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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talk to her?

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By *FFB69Woman
over a year ago

Torfaen/Gwent

Be an adult and talk to her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That was an easy solve.

Next thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have sex with her again

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By *r imp miss minxCouple
over a year ago

Colchester

Depends, if it lasts 360 days........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make a forum post about it

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Go to a brothel. Fuck all this talking and communication rubbish, if she isn't dying from cock lust by now then that's not something that's going to be fixed by a nice chat.

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset

Find her profile on here and arrange a meet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe she doesn't find you appealing anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do???"

Show her this profile if yours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do???"

Which year?

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do???"

Why have you only had sex with her once a year?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do???"

Have sex with her again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do???"

You are such a joker anyway what is problem with ur cock? Can I help your wife?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do???"

I had one for 6 years. Till i did something about it. No not chesting before you ask lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do???

I had one for 6 years. Till i did something about it. No not chesting before you ask lol "

One what?

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By *ribsaMan
over a year ago

A box at end of your bed

Check she not having an affair mine was. When I was in sexless marriage, She was getting her sex somewhere else it was only me getting it once or twice a year. Not saying your wife is having an affair.

I got out moved into my own place 3 weeks ago having time of my life now had more sex in 3 week than had in 5 years with her.

Good luck I feel for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Find her profile on here and arrange a meet!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Find her profile on here and arrange a meet!"

PMSL.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Do you know why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have sex with her again"

Giggles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Check she not having an affair mine was. When I was in sexless marriage, She was getting her sex somewhere else it was only me getting it once or twice a year. Not saying your wife is having an affair.

I got out moved into my own place 3 weeks ago having time of my life now had more sex in 3 week than had in 5 years with her.

Good luck I feel for you."

When Do you think she started to have affair before or after sexless marriage ?

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Talk to her, maybe she knows your on here and that's why your not getting sex off her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do???

I had one for 6 years. Till i did something about it. No not chesting before you ask lol

One what?"

Sorry typo none i meant

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do???"

Fuck I am single and I haven't found Someone I want to have sex with in more than a year, beat that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do???"

I'll ask her for you once shes not so busy

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By *ida8780Couple
over a year ago

any town

Ask dear Deidre

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Talk to her?"

Relationships involve relating so talk find a common ground or bed or kitchen counter... fuck it any surface will do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do???

Fuck I am single and I haven't found Someone I want to have sex with in more than a year, beat that! "

Two years two months here

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do???

Fuck I am single and I haven't found Someone I want to have sex with in more than a year, beat that!

Two years two months here "

What the hell are we doing wrong?

If we were closer.....maybe?

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I can beat that. I didn’t have sex with her in two years. I did sort the problem out though.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I left her.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

How do we know it's his wife's fault,he may be the reason they've not had sex.

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By *inkerbell67Woman
over a year ago

Clacton on sea essex

Add a bit of romance or take her away for a weekend with out the kids,most of all communicate with each outher if all else fails find your self a mistress

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do???

Fuck I am single and I haven't found Someone I want to have sex with in more than a year, beat that!

Two years two months here "

What, since you've had sex? How on earth do you cope?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op, you need to have a conversation with your wife and get her to talk totally honest. You will need to remain calm, and listen, but prepare yourself that you might not like what she tells you.

Only then can you decide what your next step is. Good luck OP.

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By *FFB69Woman
over a year ago

Torfaen/Gwent


"Check she not having an affair mine was. When I was in sexless marriage, She was getting her sex somewhere else it was only me getting it once or twice a year. Not saying your wife is having an affair.

I got out moved into my own place 3 weeks ago having time of my life now had more sex in 3 week than had in 5 years with her.

Good luck I feel for you."

You moved out 3 weeks ago? So did her affair start before or after you joined fab?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been there (though wasn't married 12yrs is like a marriage!), done that, tried the talks, found someone else, couldn't be happier...

Mistress Amelia x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say don’t do anything...

Just live your life and be happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seduce her. Think of her as a potential new girl friend.

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By *LkinkyfunCouple
over a year ago

stockport

That’s hard very lonely but yes maybe talking would help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stop lying just to get attention!

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By *traight up guyMan
over a year ago

Morpeth

Have the conversation that I had with my wife when I was married;

Me - Is sex important in our relationship?

Her - No, not really.

Me - So it doesn't matter if I get it somewhere else then, does it?

Her - Now you put it like that, yes it is.

Me - So why don't we have it more often?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have the conversation that I had with my wife when I was married;

Me - Is sex important in our relationship?

Her - No, not really.

Me - So it doesn't matter if I get it somewhere else then, does it?

Her - Now you put it like that, yes it is.

Me - So why don't we have it more often?"

Honestly there is nothing you can do , when there is no sex in a marriage....

You’re just roommates, that live together because of children or a crazy amount of debt...

I have lived with 2 women and when the sex stops. The relationship is over

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By *effrey45Man
over a year ago

Lytham


"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do???"

If you’d posted this on the 1st January I wouldn’t have been worried

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have the conversation that I had with my wife when I was married;

Me - Is sex important in our relationship?

Her - No, not really.

Me - So it doesn't matter if I get it somewhere else then, does it?

Her - Now you put it like that, yes it is.

Me - So why don't we have it more often?"

Had this mid way through last year, been single single November.

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By *lackbird1000Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

You have action pictures on your profile , you don't disclose on there you are married . And you been before and back for more !

Right When you took your vows did you involved strangers from a swingers site ?

Marriage in my opinion is to be discussed between the people involved ! Sometimes I wonder why people get married with someone and they feel they can't speak with that person . I rather be single and alone ! If something is wrong in my relationship. I would ask my partner first and if I am not happy tell him!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You have action pictures on your profile , you don't disclose on there you are married . And you been before and back for more !

Right When you took your vows did you involved strangers from a swingers site ?

Marriage in my opinion is to be discussed between the people involved ! Sometimes I wonder why people get married with someone and they feel they can't speak with that person . I rather be single and alone ! If something is wrong in my relationship. I would ask my partner first and if I am not happy tell him! "

Exactly...... if my girlfriend is not having sex with me. I’m going to find out why

Not wait a year with no sex.....

