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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I often use winks to get attention as often writing a message that can capture the attention of the recipient is a daunting task so i opt for a wink and hopefully they wink back my question is this does anyone actually check there winks and if so do u follow up with a wink back or send a message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do occasionally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We check ours, and yes we usually reply to a wink with a wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women and couples privacy the don't as they're considered lazy, or they get too many. Men don't get them out if they do they reply after coming round from fainting that they got one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do when I get them and like the look of the winker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We check ours, and yes we usually reply to a wink with a wink "

Same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they are of interest i reply to a wink with a message or wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They can be useful if you have filters set. If you wink someone who would be filtered, they can then contact you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I very very rarely look at winks so no, I don’t reply to them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reply to winks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we're interested we'll wink back or send a message. Sometimes we'll send a "thanks but no".

If the winker or friend requester plainly hasn't read the profile, we just delete.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

From the perspective of the winkee, it depends entirely on who the winker is.

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By *n Search Of SunsetCouple
over a year ago

Search Of Sunset

We ignore all winks and unsolicited friend requests...we usually find they are from those that don't read profiles.

Messages are key.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've sent winks and seen those sent to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We do when we like the profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I like there profile I will reply back

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I often use winks to get attention as often writing a message that can capture the attention of the recipient is a daunting task so i opt for a wink and hopefully they wink back my question is this does anyone actually check there winks and if so do u follow up with a wink back or send a message "

No I delete them straight up!

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By *oman wantedCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire/Liverpool/Manchester

I do x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I often use winks to get attention as often writing a message that can capture the attention of the recipient is a daunting task so i opt for a wink and hopefully they wink back my question is this does anyone actually check there winks and if so do u follow up with a wink back or send a message "

Neither, we opt for the block option.

Winkers are wankers is the rule.

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By *electableDalliancesCouple
over a year ago

leeds

I often forget to look at winks to be honest. But a few times when I've looked at a profile and seen on there that they have winked , if I think we could get on ,I'll wink back or message , definitely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I often use winks to get attention as often writing a message that can capture the attention of the recipient is a daunting task so i opt for a wink and hopefully they wink back my question is this does anyone actually check there winks and if so do u follow up with a wink back or send a message "
I've never looked at winks but just because you created this I am nowb

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I often use winks to get attention as often writing a message that can capture the attention of the recipient is a daunting task so i opt for a wink and hopefully they wink back my question is this does anyone actually check there winks and if so do u follow up with a wink back or send a message I've never looked at winks but just because you created this I am nowb"

All because of me lol

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By *aucy SpaghettiCouple
over a year ago

wickford

If someone winks us we nearly always wink back, if someone invites us as a friend without first messaging them we reply with a wink (our way of saying we’ve noticed you but make a little effort first).... we sometimes send winks just to feel the ground, if we get a wink back we message. But truth be told if someone wants to get our attention make the effort to send a message, and by effort we don’t mean just one line. And likewise if we really like the look of someone we send a similar message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I often use winks to get attention as often writing a message that can capture the attention of the recipient is a daunting task so i opt for a wink and hopefully they wink back my question is this does anyone actually check there winks and if so do u follow up with a wink back or send a message "
I will if they have a good profile and are what I may look for x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we’re interested we wink back and usually message too with face pics x

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight


"We check ours, and yes we usually reply to a wink with a wink "

This, but only with those, we'd entertain some dialogue with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a hierarchy on fab with regards to winks, those fussy and have a need to be chased will ignore winks, those of who think they are a easy, polite way to show interest will respond

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If we're interested we'll wink back or send a message. Sometimes we'll send a "thanks but no".

If the winker or friend requester plainly hasn't read the profile, we just delete."

Same here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like them - it shows interest and we can reply with a wink or a message if we’re happy to talk more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reply to winks sometimes with a wink usually

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We respond to people to the ones we like

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I ignore winks completely. If someone can't be arsed to send me a message when they are interested then I can't be arsed to make any effort with them.

I do pay attention to unsolicited friend requests - they always result in the sender being blocked as it's obvious they either haven't read my profile or have chosen to ignore it.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

I do

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"We like them - it shows interest and we can reply with a wink or a message if we’re happy to talk more. "

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer wink which will then lead to message...

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight


"I ignore winks completely. If someone can't be arsed to send me a message when they are interested then I can't be arsed to make any effort with them.

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We're glad we didn't follow your lead with this on an occasion (your choice, not having a dig, your account-your rules always) by it was a tentative reach out that came about through not wanting to be rejected, they've since grown a much thicker skin.

