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"... And anyone that thinks verifications are a true count of sexual activity we think must be misguided x " Most of the time I show none. The veri's I have on this profile don't show a true representation. | |||
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"So I've just figured out that I only show about a quarter of my veris. There are various reasons but a big part of it is that I feel you can be pre-judged if you show a high number. When I used to show all of them I often felt like people had a certain expectancy to meet me and I would even get messages saying "well youve met all them, whats wrong with me?" I've also experienced people who were put off by too many veris. You really can't win sometimes! Lol. So, do you display 100% of your veris or pick and choose your favourites? How many is too many? Xx" I'd still meet you booboo | |||
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"I don't show any due to people being nosey so and so's and I have enough of that in real life. " | |||
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"So I've just figured out that I only show about a quarter of my veris. There are various reasons but a big part of it is that I feel you can be pre-judged if you show a high number. When I used to show all of them I often felt like people had a certain expectancy to meet me and I would even get messages saying "well youve met all them, whats wrong with me?" I've also experienced people who were put off by too many veris. You really can't win sometimes! Lol. So, do you display 100% of your veris or pick and choose your favourites? How many is too many? Xx" A good point. We don't feel the need to hide our verifications. If people do, that's their choice and reasons. Our subjective opinion is that it's a moment in time and not only (hopefully) shows the people we are, but also provides peace of mind for people looking at the profiles of people who left them. A big spider web of a network that demonstrates credibility. We have toyed with the idea of hiding the older verifications so it's just the recent stuff and also whether we should keep them unique so just the latest verification if we have met a profile more than once. But to date, we'll leave them all there. We've only had one profile contact us and went no thanks you've fucked too many people. We politely replied to their assumption and they quickly apologised. So what we say is what you see is what you get! There are couples that hide verifications (including ours), we haven't questioned them, we don't take it personal and couldn't give a monkeys. We always verify people, sometimes they don't reciprocate. Again, we don't lose any sleep over it. But there are people that get sensitive over it and some that have extreme views about verifications and how many is too many. Swinging is a generic term and we are all adults in swinging for our own personal reasons. We as people should respect that what might do it for some, might not do it for us and vice versa. We shouldn't judge and our thoughts are put as many as you feel is right for you and the message you want to send out. It will not be everybody's cup of tea, but the ones it isn't for, I doubt you'd want to engage with. And if they are, then review your approach. | |||
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"I used to show mine but also got the 'you met suchabody so you can meet me too' messages, which I got a bit fed up of.. So now I hide them but show the summary " I've had one person say this to me and it was someone I'd been speaking to in the chatrooms for months, I told him thetruth wwasn't about what they looked like, but about who they were and that I felt attracted to them | |||
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"so what if someone has loads it means nothing except they are have bloody good fun " | |||
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"I show as many or as few as I want to; depends on my mood And if some guy doesn't like that, then he can go f**k himself, as many on FabS already have to " Having said that...I don't show mine in detail, cos I'm shy...no really! | |||
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"I no longer want veti's left and I don't write them. There are a few strange people on here who have contacted people I have met and tried to get them to arrange a meet!! So I will just lurk in the dark shadows now " I had something similar on a previous profile where some guy told me that a woman wouldn't meet any man that I had met already! | |||
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"I no longer want veti's left and I don't write them. There are a few strange people on here who have contacted people I have met and tried to get them to arrange a meet!! So I will just lurk in the dark shadows now I had something similar on a previous profile where some guy told me that a woman wouldn't meet any man that I had met already! " There are some funny buggers on here! | |||