No way

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By *rkeb3Man
over a year ago

east Lancashire road

tie a

her up and u know what to do after give her a good whipping lol

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By *ap AdgeMan
over a year ago

Wirral


"Check she not having an affair mine was. When I was in sexless marriage, She was getting her sex somewhere else it was only me getting it once or twice a year. Not saying your wife is having an affair.

I got out moved into my own place 3 weeks ago having time of my life now had more sex in 3 week than had in 5 years with her.

You are quite correct

Good luck I feel for you."

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By *andare63Man
over a year ago

oldham


"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do???"

You are on a swingers site ? And asking this on a forum ? This place always ceases to amaze me

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

He's away at the north pole ,he's father Christmas and only cums once a year

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By *ribsaMan
over a year ago

A box at end of your bed


"Check she not having an affair mine was. When I was in sexless marriage, She was getting her sex somewhere else it was only me getting it once or twice a year. Not saying your wife is having an affair.

I got out moved into my own place 3 weeks ago having time of my life now had more sex in 3 week than had in 5 years with her.

Good luck I feel for you.

You moved out 3 weeks ago? So did her affair start before or after you joined fab? "

Was told 3 years ago to find sex somewhere else. I joined fab about 2 years ago. Our marriage had been over for years. We are still friends with no hard or ill feelings towards each other we had just grown apart. It just took an affair to get us to do something about it. We are both much happier now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get off here and talk to her.

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By *ot40sCouple
over a year ago

birmingham


"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do???"

Haven’t read the whole thread but does she know you are on here ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's obvious. Search for a thread where a woman hasn't had sex with her husband in a year and do the polar opposite to the advice given.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For a woman who went through this in a past relationship. He jus was more interested in his gaming and other hobbies than spending time with me.

It got to the point a open relationship happened and it made matters worse that i decided to end it and start alone and again

Best advice. Dont cheat. Talk to the person with your concerns if still no reconciliation or no compromise then you have 2 choices.

Stay or leave

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By *edbath 5Man
over a year ago

london

Same here. I love wanking. That helps and if I can I get the occasional meet if a guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You both need to sit down and talk it through, there could be a number of things..

If you love each other then that's half the battle.

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By *uniperjuiceMan
over a year ago

East Midlands

There's some good advice among the various (including some ribald) comments above. If you're not getting all you need from a partner, then discussing it with them is a sensible first start. However there is not always a simple solution, and there are plenty of people on Fab (male and female) who are looking for something extra in secret from their partners.

Maybe sometimes a love life can be rekindled. Maybe you can learn to live without. Maybe sometimes a partner can accept that you're free to find sex with others but are still committed to the relationship. Maybe in some cases it's better for all concerned for a relationship to end and new relationships to start. But sometimes there is no perfect answer and we have to choose the "least worst" option.

For many on here, ending a marriage would be harmful (emotionally, psychologically, financially) to themself, to partner, to children and others. But enforced abstinence might also be emotionally harmful. Sometimes having affairs might be a least worst option.

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

There's only one lesson to learn here OP...

Only bring personal stuff on this forum in the understanding that many (most?) posters will take glee in taking the piss because you're a bloke asking. If you were a woman it would have been widespread pity and "sending hugs" crap.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


".

For many on here, ending a marriage would be harmful (emotionally, psychologically, financially) to themself, to partner, to children and others. But enforced abstinence might also be emotionally harmful. Sometimes having affairs might be a least worst option. "

Yet if the other found out the person was having a affair it could destroy them equally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's some good advice among the various (including some ribald) comments above. If you're not getting all you need from a partner, then discussing it with them is a sensible first start. However there is not always a simple solution, and there are plenty of people on Fab (male and female) who are looking for something extra in secret from their partners.

Maybe sometimes a love life can be rekindled. Maybe you can learn to live without. Maybe sometimes a partner can accept that you're free to find sex with others but are still committed to the relationship. Maybe in some cases it's better for all concerned for a relationship to end and new relationships to start. But sometimes there is no perfect answer and we have to choose the "least worst" option.

For many on here, ending a marriage would be harmful (emotionally, psychologically, financially) to themself, to partner, to children and others. But enforced abstinence might also be emotionally harmful. Sometimes having affairs might be a least worst option. "

Eh, so long as the spouse doesn't find out. People can do as they choose, dressing it up as doing their unwitting spouse a favour doesn't really cut it.

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By *ornymike_2017Man
over a year ago

Tranmere

Talking works my situation is slightly different. I won’t go into specifics on here. Although I should say she wanted to but couldn’t. After a lot of talking we decided that swinging would be ideal for me. I have full blessing to do what ever I want with who I want. She will even come to the club with me for the social side. We have made some very close friendships over the last year and our relationship has never been stronger and more loving.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Talking works my situation is slightly different. I won’t go into specifics on here. Although I should say she wanted to but couldn’t. After a lot of talking we decided that swinging would be ideal for me. I have full blessing to do what ever I want with who I want. She will even come to the club with me for the social side. We have made some very close friendships over the last year and our relationship has never been stronger and more loving. "

It sounds like you have a great wife.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Some good advice here but a bit patronising too. “Talk to her” well wow, I bet nobody in the situation of seeing their relationship die and the happiness of their kids at stake has ever thought of that

If you haven’t already tried this then get the hell out of there, your spouse can do better.

For me, talking only works if she will listen, if she won’t then maybe it’s worth trying counselling. I’m not saying it will definitely fix stuff but if she’s not taking your sexual needs seriously then she won’t take your concerns seriously either. She might do if a counsellor says it.

Good luck

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"There's only one lesson to learn here OP...

Only bring personal stuff on this forum in the understanding that many (most?) posters will take glee in taking the piss because you're a bloke asking. If you were a woman it would have been widespread pity and "sending hugs" crap."

