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By *igger friendly giant OP   Man
over a year ago

wollaton

For the 2nd time someone is threatening to out me to friends and family... i don't know whos behind it as its a profile with no pic but they know stuff about me. Is there anything i can do???

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By *eepNeedingMoreMan
over a year ago

Leeds


"For the 2nd time someone is threatening to out me to friends and family... i don't know whos behind it as its a profile with no pic but they know stuff about me. Is there anything i can do???"
pay em

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

report to admin is about all you can do

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By *ackandsashaCouple
over a year ago

West Dublin

Thats horrible. Maybe close your account and start up new with a few changes, e.g. slightly different location. If the person wants to out you they will anyway,but might stop them messaging you on here.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots


"For the 2nd time someone is threatening to out me to friends and family... i don't know whos behind it as its a profile with no pic but they know stuff about me. Is there anything i can do???"

Nothing to identify you on here so what's their proof...if you see it as harassment go to the police.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How the heck have they ID'd you from your profile? You could be anyone.

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By *homasP80Man
over a year ago

Linwood


"For the 2nd time someone is threatening to out me to friends and family... i don't know whos behind it as its a profile with no pic but they know stuff about me. Is there anything i can do???

Nothing to identify you on here so what's their proof...if you see it as harassment go to the police."

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By *rwhite30Man
over a year ago

deptford London


"For the 2nd time someone is threatening to out me to friends and family... i don't know whos behind it as its a profile with no pic but they know stuff about me. Is there anything i can do???"

police

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By *alldarksurreyMan
over a year ago

surrey

Are you married op?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For the 2nd time someone is threatening to out me to friends and family... i don't know whos behind it as its a profile with no pic but they know stuff about me. Is there anything i can do???"

You seem quite well verified. Are you sure it’s not someone you’ve chatted with or even met that’s being a twat?

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By *igger friendly giant OP   Man
over a year ago

wollaton

I've now hidden my pics etc

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By *igger friendly giant OP   Man
over a year ago

wollaton

Yes

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By *igger friendly giant OP   Man
over a year ago

wollaton

Done that but to no avail...

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Can you please reply and quote so we know who you are responding to?

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By *igger friendly giant OP   Man
over a year ago

wollaton


"Are you married op?"

Yes

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By *igger friendly giant OP   Man
over a year ago

wollaton


"report to admin is about all you can do "

Ive done that to no avail

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it is black mail and harassment then call the police.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The closet is there, and if you wish to remain there then you should have the right. Tatchel types are pure evil.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is actually illegal.

This is a newspaper article manchester evening news ..

Whether it's saying they will tell people details about your sexual orientation, repeated threats to reveal personal and private information is a form of abuse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For the 2nd time someone is threatening to out me to friends and family... i don't know whos behind it as its a profile with no pic but they know stuff about me. Is there anything i can do???"

deny deny deny

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By *igger friendly giant OP   Man
over a year ago

wollaton


"It is actually illegal.

This is a newspaper article manchester evening news ..

Whether it's saying they will tell people details about your sexual orientation, repeated threats to reveal personal and private information is a form of abuse."

What can i do though... i reported it to admin but they did nothing. People like this just spoil it for others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ymnastictongueMan
over a year ago

premier inn douglas

I’m lucky to get a reply! Think it as a compliment! Ha

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By *ymnastictongueMan
over a year ago

premier inn douglas

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By *igger friendly giant OP   Man
over a year ago

wollaton


"I’m lucky to get a reply! Think it as a compliment! Ha "

Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For the 2nd time someone is threatening to out me to friends and family... i don't know whos behind it as its a profile with no pic but they know stuff about me. Is there anything i can do???"

Tell them if they message you one more time you are going to the police.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For the 2nd time someone is threatening to out me to friends and family... i don't know whos behind it as its a profile with no pic but they know stuff about me. Is there anything i can do???

Nothing to identify you on here so what's their proof...if you see it as harassment go to the police."

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"It is actually illegal.

This is a newspaper article manchester evening news ..

Whether it's saying they will tell people details about your sexual orientation, repeated threats to reveal personal and private information is a form of abuse.

What can i do though... i reported it to admin but they did nothing. People like this just spoil it for others

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Report it to the police

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Thats horrible. Maybe close your account and start up new with a few changes, e.g. slightly different location. If the person wants to out you they will anyway,but might stop them messaging you on here."

This: close account, wait a few weeks, start again with no face pic and different wording and move where you’re based and block all newbies.

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By *hubnwife_36dd_ukCouple
over a year ago

chester


"For the 2nd time someone is threatening to out me to friends and family... i don't know whos behind it as its a profile with no pic but they know stuff about me. Is there anything i can do???"

It counts as harassment and is illegal. It could see them inside.

If you are still in contact with them try to glean some useful information that could help pin down where and when they recognised you and maybe give a clue as to who they are.

Of course if they just recognised your face pics or home/workplace (e.g.like the school location of one young lady whom I had to caution re discretion recently) then you won't have much to glean from them.

Make sure you get a copy/screengrab of all their messages/content/time/username etc before going to the police.

Remember if they go UNLOS all messages will be deleted pronto making things much more difficult for you to show the problem to the authorities.

Losing the messages won't affect your "outer" as they will (if telling the truth) still know who you are and could just as easily return under a new profile.

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By *ids_NaughtyCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands


"For the 2nd time someone is threatening to out me to friends and family... i don't know whos behind it as its a profile with no pic but they know stuff about me. Is there anything i can do???"

Totally don’t condone that someone is doing this, especially if it equally results in any other third parties becoming involved.

However you state you are married - and I take it your partner isn’t aware, hence your concern. Perhaps maybe you need to focus on that element first, and delete your profile and sort out those elements(which may equally calm your accuser) before returning to here, either as a proper single guy or as a couple.

Remaining on here with what’s going on along with clearly some marriatal issues is going to end in disaster for many.

It will actually be a challenge to prove harresment(and black mail means they must equally be asking for something specific, so that be easier to charge(unless they asking you to be honest to your wife) especially if the harrasers cause is defence of your partner.

If you ousted (however much cause you may have) you just going to look like the bad guy.

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset

Call there bluff, out yourself!

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By *ids_NaughtyCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands


"Call there bluff, out yourself!"

Yes - but sounds is issue is because he’s married playing on here / but actually your idea might solve all of that! Let’s face it probably be better it came from him than his ouster! Least he’d have the bags ready when kicked out!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It partly depends what they have stated that they know about you.

Decide to use the police when/if appropriate. They will give good confidential advice too.

Reports to admin always get action though it may not be the action you would like or expect. Sometimes it requires deeper evidence, other reports or monitoring.

Consider hiding your profile for a long period.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

block them ?

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