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"I no longer want veti's left and I don't write them. There are a few strange people on here who have contacted people I have met and tried to get them to arrange a meet!! So I will just lurk in the dark shadows now " Sorry but I really don't understand your middle paragraph! Isn't the whole point of a good verification that it is a recommendation? Essentially you're recommending that person to other ladies/couples etc - and guys are doing the same! There are a number of women on fab in my area who have very similar taste in men to me - so yes I'll check out who they've met occasionally and see if anyone they've met appeals! To me that's the whole point of the system - and I think it's pretty bizarre (and completely not the point of fab) when women or guys object to other people contacting their meets! If any woman or couple contacted me and said they were into x, y and z - I'd be more than happy to recommend guys tho are amazing at x, y and z! The day I meet someone I don't want to share is the day I should be questioning my existence on fab! Xx | |||
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"I no longer want veti's left and I don't write them. There are a few strange people on here who have contacted people I have met and tried to get them to arrange a meet!! So I will just lurk in the dark shadows now Sorry but I really don't understand your middle paragraph! Isn't the whole point of a good verification that it is a recommendation? Essentially you're recommending that person to other ladies/couples etc - and guys are doing the same! There are a number of women on fab in my area who have very similar taste in men to me - so yes I'll check out who they've met occasionally and see if anyone they've met appeals! To me that's the whole point of the system - and I think it's pretty bizarre (and completely not the point of fab) when women or guys object to other people contacting their meets! If any woman or couple contacted me and said they were into x, y and z - I'd be more than happy to recommend guys tho are amazing at x, y and z! The day I meet someone I don't want to share is the day I should be questioning my existence on fab! Xx" Can be a bit more sinister than that Peach. Have heard of cases where a lady has said no, then the guy (in this case) contacted people on her veri list to get them to persuade her to meet him. | |||
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"I no longer want veti's left and I don't write them. There are a few strange people on here who have contacted people I have met and tried to get them to arrange a meet!! So I will just lurk in the dark shadows now Sorry but I really don't understand your middle paragraph! Isn't the whole point of a good verification that it is a recommendation? Essentially you're recommending that person to other ladies/couples etc - and guys are doing the same! There are a number of women on fab in my area who have very similar taste in men to me - so yes I'll check out who they've met occasionally and see if anyone they've met appeals! To me that's the whole point of the system - and I think it's pretty bizarre (and completely not the point of fab) when women or guys object to other people contacting their meets! If any woman or couple contacted me and said they were into x, y and z - I'd be more than happy to recommend guys tho are amazing at x, y and z! The day I meet someone I don't want to share is the day I should be questioning my existence on fab! Xx Can be a bit more sinister than that Peach. Have heard of cases where a lady has said no, then the guy (in this case) contacted people on her veri list to get them to persuade her to meet him." This is exactly what I mean. They think they can get others to sweet talk me into a meet despite me saying no, or sometimes never even contacting me at all. Not everyone wants to be recommended. How you use the site is different to me so don't condemn me for it | |||
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"I no longer want veti's left and I don't write them. There are a few strange people on here who have contacted people I have met and tried to get them to arrange a meet!! So I will just lurk in the dark shadows now Sorry but I really don't understand your middle paragraph! Isn't the whole point of a good verification that it is a recommendation? Essentially you're recommending that person to other ladies/couples etc - and guys are doing the same! There are a number of women on fab in my area who have very similar taste in men to me - so yes I'll check out who they've met occasionally and see if anyone they've met appeals! To me that's the whole point of the system - and I think it's pretty bizarre (and completely not the point of fab) when women or guys object to other people contacting their meets! If any woman or couple contacted me and said they were into x, y and z - I'd be more than happy to recommend guys tho are amazing at x, y and z! The day I meet someone I don't want to share is the day I should be questioning my existence on fab! Xx Can be a bit more sinister than that Peach. Have heard of cases where a lady has said no, then the guy (in this case) contacted people on her veri list to get them to persuade her to meet him." Oh I see! Well that's obviously completely out of order - and a pointless waste of time too I'd have thought! | |||