Rubbish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Man U got some balls to post that on here. Know how u feel. No one would understand and that’s why us blokes get ripped into when they talk about married men. They wonder why we are on here they just don’t get it. I’m sure there are women on here who are married and bored but they don’t get slagged out.

God knows why I am saying all this but well done pal for spking out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some good advice here but a bit patronising too. “Talk to her” well wow, I bet nobody in the situation of seeing their relationship die and the happiness of their kids at stake has ever thought of that

If you haven’t already tried this then get the hell out of there, your spouse can do better.

For me, talking only works if she will listen, if she won’t then maybe it’s worth trying counselling. I’m not saying it will definitely fix stuff but if she’s not taking your sexual needs seriously then she won’t take your concerns seriously either. She might do if a counsellor says it.

Good luck"

If only that works

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By *uniperjuiceMan
over a year ago

East Midlands


".

For many on here, ending a marriage would be harmful (emotionally, psychologically, financially) to themself, to partner, to children and others. But enforced abstinence might also be emotionally harmful. Sometimes having affairs might be a least worst option.

Yet if the other found out the person was having a affair it could destroy them equally

"

that is true. One must try hard to do as little harm as possible. That may mean abstinence, but that can make some people irritable and bad company. If the cheating route is taken, then I guess it would be good to be as discreet as possible so there's little chance of it turning out badly for all parties.

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By *uniperjuiceMan
over a year ago

East Midlands


"Talking works my situation is slightly different. I won’t go into specifics on here. Although I should say she wanted to but couldn’t. After a lot of talking we decided that swinging would be ideal for me. I have full blessing to do what ever I want with who I want. She will even come to the club with me for the social side. We have made some very close friendships over the last year and our relationship has never been stronger and more loving. "

Wonderful outcome, and a wonderfully understanding partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If she really won't have sex with you and you have tried all options, then have sex with other people. If she doesn't accept that you need and want sex, do it without her knowledge. Just be careful and don't get caught

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


".

For many on here, ending a marriage would be harmful (emotionally, psychologically, financially) to themself, to partner, to children and others. But enforced abstinence might also be emotionally harmful. Sometimes having affairs might be a least worst option.

Yet if the other found out the person was having a affair it could destroy them equally

"

They should expect it, if they are withholding sex from them. Or be understanding if there is something stopping them from having sex permanently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


".

For many on here, ending a marriage would be harmful (emotionally, psychologically, financially) to themself, to partner, to children and others. But enforced abstinence might also be emotionally harmful. Sometimes having affairs might be a least worst option.

Yet if the other found out the person was having a affair it could destroy them equally

They should expect it, if they are withholding sex from them. Or be understanding if there is something stopping them from having sex permanently. "

Remember this is one side of the story

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


".

For many on here, ending a marriage would be harmful (emotionally, psychologically, financially) to themself, to partner, to children and others. But enforced abstinence might also be emotionally harmful. Sometimes having affairs might be a least worst option.

Yet if the other found out the person was having a affair it could destroy them equally

They should expect it, if they are withholding sex from them. Or be understanding if there is something stopping them from having sex permanently.

Remember this is one side of the story "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's obvious. Search for a thread where a woman hasn't had sex with her husband in a year and do the polar opposite to the advice given."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The truth is, it's hard to advise with such limited information. My questions would be:

1) Is this a recent thing? Were you guys really sexually active and adventurous and then one day it just stopped? Or has she never been particularly interested in sex?

2) Does she know you're on here? If not, maybe she suspects you are cheating and doesn't want any 'nasty surprises'?

3) Have you talked to her about it? What was her reaction? Is she concerned, or not?

There are many reasons why people lose interest in sex; depression, physical health issues, hormones - menopause, childbirth, birth control can all have an effect. Not feeling loved and appreciated. Doing too much (if someone is working, looking after young kids and managing a house, you can hardly expect them to be interested in fucking at the end of the day). No physical/sexual attraction towards a partner, or feelings of anger and resentment. Cheating, or suspecting a partner of cheating.

Some of those issues can be resolved with good communication, a little effort made by both parties, and possibly counselling. Others probably mean the relationship is over.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Eat cake.

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By *FFB69Woman
over a year ago

Torfaen/Gwent


"Check she not having an affair mine was. When I was in sexless marriage, She was getting her sex somewhere else it was only me getting it once or twice a year. Not saying your wife is having an affair.

I got out moved into my own place 3 weeks ago having time of my life now had more sex in 3 week than had in 5 years with her.

Good luck I feel for you.

You moved out 3 weeks ago? So did her affair start before or after you joined fab?

Was told 3 years ago to find sex somewhere else. I joined fab about 2 years ago. Our marriage had been over for years. We are still friends with no hard or ill feelings towards each other we had just grown apart. It just took an affair to get us to do something about it. We are both much happier now."

So it's ok for you to have sex with others but when she did it, it's an affair?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's some good advice among the various (including some ribald) comments above. If you're not getting all you need from a partner, then discussing it with them is a sensible first start. However there is not always a simple solution, and there are plenty of people on Fab (male and female) who are looking for something extra in secret from their partners.

Maybe sometimes a love life can be rekindled. Maybe you can learn to live without. Maybe sometimes a partner can accept that you're free to find sex with others but are still committed to the relationship. Maybe in some cases it's better for all concerned for a relationship to end and new relationships to start. But sometimes there is no perfect answer and we have to choose the "least worst" option.

For many on here, ending a marriage would be harmful (emotionally, psychologically, financially) to themself, to partner, to children and others. But enforced abstinence might also be emotionally harmful. Sometimes having affairs might be a least worst option. "

Wise words.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do???

I'll ask her for you once shes not so busy "
ruthless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your on a swinging site looking for sex with other people and she's not wanted to have sex with you in over a year I think you know the answer here yourself in fairness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do???"

At least she let you take pictures...

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Is there a way back from this? Not this specific situation but any relationship where sex has dwindled to practically nothing. Can desire and intimacy be rekindled?

