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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

our profile says it all i thought...

so why we get messages all day but actual meet time no one around......guys take a look at your selves.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh dear. OP, I am here to have fun with fun people. I would drop you in my selection process because your profile reads like you guys are quite angry and aggressive Maybe I am not alone and this is why you are struggling to find the fun you want?

Anyway, not here to criticise, purely an observation x

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"our profile says it all i thought...

so why we get messages all day but actual meet time no one around......guys take a look at your selves....."

Shit happens. You might want to try a club or social to get to know people and build up a contact list for when you're horny. Works for me anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You won't find any timewasters at a club!

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

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You have had 4 meets in 5 weeks, some would say that is pretty good going and yes your profile does read aggresive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile portays you both as stroppy and agressive, personally we'd not message you let alone meet you.

Lose the agressive attitude, lose the negativity, change your current status to something worthwhile and you might find that people are a bit more warm towards you.

Having said that, it would appear that you've had a few meets in the very short time that you've been members, so all in all you ain't done too bad at all in the great scheme of things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i agree with others too aggressive i wouldnt message you. change your profile. it must of been less aggressive to get meets you have had.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Calling people fucking idiots is a warm introduction to you as a couple is it.

Your profile is full of negativity and its threatening. Whilst I agree that timewasters are a pain in the arse, the way you communicate seems to be aggressive and maybe messages conveyed that too.

I wouldn't correspond with you.

Try a friendly and fun approach and I hope it works out more positively in future for you

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"our profile says it all i thought...

so why we get messages all day but actual meet time no one around......guys take a look at your selves....."

your profile does say it all - says you are negative and angry. If fab bothers you that much maybe you should delete your pffile. this is about fun at the end of the day, no fun = no swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we feel the same as other on here we wouldnt message you or meet with you i would look at your profile and make it less agressive. The first line in your profile was enough for us to say not for us.If you dont want to be on fab then go ahead and delete your profile but you havent done too bad in the time you have been on here with getting meets. Timewasters can be a problem but look at it as experiance and move on!!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

I spoke to you a couple of weeks ago hoping that you got loads of meets... but i have to agree with what everyone else says...

negativity breeds negativity...

think of your profile as your shop window, if one profile was bubbly and up, the other was dour and down... which would you go into???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, I've just checked your profile, and it looks fine to me........ I guess you've recently changed it, following comments from the above

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"OP, I've just checked your profile, and it looks fine to me........ I guess you've recently changed it, following comments from the above "

yep - much improved

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus


"our profile says it all i thought...

so why we get messages all day but actual meet time no one around......guys take a look at your selves....."

But you got a verification today....... was that not from last night?

Or should I just ignore verifications....

From....

Confused of Cheltenham

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"our profile says it all i thought...

so why we get messages all day but actual meet time no one around......guys take a look at your selves.....

But you got a verification today....... was that not from last night?

Or should I just ignore verifications....

From....

Confused of Cheltenham"

Perhaps verbal abuse DOES work! Hmmmmmm.....

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus


"our profile says it all i thought...

so why we get messages all day but actual meet time no one around......guys take a look at your selves.....

But you got a verification today....... was that not from last night?

Or should I just ignore verifications....

From....

Confused of Cheltenham

Perhaps verbal abuse DOES work! Hmmmmmm....."

Remind me to try it at the Christmas Party.........

I might get a shag!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Our profile wasn't so shit until we started getting pissed around...see the verifications i think they all think we down to earth. Sorry I was pissed off and pissed. But since the post we had one night with out a meet and the other it took until 1am to get a meet.

What annoys us is we get messages all week about the weekend and then they disappear. We try to meet every fri and sat night so is that not genuine enough!!! or is the a wife a swinging slut?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Our profile wasn't so shit until we started getting pissed around...see the verifications i think they all think we down to earth. Sorry I was pissed off and pissed. But since the post we had one night with out a meet and the other it took until 1am to get a meet.

What annoys us is we get messages all week about the weekend and then they disappear. We try to meet every fri and sat night so is that not genuine enough!!! or is the a wife a swinging slut?"

I can only sympathise and offer a "single man's" point of view (for whatever weight that carries. Assumption is the mother of all fuck-ups, despite what other people have said. I too am pissed off at getting a mail at midnight "come round", really? its fucking midnight...... I have been down the pub and sunk 4 jars of ale, really not going to happen

So it comes down to timing, and I concur that this is such a difficult thing, too long between contact and arrangement and meet = failed meet (in my experience)

But hell I have done the 3am mad dash across the county, really not good prep

I have no answers for you, only sympathy and I hope that your next weekend meet is successful, because there is nothing worse than putting a bunch of other people of for your confirmed friday/saturday meet, only to get blown out at the last minute, I know

P xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

@_abio

We were on swinging heaven when u were...but pissed off with a certain couple hogging the chat room yet all the guys we met had never been with them! Yes on one occasion we met 4 different guys in one week! So just like to let people know we been on here 5 weeks and meet 4 guys but have been on other sites as mentioned and local swingers...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

@paul90...so you in devon and we in durham as bloody usual!