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"I wouldnt meet a woman who has loads of veris. I'm looking for someone who is looking for maybe one or two partners for fun, not loads of partners for one off stuff. I guess it makes me feel less special if I'm one of a lot. Wow, I'm such a woman! Haha! I'd say that for me, more than 30 is a no go. Social veris don't count though." If you only see the summary how will you know which are social and which are full on horny sex? | |||
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"I wouldnt meet a woman who has loads of veris. I'm looking for someone who is looking for maybe one or two partners for fun, not loads of partners for one off stuff. I guess it makes me feel less special if I'm one of a lot. Wow, I'm such a woman! Haha! I'd say that for me, more than 30 is a no go. Social veris don't count though. If you only see the summary how will you know which are social and which are full on horny sex? " I wouldn't! | |||
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"so what if someone has loads it means nothing except they are have bloody good fun " | |||
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"so what if someone has loads it means nothing except they are have bloody good fun " Or that they've got all the time in the word to create 175 fake profiles and then all the verifications for those profiles that verified our profile. Yup we once got called a fake profile! Lol | |||
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"I no longer want veti's left and I don't write them. There are a few strange people on here who have contacted people I have met and tried to get them to arrange a meet!! So I will just lurk in the dark shadows now Sorry but I really don't understand your middle paragraph! Isn't the whole point of a good verification that it is a recommendation? Essentially you're recommending that person to other ladies/couples etc - and guys are doing the same! There are a number of women on fab in my area who have very similar taste in men to me - so yes I'll check out who they've met occasionally and see if anyone they've met appeals! To me that's the whole point of the system - and I think it's pretty bizarre (and completely not the point of fab) when women or guys object to other people contacting their meets! If any woman or couple contacted me and said they were into x, y and z - I'd be more than happy to recommend guys tho are amazing at x, y and z! The day I meet someone I don't want to share is the day I should be questioning my existence on fab! Xx" Exactly why I keep my meets private. If I found out people were discussing me and meets we'd had there's no fucking way I'd have anything to do with them. Incestuous indiscretion at it's absolute worst. | |||
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"I no longer want veti's left and I don't write them. There are a few strange people on here who have contacted people I have met and tried to get them to arrange a meet!! So I will just lurk in the dark shadows now Sorry but I really don't understand your middle paragraph! Isn't the whole point of a good verification that it is a recommendation? Essentially you're recommending that person to other ladies/couples etc - and guys are doing the same! There are a number of women on fab in my area who have very similar taste in men to me - so yes I'll check out who they've met occasionally and see if anyone they've met appeals! To me that's the whole point of the system - and I think it's pretty bizarre (and completely not the point of fab) when women or guys object to other people contacting their meets! If any woman or couple contacted me and said they were into x, y and z - I'd be more than happy to recommend guys tho are amazing at x, y and z! The day I meet someone I don't want to share is the day I should be questioning my existence on fab! Xx Exactly why I keep my meets private. If I found out people were discussing me and meets we'd had there's no fucking way I'd have anything to do with them. Incestuous indiscretion at it's absolute worst. " Pretty much every meet we have now is as a result of the grapevine . We are often told we are like celebrities on fab so I guess there's a certain amount of pressure on us . But hey ho .... We court it to a degree and it works for us . We actually like the fact that people talk about their meets with us | |||
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"I no longer want veti's left and I don't write them. There are a few strange people on here who have contacted people I have met and tried to get them to arrange a meet!! So I will just lurk in the dark shadows now Sorry but I really don't understand your middle paragraph! Isn't the whole point of a good verification that it is a recommendation? Essentially you're recommending that person to other ladies/couples etc - and guys are doing the same! There are a number of women on fab in my area who have very similar taste in men to me - so yes I'll check out who they've met occasionally and see if anyone they've met appeals! To me that's the whole point of the system - and I think it's pretty bizarre (and completely not the point of fab) when women or guys object to other people contacting their meets! If any woman