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Is there a way back from this? Not this specific situation but any relationship where sex has dwindled to practically nothing. Can desire and intimacy be rekindled? "

Personally I don't think there is, I have been in the same situation before, when I tried to settle for a nice guy, I just didn't desire any sexual relations with him further down the line so I had no choice but to end it, as we just ended up being housemates tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do???

Fuck I am single and I haven't found Someone I want to have sex with in more than a year, beat that!

Two years two months here

What, since you've had sex? How on earth do you cope? "

To be honest, the longer you go without it the easier it gets. It’s not like I’m desperate or anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do???

Fuck I am single and I haven't found Someone I want to have sex with in more than a year, beat that!

Two years two months here

What the hell are we doing wrong?

If we were closer.....maybe? "

If only, judging by your pics and profile I don’t think you’re doing anything wrong at all. Maybe you’re looking for something you won’t necessarily find on here. Maybe I am too. x

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do???

Fuck I am single and I haven't found Someone I want to have sex with in more than a year, beat that!

Two years two months here

What, since you've had sex? How on earth do you cope?

To be honest, the longer you go without it the easier it gets. It’s not like I’m desperate or anything. "

Tis true, I'm now at 15 months I don't even masterbate lol

I hesitate in finding a new sexual partner without being sure I like them as a person as I know my sexual prowess will be awakened insatiably once I have had a taste for it again so just makes finding that next partner harder to find when you know what is in front of you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try washing yer stinky knob more than once a year then!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get a new 1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do???

Fuck I am single and I haven't found Someone I want to have sex with in more than a year, beat that!

Two years two months here

What, since you've had sex? How on earth do you cope?

To be honest, the longer you go without it the easier it gets. It’s not like I’m desperate or anything.

Tis true, I'm now at 15 months I don't even masterbate lol

I hesitate in finding a new sexual partner without being sure I like them as a person as I know my sexual prowess will be awakened insatiably once I have had a taste for it again so just makes finding that next partner harder to find when you know what is in front of you "

Same here, 7 months and not 1 bit horny lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tis true, I'm now at 15 months I don't even masterbate lol"

OMG, really? Wow!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mind you, I haven't had any sex in over 3 years!

Yes, I masturbate a lot!

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Tis true, I'm now at 15 months I don't even masterbate lol

OMG, really? Wow!"

Believe it or not sex is not a vital art of the human form, we can function without it, not always through choice but it is an enjoyable act obviously, I am just maybe more than a bit reluctant to just give up my new found virginity to just anyone, which doesn't really help me, but hey, that is the route I am choosing as I couldn't just have sex with anyone anyway!

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do???

Fuck I am single and I haven't found Someone I want to have sex with in more than a year, beat that!

Two years two months here

What, since you've had sex? How on earth do you cope?

To be honest, the longer you go without it the easier it gets. It’s not like I’m desperate or anything.

Tis true, I'm now at 15 months I don't even masterbate lol

I hesitate in finding a new sexual partner without being sure I like them as a person as I know my sexual prowess will be awakened insatiably once I have had a taste for it again so just makes finding that next partner harder to find when you know what is in front of you

Same here, 7 months and not 1 bit horny lol"

Been there and done that lol, be warned as soon as you have sex again, you will be opening the flood gates

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Check she not having an affair mine was. When I was in sexless marriage, She was getting her sex somewhere else it was only me getting it once or twice a year. Not saying your wife is having an affair.

I got out moved into my own place 3 weeks ago having time of my life now had more sex in 3 week than had in 5 years with her.

Good luck I feel for you.

When Do you think she started to have affair before or after sexless marriage ?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're by no means alone. I have chatted to loads of guys who have a "brother and sister" relationship with their wife. Totally sexless. It's much more widespread than you think. However most.men continue the marriage as for social, financial, economical reasons etc they can't afford to call it quits.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tis true, I'm now at 15 months I don't even masterbate lol

OMG, really? Wow!

Believe it or not sex is not a vital art of the human form, we can function without it, not always through choice but it is an enjoyable act obviously, I am just maybe more than a bit reluctant to just give up my new found virginity to just anyone, which doesn't really help me, but hey, that is the route I am choosing as I couldn't just have sex with anyone anyway! "

Sex is a basic human want and need though and is one of life's most pleasurable things to do. Wouldn't like to think we had to go without it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do???"
speak to her about it and ask her why also buy her haribos because her answer will sound so much funnier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If your on a swinging site looking for sex with other people and she's not wanted to have sex with you in over a year I think you know the answer here yourself in fairness "
wrong deodorant maybe

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Tis true, I'm now at 15 months I don't even masterbate lol

OMG, really? Wow!

Believe it or not sex is not a vital art of the human form, we can function without it, not always through choice but it is an enjoyable act obviously, I am just maybe more than a bit reluctant to just give up my new found virginity to just anyone, which doesn't really help me, but hey, that is the route I am choosing as I couldn't just have sex with anyone anyway!

Sex is a basic human want and need though and is one of life's most pleasurable things to do. Wouldn't like to think we had to go without it."

If sex is a basic human need why, according to so many men, do so many women not need it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tis true, I'm now at 15 months I don't even masterbate lol

OMG, really? Wow!

Believe it or not sex is not a vital art of the human form, we can function without it, not always through choice but it is an enjoyable act obviously, I am just maybe more than a bit reluctant to just give up my new found virginity to just anyone, which doesn't really help me, but hey, that is the route I am choosing as I couldn't just have sex with anyone anyway!

Sex is a basic human want and need though and is one of life's most pleasurable things to do. Wouldn't like to think we had to go without it.

If sex is a basic human need why, according to so many men, do so many women not need it?"
they just can't make up their minds if truth be known

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Tis true, I'm now at 15 months I don't even masterbate lol

OMG, really? Wow!

Believe it or not sex is not a vital art of the human form, we can function without it, not always through choice but it is an enjoyable act obviously, I am just maybe more than a bit reluctant to just give up my new found virginity to just anyone, which doesn't really help me, but hey, that is the route I am choosing as I couldn't just have sex with anyone anyway!

