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"myself and wifey are off to chams on the 20th nov, our first ever club visit ! and just wondering about male dress code , i know they say either a towel or shorts,but do boxer shorts count as shorts or do they have to be proper shorts ? thanks in advance" boxer shorts are fine...kev wore some nice silk ones ...he thought shorts would make him look like a scout master | |||
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"Most guys on Friday were wearing boxers... Or towels.. I couldnt imagine going to a club where people were dressed.. it would just feel so wrong lol Cali. x" Its different but fun...as it gives you a chance to dress in a way you cant outside | |||
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"the male dress code is the one overriding factor for me having no desire whatsoever to go to Chams." And most other clubs I suspect. What would you want to wear? | |||
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" What would you want to wear?" Jeffery West leopard print ponyskin winklepickers for starters | |||
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" What would you want to wear? Jeffery West leopard print ponyskin winklepickers for starters" class!! | |||
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"Quite a few guys wear boxers, in fact thats my favourite to see a guy in there nice pair of kalvins or whatever" Thanks for that, black calvins it is then | |||
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"We have been members for about 4 years now. The first time I phoned them about joining they told me that the dress code was "No outdoor clothes". On my first visit I wore boxers, but most times since then I've worn denim cut offs. " What about all those folks that always wear their coats indoors?? what do the men wear on their top half if they are a little self conscious? Would a nice T-shirt be ok? | |||
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"We have been members for about 4 years now. The first time I phoned them about joining they told me that the dress code was "No outdoor clothes". On my first visit I wore boxers, but most times since then I've worn denim cut offs. What about all those folks that always wear their coats indoors?? what do the men wear on their top half if they are a little self conscious? Would a nice T-shirt be ok?" I have worn a vest or tee shirt on a number of occaisions | |||
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"the male dress code is the one overriding factor for me having no desire whatsoever to go to Chams." Same here, I just wouldnt feel comfortable...I dont even like going out in trainers. I just really havn't got the body for 'just shorts/boxers'... | |||
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" Same here, I just wouldnt feel comfortable...I dont even like going out in trainers. I just really havn't got the body for 'just shorts/boxers'..." I'm as body conscious as the next guy so I can see where your coming from but that isn't my issue with the dress code. It's the fact that women are allowed - and indeed encouraged to express themselves in what they wear, whereas the men are expected to be cloned stunt cocks - expression is frowned upon and we are to wear as little as possible so we can be ready for action at a moments notice. why can't male swingers peacock a bit? Last time I looked women love men who dress up and make an effort. Chams are so clueless they can go fuck themselves as far as I'm concerned | |||
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" Chams are so clueless they can go fuck themselves as far as I'm concerned" Thats a bit harsh don't you think? OK, you dislike the dress code, but Xtasia has a different dress code so maybe people who don't like Chameleons can go there. No need to swear is there? Also, the women might not have the same rules, but we're still likely to wear something that is easily removed for some sexy fun. Full evening dress just isn't going to cut it practicality wise. It really isn't Chams fault that male lingerie hasn't caught on. | |||
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" Chams are so clueless they can go fuck themselves as far as I'm concerned" Blimey, theres no need for that. How about "I dont have the same thoughts as Chams so will take my business elsewhere!" Personally I hate clubs where everyone is dressed to the nines. I much prefer clubs where people where as little as possible. I can see the point in men / women wearing sexy underwear, but I dont want to go to a fashion show! x | |||
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" Blimey, theres no need for that. How about "I dont have the same thoughts as Chams so will take my business elsewhere!" " You know if Chams weren't so fascistic about what the male dress code should be (at least the last time I checked the website they were rather strident about it - never bothered even visiting the website since then TBH) I might take a more relaxed attitude towards it - and lets face it - if the boot was on the other foot and the women were expected to follow an easy-accesss-to-your-bits-ready-for-action-at-all-time-no-room-for-individuality dress code there would be a lot more objection to it. so, like I said, chams can go .......... | |||
