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By *ustthe2ofusXXX OP   Couple
over a year ago

coventry

Hi boys and girls, anyone else get a little jealous while swinging ?

The wife has a FB and the 3 of us get on really well together and even play all together, BUT I'm so jealous of the pair of them. I love her having a good time with him anything from kik messages, " popping" around for tea or even the hotel room I booked for them but deep down I wish it was me having that much hands on fun, don't get me wrong we have a fantastic sex life together and could ask for more with her but can't help but wish that it was me in their shoes. We have spoken about swinging and even soft swinging but has basically said that she would find it so hard seeing me with another woman, are there any other couples out there that feel the same? We are just testing the water at the min with couples hence our "profile" but tbh I can't see her wanting to go any further than that even in the future, and I just find myself a little disappointed / jealous especially seeing how much fun she is having. Or am I just being greedy we have great sex, love each other, love seeing her having a good time with the FB do I just put up and shut up while everyone is so happy and stop moaning

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By *imetoexplore69Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

why dont you put a stop to her meeting her fb at the moment and concentrate on couples for the time being.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're not happy you need to talk with her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hubby and I are in a similar positon. We only have one rule. If either one of us isn't happy then we take a break and talk about what we want. Sometimes it means I don't meet anyone for months. It only really works when both are happy and communicating.

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By *he Ginger PrincessWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

So am I right in saying that she has meets but you're not allowed to? My ex used to do that. He'd fuck 3 or 4 women a night at clubs but I got called a slag for a month for snogging a guy!!!

It's double standards and if you're not happy you need to talk to her about it. She can't have her cake and eat it....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And i get her reluctance to see you with another woman. That doesn't really float my boat but I'm perfectly happy with hubby meeting alone. ...maybe she would prefer that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It sounds like she is having her cake and eating it too! My opinion? Talk to her, yes. Ask yourself why is it ok for her to have a fb and not ok for you? If you're feeling bad feelings you really really need to communicate this x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems like double standards to me.

She can't expect to have a FB yet deny any involvement of you with other women.

I wouldn't mind MrsJ with a fella but she also wouldn't mind me doing similar with a lady.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So am I right in saying that she has meets but you're not allowed to? My ex used to do that. He'd fuck 3 or 4 women a night at clubs but I got called a slag for a month for snogging a guy!!!

It's double standards and if you're not happy you need to talk to her about it. She can't have her cake and eat it...."
my ex was similar to yours.. had left me with issues if I am honest as struggle to accept I could play now and Mr doesn't mind.

Op do you not play together as a couple with other couples then.. ?

I do know quite a few couples where only the lady plays as she is extremely jealous of even the thought.

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

Op you should never have to put up and shut up!

You guys need to sit down and communicate, talk it through and tell each other how you feel. Maybe even take time out from swinging while you figure it all out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Op you should never have to put up and shut up!

You guys need to sit down and communicate, talk it through and tell each other how you feel. Maybe even take time out from swinging while you figure it all out"

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By *ustthe2ofusXXX OP   Couple
over a year ago

coventry


"why dont you put a stop to her meeting her fb at the moment and concentrate on couples for the time being."

Equally you maybe right but it's not the fact of them playing, but just feel like I'm missing out on new experience myself thats what does it. If that makes sense

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By *imetoexplore69Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"why dont you put a stop to her meeting her fb at the moment and concentrate on couples for the time being.

Equally you maybe right but it's not the fact of them playing, but just feel like I'm missing out on new experience myself thats what does it. If that makes sense "
yea i see where your coming from i just think it would help if she understood the position u are in and she may understand your view better if you both played on a level playing field and not one rule for one and not the other.this may actually make her think more about swinging being a shared experience .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if one of you isnt happy then it stops - simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if one of you isnt happy then it stops - simple"

Totally agree

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By *rimo4uMan
over a year ago

north kensington w10

Yes i can't help being a bit jealous of the people that have a good sex life on here, sure I'm not alone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are in the same boat.

I'm more jealous than hubby.

He would love to pimp me out. Lol

I'm allowed a boyfriend etc.

I dont mind him having a random one off fucks but there is no way i could handle him having a gf.

I let him fuck if we have a couples meet.

It's just no way i can accept him having one regular fb.