or couple contacted me and said they were into x, y and z - I'd be more than happy to recommend guys tho are amazing at x, y and z! The day I meet someone I don't want to share is the day I should be questioning my existence on fab! Xx Exactly why I keep my meets private. If I found out people were discussing me and meets we'd had there's no fucking way I'd have anything to do with them. Incestuous indiscretion at it's absolute worst. Pretty much every meet we have now is as a result of the grapevine . We are often told we are like celebrities on fab so I guess there's a certain amount of pressure on us . But hey ho .... We court it to a degree and it works for us . We actually like the fact that people talk about their meets with us " That's one of the things I love about all this. Everyone is different and likes different things. I love that you're like that, I'm not saying it's wrong at all. I just hate it for me. | |||
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"I wouldnt meet a woman who has loads of veris. I'm looking for someone who is looking for maybe one or two partners for fun, not loads of partners for one off stuff. I guess it makes me feel less special if I'm one of a lot. Wow, I'm such a woman! Haha! I'd say that for me, more than 30 is a no go. Social veris don't count though." I find this really funny. How do you know how many people someone has slept with outside fab? Like, for instance, I have about three veris on here for meets. But I've slept with over 100 guys - easily. Would you ask about someones sexual history outside of fab before you agreed to meet? | |||
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"If someone judges you for *any* reason - including the number of people you've had sex with - why the hell would you ever want to meet them?" That perfectly sums it up | |||
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"If someone judges you for *any* reason - including the number of people you've had sex with - why the hell would you ever want to meet them?" Agree | |||
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"I wouldnt meet a woman who has loads of veris. I'm looking for someone who is looking for maybe one or two partners for fun, not loads of partners for one off stuff. I guess it makes me feel less special if I'm one of a lot. Wow, I'm such a woman! Haha! I'd say that for me, more than 30 is a no go. Social veris don't count though. I find this really funny. How do you know how many people someone has slept with outside fab? Like, for instance, I have about three veris on here for meets. But I've slept with over 100 guys - easily. Would you ask about someones sexual history outside of fab before you agreed to meet?" The simple answer to that is that you don't know how many people. I'd never ask that either. But it still stands. If I saw a lot of sex veris, I wouldn't meet her. | |||
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"I wouldnt meet a woman who has loads of veris. I'm looking for someone who is looking for maybe one or two partners for fun, not loads of partners for one off stuff. I guess it makes me feel less special if I'm one of a lot. Wow, I'm such a woman! Haha! I'd say that for me, more than 30 is a no go. Social veris don't count though. I find this really funny. How do you know how many people someone has slept with outside fab? Like, for instance, I have about three veris on here for meets. But I've slept with over 100 guys - easily. Would you ask about someones sexual history outside of fab before you agreed to meet? The simple answer to that is that you don't know how many people. I'd never ask that either. But it still stands. If I saw a lot of sex veris, I wouldn't meet her." so you would read through the 100+ veris and count how many were play meets...... a man that can read wow .... or would you just be put off and not bother to see if they were social or play veris ? | |||
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"I wouldnt meet a woman who has loads of veris. I'm looking for someone who is looking for maybe one or two partners for fun, not loads of partners for one off stuff. I guess it makes me feel less special if I'm one of a lot. Wow, I'm such a woman! Haha! I'd say that for me, more than 30 is a no go. Social veris don't count though. I find this really funny. How do you know how many people someone has slept with outside fab? Like, for instance, I have about three veris on here for meets. But I've slept with over 100 guys - easily. Would you ask about someones sexual history outside of fab before you agreed to meet? The simple answer to that is that you don't know how many people. I'd never ask that either. But it still stands. If I saw a lot of sex veris, I wouldn't meet her. so you would read through the 100+ veris and count how many were play meets...... a man that can read wow .... or would you just be put off and not bother to see if they were social or play veris ?" With 100 veris, I wouldnt read any of them. I'd move on without a doubt. If a person had say 30, I'd read the top 3 or so. If one of them was a social, I'd message/chat, otherwise, I'd move on. Not all men are like this though. Some men aren't arsed. It's just me. | |||