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"The dress code is clearly stated on Chams for all to see, as well as club rules, membership fees and entry fees etc... One does not have to agree with them, and if he/she does not, he/she has the choice to decide whether to visit/join or not. Simples! " Club rules also say that sex on the premises is prohibited Work that one out | |||
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"So Cham's is a sham? Lol surely at some point in the evening the blokes will be starkers anyway when they are entertaining the ladies " Be nice to be given the choice though? | |||
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"So Cham's is a sham? Lol surely at some point in the evening the blokes will be starkers anyway when they are entertaining the ladies Be nice to be given the choice though?" You are given a choice.....don't go! | |||
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" Same here, I just wouldnt feel comfortable...I dont even like going out in trainers. I just really havn't got the body for 'just shorts/boxers'... I'm as body conscious as the next guy so I can see where your coming from but that isn't my issue with the dress code. It's the fact that women are allowed - and indeed encouraged to express themselves in what they wear, whereas the men are expected to be cloned stunt cocks - expression is frowned upon and we are to wear as little as possible so we can be ready for action at a moments notice. why can't male swingers peacock a bit? Last time I looked women love men who dress up and make an effort. Chams are so clueless they can go fuck themselves as far as I'm concerned" you can peacock yourselves, nice sexy boxers, maybe some leather....or pvc....bet they'd even let yu wear a leather harness if you wanted to go on.....give it a chance | |||
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" Chams are so clueless " Considering you seem to think Chams is clueless........ its the most popular and successful club in the country. They've got it right somewhere don't you think? **By the way, I've tried other clubs and the last 'dress' club I went to, the women spent most of the night discussing the prices of their dresses, moaning about their feet hurting in 8" heels and showing off their jewellery - Made me feel totally inadequate- two sides to every story mate** | |||
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" Chams are so clueless Considering you seem to think Chams is clueless........ its the most popular and successful club in the country. They've got it right somewhere don't you think? **By the way, I've tried other clubs and the last 'dress' club I went to, the women spent most of the night discussing the prices of their dresses, moaning about their feet hurting in 8" heels and showing off their jewellery - Made me feel totally inadequate- two sides to every story mate**" i tend to end up naked no matter what but have heard of clubs like this...and have my own private list of clubs i will never visit. i want to fack,not pose! | |||
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"calvins are lovely on some of the men. " emphasis on the 'some' part of that statement sorry but they do not look good on bigger built fella's hence why i'd never spend more than a fiver on a pair of underkex and hence why i'd generally opt for the towel option that said, as someone else above has said, towel twitchers (i like that term) make me cringe, so you have to take me flaccid or semi and work your magic | |||
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"Well my understanding of the dress code at Chams is, you can wear "outdoor clothes" in the bar/lounge area downstairs but in the wet area and upstairs it's dress down to underwear/towels....for both men and women" No my lovely. It's no outdoor clothes anywhere in the club. The parties are a bit of an exception because we do tend to make them fancy dress for those that want to wear a bit more..... But most people are right. By the end of the night, with a few shags, 3 dips in the jacuzzi and a go in the sauna..... most people are down to nowt or towels. Now you can't do all that fully | |||
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"I've only been once, but I liked that the dress code seemed to help it all seem more relaxed and open. Hard to feel intimidated as a newbie if everyone's dressed down. If there were men wandering round in sharp suits looking like gangsters? Rather less welcoming, I think." We went to a club once where a guy looked like he'd just stepped out of a Zorro film and his partner was having a hissy fit because she'd snagged her £300 dress on some blokes cock ring and had got a run on the sleeve......... Actually, Chams takes away the class system I find and puts everyone on an even keel. | |||