He loves me having a boyfriend....

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By *ustthe2ofusXXX OP   Couple
over a year ago

coventry


"So am I right in saying that she has meets but you're not allowed to? My ex used to do that. He'd fuck 3 or 4 women a night at clubs but I got called a slag for a month for snogging a guy!!!

It's double standards and if you're not happy you need to talk to her about it. She can't have her cake and eat it...."

No no no far from it the only meet she has had a lone is her FB and he has become a really good friend for both of us and we can and do all play together, if fact she loves me being there and joining in, the hotel was the first time we had spent a night apart in about 10 years so was always going to feel strange. She has always had confidence issues about her body so was a bit of a test for us both if she would go thought with it on her own. When he has been around to ours and I'm at work they have only ever had a little together but no sex. Its not double standards by any means and what she does brings us both enjoyment in fact it's normally myself that instigated most meets and play days as she is to shy to just ask me. But it's just that she would struggle seeing with a woman and I feel I'm missing out but as the post says think I'm just jealous

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By *ustthe2ofusXXX OP   Couple
over a year ago

coventry


"if one of you isnt happy then it stops - simple"

She has said it will if I'm not happy but I am/we are and the confidence that fab has bought out in her is amazing.

We have a meet planed on Friday with a couple to test the water and will be our first experience with a couple all be it its only same room with our own partners but still lots of fun to be had and who know where it may lead to in the future

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By *ink and inkedCouple
over a year ago

Essex

I (pink) havd just read the OP's post and if I'm

honest feel a little upset for him

I think you need to Stop and talk about your feelings with her otherwise you could be putting your relationship in jeopardy Hun ... our swinging relationship is not full swap as in OH doesn't play with other fems as he prefers not to and it's not my kink to see but it's a massive kink for him to see me in a MMF with him or girl play in a foursome

BUT

If either of us felt insecure, sad or in any way differently feeling about it we would stop altogether because the most important thing is US. We would never want to lose us.

Really hope you can sort this x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to talk to your partner and tell her how you feel. Hopefully you'll be able to find a compromise.

If you're not happy and she won't change, then you need to decide if you want to put up with it, or end the relationship.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I think if she realises how unhappy it makes you,she will stop.If Jack or I are ever unhappy about things we chat about it and maybe take a break.

Have a hood heart to heart and concentrate on yourselves maybe.

Good luck

Miss xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The more communication the better between your selves we are just starting out and we find talking helps alot to find out what we are both thinking rather than second guessing

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By *ustthe2ofusXXX OP   Couple
over a year ago

coventry


"You need to talk to your partner and tell her how you feel. Hopefully you'll be able to find a compromise."

Lol to late she has seen the post and have made her feel really bad ( sorry Hunny)

Thank you to everyone for all your comments and who knows their may some sort of compromise somewhere down the road, guess I should of spoken to her before posting on here but didn't seem like there was much point as at this moment in time I think the only compromise that she could come up with is and has said about it if we stopped doing what we are doing ,although we both enjoy so much.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"if one of you isnt happy then it stops - simple

She has said it will if I'm not happy but I am/we are and the confidence that fab has bought out in her is amazing.

We have a meet planed on Friday with a couple to test the water and will be our first experience with a couple all be it its only same room with our own partners but still lots of fun to be had and who know where it may lead to in the future "

That's a good start, good luck.!

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By *ustthe2ofusXXX OP   Couple
over a year ago

coventry


"if one of you isnt happy then it stops - simple

She has said it will if I'm not happy but I am/we are and the confidence that fab has bought out in her is amazing.

We have a meet planed on Friday with a couple to test the water and will be our first experience with a couple all be it its only same room with our own partners but still lots of fun to be had and who know where it may lead to in the future

That's a good start, good luck.! "

Thank you

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton


"You need to talk to your partner and tell her how you feel. Hopefully you'll be able to find a compromise.

Lol to late she has seen the post and have made her feel really bad ( sorry Hunny)

Thank you to everyone for all your comments and who knows their may some sort of compromise somewhere down the road, guess I should of spoken to her before posting on here but didn't seem like there was much point as at this moment in time I think the only compromise that she could come up with is and has said about it if we stopped doing what we are doing ,although we both enjoy so much. "

Clearly though you're not enjoying it .If its making you feel at all negative and causing you to post then something ISN'T right . You seriously need to talk with her.if you can't agree on bounderies you are both happy with then coming away from site would be wisest move. After all your relationship is worth far more then any thrill from here .