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"I wouldnt meet a woman who has loads of veris. I'm looking for someone who is looking for maybe one or two partners for fun, not loads of partners for one off stuff. I guess it makes me feel less special if I'm one of a lot. Wow, I'm such a woman! Haha! I'd say that for me, more than 30 is a no go. Social veris don't count though." You do realise this Is a swinging site | |||
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"If a person had say 30, I'd read the top 3 or so. If one of them was a social, I'd message/chat, otherwise, I'd move on. Not all men are like this though. Some men aren't arsed. It's just me." Does your rule apply to men too? You have been on over a year and had 12 meets so once you get to 30 are you going to retire from fab? | |||
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"If a person had say 30, I'd read the top 3 or so. If one of them was a social, I'd message/chat, otherwise, I'd move on. Not all men are like this though. Some men aren't arsed. It's just me. Does your rule apply to men too? You have been on over a year and had 12 meets so once you get to 30 are you going to retire from fab?" Don't be silly. Men should sleep with as many people as possible and display their badges of honour on their profile for all to see. | |||
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"If a person had say 30, I'd read the top 3 or so. If one of them was a social, I'd message/chat, otherwise, I'd move on. Not all men are like this though. Some men aren't arsed. It's just me. Does your rule apply to men too? You have been on over a year and had 12 meets so once you get to 30 are you going to retire from fab? Don't be silly. Men should sleep with as many people as possible and display their badges of honour on their profile for all to see." agreed | |||
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"I wouldnt meet a woman who has loads of veris. I'm looking for someone who is looking for maybe one or two partners for fun, not loads of partners for one off stuff. I guess it makes me feel less special if I'm one of a lot. Wow, I'm such a woman! Haha! I'd say that for me, more than 30 is a no go. Social veris don't count though. I find this really funny. How do you know how many people someone has slept with outside fab? Like, for instance, I have about three veris on here for meets. But I've slept with over 100 guys - easily. Would you ask about someones sexual history outside of fab before you agreed to meet? The simple answer to that is that you don't know how many people. I'd never ask that either. But it still stands. If I saw a lot of sex veris, I wouldn't meet her. so you would read through the 100+ veris and count how many were play meets...... a man that can read wow .... or would you just be put off and not bother to see if they were social or play veris ? With 100 veris, I wouldnt read any of them. I'd move on without a doubt. If a person had say 30, I'd read the top 3 or so. If one of them was a social, I'd message/chat, otherwise, I'd move on. Not all men are like this though. Some men aren't arsed. It's just me." Either looking for the 72 virgins or the competition is too stiff | |||
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"If someone judges you for *any* reason - including the number of people you've had sex with - why the hell would you ever want to meet them?" exactly xxx | |||
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"So I've just figured out that I only show about a quarter of my veris. There are various reasons but a big part of it is that I feel you can be pre-judged if you show a high number. When I used to show all of them I often felt like people had a certain expectancy to meet me and I would even get messages saying "well youve met all them, whats wrong with me?" I've also experienced people who were put off by too many veris. You really can't win sometimes! Lol. So, do you display 100% of your veris or pick and choose your favourites? How many is too many? Xx" I might be an exception , but I also look at the dates and sometimes take it further to looking at the person's profile.. naturally if you've met 4 people in a span of a week - that's instantly a no. Whether you play safe or not is a huge thing too , 100+ ver and the profile states they like bareback? *shudders* I do realise I'm far too picky , haha. | |||
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"I only got 1, so yes I display mine. I guess about 200 is too much lol." I only have one | |||
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"So I've just figured out that I only show about a quarter of my veris. There are various reasons but a big part of it is that I feel you can be pre-judged if you show a high number. When I used to show all of them I often felt like people had a certain expectancy to meet me and I would even get messages saying "well youve met all them, whats wrong with me?" I've also experienced people who were put off by too many veris. You really can't win sometimes! Lol. So, do you display 100% of your veris or pick and choose your favourites? How many is too many? Xx" 28 is really too many | |||
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