Sex is a basic human want and need though and is one of life's most pleasurable things to do. Wouldn't like to think we had to go without it.

If sex is a basic human need why, according to so many men, do so many women not need it?they just can't make up their minds if truth be known "

How do you mean?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mines been sleeping on the sofa for the majority of our marriage. I can count on one hand how many times we've had sex in the last 15 years.

However as you get older, it gets less important.

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By *uniperjuiceMan
over a year ago

East Midlands


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Believe it or not sex is not a vital art of the human form, we can function without it, not always through choice but it is an enjoyable act obviously, ... "

People are very varied in this respect. (And maybe there are gender differences too).

Some people can have a happy sexless life or stage of life; others find abstinence depressing, and lack of sex will have a negative effect on their broader life (work, mood, relationships, energy levels etc). It's not a basic human need at quite the same level as oxygen or food, but for some people it's not far off. Thankfully self-service can be adequate for many people for a while at least, even though it's always nicer to give and share and respond.

As well as people who find involuntary deprivation depressing and others who find it harmless, there is of course also the more unusual notion of enforced chastity in a D/s relationship which some people can find fulfilling at a rather profound level.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tis true, I'm now at 15 months I don't even masterbate lol

OMG, really? Wow!

Believe it or not sex is not a vital art of the human form, we can function without it, not always through choice but it is an enjoyable act obviously, I am just maybe more than a bit reluctant to just give up my new found virginity to just anyone, which doesn't really help me, but hey, that is the route I am choosing as I couldn't just have sex with anyone anyway!

Sex is a basic human want and need though and is one of life's most pleasurable things to do. Wouldn't like to think we had to go without it.

If sex is a basic human need why, according to so many men, do so many women not need it?they just can't make up their minds if truth be known

How do you mean?"
Well think about it you try something new on you've just bought it you love it but you've got something else that goes better with the shoes you love and then you find your favourite handbag which goes with neither, so you say to hubby or partner what do I look best in, he says that or that and you put on what you originally had on saying well what's wrong with this then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there a way back from this? Not this specific situation but any relationship where sex has dwindled to practically nothing. Can desire and intimacy be rekindled? "

Couldn’t for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Something has gone on that is making you both resentful. A wall has gone up and it's very high, Needs knocking down somehow. Probably a good honest come clean about something needs doing otherwise give up and do the honourable thing and fuck off out of it.

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By *trawberry MojitoWoman
over a year ago

over the hill & far away, like Princess Fiona.

You and every other guy on here, they all say that

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Tis true, I'm now at 15 months I don't even masterbate lol

OMG, really? Wow!

Believe it or not sex is not a vital art of the human form, we can function without it, not always through choice but it is an enjoyable act obviously, I am just maybe more than a bit reluctant to just give up my new found virginity to just anyone, which doesn't really help me, but hey, that is the route I am choosing as I couldn't just have sex with anyone anyway!

Sex is a basic human want and need though and is one of life's most pleasurable things to do. Wouldn't like to think we had to go without it.

If sex is a basic human need why, according to so many men, do so many women not need it?they just can't make up their minds if truth be known

How do you mean?Well think about it you try something new on you've just bought it you love it but you've got something else that goes better with the shoes you love and then you find your favourite handbag which goes with neither, so you say to hubby or partner what do I look best in, he says that or that and you put on what you originally had on saying well what's wrong with this then "

No, I'm sorry I genuinely don't understand the point you're making

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tis true, I'm now at 15 months I don't even masterbate lol

OMG, really? Wow!

Believe it or not sex is not a vital art of the human form, we can function without it, not always through choice but it is an enjoyable act obviously, I am just maybe more than a bit reluctant to just give up my new found virginity to just anyone, which doesn't really help me, but hey, that is the route I am choosing as I couldn't just have sex with anyone anyway!

Sex is a basic human want and need though and is one of life's most pleasurable things to do. Wouldn't like to think we had to go without it.

If sex is a basic human need why, according to so many men, do so many women not need it?they just can't make up their minds if truth be known

How do you mean?Well think about it you try something new on you've just bought it you love it but you've got something else that goes better with the shoes you love and then you find your favourite handbag which goes with neither, so you say to hubby or partner what do I look best in, he says that or that and you put on what you originally had on saying well what's wrong with this then

No, I'm sorry I genuinely don't understand the point you're making "
when does a woman truelly no for definite what she wants

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do???

Fuck I am single and I haven't found Someone I want to have sex with in more than a year, beat that!

Two years two months here

What, since you've had sex? How on earth do you cope?

To be honest, the longer you go without it the easier it gets. It’s not like I’m desperate or anything.

Tis true, I'm now at 15 months I don't even masterbate lol

I hesitate in finding a new sexual partner without being sure I like them as a person as I know my sexual prowess will be awakened insatiably once I have had a taste for it again so just makes finding that next partner harder to find when you know what is in front of you "

Totally true, so I thought a swingers sight would be perfect way to find a Friend with benefit, someone I liked as a person, who could become a genuine friend who wants to meet say once a month have a good time, enjoy each others company then enjoy each other, but there's just as many 'player's' and bullshitters in here, now 16 months WTF!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tis true, I'm now at 15 months I don't even masterbate lol

OMG, really? Wow!

Believe it or not sex is not a vital art of the human form, we can function without it, not always through choice but it is an enjoyable act obviously, I am just maybe more than a bit reluctant to just give up my new found virginity to just anyone, which doesn't really help me, but hey, that is the route I am choosing as I couldn't just have sex with anyone anyway!

Sex is a basic human want and need though and is one of life's most pleasurable things to do. Wouldn't like to think we had to go without it.