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"Op you should never have to put up and shut up!

You guys need to sit down and communicate, talk it through and tell each other how you feel. Maybe even take time out from swinging while you figure it all out"

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By *adja_lazloCouple
over a year ago

Solihull


"Hi boys and girls, anyone else get a little jealous while swinging ?

The wife has a FB and the 3 of us get on really well together and even play all together, BUT I'm so jealous of the pair of them. I love her having a good time with him anything from kik messages, " popping" around for tea or even the hotel room I booked for them but deep down I wish it was me having that much hands on fun, don't get me wrong we have a fantastic sex life together and could ask for more with her but can't help but wish that it was me in their shoes. We have spoken about swinging and even soft swinging but has basically said that she would find it so hard seeing me with another woman, are there any other couples out there that feel the same? We are just testing the water at the min with couples hence our "profile" but tbh I can't see her wanting to go any further than that even in the future, and I just find myself a little disappointed / jealous especially seeing how much fun she is having. Or am I just being greedy we have great sex, love each other, love seeing her having a good time with the FB do I just put up and shut up while everyone is so happy and stop moaning "

your veris seem to differ from what your are saying, BUT if one of a couple is un happy, you need to talk, its un fair and not nice if its one sided fun

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By *ustthe2ofusXXX OP   Couple
over a year ago

coventry


"

your veris seem to differ from what your are saying, BUT if one of a couple is un happy, you need to talk, its un fair and not nice if its one sided fun"

Please have another look at our veris closely and you will see all apart from one of them are purely "social meets" we have never played,swapped or even soft swing. We enjoy the social side of the site just as much as anything else and enjoy having a drink and chat with like minded people.

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By *ustthe2ofusXXX OP   Couple
over a year ago

coventry


"

or end the relationship."

my soul mate!!! I think not and will never come to that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You say yourself you love seeing her with another man and enjoy booking hotels for her. You seem happy enough with that.

If her not reciprocating is too much of a problem, tell her she can't do it, and you lose your enjoyment too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's no way I would want hubby to play without me. It would feel like cheating and he wouldn't want me to do that either (unless it's just me and another girl)

But difference is we don't do anything that the other is not happy with. We talk and talk and be honest about how we feel.

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By *imetoexplore69Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

i get a lil feeling that if you asked her to stop play altogether permanently with her fb something tells me it mite not end well.u should ask her this even though you know u would let her play again in the future.this may help your case as she may miss the fb and rethink being fair and let u play solo also. .fair play to u though as we could never see ouourselves playing solo as we use this to enhance our sex life together as a couple.hope things work out for u op.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Seeing or knowing a guy intimately for 10 years, I find it unlikely they have only ever really been soft in play but if they have then good on you. If you have been playing for 10 years with an fb then it also means you have a reasonably open relationship so there is at least a base to kink things up a little. If she is nervous once things get moving she could maybe be blindfolded so she doesn't know who is doing what to who but is aware people are having sex / enjoying each other as she has been?

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By *uperock99Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes


"Hi boys and girls, anyone else get a little jealous while swinging ?

The wife has a FB and the 3 of us get on really well together and even play all together, BUT I'm so jealous of the pair of them. I love her having a good time with him anything from kik messages, " popping" around for tea or even the hotel room I booked for them but deep down I wish it was me having that much hands on fun, don't get me wrong we have a fantastic sex life together and could ask for more with her but can't help but wish that it was me in their shoes. We have spoken about swinging and even soft swinging but has basically said that she would find it so hard seeing me with another woman, are there any other couples out there that feel the same? We are just testing the water at the min with couples hence our "profile" but tbh I can't see her wanting to go any further than that even in the future, and I just find myself a little disappointed / jealous especially seeing how much fun she is having. Or am I just being greedy we have great sex, love each other, love seeing her having a good time with the FB do I just put up and shut up while everyone is so happy and stop moaning "
My advice is don't put up with it, she is treating you like a mouse, be a man and tell her what you want as well or tell her to sling her hook.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I (pink) havd just read the OP's post and if I'm

honest feel a little upset for him

I think you need to Stop and talk about your feelings with her otherwise you could be putting your relationship in jeopardy Hun ... our swinging relationship is not full swap as in OH doesn't play with other fems as he prefers not to and it's not my kink to see but it's a massive kink for him to see me in a MMF with him or girl play in a foursome

BUT

If either of us felt insecure, sad or in any way differently feeling about it we would stop altogether because the most important thing is US. We would never want to lose us.