We've become good friends with them since.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We like them - it shows interest and we can reply with a wink or a message if we’re happy to talk more.

Exactly this "

The site provides tools which we like to use. A wink in either direction is (to us) just a way of registering some interest. If we wink at somebody and get one in return then we email.

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By *abulously curiousCouple
over a year ago

manchester

We do if we like the profile

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham


"I ignore winks completely. If someone can't be arsed to send me a message when they are interested then I can't be arsed to make any effort with them.

We're glad we didn't follow your lead with this on an occasion (your choice, not having a dig, your account-your rules always) by it was a tentative reach out that came about through not wanting to be rejected, they've since grown a much thicker skin.

We've become good friends with them since. "

Fab is a very different experience for the different demographics that use it. As a single lady, even using tight filters, the amount of interest and contact you receive can be huge and the "admin" involved in dealing with it overwhelming - it can become a full time job if you allow it to be.

I'm sure I have missed out on chatting to and meeting some really lovely people but I just can't chat to and meet everyone I would like to, there aren't enough hours in the day.

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight


"I ignore winks completely. If someone can't be arsed to send me a message when they are interested then I can't be arsed to make any effort with them.

We're glad we didn't follow your lead with this on an occasion (your choice, not having a dig, your account-your rules always) by it was a tentative reach out that came about through not wanting to be rejected, they've since grown a much thicker skin.

We've become good friends with them since.

Fab is a very different experience for the different demographics that use it. As a single lady, even using tight filters, the amount of interest and contact you receive can be huge and the "admin" involved in dealing with it overwhelming - it can become a full time job if you allow it to be.

I'm sure I have missed out on chatting to and meeting some really lovely people but I just can't chat to and meet everyone I would like to, there aren't enough hours in the day."
fair enough, everyone needs to run their accounts on the needs of themselves, seems you have yours working for you.

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By *BWandhusbandCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

We just mass delete our winks.

We do reply to messages though.

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By *stwoCouple
over a year ago

anywhere

We ignore them.We say that on our profile and people still send them.

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By *imAndHerKentCouple
over a year ago

Folkestone


"If we're interested we'll wink back or send a message. Sometimes we'll send a "thanks but no".

If the winker or friend requester plainly hasn't read the profile, we just delete."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry but me because I never check them x

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By *ertsguy2000Man
over a year ago

hertford

I like the subtleness of a wink, a tentative “hi you’re hot, fancy a chat”

I think it’s a shame some people ignore them, but each to their own.

I’ll alwyas respond to a wink

HG

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On occasion yes we do if winker takes our eye why not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not me.

Never even look at them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do when I get them and like the look of the winker"

This for us too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do if i like the look of who sent it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do if i like the look of who sent it"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

We do if they are to our taste sometimes we will actually respond with a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We do if we like the profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wink . Think fab had some saved up this week.

I only respond like a message if I am interested I message back or wink back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many people do actually, quite suprised

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

I do love meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never understood why some have an issue with winks as I use it myself and I'd I like the look of a profile I respond to them too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As most people don't reply to polite messages winks should be a way of seeing if someone's you to try a message.

The problem being to many people think a response means you are in.

Manners and respect should be key.

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By *eerobCouple
over a year ago

solihull

If we ate winked, and the couple appeal we wink back as a sign that we like them. Then it's up to them to contact us further

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

We might wink back or message one in ten profiles who wink at us.

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By *havenpussycatsCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

We send winks and are happy to receive winks. When we get a wink we respond with either a wink or a message. Works well for us. We’ve also got quite a nice network of couples we meet so not on a constant search for new couples. Happy fabbers!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would usually reply even if it's a no thanks happy fabbing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I frequently check winks and wink back, if there's mutual interest - though I'll usually assume that it's a potential sexual interest that's been shared, rather than for social: I'd prefer a message for advice/friendship development, as I have different interests for these categories.

Use winks, if a user hasn't said that they don't bother with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hardly ever, maybe one in 200 or less. Only if a profile particularly stands out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a winker

(corrected my text this time)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me, if I like the look of the winker

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Not Eye

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By *otplumMan
over a year ago

Margate

Don't get many so always look, being an optimist I like to send them too, you never know!

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

I do from time to time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reply to winks.

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"If they are of interest i reply to a wink with a message or wink"

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

I do..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we always check ours to see who may be interested in us as you never know who is interested in us that we may have missed,

if you like a profile but your not sure of the other persons needs we give a wink then theres no pressure to reply if you don't like who has winked,

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Beleave it or not some people do ,

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By *inkyChrissy99TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

I sometimes look at winks but it has to be a very slow day for messages or a very special profiel pic to make me send a message a d initiate a conversation x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I like the look of someone that's sent me a wink

I wink back.

