FabSwingers.com forum: what am i doing so wrong on here

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i am sending emails that are polite well manered but they either just delete or read and dont reply is is that hard to get a regular female lay mate off here or to meet a couple ????

any tips would be very appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its tough for single guys.

always has been always will be.

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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Think of it like chatting 'em up on a night out... some ya win... some ya loose...

otoh it's a waiting game m8... the longer you've been around the easier it gets

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You expected to find a regular playmate to meet other couples all within two weeks?!! Really?!!

I fear you're going to disappointed with this site!

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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

"You expected to find a regular playmate to meet other couples all within two weeks?!! Really?!!

I fear you're going to disappointed with this site!"

think it helps if youre a dentist or taxman by vocation... lol

Wolf

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By *ants Horse Hung CockMan
over a year ago

co durham

Hi, I agree its very hard for me too. I send polite messeges like you demon, but they get deleted or ignored, very fustrating. As you can see ive been on here for years and had very little to show, it didnt get any easier for me. If someone can give a few pointers too that would be great

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

any tips would be very appreciated "

Patience.

And maybe spell check your profile - I don't mean to be a snob, but its important to some people.

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By *exygirl SexyboyCouple
over a year ago

newcastle upon tyne

Be original, be amusing and funny. The messages you send dont send a copy and paste kind as you can spot them a mile off and that lacks originality and that youve got a "lazy" attitude. Above all be patient it really is true that the best things come to those that wait!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Be original, be amusing and funny. The messages you send dont send a copy and paste kind as you can spot them a mile off and that lacks originality and that youve got a "lazy" attitude. Above all be patient it really is true that the best things come to those that wait!

copied n pasted the above response cos am a lazy fucker lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i am sending emails that are polite well manered but they either just delete or read and dont reply is is that hard to get a regular female lay mate off here or to meet a couple ????

any tips would be very appreciated "

Get rid of the "legal warning" nonesense.

Maybe take yourself off to Partners one night and start to mix and socialise.

But most of all be patient.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile is full of spelling mistakes, lousy punctuation and not one capital (upper case) letter in sight.

The thing could easily be fixed with a bit of effort. At the moment the whole thing comes accross as "here it is, I couldn't be arsed to do any better".

Of course it gets ignored!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

PS.If all else fails get the bus into Heywood, you can`t fail to get a shag there.

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By *exygirl SexyboyCouple
over a year ago

newcastle upon tyne

pmsl @ raisealaff

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"i am sending emails that are polite well manered but they either just delete or read and dont reply is is that hard to get a regular female lay mate off here or to meet a couple ????

any tips would be very appreciated "

time, patience, common sense...

you been here a whole two weeks... you have had meets.... what more were you expecting..

people have been here and waited months for meets.... trust me... you are no position to complain!

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

2 weeks?

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By *im halpertMan
over a year ago

redditch

you need to join a club and make friends face to face . there are folks on here who never meet and they just like the chat etc, which is fine for them, but most people we have met on here we met in person at clubs and parties

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi your straight but it shows your friends with tvs can be off putting to some so just hide your friends list. The usual socials, clubs etcthe more people you meet the more luck you will have shame our not closer you are a sexy guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a lot of people are in for a bit of a shock when they join a swinging site. A lot of men assume its easy sex, that the women on here are nymphomaniacs, wanting major shagfests 24/7 and will shag anyone, anywhere, anytime. They join up and are shocked when they dont get a response. They find out that swinging is not about that at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think a lot of people are in for a bit of a shock when they join a swinging site. A lot of men assume its easy sex, that the women on here are nymphomaniacs, wanting major shagfests 24/7 and will shag anyone, anywhere, anytime. They join up and are shocked when they dont get a response. They find out that swinging is not about that at all.

well I agree but also know alot who dont care for the other aspects of swinging such as friendships, boiling down to yet again there is no perfect routine for swinging or perfect type of swinger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to understand that we get so many guys showing an interest. They all want to have sex. T would be shagging 10 to 15 guys a night if we said yes to all of them. Be patient. dont be pushy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After 2 weeks you post this thread ????

God almighty some guys are on here 6 months, 12 months even and they don't get a meet. The site is called Fabswingers not Comegatashagfromagagginwoman.com

PS - your 'disclaimer' at the end of your profile ain't worth Jack Shit and it also puts lots of people off.

Best thing to do is get rid of it then relax .....

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

"You expected to find a regular playmate to meet other couples all within two weeks?!! Really?!!

I fear you're going to disappointed with this site!"

I'll reiterate the above.

2 weeks???????????????