Really hope you can sort this x "

We are the same as above

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lol to late she has seen the post and have made her feel really bad ( sorry Hunny) "

I'm not surprised. She would probably have preferred that you talk to her about it rather than asking a group of strangers on an internet forum.

Hope you get it sorted so that you're both happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This post shows the many negative aspects of swinging . It sounds great to begin with , then can go terribly wrong .

If a guy purely gets off on the fact that his wife sees other guys , that's fair enough , and good for all parties . This seems like a one sided story where she gets her fun and he doesn't , even though he wants too . Because she doesn't want him to - and that's just plain wrong .

It seems you guys have a couple meet soon , good luck for the other couple on that one . You need to sort it out between you before the meet if it isn't gonna go wrong for everyone .

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By *ustthe2ofusXXX OP   Couple
over a year ago

coventry

Ok ok feel i may need to clarify a few points on here, as the wife is currently sitting next to me crying because she feels like she has been made out as some sort of monster.

1. It's just a FB that we both enjoy spending time with not a boyfriend.

2. We have been together for 18 years, so I'm not about to make her leave or sling her hook, over something like this.

3. We only met the FB 4/5 months ago, and nothing has ever happened before In our relationship.

4. We love each other as much today as we did all those years ago.

5. As for the FB he was my idea. And we have and can all play together.

6. I booked the hotel, I find it a turn on thinking about them and wondering what's going, the same for when he comes around to our house, sometimes nothing happens and they just chat and drink tea.

7. I / she has no emotional attachment to fab or her FB and could and would give it / him up tomorrow if asked ( in fact she did say she would )

8. Yes I should have spoken to her first

9.i may have got carried away with the word "jealousy" maybe more green eyed monster and more so of the FB and how dam lucky he is

10. We do have a meet on Friday evening with a couple ( our first real meet ) but if you read our profile you will see this post will not and does not effect the "other" couple in anyway.

11. I love seeing her getting fucked by the FB and even more so when we are all playing and having fun together.

12. No don't want to play solo and have no intention in taking a lady away to another room or even a hotel just liked the thought same room even just soft playing.

13. We are still very new to the scene and inexperienced ( our veris are from socials apart from one ) maybe we/I am just trying to run before you can walk, talking to people on here and seeing what everyone gets up to I'm like a kid in a sweetshop I'm sure we will find a happy medium in time for the both of us. ( or she can sling her hook )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i don't think you're being greedy, i think you've seen something you want and seeing as your wife has attained it then you also think it's possible for you to achieve.

nothing wrong with that, the only problem is your wife doesn't want you to have that also for some reason.

so, although you're happy with what you have, your needs as a couple are changing at this time.

i don't think your wife is a monster, people are the way they are and that can't be helped, but she does have an issue now in that she has everything she wants but doesn't want to allow you to have the same for some reason.

you don't need to end anything but i'd say you do need to sort it, i've see topics where guys were unhappy in something similar and one guy even referred to his depression because of it sadly.

i'm the same as her, i'm fine with fucking other guys but wouldn't be happy with him fucking others...well tbh i'd probably be happy with just one guy but if we were gonna bring others into out relationship it would only be another man. i'd probably put up with ffm 3sums for someone special but i'd not enjoy them and would hate having to share his dick. i'm not even the lealous type, i just don't find other women seuxally attractive at all. did think the same not long back maybe i'm jealous but when i thought more about it just having experienced other women i don't enjoy them and don't enjoy sharing cock.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi boys and girls, anyone else get a little jealous while swinging ?