If not I don't

Simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's a wink? If people want to chat they message, right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"I often use winks to get attention as often writing a message that can capture the attention of the recipient is a daunting task so i opt for a wink and hopefully they wink back my question is this does anyone actually check there winks and if so do u follow up with a wink back or send a message "

Depends on who's winking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I often use winks to get attention as often writing a message that can capture the attention of the recipient is a daunting task so i opt for a wink and hopefully they wink back my question is this does anyone actually check there winks and if so do u follow up with a wink back or send a message

Depends on who's winking"
a nods as good as a wink to a blind bat

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

we do on occasion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester


"We ignore all winks and unsolicited friend requests...we usually find they are from those that don't read profiles.

Messages are key.

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Exactly this

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"What's a wink? If people want to chat they message, right?"

We send you one so you can experience the power which is wink. And your hot as..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's a wink? If people want to chat they message, right?

We send you one so you can experience the power which is wink. And your hot as.. "
I didn't get it let me look again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always respond to winks, shows people are interested in you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do, its rude not to!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I send winks if you get one back it usually means the winker is genuine. don't see the point of writing long messages just to get them deleted as they couldn't be bothered to read them. its about time people lightened up a bit.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

Never. I ignore that section of my profile completely.

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By *cd and scruffCouple
over a year ago

Rochester

We respond to winks if interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I send winks, as for receiving them, I wink back If it's someone I'm interested in. I do tend to message saying thanks but not for me if I'm not interested.

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

I don't send any winks, I've always thought if a profile has created enough interest it's worth the investment of a couple of minutes to type a message.

I receive the odd wink .. I look at them and if it's from a profile that creates some interest I'll message back..if it's from a silhouette and little text or from those that are outwith my preferences theyreignored.. I don't delete then they can't wink again for(I think) a month.

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By *entileschiWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

I have 727 new winks, so I guess I don't reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We look at our winks and respond to them if they’re of interest to us, generally that’s someone who has read our profile and has public photos, I see it as a way of saying that we like what we see and if we can’t see anything then how would we know? I quite like them.

I did have a single female profile for a very short space of time and within an hour of joining I had over 300 messages and even more winks (with filters on) I closed it down as it just didn’t seem worth the hassle so I can understand why many women don’t even have the time to look at them.

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By *ardiffCoupleNJCouple
over a year ago

Pontypridd/Rhyfelin

Tend to send a wink if we fancy someone. Then follow up with a reply message if they wink back. If not we move on.

If we receive a wink, we wink back if we like their profile.

(If we are blocked or the sender has no pics and / or they clearly haven't read our profile, or we simply don't like or are not currently looking then we ignore or delete).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we like the winker we will message and say thanks and nice photos etc.

If we don’t we delete. Instant delete for friend requests for anyone we’ve not talked to. Unless they look sexy then we accept, have a nosey and then remove if they don’t meet expectations. If we then don’t start talking we remove too.

We want regular meets with a very small circle of swingers. Though that’s a bit difficult.

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

I do , its first point of contact,

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By *eanne n AliCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

We reply to winks even if it is to say thanks but no thanks. Random friends requests are always deleted however.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would reply cmon give me a break......... Wink me.......... Read profile........ Offer subject to restrictions........ Always read warning notices

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By *arleyfanCouple
over a year ago

Dover

Always reply to winks, either with a return wink or a message

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

If I'm interested I wink back. If not I delete.

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By *xtrafun4youMan
over a year ago

Dunstable

I do, either wink back of email

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tend to look at the profile and then probably delete unless it’s exceptionally good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give me a wink and you'll find out!

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By *r C Miss CCouple
over a year ago

llanelli

we used get loads of them, then when we wink back we dont even get a message. We dont delete winks either so they can only do it once a month.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We respond to winks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I'm interested I wink back. If not I delete. "

This for me as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My last winker's profile was worded like a noob and she was stupidly far away, so I ignored it.

After a few days, I looked again and she'd actually been on fab over a year - and also travelled regularly around the country...

I did eventually respond but the message was predictably ignored.

Meh.

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By *ottie_84Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I do especially if they catch my eye

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

I just delete ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it is a good way to show your interest,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Showing an interest with a wink has been known lead to more...

I respond if im interested, if I wink and no response is received I take it they arent interested!