If sex is a basic human need why, according to so many men, do so many women not need it?they just can't make up their minds if truth be known

How do you mean?Well think about it you try something new on you've just bought it you love it but you've got something else that goes better with the shoes you love and then you find your favourite handbag which goes with neither, so you say to hubby or partner what do I look best in, he says that or that and you put on what you originally had on saying well what's wrong with this then

No, I'm sorry I genuinely don't understand the point you're making when does a woman truelly no for definite what she wants "

I actually do

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By *ornymike_2017Man
over a year ago

Tranmere


"Talking works my situation is slightly different. I won’t go into specifics on here. Although I should say she wanted to but couldn’t. After a lot of talking we decided that swinging would be ideal for me. I have full blessing to do what ever I want with who I want. She will even come to the club with me for the social side. We have made some very close friendships over the last year and our relationship has never been stronger and more loving.

It sounds like you have a great wife."

Thank you. I certainly do she’s wonderful

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

No sex in my marraige for at least 2 yrs before we split. Frankly, I grew to hate him even breathing near me !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tis true, I'm now at 15 months I don't even masterbate lol

OMG, really? Wow!

Believe it or not sex is not a vital art of the human form, we can function without it, not always through choice but it is an enjoyable act obviously, I am just maybe more than a bit reluctant to just give up my new found virginity to just anyone, which doesn't really help me, but hey, that is the route I am choosing as I couldn't just have sex with anyone anyway!

Sex is a basic human want and need though and is one of life's most pleasurable things to do. Wouldn't like to think we had to go without it.

If sex is a basic human need why, according to so many men, do so many women not need it?they just can't make up their minds if truth be known

How do you mean?Well think about it you try something new on you've just bought it you love it but you've got something else that goes better with the shoes you love and then you find your favourite handbag which goes with neither, so you say to hubby or partner what do I look best in, he says that or that and you put on what you originally had on saying well what's wrong with this then

No, I'm sorry I genuinely don't understand the point you're making when does a woman truelly no for definite what she wants

I actually do"
really...... Would love opportunity to find out if that's true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tis true, I'm now at 15 months I don't even masterbate lol

OMG, really? Wow!

Believe it or not sex is not a vital art of the human form, we can function without it, not always through choice but it is an enjoyable act obviously, I am just maybe more than a bit reluctant to just give up my new found virginity to just anyone, which doesn't really help me, but hey, that is the route I am choosing as I couldn't just have sex with anyone anyway!

Sex is a basic human want and need though and is one of life's most pleasurable things to do. Wouldn't like to think we had to go without it.

If sex is a basic human need why, according to so many men, do so many women not need it?they just can't make up their minds if truth be known

How do you mean?Well think about it you try something new on you've just bought it you love it but you've got something else that goes better with the shoes you love and then you find your favourite handbag which goes with neither, so you say to hubby or partner what do I look best in, he says that or that and you put on what you originally had on saying well what's wrong with this then

No, I'm sorry I genuinely don't understand the point you're making when does a woman truelly no for definite what she wants "

That's actually quite an awful generalisation... that's like saying all men only care about sex.

I'm a woman, I know what I want, and I have no problems communicating that.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Tis true, I'm now at 15 months I don't even masterbate lol

OMG, really? Wow!

Believe it or not sex is not a vital art of the human form, we can function without it, not always through choice but it is an enjoyable act obviously, I am just maybe more than a bit reluctant to just give up my new found virginity to just anyone, which doesn't really help me, but hey, that is the route I am choosing as I couldn't just have sex with anyone anyway!

Sex is a basic human want and need though and is one of life's most pleasurable things to do. Wouldn't like to think we had to go without it.

If sex is a basic human need why, according to so many men, do so many women not need it?they just can't make up their minds if truth be known

How do you mean?Well think about it you try something new on you've just bought it you love it but you've got something else that goes better with the shoes you love and then you find your favourite handbag which goes with neither, so you say to hubby or partner what do I look best in, he says that or that and you put on what you originally had on saying well what's wrong with this then

No, I'm sorry I genuinely don't understand the point you're making when does a woman truelly no for definite what she wants "

99.9% of the time I reckon. That old stereotype is pretty outmoded.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do???

Fuck I am single and I haven't found Someone I want to have sex with in more than a year, beat that!

Two years two months here

What, since you've had sex? How on earth do you cope?

To be honest, the longer you go without it the easier it gets. It’s not like I’m desperate or anything.

Tis true, I'm now at 15 months I don't even masterbate lol

I hesitate in finding a new sexual partner without being sure I like them as a person as I know my sexual prowess will be awakened insatiably once I have had a taste for it again so just makes finding that next partner harder to find when you know what is in front of you

Totally true, so I thought a swingers sight would be perfect way to find a Friend with benefit, someone I liked as a person, who could become a genuine friend who wants to meet say once a month have a good time, enjoy each others company then enjoy each other, but there's just as many 'player's' and bullshitters in here, now 16 months WTF!! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can’t masturbate any more or have sex think I have lost my mojo big time or maybe just on the down ward slop after the surgery but hay ho we can still look but don’t touch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a great thread...lots of useful opinions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have sex with her again"

Solid advice!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have sex with her again

Solid advice! "

Sorry I know this is nothing to do with this thread but just had to say your profile name is great, really made me smile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe you've not shown her the attention she has required and now has no interest in you. If she's no interest maybe she's found it in other places, activities or someone else. Find her interests and maybe engage with her there and see if you can get her interest back again. You'll never know if you don't try.

Just my thoughts.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Female perspective here. I didn’t have Sexy with my husband for a year. Different reasons - I had a medical issue which Itself didn’t stop me from having sex but combined with stress and depression I wasn’t in the mood but he wasn’t exactly being supportive either. When I did show an interest he didn’t. He left me and three kids and after a few months moved in with some one else.

Yes it takes two to make the effort but there are often other reasons. Talking about issues is not easy especially if one half has already made up their mind to leave.

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By *inkerbell67Woman
over a year ago

Clacton on sea essex

Get a blow up doll lol

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By *illing to please46Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

She probably getting it from someone else

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By *exmanMan
over a year ago

Stainforth

The only reason she’s not playing with you is that every time you go out on meet from fab the lads go round and give a good gangbang

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talk to her.

Can you afford to divorce her?

Can you afford not to divorce her?