The wife has a FB and the 3 of us get on really well together and even play all together, BUT I'm so jealous of the pair of them. I love her having a good time with him anything from kik messages, " popping" around for tea or even the hotel room I booked for them but deep down I wish it was me having that much hands on fun, don't get me wrong we have a fantastic sex life together and could ask for more with her but can't help but wish that it was me in their shoes. We have spoken about swinging and even soft swinging but has basically said that she would find it so hard seeing me with another woman, are there any other couples out there that feel the same? We are just testing the water at the min with couples hence our "profile" but tbh I can't see her wanting to go any further than that even in the future, and I just find myself a little disappointed / jealous especially seeing how much fun she is having. Or am I just being greedy we have great sex, love each other, love seeing her having a good time with the FB do I just put up and shut up while everyone is so happy and stop moaning "

I got into swinging with my fb but it quickly changed into me caring about him and twice with couples we had to stop I couldn't bear watching him with another woman. So much so we dnt do it now just meet up together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your new to this as are we and sometimes your going to push boundaries and then feel you have taken it a step too far. Maybe stick to playing together for now and keep the lines of communication open.

We are also looking for a couple so Mr T can play but understand it's much harder with the dynamics of four people. Hope you experience with the couple your meeting goes really well and keep talking to each other.. You're clearly very much in love. S x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your wife sounds selfish.

Wouldn't be me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

saying that, i do enjoy sharing a cock with other guys and love watching guys do stuff to each other as well as me. might be something to consider?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

so its not ok for you but its ok for her,,,very selfish in my eyes,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If she can play with others but can't handle you playing with others that is very selfish and maybe it's time you sat down and agreed on what you BOTH want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Methinks you should have communicated your feelings to your wife before sharing them with the rest of fab.

This action, combined with the feelings you are encountering, would suggest to me that it is time to give the swinging a break and focus on clear and honest communication between the two of you.

The harsh truth of it for males in a couple is that a woman is never going to lack for males wanting to be fuckbuddies, while the man of the couple is left feeling like, well, a spare prick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" We have spoken about swinging and even soft swinging but has basically said that she would find it so hard seeing me with another woman, ...We are just testing the water at the min with couples hence our "profile" but tbh I can't see her wanting to go any further than that even in the future,"

What's good for the goose is good for the gander. Get her telt and remember both parties are meant to be happy. Sounds like she's having her cake, eating it and playing you for a fool.

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

Save what you have, without sharing it on here, bring single Is not a good place to be x

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By *ustthe2ofusXXX OP   Couple
over a year ago

coventry


"Methinks you should have communicated your feelings to your wife before sharing them with the rest of fab"

I know and especially with how upset she now is, I feel such a nob now

Could admin please delete this thread.

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By *rs DCouple
over a year ago

far

If you both not 100% happy when swinging then Dont! Simple as that

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"Ok ok feel i may need to clarify a few points on here, as the wife is currently sitting next to me crying because she feels like she has been made out as some sort of monster.

1. It's just a FB that we both enjoy spending time with not a boyfriend.

2. We have been together for 18 years, so I'm not about to make her leave or sling her hook, over something like this.

3. We only met the FB 4/5 months ago, and nothing has ever happened before In our relationship.

4. We love each other as much today as we did all those years ago.

5. As for the FB he was my idea. And we have and can all play together.

6. I booked the hotel, I find it a turn on thinking about them and wondering what's going, the same for when he comes around to our house, sometimes nothing happens and they just chat and drink tea.

7. I / she has no emotional attachment to fab or her FB and could and would give it / him up tomorrow if asked ( in fact she did say she would )

8. Yes I should have spoken to her first

9.i may have got carried away with the word "jealousy" maybe more green eyed monster and more so of the FB and how dam lucky he is

10. We do have a meet on Friday evening with a couple ( our first real meet ) but if you read our profile you will see this post will not and does not effect the "other" couple in anyway.

11. I love seeing her getting fucked by the FB and even more so when we are all playing and having fun together.

12. No don't want to play solo and have no intention in taking a lady away to another room or even a hotel just liked the thought same room even just soft playing.