Good god man, did you expect it to be an easy shag just because it's a swinging site?

Some of the more popular blokes have waited up to a year to get their first meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

guys got a disclaimer on his profile?-so did I up until a few weeks ago....i just couldnt be arsed taking it off.Plenty of couples and single women have the disclaimer on profile, It doesnt have a bearing on their meets(and didnt have a bearing on mine)-maybe i shouldve took it off years ago and wOOooaahHHhhhhhh! more meets more meets.

To the OP the "lay mate" didnt sound too good lol-rather than tell the OP what he shouldnt be expecting for being on 2 weeks, lets give him constructive advice. get to a club/social, mix and mingle and if ur as polite as u say u are and have some personality u might find some nice future meets from this site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We were here a year before anyone even replied to any of our messages, even though we were quite "busy" on another site

Can you pull in your "real" life? If not you will find it just as difficult here.

Also, take onboard the tips you get from the ladies who are answering you on this thread, after all, it's them you are wanting to shag. If you choose to ignore them, chances are you'll have to wait a little longer for a shag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i am sending emails that are polite well manered but they either just delete or read and dont reply is is that hard to get a regular female lay mate off here or to meet a couple ????

any tips would be very appreciated "
your not alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi, I agree its very hard for me too. I send polite messeges like you demon, but they get deleted or ignored, very fustrating. As you can see ive been on here for years and had very little to show, it didnt get any easier for me. If someone can give a few pointers too that would be great"

You've narrowed your choices by stating bbws. Not all bbws have huge tits so you've narrowed your search further. Some large ladies may take offence at your fetish approach, so your pool of meets continues to shrink.

Your the same age as our kids, a no no for some, so your pool is getting smaller still. You expect the women to tempt you...good luck with that one, and you can't accommodate.

Are you really surprised you're not having much luck, or did you think the large ladies would be beating a path to your door?!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you dont want your time wasted open an ing direct account

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"or did you think the large ladies would be beating a path to your door?!!"

No point - he can't accommodate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"or did you think the large ladies would be beating a path to your door?!!

No point - he can't accommodate.

I know!

It was meant metaphorically

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By *exy.eyesWoman
over a year ago

milton keynes

You need to redo your profile. The spelling and grammar are awful. This matters to women we like to think a man is articulate as well as sexy.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

Your profile is rubbish, too whingy whiny, leave it as it is. Z

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

One tip only, and this may sound a lot harsher than it's meant to:

Find a way that works for you.

Try different things, use different parts of the site, tweak poke and pull leavers and knobs until it starts to work. Keep things fresh, review your profile and tactics regularly...

I don't use the site the same way I did when I joined.

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

...and avoid negativity of any sort, in your profile or on the forums.

That's two tips now, so I'm off...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could try 'spell check' on your profile too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i am sending emails that are polite well manered but they either just delete or read and dont reply is is that hard to get a regular female lay mate off here or to meet a couple ????

any tips would be very appreciated "

Your profile doesn't make you sound like much fun tbh.

When we relax a single male message filters and start receiving mail the first thing we do is read the profile of the sender without opening the message. If we received a message from someone with a similar profile to yours we will just delete the message without reading it and move on....

Whinging and moaning is not sexy in the slightest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When considering meeting a single male, the first thing I do is read the profile. Yours is far too negative. Fab owners have confirmed that it is NOT rude for people not to reply to unsolicited mails (see FAQs). For you to tell us how many profiles you have blocked andsdtated "majority is through pure F***ing ignorance of ignoring messages or just deleting them".

No matter how polite and well mannered your emails, this will not overcome the 'I'm entitled' attitude which comes across in your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it isn't likely to be down to one factor, more likely a combination of them.

it's a simple fact of life that on receipt of a message most people will look at your pics and if they don't like how you look then they won't read your profile let alone be bothered to get back to you - so that is no1 why you don't get a response (rightly or wrongly)

some people also find it difficult or awkward to tell someone who has shown an interest in them that they don't find that person attractive - so again that will account for a good deal of the non-response

some people want to see how you present yourself verbally and if looking at your profile they think you are likely to be hard work or 'needy' then again it is easier to hit delete.

see what i'm gettin at ?

i always respond to people who take time to send me a message irregardless of interest. (not so much with the winks cos i think that's kinda lazy option).

however, if i send a message to someone and hear nothing back then, so what ?

what has it cost me other than 5 minutes to read and digest their profile & pics and then a quick shot across the bows to see if they're interested.

so rather than being negative, show some confidence and positivity and maybe 1 or 2 of them messages will start to get a response.

good luck with it !

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