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"I've only been once, but I liked that the dress code seemed to help it all seem more relaxed and open. Hard to feel intimidated as a newbie if everyone's dressed down. If there were men wandering round in sharp suits looking like gangsters? Rather less welcoming, I think. We went to a club once where a guy looked like he'd just stepped out of a Zorro film and his partner was having a hissy fit because she'd snagged her £300 dress on some blokes cock ring and had got a run on the sleeve......... Actually, Chams takes away the class system I find and puts everyone on an even keel." i agree and am trying to convince a friend who is conscious of her body that everyone being naked is a great leveler. | |||
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"I've only been once, but I liked that the dress code seemed to help it all seem more relaxed and open. Hard to feel intimidated as a newbie if everyone's dressed down. If there were men wandering round in sharp suits looking like gangsters? Rather less welcoming, I think. We went to a club once where a guy looked like he'd just stepped out of a Zorro film and his partner was having a hissy fit because she'd snagged her £300 dress on some blokes cock ring and had got a run on the sleeve......... Actually, Chams takes away the class system I find and puts everyone on an even keel. i agree and am trying to convince a friend who is conscious of her body that everyone being naked is a great leveler." I fully understand what your getting at there Jemima but that approach is no consolation to a lot of people though ...its like saying 'youll be ok cos theres load of other ugly overweight people there' Its a pity that 'normal' clothing cant be worn in the bar/lounge...we would love to go and soak up the atmosphere downstairs..its sposed to be really good. | |||
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"I've only been once, but I liked that the dress code seemed to help it all seem more relaxed and open. Hard to feel intimidated as a newbie if everyone's dressed down. If there were men wandering round in sharp suits looking like gangsters? Rather less welcoming, I think. We went to a club once where a guy looked like he'd just stepped out of a Zorro film and his partner was having a hissy fit because she'd snagged her £300 dress on some blokes cock ring and had got a run on the sleeve......... Actually, Chams takes away the class system I find and puts everyone on an even keel. i agree and am trying to convince a friend who is conscious of her body that everyone being naked is a great leveler. I fully understand what your getting at there Jemima but that approach is no consolation to a lot of people though ...its like saying 'youll be ok cos theres load of other ugly overweight people there' Its a pity that 'normal' clothing cant be worn in the bar/lounge...we would love to go and soak up the atmosphere downstairs..its sposed to be really good." As the women can dress as sexy as they want, what is the problem? At the end of the day, they will probably look as good, if not better, in nice, sexy underwear/club wear, than wearing last years 'style' for the fashion snobs to laugh at. As for the men. You can see if they are 'ugly' whether or not they are in a towel or in clothes and you will dam well see if they are 'fat' as well. The only difference is, they may have a belt holding up their trousers whilst sucking their stomachs in, rather than just a towel. You still get naked at a dress club..... or am I missing the point that in these 'dress' clubs, you shag with your clothes on? | |||
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"the male dress code is the one overriding factor for me having no desire whatsoever to go to Chams." DITTO. I would much rather have cloths on as i walk round the club. I don't get the reason behind it myself. | |||
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"the male dress code is the one overriding factor for me having no desire whatsoever to go to Chams. DITTO. I would much rather have cloths on as i walk round the club. I don't get the reason behind it myself." Chameleons is a WET club. 2 Jacuzzi's on the ground floor, steam room on the first floor and a sauna on the second floor. Therefore, where ever you go, there is what is deemed as a wet room and only towels are allowed (for obvious reasons) Unlike alot of dress clubs, every single person who goes into chameleons gets a locker and they get to keep the key. No worrying about where your clothes go when you want to have sex, no worrying about carrying money or if anyone is going to pinch your wallet, no worrying about having a blokey in the corner, wanking into ya best dress when you've taken it off and folded it into a nice neat pile. You pay at the end of the night on your way out, no worries about money or whether or not you have the right change for the condom machine, its all available behind the bar. It's like I don't get how anyone can walk around a club, fully clothed, with their purse, make up, condoms, lube, credit card, jewellery and an expensive dress and NOT worry about whats going to happen to them when they eventually get undressed and where they are going to put said items. I also don't get how people who are after NSA sex, in a club, where it is usually hot, sweaty and rampant, can find a bloke hopping about with his kegs down to his knees, trying to get his socks off, whilst holding a condom in between his teeth... sexy. Each to their own I suppose. | |||