13. We are still very new to the scene and inexperienced ( our veris are from socials apart from one ) maybe we/I am just trying to run before you can walk, talking to people on here and seeing what everyone gets up to I'm like a kid in a sweetshop I'm sure we will find a happy medium in time for the both of us. ( or she can sling her hook ) "

Easy for her to be upset now but I would hope that after eighteen years together she would have got some clue you weren't happy with this. We have been together only two years but we still know how each other is feeling, without words. Sounds like she is trying to make you feel guilty now. Admin, I hope you leave this thread here, just to counter all of those couples who claim all swingers have a perfect marriage ... let's get some balance here.

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By *rs DCouple
over a year ago

far

It be nice for them if nobody posts here again, let this thread die now, plz nobody post again here, love you all and good night xxx

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By *ustthe2ofusXXX OP   Couple
over a year ago

coventry


"Ok ok feel i may need to clarify a few points on here, as the wife is currently sitting next to me crying because she feels like she has been made out as some sort of monster.

1. It's just a FB that we both enjoy spending time with not a boyfriend.

2. We have been together for 18 years, so I'm not about to make her leave or sling her hook, over something like this.

3. We only met the FB 4/5 months ago, and nothing has ever happened before In our relationship.

4. We love each other as much today as we did all those years ago.

5. As for the FB he was my idea. And we have and can all play together.

6. I booked the hotel, I find it a turn on thinking about them and wondering what's going, the same for when he comes around to our house, sometimes nothing happens and they just chat and drink tea.

7. I / she has no emotional attachment to fab or her FB and could and would give it / him up tomorrow if asked ( in fact she did say she would )

8. Yes I should have spoken to her first

9.i may have got carried away with the word "jealousy" maybe more green eyed monster and more so of the FB and how dam lucky he is

10. We do have a meet on Friday evening with a couple ( our first real meet ) but if you read our profile you will see this post will not and does not effect the "other" couple in anyway.

11. I love seeing her getting fucked by the FB and even more so when we are all playing and having fun together.

12. No don't want to play solo and have no intention in taking a lady away to another room or even a hotel just liked the thought same room even just soft playing.

13. We are still very new to the scene and inexperienced ( our veris are from socials apart from one ) maybe we/I am just trying to run before you can walk, talking to people on here and seeing what everyone gets up to I'm like a kid in a sweetshop I'm sure we will find a happy medium in time for the both of us. ( or she can sling her hook )

Easy for her to be upset now but I would hope that after eighteen years together she would have got some clue you weren't happy with this. We have been together only two years but we still know how each other is feeling, without words. Sounds like she is trying to make you feel guilty now. Admin, I hope you leave this thread here, just to counter all of those couples who claim all swingers have a perfect marriage ... let's get some balance here."

We have been together that amount of time but only been on the site 6 months so have never had to cross this bridge before.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"Ok ok feel i may need to clarify a few points on here, as the wife is currently sitting next to me crying because she feels like she has been made out as some sort of monster.

1. It's just a FB that we both enjoy spending time with not a boyfriend.

2. We have been together for 18 years, so I'm not about to make her leave or sling her hook, over something like this.

3. We only met the FB 4/5 months ago, and nothing has ever happened before In our relationship.

4. We love each other as much today as we did all those years ago.

5. As for the FB he was my idea. And we have and can all play together.

6. I booked the hotel, I find it a turn on thinking about them and wondering what's going, the same for when he comes around to our house, sometimes nothing happens and they just chat and drink tea.

7. I / she has no emotional attachment to fab or her FB and could and would give it / him up tomorrow if asked ( in fact she did say she would )

8. Yes I should have spoken to her first

9.i may have got carried away with the word "jealousy" maybe more green eyed monster and more so of the FB and how dam lucky he is

10. We do have a meet on Friday evening with a couple ( our first real meet ) but if you read our profile you will see this post will not and does not effect the "other" couple in anyway.

11. I love seeing her getting fucked by the FB and even more so when we are all playing and having fun together.

12. No don't want to play solo and have no intention in taking a lady away to another room or even a hotel just liked the thought same room even just soft playing.

13. We are still very new to the scene and inexperienced ( our veris are from socials apart from one ) maybe we/I am just trying to run before you can walk, talking to people on here and seeing what everyone gets up to I'm like a kid in a sweetshop I'm sure we will find a happy medium in time for the both of us. ( or she can sling her hook )

Easy for her to be upset now but I would hope that after eighteen years together she would have got some clue you weren't happy with this. We have been together only two years but we still know how each other is feeling, without words. Sounds like she is trying to make you feel guilty now. Admin, I hope you leave this thread here, just to counter all of those couples who claim all swingers have a perfect marriage ... let's get some balance here.