After all...wink wink, nudge nudge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of my best meets all started with a wink...she’s a close friend now

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By *ottie_84Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham


"One of my best meets all started with a wink...she’s a close friend now "

One of my fwbs started with a wink...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One of my best meets all started with a wink...she’s a close friend now

One of my fwbs started with a wink..."

It’s all in the eyes

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By *ottie_84Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham


"One of my best meets all started with a wink...she’s a close friend now

One of my fwbs started with a wink...

It’s all in the eyes "

It is especially with mine lol they seem to get a lot of attention

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One of my best meets all started with a wink...she’s a close friend now

One of my fwbs started with a wink...

It’s all in the eyes

It is especially with mine lol they seem to get a lot of attention "

That’s not a bad thing, it’s called having a winning quality

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By *ottie_84Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham


"One of my best meets all started with a wink...she’s a close friend now

One of my fwbs started with a wink...

It’s all in the eyes

It is especially with mine lol they seem to get a lot of attention

That’s not a bad thing, it’s called having a winning quality "

Oh it is especially when they’re 3 different colours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One of my best meets all started with a wink...she’s a close friend now

One of my fwbs started with a wink...

It’s all in the eyes

It is especially with mine lol they seem to get a lot of attention

That’s not a bad thing, it’s called having a winning quality

Oh it is especially when they’re 3 different colours "

Change with your mood do they haha

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By *ottie_84Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham


"One of my best meets all started with a wink...she’s a close friend now

One of my fwbs started with a wink...

It’s all in the eyes

It is especially with mine lol they seem to get a lot of attention

That’s not a bad thing, it’s called having a winning quality

Oh it is especially when they’re 3 different colours

Change with your mood do they haha "

Nope those colours all the time lol

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

I reply to winks and also people reply to me via winks. Nice little ice breaker without sending a potential message that won't be read

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's a good way for couples that have filters set, to then allow the person you wink at to message you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try to answer all the messages I get, I don’t have the time to look at winks.

I know a couple of my male friends like to get winks though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love winking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope don’t bother

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do..least person has thought enough to test the waters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I try to answer all the messages I get, I don’t have the time to look at winks.

I know a couple of my male friends like to get winks though "
I like to get something

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I try to answer all the messages I get, I don’t have the time to look at winks.

I know a couple of my male friends like to get winks though I like to get something "

Do winks ever lead to something?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I try to answer all the messages I get, I don’t have the time to look at winks.

I know a couple of my male friends like to get winks though I like to get something

Do winks ever lead to something? "
maybe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I try to answer all the messages I get, I don’t have the time to look at winks.

I know a couple of my male friends like to get winks though I like to get something

Do winks ever lead to something? maybe"

I love positive replies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I try to answer all the messages I get, I don’t have the time to look at winks.

I know a couple of my male friends like to get winks though I like to get something

Do winks ever lead to something? maybe

I love positive replies "
I'm very positive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do. I think it's a nice way to say, "hey, I think your sexy, take a look at my profile and wink back if your interested".

Then, I get about 2 winks a month, so not exactly drowning in them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep we check winks and reply if we're interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just winked at my two winkers

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By *oldilocksanddaddybearCouple
over a year ago

Wigan

We use winks as a way to say we like your profile, please have a look at ours see if we interest you. We also check our winks and if we are interested will wink back or just send a message xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually had a message off a couple today, who thanked me for my wink. I didn't wink them at all. I even checked their profile and saw the only interaction was their message. No winks given on either side. Strange haha.

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By *ice_fun_guyMan
over a year ago

Cranleigh

I look at my winks and if the winker appeals to me I'll either wink back or drop them a message.

As some have said above. It's a way to show some interest. If the person winks back it opens a line of communication. I think they are a good feature of the site

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By *oldilocksanddaddybearCouple
over a year ago

Wigan


"I actually had a message off a couple today, who thanked me for my wink. I didn't wink them at all. I even checked their profile and saw the only interaction was their message. No winks given on either side. Strange haha. "

We've had this recently too!! Thought hubby had been secret winking

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By *stwoCouple
over a year ago

anywhere

We don't.Clear on profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems just like lots of questions posed here. Everyone is different.

You see some profiles saying they dont use them and not waste your time.

Others say we will send a wink to show our interest.

Different stroke for different folk!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get a few winks but I don't reply...they're always from blokes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All winks and friend requests are deleted as it clearly says on my profile. You cant be bothered reading my profile, I cant be bothered either. Think I'm ignorant? Then no point going any further, sorted! Have a nice day! x x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I actually had a message off a couple today, who thanked me for my wink. I didn't wink them at all. I even checked their profile and saw the only interaction was their message. No winks given on either side. Strange haha.

