numbers so why does if they are married matter"
very true but especially With singles they wouldn’t like to be deceived as such,if someone says they are single the person expects them to be single.They are coming from the fact is that that person is cheating on their partner which they wouldn’t like it being done to them so don’t encourage it.If the partner consents to him/her playing alone then that’s different and some people don’t mind married/taken/or not it’s just fun as you said which I can understand too but from the other view I wouldn’t like to play with a cheat who’s partner probably loves them and they are doing the dirty on them which I don’t agree with.If she has consent from him then that’s totally cool let’s fuck the night away but for me personally it’s either consented/single/or a no go.I respect everyone’s wishes and feelings towards whatever they want to do

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over a year ago


"Its their circus not my mine. plays bring in the clowns music*

Think about it.

Its nsa. Many of us choose not to dilvuge information from careers to where we live, to mobile numbers so why does if they are married matter very true but especially With singles they wouldn’t like to be deceived as such,if someone says they are single the person expects them to be single.They are coming from the fact is that that person is cheating on their partner which they wouldn’t like it being done to them so don’t encourage it.If the partner consents to him/her playing alone then that’s different and some people don’t mind married/taken/or not it’s just fun as you said which I can understand too but from the other view I wouldn’t like to play with a cheat who’s partner probably loves them and they are doing the dirty on them which I don’t agree with.If she has consent from him then that’s totally cool let’s fuck the night away but for me personally it’s either consented/single/or a no go.I respect everyone’s wishes and feelings towards whatever they want to do "

And u believe everything people say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone’s different but I know for a fact I would never do it because I won’t like it done to me it’s as simple as that,if your unhappy in a relationship leave.Everyones different and that’s upto them what they have to live with.

Everyone says that “if you’re unhappy leave” line. Um... you can still want sex with other people and be in a perfectly happy relationship "

If your perfectly happy you wouldn't do it without there knowledge at least, as if your that happy you would be able to say no even if you wanted to.

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over a year ago


"Its their circus not my mine. plays bring in the clowns music*

Think about it.

Its nsa. Many of us choose not to dilvuge information from careers to where we live, to mobile numbers so why does if they are married matter very true but especially With singles they wouldn’t like to be deceived as such,if someone says they are single the person expects them to be single.They are coming from the fact is that that person is cheating on their partner which they wouldn’t like it being done to them so don’t encourage it.If the partner consents to him/her playing alone then that’s different and some people don’t mind married/taken/or not it’s just fun as you said which I can understand too but from the other view I wouldn’t like to play with a cheat who’s partner probably loves them and they are doing the dirty on them which I don’t agree with.If she has consent from him then that’s totally cool let’s fuck the night away but for me personally it’s either consented/single/or a no go.I respect everyone’s wishes and feelings towards whatever they want to do

And u believe everything people say"

I think that's where the never knowingly do it comes in. yes someone can lie and you don't find out thats always possible. But like just like someone saying there clean and there not always a chance there lying.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Its their circus not my mine. plays bring in the clowns music*

Think about it.

Its nsa. Many of us choose not to dilvuge information from careers to where we live, to mobile numbers so why does if they are married matter very true but especially With singles they wouldn’t like to be deceived as such,if someone says they are single the person expects them to be single.They are coming from the fact is that that person is cheating on their partner which they wouldn’t like it being done to them so don’t encourage it.If the partner consents to him/her playing alone then that’s different and some people don’t mind married/taken/or not it’s just fun as you said which I can understand too but from the other view I wouldn’t like to play with a cheat who’s partner probably loves them and they are doing the dirty on them which I don’t agree with.If she has consent from him then that’s totally cool let’s fuck the night away but for me personally it’s either consented/single/or a no go.I respect everyone’s wishes and feelings towards whatever they want to do

And u believe everything people say"
I have trust in people yes and it’s only given once and I would like to think that people are honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone’s different but I know for a fact I would never do it because I won’t like it done to me it’s as simple as that,if your unhappy in a relationship leave.Everyones different and that’s upto them what they have to live with."

Do you honestly think leaving a marriage is that easy?

Most married people are in debt up to their eyeballs....

Do you think a man is going to leave his house , pay child support, still pay all the household bills , and still pay for his new accommodations just because he is in a sexless marriage....

It’s just cheaper to get some sex on the side and enjoy the things you have worked hard to buy.....

I’m not condoning cheating.... I just try to not judge people that do it...

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