We have been together that amount of time but only been on the site 6 months so have never had to cross this bridge before. "

My point is, wouldn't you think she'd know, eighteen years into a relationship, that you are unhappy? It shouldn't be rocket science if you have been together so along. Partners are suppose to be sensitive to each other and their needs, on whatever level, and to pick up the signs ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok ok feel i may need to clarify a few points on here, as the wife is currently sitting next to me crying because she feels like she has been made out as some sort of monster.

1. It's just a FB that we both enjoy spending time with not a boyfriend.

2. We have been together for 18 years, so I'm not about to make her leave or sling her hook, over something like this.

3. We only met the FB 4/5 months ago, and nothing has ever happened before In our relationship.

4. We love each other as much today as we did all those years ago.

5. As for the FB he was my idea. And we have and can all play together.

6. I booked the hotel, I find it a turn on thinking about them and wondering what's going, the same for when he comes around to our house, sometimes nothing happens and they just chat and drink tea.

7. I / she has no emotional attachment to fab or her FB and could and would give it / him up tomorrow if asked ( in fact she did say she would )

8. Yes I should have spoken to her first

9.i may have got carried away with the word "jealousy" maybe more green eyed monster and more so of the FB and how dam lucky he is

10. We do have a meet on Friday evening with a couple ( our first real meet ) but if you read our profile you will see this post will not and does not effect the "other" couple in anyway.

11. I love seeing her getting fucked by the FB and even more so when we are all playing and having fun together.

12. No don't want to play solo and have no intention in taking a lady away to another room or even a hotel just liked the thought same room even just soft playing.

13. We are still very new to the scene and inexperienced ( our veris are from socials apart from one ) maybe we/I am just trying to run before you can walk, talking to people on here and seeing what everyone gets up to I'm like a kid in a sweetshop I'm sure we will find a happy medium in time for the both of us. ( or she can sling her hook )

Easy for her to be upset now but I would hope that after eighteen years together she would have got some clue you weren't happy with this. We have been together only two years but we still know how each other is feeling, without words. Sounds like she is trying to make you feel guilty now. Admin, I hope you leave this thread here, just to counter all of those couples who claim all swingers have a perfect marriage ... let's get some balance here.

We have been together that amount of time but only been on the site 6 months so have never had to cross this bridge before.

My point is, wouldn't you think she'd know, eighteen years into a relationship, that you are unhappy? It shouldn't be rocket science if you have been together so along. Partners are suppose to be sensitive to each other and their needs, on whatever level, and to pick up the signs ...."

If that were the case, there would be no necessity for communication, would there? People change, their needs change, situations change hence the need for communication and re-evaluation, the "work" involved in maintaining relationships long-term. IMO it's a big mistake to expect your partner to be a mind-reader.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"Ok ok feel i may need to clarify a few points on here, as the wife is currently sitting next to me crying because she feels like she has been made out as some sort of monster.

1. It's just a FB that we both enjoy spending time with not a boyfriend.

2. We have been together for 18 years, so I'm not about to make her leave or sling her hook, over something like this.

3. We only met the FB 4/5 months ago, and nothing has ever happened before In our relationship.

4. We love each other as much today as we did all those years ago.

5. As for the FB he was my idea. And we have and can all play together.

6. I booked the hotel, I find it a turn on thinking about them and wondering what's going, the same for when he comes around to our house, sometimes nothing happens and they just chat and drink tea.

7. I / she has no emotional attachment to fab or her FB and could and would give it / him up tomorrow if asked ( in fact she did say she would )

8. Yes I should have spoken to her first

9.i may have got carried away with the word "jealousy" maybe more green eyed monster and more so of the FB and how dam lucky he is

10. We do have a meet on Friday evening with a couple ( our first real meet ) but if you read our profile you will see this post will not and does not effect the "other" couple in anyway.

11. I love seeing her getting fucked by the FB and even more so when we are all playing and having fun together.

12. No don't want to play solo and have no intention in taking a lady away to another room or even a hotel just liked the thought same room even just soft playing.