Is it so hard lol...you could drive up but by then your hard would have been abused a few times lol

Sorry

Maybe next year, we planing a holiday down your way.

And thanks again for been so understanding

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"@paul90...so you in devon and we in durham as bloody usual!

Is it so hard lol...you could drive up but by then your hard would have been abused a few times lol

Sorry

Maybe next year, we planing a holiday down your way.

And thanks again for been so understanding"

We all get messed about, for some this is a fantasy for others a reality, I do OK, and I am happy (anymore and i fear I would not perform, already I think my meets suffer from my over exuberance).

I will not always be in Devon, I will not always be anywhere (the nature of my vocation), you are not the first to be "played" with and you wont be the last, smile, they are the ones that missed out, trust me on this

P xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

you just hoping we meet somewhere for a good fuck session lol

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

You seem very angry in your reply's on here as they all have swearing in them. Maybe it's a little off putting to other people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow! That is the improved profile? Comes across as downright rude! I'd hate to imagine what the original was like!

It's the other people on the sites perogative whether they choose to meet you in the end, and for me, both your profile and 'number' of meets would put me off! Sorry!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im sorry the meets arent happening as you'd wish. I too have just read ur profile and also think 'bloody hell and this is the updated friendly version'

I know it can get very frustrating, when i was a single fem i too got messed around and let down. Its disappointing and can leave u feeling jaded.

But i think the only way to deal with it is to just thrug it off and move on. By taking ur frustration out on wording both on ur profile (and messages to potential playmates) just makes u look angry aggressive and off putting!

Dont let it get to you, remember there are lots of lovely peeps who will turn up and play!

good luck

x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just a pointer the fact u meet most weekends may put some peeps off....ur profile may also put peeps off as they may think you are very unfriendly and aggressive from the off...

Also if you dont get a meet one weekend its not life n death....theres life outside swinging lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"our profile says it all i thought...

so why we get messages all day but actual meet time no one around......guys take a look at your selves.....

your profile does say it all - says you are negative and angry. If fab bothers you that much maybe you should delete your pffile. this is about fun at the end of the day, no fun = no swinging"
i would say that 2

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"our profile says it all i thought...

so why we get messages all day but actual meet time no one around......guys take a look at your selves.....

your profile does say it all - says you are negative and angry. If fab bothers you that much maybe you should delete your pffile. this is about fun at the end of the day, no fun = no swingingi would say that 2"

Me three, sorry u are local to us and there is no way we wud consider you, we swing with people for fun, and you come across as negative and angry.

We dont care how many meets someone has had, ive done double figures in a club enough times But if we are meeting a couple outside a club we need to know we will get on.

As for people not being around when u want to meet, ever heard of forward planning Why shud ppl be available at your convience.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You did get mail from a genuine and reliable type last week but didn't reply!

I suppose sometimes its very easy to choose the wrong guys.

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

am i missing something ...

if ops has actually made FIRM plans for a meet at the weekend then either persons going to turn up or they can report that person to admin as a no show . from what ive picked up no date ,time and place has been set so hardly a shock when nothing happens !

if op assummes that people will just be free at weekend because they are, then im afraid thats why theres issues ! people will either make def plans with someone else for a meet or just go out and enjoy themselves !

ive had a guy message for ages going on about meeting and i just tell him to get back to me with date and time hes free and he disapears ,then others who arrange definate meet details ...gess which ones i meet ...... lol!

end of day throwing strops about not getting meets when YOU want em is not going to get ppl flocking to you .even if you go to a club theres no garentee anyone will want to play with you there ,are you going to throw the toys out of the pram then too???? the fact your blaming drink for your out burst is a warning flag to most . if you are like that on drink then dont drink.does you no favours and certianly wouldnt make people feel comfortable being alone with yous .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with all of the above but I will also ad ( no offence intended) maybe your not there cup of tea or they got a better offer?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if we have time to meet we prefer going to a club cause the chances of having fun are a lot better then meeting private...

Finding the time for meets are rare for us and we always try and make sure that we have fun if we can meet. Best is to meet someone before for a social to see if they turn up and if both sides are still interested....

fingers crossed that it works out better for you next time!

Sandra xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

fact is ur always going to get people who cancel/drop out/dont turn up, its just the way things are

some bottle it, others have things in their life that if they come up make swinging take a back burner,

its just the way things are

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