We've had this recently too!! Thought hubby had been secret winking "

I wonder if it's a new fab trend, to get people replying that they hadn't winked, to open up a dialogue?

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By *inotGringoMan
over a year ago

Lancashire

I generally respond to a wink, a polite thank you and opening up the possibility of dialogue. No harm done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I generally respond to a wink with a message if the winker is of interest to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I very very rarely look at winks so no, I don’t reply to them! "

Unfortunately same here, too busy with the messages to reply to

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By *arly StagesCouple
over a year ago

Penwortham


"We use winks as a way to say we like your profile, please have a look at ours see if we interest you. We also check our winks and if we are interested will wink back or just send a message xx"

This how we like to use the wink facility too. It's like a pleasant smile or a wave.

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By *mm and HerCouple
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

We go through phases, though mainly we do. However, if they send us a friend request at the same time, we will ignore, if not block. And there are obviously those who've clearly not looked at our profile and/or are fake and/or 9 billion miles away.

What I think is odd is of all the people we've winked back, in most cases nothing happens next - are they expecting us to msg them....? So if we do like the look, we'll often drop them a msg rather than a wink.

All that said, we've pretty much given up winking people as we rarely get a response - but that could of course because they took one look at our profile and ran for the hills!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When someone winks I check them out ... but like others, if they've sent a friend request at same time or are too far I don't reply but otherwise I do check out their profile and if I like the look of it I wink back

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

I’ve just had a look at mine (very rare for me) and they are by a huge majority from people I would not meet at all (they ignored my profile) and/or many hundreds of miles away.

They winked because it’s too much effort to do anything else.

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By *vgloryholebs16TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol.

It would seem that most people reply to a wink if interested its a useful ice breaker.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine don’t seem to be working. Anyone want to test it for me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do

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By *imandHerNottsCouple
over a year ago

North Notts

We do. Sometimes it proves fruitful but all too often they wink, we wink back ................ and nothing???

We use winks ourselves to signal an interest and if we get a wink back we always follow that up with a message.

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By *isa2018Couple
over a year ago

East Northamptonshire

Occasionally we check through winks and will loom at a profile and then message if it looks interesting. It all depends on whether it's a quiet time for messages, we've caught up and have a few minutes to kill on here.

However, a wink alone is a bit of a half hearted attempt at attention. If someone messages us with a photo, as we ask on our profile, then we will always try to reply even if it's a polite thank you but you're not our type.

If you really want a response then take that 5 minutes to send a photo and a personal message rather than win at every picture you find horny and hope the law of averages works out for you.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

I have a look through and wink back if I’m interested. I won’t mail though, that’s their next move. Likewise, if I wink and get one back I’ll send a mail.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante


"We don't.Clear on profile."

Same here, which is why we know that if someone winks at us then they definitely haven't read our profile and would have no way of knowing if we were compatible. This is why we are happy to bulk delete them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use them as an ice breaker. Wink; wink back; message. Isn’t that what the point of the wink is? However, understandbly, just as ladies get tens of unsolicited messages they probably get double the number of winks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We wink back if we like the winker...

But not normally a message until they make the effort!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i like the look i wink back

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

I allways look at winks and thank them for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I allways look at winks and thank them for it"
its true

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

If they align to our type of play, always!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I often use winks to get attention as often writing a message that can capture the attention of the recipient is a daunting task so i opt for a wink and hopefully they wink back my question is this does anyone actually check there winks and if so do u follow up with a wink back or send a message "

If the person interests us. Yes of course.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I get a wink from someone I like the look of and like their profile, then I wink back. Then it's up to them to send me a message if they want to follow up the winks.

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By *ailorJerryLoversCouple
over a year ago

South Herts

Entirely depends on who's winking.

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork

This site is full of winkers

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight


"This site is full of winkers "
Blinkin' full of 'em,

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By *sagent81Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I don't really look at them or friend requests. I prefer the direct approach.

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By *hubnwife_36dd_ukCouple
over a year ago

chester


"I often use winks to get attention as often writing a message that can capture the attention of the recipient is a daunting task so i opt for a wink and hopefully they wink back my question is this does anyone actually check there winks and if so do u follow up with a wink back or send a message "

We do sometimes, after checking the winker's profile. No reasonable pics (not all cock pics please), no reasonable profile message (ffs we all know you want to meet someone, so say something fresh) and stupid entries in preferences and you have no chance to get a wink back.

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