13. We are still very new to the scene and inexperienced ( our veris are from socials apart from one ) maybe we/I am just trying to run before you can walk, talking to people on here and seeing what everyone gets up to I'm like a kid in a sweetshop I'm sure we will find a happy medium in time for the both of us. ( or she can sling her hook )

Easy for her to be upset now but I would hope that after eighteen years together she would have got some clue you weren't happy with this. We have been together only two years but we still know how each other is feeling, without words. Sounds like she is trying to make you feel guilty now. Admin, I hope you leave this thread here, just to counter all of those couples who claim all swingers have a perfect marriage ... let's get some balance here.

We have been together that amount of time but only been on the site 6 months so have never had to cross this bridge before.

My point is, wouldn't you think she'd know, eighteen years into a relationship, that you are unhappy? It shouldn't be rocket science if you have been together so along. Partners are suppose to be sensitive to each other and their needs, on whatever level, and to pick up the signs ....

If that were the case, there would be no necessity for communication, would there? People change, their needs change, situations change hence the need for communication and re-evaluation, the "work" involved in maintaining relationships long-term. IMO it's a big mistake to expect your partner to be a mind-reader."

You would have some inkling that your partner was upset though, surely? Then communicate about it. My OH goes quiet when he is upset or stressed or something is bothering him. I get snappy ... I am talking about people having no clue ... surely there is something not right there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I K (male) was a bit jealous at first but as time as gone by I'm not that jealous anymore

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

So, the crux of the matter is:

You are on a swinging site testing the waters!

She doesn't think she can handle seeing you with someone else!

She has a FB.

You are not allowed to play with anyone else because she can't handle it!

If I've got that right then me thinks your wife is possiblY stringing you along with the "we'll test the waters with another couple" idea so that you don't stop her having said FB.

It smacks of double standards but it's you instigating the FB meets. I think all her Christmases have come at once.

I would NEVER entertain the idea of having a personal FB and then say that Jason couldn't play.

What's good for the goose etc UNLESS what you are really looking for is a cuckolding relationship where SHE will hold all the cards

My advice, which is shared by many, stop everything - including the FB until you are100% happy and content with what is going on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi boys and girls, anyone else get a little jealous while swinging ?

The wife has a FB and the 3 of us get on really well together and even play all together, BUT I'm so jealous of the pair of them. I love her having a good time with him anything from kik messages, " popping" around for tea or even the hotel room I booked for them but deep down I wish it was me having that much hands on fun, don't get me wrong we have a fantastic sex life together and could ask for more with her but can't help but wish that it was me in their shoes. We have spoken about swinging and even soft swinging but has basically said that she would find it so hard seeing me with another woman, are there any other couples out there that feel the same? We are just testing the water at the min with couples hence our "profile" but tbh I can't see her wanting to go any further than that even in the future, and I just find myself a little disappointed / jealous especially seeing how much fun she is having. Or am I just being greedy we have great sex, love each other, love seeing her having a good time with the FB do I just put up and shut up while everyone is so happy and stop moaning "

put an end to it NOW. unless you enjoy being cuckolded.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talk and work out what's best for you is the best thing. What works for another couple won't necessarily work for you.

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By *andeCouple
over a year ago

Bognor area

I (mrs) am lucky in that I play with a Dom alone and as a couple hubby and I pay with couples and single men - love the idea of him with another lady just hasn't happened yet

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

Its all about choices.

If you choose this hoping that she would eventually let you do the same then it's not really her fault.

Personally as a couple we'd never ask each other to do anything they did not enjoy.

It's really a discussion for you two.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP's post is part of the reason lead why we're into cuckolding but also wanted to make a point for all those calling OP's wife selfish emotions sometimes are difficult to handle and relationships are about comprises. I'd love to be given free rein but we tried it once and I love Ginger too much to cause her distress again. Thankfully like OP I get turned on by Ginger being with another guy although still struggle with her doing solo meets as wish to take part in her pleasure even if not the one providing it. Now we could just give up too like people have suggested but think the main thing wrong here is that they didn't communicate their feelings to each other which is what we do all the time. Cuckolding was one of our comprises although there were a few others which make our swinging relationship work with our real one.

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