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By *RealHandfulWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

My honest advice would be for you (and her if you can get her to) to read Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel and see if she’ll go to a couples/sex therapist with you, that is if you want the relationship to continue. It’s honestly the best book for understanding long term relationships and trying to balance love and lust.

Maybe monogamy isn’t for you, maybe it is and you’re on here because you feel so helpless in the current set up. You’ll have to figure that out and work out what your partner wants too. As long as you’re both open to talking about it on some level, I think there’s hope x

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By *ykeymm8Man
over a year ago

southampton

Try doing some laundry. Might be her kink lol

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough


"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do???"

Sorry, I do like to keep her busy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get permission from her to play away, similar to the Wives on here do in their sex less marriages...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tis true, I'm now at 15 months I don't even masterbate lol

OMG, really? Wow!

Believe it or not sex is not a vital art of the human form, we can function without it, not always through choice but it is an enjoyable act obviously, I am just maybe more than a bit reluctant to just give up my new found virginity to just anyone, which doesn't really help me, but hey, that is the route I am choosing as I couldn't just have sex with anyone anyway!

Sex is a basic human want and need though and is one of life's most pleasurable things to do. Wouldn't like to think we had to go without it.

If sex is a basic human need why, according to so many men, do so many women not need it?"

Testosterone. Average male levels are 17 times higher than women's. It's not the only answer, and obviously many women do have a high sex drive. But female bodybuilders who use testosterone alongside their training often report a sharp rise in sexual desire and a new urgency for sex.

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By *r lotharioMan
over a year ago

newcastle-under-lyme


"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do???

Why have you only had sex with her once a year? "

because he's santa clause and he only cums once a year????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wonder if being on here as a single guy....and also being bi ( no I dont have a problem with anyone's sexuality) may be why. We all give off subconscious signals or are able to pick up on things in a significant others life.

Have you tried talking to each other?

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By *ids_NaughtyCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

Insure her then bury her under the patio...don’t get a dog though, Mine dug up the last 3.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I think some of the comments are a bit unfair. I wasn’t seeing anyone else even though my husband at the time wasn’t interested. I wasn’t interested in having sex but at the same time we weren’t even beng as cuddly with each other either.

There is a basic instinct to feel wanted and to have contact with someone. Something I’m still looking for on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have sex with her again"
but that would be twice his yearly ration

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By *aptain VMan
over a year ago

Birstall, Leicester


"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do???"

Do you want me to speak to her and see wat I can do

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By *ingleFleetGuyMan
over a year ago

New Forest

Feeling your frustration!

Have permission to look elsewhere but couples don't believe me. Prefer couples as less chance of involvement (not what I want anyway!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do???"

My heart goes out to you, as a bloke - and I realise that females also experience this - who went through the same for many years.

If you can talk to your lady about this, and aren't afraid to ask for professional help, then maybe what appears to be broken might be mended.

In my case, none of the above were possible, she simply viewd sex as dirty, buse & vile, went so far as to.say it was unnatural, so after nine years I bailed out.

I hope you work it out.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do???"

What year was it ?

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall


"Find her profile on here and arrange a meet!"

Lmao far too much at this

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow

Its her fannyversary present to him

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By *evonshireboyMan
over a year ago

North Devon

Might be a bit late but...

My partner and I haven't had sex in 3.5 years (been together 25). Sex life was originally OK. Dwindled after having kids, and eventually stopped completely.

My survival technique was to (after about 18mnths) have an affair. My partner doesn't officially know, but I'm sure she suspects or does know. But it's probably easier for her to pretend it's not happening.

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By *illing to please46Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

She’s getting it from somewhere else trust me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I blame boxes of condoms....

My ex and i bought boxes of 12, and rattled through them to start with, but it did tail off to once a month, and 12 in a box made an excelent xmas prezzie

Then she started buying boxes of three, so when i asked why, she said leap years didnt count any more...

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"She’s getting it from somewhere else trust me"

Not necessarily, trust me and lots of therapy as a couple and individuals. There can be lots of reasons.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"She’s getting it from somewhere else trust me"

I trust you not. There are clear differences between male and female sexuality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Might be a bit late but...

My partner and I haven't had sex in 3.5 years (been together 25). Sex life was originally OK. Dwindled after having kids, and eventually stopped completely.

My survival technique was to (after about 18mnths) have an affair. My partner doesn't officially know, but I'm sure she suspects or does know. But it's probably easier for her to pretend it's not happening."

That's sad but completely understandable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I blame boxes of condoms....

My ex and i bought boxes of 12, and rattled through them to start with, but it did tail off to once a month, and 12 in a box made an excelent xmas prezzie

Then she started buying boxes of three, so when i asked why, she said leap years didnt count any more...

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Go to a brothel. Fuck all this talking and communication rubbish, if she isn't dying from cock lust by now then that's not something that's going to be fixed by a nice chat. "

Love this answer

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"Go to a brothel. Fuck all this talking and communication rubbish, if she isn't dying from cock lust by now then that's not something that's going to be fixed by a nice chat.

Love this answer "

he UNLOS so guess either he became a wanker of went to a brothel lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Go to a brothel. Fuck all this talking and communication rubbish, if she isn't dying from cock lust by now then that's not something that's going to be fixed by a nice chat.

Love this answer

he UNLOS so guess either he became a wanker of went to a brothel lol "

Or he found the Mrs on here

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"Go to a brothel. Fuck all this talking and communication rubbish, if she isn't dying from cock lust by now then that's not something that's going to be fixed by a nice chat.

Love this answer

he UNLOS so guess either he became a wanker of went to a brothel lol

Or he found the Mrs on here "

aye thats possible too lol

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

I imagine that is why some people come here because they don’t get sex at home.

So many people in sexless relationships and it really isn’t as easy as

“ just talk to them “ either . Sometimes they have become so unapproachable you cannot even start ‘the conversation. ‘

Shrugs ! you just give up in the end and accept what you have ( or have not) as it isn’t worth the hassle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I imagine that is why some people come here because they don’t get sex at home.