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""""As the women can dress as sexy as they want, what is the problem? """ As long as its something sexy..." Have you seen what some women wear in the 'dress' clubs? I have, and its usually me they are laughing at as I have no fashion sense and think that a clean t-shirt with a pair of jeans is suitable attire for a night out! | |||
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"Getting back to what guys can wear, the reason I probably wouldn`t like a club like Extasia for instance, is that I have little fashion sense and I seldom go anywhere to justify having "nice" clothes. My existing wardrobe would leave me so self concious in most club/social situations, so the system at Chams suits me just fine!" We have only been to a small number of clubs, and in those the guys just wore jeans and a shirt, nothing flashy. So other than a few nice shirts, i haven't felt the need to expand my wardrobe and never felt judged on what i was wearing. I had thought about going to Chams at one point, but the more i hear about it, the more i think we will give that one a miss. | |||
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"I would not feel comfortable in a club where I am being judged by my attire. I do not like to wear my formal jewellery going to a club when I have to take them off in order to play (I would normally only wear a pair of earrings when I play), and worry about them being lost/stolen/etc... To me, Chams is great in that it removed the barriers that can be created by clothing, accessories and jewellery. Some still try to outdo others though, however, they are not the ones I mix with, as I prefer the company of easy-going peeps rather than peacocks and alphas. " Whats an 'alpha' Pearl please? | |||
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"I've only been once, but I liked that the dress code seemed to help it all seem more relaxed and open. Hard to feel intimidated as a newbie if everyone's dressed down. If there were men wandering round in sharp suits looking like gangsters? Rather less welcoming, I think. We went to a club once where a guy looked like he'd just stepped out of a Zorro film and his partner was having a hissy fit because she'd snagged her £300 dress on some blokes cock ring and had got a run on the sleeve......... Actually, Chams takes away the class system I find and puts everyone on an even keel. i agree and am trying to convince a friend who is conscious of her body that everyone being naked is a great leveler. I fully understand what your getting at there Jemima but that approach is no consolation to a lot of people though ...its like saying 'youll be ok cos theres load of other ugly overweight people there' Its a pity that 'normal' cant be worn in the bar/lounge...we would love to go and soak up the atmosphere downstairs..its sposed to be really good." Come up north and visit clubf with us then,perfect combination,naked,sexy or towels upstairs,whatever you want downstairs! Thats a serious offer | |||
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"the male dress code is the one overriding factor for me having no desire whatsoever to go to Chams." i do understand what you mean i remember the first time i went feeling very put out by the fact people was walking around in underwar and towels, i felt it sounded very seedy and thought id look a right twat lol but to be honest once your in there, because everyones wearing the same you dont feel daft or out of place at all, infact your feel more uncomfy and out of place walking around dressed | |||
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"the male dress code is the one overriding factor for me having no desire whatsoever to go to Chams. DITTO. I would much rather have cloths on as i walk round the club. I don't get the reason behind it myself." i have been to clubs where people stay dressed and to be honest i dont like it i remember being at one club and playing in a room and looking up to see 4 or 5 fully dressed guys, one even still had his coat on, stood watching now i dont mind guys watching at all but when im naked and playing on a bed i find it very intimidating and quite off putting to find fully dressed people in the room watching in the club where people wear towels etc everyone is on the same level and i just find it 'softer' and more comfy to be watched and touched by people who are also undressed rather than guys stood about with their coats on | |||
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"the male dress code is the one overriding factor for me having no desire whatsoever to go to Chams. i do understand what you mean i remember the first time i went feeling very put out by the fact people was walking around in underwar and towels, i felt it sounded very seedy and thought id look a right twat lol but to be honest once your in there, because everyones wearing the same you dont feel daft or out of place at all, infact your feel more uncomfy and out of place walking around dressed" +1 Our first night there we were really worried about it, but by the end of the night as people started to leave it actually felt weird seeing people in clothes. I'm sure others may agree you feel most conscious walking in fully clothed than you ever do in a towel. Ta D&K | |||
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