So many people in sexless relationships and it really isn’t as easy as

“ just talk to them “ either . Sometimes they have become so unapproachable you cannot even start ‘the conversation. ‘

Shrugs ! you just give up in the end and accept what you have ( or have not) as it isn’t worth the hassle."

This is bullshit you just pack your bags and walk away like i did when i was in one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I imagine that is why some people come here because they don’t get sex at home.

So many people in sexless relationships and it really isn’t as easy as

“ just talk to them “ either . Sometimes they have become so unapproachable you cannot even start ‘the conversation. ‘

Shrugs ! you just give up in the end and accept what you have ( or have not) as it isn’t worth the hassle.

This is bullshit you just pack your bags and walk away like i did when i was in one. "

i did and no regrets

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter


"I imagine that is why some people come here because they don’t get sex at home.

So many people in sexless relationships and it really isn’t as easy as

“ just talk to them “ either . Sometimes they have become so unapproachable you cannot even start ‘the conversation. ‘

Shrugs ! you just give up in the end and accept what you have ( or have not) as it isn’t worth the hassle.

This is bullshit you just pack your bags and walk away like i did when i was in one. "

Not bullshit at all. The relationship isn’t all about sex in the end would be very shallow to walk away, we don’t dislike each other enough for that.

Couldn’t be bothered with the disruption at my age may be if I were 26 years younger it would be another story .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I imagine that is why some people come here because they don’t get sex at home.

So many people in sexless relationships and it really isn’t as easy as

“ just talk to them “ either . Sometimes they have become so unapproachable you cannot even start ‘the conversation. ‘

Shrugs ! you just give up in the end and accept what you have ( or have not) as it isn’t worth the hassle.

This is bullshit you just pack your bags and walk away like i did when i was in one. "

There are many reasons why people can't just walk away. It's not that simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I imagine that is why some people come here because they don’t get sex at home.

So many people in sexless relationships and it really isn’t as easy as

“ just talk to them “ either . Sometimes they have become so unapproachable you cannot even start ‘the conversation. ‘

Shrugs ! you just give up in the end and accept what you have ( or have not) as it isn’t worth the hassle.

This is bullshit you just pack your bags and walk away like i did when i was in one. "

Oh if only it was so simple as that eh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Empty bank account before you leave her..

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter


"Empty bank account before you leave her.."

Or of course, before you leave him but the problem is no matter where you stash it, it can be found.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

15 years with mine. Beat that!

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter


"15 years with mine. Beat that!"

Easily..

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By *ySweetLadyWoman
over a year ago

London


"I imagine that is why some people come here because they don’t get sex at home.

So many people in sexless relationships and it really isn’t as easy as

“ just talk to them “ either . Sometimes they have become so unapproachable you cannot even start ‘the conversation. ‘

Shrugs ! you just give up in the end and accept what you have ( or have not) as it isn’t worth the hassle.

This is bullshit you just pack your bags and walk away like i did when i was in one.

There are many reasons why people can't just walk away. It's not that simple. "

Agree with this.

My husband stopped all intimacy the moment we found out we were finally going to become parents. That was over 10 years ago. I tried, countless times to change the situation but there was a point when one more rejection was a rejection too many and I stopped trying. That is when I found fab.

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By *ensualguy70TV/TS
over a year ago

paisley

and the same happened with me one rejection too many and so i found fab and have fun with both sexes now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Learn from most of the guys on here....

1. Ask her 'Hows yous'

2. Show her a pic of your cock.

Job sorted!

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter


"I imagine that is why some people come here because they don’t get sex at home.

So many people in sexless relationships and it really isn’t as easy as

“ just talk to them “ either . Sometimes they have become so unapproachable you cannot even start ‘the conversation. ‘

Shrugs ! you just give up in the end and accept what you have ( or have not) as it isn’t worth the hassle.

This is bullshit you just pack your bags and walk away like i did when i was in one.

There are many reasons why people can't just walk away. It's not that simple.

Agree with this.

My husband stopped all intimacy the moment we found out we were finally going to become parents. That was over 10 years ago. I tried, countless times to change the situation but there was a point when one more rejection was a rejection too many and I stopped trying. That is when I found fab."

So sorry to read that . How horrid for you. Hard to believe isn’t it, not what you expected at all . Was he brought up to think sex was only for procreation

Did he always have a low sexdrive .? I fear that was our problem .

Hope you find some good meets here. ( can’t message you privately )

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By *armupartistMan
over a year ago

York

After our children arrived my Mrs lost all interest in sex. We still had sex but it felt as if I was doing it 'to her' not something that we were doing together for our mutual pleasure - hence I backed off. I didn't actively look elsewhere but eventually had a long standing, undemanding but sexual relationship with a single woman at work. I know that I wasn't her only lover but in short it was an ideal relationship from the point of view of a man in a sexless relationship and the sex was good. Sadly it came to an end after I retired and it became difficult to sustain the affair in a discreet way. We both agreed, so it wasn't like walking away from a 'lover'. We still meet for the occasional coffee and reflect on the 'games' we played together.

At home the sexless relationship came to something of a head via my general unhappiness and we ended up at Relate. Despite the source of my unhappiness my wife revealed to me in the presence of the Relate counsellor that she would not be unhappy, "if she never had sex again in her life"! Many would have walked away from the relationship but in ALL other ways it was good and also we wanted to keep the family together.

Then I discovered the swinging community whilst on an adventure holiday given to me as a present. I was befriended by a lovely couple and ended up 'sharing' his wife - what a joy - a pity it was so late in life. My wife knows about me 'playing away from home' but simply prefers 'not to know about it' - if the is not double Dutch!

Thanks to this community I am now a happier man and easier to live with at home!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Learn from most of the guys on here....

1. Ask her 'Hows yous'

2. Show her a pic of your cock.

Job sorted!"

Hahahahahahahahahahahahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Warm your cold feet between her thighs that works for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think sex for a woman is more about trust than sex for a man. If she cannot open up to you sex is never going to happen. Let her trust you and you'll get laid .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lick a dick

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